Wednesday, August 11, 2010
If I ever begin to believe that I have run out of ways to improve myself I always know there is one issue in my life that will be there until the day I die. That issue is being patient. Itís a virtue, did you know that? Thatís what I have been told all my life. It sort of makes it seem like if you are impatient well, then itís a fatal character flaw. It seems that only the saintly and holy practice patience.
I think being an overweight person just makes me even more impatient, especially when I started to see very positive changes in my body, my mind and my health. Itís as if I wanted to wake up the next morning and have ďall this done with.Ē When I drop a size of pants or shirt I expect that next week I will drop another, and so on. Instead of being patient, allowing my body to adjust to its new environment I push myself harder. That creates stress, and stress means I have a half pound gain that leaves me scratching my head. ďWork harder,Ē I mutter.
If you follow my blog you know I began personal training last week. It has exceeded my expectations. Trainer Jen kicks my butt for an hour, smiles and pats me on my shoulder and sends me on my way. Itís a good butt kicking for sure, but at the end of an hour I have my moneyís worth. I began this new phase of Project John (Not to be confused with Project Runway or The Rachel Zoe Project.) dead in the middle of my C25K training. I am running 2.5 miles three times a week and struggling to adapt to my trainers way of doing things. To make a long story short I hadnít run since last Tuesday. My body went on strike. I did other cardio between my training sessions but I was feeling really ďantsy.Ē I had invested all this time into C25K and now I had painted myself into a corner. Things needed to change or I could see a donut or two, or twelve in my future.
I had a good training session Monday and yesterday I was going to run for the first time in a week. I wasnít looking forward to gutting out the 2.5 miles. I was sore. As I changed in the locker room that little inner voice spoke. ďWhy donít you just run a mile today? No sense getting sick.Ē Did I tell you it was 102 here yesterday? I could live with that. I went upstairs and as I warmed up and then began to run a plan unfolded in my mind. ďA mile today, a mile and a half on Thursday, two miles on Saturday or Sunday.Ē Then Iíd be back on track. I finished my workout and I was satisfied with what I did.
Hereís my point. I listened to my best advisor, me. It is so easy to look to the left and right and begin to compare yourself with everyone around you. I have followed some of you as you went from being basically inert, to being athlete/warrior/heroes. You inspire me, but I am not you. My journey will curve to the left when yours curved to the right and even though you and I have the word ďchallengeĒ in common, those challenges are all different. Donít get me wrong, I rejoice at your success, but the minute I compare my progress to yours or anyone elseís, I run off the road and into the ditch.
I am learning to listen to that voice deep inside of me. Sometimes it whips me hard and sometimes it pulls in the reigns to slow me down. If I really believe I am worth it, then I believe I deserve success and I will make the investment to be patient and wait for it to come to me some days.
As I write this I am listening to some music. The words that just ran across my ears were ďBe careful. Be gently to yourself, cozí no one else will. Itís a point of pride.Ē (Be Careful by Mutual Admiration Society)That voice deep inside of you is yours and yours alone. I am learning to have the faith to listen to it because when I do good things happen.
You are who you hang around with. Can you think of a better buddy or friend than yourself?
Friday, August 06, 2010
I have experienced fifty seven years of life as of today and if you donít mind Iíd like to share with you a few of the things I have learned.
1.If you really want to do something donít put it off.
There are a lot of things in life I wish I had done. I made excuses not to do them and I packaged those excuses into valid reasons that no one would argue with. I didnít have the money, or the kids were too young, or I was being selfish. The list goes on and on. When you do not do something your heart really desires the only result you end up with is deep regret. Regret turns to bitterness and that in turn means you gain weight.
Find a way to reach your goals. The result might not be immediate and you may have to make a few concessions along the way but when you reach that goal or dream I promise you that you will be the best you that you can be because you will look in the mirror and be authentic. You may have to do five other things first but donít ever give up on your dreams.
If you wait for the ever elusive tomorrow trust me it will never arrive. As time goes on you will make more and more excuses and your dreams get farther and farther away until one day you donít even recognize them. If you have to move heaven and earth to reach them then do so.
