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My Best Advocate............ ME

Thursday, June 03, 2010

I didn’t begin to get healthy until I came to the realization that I had to become my own advocate. No one else was going to take care of me but me!!! That’s hard for an overweight person to do sometimes. We look in the mirror and no matter how many positive mantras’ we repeat inside of our heads the mirror can be such a cruel mistress. We hear snickers and we take solace in the poor food of choice and just reinforce that whole “I am really worthless” image.

It’s hard to muster up enough energy and desire to start doing the things that will make a difference. I mean why even bother? We are fat now, we have always been fat and we are probably always going to be fat. We find ourselves rather disgusting don’t we?

We don’t share that thought with anyone because we know what people will say. They’ll tell us we are lovable and intelligent and we can “really do it” if we try. We know different, don’t we?

It’s a vicious and insidious cycle. How do we break it? Here’s one guys opinion:
First, you have already done the most important thing: You asked for help. You’re here at Spark and you join teams and get involved in challenges and write blogs and you stretch your hand out and ask to be supported. That was hard for me to do. It was hard for me to admit I didn’t have all the answers in the first place. Its how I got in the mess I was in, thinking I knew it all and could do it all on my own. I came to find out that instead of being superior, as I had convinced myself, I really acted that way because I felt insecure. My first month at Spark I was really intimidated and in the spirit of full disclosure some of you guys still intimidate me a bit because of how awesome you are. Silly isn’t it?

I ask for help and keep asking for help and when people ignore me or brush me off then I look for other people who will help. I won’t give up. Somewhere along the road I discovered what I have always preached: I am worth it. I am also pushy and loud and darned opinionated. As a client of mine once said “I am an acquired taste that is not for everyone.” But I am worth as much as anyone else, never more, but always as much. I quit wallowing in my own misery and decided that I have a lot to offer people and that deep down inside of me all I have ever really wanted to do is help people. So I decided to help me first. You can’t give what you do not have. I am falling in love with myself. It’s still a bit uncomfortable to say that, LOL, but I am getting more comfortable with it all the time.

Putting me first meant I made a few very tough personal decisions. I had belonged to our local YMCA for thirteen years. I was even on the Board of Directors at one point. Two of my favorite people of all time Nick and Terri Ann worked there as trainers and were really supportive of me. The facility was older; the equipment was not maintained properly and regularly. Nothing was being done to reverse that trend. As hard as it was for me I switched gyms. I switched the Y’s main competitor here in town. The proof is in the pudding. I am healthier, happier and the services available are superior for almost the same amount of money. I have taken a bit of heat for that decision especially when my new gym highlighted me in their June add as an example of someone who is creating a healthy life style. I had to ask myself a really important question: Do you want everyone to like you or do you want to be healthy? It would be nice if I had both but I think there is some humor in the fact that no one gave me a second look until I started losing weight. Now everyone wants to be my buddy!!

I am looking for a new doctor. When I saw my doctor last week about my blood pressure I made the remark that Joan had suggested I get it checked because it might be low I got a sarcastic response; “Who’s your doctor, me or your wife?” Duh, that one doesn’t deserve any more of an explanation.

I come first, so does my health and well being. I get a little shaky inside when I have to stand up for myself but it’s getting easier. It’s easier because of my family. There is Joan, the kids and my extended relatives and then there are you who make up the rest of my family. I could not do what I am doing without you, but more importantly all the support in the world has little to no value until I become my own advocate and if I need to fight for what is best for me.

I’m no more special than you, but you wanna know something? You are just as special as me, which means you are truly worth the effort

Be blessed and reach out to someone today.

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MARCYNA 6/6/2010 4:01AM

    Oh John!!!
I've tried so hard to have everyone like me that I forgot to take care of silly. Thank you for reminding me love for the others is not first place, love for ourselves is, the rest will just flow.
Love emoticon

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HONORINGGOD 6/5/2010 3:13PM

    i thank the LORD for my spark friends emoticon

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SANDYK4BAMA 6/4/2010 10:00AM

    John, I very highly doubt I'm as special as you, but I want you to know, every single time I read your blogs, you touch my very soul. We must be soul-siblings, because so much of how you feel is how I feel. I have not been overweight all my life, in fact, for most of my younger life, I was UNDERweight. But I can tell you this, over or under, I have still got the same piss-poor opinion of myself, well-not so much an opinion, as it is a feeling. Like you said, I see me in the mirrior and I cringe. I usually try to avoid the mirror like the plague, unless I have to be there to put on make-up, brush hair, etc. It seems to me I have always felt this way. It has nothing to do with fat, skinny, or what anyone else says to or about me. It is my inherent inner flaw. That you are trying to overcome that feeling yourself puts me in highest company. I will try to do what you said, and "learn to love me" but that will be the hardest of journeys for me here on Spark, way harder than losing weight, or even maintaining weight, but I will try. You always give me hope, and without hope, what do we possibly have?

Thank you so much for being you, and for sharing your innermost thoughts with us sparkies. Know that someone here really really really needs and loves you just the way you are! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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KAT573 6/4/2010 9:00AM

    JOHN: good to be back home and to see you keeping ON! Self-advocating was one of the most important (and foreign to me at the time) activities I stumbled across in my 30's. While mine was triggered by an incident that forced me to seriously and honestly look at, realize and accept the impact of my hearing loss on everyday Life, as well as on my Being in the World, it was not til years later that I realized all that time to now, self-advocating was what I was doing, albeit in a more roundabout manner through activities that served organizations that addressed issues for folks with disabilities. Now I realize that a more focused effort on myself, is also needed to balance that more public action.

So actually, self-advocacy informs all aspects of our Lives, and every one of us, absolutely. The purity and clarity with which we realize it varies over time. It is the ideal state of mind we hope, as parents, to nurture in our children, in our organizations, and in our communities. It is also the fulcrum of our existence, so when it is faulty, we will feel it!

The good thing is, yes, we can work on making us stronger, if we are willing, honest and open to what we have to do by facing where we are truly at, from the inside out.
So the degree and quality of self-advocacy becomes a gauge of our developing adulthood. We are never done growing up and out, into the World. Having realized that age has nothing to do with growing up, and that THAT was the purpose of every day of our lives, I was able to accept, forgive myself, encourage myself, and challenge myself with less fear and well as those around me! emoticon
KEEP on keeping ON!

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HAWAIILINDA 6/3/2010 9:53PM

    I read in your blog everyday the little change's you are making, and wow it is the concept of healthy living and you are doing it. One day at a time!

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YOYONOMORE1 6/3/2010 4:36PM

    Hope you can find a good doctor, one that wants you to be an active participant in the health care you get, after all it is your body.Yes, I am having a beautiful internet day today, lol.


