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God Knows We're Trying (He Told Me)

Friday, October 08, 2010

I am a very light sleeper. The smallest noise, inside or out usually wakes me up and when I am up I donít fall back to sleep right away. Mostly I just lie there. Iím not complaining. Iíve gotten used to this. My neighbor leaves for work around three thirty and his car wakes me up.

Iím lying there this morning and I start thinking about things I want to do in my life which inevitably leads me to think about everything Iíve messed up in my life. Itís sort of like you canít have one without the other. I beat myself up for a few minutes and now Iím even more wide awake. This leads me to asking God why it is that I cannot seem to get a streak of more than one thing going as it relates to getting it right. Ya know, like, why is it so hard for me to be ďperfect,Ē LOL.

Godís response to my heart:

ďI know everything youíve ever done and as a matter of fact I know everything you are ever going to do and when all is said and done it doesnít change the way I feel about you. It just changes the way YOU feel about you.Ē

I hate it when Heís right.

ďI havenít always eaten right or exercised ax much as I should. Gee, itís not picture perfect. Maybe I should just give up. Iím just me, Iím not likeÖÖ..Ē

ďI was meant to be fat. Iím not one of those people who can just go out and create some sort of plan. I have issues.Ē
ďMy lifeís too busy, too complicated and I have a lot of drama. Too much stress. Itís not a good time for me.Ē

I know none of you use those excuses.

God asked me to tell you that it doesnít matter how many times you fail or give up or get plain old frustrated. He wants us to know that as long as we keep coming back and keep trying that He is right there.

Then I fell back to sleep
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Usually I would add my own thoughts here, but, uhm, considering this message was pretty strong and Who it came from, Iím going to leave it at that. He doesn't need my help. LOL

Have a blessed Friday and oh yeah, I love you too!!!

  
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JPRICE217 10/11/2010 7:52AM

    Thank you John for the message from God. It is sad that we forget that God loves usno matter what we look like or do. If we could only love our self. emoticon

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EDWINA172 10/9/2010 8:47PM

    Love this.

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MARCYNA 10/9/2010 8:41AM

    Are you sure? I must have used these among all other possible excuses BUT it's meeting people like you thank makes me want to stay on track. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ANEPANALIPTI 10/9/2010 6:46AM

    Again, sort of creepy. Had a bit of a rough day yesterday and this was so in tune with what was going on, that it was perfect, thank you!!! :-)

Dimitra

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ACIMPEGGY 10/8/2010 10:29PM

    Great reminders! God has also said to me that my Spirit is more important than anything...the love I AM, the love I give...the help...sigh. Isn't it beautiful?

Just like SP and YOU! emoticon

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SAL2525 10/8/2010 5:20PM

    Thanks for that heaven sent message! It was wonderful!

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REJ7777 10/8/2010 4:06PM

    I had to laugh out loud when I read: "I hate it when Heís right." You must often be frustrated!
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I also agree with your statement: "It just changes the way YOU feel about you.Ē I believe that time, from the first moment of creation to the last moment of the cosmos, are as visible to the Lord as the present moment. In the same way that we see the two ends of a ruler, because we are outside of it, God can see the beginning and the end of time because He created time, and He's not limited by it. All that to say that nothing we do surprises Him! It sure does surprise US though! emoticon

The older I get and the longer I know the Lord, the more I rest in His love. Jeremiah 31:3 says: "Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love; therefore with loving-kindness have I drawn thee." He LOVES us with an everlasting love!

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DEBRITA01 10/8/2010 3:30PM

    emoticonGod knows everything about us and loves us anyway. Why is it often so hard to love ourselves? I like the saying "God doesn't make mistakes"...it gives me encouragement to be kinder and gentler with myself.

Wishing you a blessed weekend...and some sleep! emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/8/2010 3:08PM

    It's the weekend. I hope you get to sleep in.

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KATRIONAH 10/8/2010 2:39PM

    Thank you John, for sharing the message... Have a joy-filled day, Karen emoticon

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STORMTMB 10/8/2010 1:47PM

    From the book God Doesn't Blink, this is roughly paraphrased... God loves us because of who HE is, not because of who we are. We can't earn it. We'll never be good enough. HE just loves us and accepts us anyway.

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KRITKRIT 10/8/2010 1:44PM

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INGMARIE 10/8/2010 1:06PM

    Thanks, I needed that and so true .
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2BEATIT1 10/8/2010 12:06PM

    Another wonderful blog John.
I am reminded of Psalms 139 which shows how much God loves you and me and He knew us before we were born.

