Thursday, January 06, 2011
My baby sister recently turned fifty and she sent me this email earlier this morning. I am not sure of the source and neither was she but I think it's some pretty good advice.
"For a lark yesterday, I tweeted 12 things that I wish I had known when I was 25. Maybe they'll help a 25 year-old person you know. Or you!
1.) So I'm 50 today, and I'm going to tweet what I wish I knew at 25. First up: Stop worrying so much! It's useless.
2.) Being a saint means being yourself. Stop trying to be someone else and just be your best self. Saves you heartache.
3.) There's no right way to pray, any more than there's a right way to be a friend. What's best is what works best for you.
4.) Remember 3 things and save yourself lots of unneeded heartache: You're not God. This ain't heaven. Don't act like a jerk.
5.) Your deepest, most heartfelt, desires are God's desires for you. And vice versa. Listen. And follow them.
6.) Within you is the idea of your best self. Act as if you were that person and you will become that person, with God's grace.
7.) Don't worry too much about the worst that can happen. Even if it happens, God is with you, and you can handle it. Really.
8.) You can't force people to approve of you, agree with you, be impressed with you, love you or even like you. Stop trying!
9.) When we compare, we are usually imagining someone else's life falsely. So our real-life loses out. Ie, Compare and despair.
10.) Even when you finally realized the right thing, or the Christian thing, to do, it can still be hard to do. Do it anyway.
11.) Seven things to say frequently: I love you. Thank you. Thank you, God. Forgive me. I'm so happy for you! Why not? Yes.
12.) Final 50 y.o. lesson: Peace and joy come after asking God to free you--from anything that keeps you from being loving and compassionate."
Hope you have a great day.
Wednesday, January 05, 2011
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Wednesday, January 05, 2011
The more I share, the more I grow. The more I grow the more capable I become. To me, it's never been about getting, it's been about giving. A month or so ago I completed a process that will allow me to be a professional Life Coach. Took the necessary classes, passed the tests, etc. I have one requirement left to fulfill and I believe it's a good one. I am required to do Life Coaching with three people for free. In return those people can write a testimonial. These three people should not be friends or family.
The process involves evaluating yourself in five key life areas, choosing up to three of those areas you'd like to improve in, having a vision statement created for you and then setting a series of goals and objectives to reach those improvements. This is not therapy. As one of my instructors said "Therapy looks backwards coaching looks forward."
It's a great time of year to do something like this. So, I am offering three people the opportunity to work with me for approximately 5 - 7 hours in accomplishing the above tasks. When you are finished you will have a pretty clear cut set of goals to move forward with and I'll complete my certification.
What's required of you?
You must have a sincere desire to improve yourself. I'm like a personal trainer only I deal with the mind, heart and soul, so to speak.
You will have to verbally communicate with me either on the telephone or through video chatting. I prefer to use Skype for video chatting so if you are interested and not in the USA its not a huge obstacle.
Anything you and I talk about remains confidential. You might be contacted by the certification group just to verify I went through the initial process. There are no strings attached to this and I'm not selling anything. You would be helping me as much as I might be helping you. Actually I can't take too much credit for this blog it was Joan's idea. She thought it would be a good way of giving back to all who have helped me.
If you are interested send me a Spark Mail and I'll give you further details.
Monday, January 03, 2011
Stop for a minute and ask yourself this question, how do I see myself? When I close my eyes and focus the picture, what do I see? Be honest. Most of us donít have a very positive picture, do we? Oh we have a list of readymade wonderful things about ourselves that we tell people when they ask, but when we start to look closer, we start to see all the flaws and imperfections and then our shoulders start to sag a little bit. We see a coworker, or a next door neighbor or a really successful Spark friend and we begin to compare ourselves to them and our shoulders sag a bit more. Maybe we get a bit jealous. We hear ourselves say ďWhy canít I be like them?Ē Did you ever think they are saying the same thing when they look at you.
Everyone is full of vim and vigor and gusto and oh my goodness my email inbox is exploding with people joining the 28 Day boot camp. We convince ourselves that if we pile enough activity on top of our current vision that somehow, some way it will become more positive. I have to work harder, be smarter, and push, push, push. How many times have I run out of steam and enthusiasm somewhere around January 15? How many times have I just given up or created a bunch of excuses because it all got to be just too much?
We are asked today to create a vision. We are asked to post our goals and objectives where we can view them. I think thereís something else we need to do. I think we need to ask ourselves how much worth and value we place on ourselves and what this journey is worth. I sat down yesterday and asked myself a question. If I never wrote another blog, lost another pound, ran another race, won another reward or was recognized for my accomplishments in life would I still believe I was loved, I was valuable and I a good human being? Honestly, I got scared when I saw my answer. I got a bit of a chill inside of me. Itís become a goal. The goal is to sit next to John and accept him and see him just as he is, a bit overweight, a bit clumsy at times, a bit awkward in his speech and writing and put my arm around him and embrace him and be his best friend, just as he is. It means I must learn to love him when he fails as well as when he succeeds. Thatís a hard thing to do.
Everything around us suggests we become quicker, prettier and sleeker. You and I both know weíve lost weight before, styled and profiled for the camera and our friends only to look up six months later and ask what went wrong. No amount of activity, no matter how healthy or well intentioned can make up for a negative perception I may have of me. Join all the Spark teams you want, hire all the personal trainers, and receive all the most popular blog awards God can imagine. Until I believe about me what you believe about me I wonít ever reach my goals and objective. You may see me as wonderful but until I do, then itís all just an exercise in futility.
I was going to take a picture of my goals and objective hanging in my office and post them with this blog. But the more I though about it the more I decided this is what I'd post and print out.
When I can look at that picture and really believe I am whole, happy and loved, just as I am, then I KNOW I'll reach all my other goals.
Day 3.......... My vision.
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