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Heroes.......... Like You!!!

Friday, May 07, 2010

I am my own hero and you are yours.

As we slog and slosh through our days and pin our hopes on saints and other sinners, when all is said and done the real hero in my life is me and you in yours. We never see it that way. We tend to compare ourselves to other people and when we do, we inevitably come up short in our performance. It’s because our life is not their life, plain and simple. We benchmark our activity against what we “are supposed to be” and rather than savor the very unique perspective we provide the universe. We dwell on all our mistakes and shortcomings until we reach a moment where we throw our hands up in despair and exist in some sort of funk that slowly kills our spirit.

We are never good enough and eventually neither are our heroes. Whether they be in sports, politics, or entertainment they possess the same flaws, the same weaknesses and the same failures we do. Theirs are simply magnified by the large stage they command. When they finally do fail, we abandon them and curse the fates. We mutter to ourselves “If they can’t do it, neither can I. What’s the use?”
Become your own hero.

Look at your life and chronicle the adversity you have overcome in your life. Look at the sum total of your journey as you sit here this morning and then pin a huge medal on yourselves. No one but you knows the triumphs and the tragedies. No one but you knows how hard you may have struggled to reach a goal that others may have found easy. Remember how good it felt when you reached it? Remember the enthusiasm, the confidence? You were ready to slay the world.

Become your own hero.

“But John, there are people who have endured a lot more in their life than I have in mine. I just don’t feel right standing here with my chest puffed out taking all the credit when so many people suffer.”

No problem is a small problem if it is your problem.

Remember how you struggled with the same four or five pounds in what seemed like an eternity? Recall how you persevered and triumphed? No one but you knows how difficult that journey was and no one but you knew how sweet the victory was
Maybe you were the last person at the gym before they turned out the lights or you kept going to zumba until your legs didn’t end up in a tangled mess. You strutted to the car then, didn’t you?

Be your own hero.

It may be the triumph of working out five days in a row even if it was only for ten minutes a day. That was your marathon. That was your victory. Your victories are so personal and so dear that you should be proud of each one of them and let the world know how good you feel.

When you and I become our own heroes we become positive examples. When we become positive examples to other people we encourage them to become heroic in their own right. It is one continuous positive circle.

When I make the choice to overcome adversity or destroy an obstacle that is in my path, I am providing myself with the motivation and inspiration to continue my journey and be a hero.

Guilt is never, ever a positive motivator and despite what some well intentioned people might say, there is no such thing as “good guilt.” Never feel guilty when you fall, wear it as a badge of honor like veterans of so many wars do. Grizzled, battered, and bowed at times, they move forward confident that the next battle will produce victory because their past failures provided wisdom for the future, not guilt.

They are heroes, just like me.

Just like you

  
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TENDERLOVE1 5/12/2010 12:17PM

    You certainly have a way with words! Thank you for that! I will be my own hero!

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ROEANDGO 5/11/2010 3:04PM

    Wonderful !! I WILL be my own hero! Thanks!

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    what an emoticonblog! emoticon

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NEEDTOLOSE100LB 5/11/2010 1:14PM

    Thank you for reminding us how great we each are.

Laurie.

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REENSKI 5/11/2010 12:45PM

    Thank you for reminding all of us we do big things every day.
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SGTSUNNY 5/11/2010 10:05AM

    Thank you for the reminder of who we are! Great blog.

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DARE.DIVA 5/11/2010 5:12AM

    This blog really spoke to me. I hope you don't mind, but I'd like to copy it for my motivation wall and sparkpage (with credit!) cause its one of the best things I've ever read.

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HEARTSTOPPER 5/11/2010 12:26AM

   
Great blog!:)

HS

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PINETREEGIRL 5/10/2010 11:19PM

    Here's to overcoming adversity! I love it.
You are doing an amazing job! It's exciting to see.
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JCDROLSHAGEN 5/10/2010 10:33PM

    Go John! Go me too! emoticon

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HDHAWK 5/10/2010 8:18PM

    Fantastic blog!

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TEENY_BIKINI 5/10/2010 7:59PM

    Absolutely fabulous! You just know how to rock a blog! Woot!!!

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CAROLDEDOO 5/10/2010 7:07PM

    emoticon emoticonBlog. Well written. A good Thought-for-the-day. Glad you shared it with us.

Keep on Sparking.

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STACYLEIGH09 5/10/2010 4:39PM

    Great blog!

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MYOWNHERO 5/10/2010 3:31PM

    Of course I loved this blog...

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STORMTMB 5/10/2010 2:56PM

    A friend reminded me not too long ago to never look to another person because Jesus is really the only model that we should ever follow. The only Perfect One to be our guide. Other heroes let us down. He is always there.