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DOLLIE6 6/3/2010 2:59PM

    Love it , Love it. Right on the spot. emoticon

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PENNYAN45 6/3/2010 2:53PM

    Great blog! I couldn't agree more!!

It is true that there are lots of people here who help. I'm convinced there is no better support anywhere else.

Surprisingly, though, I have found that one of the most important features of SP is that it gets us focusing on ourselves - and on our weight loss process.

That is something many of us have not done before.

We have to focus on what and how much we eat, and when and where we exercise. We also have to notice when we don't perform as we wanted to.

We have to figure out how we are going to react to small failures or setbacks. We need to figure out what the problem was/is - and how we are going to deal with it in the future. (That is often when the help and support from SP friends is most appreciated.)

The entire weight-loss journey here is filled with problem solving and decision - making activities. We are actively monitoring ourselves and making choices every day.
I know that I never spent this amount of time or energy on my weight loss before SP!

In fact, I remember blogging that in the past, my thinking about being overweight was usually just emotional - and negative - thoughts filled with guilt and regret and self-criticism. But since joining SP, I began to use my thinking skills, my planning skills, and my problem solving skills - all directed to solving the problem of how I could best lose weight.

Instead of feeling bad about myself, I began to take my weight loss on as a project -- and I became the project leader. There was no criticism - only problem solving.

The SP site provides all the resources that are needed for doing that. It also provides each of us with a soapbox and an audience - by way of our blogs. We are given the space within which to reflect. We each learn a great deal about ourselves from writing our own blogs (and from reading responses from others.)

SP keeps us focused on the larger issue of losing weight and changing lifetime habits - and it keeps us focused on the smaller everyday issues of what shall I have for breakfast -- or which gym should I attend?

I believe it is that continued focus that leads to our eventual success. Whereas in the past, we might have become discouraged and given up early on in the process - that does not happen here. Rather, we learn how to stay with this project through all the little setbacks.

SP helps us to stay focused, to stay committed, and to stay the course! It helps us to become our own advocates.


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AZCUPCAKE 6/3/2010 1:33PM

    Your 'voice of reason' is can't begin to imagine your ability of having a positive effect on a person when the going gets tough!! Thank you for a much-needed shot of reality AND possibility that reinvigorates my flagging motivation every time I "tune in" to your blog! It is so much easier to flick that mean little devil off of my shoulder every time I think a Kit-Kat bar would be a quick solution to whatever ails me when I think of the kind words you would prescribe to alleviate the stress or tension that can take a body to the ground at times.Thank you over and over, John!

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JENNY888 6/3/2010 12:15PM

    I think it will be a good idea for you to change your doctor. The one you have doesn't sound like the best one for you. I know I need to do the same thing.

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TXNANA_4 6/3/2010 11:54AM

    Just what I needed today. Thanks!

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STORMTMB 6/3/2010 11:45AM

    I told my current doctor in my very first appointment that I'd ask a lot of questions because I want to understand my health and make good decision and to be a partner with him in my own healthcare.

My previous doctor didn't like it when I asked him questions or wanted to understand why he recommended something. Even his nurse said "because doctor said so." What crap. That's why he's my former doctor and I totally love and learn so much from my new/current doctor. What a change.

Good luck in your search and don't stop until you find the right one for you. The previous suggestion was a good one, ask a nurse (or as many as you know).

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LUCYSRAIN 6/3/2010 11:42AM

    You are simply the emoticon

Thanks for reaching out in such honesty..


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    I hope you can find a good doctor. Yours sound like a pompous %^&. Hint - ask a nurse you know who she goes to. LOL.

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GIG2828 6/3/2010 11:10AM

    Love the blog!

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GERIKRAGH 6/3/2010 10:46AM

    U made a good point. And I liked Ur comment about the doctor. My doctor is sort of like that but I just see his nurse practitioner--her I like.

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JAE_HENNINGTON 6/3/2010 10:08AM

  this has been my mantra for awhile now..."You Have To Become Your Own Best Friend" gets lonely at times because we need each other, but who else knows best what I need but me.. great blog as always

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CRIS76 6/3/2010 9:40AM

    A very nice blog, indeed. Thank you so much for your insight - it's spot on!

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 6/3/2010 9:38AM

    Reading your blogs makes me think that maybe it is possible to quiet the mean voice inside my head and to lose the weight once and for all. I'm so proud of you for not only learning as you go but for teaching all of us. I look forward to making your words of encouragement a part of my day!


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BRYLIA 6/3/2010 9:20AM

Another great blog and words of wisdom to live by. I don't truly know you because I have never met you but somehow, I feel a connection closer than some of the people I have known for years. You speak to my mind, heart and soul, providing words of encouragement that are so needed not only to me but to all of us, you included! You are definately an awesome person and so worthy of self praise and effort. BRAVO for all you are doing for yourself, your family and so many others!

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GETFIT2LIVE 6/3/2010 9:05AM

    John, we do have to become our own advocates and start loving ourselves in order to really make progress on this journey. It's tough to do, especially if you've been a people pleaser your whole life like some of us. Thanks for having the courage to do it for yourself and be an inspiration for the rest of us.


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WISEONE68 6/3/2010 8:59AM

    nice...and, you are right--NO one can advocate for us like we can!! Our loved ones can push, prod, etc.--but, WE have the final, ultimate decision.
You done good!!

Keep it up--it does get easier and easier as you learn--no only about yourself, but about what works and does not work for you (tell THAT to a doctor!!). Be well, Friend!!

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HDHAWK 6/3/2010 8:49AM

    I love this blog John. I still struggle with wanting everyone to like me or eating things I know aren't on my plan to please others. I will say I've made great strides in that area. I know I've made improvements in advocating for me, but there is still progress to be made.

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HDHAWK 6/3/2010 8:49AM

    I love this blog John. I still struggle with wanting everyone to like me or eating things I know aren't on my plan to please others. I will say I've made great strides in that area. I know I've made improvements in advocating for me, but there is still progress to be made.

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KRISSYSWIM16 6/3/2010 8:42AM

    Love this blog. I have to say the past 2 weeks I have not been a very good self advocator (? haha) and it shows. Im trying to give myself a good kick in the rear- so thank you for this!

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DOLLBABE56 6/3/2010 8:36AM

    You are truly an inspiration to me - everyday. I am honored to call you my friend. It is a huge comfort to me to have all this support - from you as well as all of my Spark friends.

I do struggle everyday with self worth. Sometimes I forget that I am worth all of these changes/improvements. The past few days have really been a struggle and I didn't win. Today is a new day. I can do it. Just need to stay focused.

Thanks for the great blog once again.

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EDWINA172 6/3/2010 8:26AM

    I'm glad that you are becoming your own advocate. Your doctor's remark kind of boils my blood. I usually bite my tongue when it comes to my knee jerk reactions. I don't want to speak first, eat my words second, but your doctor sounds like a pompous fool. (Nicest thing I could say....really want to cuss) Sounds like he was a bit intimidated by your wife. Who knows you better, your wife or doctor?

