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How May I Help You or Should I Just Ring Your Neck

Thursday, November 18, 2010


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REJ7777 11/21/2010 6:25PM

    Great insight! emoticon

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WALKAWAY 11/19/2010 3:37PM

    John thanks for the great blog.

I've had one boss who has been adding way too much drama to our work environment. I've always been one to ask what I could do to make his day easier, but to be quite honest I've been really ticked at him for his attitude. But Monday I'm going to go ask "what can I do to help you?"

Thanks for the reminder.


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ANEPANALIPTI 11/19/2010 6:34AM

    I RAISED MY HAND LOL! emoticon I have done the "um um" COUNTLESS times. You were CRUCIAL in helping me get over it and MOVING on. I've discovered so much. THANK YOU JOHN

How funny. A SWEETS basket.

Gosh, you are SO insightful.

This is YOU = emoticon

Keeping Joan in my prayers! emoticon


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KARRYB73 11/18/2010 9:51PM

    Great VLog! I need to learn to use that more with my staff and children. Hope you got home safely!

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MARCYNA 11/18/2010 4:00PM

    This is really great and I am looking for situations in my life I could perform better on the basis of your attitude emoticon emoticon

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JJSSKINNYGIRL 11/18/2010 1:55PM

    Another Great blog. Holding in Anger and stewing only stirs the pot!! Thank you for another great Blog!


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DEE797 11/18/2010 1:43PM

    Thanks John, it's another insightful blog. So much to think about and put to good use. Do hope your meeting with her and her supervisor went well.

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SMOCKON 11/18/2010 10:08AM

    The take-away message I'm getting is that stewing over a situation doesn't help resolve it. While it may not be your responsibility to supervise this planner and help her out, it is a creative way of doing something to relieve your frustration. I think too often we turn to negative ways of relieving frustration (raising our voices, saying the most hurtful thing we can think of, EATING, etc.) and don't consider positive ways to do that. Hmmmmm....this may help me with my younger daughter, who is very challenging to deal with just now. Thank you!

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SPARKENISTA 11/18/2010 9:51AM

Sorry to hear that your conference had so many glitches in it.

While you are thinking that you could have been more proactive in helping this young woman plan your event better, and that could make you feel more in control, the fact is that for whatever reason she failed to come through.

Yes, on some level you understand b/c you have kids her age. That does not change the fact that she messed up in many important ways. Apparently, other planners assigned to your events were able to fulfill your needs better.

I don't know that being over-responsible and second guessing every possible thing that could go wrong is really the answer. The fact is that she dropped the ball. Period. Your job is to show up, run your seminar and pay the bill. You should not also have to do her job and supervise her.

It is appropriate to be angry. In fact, I would ask for a reduction or rebate. A sweets basket (even if you wanted it) is not adequate to make up for the inconvenience and the possibility of your losing clients. I'm sure that what ever the subject matter was, it was designed for self-growth and moving out of your students' comfort zones. They should not have to worry about the food, the accommodations or any of the ancillary services. Neither should you.

Particularly during this difficult economic time, there is no excuse for poor service. I know that I am being a hard nose but there IS no excuse. You have every right to be angry. I hope that your meeting turns out to be satisfying and that you get some recompense for your frustration.



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HLPRATT 11/18/2010 9:45AM

    Thanks John Good thoughts for today emoticon

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Those Two Words

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

I began last night with this question: “How grateful are you for the person sitting next to you and how often do you let them know that you are grateful?” I am in the midst of a seminar for two groups of people who have been convinced they are natural and mortal enemies --- local labor leaders and front line supervisors. From the beginning of their journey they have been told the person across the table is the “bad guy.”

“How often do you utter those two little words ---- THANK YOU?” It was quiet for a few seconds. Folks were doodling on their legal pads, moving around in their chairs and staring at the ceiling. Finally one voice in the back of the room spoke.

“I’m not going to thank anyone for doing what they get paid to do. It’s their job.”

“Sounds like no one ever bothers to thank you.” I observed.

