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Thursday, September 02, 2010

For those of you who remember dial up internet days this story will have more meaning. Joan and I had a friend years ago whose husband traveled for a living. He would leave the house on Monday morning and return on Friday evening. Gloria met him at the airport every Friday night. It was, you might say, a ritual. One Friday Jim returned early and called home ---- busy signal. He waited a few minutes and tried again --- same result. It seemed that as Jim traveled Gloria got to spending much of her time on the internet, so much, so that she forgot to get Jim at the airport. Jim took a cab home. (I am not sure if they are still together or not, LOL.)

I bring this up because I read a blog yesterday about Sparking and relationships. The person who wrote it wondered if any other Sparkers partner, in this case, a spouse, was jealous, envious, or angry (You pick one.) of the amount of time they spent on Spark. They went on to say their spouse got upset by the amount of time they devoted to Sparking. I thought it was a great question. Here is my opinion.

Before I joined Spark I asked Joan to look at the web site and give me her opinion. I trust her opinion and even though this experience is free, it is an investment of time. In the ten months that I have been here Joan knows everything that “is going on” in my spark world. I refer too many of you by first name when we are talking and I share with her when one of you does something amazing or when you may need thoughts and prayers. Periodically she asks me how some of you are doing. In a nutshell I include her in what I am doing.
The second thing Joan has seen is results. She is as happy as I am that I have shed seventy four pounds in ten months, exercise six days a week, am running on a regular basis and eat healthy. The quality of our life has improved and I am more active which means I don’t simply sit on the couch and process carbs.

I think, at times, we have to ask ourselves why we Spark.

Is it to become healthier and happier or is it solely a social network? If Joan saw no change in me, if I had remained at three hundred plus pounds and sat at my computer Sparking a few hours per day for close to ten months her attitude might be a bit different. Don’t misunderstand me, without the social networking factor I don’t think I would have sustained the progress I made. I NEED to let you know my triumphs and my failures, but it’s not the sole reason I am here. I am here to get healthy and stay healthy.

I am very fortunate, Joan has encouraged me every step of the way. She has a Spark account but it is mostly to read my blogs and view my vlogs. Her insight into what I write and tape is very valuable to me. Her involvement has a lot to do with my success. I made the choice to include her and to communicate all things Spark with her. There are days she is more interested than others but she always listens and asks about many of you and your progress. She has not only seen the results in my physical form but we do more than we did a year ago because I want to do more.

I don’t always share, LOL. I get scared when I accomplish something because that fat person is still lurking in the back ground. I don’t always share with Joan because some nights I wake up and see fat old John standing at the foot of the bed. That will get better in time, just like I am.

  
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EDWINA172 9/5/2010 1:32PM

    I did note that some fellow Sparkfriends comment about their spouses saying they're on Spark too much. My husband receives Spark emails, but that is about it for him. He likes the daily exercise suggestions. I talk to him about my Sparkfriends also. He loves the fact that the teams/threads and Sparkfriends are so responsive and supportive to any questions I put out there. I also mention you by name. He knows who you are because I say, "You know, my friend John, from Sparkpeople....."
We are blessed to have understanding spouses. I believe that it helps that we include and inform them of what we are learning from each other.

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JPRICE217 9/3/2010 6:49PM

    my husband is very supportive of my weight lose and sparking I am blessed. can not emangen how it would be if he was upset about sparking

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KAT573 9/3/2010 10:09AM

    GREAT blog, John; I know I have to be vigilant in balancing my time on here and how I engage in the community and use the tools. And accept that is a basic truth of Life, regardless, in any venue, since Life IS a balancing act and never ends unless we stop growing.