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FUZZY1TOO 6/3/2010 8:10AM

    John, how did you do that? How did you get into my head and express some of what I had been feeling the past few days? lol I guess great minds think alike, eh?

I agree with what you are saying. It's hard to reach out and ask for help. . . somedays it's even harder to accept the help. As I have been telling parents for years, 'no one is going to be a better advocate for your family than you -- and you are part of that family!'

You are doing a great job and have a wonderful support system, both in person and online. Keep going. . . 'cuz you help keep us going.


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Being Prepared and My New Running Shoes

Wednesday, June 02, 2010

Our son Paul is a runner. At age twenty seven he runs mini and half marathons, 5k’s and any sort of race they will let him run in. His wife runs with him. When he found out, as he put it, “I was serious about starting to run,” he told me I needed to go with him and see his “shoe guy.” As he explained it, “Dad you really don’t want some high school junior who works at Dick’s part time fitting you for running shoes.”

Okay. I’ll admit I have had a lot of new experiences in the past six months or so. There is this virtue and it’s called faith. Every now and then you have to swallow really hard, admit you don’t know something and lift a cocked eye towards heaven and trust a person who appears to know what he is talking about, even if you changed his diapers for a few years.

Saturday morning he showed up at our hotel and took me to the “shoe guy.” When we walked in the door a very athletic looking man about thirty greeted me and asked me my name.

“Why does he need to know my name?” I thought.

He needed to know my name because if you are going to spend two hours with someone calling me John works a lot better than “sir” or even “Hey you!”
He had me take off my shoes and socks and began to walk me through a process that measured both feet sitting and standing. He measures my arches. He smiled, got up and went behind a curtain. When he returned he held a box.

“I want you to put these on only so I can measure how you run.”

He proceeded to show me how to lace the shoes, put them on, tie them and make sure they were tight. He pointed to a treadmill by the store window and asked me to warm up for a minute or so and then jog for a minute or so. As he explained it, he would be videotaping my feet to see how I ran and how my feet fell when they hit the surface.

So here is fat old me in this store with all these very lean people making the earth shake for a few minutes. When I got off the treadmill, he smiled again and disappeared. He returned with six boxes of shoes and we went through the process of finding the right ones for me. He had me try on some amazing socks which felt like part of heaven had settled in my feet. He explained how the most important thing about these shoes was supporting my arches. He had me run more. When I picked a pair of shoes we moved on to inserts. This entailed another fifteen to twenty minutes of trying inserts in the shoes I purchased until I found the ones that supported me the best.

Total time: two hours.

“Jog up and down the street if you like,” he said.

I jogged to the corner and called Joan. The price for all of this was around two hundred dollars. You don’t stay married for thirty six years by just randomly spending that kind of money on shoes. She listened to me for a minute and said:

“Well, if you don’t get what you need, six months from now you’ll be sitting in an orthopedic surgeons office and the minimum we’ll be paying is the one thousand dollar deductible on our health insurance.”

Case closed. I purchased the shoes along with the amazing comfortable socks.

Other than wanting to tell you just how cool it was to buy the shoes and share my happiness with you there is a point in here somewhere.

“Fail to plan. Plan to fail.” There are so many times in my life I have just lunged into things and wondered why I wasn’t successful at them. It was because I hadn’t prepared. Lack of preparation comes from wanting to change our current reality so quickly that we don’t have to admit parts of our lives are messed up. Instead, we push forward motivated by some false thought that we are different than everyone else. We can hit fast forward and get there quicker than everyone else.

We are not different. We are wonderful, marvelous, beautiful, loved and cherished by God, but we have to prepare for everything we do or we won’t succeed.
It’s why we measure our food, chart our exercise, step on the scale and take the tape to out hips, stomach and thighs. We are preparing. We are preparing for those wonderful moments we etched in our minds. They are our goals.

Buying the shoes was fun, but more importantly, as I tested them out when we got home, I found that one action increased my confidence and my ability to do something I was still a bit shaky about.

From time to time people will tell me I am a good writer. I have to smile because you don’t see how many times I hit the back space key or high light a whole paragraph to delete before I am satisfied with what I wrote. I am a terrible speller and have taken to writing my blogs in Microsoft Word and then pasting them here because Word automatically corrects so many spelling errors. Writing like running and many of the things that give you great satisfaction require preparation and the right tools in order to be successful.

Good health requires preparation. That’s why you and I are here. That’s why it’s more than a diet.

Have a blessed Wednesday.

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HLPRATT 6/14/2010 10:27AM

    Yes your feet are very important to running. I need to find a shoe guy like that.
I was 45 before I ever ran and I'm not a real runner but I find when I get on the treadmill now I'm not satisfied with just walking anymore. I just did the superman 4 mile in Metroplis in 47 minutes. Races are fun even if you don't win. You'll love it when you try it.

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TULIPCHICK91 6/7/2010 3:05PM

    Your blog was timed perfectly for me to read it. I also went out and got fitted for shoes this week and got a little critcism for spending $100 and several hours of my time. You (and your wife) have reaffirmed that I did the right thing. Thank you for another thoughtful and well-written blog.

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ELIZABETH525 6/4/2010 10:18AM

    You ARE a wonderful writer. It is the process and the end result that makes you a writer. We do not care that you are a horrible speller. That is what spell check is for. What we love is how articulate you are, how your words flow and how every line you write has meaning and impact!

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DOLLIE6 6/3/2010 2:51PM

    Thanks for sharing John, very interesting. We really do need to take care of our feet. Look what we put them through.

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AZCUPCAKE 6/3/2010 1:26PM

    Joan is one smart cookie, and you are so blessed to have her for your "sole-mate!" Haha! Pun intended! I am glad you purchased a pair of shoes and socks that will make your running more efficient AND enjoyable. And if you STILL need something to seal the deal in your mind, think of all the times in the past when you put the not-so-great food into your shopping cart and paid for it without blinking an eye! You are making a MUCH better choice in getting that amazing footwear!!! BRAVO! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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WANDAH3 6/3/2010 7:23AM

    Thats what I need..."a shoe guy". I'm going to have to ask around to see if there is anyone here that would fit me with a proper fitting shoe! Love it.

Good luck with the running.


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VAEMPYRESS 6/3/2010 6:04AM

    Love it, I too just went and got my new running shoes fitted by my "shoe guy" I think I took an hours or so.
I'm with PRINCESSNURSE though, What shoes did you get?

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    Another very true and thus very wise blog......but the real question is-what kind of shoes did you get?

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STOLTZY64 6/2/2010 10:48PM

    WOW! I never heard of such a shoe fitting as that! What a process!!

