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.......What Works For Me. What Works For You?

Saturday, December 04, 2010

I received A Spark Mail the other day from someone I don’t know real well. The jest of what they wrote was to ask me to quit writing blogs that were, as they put it, “downers.” They told me I had a “great responsibility to other people,” and that I should “lead and inspire, not make people dwell on their short comings.” In all honesty I had to grin, simply because if I only wrote when I was on top of the world you might only here from me about once every three months or so. I grinned because I understood. I used to strive to be on top of the world 24/7, and when I didn’t I just knew there was something I had to have done wrong. (It’s the people pleaser/control freak/emotional eater in me!!!) One thing I am learning is “what works for me.”

What works for me does not always, if ever, work for you and vice versa. It would be like you and I going shopping. You find a hat that looks really great on you and you receive a million compliments on how well it looks before you even reach the counter to pay for it. I automatically assume it is the hat to end all hats, I run back to grab one even though it doesn’t fit, it’s the wrong color and I can’t afford to pay the sale price. All I see is that it works for you.

My wife, Joan, has weighed approximately the same weight for thirty seven years. Yes, she put weight on during pregnancies and the like, but basically she is within ten pounds of what she weighed when we got married. Her health is excellent, her blood work superb. She is a meat and potatoes eater and drinks enough Diet Pepsi to make it worthwhile for me to own stock in the company. I eat like that and I put on fifteen pounds in thirty minutes.

When I start being someone else other than who I am, I am no longer John and to be quite honest with you I did that for a long time and found out I wasn’t really happy. I call it lying to myself. I want to be accepted and loved and cared for so much that I’ll do just about anything to achieve that, even if it is not right for me. That’s when everything heads south.

I write what I think and feel and it is not always warm and fuzzy because I don’t always feel warm and fuzzy. I write what I write for two reasons. The first reason is that when I see it, write and speak it I can make it a real part of my life and either add it or remove it. It’s the same reason I read what so many of you write, it inspires me. The second reason is I write to share my struggles because maybe someone else is struggling and they read what I write they will not feel so alone.

I have gone back to walking two miles every morning. I just feel better when I do and I get to insert my reflective time during the walk. I am reaching three or four goals and feel much better the rest of the day. I still run and work with Jen and do all the other exercise things I enjoy, but that two mile walk sets my day off right. It works for me.

Far too often I get caught up in comparing and analyzing what I read and see and wonder about. I’m finding out that being honest about me and my life is what works for me.

What works for you?

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GIRANIMAL 12/6/2010 12:45PM

    I am baffled by the idea that "having a responsibility to others" can mean anything but being true to yourself. Isn't THAT your responsibility to others (if there is one)? Sincerity and honesty?

I agree with my dear friend TRIPLE_EMME and the others, and I am glad you already know it to be true: Your blog is about you, and you shouldn't ever censor yourself. If any of us care to partake, we should just be grateful for the free admission to such a wonderfully insightful and creative show! (Psst: And I am!) emoticon

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SMOCKON 12/6/2010 11:34AM

    Perhaps you have a responsibility to other people, but your first responsibility is to yourself. Somewhere along the line, people like us so internalized the "think about other people" talk that we put everyone ahead of ourselves. You are so right that we need to love us because we're us and not because we're good spouses, parents, children, or workers. I think SparkPeople blogs are supposed to be a tool for the writer. If the blogs help others, so much the better, but that is secondary.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 12/5/2010 10:51PM

    I'm the original individualist. The person who walks to the tune of a different drummer. But you probably knew that already. emoticon

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ANEPANALIPTI 12/5/2010 2:17PM

    Hmmmmmmm I think you wouldn't be a person if you only wrote positive things. That would be you attempting to be the database of spark articles.

The spark articles are there for whoever wants to read them, I find you fascinating for alllllllll of you though. You're REAL!

(yeah my mouth dropped open when I read that someone asked you that, cause Ive gained so much from every single one of your blogs even the "downers"!)

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WATERMELLEN 12/4/2010 9:11PM

    No need to change a thing -- just keep on keeping on: it's working for you AND it's often helpful for many of the rest of us.