I have also come to realize that while many of us start out using this as a 'weight-loss' site, most of us come to realize it is a Lifestyle change site, and so you and your spouse are spot-on in knowing what would be involved to engage as fully as you are ready to when you are ready to. I know not everyone is coming from the same place, and not everyone is traveling along the same paths. I remind myself to always share what I am or have been learning; share that freely,because I will never fully know where anyone else is coming from, or going to,and we all need support and love that will increase our chance of coming to realize what we are ready to, and for sure, every action affects those around us no matter what, providing an ongoing source for reflective evaluation in our own journey,

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NJMATTICE 9/3/2010 9:28AM

    I find that Sparking in itself has been a great tool to help with self discipline and balance in my life. It gives me the opportunity to see my tendencies for distraction from my goals by focusing on others and forgetting to do my work. My flesh and blood relationships are most important. The Spark relationships that I have made are friends that understand that. When I first started, I was needy and tried to be friends with everyone (people pleaser). Now I use Sparking tools to help me create my healthy lifestyle. Hanging out on the computer getting some warm fuzzies all day long is not part of my healthy lifestyle dream. But utilizing the tools, getting inspiration from the common struggles in a disciplined and balanced way is part of my healthy vision. THANKS JOHN! I am glad that I had time to stop by today. You deliver the good stuff. Now it's off to create some healthy balance in my life!
Love,
Nancy

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KLEONIKI 9/3/2010 6:37AM

    Wow!
I have just finished quarreling with one of my close friends about it!
During my stay in Athens and looking after my ill mother, i had not the time to be very socially active and pick up the phone to speak in person or meet her even though she lives very near my house.
But SP was my almost only source of support and help(with no limitations of early morning hours or stuff..).
She got mad and jealous of all those "unknown virtual friends" as she called them...who were stealing our REAL friendship!!!
Explaining to her i realized that my SPing is more than a social network is a DOOR i keep open ;
A hope that variety and complexity of life will come and knock on my door ,
a reassuring feeling of belonging to a community full of differences and diversities and yet able for communication
a source of impersonal tools to make your life easier in becoming healthier...
i send her the link of a blog of mine to call her "enter" but her reaction was completely negative.Was a reaction that tasted of property and belonging....
I will keep on explaining though..

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KATRIONAH 9/3/2010 12:37AM

    As usual, love your blog. It was quite thought provoking. I am lucky cause my husband supports me in my spark adventure. He sees my need to become healthier and wants me to succeed.

As with any "thing"......it all needs to be kept in perspective. It shouldn't control our lives. Meaning, we need a balance between our online and offline living.

I do love reading blogs....sparking away . I find my sparks time really helps keep me motivated on my adventure. I really treasure my spark friends and feel blessed with all the support I find from them.

My off line time has changed since joining sparks. I am actually venturing out and moving around more. Getting out for fresh air and activities.

Like I said...for me its all in balance. Sometimes we have to work to get the balance right though. LOL

Have A wonderful weekend. Karen emoticon

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CATNAP45 9/2/2010 7:25PM

  I sometimes think too that even if you lose weight, that in itself can be threatening to a spouse. You're changing the rules. Insisting on time to exercise and spark. No longer sharing in late night snacks. Sometimes undergoing huge changes in appearance. All of that can be unsettling to another person.

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BTINTERNET 9/2/2010 2:20PM

    I saw the post that prompted this, and it (among other things) has had me thinking a lot lately. We're a two-WoW household, so we're very accustomed to socializing online (together and separately), but it also contributes to a very sedentary lifestyle. I wonder about the (inherent?) conflict between a desire to spend time online socializing, gaining support, reading articles, etc. in pursuit of a healthy lifestyle versus time spent actually going and doing it. Food for thought.

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CINDYC53 9/2/2010 1:23PM

    Yes - I sometimes think I may socialize a bit too much here, but it's been a really positive force in my life. I also fill my dh in on my spark friends' news! Thanks for your blog - good food for thought!


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ZURDTA- 9/2/2010 12:35PM

    My b/f has his own PC rituals and is just pleased that I am doing something to get healthy - even though that means sitting at the PC at times!!!

