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Twelve Things You Should Know

Thursday, January 06, 2011

My baby sister recently turned fifty and she sent me this email earlier this morning. I am not sure of the source and neither was she but I think it's some pretty good advice.

"For a lark yesterday, I tweeted 12 things that I wish I had known when I was 25. Maybe they'll help a 25 year-old person you know. Or you!

1.) So I'm 50 today, and I'm going to tweet what I wish I knew at 25. First up: Stop worrying so much! It's useless.

2.) Being a saint means being yourself. Stop trying to be someone else and just be your best self. Saves you heartache.

3.) There's no right way to pray, any more than there's a right way to be a friend. What's best is what works best for you.

4.) Remember 3 things and save yourself lots of unneeded heartache: You're not God. This ain't heaven. Don't act like a jerk.

5.) Your deepest, most heartfelt, desires are God's desires for you. And vice versa. Listen. And follow them.

6.) Within you is the idea of your best self. Act as if you were that person and you will become that person, with God's grace.

7.) Don't worry too much about the worst that can happen. Even if it happens, God is with you, and you can handle it. Really.

8.) You can't force people to approve of you, agree with you, be impressed with you, love you or even like you. Stop trying!

9.) When we compare, we are usually imagining someone else's life falsely. So our real-life loses out. Ie, Compare and despair.

10.) Even when you finally realized the right thing, or the Christian thing, to do, it can still be hard to do. Do it anyway.

11.) Seven things to say frequently: I love you. Thank you. Thank you, God. Forgive me. I'm so happy for you! Why not? Yes.

12.) Final 50 y.o. lesson: Peace and joy come after asking God to free you--from anything that keeps you from being loving and compassionate."

Hope you have a great day.

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STEELKICKIN 1/7/2011 10:53PM

    I think we would all be better off if we just remembered to do these things....most definitely, the headaches would be gone, the sadness and anxiety removed from our hearts and our shoulders would be freed from incredible weight. Amen, John, thank you and thanks for your sister for sharing these awesome words of wisdom.

God bless you and many hugs from me to you...

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MSSUNBUG 1/7/2011 10:11PM

    Amen! These are great!

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ANEPANALIPTI 1/7/2011 9:05PM

    WOW these are REALLY powerful!!! THANKS!!!!!

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MYOWNHERO 1/7/2011 5:05PM

    Your baby sister sure is smart! Happy birthday to her and thanks for sharing.

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CARTOONB 1/6/2011 9:57PM go back and live with what I know now! And I'll probably be saying that again in the next ten years. Or even next year.

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TEDYBEAR2838 1/6/2011 9:40PM

    Great advice John.

Let's ROCK 2011!

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TIME4AFITME 1/6/2011 7:14PM

    Thank you for sharing. That is great I am going to keep a copy of that. Good to read at any age

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SILLYHP1953 1/6/2011 1:45PM

    How wonderful it would have been to have my 50 year old self come talk to me when I was 25, or better yet, 18. But would I have listened?

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IMREADY77 1/6/2011 11:51AM

    Wow! Thanks so much for sharing. I've learned allot from you, just from that blog. That's a real blessing to me. Thanks once again! emoticon

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KAT573 1/6/2011 11:06AM

    THANK you for sharing that! I especially love and have come to realize 7-12 and I am so GRATEFUL that I have! I am going to pass this on, if you don't mind, after I print it out!

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2WHEELEDSHARON 1/6/2011 10:53AM

    How beautiful. The one about how our deepest desires are God's desires for us makes me remember that everyone is doing their best even if I don't think so!

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JAE_HENNINGTON 1/6/2011 10:31AM

  great wisdom...thanks for taking the time to post..Now if I can just remember these things myself

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EMTFF376 1/6/2011 9:57AM

    Holy cow. I turn 35 in a couple weeks and I should rewrite these on that day (with proper citation). The sooner we can live by these, the better... ESPECIALLY #1! I am a horrible worrier.