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GETFIT2LIVE 12/4/2010 4:57PM

    John, you have such a good attitude about that mail, well intentioned as I am sure it was. When you share your struggles as well as your victories, that gives me permission to be honest, too, both with myself and with others. The hat analogy says it well. This is not a one-size-fits-all process; that's one of the things I love about this place, we are given the tools to find what works for us individually instead of a 'you must eat THIS and do THAT' prescription. Thanks for staying true to yourself and sharing the journey, ALL of the journey, with us.

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CATHERINEL66 12/4/2010 4:31PM

    I am really giggling to myself about the random email about your great responsibility to lead with positive optimism. LOL! I mean, if you can share all your rainbows and unicorns, that's great -- but I agree with you -- waiting on sunshine and optimism is about as effective as waiting for motivation. Neither are predictable, or often enough, and in the middle times and meanwhiles, we still need to do the right things!

Keep on blogging, buddy. I like them all.

And by all means, if that morning walk cranks you up - go forth and walk!

(personally, I just want to run until I keel over or my feet fall off, but given my foot, that might not take long :)

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TRIPLE_EMME 12/4/2010 4:03PM


I will chime in with the general sentiment *here* --
it is YOUR blog and you should write for YOU -- however, you desire.

If the person that sent you the email doesn't like the content of your blogs, they can choose not to read it.

I, for one, appreciate the genuineness of your writing.


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MKPRINCESS007 12/4/2010 3:52PM

    I continue to be amazed by life. The last time I checked, most of us are living in a glass house, so people should be careful how they throw those stones around. That being said, I try to understand that at alot of times, people can't reach within to find the drive, motivation, inspiration.......and make it someone else responsibility. Guess that is human nature.

I love your blogs, no matter what you write about. Why? Because they come from the heart.

End of story.

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KT-NICHOLS-13 12/4/2010 3:33PM

    You always seem to take negative feedback with a grain of salt and a grin on your face, not many people can do that. I find people who share their ups and downs more inspiring than those who act like cheerleaders to the world. I like the real, the raw version - it's what works for me.

Thanks John for not always being the cheerleader but rather the leader.

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A-STRONGER-ME 12/4/2010 2:52PM

    John, I don't know you. This is the only blog of yours I have ever read. I ran across it simply by accident.

YOU are RIGHT ON TARGET with this blog. That is what a blog is for - to express YOURSELF - NOT OTHERS.

Might I suggest to the person that sparked you - go read someone else's stuff and leave John alone!!!

YOU keep true to yourself and do what works!!

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SPARKENISTA 12/4/2010 2:42PM

    John--I admire your desire and ability to "put it out there" every day. I have tried and I know how hard it is. Whatever else, you are true to yourself. That is the reason that you have attracted the followers that you inspire every day.

I am all for happiness, glow and great times. However, life is not all about that. Others have written to me privately, as well, and "suggested" things that are not in their purview (read: none of their business) particularly about religion, believe it or not.

Please, stay true to yourself and continue to state frankly what's on your mind. Your commentator has the choice of not reading blogs s/he doesn't want to.

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KAT573 12/4/2010 2:18PM

    GREAT blog, John! I really really appreciated your points and agree wholeheartedly with them. Life is not a linear progression, and we are NOT ever going to be perfect but we can and will move forward when we continue to search out and face who we are and accept what WE each need, and that in and of itself gives courage to many others who are dealing with the same issues, and we are legion. LOL! It is the entire point of Life, IMHO, and I realize it is MY opinion. But I have found that the continual review of my actions and my thoughts helps me to be more honest, and in doing so, helps me to find Joy; not Happiness: JOY!
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ZURDTA- 12/4/2010 2:15PM

    Blogging is supposed to be for YOU not other people. You are just a regular guy who is real and honest. And that's great.

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TIME4AFITME 12/4/2010 1:16PM

    I enjoy your blogs so thank you! emoticon

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LUV4CHOCOLATE 12/4/2010 12:44PM

    Well written blog and THANK YOU for sharing it! I think it is very important to be honest. We are here to help each other - through the good and bad. YES, continue to write what you feel. If someone doesn't like it, they don't need to read it!

