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Be Careful What You Ask For

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Expect the best. Prepare for the worst. Capitalize on what comes." Zig Ziglar

My grandmother used to tell me that "God writes straight using crooked lines." I always thought that was a "nice thought" until this morning. I have no earthly idea when I am going to be able to get home. We got about two inches of snow last night here in sunny WVA. The problem is it rained all day yesterday and there is a nice sheet of ice beneath the snow.

My life is very neat and orderly, thank you very much!!! I live off a somewhat flexible schedule which does not include the possibility of being stuck in a hotel for two extra days. Its maddening.

So as I am sitting here this morning praying for a divine heat wave that would last long enough for me to get home. It dawned on me that I had sent some "other" prayers out there recently.

I had asked for time to be able to work on my "other blog.' I publish a leadership development blog weekly. At least I try to publish it weekly. I am trying to revise a seminar I teach based on recent participant evaluation to make it more topical and cut some time off of it. Then there is just "me" time.

So in His own unique way God said "You got it, John."

I have learned to appreciate and love the divine sense of humor. Within it there is always a lesson to be learned. The lesson for me is that if we truly choose to be vessels and servants to other people we go where we are sent and when we are sent there. Real faith isnt how much time you spend on your knees, its how much time you spend where you are sent even if it is a snow bound Holiday Inn Express in Weston, WVA

If you are interested in reading my "other" blog the web address is

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ATNACGAL 2/11/2010 8:46AM

    our prayers are not always answered in the order we choose!

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WANDAH3 2/10/2010 5:24PM

    Thank you John for the great laugh. I'm so glad that God uses his sense of humour on others besides me!!!

Enjoy the time you "asked" for. lol

Drive safe on the way home.

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WORKINGSTIFF 2/10/2010 5:04PM

    It is said that man makes plans and God laughs.

True enough. With the right attitude (notice I didn't say positive) one can find the upside in most situations.

Glad you "found" the time you'd been wishing for.

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TOOFATPIA 2/10/2010 12:56PM

    I use to have a womans group. There was a woman who came to me and said I been praying and I thought that God would give me what I asked for. I told her God always answers prayer. He does usually give what you ask for but in his time not ours. She said she had been praying to get pregnant. She said she had had her 3rd miscarriage. I had to tell her God granted her prayers she didnt ask for a baby she asked for a pregnancy. I also told her that she needed to make sure that it was what her husband also wanted. She got iritated with me. I know God answers our prayers. He sometimes says no, yes, he has humor and sometimes has to teach lessons along the way

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CMBELISLE 2/10/2010 11:12AM

    For some reason a line from a song came to mind when I read your blog - "You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometime, you just mind find, you get what you need."

If you are stuck for a few days, make sure you take full advantage of the hotel fitness facility. You never know, you might find something else you enjoy doing.

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TRIPLE_EMME 2/10/2010 10:39AM

    Nobody said that divine intervention didn't have a sense of sick humor! LOL Seriously, take advantage of your "gift."

Thanks for posting the link to your other blog; I'm going to check it out!

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STORMTMB 2/10/2010 9:29AM

    In addition to time to work on your blog, you might also be able to take advantage of their fitness room. I enjoy a change of scenery when I'm on the road and using the hotel equipment for a change of pace. You're right - be careful what you ask for!! Enjoy your day and be safe once you do get back on the road.


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JUSTLYLE 2/10/2010 8:15AM

    I did a bunch of things yesterday thinking we would be snowed in. Pleasently surprised when I woke up, school on and very little drifting.
Hope you get caught up on the work.
Go by Weston on our way to S # 1 and family in Apex N.C.

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TCLARK319 2/10/2010 7:57AM

    I always seem to wish for something then have to rephrase it to be more specific because there is that possibility that wish will come true. Good luck on your goals - safe trip home.

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ASH72461 2/10/2010 7:51AM

  i always said be careful what you ask for
you just might get it
and the snow won't last forever
be thamnkful you only got stuck in a motel
we had a truck blow up
2 cars stuck in the snow
and i had an allergic reaction to the antibotic for bronticus
so back to the hospital in all the confusion
but it will all get better
it always does soooner or later
i prefer sooner

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Tuesday, February 09, 2010

It is very cold and the rain is making it worse. The client I came to visit got some really bad news while we were eating lunch. It appears that his wife has lung cancer. He is within 11 months of retirement. As eloquent as I am and as much as I pride myself on always coming up with the right thing to say, I found myself at a loss. Sometime later this afternoon I recalled my short morning meditation from today:

The Divine Voice is not always expressed in words.
It is made known as a heart-consciousness.
"Be still, and know that I am God." Psalm 46:10

It is a not so subtle reminder how so very little I can control in my life. I can control my actions and by doing so the consequences of my actions. Everybody is in favor of doing God's will on a good day. On a rainy, snowy, "I just got terrible news, day," it is not so easy. I can only have faith.