Thank you so much for sharing these. It seems to have come at a perfect moment in my life.


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GETFIT2LIVE 1/6/2011 9:24AM

    Wisdom seems to run in the family, John! Great list; thank you for sharing it, and thank your sister for us all!

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LIFEISSWEET2 1/6/2011 9:10AM

    Thank you for this great blog!

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KATHRYN1955 1/6/2011 9:01AM

    Thanks, John for this list. I have just copied it out and am going to go over it more slowly. I especially like #12.
Take care,
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CAHUNO2 1/6/2011 9:01AM

    Great things to remember!! Several I need to think of each day. emoticon

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HOT4FITNESS 1/6/2011 8:58AM

    Thanks for sharing!

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CICI510 1/6/2011 8:53AM

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CBRED1628 1/6/2011 8:53AM

  Thanks. I also favor number 8. Good advise for anyone at any age. :)

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MARCYNA 1/6/2011 8:39AM

    Hey, that's great----Particularly # 8 I have to learn by heart and repeat so many times to me....thanks to sis & you emoticon emoticon

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Two Words That Have To Go

Wednesday, January 05, 2011

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MSSUNBUG 1/7/2011 10:23PM

    Breaking free from perfectionism was a necessary precursor to achieving any of the goals I set for myself. Abandoning the "deadline" mentality, the "x pounds by x date" mentality was infinitely freeing. It left me only able to celebrate whatever came, rather than bemoan what WASN'T coming. I cringe when I watch people setting these sorts of goals here since I think it sets us up for, as you've already articulately pointed out, perfectionism, judment, and then ultimately their good buddy, failure.

I may have mentioned that I read this great book at the very start of my journey (need to reread it, actually!) called _Life Without Ed_ by Jennie Schaffer. I went into it believing there would be nothing for me to relate to (it was recommended to me that I read it), and I walked away with heaps of hope, insight, and tools for dealing with my own perfectionism. I believe with all of my heart that once we get that out of our way (perfectionism), once we're able to treat ourselves with kindness and compassion, once we make the space to be in support of ourselves, the need for goals is really only secondary.

I hope you feed that wonderful head and heart only good, healthy stuff this year--sounds like you're well on your way.


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TEDYBEAR2838 1/6/2011 9:55PM

    This is a emoticon blog!

You are so right. How do you do it?

Let's ROCK 2011

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GIRANIMAL 1/6/2011 12:34PM

    Thanks again, my dear friend, for yet another eerily well-times reminder. (How do you keep doing that?!) LOL

Perfection and (nearly always unfounded) guilt are two of my lifelong arch-nemeses. But I am getting better, oh so slowly, in no small part because we've talked about this before. emoticon

Happy new year to you, John. I know this is going to be your best yet!


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HDHAWK 1/6/2011 10:34AM

    This blog was fantastic. It really hit home for me. I focus way too much on my screwups, my not being perfect, instead of what I do accomplish. By the way, 68 lbs. is no small accomplishment!

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MARCYNA 1/6/2011 9:07AM

    Oh my, this is my main problem, perfectionism is killing me emoticon

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ANEPANALIPTI 1/6/2011 3:54AM

    WOW - "why don't we monitor what goes into our heads" Abso lutely flipping brilliant.

It's like a fountain that is never ending right in you???????


"not always upset for the reasons we think"

I really liked this whole blog - with this attitude you will be kind to yourself and you will reach that very attainable goal!!!!!!!!

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CARTOONB 1/5/2011 11:30PM

    Perfection is a hard one to get away from. Good luck with that. When you figure it out, give me some pointers, k?

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SILLYHP1953 1/5/2011 9:35PM

    You're really good at making me think. I've known for many years that I'm a perfectionist, been working on it for a while because it tends to keep me frozen. And I've been in judgement of myself for MANY years, working on that, too. Forgiveness.