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KATIEGLEN012 6/2/2010 10:11PM

    Wow. I know for a fact that good tools produce a quality product, so it makes sense to buy good shoes, but this guy was fabulous. Sounds like he really knows what's up. Lucky for you you listened to the "kid". emoticon How is it they know so much?????

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HAWAIILINDA 6/2/2010 10:10PM

    John, Thank you again! I am going to use the lesson learned in your experience. The planning that is so important to succeed. I haven't been planning ahead at all not , meals, not exercise I'm just trying to do the best I can each day. I do need to plan both a plan A and a plan B. If I'd had a plan B today I would have been prepared for the late lunch that I ended up with and had something healthy at hand instead of falling back on a drive thru meal. I can also have a plan B for exercise so that when something gets in the way I have something to fall back on.

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KSGROTHE 6/2/2010 7:57PM

    emoticon on getting out of your comfort zone and getting fitted for good running shoes! Your feet thank you, I'm sure!

I really should get some good shoes myself. I'd like to try the Couch-to-5K program, and I have no running shoes. Even the walking shoes I have aren't very comfortable. And my hiking shoes were not very good on my long hike over the weekend.

Keep up the good work! emoticon

- Karen

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DOLLBABE56 6/2/2010 7:43PM

    That must have been a very interesting experience. It is so hard to get a good fit on athletic shoe. I think that going to a shop like you did would be awesome.

We don't always give our feet enough care. Think about it. I know I've been guilty of buying those "oh so cute" shoes. You know, the ones with the spiky heals and pointy toes. In other words, I've tortured my poor tootsies. And believe me, I've paid for it.

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JPRICE217 6/2/2010 7:36PM

    You'r right about the right shoes. 1 1/2 weeks ago I walked faster and farther tnen I ever had and I hurt my foot and it still hurts. I am going to have to find out were I can be fitted. emoticon so I can emoticon

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TERESAAVIL 6/2/2010 6:15PM

  Thank you for this information. I have problem with my feet so I should go to a professional who would know what I need.
Think it would be a cheaper investment then what I am doing at this time.

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STORMTMB 6/2/2010 5:56PM

    John, I think you left out part of the story that I'm sure took place... the big hug and "thank you, son" to Paul for introducing you to YOUR "shoe guy," another new friend on your journey. I'm sure Paul was thrilled for you!

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FANAMAMA 6/2/2010 5:43PM

    I'm saving up for a good pair of running shoes myself! In fact, I've used it was one of my rewards for reaching a certain weight. I'm hoping my knees don't give out before then!
Thanks for a great reminder that we have to go about all this with open eyes and a plan, not just blindly following some food and exercise plan. That right there is a plan to fail.

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SKE1283 6/2/2010 5:28PM

  The right tools make a BIG difference between getting fit and getting hurt.

When I made the commitment to walk in my first Susan G Komen 3-Day (60-mile) walk this coming October, I went to FleetFeet of Atlanta to get outfitted with the right athletic shoes. It was so worth it, I haven't had a hint of trouble with my feet since I was fitted with the right socks and the right sneakers with the right inserts. :)

I figured I needed to make the investment in doing this right so that my training would build me up, not tear me down.

Thanks for sharing!! emoticon

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WISEONE68 6/2/2010 5:03PM

great blog! you are right about planning to fail (I used that saying, fail to plan/plan to fail as the title of blog once--great minds, huh? emoticon).
i am so glad you took the time to get the right equipment for what you want to accomplish. i bought a food scale, lots and lots of measuring cups, single serving food containers, etc. when i started all this...I was READY for whatever came.
i even allowed myself to spend money on shoes (tho, not as much as you did!) and workout clothes...and, more since losing some weight!! I will have to buy shoes again before my 15K run in September--
we deserve to "pamper" (not really a GUY word, sorry) ourselves!! good for you--and, good for your son to recognize you are SERIOUS, dude!!!!!

be well!!

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TRACYDUKA 6/2/2010 3:07PM

    I'm not near ready for running shoes yet, but I'll have to find someone who is a "shoe guy" or knows a "shoe guy", because I have cranky feet! I wish them much luck getting me a good fit. :D I do so love your blog though. It makes me feel so MOTIVATED. :)

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 6/2/2010 12:13PM

    I loved getting my new "running" shoes! It was so nice to have someone help you find just what you need to make something that's hard to do a little bit better. I'm saving up now to get new ones when the current ones wear out in the near future.

Way to go John! Keep up the great work!


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MOMGABE 6/2/2010 11:47AM

    Great blog! I went and got fitted for shoes in January at a store that specializes in running shoes. Very similar experience. I also ended up with shoes, inserts and socks. But I have to say, after running in them for 5 months, they have been great. No problems with feet, ankles, legs, etc. Well worth the money.

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    Hey, good job, John. Sounds like quite an experience. Of course you will be obligated to run in those new shoes now or suffer my wrath. LOL. emoticon

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JUNEBUG4967 6/2/2010 10:56AM

    John, A lot of your thoughts today struck home for me. I guess I'll have to find my own "shoe guy" here in OKC as the last 2 prs. have left me dissatisfied and uncomfortable. I also need to get an appt w/Dr. to see about some issues with toes. That might be part of the "uncomfortable" part. But the part that really struck me was the comments on preparation or lack thereof. I have my own challenges and have not been towing the line as I should. This is letting me become lax in areas where I should have miniscule "wiggle room". Thanks!

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RONDAJONES 6/2/2010 10:51AM

    Does your son have a "shoe guy" in Columbus? I have been wanting to go to one! LOL Seriously!

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CMBELISLE 6/2/2010 10:44AM

    Well, this blog couldn't have come at a better time. I've been contemplating getting fitted for "real" running shoes rather than just going to Wal-Mart and picking up what feels most comfortable for me. I'm cheap when it comes to shoes, so shelling out $100 to $200 has been giving me anxiety attacks. Your blog reminded me that in the long run, it will be much less expensive to just pay for the shoes.


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GETFIT2LIVE 6/2/2010 10:14AM

    You are so right, John--taking time to prepare properly and having the right tools makes all the difference in both our confidence and our success! Your shoe buying experience sounds much like mine. I love love love my shoes that I got there AND especially the socks ($25 for three pair of socks, on top of HOW much for shoes?!). It was absolutely worth the investment of time and money along with the potential for embarrassment (YOU are a runner?). Now I've taken the next big step, signing up for a running club--one little action increases confidence and our ability to do something we are shaky about.

I look forward to hearing how your training is going; remember no matter how fast or slow you are going with the training, you're on your way, and that already makes you a runner. And yes, you are a good writer, whether you rely on Word to help you or not--Word can't put together a sentence or a thought, only tell you if a word is in the dictionary or not!