I am glad God speaks to you also like He speaks to me.

God bless you.
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PRAYINGSUZIE 10/8/2010 11:59AM

    Thank you! I really needed to hear this.

Suzie

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MYLIDDLEDALLAS 10/8/2010 11:55AM

    Thanks for the reminder! emoticon

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AUNTIEB82 10/8/2010 11:51AM

    Thank you for sharing this. emoticon

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 10/8/2010 11:04AM

    I love this! I keep reminding myself over and over that He doesn't measure me by my mistakes. Some days it's easier to believe than others. Thanks for posting this!

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REDRUNNERMOM713 10/8/2010 11:02AM

    What a great blog! I was really needing to read this. Hope you have a blessed Friday! Thanks for sharing.

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TXNANA_4 10/8/2010 10:59AM

    Thank you! I needed this message today because I have some of the same feelings! God Bless you and have a WONDERFUL weekend! emoticon

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LOOKY-LOU 10/8/2010 10:29AM

    Great blog...and a new idea for what to do when I can't get back to sleep!

Happy Weekend!

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BAHAMIANJENNI 10/8/2010 10:13AM

    Great start to the day, thanks for this blog. And not that I am admitting to using any of those excuses (you know how stubborn we can sometimes be), I will at least admit that I needed this, and that I embrace it as a direct Word from Father God to me ..... thanks again for sharing.

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TRIPLE_EMME 10/8/2010 10:03AM

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Have a beautiful weekend!

I love you, too!

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GETFIT2LIVE 10/8/2010 9:40AM

    Yes, God knows us better than we know ourselves AND knows all the things we're going to mess up in the future--and yet He loves us right here, right now. And as a speaker I have heard says it, God has factored our stupidity (our failures, our mistakes, etc.) into our destiny. He's going to get it done through us in spite of us.

Run well, John.

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GROGGYFROGGY 10/8/2010 9:33AM

    Thanks John. You really made me stop and think.

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BTINTERNET 10/8/2010 9:25AM

    Great way to start the day John, thank you!

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LHIEBEL 10/8/2010 9:25AM

  Thank you--I needed this...

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AZCUPCAKE 10/8/2010 9:19AM

    You made my day with your blog, ONCE AGAIN. Thank you for helping all of us "soldier on" even when the positive results we desire seem so impossible to attain. Hope you have a wonderful, fun-filled weekend! emoticon

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NJMATTICE 10/8/2010 9:08AM

    When I was talking to Him, he said "You know that John guy? Tell him that he's doing a great job and remind him to forgive (=love) himself for his missteps."
Hope that you are in fine form for your busy weekend. Run like the wind, John!
What costume are you sporting at the zoo?
Batman? emoticon
Ninja Turtle? emoticon
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Have a fabulous Friday.
I think you're fabulous because you are working that healthy lifestyle!
Love,
Nancy
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MINENA1 10/8/2010 9:04AM

    Wow this is awesome!! It put a smile on my face which I REALLY needed this morning considering I'm super frustrated at work. BUT this blog right here put me at ease. THANK YOU for sharing.
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Two Words That Can Change Your Day

Thursday, October 07, 2010


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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Esr-Dyl5V
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FAIRVIEWBONNIE 10/10/2010 4:42PM

    Good job, John. I tell this to my husband all the time. And John.................Thank you.

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MYRTROSE 10/10/2010 9:29AM

    I work at a convenience store and it is SO nice to be appreciated.
Most of the time I let it roll off my back if people are nasty.
Occasionally though, I can't bite my tongue and I say "you're welcome" when they haven't thanked me! Especially when I've really overextended myself.
I hope it makes people think, because I firmly believe 90% of the rude customers I get just aren't aware of their own behavior.
Also, please take the time to hand your cashier the money, instead of tossing it across the counter. Or setting change down on the counter where it's hard to pick up, while the whole time the cashier had their hand out for you to drop it in.
Believe me, it makes all the difference in the world when you're treated with respect!
Most people that work retail/foodservice are grossly undercompensated for the work they do. Did you know that my job is rated the most dangerous in the country?
Let alone the damage you do to your body standing on concrete floors for 8+ hours/day. With no health insurance.