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ATREAT4ME 12/4/2010 11:01AM

    Another excellent post. I have been following your posts for a short time but what drew me to them was the reflective nature of them. I love your label "people pleaser control freak" and I think I identify with it. But it almost sounds as an oxymoron. On the face of it, I always thought my people-pleasing was being out of control and when I stopped trying to do that, I was in full control-freak mode. But this idea that both are different sides of the same coin is really taking root in my mind.

I am not sure what works for me -- yet. I am discovering it, bit by bit. Daily exercise is key. I find that if I can get 60 to 90 minutes of activity in, then the food choices follow naturally. When I only get 30 to 45 minutes of activity, the food choices are more difficult.

Getting in touch with what I'm thinking/feeling is emerging as a key factor as well. Frankly, I have tried to avoid it for a long time and it simply makes me angry and that makes me eat. It takes a lot of time and effort for me to root through these things, so much like you, my activity serves as a good time to attempt this work.

In short, John, I am grateful to have found your posts. I become more enthused about my own journey as I read about yours and feel the light you're shining on your path illuminates part of mine as well. I am grateful for that and hope that one day I can do the same for someone else.

And this is not the people-pleaser side of me talking! ;-) Thank you.

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MYSTERY4EVER 12/4/2010 10:43AM

    I really think that this weight-loss journey is about being honest. It is important to be upbeat, but honesty about when you are having a problem is a way to connect with community and get support. Keep doing what you are doing.

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CARTOONB 12/4/2010 10:25AM

    The more I hear about Joan, the more I like her. I think I have Diet Pepsi running through my veins instead of blood! LOL!

What works for me? Protein. Planned meals. Almost daily exercise. Oh...and broccoli. emoticon

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TEACHING1ST 12/4/2010 10:14AM

    John, PLEASE continue to be you!! We love you, as Mr. Rogers used to say, 'Just the way you are.' What you have to say is what most of us need/want to hear and the delivery is just right. Congratulate Joan on keeping her weight steady. I was there once and want to be there again. So will you.

Happy Saturday,

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MARCYNA 12/4/2010 10:12AM

    Writing helps me a lot, trying to tell the truth, even when I feel sad and I want to quit SP & eat all the world's chocolate - I know it wouldn't work.
Blogging about how I feel helps a lot, and I think it also might help other people. Honesty is key and it keeps me away from Lindt & co. emoticon emoticon

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JESPAH 12/4/2010 10:12AM


And, by the way, write what you want, when you want to. It's YOUR blog and belongs to YOU.

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CELLCHIC 12/4/2010 10:05AM


I think it is important in everyones journey to share the ups and downs. We are all human and WILL have downs. It is inevitable. I have never felt that your blogs were negative in anyway.

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HDHAWK 12/4/2010 10:00AM

    That's why I (and many others) love reading your blogs. They are honest and hit on exactly the same things we're all going through at one time or another. You're just willing to put it out there. I'm going to try that "being who I am" instead of pleasing everyone else and see where it gets me! emoticon

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    The hat analogy is superb! I think that's why you can find "evidence" to support whatever diet and exercise plan you want to support. It does work for some people, but may not work for you. What's more is that whatever works for you today may not work tomorrow. I guess that's what they call a plateau. That further adds to the frustration and complication of this. So then you have to change something or many things to find the next "what works for you".

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DOLLBABE56 12/4/2010 9:49AM

    Very well put. And just for the record, your ups and downs help me realize that hey - he's human just like me! :)

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DOCYJK 12/4/2010 9:49AM

    Keep doing what you're doing, John!!! I enjoy the fact that you're so honest, because it allows us each to recognize that each day isn't perfect and we all face challenges. While losing weight and getting healthy is an individual experience, we can certainly share our ups and downs as a team! And none of us owe anything to anyone else - isn't that the beauty of this forum?!? Be true to yourself, keep blogging as you do and I'll keep reading and responding too! Have a wonderful TODAY!!!