He used to do World of Warcraft ... but he got better and now just does Mafia Wars... anyone who knows about WoW will understand how much time that meant he was ONLINE!!!

Now we both potter doing our own thing for a bit... then get together and do the exercise and going out and stuff...

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GETFIT2LIVE 9/2/2010 11:57AM

    My hubby is a lot like Joan--he is very supportive and understands what SP has done for me. He's on SP mostly to track his own food, and he listens when I read him blogs that touch me (yours is one that often gets read aloud) or ones that I have written. It's a balancing act, to be sure; I don't want SP to take away from my relationship with him or anyone else important in my life, but I need the tools that are here and the community support that I find. Oh, and that happens for me too--some nights I see fat old Denise standing at the foot of the bed, but it's less and less often.

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MIBELLALUNA 9/2/2010 10:54AM

    Oh, this is a sticky subject in some ways. I used to journal and found out my DH had read some of them. Privacy has been a hot topic for me since childhood. I think every adult deserves a place to express themselves that doesn't necessarily include their spouse. My dh doesn't know exactly where I post things or what Vlogs I am making, but he knows it is a diet and exercise support community. I hear him mute the TV now and then when I am making a vlog and ask me later, were you talking on the phone about a dog? I think he is more concerned that we made end up with another foster animal.

AFter 30 years of marriage I guess we finally have gotten to the total trust stage and acknowledge we each need private time/space away from each other other people to talk to about some things and trust that it isn't a bad thing.
(PLUS..it give him time to watch inane shows like "American Pickers or Man vS Food" without feeling guilty! hah)

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GEEMAWEST 9/2/2010 10:35AM

    I also include my DH on what's going on. I feel like he knows some of my Sparkfriends fairly well because I talk about them all the time (especially a little Dutch girl I've gotten to know quite well).

I agree, if I was just sitting in front of the computer socializing DH might be concerned. There has to be that element of trust in a relationship for any of these types of sights. I have friends whose spouses have gotten jealous of time spent and friends made on Spark and it was not pretty.

However, the encouragement I get from friends like you is priceless and I wouldn't want to do without it.

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MARCYNA 9/2/2010 10:21AM

    Lovely, the way you handle all this with Joan. B/F an I often quarrel as I spend so much of my time on SP..but I need so much this tool and I guess I would have otherwise been sitting on the coach eating whatever available in the fridge so I guess this is a much better option - congrats to Joan she's a wise woman...I feel so silly but that's the way I am not so wise but improvements are on the way emoticon emoticon

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STORMTMB 9/2/2010 10:17AM

    What's so cool is that you and Joan are truly partners in your lives. You care about her opinion and ask for her input. As we know, Joan is a wise woman, but you are quite the dude for having so much love and respect for your wife. What a totally awesome marriage you have. It's beautiful to see!

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MSSUNBUG 9/2/2010 10:10AM

    I agree. This website is a great social networking tool--but only (to me) TRULY great if you're using it simultaneously as a support system for reaching your weight loss and fitness goals. I have a similarly wonderfully supportive husband who understands the time I spend here. Being in community with those who understand your struggle firsthand and who are working towards the same goals REALLY bolsters your success, keeps you on a daily basis in touch with your goals and lifestyle, and gives you the kind of support that even the most supportive and darling spouse can't always provide (if their struggle with food isn't the same). Plus, to me, I recognize that I won't get to keep this healthier life unless I give something of myself and my experience away every day. What a gift for ME to be able to do that!