Those two words are the most powerful phrase in any language. They imply acknowledgment, value and worth along with the simple pride of knowing that you have been recognized not only for what you do but for who you are. Most of us have a hard time finding our own value all by ourselves so we find validation form other people. Those two words often make the difference between a really good day and a really bad day. You and I have that much power in what we speak. We have the ability to lift up or to destroy. They are short, sweet and to the point. They thank you, the individual, the entity, the person and soul that you are for simply existing and being part of another person’s life. If the whole world did this on a regular basis, folks like me would be out of a job!

Thank you. Yes, I am talking to you. Thank you for being you with your insights and observations, Spark Mails and Goodies. I don’t acknowledge it often enough.

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WALKAWAY 11/19/2010 3:39PM

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GEEMAWEST 11/17/2010 9:25PM

    Thank you too! You Rock!

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MKPRINCESS007 11/17/2010 7:48PM

    Right back at 'cha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

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WANDAH3 11/17/2010 5:59PM

    Well said my friend, well said. THANK YOU John for always have truth to share with all of us.

Thank you...such simple words, but they really pack a punch.


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ANEPANALIPTI 11/17/2010 4:04PM

    You are the THANK YOU GOD!!! Thank you for always reminding us about this important life practice. You rock John! :D

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KT-NICHOLS-13 11/17/2010 12:27PM

    Please and Thank you ... I know both were drilled into me as a child from all the adult people around me. I still use them daily - if not hourly, a lot of folks don't.
Thanks John putting it out there and keeping it real.

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JJSSKINNYGIRL 11/17/2010 10:53AM


You inspire me in ways that I could never have imagined!! You have me on the brink of success every time lately, and one of these days, something you write is going to hit me like a ton of bricks, I just know it!!

In any case, YOU are the one I should be thanking. You have helped me change my life!

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2BEATIT1 11/17/2010 10:08AM

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to you also John.
I, for one, truly appreciate your depth and vulnerability of your blogs. You give us all much food for thought.
As you talked about the 2 powerful words " emoticon" it reminds me of the Scripture of the power of the tongue to produce good or evil.
Let us all be the former with allowing kind words to come from our tongue beginning with emoticon
God bless you John and THANK YOU again.

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WORKINGSTIFF 11/17/2010 10:05AM

    Thank you for a great blog and for a reminder that 2 little words can make a world of difference.

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TRIPLE_EMME 11/17/2010 9:44AM


I needed this blog, today.

I especially like your two sentences: "You and I have that much power in what we speak. We have the ability to lift up or to destroy." SO TRUE!!!

Thanks for being YOU!!!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/17/2010 9:40AM

    Thank you is a powerful phrase. I recall when we went to visit my MIL at Barnes and the R.N. and aide came in and cleaned her up. When they were preparing to leave I thanked them both for taking such good care of her and the expression on their faces spoke volumes. You would have thought I had given then $100. It's apparent that they are not thanked nearly enough. We are a very rude society and some societies are worse. And thank you, John, for the reminder.

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MISSROCKABILLY 11/17/2010 9:05AM

    This was something I needed to read this morning, as I've been having a pretty rough time recently.

Thank you John, for sharing this, and just for being you!

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MARCYNA 11/17/2010 9:01AM

    Gonna thank my students as they sit there and listen emoticonPS Thank you John. I owe so much to you emoticon

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EMTFF376 11/17/2010 8:12AM

    Its amazing that some people think that physical, tangible rewards are good enough and that they shouldn't be bothered with having to incur the emotional reward (HASSLE) of saying 'thank you'.

I worked a cardiac arrest the other day, doing CPR while the wife of this gentleman bawled her eyes out and held his hand. My support crew showed up and I asked if one of them could take over chest compressions for me so I could try to get an IV in the patient. Tell me that isn't high stress. When my crew member took over, I said "THANK YOU"... and yes, we do get paid as well. I go out of my way to say please and thank you to my crew members because I know they are just as stressed as I am in situations like that.

Please and Thank You go a long way with me. A pat on the back will keep me going for months. Heaven forbid someone sends me a thank you card or gift (its happened once or twice), I'm good for years!

Thank you for posting this blog. I hope lots of folks read it and realize the importance of "those two words".


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MUSTANG_SALLY2 11/17/2010 8:12AM

    I wish you could give a seminar to the honchos at the company for which I work. This is the most negative atmosphere I've ever been in. I try daily to spread positivity but I feel like it's a drop in the ocean. Makes it hard to come to work some days!