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OLYGIRL1 5/10/2010 1:10PM

    Thank you for the reminder. It was great!

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NICOLE.ALICIA 5/10/2010 9:32AM

    thank you for posting. Very inspirational

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EVER-HOPEFUL 5/8/2010 6:22AM

    emoticonwell said.we must be our own heroes but we can also rely on other people to be our heroes and inspiration as well.anything that keeps our motivation and spark going.you are also one of my heroes as to me a heroe is not only someone to look up to it is someone that leaves an impact or inspires.you inspire me to be a better me and to see myself as being my own hero.thanks for that.

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KATIEGLEN012 5/8/2010 3:48AM

    We are all doing our best at any given minute...sometimes our best is not what we had hoped it would be. Tomorrow, or even the next hour, is another opportunity to work at it again. We'll be ok, we will do this.

PS Just watched your video blog. We can totally do everything, but life is about choices. If I choose not to participate in something, I can not whine about it not happening!

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DUTCHIEKIWI 5/7/2010 11:57PM

    I agree with you, and what a great feeling to arrive at the moment in our lives where we realise to that 'yes, we are the heroes of our own lives'

And even though you are the hero in your life...

you are also 'every bit the hero' in mine!!

Love ya

Dutchie

( from far far away on a holiday hehe ;0) )



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GEEMAWEST 5/7/2010 9:14PM

    Thanks again for such an uplifting blog!

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GREENCAT1 5/7/2010 8:31PM

    John, I agree - I think for so many people, diet is associated with being 'good' or 'bad'. When you are changing your lifestyle to work towards fitness you have to look at those setbacks as "wisdom flashes". Then, everything you do is an opportunity to learn, grow and understand yourself. Thanks for the blog!

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JPRICE217 5/7/2010 7:24PM

    Once again you hit the nail on the head. I have never felt like a hero but we are all one. emoticon

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SNORRIS40 5/7/2010 6:17PM

    I am my own worst enemy. Now it is time to be a Hero! Thank you for the encouragement. emoticon

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SNORRIS40 5/7/2010 6:16PM

    I am my own worst enemy. Now it is time to be a Hero! Thank you for the encouragement. emoticon

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AZCUPCAKE 5/7/2010 5:48PM

    You really know how to turn a negative into a positive, and turn on a high-powered light into a corner of the brain that LOVES the dark and the weeping, wailing ghosts that live there! You are a gifted writer, but not only that, you really understand the human psyche! I am going to make a real effort to try and stand taller now because of your words. You are so right -- small problems are still PROBLEMS! Thank you sharing your generous, compassionate spirit with all of us!

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ROTTLADY 5/7/2010 5:32PM

    I do feel like a battle weary veteran. When do I succeed and get discharge papers. HAHA I feel like this is a life sentence .Feeling tired and slightly defeated and battle weary. I know that tomorrow will bring a new continuation of the battle and helpfully a victory.Thanks for the motivational kick start. I know I will have a victory and soon.

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GIRANIMAL 5/7/2010 4:35PM

    Thanks, John, for one more great blog! Another good friend always reminds me not to play the Other People game. And I just did it this week! So what if other people, who don't have chronic pain, can work out harder than I can? I do my best and, every once in a while, then some. That DOES make me my own hero! I have NO examples of good health in my life - but I found a way to learn anyway. And do my best to live it. Yay for me!

Now, onto that guilt thing. Oh boy, is that one huge for me. I am sad that is true for so many of us. I don't know where I learned it, but it's time to unlearn it. And I can and will. Because I am my own hero!

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IDALUKE 5/7/2010 3:13PM

    Thanks John I needed to hear this today, Not a good day , You got such great advice and wisdom. Thanks again John emoticon emoticon

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    emoticon I needed to hear that today. emoticon

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TINKERBELL200 5/7/2010 1:07PM

    Thanks John, You are exactly right I am my own hero! And tell me why do we compare ourselves to others???? What a good question!! After all we aren't them. Why would we think they would be and do things the same way we do?
Thanks for sharing your thoughts my friend. You likewise are a hero!
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ASHARON 5/7/2010 12:21PM

    Love this post!

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JAE_HENNINGTON 5/7/2010 12:01PM

  John, you are always right on the money. This time though I am one step ahead of you. I am a hero, my hero. I have come through things that most people would have crumbled under. I have endured immeasurable hardship and sadness, disappointment and defeat. My never give up and never give in attitude has helped me to endure. Each new day is an opportunity to bring me that much closer to my dreams coming true. I have learned so much in life about me and my circumstances and how to deal with them. One thing I know for sure it is people like you who make the journey that much more enjoyable. Have a great day...my spark friend

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PAULA3420 5/7/2010 11:50AM

    A Spark friend shared your blog with me. IT WAS EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED!! emoticon And, I plan to put it into practice today. I love this and THANKS John for the reminder, to Celebrate ME!!