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MRSSTOGS 1/5/2011 3:51PM

    This post is beautiful - I normally don't watch video posts, but I was curious. You've put your words together so well.

Unfortunately, I can barely agree about the need for perfection and the result of judgment; I can't see judging yourself, I can't see judging you - when I look at you, I remember the first time we "met," where you were then, and I'm consistently blown away by your progress. You haven't lost 5 or 10 vanity pounds - nothing wrong with those who want that, of course - you have earned enough, worked enough and stayed motivated enough to lose so much weight that your WHOLE BODY looks different! The change is so easy to celebrate that I suppose I must forget that our demons come from within, and that I can't convince another human being to see themselves through my eyes.

You are not perfect, John, but you are a champion. You are triumphant. And you'll keep going.

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SLIM.CHICK 1/5/2011 11:25AM

    My thoughts:
The act of judging is habit and a choice.
Perfection in this world does not exist as things are always changing and evolving.
I like to think my spirit is an example of perfection.

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AMP6411 1/5/2011 10:23AM

    Great vlog! Very true words there, which made me feel not so alone with those two words that do indeed have to go. Thank you.

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UNLIKELY 1/5/2011 10:11AM


I was blown away by your honesty. It made me feel connected to you in such a strong way and connected to everyone in such a strong way because truthfully, doesn't everyone do that to themselves? When I make the simplest mistake I sit in the harshest judgement of myself and tell myself how stupid I am. I know logically that this cannot be true because I have accomplished things like graduating from college. But, I still cannot help feeling that way and judging myself for those small failures. I did that just this morning and it will probably ruin my whole day. I have to stop putting that garbage in my own head, as you say. Thank you so much for this blog!

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SMOCKON 1/5/2011 10:00AM

    Well, in my book, 68 lbs. is incredible! If a friend or coworker lost that amount, you'd say, "Wow, Bob, you are looking fantastic! It's amazing that you lost 68 lbs. in one year." And you'd mean it. Why do we hold ourselves to a higher standard?

I started to give up because I only lost about 30 lbs. in 2010. But you know what? I can reach my goal weight because I've already proven to myself that I can lose weight--not immediately, not even fast--but I can lose. I may not reach my goal weight in 2011 either, but I am going to end the year weighing less and being healthier than I am starting it. I know you are, too.

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DOLLBABE56 1/5/2011 9:43AM

    Your blog is soooo true. I've got the devil on one shoulder, angel on the other thing going on too. I would bet that most everyone does. Good luck to you and me and everyone else with working on this.

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EMTFF376 1/5/2011 8:39AM

    Wow! Thanks for the video blog this morning.

60 pounds is amazing! My total weight loss was 70 and it took me a year and half! You are doing great things for yourself.

I agree with perfectionism. I am a victim/offender/whatever you want to call it as well. I have set goals for myself (my blog 1/1/11). I believe they are much more realistic, attainable and measurable than in years past. I believe writing them down and revisiting them on a daily basis helps. I have them posted on my fridge. I walk past each day and read.

You are such an inspiration, John. Don't let that perfection demon (that most of us have under the bed) tell you any different. You are amazing and you have a lot to be proud of in your accomplishment column! :)


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Helping Me, Helping You

Wednesday, January 05, 2011

The more I share, the more I grow. The more I grow the more capable I become. To me, it's never been about getting, it's been about giving. A month or so ago I completed a process that will allow me to be a professional Life Coach. Took the necessary classes, passed the tests, etc. I have one requirement left to fulfill and I believe it's a good one. I am required to do Life Coaching with three people for free. In return those people can write a testimonial. These three people should not be friends or family.

The process involves evaluating yourself in five key life areas, choosing up to three of those areas you'd like to improve in, having a vision statement created for you and then setting a series of goals and objectives to reach those improvements. This is not therapy. As one of my instructors said "Therapy looks backwards coaching looks forward."