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HDHAWK 11/17/2010 8:10AM

    What a simple thing to do, yet it doesn't happen often enough. I hope your meetings help these 2 parties come to a resolution.

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A Message For You

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

“Don’t give up. No matter what, don’t give up.”

I am not really sure why I write what I write sometimes. There are days I just get a feeling or something keeps running through my head and all of a sudden it’s on paper. To be honest, quite often a lot of what
I write doesn’t even inspire me!!

“Don’t give up. No matter what, don’t give up.”

This whole health revolution you and I are in the midst of is hard work. Forget the glossy 8 x1 0’s and the success stories there are days we feel like we are in the middle of field, the winds blowing and we are all alone. I always keep looking skyward for a host of angels to come and rescue me but I always end up finding my way out of the field on my own. I have been there before. I’ll be there again. It wears me out, angers me, gets me all worked up inside.

“Don’t give up. No matter what, don’t give up.”

Hope doesn’t have a really good marketing strategy. We talk a lot about having faith in ourselves and we talk about loving one another and sharing that love but very little attention is given to hope. Hope is the virtue that keeps us going. It is the knowledge that on the other side of darkness there is indeed light. Some days hope is all we have. It’s the constant flame burning bright in a universe of darkness. Its light becomes so very bright that it blinds all those failures and whispers “Someday you’ll put it all together.”

“Don’t give up. No matter what, don’t give up.”

It’s a new morning. You have a blank sheet of paper in front of you and your rear view mirror is broken so you can’t look back. Maybe you opted out of an exercise class last night and you woke up in the middle of the night feeling guilty. Maybe you snagged a candy bar on the way out the door because the good Lord knows you are one busy person and to be honest it really didn’t taste that good. You are ashamed that you are scared that everyone else you know is going to find out your scared and feel awfully alone sometimes, so you eat.

“Don’t give up. No matter what, don’t give up.”

There is hope. Maybe it seems far in the distance or maybe you can’t identify it at all. It’s there. Hope thrives and grows when you and I persevere and no matter how many failures we seem to have we get up and keep on moving.

Don’t quit, don’t leave, don’t give up. You are as precious in the eyes of God as any other living creature and you deserve happiness and health.

You are here reading this and you feel a bit more steady and the candle of hope burns just a tad bit brighter.

“Don’t give up. No matter what, don’t give up.”

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SMALLERMELORIE 11/18/2010 3:20PM

    Thank you for the words. I sometimes look at how long I have been on Spark and how little progress that I have made and wonder....Your words made me think "where would I be without Spark".

Thanks again

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    This is exactly what I needed to read right now. Thanks, John, for another great blog. :)

Hope you have a wonderful day.

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2BEATIT1 11/17/2010 1:53AM

    Wonderful blog John.
As I read it I was reminded of the verse in Hebrews 11: "Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not yet seen."
God bless you John.

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MSSUNBUG 11/16/2010 9:56PM

    What a lovely blog, friend. Really, one of my favorites from you. There were so many times on this journey when I felt alone and felt like there was no hope for me. That voice that reminded me not to give up was often weak (and often not even my own!), but thank goodness I never stopped listening for it altogether. Thank goodness indeed.

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MKPRINCESS007 11/16/2010 9:53PM

    I have always believed that God and the hope that God brings manifests itself in my intuition. I truly believe that the "gut" is never wrong. Hope is believing and flying blind without any empirical evidence.

You rock, my friend. You totally rock.

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WANDAH3 11/16/2010 7:37PM

    You write exactly what needs to be shared. Thank you for being an open channel.


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SPARKENISTA 11/16/2010 5:21PM

    John--This blog definitely hits the spot. It just goes to show that no matter how many relationships we have, when it really counts, the decisions we make in the clinch involve three people--me, myself and I.

Thanks for this. It is very inspirational.



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CATHERINEL66 11/16/2010 4:07PM

    Sometimes in life you have to jump off the cliff and HOPE there's the other side to land on ... even when you can't see it. That's hope.