I dragged my butt out of bed and spent 45 minutes on stationary bike here at the hotel. I walked into the breakfast area with my cloth grocery bag and my cooler full of my own food. The lady running the breakfast nook arched her eyebrows and gave me a dirty look. I could have eaten her cinnamon bun and something that appeared to be bacon. I choose to bring my own, fresh fruit and turkey breast with multi grain Italian bread (246 calories total)

I'll get up tomorrow and I'll climb on the bike and I'll complain and moan all the way down the elevator. And i'll do it Thursday and Friday and......

"Be still, and know that I am God." Psalm 46:10

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CMBELISLE 2/10/2010 10:22AM

    The hotel breakfast at my last conference wasn't a big problem for me because they had lots of fresh fruit, skim milk, whole grain breads and eggs cooked to order. They also had peanut butter as a protein choice.

On the other hand, the conference meals and snacks were a bit over the top with fat and sugars. I did manage to stay within calorie range each day, but my balances left a touch to be desired.

Good job on getting to the gym and making up for the unhealthy foods!

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STORMTMB 2/10/2010 9:34AM

    Oh yeah, you are taking advantage of the hotel fitness room. Yeah for you for 45 mins on the bike.

Best wishes in knowing what to say to your client. Sometimes less is more. He may want to talk or not. Maybe he'll want you to take his mind off the situation. Ya never know. Follow your gut.

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KATIEGLEN012 2/10/2010 5:39AM

    God chose you to be the one there. Be still and know that I am God. You were still and humble. You can only be a "help" in such times if you can stand the other's pain. We are to stay...and realize that our presence is required.

Do you ask God to use you in any way that He can? You must, cause He answers that prayer on a regular basis. Just as your blog indicates to me and others who read it "a calming presence"...your actions obviously match your words. God bless you for shouldering the discomfort of others.

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STAN5FAM 2/10/2010 5:25AM

    John you are amazing. Keep up the great effort. It is all about the follow through when taking care of ourselves.
Sometimes silence and being there is more supportive then words.

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LAWRALOO 2/10/2010 12:28AM

    Good for you for packing your own food.
I know how tough it is to travel and keep eating healthy and exercising!
Fantastic job for keeping it up while you're on the road.

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WANDAH3 2/9/2010 5:55PM

    Heart felt prayers going out. There is not real easy way to saying anything at a time like that. Taking God's guidance and just praying for them.


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TOOFATPIA 2/9/2010 5:39PM

I really like this and it is so hard to come up with words but sometimes when you cant it is not words that you need but just being there and helping with a comfort.
Keep up the good work

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In A Hurry..........

Tuesday, February 09, 2010

Sometimes honoring your commitments means you have to ask God to add another hour to you day. I am running behind this morning. i'll post more later.

Just letting everyone know I am alive

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CMBELISLE 2/9/2010 1:21PM

    Stay safe - I understand the weather is pretty rough where you mentioned you were headed for the week.

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MARCYNA 2/9/2010 10:26AM

    Yes...I agree.
He can do everything after all, and I'm sure He will.
From your posts I guess you can be at this point the one I can ask for advice.
How do you think it's possible to change from 'poor' to 'peak performance' at work? Quantity is not the answer. Quality is, probabily. But HOW?
Have a nice day!!!!!!!! emoticon

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KATIEGLEN012 2/9/2010 8:06AM

    First things first.

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NWLIFESRC 2/9/2010 7:46AM

    Slow down smell the roses ha ha right.

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The Workout Blues

Monday, February 08, 2010

I tossed and turned last night. My legs were really sore from my cardio yesterday. That's not why I was tossing and turning. I kept going back in forth in my mind whether I should get out of bed and do my 45 minute work out in the morning. I had three dozen reasons why I shouldnt, the biggest being that as soon as I finish this blog posting I am headed to West Virginia for three days. That means an eight hour car ride and bad weather and well I just thought it prudent to lay in bed an extra hour to conserve my strength and all.

I could only find one reason to get out of bed at five am. I had made a commitment to do so, plain and simple. My legs were sore, my back ached a little bit and my mind kept coaxing me to lay in bed.

I got up at 5 and was in the gym by 5:20. I am fortunate that I only live three blocks away. I walked 2.5 miles around the track. It wasn't my strongest workout for sure but in some ways it was the very best one of my life. I didnt burn as many calories as I have in past workouts but I honored the commitment I made to myself. That means I honored me and my health.

I have a song on my I-Pod by Jay-Z. It's called "Who's Gonna Run This Town Tonite?" The question I had to ask myself last night was "Who's gonna run me?" Is it going to be me or my excuses. Today I won.