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SEDONACAT 12/4/2010 9:37AM

    Keep writing as you have been. It's YOUR blog, right? I enjoyed it but I have to say with a wicked grin on my face, it's nice to see a man not be able to eat certain things without putting on wt. when his wife can eat them. As a woman, it is the opposite for me and my DH. AAGGGHH!


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The Gift

Friday, December 03, 2010

The first time I became aware of it was in Los Angeles International Airport. I had some time between flights and I was browsing the gift store. It was with all the other refrigerator magnets. You’ve probably heard it and read it a million times:

“Yesterday is history, tomorrow a mystery, today a gift.”

The question I ask myself periodically is the one that goes like this: “Do you believe it?” My honest answer, most days is a loud and resentful “NO.” I mean I believe it my head; it’s just my actions that lag far behind. The past two weeks have been different. I’ve realized that if I am going to do this thing, if I’m going to get healthy and stay healthy then I has to forget about all of yesterday’s mistakes and quit worrying so much about what tomorrow brings. It is time for a new me.
So as we prepare for the season where we give and give and give I’ve decided the most precious gift I can give to myself is the gift of living in today and today alone. It is not going to be easy. Old habits die hard and temptation runs strong. There is a voice that tells me to go back to being fat and miserable and get it over with for gosh sakes.

My gift to me is to live for today and experience all the joy and peace today brings to me. If I stress, if I worry, if I am anxious about tomorrow I miss seeing the very best part of today.

That part is you.

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MARCYNA 12/4/2010 3:26PM

    Yes I truly agree, the gift is being connected here and living this experience today...I've just tracked my food today and noticed I'm still keeping within my cal limits....ain't it wonderful???? emoticon emoticon

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DOCYJK 12/4/2010 9:21AM

    Very wise! Can't change the past and the future's not here yet, so you may as well live in today. Today you can have an impact!!! And doing anything towards your goals is a positive. No one else is judging you - just you! Stick with it - that's all we can do in TODAY!!! We deserve that gift!!!


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CARTOONB 12/3/2010 8:46PM

    Tall order! But I have a feeling you can do it Tucker! I'm rooting for you!

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AKATUJE 12/3/2010 4:44PM

    thanks as always, for my daily dose for inspiration.

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ANEPANALIPTI 12/3/2010 4:34PM

    *shakes head* In Greece we have a compliment where we say: "You don't exist".

Meaning, there is no one else like you- John- DEN YPARHEIS!!!!!!


PS. Yes, I do Skype!!!!!! vanessa.bounas emoticon

Dimitra (Vanessa is my middle name, which my sister calls me and I love equally probably should have started spark with it but figure it would get confusing now, lol should you wish to call me Vanessa I wouldn't mind in the least, much easier to pronounce! emoticon)

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JAE_HENNINGTON 12/3/2010 1:13PM

  oh you are so are a gift to us at Sparks. Thank you for shining and reminding us we can shine to

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    I totally agree! Life is to short to waste ruing the past or making grandiose plans for the future that may never come to pass.

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GETFIT2LIVE 12/3/2010 11:20AM

    There is one more line to that saying, John:

. . . today is a gift, that's why it's called the PRESENT.

Make today an awesome gift to yourself by living in it fully and letting go of the pain from the past and the fear of the future. You deserve it; you're worth it. This is something I'm working on, too.

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DEE797 12/3/2010 11:11AM

    That truly is a gift you are giving yourself. Living in the here and now, I wish I did that more often. I'm always worried about what happened yesterday or might happen tomorrow. Thanks for sharing this with us. It was what I needed to hear today.

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WORKINGSTIFF 12/3/2010 10:45AM

    Probably one of the hardest things to do in life is to live in the moment-in the here and now. We tend to worry about what tomorrow will bring or hang onto problems from the past.

Today is a gift. That's why it's called the present.

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CMBELISLE 12/3/2010 10:27AM

    We have to remember the past in order to learn from it, but that is all. We can't constantly worry about what we did yesterday and expect anything good to happen today.