I think it's what sustains us on this journey. No one really knows what we'll encounter on the way, or just how far it is to the other side :)


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MARCYNA 11/16/2010 3:11PM

    This post mirrors me exactly....not attending the course & feeling guilty.
I'm calling all the angels for all of us , in addition to not giving up emoticon emoticon
PS Shall I track my candy bar??? emoticon emoticon

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CBLANK20091 11/16/2010 11:37AM

Thank you for sharing such an important and meaningful message. You are a true gift to Sparkies!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/16/2010 10:37AM

    There may be someone reading this who really needs this message right now and you have given it.

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GEEMAWEST 11/16/2010 10:25AM

    Dear John,

This blog couldn't have come at a better time. After I weighed myself this morning I was thinking "I'm never going to lose this weight, I might as well just get used to it." You almost brought me to tears, but I already had my makeup on for work and didn't want it to run.

Love ya, Cheryl

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ASHLEYRAMSEY 11/16/2010 9:24AM

    Thank you. Reading this was just what I needed this morning! emoticon

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WISEONE68 11/16/2010 9:09AM

    I just threw my rearview mirror in the trash can!! Thanks for the blog!! It hit the "spot" today!!!

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SARAWALKS 11/16/2010 9:00AM

    Excellent blog, John! I think a LOT of us needed to hear this today.
"mama said there'd be days like this..." the Shirelles
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BRAVENEWGRL 11/16/2010 8:30AM

    Thanks for the inspiration this morning.

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JUDIL62 11/16/2010 8:23AM

    So true!

Have a great day John.

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TENACIOUSTRISH 11/16/2010 7:45AM

    Thank you for the blog,I am inspired not to let nothing stop me in reaching my goals.

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Finding My Own Confidence 11 Months of Spark

Monday, November 15, 2010

I’m starting a seminar for a client in Nashville tomorrow afternoon and I was finalizing everything with the event planner for the hotel the other day. Before we hung up she said to me “I don’t know if I could do what you do. You must have had an awful lot of confidence in yourself.” I chuckled a bit and said “Well it’s either confidence or ignorance. Some days I’m not sure which.”

I thought about that conversation a lot this weekend. I asked myself how many times I began a sentence like she did. “I could never…..” My answer was: A Lot!!! It got to the point where I actually took out a legal pad and as watched the NFL yesterday I would write them down. The list was large and to tag it with the title of impressive would be, well sort of odd, ya know? Many of the things on that list were things I had long ago accomplished but at one point in time felt that there was “no way,” I could ever do them at all. Some of the things on the list were current things, things that I wasn’t even aware of. Bad habits of sorts that crept into my life and derailed my performance sat there looking at me.

Building your confidence is an ongoing, full time job. It is easy when there are a string of victories. We can conquer the world. It gets harder and then darn near impossible when things aren’t going the way we think they are supposed to. We attack, mostly ourselves and our beliefs when we gain a pound here or there or we eat something we believe might slow down out progress. I am finding that I have to look at work on the things in my life that give me the strength to endure, even during those times of self-doubt. I am learning I can do anything I CHOOSE to do and that choice is an important part of building my confidence. I am learning that the only person I am in COMPETITION with is ME. It matters greatly how I stck up against my own goals and expectations but the minute I start comparing me to you? ---- Well I have big issues. I never will be you and you never will be me. I am learning that often it means JUMPING IN the deep end of the pool and finding the swim to the other side isn’t as hard as I might make it.

It comes down to belieiving in me, my plan and ability to get there. You may get there ahead of me but that just means there is one more person to cheer for me when I arrive. I’ve been here eleven months today. I’ve accomplished a lot and hope to accomplish a lot more!!!

Confidence is another word for SELF TALK. So as I write this morning I am asking myself what kinds of things am I saying.

“I am worth it. I deserve it. I am who I hang around with.”

Good start John, good start.

“I know I can, I know I can.”

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CATHERINEL66 11/16/2010 4:03PM

    This is a great blog! And you're so right that working on yourself IS a fulltime job. When people ask me my "secret" to weight loss, I always tell them that it's the part time job that I had to make time for in my life .. and work around all the prep, shopping, food prep, working out, etc etc ... all those "secret" ingredients that combine to make hard work and dedication to the journey!

Congrats on your 11 month spark-iversary!