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BECCALYNN75 6/2/2010 10:08AM

    This part could have been written just for me:
"Lack of preparation comes from wanting to change our current reality so quickly that we don’t have to admit parts of our lives are messed up. Instead, we push forward motivated by some false thought that we are different than everyone else. We can hit fast forward and get there quicker than everyone else."

Momma always said I have two speeds - stop and full speed ahead. Sometimes that is a blessing, and sometimes a curse.

I can also relate to what you said about your writing. When someone compliments one of my photos I usually laugh to myself and think about how many other shots I deleted to get that one.

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JAE_HENNINGTON 6/2/2010 9:56AM

  you are so right...i smiled when you talked about being a good writer. I am a writer also, and I go through those same things.When I go back and read what I have read, I laugh because I am always leaving words out or spelling words wrong.. or sometimes it takes me days to get something to sound good enough to post

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DAWNDMOORE40 6/2/2010 9:39AM

    Good for you on buying a good pair of running shoes! I hope you are now able to go out with your son and run a marathon! emoticon

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WEEZIE1122 6/2/2010 9:01AM

    I knew it. I just knew it. I'm not the only one that uses Word first.

Great blog again John.

We love you

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HDHAWK 6/2/2010 8:58AM

    Good for you John! Do tell, what is the brand of socks you bought? I have found some I like, but I usually buy ones that don't quite hit the mark!

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SANDYK4BAMA 6/2/2010 8:52AM

    So tell us please, Dear John, what kind of socks were those anyway? I have only one pair of socks that has ever felt remotely good, and I don't know what brand they are. I am tortured by socks because I can't stand the seams on the inside of the toe area, and it is a rare occasion to find some without that. But to find some that feel like heaven - well, please please, elaborate. I need me some of these!!

Thanks for your blog. I haven't been on much lately as I started a new job, and I didn't know if I was allowed to SPARK all day long like I did at home. But alas, now I'm starting to feel my way around, and I'm back to the Feel Good Column of John. You can't imagine how much better you make me feel about myself with the words you bestow upon us everyday. Know that always, if you don't get anything else accomplished in a day, if you wrote your blog, I got something good out of it. You are one of the highlights of my day! Thank you again for your blog, and most of all, thank you for just being YOU! emoticon

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BUGGYS 6/2/2010 8:48AM

    Good shoes and arch support makes all the difference, doesn't it? A couple of years ago, I went through the same knee kept hurting when I walked and now I am pain free...John, it really doesn't matter about the is about your health and how you are going to get was nice that you called your wife but she was right...think about YOU, and the rest will fall into have a good son and he must be so proud of his dad! emoticon

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MARCYNA 6/2/2010 8:37AM

    Love it. I have high arched feet and it took me years to accept they were different from 'normal' feet.
One day my trainer told me it's the best for athletes as it promotes dynamics.
I've never had a shoe guy - too expensive for me - but I'm gonna get one.
Congrats 2 you , dear wife and clever son
PS Being prepared is the key. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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BRYLIA 6/2/2010 8:27AM

    Sounds like one awesome running shoe experience...did you get to run a little with your son? He must be so proud of you like we all are...keep up the great effort and most importantly have fun!!!


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WISHIEGIRL 6/2/2010 8:23AM

    Isn't the whole running shoe process amazing? I mean, who would have thought that all of that was necessary to find the right running shoe? And yet it is.

It's kind of like the process we need to go through to make this lifestyle change. There's dozens of little adjustments to go through.... try them on, and then more adjustments. Thanks for this blog post - I needed to read this today.

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Learning Success Through Failure

Tuesday, June 01, 2010

I had a crummy week last week. I am not asking for pity or sympathy or condolences. In some respects it was the best week I have had since joining Spark.

Let me say right off that I am very quick to give the credit for most of these insights to you who support me and have become my friends. So before we get started please stand up and take a bow.

Let me tell you what I learned:

Success is much more difficult to deal with than failure and……………. Ultimately if we don’t get used to being successful right now, bit by bit, when we reach all those wonderful goals we put on our collage, we will crash and burn because we will have no idea how to handle the success. We won’t be able to sustain it.

Success is a process not a destination. Vacation is a destination. We celebrate it, enjoy it, take pictures of it then pack up the car and head back to “our lives.” Success is a process that if done correctly allows us to become comfortable with a new environment.

Real success and our inability to prepare for it is why so many of us have failed at dieting. Dieting is a myth, a fable and a very cruel mistress. How many of you have participated in “fast start programs?” They are advertised as the ability to lose a chunk of weight in a hurry so we feel better about ourselves and can sustain the long and arduous dieting process. While the body drops a few inches and pounds, which are mostly water and someone cashes our check, we are fooled into believing we are a success. So we starve and we over exercise and we watch the scale needle start to move slower and slower and we arrive at our goal and nothing in our life has changed. Pass the mashed potatoes please and while you’re at it the butter.
A few months later we find ourselves sitting in the middle of an empty field called despair and we wonder what’s wrong with us? Why are we so flawed? We are not. Mostly we fool ourselves into believing the world is going to change its ways for us and that we are really going to look like the people on the cover of Vogue and Maxim.

Success is a process that is galvanized by failure. Yes, you read that correctly. I had so many failures last week that I’d be here all morning detailing them all. Suffice to say they taught me that there are going to be times that I have to bend a little so I don’t break in two. There are days I am not going to get all my exercise in because it’s ninety seven outside and there is not a tread mill in sight. I learned that it’s really bad for your spirit if you sit in a restaurant and curse the world because “you can’t have this or that.” You split a dessert with your wife because at that moment it’s the thing to do.

You learn to be comfortable with your successes. You learn that you are going to have weeks where your blood pressure bottoms out, you over eat a bit and aren’t able to get all your exercise in and that despite all these allegedly fatal character flaws you are still a very wonderful and lovable person!!!

You learn success is not an event to take a picture of but the sweet journey of your life time that should be savored and enjoyed. After all, your grand daughter isn’t going to be four forever and how often to you get to be thirty feet away from all The Kardashian sisters?

You learn from your friends here at Spark so that when you look to your left and your right you see them sweating and huffing and puffing like you are. You watch them stumble and trip and you stick out your hand to help them up because you know the minute you stumble and fall, they will stick their hands out for you. Once you understand that and hold it very close in your heart, then you have learned the meaning of success.

Lasting success is born of a hard night of the labor of our failures the ultimate will and desire to triumph over those failures, just like you do every day.

See, you are already a success.