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FUZZY1TOO 12/3/2010 10:12AM

    emoticon Sounds like you're giving yourself the best gift of all....the gift of a future. Congratulations on finding the right all you have to do is keep working at it so it stays a good fit.
emoticonI guess that's where we come in, eh? lol We all keep each other honest and on the right track. Thanks for being there for me, even when you don't realize how you might influence my day.
Have a good Friday and an awesome weekend!

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TRIPLE_EMME 12/3/2010 9:51AM


I needed to read your blog, this morning. Your words are helping me not beat up on myself for some crappy choices that I've made over the past week.

I will live in the present.


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LESLIES537 12/3/2010 9:27AM

    And that is truly the BEST gift you can give yourself! emoticon emoticon

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 12/3/2010 9:14AM

    I hear that voice too, that says "go back to being fat and miserable". It was less work than trying to be healthy and some days, I'm just as miserable. I refuse to give up though.

That is a very valuable gift you are giving yourself. Living for today is something I strive for but do not always succeed at. I can keep trying though.

Best wishes!

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This Mornings Vlog YouTube Address ............

Thursday, December 02, 2010

Some of you wrote and said you couldnt open my Vlog this morning. I neglected to give you the YouTube address. Here it is

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JPRICE217 12/2/2010 5:28PM

    Thank you

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You Are Courageous.............. Oh Yes You Are

Thursday, December 02, 2010


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PROT358 12/5/2010 11:21PM

    This deserves to be posted as a popular or featured blog. Will definitely return to this one again and again! Thanks so much for the reminder.

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FIT-WHIT 12/5/2010 10:30PM

    Incredible vlog! Thank you for sharing your inspiring thoughts-- you are so right. It takes so much courage to make the commitment to healthy choices each and every day, knowing that we may not be the best, and may not ALWAYS make our goals, but the important thing is that we HAVE goals, and we WORK toward goals. That takes a lot of courage.

WTG with your small victories-- it's the small ones that continue to add up to HUGE victories in the long run, when choosing a salad over fries is automatically what you PREFER and the gym seems to call your name sweetly rather than beckon with the threat of guilt should you miss it. The triumphant big victories are a result of all the small ones each and every day. Keep up your inspiring courage-- you're making a difference here in your own life, and the lives of so many others.

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LIFEGENESIS 12/3/2010 1:35AM

    YEAH FOR YOU! No fries! Woot! Love your vlogs! Keep being Courageous! :D

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LJOHN44 12/2/2010 8:57PM

    I bet you're a great dad. You're kids are lucky to have you! You are a wise man thank you for sharing your wisdom with your Spark family.

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ATREAT4ME 12/2/2010 8:36PM

    A lot to think about here. We went out to dinner tonight and I was feeling bad about eating out. But, I did have some victories. I chose well, I left food on my plate because 1) I recognized I was getting full and 2) i now know that it's better to leave it on the plate than to eat it. Thank you for this post. I think I was courageous by going out and leaving the safety of my home-cooked meals. It was the best choice for my family and I made the best choices for me. I'm feeling so much better about the whole experience.

Thanks for the framework!

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 12/2/2010 7:20PM

    ANEPANALIPTI mentioned your blog in her friend feed so I stopped by to check it out. You are right! We all have courage by sticking around and showing up. The small victories you talked about with your lunch are just the sort of things that make us successful. Weigh to go!

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ANEPANALIPTI 12/2/2010 6:57PM

    John, I CAN"T EVEN PUT INTO WORDS how asdj;afjjj;djka;dfjs;dfjk!!!!!!!!!!
!!!!!!!!!!! Ah you're SO RIGHT!!!! I can't believe this is something I never thought about! How do you do that?? I admire your insight SO MUCH.

Thank you x10000000 . If this had been written I def. would have copied it down into my journal like I did another one of your blogs. emoticon

You know we're so doing this right???


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GETFIT2LIVE 12/2/2010 3:10PM

    Thanks, John--we ARE courageous, aren't we?