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WISEONE68 11/16/2010 9:05AM

    GREAT start, John, GREAT start!!! You have such a gift of putting into words what so many people are in need of hearing (reading)!! That is why I like Spark so much--cuz' we are around others who feel similar feelings, go through similar trials, and experience similar doubts/frustrations.

You hit the nail on the head when you said, "I am who I hang out with!!" I went shopping the other day to buy some new clothes--not yet the size I want to be--but, I wanted to look professional, well-dressed (even, sexy). I am who I hang out with--if I am not putting all the effort in that I should be, then I need to change!!!!!

You are still an inspiration to me, Friend!! I am proud to know you and call you Friend. Thanks for the insight--AGAIN--into this journey we all share--becoming the healthy person God wants us to be!!!!


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JUDIL62 11/16/2010 8:26AM

    Somehow you always write about what I need to hear. Thank you for being a great SparkFriend!


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MYRNACARRIER 11/15/2010 11:10PM

    CHOICE, I love that sentence "I am learning that I can do anything I CHOOSE to do.
I think I will make that my mantra. Sticky note on my bathroom mirror.
I am worth it. I deserve it and I am who I hang around with.
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2BEATIT1 11/15/2010 10:15PM

    John you are amazing.
I truly believe God is using you to help all of us to keep going when we take 1 step forward and 2 steps back.
Thanks for the reminder that even when we 'blow' it, we can start again.
God bless

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SPARKENISTA 11/15/2010 9:04PM

    In "Little House on the Prairie" Laura's father, Charles, once said,"The fool didn't know it couldn't be he went ahead and did it...!" Yet, somehow, I don't t think that's you.

We joined during the same week. All along you have striven to keep your structure in your nutrition program, your exercise program and your blogging. You have gotten what you have deserved for a year of plugging away and keeping your goals in mind. I understand that it hasn't always been easy or perfect. But it was more than good enough.
emoticon on a great and courageous year!!!


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TIME4AFITME 11/15/2010 8:04PM

    Great blog! Thx

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/15/2010 3:37PM

    You should have had my dad, John. I was never allowed to say I could not do something because if I did my dad's hair would stand on end and he would prove to me that I could. Maybe it's why I tend to think given enough time and motivation I can do anything. Care to walk on water with me, John? LOL.

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JPRICE217 11/15/2010 3:36PM

    emoticonfor a emoticonblog I am worth it!!!! And you are worth it!!!!

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WORKINGSTIFF 11/15/2010 3:13PM

    Sometimes it's best to do things out of ignorance, because if we really thought it through all the way, we'd never attempt some things!

Please enjoy this quote:
"Your opponent, in the end, is never really the player on the other side of the net, or the swimmer in the next lane, or the team on the other side of the field, or even the bar you must high-jump. Your opponent is yourself, your negative internal voices, your level of determination." Grace Lichtenstein

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GEEMAWEST 11/15/2010 12:52PM

    You sound just like my DH. And that's a good thing. emoticon

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LUVMYK9S 11/15/2010 12:24PM

    Thanks for the great blog! I've also told myself that I can do anything that I set my mind to but sometimes I do need to be reminded. I need to remind myself that I AM worth it and that I DO deserve it! Congratulations on 11 months with Spark and all of your accomplishments!

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ASHLEYRAMSEY 11/15/2010 11:52AM

    how inspiring is this?! Thank you for posting this! I think that making a list is a fantastic idea, and may make one myself very soon. Congrats on 11 months!

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MSSUNBUG 11/15/2010 11:14AM

    I often talk about my chiropractor as my chiropractor/spritual advisor. The man dropped 100 pounds and has kept it off for over five years. The way he did it is by repeating to himself, OUTLOUD, continuously, "I am lean, I am lean, I am lean." I'll confess that it took me a long time to buy into the power of positive thinking and affirmations. But I too find that things are usually not nearly as hard as I make them--and I too have a long list of things I once said were impossible that I've achieved (and then some!).

You're right that confidence is an every-day commitment. It's something we can choose to build for ourselves--or choose NOT to build for ourselves. I, much like you, choose to do my part to build it.

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WANDAH3 11/15/2010 10:17AM

    Congratulations John.

Love the blog, words have such power and we often are our own sabateurs without giving it a second thought just by the choice of words we use in our conversations.