It's a great time of year to do something like this. So, I am offering three people the opportunity to work with me for approximately 5 - 7 hours in accomplishing the above tasks. When you are finished you will have a pretty clear cut set of goals to move forward with and I'll complete my certification.

What's required of you?

You must have a sincere desire to improve yourself. I'm like a personal trainer only I deal with the mind, heart and soul, so to speak.

You will have to verbally communicate with me either on the telephone or through video chatting. I prefer to use Skype for video chatting so if you are interested and not in the USA its not a huge obstacle.

Anything you and I talk about remains confidential. You might be contacted by the certification group just to verify I went through the initial process. There are no strings attached to this and I'm not selling anything. You would be helping me as much as I might be helping you. Actually I can't take too much credit for this blog it was Joan's idea. She thought it would be a good way of giving back to all who have helped me.

If you are interested send me a Spark Mail and I'll give you further details.

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TEDYBEAR2838 1/6/2011 9:44PM

    Wow, John that's great. Maybe sometime in the future, you can give us some ideas of what you do with the people you work with. I am totally clueless, even after reading this. SO maybe some examples??

Hey, whatever it is you will be emoticon at it!



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WALKNLOVE 1/6/2011 8:00AM

    YOU WILL BE WONDERFUL!!!!!God has truly blessed you, but you will also be such a huge blessing to anyone whose life you touch by the power of God at work within you! emoticon

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MARCYNA 1/6/2011 6:49AM

    Truly wonderful...I am really amazed of your being a life-coach and Ii admire you...

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SILLYHP1953 1/5/2011 1:26PM

    Wow...I would definately be interested, so put my name in the hat. You've not said anything I disagree with in your blogs, and they have inspired me, so I think you'd be a great life coach. And tell Joan going on sp with this was a good idea.

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SLIM.CHICK 1/5/2011 11:36AM

    I would be happy to take you up on your offer.

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CICI510 1/5/2011 8:35AM

    That is so awesome!! I'm excited for you!! :)

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MSSUNBUG 1/5/2011 8:20AM

    This is a fabulous idea, John. I wish you all the luck in the world with it. Whoever decides to take you up on this offer is L-U-C-K-Y to have you on their team, for sure!

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When Nothing Is Something

Tuesday, January 04, 2011

My favorite Christmas gift this year came from Cracker Barrel. It was a 4 x 7 black and white wall hanging of a tree without leaves standing beside a gravel path and a fence running in front of it. The caption below read ďBe still and know that I am God.Ē Since Christmas Day it is what I have been called to do and be Ė for right now Ė and I have fought my Creator tooth and nail. I know none of you guys ever do this but I always think I know better. I take a walk every morning. Itís above and beyond any cardio or strength training I might do that day. Itís an opportunity to focus and center myself for the day. This morning I argued and struggled and made what I thought were pretty good cases about how I should wind myself up and plunge right in to 2011. Set all sorts of goals and objective and the like.

ďBe still and know that I am God.Ē

Iím getting tired of hearing that. I tug at the leash. I want to write powerful, motivating blogs, articles and books that articulate these lofty or deep goals that everyone will drop their jaw in amazement over. In truth I am looking to validate my own worth by a lot of activity. If Iím busy Iím valuable. In His infinite wisdom God stands perfect and patient and I keep hoping the leash will break and Iíll run hither and yonÖ.

I have no goals or objectives for 2011 except to be healthier tomorrow then I was today. My goal right now is to listen to the soft and still voice inside of me and to those of you that the voice of the Spirit encourages me to listen to. It is to be still. During my walk this morning I felt a great surge of peace at one point. To put into words ďI felt spring in twenty five degree weather.Ē There was a clearing in my mind and I saw one simple yet perplexing goal. My goal is to be John. In her blog earlier this week CATHERINEL66 said something about ďpeeling the layers of the onion back.Ē I have done a lot of that since I began my journey in earnest a bit over a year ago and now itís time to do more.
I will track my food, and exercise and meditate and rest but mostly my quest this year is to be John and to do so as quietly as possible. John got fat when John got lost and now itís time to look for him and bring him home. Thatís my goal, doing something by doing nothing.