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SARAWALKS 9/2/2010 10:06AM

    You are so wise, John! This is not a problem for me since I'm single, but the opposite temptation exists, to simply go into the virtual world and neglect friends and tasks needing done (I have this option since I set my own work schedule). Sharing is wonderful and it's marvelous that Joan understands and supports. Our health ultimately benefits everyone around us so it's a kind of ripple effect... emoticon

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ISHIIGIRL 9/2/2010 9:47AM

    I have to agree with you on all of this. My spouse is like your Joan. He has an account, I keep him up to date on what is going on, I tell him about my blogs and he lives vicariously through me. I wish he was more active, One of the reasons I added you as a friend is because I have read a few of your blogs to him and it has helped him tremendously in his own weight loss journey. He is going at a slow pace, but at least he is moving. I think if you are open about what you are doing and communicate to your partner Sparking can be a great benefit to your relationship. Have a great day! Love your blogs! Paige

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MORTICIAADDAMS 9/2/2010 9:39AM

    Loved the anecdote about Jim and Gloria. ROFLMBO!!

Joan and you are a team and she knows it's everyone's best interest that you get fit and she trusts you. My husband trusts me as well but he is not interested in weight loss per se. He is satisfied as long as he is my priority and he is. If he wants my attention he gets it. It's all about balance in our lives.

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CAHUNO2 9/2/2010 9:21AM

    I don't spend as much time as I would like on SP. I put in time every morning but keep trying to get in the habit of doing the same every evening. My husband is very proud of me but we share a computer and sometimes I don't have it! emoticon

Your Joan sounds wonderful!

Carol

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DOLLBABE56 9/2/2010 8:53AM

    I think it is great that Joan is involved. She seems awesome! There are times, I must admit, that Mike wishes I didn't so much time at Spark, and rarely has commented so. He knows how much Spark has helped me and does support my involvement. I come here to keep myself accountable (to me). I do my tracking first, and having a few close friends here is the bonus I cherish.

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WALKNLOVE 9/2/2010 8:28AM

    John, I am not doing as much sparking as I once did.Truthfully, I wish I did more.One of my youth put me on fb, and well, it takes some of my spark time. I wish in some ways, my youth hadn't done that, but 2 good things came of it. One is I found my old youth pastor...what a blessing! Two is, I have ministered to my youth on some life changing issues.Other than that, I really could live without it. Of the two...sparkpeople would have mine and my husband's vote every time.Face it, it's a lot more positive! So, thanks for sharing.I agree we need to keep our spouses's involved....so don't be surprised if my sparking picks up....fb may have to wait!!!!!!

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 9/2/2010 8:22AM

    I like the social side of Spark very much but I come to track my progress and THEN do the social stuff. It helps me stay focused to know exactly how I'm doing on my game plan.

I think the fact that your Joan feels included is the difference. If you were vegging out on spark instead of the couch with TV, what would be the point? The fact that your life is not more interactive with your sweetie is key. At least, that's how I see it!

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The Me I See, Is The Me I Be (The Written Version)

Wednesday, September 01, 2010

What do you see when you look in the mirror. I know what I am SUPPOSED to answer. I am SUPPOSED to answer that I see a wonderful, beautiful, child of God. But what do I REALLY see? Mostly I see the flaws, the bumps, the bruises, the hair loss, the wrinkles, the blemishes….. The list goes on and on. I guess it is why I am so very surprised when I notice something very good about me in the mirror.

While working with Jen on Monday, doing this balancing exercise that involved me lunging on a step board with a twelve pound bar on my back, I noticed my legs in the mirror. They really looked good. I mean way good. I mean OMG……… are those MY legs. You have done the same thing, no? You drop a jean size, a short size or a dress size and you are amazed. That’s YOUR body there!!! Instead of my awareness level being at a sort-of “Well with all the work you are doing, it stands to reason you would look good,” I let my jaw drop. I was amazed at my own worth and value. You may argue that I was “happy with….,” “impressed by……’” No I was amazed

My friend Girlanimal posted a blog a few days back addressing balance in her life and the need to rest at times. She set my pondering process into motion and I discovered that along with resting I needed to become aware of the real beauty of myself during that period of time. Yes, there is a beautiful John under this shrinking obesity, but there is a beautiful John within it as well. I don’t need to wait for the externals. Yup they are nice and I will take them any old day of the week but there is a beautiful John right here and right now
I know this never happens to you does it?