Choosing to be in competition with others, will often lead to someone feeling defeated. I loved the fact that you were able to put it into the context of " You may get there ahead of me but that just means there is one more person to cheer for me when I arrive"

Have a wonderful day,Hugs,

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HDHAWK 11/15/2010 9:16AM

    Congrats on 11 months at spark! We all have the struggles and the "I don't think I cans". Making a list is a great idea!

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 11/15/2010 9:03AM

    I like the idea of having more people there to cheer for me when I arrive. It puts a delicious spin on being at the back of the pack! LOL

Have a great day John!

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JUSTLYLE 11/15/2010 8:28AM

    Great blog again John. Congrats on the 11 months. We all need to give ourselves a talkin too occasionally. Yes we are Worthy, and by golly we are going to do something about it!

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MARCYNA 11/15/2010 8:22AM

    This is one of these moments "when things aren’t going the way we think they are supposed to" and it's hard for me to regain self confidence emoticon emoticon
Thanks for sharing, you're helping me a lot..... emoticon emoticon

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JUSTMOLLY13 11/15/2010 8:04AM

    I love this part, and never thought of it this way

"It comes down to believing in me, my plan and ability to get there. You may get there ahead of me but that just means there is one more person to cheer for me when I arrive".

how true when you said i'm in competition with me!!.......

congratulations on your 11 month anniversary john!! AWESOME!!
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Running and Life

Saturday, November 13, 2010

I have been running since May 11, 2010

I started off inspired by a Spark friend who was running the Indianapolis half marathon while I was walking in a 5K walk here in town. Her enthusiasm, her commitment and her support was more than enough to inspire me to begin the running process. A few days later I started the C25K process.

I was skeptical. I looked in the mirror and despite my success all I saw was a fifty seven, year old, obese man who now decided it was time to act like he was twenty seven. Honestly, the thing that kept me motivated those first few weeks wasn’t my desire to run or any lofty or altruistic ideal. It was the fact that I had paid slightly over two hundred dollars for running shoes and I couldn’t see giving up after making that sort of investment.

I broke through the day I “found my stride” and it became comfortable for me to run. The same Spark friend who inspired me to run wrote me a quick note and told me that “I was a runner now.” I grinned.

I received lots of support both from my family and my friends here. My son Paul became my running coach. My personal trainer, Jen ran with me a few times and according to the people at the gym was more excited than I was the day I ran my first 5K. That was Saturday, September 25, just four short months after I began running. I didn’t set any land speed records --- I still don’t. During that time I had received a lot of encouragement from people who had run at one time and no longer could because of illness or injury. They were equally inspiring. A Spark friend who had run for a long time gave me two pieces of advice that I won’t ever forget:

“Run the race you trained to run.”

“Enjoy yourself.”

I give you that bit of a back story because yesterday, around noon, I ran five miles for the very first time. I would like to tell you it was full of inspiration and cheering and me being really happy. It was the worst run of my short running life. I gave up counting after the tenth time I decided I was going to stop running, throw my shoes in the garbage, quit the gym and go live under a rock. Everything hurt and I wasn’t motivated, not in the slightest. I never did get into any sort of rhythm.

“Routines are a nice starting point, but we need to be adaptable. We need strong yet flexible airplanes to fly on this journey, because one thing for sure is that it lasts FOREVER. How can we build better airplanes that fly through the storms of "real life" -- not a routine that only works in an ideal world?”

That quote is on my desk blotter. It’s from CATHERINEL66’s blog from a few weeks ago. You can read the whole blog at:

For about a mile that’s all I kept repeating in my head. “Fly the blanket-blank plane through the storm John.” I’d like to tell you it inspired me, it just kept me moving forward. I thought about all my friends who’d love to be there right next to me but couldn’t. I thought about how I was being a whiney little boy and I put one foot in front of the other. The route I ran took me from door to door at my gym. It was 5.1 miles. At 5.08 miles about two hundred yards from the finish my body told me “Stop John, or I’ll stop you.” I always try to listen to my body.

There was nothing really inspirational about what I did. Many of you run five miles in your sleep and a lot quicker than I ever dreamed of doing. I almost didn’t start yesterday. I had to force myself to do it. Running is like life. No matter how many different ways you cut it, it’s a lot of hard work, which pays off if you stick with it. You have really great moments that come after a lot of indecision, defeat and obstacles.