I'll be gone to Wednesday evening. I'll still post my vital stats and my blog. Have a blessed Monday.

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WANDAH3 2/8/2010 5:24PM

    Drive safe! Love that you are taking your tape recorder with you and doing your bucket list at the same time! Super idea.

Congratulations on making yourself a priority. Woo hoo. Bet you weren't near as tired driving after getting your heart pumping.

Have a good few days, looking forward to your blogs when you get back.


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STAN5FAM 2/8/2010 2:26PM

    Congrats on keeping your commitment John! When I commit to morning workouts they get done. It's those later in the day workouts when other prioities win out and my work out becomes just a guilty thought. Have a safe trip!

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CMBELISLE 2/8/2010 1:17PM


Making promises is a big deal to me, especially with my children. So, why shouldn't a promise to yourself be just as important as one to a child?

emoticon pretty soon you'll be ready for that 5K.

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STORMTMB 2/8/2010 10:39AM

    Congrats on keeping your commitment. It will be easier next time because you did it this time.

Best wishes and travel safe,

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FOXEYES2 2/8/2010 8:11AM

  I am discovering that keeping my word to myself is just as important as keeping the promises I make to others. I think that it is a huge part of reaching my goals in this journey.

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Sincere Motivation

Sunday, February 07, 2010

I look forward to Sunday mornings. I look forward to going to church. It's not that I am some great and holy person. To be honest there are weeks I do not go. I look forward to going to church because it means in many ways I have that one solitary hour of isolation. Truth be known, most weeks I zone out sometime during Mass. No one can call me on my phone, no one needs anything. It's just me and my higher power. I believe we have an "inner voice." I believe that if we rely on that inner voice it will help guide us. Some people call that voice angels, some believe it's God himself or a long since passed friend or relative. I have learned to trust that inner voice.

I write this long and windy preface so that you get a feeling for what happened to me this morning. Sitting in silence and being very grateful for everything God has done for me my inner voice asked me a question. "Why do you do everything you do?" (Sometimes I am not fond of my inner voice!!) "Are you kind, do you share, are you loving, so people will notice you or say what a great guy you are or do you love simply for loves sake, because it's the right thing to do?"

Truth be known I did not want to hear this. See I was feeling really, really good about myself. But........ I started to think that the small voice had a really valid point. I wonder how often in my life I have said "I'll do this or that and then I'll get this or that." Sort of like keeping score. It humbled me in a very good way. I was starting to get "the big head." At the same time I felt this wonderful sesne of freedom.

I forgot that a few months ago I was miserable, and despondent. I kept gaining weight, and nothing I tried worked. I prayed really hard and to be honest with you there were days I'd cry. (Yeah guys cry.) But something inside of kept saying "You'll get it dont worry." I do not believe in guilt or punishment or any of that stuff. I believe in forgiveness and letting the past slip away.

This morning was a cold bucket of water that I needed. I AM becoming healthy and my hope is that as I make this journey, in a very sincere and loving way, I can reach out to other people who are struggling and simply love because I was created in love and I am love.

Guess I have a new goal and most likely it will take a life time to achieve. I still belive I am a good and wonderful person, otherwise I would not have been created, but I see my purpose clearer.

Good Sabbath

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STAN5FAM 2/8/2010 2:16AM

    John you are an amazing person. Thanks for sharing your profound insight.

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WOODSYGIRL 2/7/2010 11:52PM

    Such a great blog with some of the very thoughts I've struggled with for years. I've often questioned my motives, that is whether or not I'm doing something just out of love and goodness or because I want the attention that comes from it. I think it's a bit of both. I'm working very hard on not seeking out that attention (subconsciously or not) and just looking to please God... because my ultimate joy is found in Him. As humans, this is no easy feat, but I think my purpose will become clearer the more I let go of the other "stuff". I've long since struggled with trying to figure out what my purpose is from God, and I still don't know. I don't know what my spiritual gifts are either, but I think the more I just keep doing what is right and good and kind, the more these things will become clear to me. Thanks for another inspiring blog that made me pause and think.

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KATIEGLEN012 2/7/2010 7:49PM that you can hear that inner voice. Church is the perfect place for it to speak. It is difficult to love unconditionally. You gave me food for thought. Thanks for sharing.

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WANDAH3 2/7/2010 11:06AM

    Yep, that you are...a good and wonderful person, whom God created for a purpose.
We all have a life purpose, some of us it takes awhile to realize that and to get our lives on the path we need to be on, others seem to know from the moment they are born. I'm just grateful that God has never given up on me and has been able to break through the walls I built to protect myself and instill in me His loving presence. As I continue to allow God and my spiritual guides to lead me, I'm continual amazed at all that lies before me, overwhelmed at times, but eternally grateful that I'm deemed worthy to perform the task set before me.

Have an awesome day,

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