I can’t see your real beauty until I acknowledge my own. We are very comfortable with folks telling us we are smart, witty and charming but we get a bit anxious and feel queasy sometimes when they complement our physical attributes. We constantly compare ourselves to others and come up short.

Everyone here is old enough to recall the story of the Three Little Pigs and the Big Bad Wolf. Two pigs built houses from Straw and wood and when the wolf came calling they crumbled. The third pig built his house from stone and it with stood the storm. We put a lot of emphasis on diet and exercise, as we should, but if we are to find real balance in our lives shouldn’t we look at our own self-image?

I am coming to realize that I have failed to remain healthy in the past because I have not allowed my internal perception of me evolve along with all the external changes. I am wonderful, beautiful and I will work hard to realize that every day.

Care to join me?

  
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TIME4AFITME 9/2/2010 9:30PM

    Love that blog thx

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BSAGE47 9/2/2010 12:26PM

    John, you are so eloquent in your words and style and you end up hitting it right on the head. You are awesome. emoticon emoticon

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MIBELLALUNA 9/2/2010 11:02AM

    That is basically the message in "Women, Food and God..." That until we deal with the INNER and accept and love ourselves, all the dieting and exercise in the world isn't going to 'stick' with us and is the reason we yo-yo. I think we have to come to some realization that we are beautiful and worthy RIGHT NOW and the weight loss choices come from simply loving ourselves adn treating ourselves as we should, not to 'make ourselves' into something else. Or maybe that was some other book..haha

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MARCYNA 9/2/2010 10:34AM

    Hey, that's great.
I looked at myself at the dance studio mirror in London and saw someone who was NOT the fattest or the ugliest but whose body was astonishingly professional - made for dance.
Exactly what I wanted to look like, even if I have still some improvements to make.
We are becoming the persons we are meant to be. No more, no less. emoticon emoticon

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TOTHEFUTURE1 9/1/2010 9:19PM

    Yes scary suppose we lost weight and our life didn't change

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BOBF15 9/1/2010 9:06PM

    A lot to chew on here, but the bottom line is balance. A false balance is an abomination to the Lord. Perspective requires standing back and then looking at ourself from the outside in. Seeing ourselves as God sees us requires bifocals, one is a critical look that is quite humbling and the other is a distant look that sees us yet future without imperfections.

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KATRIONAH 9/1/2010 7:13PM

    John, YOU have done it again. Your wisdom seems endless. You may have hit the nail on the head. I understand what you were saying. Even when I in my heart know that I am moving in a good direction. MY head isn't always sure. IT sees me as I was, not who I am becoming. Means I can be my own worst enemy if I a not careful. I know we as HUMAN BEINGS, usually judge ourselves harder than God will. NEW page in my book ought to be a new me.....better than ever!! Thank you for the blog....I really liked it. Karen emoticon

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LUCYSRAIN 9/1/2010 3:04PM

    Hey John..

You never fail to inspire me. It's funny how we all of a sudden notice that things are really changing on the outside! Only then are we able to see whats in the inside, we finally validate ourselves. I know I did the same thing!

You are a Wonderful person, A true gift to so Many of us here.

You need a big button saying I am Beautiful emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 9/1/2010 2:38PM

    You are looking good, John!! Keep it up.

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GETFIT2LIVE 9/1/2010 1:42PM

    It's the inside transformation that is the hardest and the most important if we want to make this truly a permanent lifestyle change . . .

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DEE797 9/1/2010 12:11PM

    Oh my, another one that hit the nail on the head for me. I struggle with this on a daily basis. Thanks again for posting something that I needed to hear.

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YOGINI_JACKIE 9/1/2010 9:44AM

    Again, exactly what I needed--it's like you're a mind reader, John! Last night I was watching TV with Pat and I found myself scrutinizing every character, observing that every one of them had clear skin.