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KML410 12/2/2010 12:34PM

    Thanks John for another great blog. Your words inspire me to continue my journey. It's people that have the courage to put their thoughts in these videos that keeps me going. Thanks for all you do! emoticon

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LOTUSFLOWER 12/2/2010 12:00PM

    THANK YOU for this!!! This was so powerful and exactly what I needed to hear this morning.

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DISCOVERLLH 12/2/2010 11:53AM

    John, this was the BEST v-blog I have ever seen! Definitely going to save it and listen to it over and over as I venture into believing that yes, I am a strong person who has the courage to CHANGE. It's a new concept for me. Thank you!!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MARCYNA 12/2/2010 10:57AM

Coming back,we're coming back.
It means we're trying anyway - whatever the results, we are CORAGEOUS & WINNERS. Little victories MATTER emoticon

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GEEMAWEST 12/2/2010 10:27AM

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WALKAWAY 12/2/2010 10:00AM

    John, I can't tell you how much I enjoy your blogs. Thanks for the reminder and thank you for your courage.

Have a great day. emoticon

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DOLLBABE56 12/2/2010 9:29AM

    I needed your blog today. Thank you for always giving the support I need. Oh, and btw, I can really tell that you have lost weight - it shows in your face! Good on ya!

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 12/2/2010 8:34AM

    Thanks for reminding me. I am working diligently at creating a healthier lifestyle but sometimes that mean little voice in my head gets loud and I forget that I'm making progress.

Good job on the eating out victories. Every positive choice spirals up into the next positive choice! Have a great day!


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DADDYTREVOR 12/2/2010 8:14AM

    Thank you.

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WISEONE68 12/2/2010 8:10AM

    Love you new background pick, John!! What a great moment in your journey!!!
Video would not load this a.m.--will check back later to view the vlog. Sounds very, very interesting!!!

Have a wonderful day!!!!

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One Day At A Time

Wednesday, December 01, 2010

Joan is on vacation this week so we are headed to Louisville this morning and will not return until late afternoon or early this evening. I will be AFK.

I did want to share my progress with you, though. I reached 75% of my goals yesterday.

My exercise goal was 50 minutes. I exceeded that goal. I exercised 80 minutes. This included a walk and a personal training session. I was/am pleased.

I met my nutritional goal too. My largest meal of the day was breakfast and, in a good way, everything went downhill from there. I am finding that if I plan one meal ahead and enter it in the food tracker it gives me a sense of stability, Call me crazy!!!

Finally, I didn’t eat or drink anything after 6 pm for the second day in a row. This is my weakest area. I am a “night nibbler.” I have to balance this a bit and maybe you guys can help. I woke up this morning feeling a little weak. I needed to eat right away. I was a bit light headed and my stomach felt a bit off. Once I ate I was okay.

The goal I didn’t reach, again, for the second day in a row was the goal of relaxing/meditating. I ran out of time. Gotta work on that one.

Three out of four isn’t bad. I thought of something my dad used to say as it relates to being perfect:

“The day you finally become perfect is the day you need to start looking for the angels to come and get you!!”

Be blessed today

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ANEPANALIPTI 12/5/2010 2:20PM

    I think the goals you've set are nice and balanced- hows the meditation going?

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MSSUNBUG 12/2/2010 3:21PM

    Sounds like a successful day. Maybe you might consider a planned, light snack after dinner? To me, the planned piece is the key...

Love that saying from your dad!

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CATHERINEL66 12/2/2010 11:35AM

    You know what I think is EVEN BETTER than 3 outta 4, or even 4 outta 4? What's better YET is that you keep in going. That's the big message that I'm seeing. You haven't thrown in the towel, or said "oh, this isn't working" or just wandered off. Nope, you've taken the airplane in for maintenance as needed, looked at some re-gearing options, LOL, and are making it better all the time.

You rock, buddy!! Keep on flyin'! I'm impressed and proud of you.

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TRIPLE_EMME 12/2/2010 10:23AM


Three out of four is pretty darn good!!!