I will leave you with this thought, however. I have over 600 Spark Friends. Close to one third of them havenít been active in over a year. I have thought of deleting them and then low and behold one or two of them wrote me telling me they came back. If you are here and you are struggling and sweating and wringing your hands realize you one of those who will not quit or give up and who is searching to locate yourself.

Be blessed today.

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UNLIKELY 1/6/2011 9:22AM

  Truly, I feel like starting this is painful. As we all know our eating habits are not usually about eating at all. I don't know if I want to open Pandora's box and take a look around.

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HEALTHYME229 1/5/2011 9:43AM

    I read your blogs regularly and, even though I rarely comment, there are often nuggets of insight for me on my journey. This one hit home for me in a big way. I just completed my first year on Spark and peeled many onion layers with plenty of tears. I ended the year with more peace and joy than I can remember in years. In that process, I started to find Teri again and I started to love her again. My prayer for you is that you will find that same peace and joy as you find John and lavish upon him all the love and support you so generously give to others. From what I can tell - he is an awesome guy!

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RACINGSLUG 1/5/2011 9:13AM

    Beautiful thoughts as always. Stillness can be so hard to achieve. I think in today's era it's even harder - I noticed with some chagrine the other day that when my husband left the restaurant table to wash his hands, my immediate instinct was to pick up my cell phone and check my e-mail. It's like we struggle to let things be even for a second. Maybe because we fear what will happen if we are left alone with our thoughts. What if we get bored? What if we catch a glimpse of who we really are, and we don't like what we see? There's a popular meditation book called, ''Don't Just Do Something, Sit There!''

To be John - that is the best goal you can have. It's clear from your words you know what you need to do now. Enjoy the stillness.

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LILIVW 1/5/2011 8:41AM

    This is one of the hardest things for me to do - be still. Yesterday I was in a religious building and I still felt the stress of all I had "to do". I didn't relish the moment. This needs to be one of my goals for this year too. To enjoy/live each moment, be still and listen. Thanks for sharing.

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MSSUNBUG 1/5/2011 8:26AM

    I think I've shared recently that I've felt a bit of a need to sit back and be a little quieter on my journey. I have a friend who (when I was injured) helped me fold into resting by reminding me that everything rests. "Look outside," she said. "The leaves are turning and falling, the squirrels are gathering, everything is preparing for a season of rest. We require that too." Okay, it's not exactly what you're talking about here (lol), but it's related. Sometimes the best thing we can do is no-THING at all, the best action, inaction. The next right step will come clear.

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    Great insights. Thanks for (as always) making me slow down and think.

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SILLYHP1953 1/4/2011 7:18PM

    I do get a lot out of your blogs, thank you. And I am realizing that as long as I keep coming back I will get there. I am learning to love and accept my "not thin" me, as Marianne Williamson says.

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REJ7777 1/4/2011 7:05PM

    You write: "John got fat when John got lost and now itís time to look for him and bring him home". When the prodigal came home (in Jesus' parable), the father was watching for him and ran out to welcome him home with open arms.

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JPRICE217 1/4/2011 6:09PM

    Bless you.

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GIZZY54 1/4/2011 3:22PM

    I am "one of those who need to get back" I need to listen to your voices of encouragement instead of listening to the inner voices felling me I am no good. I, like you, need to find myself. Yours is the first blog I have read so far this year. I guess I would rather sit around and feel sorry for myself. Thanks for writing your blog.

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STILLPOINT 1/4/2011 3:19PM

    Lovely to see your peaceful mindfulness. All goals begin with a wish - we need to stop and decide what that wish is, before we jump ahead and start doing. Blessings.