WELL, most people who star on TV shows have clear skin. That's just sorta the way it is. I need to realize I am not alone in this battle. It doesn't mean it's not hard, but my face WILL clear up one day.

Sorry, enough about me. What a victory moment for you! Noticing your changing body in the mirror warrants a victory dance indeed. Congrats on all your progress, and here's to your continued success!

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STORMTMB 9/1/2010 9:37AM

    Yep, it's the hardest part. Good stuff, John. You are beautiful - inside and out.

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HDHAWK 9/1/2010 9:11AM

    Self image is the part I need to work on the most. I'm sure it's part of the reason I come very close to reaching my goals, but never quite get there. Others see it and I know it in my head. I'm working on figuring out how to really believe it.

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MOMTO3BOYZ2000 9/1/2010 8:38AM

    Thank you for your post. I really needed to hear it today. It is a constant struggle for me.

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JUDIL62 9/1/2010 8:35AM

    Strut those kickin' legs! I wrote a similar blog yesterday, check it out!

Keep up the good work.

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TNTEACHER2 9/1/2010 8:31AM

    If the W. KY group ever has a get together, I want to see those beautiful legs! LOL

Yes, you are correct, we need to remember who we are, not just what we look like. Marcy

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CINDYMCD1 9/1/2010 8:22AM

    Yes balance is key. I know people that appear totally perfectly beautiful on the outside and their inner selves our sad and pathetic.......Balance!

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DOLLBABE56 9/1/2010 8:14AM

    I have noticed this in myself. It is good on so many levels. I'm trying to spend some quality alone time with myself to quiet my mind. It is amazing how I feel afterwards. Sets the tone for the day.

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The Me I See, Is The Me I Be

Wednesday, September 01, 2010


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AQUABUNNY 9/1/2010 10:07PM

    "revolutionize our lives" is an awesome way to put this whole spark journey! Thanks, John, for another motivating vlog!!!



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DANAB1106 9/1/2010 11:33AM

    This was awesome as always. You are such an important part of this website...you give everyone such wonderful information each day. This topic is something I need to work on. I have gotten better, but am not where I need to be.

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WISEONE68 9/1/2010 10:19AM

    as always...you said it so eloquently!! I wrote a similar blog "Full Length Mirror: Friend or Foe?"
I realized all the changes in myself once when I really took time to SEE/LOOK at myself...most often I don't take the time to look.
We do need to see the changes--just like everyone else sees in us!!

You are so right, friend! THanks for sharing!!

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KIMWEBB40 9/1/2010 9:27AM

    Some more great words!!! I guess we will never be done "working" on ourselves. Thank you

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HONORINGGOD 9/1/2010 8:15AM

    wow you just gave away one of the secrets to keeping off unwanted pounds &you didnot tell us to send 49.95 to po box 4534 in care of might happen inc, you are a inspiration john,thanks again .ps you should have been a hammer since you always hit the mail on the head emoticon

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SLY_REDUX 9/1/2010 7:42AM

    This was the perfect way to start my day. Thank you. And you're absolutely right on all counts. If our thoughts manifest our realities, then how we see ourselves is crucial to our success.

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FRANKLYAMUSED 9/1/2010 7:38AM

    Great vlog!

I am learning to view myself differently as well. It is not always easy to see what I am becoming when my mind reminds me of where I was for so long.

Have a great day!

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My August In Review and Creating Balace In My Life

Monday, August 30, 2010

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MOMTO3BOYZ2000 9/1/2010 8:52AM

    John, thank you for a great vlog. Your words mimmic what I have been going through this past August - trying to find balance in my life, learning how to deal with the stress that is just a part of living. I, too, have "allowed" myself to fall out of balance....with my nutrition, exercising, and quiet time for myself. So, my goal this month is too get back what I have allowed myself to lose - starting with no computer time first thing in the morning ; no excuses for not giving my all when I am exercising; being accountable for my nutrition; and learning to enjoy each and every day no matter what stressful situation life may throw my way.