My body is sore from my gluts to my ankles. I took the garbage out earlier today and I saw three people run by my drive way. I smiled that kind of smile you often reserve only for yourself. I ache, but I’ll be out there with them Monday morning.

It’s like Springsteen says “Tramps like us, baby we were born to run.”

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

WALKNLOVE 11/15/2010 8:57PM

    Awesome john! You are always so inspiring! Keep up the good work & run the race to win the prize of the high calling in Christ Jesus! You are doing that & doing that well I might add! Thanks for shining your light bright enough for the rest of us to follow! Blessings to you my friend!

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ANEPANALIPTI 11/15/2010 3:36AM

    I am SO proud of you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's so exhilirating right??? Wait till you run 6. I literally couldn't BELIEVE I had just done that!

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TRIPLE_EMME 11/14/2010 3:54PM

    You've come a LONG way in a short period of time.


You would be some sort of robot-weirdo if you didn't have days where you "hated" your run (or another form of exercise).

You are doing GREAT! emoticon on 5 miles!!!

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KT-NICHOLS-13 11/14/2010 3:34PM

    I finished my second 5K race this morning, I ran the entire course this time ... I can identify with this, "I ache, but I’ll be out there with them Monday morning." I'll run again tomorrow!

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WANDAH3 11/14/2010 11:30AM

    What I love John about what you share in your never give up!
Oh sure, you might falter and stumble...but you never give up!

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GEEMAWEST 11/13/2010 8:56PM

    I think that any run is a good run. Just look at how far you've come in a year's time.

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CATHERINEL66 11/13/2010 2:59PM

    Hey John, I'm so glad that you found my "fly the airplane through the storm" blog to be useful to you!

I'm suffering from severe running envy (not to mention SHOE envy) right now. Funny, when you can't run at all, even a bad run sounds great :)

Now we've both done 5 milers! I can't wait to see what's next!!

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PRINCESSNURSE 11/13/2010 1:45PM

    See...I was right....You ARE a runner! You have discovered the secret--it is all about perserverence and mental toughness. You inspire me :-) WTG on your 5 miles!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/13/2010 1:29PM

    No wonder you are running, John. Those fancy shoes almost require it. LOL. You are doing great. Congrats!!

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JUDIL62 11/13/2010 12:31PM

    Very inspiring. You give me hope that one day I'll be able to be a runner too!

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GETFIT2LIVE 11/13/2010 12:26PM

    You pushed through and did it, that's what matters; sometimes that's ALL we can do in running and in life, keep pushing through the voice in our head that screams "What do you think you're doing here?" The only really bad run is the one we don't do; keep running, John, and keep flying your plane through the storms.

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DEE797 11/13/2010 11:59AM

    Even though your body tried to talk yourself out of finishing YOU DID IT! We all have days where we don't want to exercise for whatever reason, but you pushed through and accomplished what you set out to do. That is emoticon

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MISTYRIVER64 11/13/2010 10:33AM

    What a great accomplishment - and those sore muscles are just little reminders that you worked your whole body (actually they're like little congratulatory slaps on the back) YOU DID IT! YOU MADE IT! YOU DID GREAT!

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DDHEART 11/13/2010 10:18AM

    Well John you have just passed another milestone....the one where you have a bad run....It HAPPENS...yeah it's like life, we do have bad life, it doesn't end goes on and there will be more good days, some not great and some that are superb in every way! My last training run was superb and then yesterday and today, I am finding it hard to motivate myself to go out...go figure...well maybe it's the body saying it needs a little more time to get used to what we're asking of it. You have come a very long way...deserve a good pat on the back (not so hard to jolt the sore muscles!!!) Enjoy your runs when you can and when you can't remember that the next run can be better!

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MARCYNA 11/13/2010 10:01AM

    Great!!!Just love it, must try the attitude emoticon
PS After all the sore stuff, you wll feel like a new-

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HDHAWK 11/13/2010 9:53AM

    John, we all have workouts like your run yesterday, but we have many more where we DO enjoy them, we ARE inspired, and feel like we're in the zone. Chalk it up to one of those days and give yourself a big cheer emoticon for finishing in spite of it! emoticon I'm proud of you!

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