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DEE797 1/4/2011 11:21AM

    What an inspiring blog you have written. It's timely and just what I needed to hear today. Wishing you success on your journey of finding John again. emoticon

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DAWNDMOORE40 1/4/2011 10:48AM

    Your blog was very inspiring! I wish you a blessed day! I hope your walk today did you some good! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JUNEAU2010 1/4/2011 10:40AM

    May you be blessed as well!

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GEEMAWEST 1/4/2011 10:32AM

    I'm am always blessed when I read your blogs. Thank you.

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KAT573 1/4/2011 10:28AM

    KUDOS, John! I love walking and talking with God......I love that you found PEACE! It is precious and I love that you are going to be embracing more of who you are this year! JOHN is coming back home.

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When You Take A Good Look, What Do You See?

Monday, January 03, 2011

Stop for a minute and ask yourself this question, how do I see myself? When I close my eyes and focus the picture, what do I see? Be honest. Most of us donít have a very positive picture, do we? Oh we have a list of readymade wonderful things about ourselves that we tell people when they ask, but when we start to look closer, we start to see all the flaws and imperfections and then our shoulders start to sag a little bit. We see a coworker, or a next door neighbor or a really successful Spark friend and we begin to compare ourselves to them and our shoulders sag a bit more. Maybe we get a bit jealous. We hear ourselves say ďWhy canít I be like them?Ē Did you ever think they are saying the same thing when they look at you.

Everyone is full of vim and vigor and gusto and oh my goodness my email inbox is exploding with people joining the 28 Day boot camp. We convince ourselves that if we pile enough activity on top of our current vision that somehow, some way it will become more positive. I have to work harder, be smarter, and push, push, push. How many times have I run out of steam and enthusiasm somewhere around January 15? How many times have I just given up or created a bunch of excuses because it all got to be just too much?

We are asked today to create a vision. We are asked to post our goals and objectives where we can view them. I think thereís something else we need to do. I think we need to ask ourselves how much worth and value we place on ourselves and what this journey is worth. I sat down yesterday and asked myself a question. If I never wrote another blog, lost another pound, ran another race, won another reward or was recognized for my accomplishments in life would I still believe I was loved, I was valuable and I a good human being? Honestly, I got scared when I saw my answer. I got a bit of a chill inside of me. Itís become a goal. The goal is to sit next to John and accept him and see him just as he is, a bit overweight, a bit clumsy at times, a bit awkward in his speech and writing and put my arm around him and embrace him and be his best friend, just as he is. It means I must learn to love him when he fails as well as when he succeeds. Thatís a hard thing to do.

Everything around us suggests we become quicker, prettier and sleeker. You and I both know weíve lost weight before, styled and profiled for the camera and our friends only to look up six months later and ask what went wrong. No amount of activity, no matter how healthy or well intentioned can make up for a negative perception I may have of me. Join all the Spark teams you want, hire all the personal trainers, and receive all the most popular blog awards God can imagine. Until I believe about me what you believe about me I wonít ever reach my goals and objective. You may see me as wonderful but until I do, then itís all just an exercise in futility.

I was going to take a picture of my goals and objective hanging in my office and post them with this blog. But the more I though about it the more I decided this is what I'd post and print out.

When I can look at that picture and really believe I am whole, happy and loved, just as I am, then I KNOW I'll reach all my other goals.

Day 3.......... My vision.

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NASFKAB 12/10/2012 4:54AM

  awesome great

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MARCYNA 1/6/2011 9:10AM

    Yes, I am striving exactly with self-acceptance and love, I see all my defects and shortcomings and would like to lay in bed all day...I've been missing you as you help me accepting myself emoticon

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JPRICE217 1/4/2011 6:11PM

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MONTANA_ED 1/4/2011 7:38AM

    Wow - awesome blog. You always have such a way to put things. This is so right that we forget to just love ourselves. With all the goals and outside influences upon us - the power is within each and every one of us. Thanks for reminding us of that.