Thanks again.... :)

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YOGINI_JACKIE 8/31/2010 9:28AM

    I definitely get lower back pain as well; I didn't ever think that it could be related to stress.

Thanks, I needed this pep talk!

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MSSUNBUG 8/31/2010 8:10AM

    Hi John,

As usual, I relate on a lot of levels. I too have my sights set on another 20-25 pounds, struggle regularly with balance, strive for balance in the same areas you do. I think for a while I've operated under the illusion that balance was something I could achieve and then just walk away from. But as you're suggesting here, it takes constant and consistent effort to not only ACHIEVE it, but to MAINTAIN it. It takes consciousness, awareness, self-respect, and the ability to put myself and my needs at the top of my priority list.

I agree with your perspective--that weeks like the past several you've had aren't a loss but rather a great tool for learning. I'm glad you shared your experience in them--as usual, I feel like I'm hearing precisely what I needed to hear. I can be as successful as I choose to be. Today I can make choices that help me live my very best life possible.

Have a fantastic day.

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MEREDIE02 8/30/2010 10:22PM

    Great vlog! I'm adding you as a friend so I can help you stay accountable. I'm always looking for people to do the same for me.

And I love that Alabama song. I think it will make a good addition to my running playlist.

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FALLENCRY 8/30/2010 9:34PM

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EDWINA172 8/30/2010 8:22PM

    Yes! ABS! Abdomen!

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HDHAWK 8/30/2010 7:47PM

    My plan is to find my balance again too John. I've allowed (just like you) life to get in the way; engagement, selling 2 houses, moving us, moving kids, planning a wedding, etc. All of this will settle down after our wedding on Sat. Then I can get back to focusing on my plan, the one I let go by the wayside when I was so close to it at one time!. It's tough, but like you said, all the ups and downs are opportunities to learn something about ourselves.

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TEDYBEAR2838 8/30/2010 4:50PM

    I think getting balance in life is harder than it would appear. With so many pulling you in different directions.

But .... emoticon

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DEE797 8/30/2010 3:22PM

    John, another GREAT blog. So thought provoking and just what I needed to hear today as I have been struggling. Now I need to reflect on the "I Allowed Myself" part; and figure out what I need to do.

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GIRANIMAL 8/30/2010 1:22PM

    Hi John! Thanks again, very, very much, for another much need reminder about balance. I am in the same trap! I just can't ever seem to fit in ALL of the following: all the exercise I want, the physical therapy I need to continue (maybe forever), time spent preparing great meals every day, spending time with my beloved, taking excellent care of my aging dog and -- god forbid -- that essential 10-30 minutes for ME. I'm really going to have to find a way to schedule it in, and then honor that schedule, like everything else.

Anyway, I can't believe you're just 25 pounds from your original goal. That's awesome! "Slips" or none, i hope you remain incredibly proud of yourself and your perseverance. It's so easy to forget.

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JAN1149 8/30/2010 11:27AM

  Thank you for telling your truth in such a real and open manner. It's inspiring to someone who had not been committed to herself.

"I allowed myself to get out of balance" and Life has provided me with a big wake up call. Now, do I take this information and commit myself to living Life on Life's terms or do I continue to think the rules don't apply to me and continue to keep doing what I do and getting the same results.

Yes, I am bringing my life more into balance, and stumbling, or being 'led' to find your site this morning is a shot of inspiration I needed; now, I commit to being in balance, putting one foot in front of the other and do the difficult but only think worth doing.

Thank you again!
Janice

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ELIZABETH525 8/30/2010 10:12AM

    I like what you said...you choose how successful you want to be. That is so true. Every day people make choices. Some help us, some hinder us but every choice teaches us something.