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MARCYNA 10/9/2010 8:38AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticonI have no words to thank you enough, thanks for writing your blog today it changed my day emoticon emoticon

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KML410 10/8/2010 9:00AM

    John thanks for the blog. I work with the public every day and jprice217 said it all treat others like you would want to be treated. It's funny sometimes I think if people actually saw how they acted they would be surprised at what they saw.

When I have a cranky customer they become my project, the next time they come in I kill them with kindness and I do it again and again. You would be surprised how after a couple of times they come around and start to act alot nicer. Thanks for saying what a lot of us are thinking! emoticon

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JPRICE217 10/8/2010 7:34AM

    emoticonfor the thought. Just think how much better this world would be if every one would treat others the way they want to be treated.

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CARTOONB 10/7/2010 11:29PM

    You're welcome. emoticon

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IZZYAGGY2009 10/7/2010 11:01PM

    emoticon For your vlog today! The Golden Rule.... If we all followed it we would be a much happier society.

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ACROSONIC 10/7/2010 9:24PM

    Being raised in the South, we're big on thank yous! It's the way we were raised! And the way we raise our children. I've always said thank you to people who help me. That and a smile are so important! Just to acknowledge to someone that you see them.

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DEBRITA01 10/7/2010 6:15PM

    emoticon Two simple words that can make a difference for someone. Taking time each day to recognize others with a smile, hello, or thank you takes so little effort and can have such a positive effect.

emoticon John for the reminder...kindness and compassion are contagious, so let's help spread them!

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STORMTMB 10/7/2010 5:07PM

    Thank you, John! I really liked what you said about dignity and respect. That acknowledgement is so important. I'm thinking of a housekeeper at the hospital that once I started saying "Hi George" to him, he'd get a big smile and stand a little taller. Then again, I do the same thing...

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BRENDABUNNY 10/7/2010 3:01PM

    John that was a wonderful blog...very well put...I believe in please and thank you ALWAYS and some people just have bad days..we never know what there situation is in their life on that day...they may have lost a loved one recently but still have to go to work.
So yes always as you say "try to be polite"...Thank YOU for this wonderful reminder to be a nicer person always emoticon emoticon

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ANEPANALIPTI 10/7/2010 1:48PM

    emoticon Thank you, John. Sincerely. I was hoping this new blog was going to be a video, and it was, and it turned my frown upside down. :-)

Have a great rest of the day

Dimitra

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EXTRACUDDLEY 10/7/2010 11:54AM

    Nice one

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EXTRACUDDLEY 10/7/2010 11:54AM

    Fantastic!!!!! I really really enjoyed your post. I am from the UK and I come across a lot of grumpy people and I smile at them and say good morning or how are you. Looking them in the eye is also so important. I generally get a nice response. I like to chat to strangers on the bus, plane or train.
Thank you so much for sharing and spreading love across the water!! emoticon My no.1 post of the day xx

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2BEATIT1 10/7/2010 10:23AM

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We can't say it enough John. Thanks for the reminder.
Just to give you a smile for the day, I went up to someone in a train because he was doing something that inspired me.
That somebody ended up being my hubby of 43 years.
One never knows where their actions will take them. lol

Thank you again for your reminder of how our words and smile can change another. We never know what the person on the other end is going through.

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MRSAGRIFFIN 10/7/2010 9:52AM

    Thank you for spreading LOVE!

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KAT573 10/7/2010 9:52AM

    It is always great to know that the art of saying Thank you, Please, with a genuine smile is not lost! I am glad I don't let what dearth I DO see, lessen my own realization and actions from following this very basic, integral response to all who offer their 'presence' every day, no matter what. Thank YOU for sharing this and reminding us all of these compassionate acts.
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SATYAGRAHA 10/7/2010 9:47AM

    Wow, this is wonderful. THANK YOU!

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GETFIT2LIVE 10/7/2010 9:44AM

    It's amazing what a smile, a look in the eye, and saying 'thank you' can do for a person's day. I know how much it brightens mine, and I try to make it a point of doing that when I am out and about. Thank you for the reminder, John; it's so easy to forget in the busyness of life to do that!

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DOLLBABE56 10/7/2010 9:35AM

    Very nicely said John.