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WIGIME 1/4/2011 7:22AM

    John - you have a unique way of getting to the heart of the matter. Thanks for the blog.

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LOVEZ2SEW 1/4/2011 7:04AM

  Another excellent blog!!!

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WAVESNSHELLS1 1/4/2011 12:31AM

    Hi John, that is what reading your blogs do for me, they make me look deeper and feel not so alone. For what it is worth, if I could hug you, it would be long and tight! Thank you for sharing, even when it is difficult. Hang in there my beautiful friend .......island

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JUNEAU2010 1/3/2011 10:08PM

    Wow! I cannot add more or it would detract from this fabulous blog!

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CARTOONB 1/3/2011 4:31PM

    Good luck on achieving your vision.

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RACINGSLUG 1/3/2011 2:05PM

    ''Until I believe about me what you believe about me I wonít ever reach my goals and objective. You may see me as wonderful but until I do, then itís all just an exercise in futility. '' Spot on, my friend.

I can honestly answer that I'm finally okay with who I am. When I look in the mirror I see a survivor. I may not be the prettiest girl or the life of every party, but I've worked my way successfully out of every challenge thrown at me, using grit and brains, and I'm damn proud of that. I am a master problem solver and a person who knows what truly matters in life.

For a long time I was insecure about aging too quickly, as some people online once told me I looked a lot older than 27. Yeah, well, maybe that's because I've lived more in 27 years than some people ever will their entire lives. I don't back down because of fear; I live with fear every day and I do it anyway. And I'm not tough like a steamroller; I'm tough like a sturdy tree - I sustain life, I don't destroy it. If a few early wrinkles is the price I pay for being me, then let's have 'em. I've always liked wrinkles anyway.

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SILLYHP1953 1/3/2011 1:48PM

    Your blog reminded me of what I've done a few times in meditation. I go to my younger self, way younger, around 9 to 14 years old, and hug me, tell me all the things I needed to hear back then but didn't. I pick different ages when I was younger and needed hugs the most. It's pretty emotional but helps. I haven't done that for awhile, thanks for reminding me how much we need to love ourselves just as we are.

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GETFIT2LIVE 1/3/2011 11:36AM

    Spot on, John. We need to learn to love ourselves as we are, where we are, RIGHT NOW. All the awards, goodies, achievements, and applause won't help us reach our goals for weight loss or fitness until we discover that we really are beautiful, whole, and loved as we are now. I'm still working on that, too.

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JAE_HENNINGTON 1/3/2011 9:04AM

  I read this over and over again..its funny when i am alone and look in the mirror and think ok..not too bad..and when i am with others i begin to compare myself with others and feel bad cause i dont feel I measure up..If I stop and think about it I know I am ok just the way I am.. I just don't FEEL it..

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TRIPLE_EMME 1/3/2011 8:42AM

    Thank you... again!

I've been a little behind in Spark over the holiday season and am catching up, today. I do believe that it was meant for me to read your blog, today. Your words are resonating very strongly with me.

I do believe that you will begin to see yourself as "we" see you. I know it!

Have a happy and healthy day!

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FREDIA2 1/3/2011 8:41AM

    Your blogs always hit the mark.

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WATERMELLEN 1/3/2011 8:25AM

    Very nice, right on the money as always, John.

Remember that old song with the refrain, "love you just the way you are"?? We've gotta let ourselves do that for ourselves, too.

Why would I be worth expending all that energy and effort upon if I weren't fundamentally OK?

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EMTFF376 1/3/2011 8:23AM

    You're right. I'm sure many of us don't have a very good view of ourselves.

When I get home tonight and all the dust settles from catching up with paperwork, meetings, etc, the goals and a pic are going up on my fridge. No matter what, I have to walk past it each day... mostly to get to the coffee pot! :) The same holds true when I get to hubby's house next week.

Have a great day!

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