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TRUE-NESS 12/1/2010 10:47PM

    Congrats on the successes today! On the last goal that you did not reach....try the Morning, BEFORE you get started with your day. If your goal was to do it in the evening, then try a BATH, rather than a shower. Baths can be very relaxing and you can meditate. I have some of my best prayer times with God in the shower or tub. Maybe it's more of a girlie thing to take a bath with candles surrounding the tub but it's very relaxing. Try it. :-)

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LOVEZ2SEW 12/1/2010 10:41PM

  Totally awesome! I'm a night nibbler too --gotta stop that! Hope you have a great time in Louisville! Love your positive energy!


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    It sounds like you were experiencing hypoglycemia. I believe in controlled snacks because otherwise you are going 12 plus hours with no food in your system. Not a good plan.

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HDHAWK 12/1/2010 6:07PM

    A little protein in the evening wouldn't hurt. You're doing great!

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GIRANIMAL 12/1/2010 1:39PM

    Awesome job! Three out of four is darn good, my friend, especially after only two days.

If you're crazy, then I am certifiable -- I had my entire day of food pre-tracked by 9:30 a.m.! It just takes the "can I eat this? will I blow it?" pressure off. I don't do it every day, but when I can, I do. It also helps make up for my abysmal weekend tracking record in my mind. emoticon

I read recently that a small complex carb snack before bedtime is a good way to stave off the morning crash. For example, even just a half cup (or less) of brown rice. I often use BTINTERNET's suggestion of a low-fat mozzarella cheese stick too.

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BTINTERNET 12/1/2010 12:08PM

    Nice job!

As to the night-time nibbling, what about some tea or something? Or plan a small nutritious *if you need it* snack (a string cheese, a celery & pb, etc.) I know, I know - eating at night is generally bad, but it also depends on your system and how it handles 12 hours without food. (I can't eat for an hour after I take morning meds, so I plan to eat dinner a little later - it probably doesn't aid my weight loss, but it's a long journey and that way I don't feel like crud in the morning!)

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GETFIT2LIVE 12/1/2010 10:49AM

    You did great hitting three out of four goals; letting go of the need to be 'perfect' in all things is part of the process. We still aim high (after all, if our goals are too easy to hit, they're not going to stretch us!), but we can't beat ourselves up when we miss one or two. I am working through that, too, trying to find the balance between high goals and unrealistic expectations.

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LOOKY-LOU 12/1/2010 10:47AM

    I too am a night time nibbler! If the hours between dinner and bed (oh and potato chips) did not exist...I think I could easily be at goal weight!

I do best when I just don't eat at night...having a hot cup of tea or decaf helps me, chewing gum and drinking water while watching TV also helps... are also eating a light dinner..and I don't know that BOTH no nighttime snacking and a light dinner is going to work...think about how few calories that would be.

How about planning a bedtime snack...not a feast, but a healthy snack to sustain you until morning. Try to have it and then "close" the kitchen.

Good luck!

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SMOCKON 12/1/2010 9:34AM

    I am a night eater, too. Always have been. It's genetic, I think, because my mom is also that way. I just figure in some popcorn at night. I enter it in the tracker when I'm putting in breakfast. That way I know I have enough calories reserved for it. Somehow, knowing that I have that snack coming helps me get through dinner without overeating.

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WORKINGSTIFF 12/1/2010 8:57AM

    Right on for your dad! He's so correct. Great job John-and have a groovy day!

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AKATUJE 12/1/2010 8:48AM

    You know John, you remind me so much of David, as in King David in the Bible. You are so honest and open, and real. And i love that about you.

emoticon on your progress so far. keep at it, you shall get there. My small group leader says to take even 2 minutes to be still. Maybe you can start with 2, and build it up to the 15 you desire. God is your strength and He will help you.

I love that saying by your dad!!!! We shall find perfection in heaven. For now, let us be happy with progress.

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ATREAT4ME 12/1/2010 8:42AM

    Excellent work and excellent progress in two days time! WTG John!

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MARCYNA 12/1/2010 8:38AM

    Wow, this blog is so much YOU....I don't wanna be perfect after all I'm happy being imperfect emoticon
Blessings 2U

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