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JCDROLSHAGEN 6/8/2010 10:03AM

    Yeah I've been there too. I did WW a couple of times and did great until I got lazy, forgot to exercise and yeah the goodies came back to haunt me. 30+ lbs later I was worse off than when I started. As far as the success thing, it is a bunch of hard work but worth it. Now when I transgress, I forget it and start again. So I had a Deep fried Moon pie for dessert when I ate out (and wow after low fat and low sugar regime it felt like I had died and gone to heaven!!!) But it is behind me now (maybe literally) and I have healthy food in my fridge at the moment and my 30 + lbs lost will stay lost. The next 30 lbs are ahead of me and they will go too. I know that I am a successful person too. Here's to success for all of us at SP. emoticon

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JUDIL62 6/4/2010 2:56PM

    So true....thanks for another great blog!

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LUCYSRAIN 6/4/2010 2:08AM

    This journey to success is becoming more and more uplifting...

Thank you for your insight, I finally "get" it!


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BELLAMIMI1 6/3/2010 11:25PM

    Nice. A heartfelt thanks to you!

Sorry for the duplicate post! My laptop was running slow.

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BELLAMIMI1 6/3/2010 11:25PM

    Nice. A heartfelt thanks to you!

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CMBELISLE 6/2/2010 9:31AM

    As I always say, enjoy the journey as much as the destination.

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KASEYCOFF 6/2/2010 6:59AM

    Nice, fella, really nice - good thinking and good writing. :-)

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CHERIRIDDELL 6/1/2010 11:24PM

    Well said .One of my favourite quotes is :"Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It's quite simple, really. Double your rate of failure. You are thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn't at all. You can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it, So go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because remember that's where you will find success."
- Thomas J. Watson

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HAWAIILINDA 6/1/2010 9:56PM

    I learned this week that I was not prepared for a change in my usual routine, and when I was disappointed in myself my spark friends helped me move forward. I think as long as we are learning we are working our journey.

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WALKNLOVE 6/1/2010 7:57PM

    I had a bad week as well. I still have a lot to learn.Glad I am not alone on my journey.Together, we will learn & grow & accomplish....even if at times it is 2 steps forward and 3 steps back.Even when we "fail", we aren't really failing, we are learning what does not work, so we don't go there again....all on the way to our final destination...success!

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USFBULL 6/1/2010 7:07PM

    Thanks John, and get out of my field, lol, this journey is awesome and some avenues are not the right paths but like you say you look to the left and to the right and there are your sparkfriends chugging along and finding things that don't work and things that work well right along with you. In fact sometimes I think I will just go off and be in misery by myself and the field has a whole bunch of spark people in it waiting to go Do Something. AAAAArrrrgggh! That is when I get to laugh at myself and go for a walk. emoticon emoticon

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KATIEGLEN012 6/1/2010 6:49PM

    The trick is to learn to enjoy the process, because a process it is...not a destination. Some weeks will be better than others, it's all part of the journey!

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DUTCHIEKIWI 6/1/2010 6:41PM

    Once you have tasted success, any personal success that's it... you're hooked.

Nothing tastes sweeter.

I know now how I feel when I achieve personal goals, little ones big ones, there is no way back.

I want more and more and more and more......

The feeling of becoming a winner in our lives journey is just magic!!

Good luck John, as there is NO WAY BACK!!!

Dutchie, with you ALL THE WAY!!!


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EDWINA172 6/1/2010 4:05PM

    "Success is a process that is galvanized by failure." I love that line! I used to be so afraid of failure that I was frozen. I'd never start anything. I was not living. Now, I view "failure" as feedback. It tells me what works, what doesn't and that I still have to keep trying. Because if I don't try, what else is there? Do I stop living?
Keep on writing John. I look forward to reading your status updates and your blogs.

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TERESAAVIL 6/1/2010 2:11PM

  Yes, life comes with struggles and things don't always go smoothly but we can always seek after the positive outlook because we know it's the best way to go.
You let yourself down and feel like you are not moving forward but tomarrow is another day. Bottom line we are all seeking after a better, healthier way of life.
Thank you for your honesty and openness. We are all hanging in there for one another. Isn't that awesome!

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JAE_HENNINGTON 6/1/2010 2:04PM

  There is much to learn on this journey. It isn't all about the number on the scale. One of the biggest wake up calls I got in my life was losing sixty pounds and then not being ready for the way my life changed and how many treated me as a thin person opposed to being fat. I wish there were more emphasis at Sparks for the reality of of living as a thin person.. Loved the blog, spot on as always

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AZCUPCAKE 6/1/2010 1:26PM

    I love that image of 'the empty field called despair.' Don't get me wrong -- I don't LIKE BEING THERE! I just love the visual. I have been there time and time again....all roads seemed to lead back to that darn field! I would like to say I will never pass that way again, but I know I will. And when I do, I will try to see it for what it is - a temporary setting. Not the place I have been assigned to build my little mud hut in! Yes, success does take getting used to. And it is not always what we thought it would be, or it is not what we thought it would "feel" like. I am a great one to sabotage myself when I get close to success, because I think that deep down I FEAR success. After all, once you achieve one success, there are so many other things we could conquer, and it seems overwhelming to me. Besides that old eight-track tape loop that plays over and over: 'If you would have started sooner, look how many MORE things you could have succeeded AT?!' So silly, yet so true. Hang in there, John. You have achieved so much, and become such a blessing to all of your SparkPals! My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hey, at least you SHARED a dessert with Joan instead of wolfing a whole one down yourself! THAT is progress in and of itself, my friend! Just get back on your horse and don't look back! emoticon

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GETFIT2LIVE 6/1/2010 12:06PM

    All I can say is YES! You said it so well. Success is not a destination but a process, and it's one we have to learn to be comfortable with or we will go right back where we started, because THAT is where we have learned to be comfortable. We weren't happy back there where we started, but it was comfortable. Part of this journey must be learning a new way to live and a new place to be comfortable, or we haven't really begun making lifestyle changes. Thanks, John--and congratulations on failing and learning! That's the real mark of success, learning from our failures, getting back up, and moving on from there.


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PRINCESSNURSE 6/1/2010 11:40AM

    Great post. I believe that in most cases the only things worth having are the things that cost us a lot to achieve. My failures in the area of weight loss have cost me a lot--but I have learned and benefited from each of them

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SUZANDALE 6/1/2010 11:15AM

    I can certainly empathize with the bad week last week!! I'm not sure what did it for me, but I am back on track and looking forward to the rest of this week!! You are an amazing person, John, and a great inspiration!! You help me to know that I CAN DO THIS!! So thank you for that!! Keep up the good work!

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ALLISON145 6/1/2010 11:12AM

    This post was very timely for me, John - thank you. Somewhere in the process of celebrating being "ALMOST!!!" to 25 pounds down from my highest weight, I forgot that I'm not an expert at this yet by any stretch of the imagination and I need to maintain my structure and keep my guard up. I can't "just" eat some candy and drink some pop because it "won't hurt." I just can't. Maybe I could if I calculated it into my daily totals, but I didn't. So I shouldn't have, but I did. I got complacent too quickly. This put me up on the scale this week instead of down. Hopefully your "slips" didn't have as big of an impact as mine did!