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GETFIT2LIVE 8/30/2010 10:09AM

    I swear, you write exactly what I need to hear, John! I am in need of getting a little more balance in my life as well; that's what I'm going to be doing over the next couple of days for myself. I'll do my best to call you on it if it sounds like you're getting out of balance again, so feel free to do the same for me. Onward to a healthy, BALANCED life!

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DOLLBABE56 8/30/2010 10:05AM

    I must say that this is a great blog. The same has happened to me (several times). I'm back on track and so are you. Now get your rear end to the trainer and get movin'. emoticon

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Angels

Sunday, August 29, 2010

Last night when I got home from the ball game I was telling Joan about my 5K run yesterday morning.

When I got to the part about the person joining me for the last half mile or so, a person I had never met before, knew my name and where I was going, Joan looked up from the table and said "Maybe she was an angel."

She went on to say that just maybe God knew the last half mile was getting tough and so He sent an angel to help me get through. I laid in bed for awhile, pondering that thought.

I wonder if I pray hard enough if I can get help cutting the lawn later? Probably not

  
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_COSMOPAULATAN_ 9/1/2010 6:55AM

    That's pretty cool John. I bet your wife was right!

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MARCYNA 9/1/2010 6:18AM

    We're most likely to meet angels when/if we're one in disguise emoticon

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GIRANIMAL 8/30/2010 1:26PM

    Is out of line to say I think I love your wife? LOL -- she's brilliant!

Congrats on the 5K! Truly amazing, my friend.

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NANHBH 8/29/2010 10:33PM

    LOL! God does answer prayer, but in His time!

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HONORINGGOD 8/29/2010 9:44PM

    thank you for sharing. my healthier living class spoke about your blog. we have never meet yet but you are a good friend. &a angel at times.

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CARTOONB 8/29/2010 6:31PM

    They say that the angels want to help! Can't hurt to ask! If it works, let me know! LOL!

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ELIZABETH525 8/29/2010 2:33PM

    Always remember that angels are always around and that you yourself may be someone else's angel!!

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CATHERINEL66 8/29/2010 2:31PM

    Congrats on the 5K, John! There were no angels on my run today - just Elwood (faithful dog). He's now so exhausted that his behavior is angelic :)

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DOLLBABE56 8/29/2010 2:20PM

    What a lovely thought. Oh and yes, try praying for help with the lawn.... it could happen.

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GETFIT2LIVE 8/29/2010 1:42PM

    The lawn is all yours, my friend, but Joan may be right. At any rate, God sent someone (human or angel) to help you push through. Funny how He always seems to know just what we need, eh?

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EDWINA172 8/29/2010 1:03PM

    You are an angel John. You've helped me more that you'll ever know. I tell my clients all about you. I read them your blogs. They all cheered you on when you ran your first 5K. I told my husband and another client about your experience with the young man in the gym locker room. You ARE an angel.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 8/29/2010 12:19PM

    LOL. Good luck with the lawn, John.

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STORMTMB 8/29/2010 12:06PM

    Looks like we all agree (as we have before) Joan is a wise woman, maybe it's those 7 children... I believe there are angels who may come to us in our time of need.

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YOGINI_JACKIE 8/29/2010 10:57AM

    :)

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WANDAH3 8/29/2010 10:07AM

    Joan is a very wise woman.

Now getting assistance on cutting the lawn....that one will likely be all yours. lol

Hugs,
Wanda

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TEDYBEAR2838 8/29/2010 8:50AM

    emoticon that is too funny... about the lawn that is.. not the angel on the run..

ANGEL ON THE RUN! Maybe a new title of a new book? hum?

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HDHAWK 8/29/2010 8:45AM

    If you find one who helps around the house, send them my way. That Joan is a wise woman!

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MCMOM74 8/29/2010 8:24AM

  Angels are all around us, however, I have never gotten one to help with chores. If you find that Angel, can you send them my way? LOL Congrats on the 5K!! emoticon

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