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CRYSUNSHINE714 10/7/2010 9:22AM

    Thank you for putting this out there... I work for a Pharmacy as a manager and I bet that my employees would be a little more keen at being better at what they do if just once in a while they heard please, thank you, or have a nice day. Don't get me wrong I do understand that the people who come to my store normally are sick but like you said a little really can go a long way... that goes for my employees too. Again just want to say Thank you for speaking the truth!!
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KATRIONAH 10/7/2010 9:15AM

    This is so right on. I sa y much the same thing....and...I listen to their answer...and reply. They are often so suprised that someone listened effects them.....and we both end up smling. I also look at name tags and say the persons name and Have a good day. I know tings like that make me smile, and it works for others. SO, Johm, Have a nice day. Karen emoticon

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Who Inspires You?

Wednesday, October 06, 2010

Who inspires you? Have you ever taken the time to tell them what their effort, hard work and inspiration means to you? I know I am really guilty of riding someone elseís coat tails and never letting them know what a huge difference they have made in my life. I guess in some respects its human nature. We plod along, supporting one another and we get so caught up in getting from point A to point B that we forget about everyone standing along the side of the road cheering ďGo, John!!!Ē

While I was suffering from the evil and nasty intestinal disruption last week and rendered inert for a few days I had a chance to catch up on some blogs. My schedule being what it is, I feel bad that I donít have time to read and respond to everything Iíd like to. The flu gave me a chance to catch up and to let some people know how much their good example played into my success. A lot of those people wrote back and told me how much it meant to them to know someone; anyone out here was inspired by their hard work. They told me it made it worth it and made them bear down a bit harder.

It is hard work, you know? No matter how much we try to gussy it up and make it a kumbaya moment it is plain old hard work. Itís those days we crawl out of bed and go to the gym even though we want a latte, the morning paper and Matt Lauer. Itís eating the salad instead of the Big Mac. No one sees those small insignificant moments but you and I. No one is standing there yellingĒ way to goĒ and if you have been at this long enough you know that those dull, gray, get up out of bed days and fight the good fight days, can be a royal pain. But then, like at the end of a bad storm, there is this amazing rainbow. Someone, completely and totally unexpectedly sends you a kind word or lets you know they are so motivated by your success and maybe ya smile or maybe you get a slight catch in your throat, but when ya walk away from the screen you walk a bit lighter and the load isnít as heavy. Amazing isnít it?

I bring this up in part because of all the many Spark friends I have who are AFK for good. I know, I know, itís your responsibility and no one can walk the walk for you but you. I wonder sometimes how maybe if Iíd taken a few minutes out of my day to say ďHey dude or dudette, hang in there. Iím with ya,Ē that it might have made a difference.

Health is a balance. Itís not just about looking good and feeling good, it is about who you are. I have a guy who lives in my neighborhood who could be a poster child for athleticism. He is about forty five and he turns head when he runs or cycles by. He is also a grade A, number one jerk!! He will not speak to other people and if he does his words are usually dripping with some sort of negative vibration. I asked him once where he got his running shoes and he told me ďto figure it out myself like everyone else does.Ē Thatís not being healthy thatís just being in good physical shape!!

Real and lasting health comes from being balanced. Who inspires you? What Spark friend, who would turn a gazillion (A gazillion is a whole lot, LOL) shades of red if they knew they were your hero, helps you make it through your day. Take ninety seconds and shoot them a Spark Mail and let them know. You would be surprised at how many people were on the verge of walking away from this commitment when out of the clear blue someone told them how much they mattered. Itís one of the reasons I carry the names of Spark friends in my pocket when I run. It makes the load a bit lighter.

Simply put you and I cannot become an inspiration to anyone else until we are inspired by someone else. I know I am and I get more and more inspired each and every day by you.

  
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STORMTMB 10/7/2010 4:27PM

    I have found a couple of people here who have done almost exactly what I'm trying to do. They inspire me and I follow their blogs as well as yours.

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SANDYK4BAMA 10/7/2010 11:22AM

    Tell that JERK to get out of your neighborhood - he doesn't DESERVE to share the same sidewalks with you! And you can also tell him you are a hero to a bunch of people, and we won't HAVE it! ;) You can tell himn I said it if ya want to! :) -cause you are definitely one of my HEROS!

I've had the bug also, been on the couch for about 3 days - soooo glad that's over! Today is my first whole day of "real" solid food, so hopefully I won't have a relapse! I got some Cultrelle at the drug store and it seemed to really help my uhhemmm--gastro tract.

Thank you so much for your blogs! They mean to much to so many of us! We are so glad to have you to teach us how to fight the good fight and run the good race, and heck - even just to get ouf of bed some mornings, because we know, you're facing it all head-on, so we better to, else we might turn into one of those "other jerks..."