Here's to both of us stepping it back up this week!

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    As of today John you are back on plan. No more excuses. No looking back. Onward!!

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TNTEACHER2 6/1/2010 9:32AM

    Well, John, you are still my inspiration, and you are correct. Success in not about ALWAYS doing well, and being best. I will look for your blog tomorrow.

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THAMLEY 6/1/2010 9:13AM

    Yep, the journey begins with one step. We chose the right step, but we will get sidetracked. What's wonderful is we have all the support and tools(right here) to get us right back where we need to be. Thanks for the wonderful post--Wishing you a very successful week! Sparkling T

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HDHAWK 6/1/2010 9:04AM

    As always John, wonderful insight.

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JPRICE217 6/1/2010 8:46AM

    Good blog the best of plans can't always go as planed. We need to learn to go with the flow at times.

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The Long Weekend......... "It Aint Over Till It's Over."

Monday, May 31, 2010

We will be headed back to Owensboro this afternoon sometime after a whirlwind visit with all the kids plus a trip to the Indianapolis 500 to sit in temperatures of 93, 95 or 97 degrees depending on which source you choose to believe. It was hot. Thank goodness we sat in the grand stand and were under some cover. I havent been to Indy in fifteen years and I had a good time.

Off to visit our grand daughter just a bit more and then home. I need to run!!! It's been since Friday.

Have a great Monday and TTYL

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AZCUPCAKE 6/1/2010 1:28PM

    We watched the race on TV -- exciting ending! I am glad you had fun! emoticon

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DUTCHIEKIWI 5/31/2010 11:24PM

    Sounds like you're having a great road trip!! Enjoy!



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WANDAH3 5/31/2010 9:02PM

    Garry is so green with envy that you got to actually sit in the stands! lol

He did say that there was a very bad accident near the end of the race. The driver was okay though.

I'm thinking that we just might have to plan a get together at one of the races! lol


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JPRICE217 5/31/2010 6:17PM

    So glad you had a good time have a save trip back home.

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2BEATIT1 5/31/2010 4:07PM

    Always good when you can see the grandkids. Sad to say I will probably have to wait another year before visiting them (3000 miles away).
When you talked of Indy 500, it reminded me of a wedding we attended in southern Ohio. We tried to get a motel room all the way from Kalamazoo and couldn't find any due to the Indy 500. What a nightmare!.
Have a great day and a great God blessed week John

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JUSTFOXXY 5/31/2010 3:22PM

    You do the same!

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CHANGE_4_ME 5/31/2010 2:48PM

    Safe traveles to you.

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KATIEGLEN012 5/31/2010 2:48PM

    Enjoy yourself!

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DEWBERRYJAMIE 5/31/2010 2:29PM

    Glad you had a good time visiting family!!

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    sounds great even in that heat!!

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WISEONE68 5/31/2010 8:36AM

    I haven't seen the Indy 500 in years. Being from Indiana originally, I was kinda shocked when I came down here and it was televised. When I was little, it was blacked out in all of Indiana--I guess they figured everyone in Indiana should ATTEND the race rather than watch it on TV.

It is hot outside for sure. Glad you had time to spend with family...what a great way to celebrate the long weekend!!

Blessings, Friend!!

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HONORINGGOD 5/31/2010 8:20AM

    glad to here your having a good weekend emoticon

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HONORINGGOD 5/31/2010 8:20AM

    glad to here your having a good weekend emoticon

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HDHAWK 5/31/2010 8:20AM

    Sounds like you're having a great weekend. Enjoy it! We were at a cajun festival yesterday and it was 91 and humid. Needless to say I'm sunburned, but it was fun!

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Peace of Mind

Friday, May 28, 2010


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TIME4AFITME 7/4/2010 7:50PM

    Great blog. I get such a great feeling after listening to one of your vlogs or reading a blog. thank you for being you

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KASEYCOFF 6/2/2010 7:09AM

    Good blog, good motivation - great points about commitment and making choices. My favorite quote is attributed to Abraham Lincoln, 'Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.' Yepper, it's all about choices, ain't? :-)

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KLEONIKI 5/30/2010 4:58PM

    hello dear John!
Have a nice week and stay as positive and good as you are!

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MISHKALA 5/30/2010 4:10PM

    Thank you John for the wonderful words of encouragement. It's a long battle and it's easy to get discouraged. Especially when I have hormonal weight gain. You're kind words were just what this tired soul needed. God bless and have a wonderful time with your family! emoticon

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STOLTZY64 5/30/2010 2:39PM

    John...I love your blogs! They keep me encouraged, and they show what a special, sweet person you are. Have a wonderful weekend. You are part of my new family too!!

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WANDAH3 5/30/2010 10:11AM

    Thank you John, your support and encouragement is so appreciated.


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SUZANDALE 5/29/2010 1:01PM

    Thanks again, John!! I have had a really bad week and not sure why! The one thing I have done right is to check in daily with SP! I make sure I read blogs for support, motivation, and encouragement! And you never let me down! LOL! Have fun this weekend! And thanks for being here!
Luv ya!!

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JPRICE217 5/29/2010 8:56AM

    John you are the special one! I am pleased that you think of me as family, because I think of you as my family. Look forward to herring about your weekend. Love jane.

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SHER11 5/29/2010 12:29AM

    Thank you John for your video blog. Always motivational and inspirational.
Hope you have a wonderful weekend.

Love ya too

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XENA1956 5/28/2010 11:05PM

    Great blog. Have a great time at Indy 500, wish I could be there with you. Love the car races, Indy or Nascar. Hope you have Peace of Mind for the rest of your life. And I love the fact that you help children. Another A+ for you emoticon

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HAWAIILINDA 5/28/2010 10:14PM

    thanks once again John, I hope you have an excellent long weekend!

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JUSTFOXXY 5/28/2010 9:43PM

    John, you are a wonderful man.

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PUCCIOLA08 5/28/2010 6:03PM

    Hi John,

I'm brand new to SP, just joined early this morning. You are the first blog that I have subscribed to, I loved the optimism of this blog. I have been feeling down lately, which is when I decided it was time to reach out and seek help, and I found this amazing website and your blog made me seriously smile. I'm 22 and i hope this doesn't sound weird but you remind me so much of my father. He is in Germany right now and has been there for a few months and I miss him like crazy, so needless to say your blogs seem extra special to me :)

I hope to see more of your blogs soon!


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TINKERBELL200 5/28/2010 5:59PM

    Wonderful blog John! Love the optimist creed, first line! Good line to live by! Thank you for the encouragement! Have a great time with the family this weekend! The race sounds very exciting!
And never give up! And yes, we're still here! Two years with Spark's now! I'm so very thankful I found it! God bless!