Great blog!!

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SHEILAKHS1 5/7/2010 11:05AM

    John I love your positive outlook...you really make me think hard about the person I am and it makes me want to work harder for the things i want to accomplish in life

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SANDYK4BAMA 5/7/2010 10:39AM

    Boy, you are so right! When I think of some of the things I've been through, and yet, here I am, alive, whole, relatively healthy, working-out, making a difference in my own and other people's lives, maybe I should give myself a medal. It's been no cakewalk, my life, but somehow, with God's divine love and incredible grace, I'm still here, still making it through life's struggles, still managing to smile (at least sometimes), and still loving the one true God, and still giving Him the credit for giving me the strength, courage, and wisdom that I need to go on.

Have a GREAT day, John!
SuperHugs to you!
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PRINCESSNURSE 5/7/2010 10:20AM

    This post is so great! It comes at the perfect time for me---tomorrow I run my first half marathon--I AM MY OWN HERO! (check out the blog I wrote about the experience!)

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JENNY888 5/7/2010 10:08AM

    Great post. It puts things into prospective.

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NANASNOW 5/7/2010 9:50AM

    I wish I could put my thoughts out there the way you! Thank you for being my hero too! I will stand a little taller today because of you!

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MICKEYMAX 5/7/2010 9:13AM

    You have a great way of looking at things. I appreciate your insights!

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SPARKLERFRIEND 5/7/2010 9:12AM

    I agree! emoticon

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JUDIL62 5/7/2010 9:01AM

    Very well said. This is a skill I'm working on diligintly (sp?)

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AMABILE75 5/7/2010 8:15AM

    emoticon John. You have once again given me something to ponder. :)

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ROSE5328 5/7/2010 8:14AM

    After wallowing in a funk for the last few weeks I really needed to hear this!

Thank you!

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How We Define Ourselves

Thursday, May 06, 2010


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TENDERLOVE1 5/12/2010 12:33PM

    Thank you John!

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HDHAWK 5/10/2010 8:35PM

    I'm so glad I stumbled across your page today John. Thank you!

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DAVEINSEOUL 5/9/2010 6:23AM

    Love your video blog - pretty awesome!

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GRAMHIFF 5/8/2010 8:27AM

    HOW BEAUTIFULY SAID,WHAT AN INSPERATION YOU ARE I REALLY NEEDED THAT TODAY. emoticon. THANK YOU

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ANNE-ELIZ 5/8/2010 2:30AM

    Good Job!

Yours is the first video blog that I've watched the whole way through, without stopping.

Good distinction between ability and choice.

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KRISTIEE1 5/8/2010 12:30AM

    great video blog john!!! thanks i needed this to lift my day and yes WE CAN DO IT!!!!i sent your blog to my sister also a sparker im sure she will enjoy it toooo. emoticon

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AZCUPCAKE 5/7/2010 7:25PM

    You really know how to turn a person's attitude around! How blessed I feel to have been tuned in to The Power of John! emoticon

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LAWRALOO 5/7/2010 6:34PM

    YOU are an inspiration!
And an excellent speaker! I'm currently working on becoming a better public speaker. I've always been horrible at it because I haven't had the self confidence to do so. I was always afraid of what everyone else was thinking.
I'm doing much better at not caring what people think.

I grinned when you said 'What about you? How do you define yourself?'
Because how I define myself today makes me happy. A year ago, I didn't want to define myself. I was happy being undefined, because if I defined myself, I'd have to admit the truth to the most important person. Me.
I like the truth now. I like who I've become. I like how I define myself

Thank you for posting this :)

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ZRAMOMMA 5/7/2010 5:25PM

    You are a great speaker and i notice that you write like you speak. I think that is a great quality. Thanks for your never ending wisdom. Keep it up!

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GETFIT2LIVE 5/7/2010 9:44AM

    John, thank you for once again saying what I really needed to hear today. We do need to be our own heroes and celebrate the successes and even failures along the way. We often learn more from the failures and struggles than we do the successes. Well said!

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CINDYMCD1 5/7/2010 9:22AM

    Wow! Good thing you were at a boring meeting yesterday! Nice blog! :)

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JURI62 5/7/2010 6:06AM

    Well said! Thank you.