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WALKNLOVE 10/7/2010 7:15AM

    YOU, my dear spark friend, inspire me! So glad you are feeling better. I didn't know you were sick. Thanks for never giving up. And even though I am stuck at a stand still, I am not giving up. I keep going to the gym, am finishing physical therapy so I should hopefully soon be back up to speed, and I continue to try to watch what I eat. I will break thru this plateau and soon I will let you in on my breakthru. Take care Buddy! God Bless!

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DEBRITA01 10/6/2010 9:35PM

    Wow! I came upon your blog when I saw the title on my friend feed...seemed like a good one. So glad I read this because it spoke to me on so many different levels.

We are all in this together and the load is lightened by the support of caring friends. Sometimes we don't always tell those people how much they've touched and enriched our lives...good reminder. Sometimes we can lift ourselves higher by lifting up someone else...an unexpected bonus!

And, I loved the "not healthy, just in good physical shape" observation...so true. You have to pity people like that. They don't realize how ignorant and shallow they are.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts...If you don't mind, I'm adding you as a friend so I can keep up with your blogs.

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REJ7777 10/6/2010 8:32PM

    Great blog! And, in passing, you are an inspiration to me. I find that you're honest and down-to-earth in your blogs. It IS hard work! And I find you credible because of your amazing accomplishments. You show that it's doable. Thank you!
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REJ7777 10/6/2010 8:32PM

    Have no idea why it posted 3 times. Hate when it does that! Sorry. emoticon

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JENNY888 10/6/2010 2:42PM

    Your blogs are always an inspiration to me John. Keep up the great work. Spark without you would not be as nice a place.

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MYRNACARRIER 10/6/2010 2:07PM

    I read your blog everyday because I have subscribed to it.
It is the only blog I have subscribed to.
I very much enjoy the days that are up for you and feel the pain when you are down.
It is like all of our journeys.
As you have said many times you are the like the people you hang with.
Even though I don't respond that often I feel like I am hanging wth you and when I feel like nothing is happening and its just not working the way I would like I just have to read your blog to know that things happen when you are persistent.
Thank you, and keep on blogging I am sure that there are lots of people out there you are helping that you don't even realize. emoticon
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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/6/2010 1:45PM

    People like you inspire me. That's why I read a hundred or more blogs every day. To get inspiration and offer support.

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HDHAWK 10/6/2010 12:26PM

    There are several spark friends who make my journey easier and inspire me. The site as a whole is something I'd ever hate to lose. You, John, are one of those who inspires me. Thank you for that!

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TXNANA_4 10/6/2010 8:44AM

    Thanks for another good blog John. Your words inspire me and that is what I need! Have a wonderful day and God Bless! emoticon

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ANEPANALIPTI 10/6/2010 8:32AM

    You put it so well, there are a lot of those dark stormy days where you're not sure if there's anyone out there who understands because surely NO ONE in your TOWN seems to be doing what you're doing!!!! that's why sparkfriends are GOLD!

thanks for being mine and yeah you VERY MUCH inspire me i'll say it again. emoticon

hugs,

Dimitra :-)
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KATRIONAH 10/6/2010 8:23AM

    John another good one. My journey is made a little easier by the support of my spark friends. It is comforting to know that others are traveling similar paths and that we can work together to make the journey more Joy-filled. Have a wonderful Wednesday, Karen emoticon

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JAE_HENNINGTON 10/6/2010 8:21AM

  I think I am inspired by others especially those who have to rise above great odds to do what they do even when it would be just as easy to give up

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 10/6/2010 8:14AM

    I love your blogs. You are one of the spakers that inspire me. Your kindness means a lot in a world that is full of mean people. Keep up the good work!

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ELSKAS 10/6/2010 8:03AM

    Although I think it's important to be inspired by others, I believe i have to be inspired by myself to reach higher. Great post!

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"Do I Need A Mentor?" It Just Might Help

Monday, October 04, 2010

Also available on youtube at:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MQg5n9qXU
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JPRICE217 10/8/2010 7:42AM

    John thank you for the great blog. You are right we all do need a mentor and we need to be a mentor.

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IZZYAGGY2009 10/5/2010 10:08PM

    Really some great wisdom, in that advice. Thank you for sharing! emoticon

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REJ7777 10/4/2010 11:30PM

    It's always saddened me when people become inactive on SP, especially when they had become SP motivators. It makes you wonder where they are now.