Remember, you are worth it and you deserve it and if you donít believe in your own value why should the rest of us. Make a pest of yourself!!! LOL
2.Own Your Actions
No one is responsible for how I react to something other than me. Owning my actions doesnít mean I am perfect, it means I am honest. If youíre scared say youíre scared. If youíre happy, share your joy. If you are not sure of what to do, where to go, or what to say, raise your hand high, admit it and I promise you, just like magic, all kinds of people will appear to help you. We enjoy being around people who are open and honest about themselves. It means they are real. It means they have all kinds of badges and medals and ribbons that show they are victors in the campaign of life. Be really leery and wary of someone who tells you they never had a problem or issue in their lives. There is no such thing as a perfect spouse, partner or friend and if anyone tells you otherwise they are lying more to themselves than they are lying to you. You will find you have more friends in life and will sleep peacefully when you begin to belive that the only person responsible for you is you.
3.You Are Who You Hang Around With
If I had a dollar for every person I assigned blame to for my failures in life I would be really rich. When you hang around with people who play the ďblame gameĒ you will also in short order. You will find a reason to take all the things you donít like about yourself and make them someone elseís responsibility. Things are easier to live with that way, arenít they?
Start hanging out with accountable people and youíll be a bit uncomfortable for a while but you will start to grow in ways you never dreamed of. Look for people who appear to be ďmagic.Ē Usually they are.
My oldest friend is eighty four and my youngest friend is nineteen. In between are a whole host of interesting and enjoyable people who make my life a snap shot done in Technicolor. Wherever you go, for the rest of your life, find a reason to learn something from every person you meet.
I guess there are a lot of other life rules along the way but I have found adhering to these four make me pretty happy. Just thought I'd share
Wednesday, August 04, 2010
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Tuesday, August 03, 2010
One thing I have learned for sure is that if you donít move forward you are sure to slide backwards. I had reached a point in my exercise and fitness development where I felt I had hit a wall, reached a plateau, and was generally uninspired by my workouts. My C25K training provided me with motivation but I was only running three days a week and while I looked forward to the experience every time I looked in the mirror I saw a shrinking body that resembled a sack of potatoes. Everything just sorta hung, I really felt I had accomplished all I could on my own and not having a workout buddy I began contemplating working with a personal trainer.
My first consideration was cost. In a nutshell itís not cheap. I opened my checkbook and looked at what I was spending monthly for Joan and me to eat out on those nights we were ďjust too tired to cook.Ē I was surprised how much money we were spending, even if it were just for two people. I decided that if we cut that in half it would generate a bit of revenue.
My next consideration was finding a trainer to meet my needs. I narrowed it down to four and after a lot of soul searching I picked Jen. Jen was a dance major in college and she also has my very direct, blunt approach to dealing with things. Thatís not to say she isnít friendly, but like me, she is not looking for another friend. I told her what I wanted and she told me what she could do, we shook hands and set a date to begin. That was yesterday.
I have to tell you I was nervous. I was afraid I was going to look silly and all those other silly thoughts that run through my head periodically. The first thing she did was go over what we would be doing, how she liked to do it and told me not to be bashful about asking questions. She told me if she was going to fast or to slow to please let her know. She made me feel comfortable and at ease. After the first set of exercises I was no longer nervous.
She worked my entire body. She used a series of exercises that included free weights, circuit machines and resistance bands. We finished with abdominals on the stability ball. Everything was predictable, which is what I like. I picked her primarily because of her background. I was looking to increase my flexibility and balance and add some tone to my shape.
I woke up this morning, ďwork out sore.Ē Itís a good feeling and itís equal from top to bottom. I am not too sore so I will be able to do my C25K training later today. We are going to work together twice weekly, on Mondayís and Fridays. My sessions last approximately an hour.
Itís a good feeling to know I am working with someone who knows what they are doing. I told her when I hired her that she was the professional and I was going to trust her to construct a program that would meet my needs. If the first session was any indication I made the right choice.
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