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ALLISON145 5/28/2010 5:32PM

    I love your video blogs, John. Thank you!


Have a great weekend!


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RONDAJONES 5/28/2010 5:00PM

    Looked up that poem up online...hanging this all over my house! LOL I went to the Indy back in '90...haha. I had just gotten my car back from the shop a week or two earlier, drove there in the middle of the night. I reached the "line" about 5AM and by 7 my car broke down. Cam Shaft bolt cam off. ALLLLLLL those one would help me push it! LOL My friend and I pushed it through the line because I was NOT missing it! I had won tickets from the local radio station. Anyway, we were behind a guy that was leaking a bunch of something out of his ended up being water. He had it packed LITERALLY with ice and beer! LOL Funniest time I have ever had! Enjoy!

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LIFEGENESIS 5/28/2010 3:36PM

    Thank you for your sincere words. ((HUGS)) You are a great motivation/inspiration.

Oh yeah...and one more thing.

I promise.

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KSGROTHE 5/28/2010 3:26PM

    emoticon for this great video blog, John! I may have to listen to this sometimes when I'm feeling down. It's very uplifting!

Have fun in Indy! You'll be within 5 - 10 miles of my parents and sisters! (I grew up about 5 miles or so from the Indy 500 racetrack, but I've never attended the race!) I'll be camping at Big Pine with the boy scouts this weekend.

- Karen

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2BEATIT1 5/28/2010 2:45PM

    Hi John,
You are such an inspiration and encouragement to the rest of us. Thanks for taking the time each day to write your blogs.
As I read your latest one, I felt your thoughts could be summed up in the words of the old hymn ONE DAY AT A TIME by Cristy Lane
May these words encourage you and all your readers to remember we are only promised today. So let us take One Day At A Time. and trust the Lord for His strength.


I'm only human, I'm just a woman.
Help me believe in what I could be
And all that I am.
Show me the stairway, I have to climb.
Lord for my sake, teach me to take
One day at a time.

One day at a time sweet Jesus
That's all I'm asking from you.
Just give me the strength
To do everyday what I have to do.
Yesterday's gone sweet Jesus
And tomorrow may never be mine.
Lord help me today, show me the way
One day at a time.

Do you remember, when you walked among men?
Well Jesus you know if you're looking below
It's worse now, than then.
Cheating and stealing, violence and crime
So for my sake, teach me to take
One day at a time.


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ADVENTUREGIRL04 5/28/2010 2:05PM

    This is such a great blog!! Very inspirational!!!

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TEACHINMOM 5/28/2010 1:34PM

    Great, GREAT blog!! THANKS~I needed to hear this today. I have been here on SP since 2006 (with a two year "disappearing act" somewhere in the middle-but I'm here still!) and I am having problem with my thinking since I am not losing like I did at the beginning. I am really trying to get back on track and stay there and I really need to focus on the fact that I'm still here and still trying and still encouraging others as you mentioned. Anyway, this is the first of your blogs I have watched and I very much enjoyed and appreciated it. Have a fabulous, safe weekend!!!

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ELIZABETH525 5/28/2010 1:27PM

    This reminds me alot of this quote I heard years ago:

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that others won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It's not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fears, our presence automatically liberates others."

I don't know how many times in the past 2 months I have had bad days and thought about NOT logging in, NOT logging foods, NOT putting down everything I ate out of guilty or shame...then I figured...everyone has bad days. I am strong enough to admit fault, to say yesterday is the past and I can make the best of today! It is those that stay around, that come up to a wall and instead of going "Oh well, guess this is the end" they say "Now how can we get around or get over this."

You are one of those people John. You see the solutions and not the problems.

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HDHAWK 5/28/2010 12:50PM

    Loved this blog John! Have a wonderful weekend and enjoy every minute of it!

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OPERATIONMILF 5/28/2010 11:20AM

    I have joined and quit sparkpeople about a million times. Maybe a little less =P

So, I asked myself why do I keep coming back? The reason is I really love to quit and I hate to fail. Temporarily quitting is a relief. I allow myself what I temporarily see as freedom. Then I realize the cage of fat and unhealthiness I have embedded myself in, and failure mode sets in.

I am here this time to not allow myself to quit. If I am doing bad, or I binge, or I don't do that workout, I will ask for support instead of running away from myself! You can't run from yourself. You can't blame life. I just love that you said hills and valleys. I need to ride this out. Thank you for reminding me about peace of mind.

I want to be special too! And for this moment I feel special because I am here. I purchased a pedometer on Amazon this morning. I have never really truly sparked. I think now it is time. :)Thanks. Enjoy your grandaughter and holiday weekend!

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HEALTHYGRAM123 5/28/2010 11:03AM

  Hi John! I am a 52 year old grandmother of 3 little girls. I am 5' 4", and weigh 195 lbs. I have Type 2 Diabetes, and am a smoker. When a friend told me about, I was feeling very overwhelmed with all that I had to do to become a healthy ME! In searching for support, I came across some of your postings. I want you to know that you have given me hope, motivation, and a sense that I may be able to do this. Starting on Tuesday, I will begin my program to a better life. I will be checking your site daily. I hope, knowing how much you are helping others ( obviously, I am not the only one ), helps you with YOUR motivation! Have a wonderful weekend with your family, and I look forward to Tuesday! Sincerely, Ruth

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GERIKRAGH 5/28/2010 10:58AM

    Right on again!

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GETFIT2LIVE 5/28/2010 10:46AM

    Thanks for sharing, John--I love to hear your voice and see your smiling face on your video blogs. I love that tenet; it's one I've written down to remind myself. Enjoy the long weekend with family (it's the best part of these holiday weekends, isn't it?) as well as the race, and keep pressing on with that C25K training!


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KATIEGLEN012 5/28/2010 9:52AM

    Have a wonderful, fun and love. How could it get any better?

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MARCYNA 5/28/2010 9:46AM

    Thanks John. To tell you the truth sometimes it was hard for me to understand your video blogs...I'm awfully out of practice and you know I'm not a I 've lost my patience with my collegue, who's been rude to me today.
But this time it was different: my listening today ' s been wonderfu l... plus I've made a committment not to lose my peace of mind for no reasons.
PS The TShirt you're wearing in the video is the EXACT color of the costume I'll be wearing for my dance show....hope you'll wear it next Friday.........I'm so sorry for the silly remark!!!!!

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BRYLIA 5/28/2010 9:34AM

    Have a great Memorial Day weekend... Enjoy good times with family especially that Granddaughter of yours and the race. Sounds like a fun filled weekend.

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    What a wonderful tenet to start the day with. I am going to promise myself this every morning--I bet it's really helpful with stress control!

Have a wonderful holiday weekend and enjoy the race!!

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EDWINA172 5/28/2010 8:29AM

    Have a wonderful weekend! Be safe.

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