I have a good mentor. She encourages me when I need support, but she's not afraid to give me a swift kick in the rear end when I need one! I wouldn't be where I am without her support! emoticon

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SPARKENISTA 10/4/2010 6:18PM

    John-- emoticon for your comment on my blog. I'm sure you know that it's always easier to take care of someone else than it is to take care of yourself. As a professional counselor, you know that your objectivity is the most important tool in your arsenal.

Having said that, I must say that I had never thought of my parenting in exactly the way you did. Of course, I had to problem-solve to make sure that all the pieces of my son's life were in place. However, I never thought of it as problem-solving. I thought of them as life. I thought of them as not negotiable.

I have to say that you are more of an expert at parenting than I--you have eight times more practice. So you would know.

Isn't it funny (not the ha-ha kind) that I never thought that way about the pieces of my life. In that regard, I am sure I am Everywoman/man. But that doesn't mean it's okay. Part of this exercise called life is becoming increasingly self-aware which also makes you more other-aware.

I think it's also very interesting that in this blog, while you throw out a valuable thought/tool you are also self-protective in asking people not to ask you to be a mentor by telling them that you are a professional who gets paid for that and that you are already doing it gratis for some people on the site.

In any case, I am up and running for the 90- (now 89-day) Push. I am glad to be back in your sphere of influence. We'll keep each other in our radar and see how to project that forward to a successful goal--to be followed by another goal?

Best,

Merry/Spr
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ANEPANALIPTI 10/4/2010 2:31PM

    I've looked through mine and thought the SAME thing about how a lot of them are gone.

SO agreed on the "she'll let me eat the cookie" and having friends who would be like: "uh, don't really see why that would be an issue/problem/hard for you"

and I JUST realized it, it took me a few moments but YUP you remind me of tom hanks a bit. :-)

Dimitra

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STORMTMB 10/4/2010 2:22PM

    While I don't have a mentor here, I have one in life and he's the absolute best. We've had this relationship for 23 years, so I totally agree with what you're saying. It's so nice to have someone for advice who has already been through it all. And, darn it, he's always right - especially when it's not what I want to hear.

I just made a spreadsheet to keep track of my next 89 days!!! I'm gonna push to the end of the year. Looking forward to it.

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ISHIIGIRL 10/4/2010 2:20PM

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Its very true you get better results if you are supported and a mentor is a great support system. It should be a secret of success!

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KATRIONAH 10/4/2010 2:16PM

    John, This is a great idea! A person who can have your back..... is in the program so know the ups and downs....and someone who can objectively listen and help. I know there are days I could really use one. Thank you for the idea.....and I hope you have a joy-filled day....Share your smile, Karen emoticon

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90 Day Push

Sunday, October 03, 2010

How much of an investment are you ready to make in you?

Thatís the question I asked myself when LAWRALOO invited me to participate in the 90 Day Push Team. Time flies quickly when you are having fun and her invitation forced me to realize that 2010 with all its victories and all its minor setbacks would soon be over.

Where would I be when we dropped all the balloons and streamers on December 31? How many goals would I have reached and what would I look like? I get caught up in the day-to-day like everyone else. Making sure I log my food, do my cardio and show up for my personal training sessions sometimes seems like it thatís about all I can handle until I stop, take a deep breath and realize that I canít see the forest because of all the trees!!

How do I want the year to end for me? Whatís the main thing I want to accomplish between now and December 31 and am I ready to forgo all my excuses about the holidays and open houses and all the stuff that comes creeping up during November and December?

When I ran my first 5K last Saturday (See my blog ďWhat I Learned Going Up The HillĒ) I reached a make or break point. The last half mile of that race was straight up hill. Gut check time for John. Do I finish the race and live with this incredible sense of accomplishment or do I stop and walk the rest of the way because, well because itís just too darn hard to make it? Iíll spoil the ending for you. I made it up the hill and when I did I walked away knowing, not just believing, but knowing I could do anything I set my mind to.

That final hill was so steep that no one was on either side of it. If I had stopped to catch my breath or walk no one would have known. No one but me. On December 31, after you climbed that hill, after you decided on the one major thing you want to accomplish in the next ninety days the person cheering the loudest will be yourself.

This stuff is hard to do alone. Those of you who have been Sparking for any length of time know that, especially around the holidays. Temptation abounds!!! Yikes, here come all those Christmas cookies!! Thus the 90 Day Push. You are not alone. You will be supported by positive people who not only want to see themselves be successful but want you to reach your goals as well.

In the end itís up to you. It will be difficult at times. You will be tempted.

Are you worth it?

Do you deserve to be successful?

Who do you hang with?

When I answer those questions correctly and create a clear vision of where I want to go and what I want to do, I am encouraged by my final outcome. All the activity and effort will give me a goal.

So whatís your goal for the next ninety days and what are you willing to invest to reach it? For my part I want to turn to my left and right and know I am part of a group of positive, motivated people who will challenge and push me right along with them.

Hereís the team link:
http://www.sparkpeople.com
/myspark/groups_individual.asp?gid=46073

Maybe youíll choose not to join us and if you donít we will miss you but thatís cool. Think about the rest of the year though and how you plan to make it the best ever.........FOR YOU

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

TRIPLE_EMME 10/7/2010 12:10PM

    Hi John!

This is a great blog!

Even though a few days have passed and it is now 85 days left for 2010, I'd like to join the 90 day push. My goal for the remainder of the year is to be active and get my fitness minutes.


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AKATUJE 10/6/2010 4:59PM

    Great blog as always!!!!

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TIME4AFITME 10/4/2010 9:41PM

    great blog! I need to think on that one.

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PSSN4FITNESS 10/4/2010 2:40PM

    What a great story and exactly what I needed to hear! I am facing my own hill at the end of the race right now. I am on to my last 10lbs and it is so tempting to just give up so close the to finish line. I am glad that you pushed through your 5K. The 90Day Push is a great idea! Press on and Press HARD!

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DEE797 10/4/2010 2:20PM

    Thanks for the reminder about planning ahead and where do I want to be by year's end. Think I will join up and find out.

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 10/4/2010 12:28PM

    I joined but am not sure what goals I want to set. Have to think about that.

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WISEONE68 10/4/2010 9:49AM

    I joined and I am very excited to begin to ponder the goals and what I want to look like and think of on December 31, 2010!!!

As I say "good-bye" to this year...one of the goals is to say "good-bye" FOREVER to the pounds lost over the next two months as I attempt to reach weigh goal before November 30th!!!

thanks for your inspiration!!

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LEANJEAN6 10/4/2010 7:42AM

    Wow---- It sounds good to me----- I will join in--

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DOLLBABE56 10/4/2010 7:08AM

    This is a wonderful idea and something I know is going to help me in so many ways.

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ANEPANALIPTI 10/4/2010 6:12AM

    As I read your blog I'm listening to Rudolph The Red Nosed Reindeer. emoticon Why did youtube recommend that after listening to Dean Martin I have no idea!!! Maybe it knows that I'm going to be in Chicago with my family for Christmas? THANKS JOHN! I'm IN! Even with the festivities and being away from routine and home, I'm IN! I'm not scared anymore! emoticon

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JAKEANDNELLIE 10/4/2010 3:44AM

    I joined the team!
I felt much like you did - a deep sense of personal accomplishment - when I hiked a difficult trail earlier this week. It involved lots of climbing over boulders and through narrow places - I wasn't sure I could do it but I surprised myself!
Now, I'm going to find more ways to challenge myself. Who knows what will happen or where I'll be in the next 90 days - the adventure is just beginning!
Sheila

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MKPRINCESS007 10/3/2010 11:34PM

    I have been full of excuses.....none of them are good.
So, yeah, I am in! Thanks, my friend ! :)
I will kick you if you will kick me, ok? Ooops, I meant cheer me on! :)



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LAWRALOO 10/3/2010 11:33PM

    You should post this under a sticky in the forums! :)))

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LAWRALOO 10/3/2010 11:21PM

    Exactly my thoughts!
I don't want to get to January 2011 and THEN make a goal to lose the rest of my weight. Why not start now? And...there's no better way to do it than with positive motivating people all around me!

Game on :)

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STORMTMB 10/3/2010 10:35PM

    Thanks, John. I just joined - ready to make these last 3 months the best yet.

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MEREDIE02 10/3/2010 9:57PM

    I've joined up! I realized that I can meet my goal weight in that time. Knowing that it is in reach feels amazing. Here's to the next 90 days!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/3/2010 9:48PM

    I gained 10 pounds over the holidays last year and it is not going to happen this year. I am planning ahead.

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