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BEEBEE73 5/7/2010 1:59AM

    Thank you John, I was just at the point of giving up. I wrote a very negative blog this morning. (I'm not able to express myself as nicely as you). I say many times "AH, I can't do that". I have very low self-esteem. Why, I don't know. I think I just need to tell myself that I'm a good person, and I can do what I set my mind to. I guess we need to talk to ourselves alot. Anyway, thanks, your words were very encouraging and up building. And this morning I really really needed that.

Betty

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HAWAIILINDA 5/6/2010 10:50PM

    John, glad your blogs and you are part of my amazing journey. I'm learning a lot of good things from you!

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TEDYBEAR2838 5/6/2010 9:58PM

    WOW John,what a great blog. I sure needed that today. I'm on the I Can't or I mean I won't say that now. It is MY CHOICE, you are so right.

So I Choose to succeed. Boy, It was a day of UNWISE choices. SO today is done, I'm on my way on this journey with you again.

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TINAFITE 5/6/2010 3:38PM

    Beautifully motivational blog! Thank you!

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GREYGOSSAMER 5/6/2010 3:22PM

    Um, how do you do post a video blog? I can NEVER DO THAT! You must be MUCH BETTER AT THAT than I ever will be.... :)

But seriously,... can you tell me how? I wanna try and do one!

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TRISH2229 5/6/2010 2:13PM

    I read this quote recently and liked it so much I had to write it down. "your life flows in the directions of your most dominant thoughts." Thought you might it too!
Great blog!

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NEWLIFE4ME09 5/6/2010 10:55AM

    Thank you John, and thanks for being such a great Motivator. You are so right and I choose to lose weight and be happier about myself.

We can do this

Have a wonderful Day

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SANDYK4BAMA 5/6/2010 10:41AM

    Thank you, John, for your input! You are SO inspiring! I'm so glad I found you on here, because when I feel down and don't "choose to" exercise, I read things you've written and said, and I'm just ready to go after that! You are a great motivator! You make me proud to be a member of SparkPeople! I'm sending you hugs today! Hope your Thursday is wonderful!!
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MUSTANG_SALLY2 5/6/2010 10:25AM

    Thanks for the reminder!

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JAE_HENNINGTON 5/6/2010 10:18AM

  Thanks John, your blogs are always so timely. I wrestle with this very issue and have been working through them. I find myself at times thinking I can't do something. Because of a lifetime of negative upbringing it has been easy to fall into a pattern of thinking I can't instead of I am choosing not to. Now I have to constantly have to ask myself what choice do I want to make. A friend once told me the choice you make will be the decision that will become the easiest thing to do the next time. Once again your blog is right on the money

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STORMTMB 5/6/2010 10:09AM

    Another good one, John!

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MARTINT011 5/6/2010 9:37AM

  thanks for the blog.

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MARTINT011 5/6/2010 9:35AM

  Thanks for the blog. Thanks for the insight. ABout how a year ago you were just sitting around watching T.V. and now you and wife are going to the gym. Now making choices about healthy eating. I did enjoy reading this blog. I felt better about getting more active and watching what I eat. Got to stay motivated and it helps to watch the blogs. emoticon

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MOMMABOF7 5/6/2010 9:13AM

    I can't think you enough! I look forward to your blogs everyday now. You are very gifted !!!
I have been trying to move from walking to jogging. I am making some progress, but after your blog today I am wondering if it it a physical or mental block that is stopping me. As a child I was always called clumbsy and "slow as christmas" I hated running because of that. Today I am going to define myself as a jogger! I am headed out in a few mins to beat my last time...

Thanks John!!! I also loved the blog yesterday about excuses. You are really speaking to my heart
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SPARKLERFRIEND 5/6/2010 9:01AM

    Thanks for sharing in this format and for the encouragement you passed to all of your listeners! emoticon

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BAM0827 5/6/2010 8:57AM

    I totally agree with you. I hear "can't" often and I just want to say you can you just won't.

I hope this blog is voted most popular just so others can share in your wisdom on this topic! Thanks for the live discussion - it was a great medium for the topic!

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FREDIA2 5/6/2010 8:30AM

    THe thoughts were just what I needed.

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ROSE5328 5/6/2010 8:29AM

    Thank you John! I have stayed on plan all week and I stepped on the scale this morning and was up a pound. Negative thoughts took over, "I'm never going to be able to lose this weight." "I'm a big fat blob." "I'll always be fat, why do I even try." Well, the list is endless.

I really needed to hear this this morning. I need to concentrate on my successes and redefine myself.

Thank you!

Rose

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FANAMAMA 5/6/2010 8:26AM

    Thanks John! An awesome way to start my day. I CAN ... I can run that 5K. I just mapped it out in my neighborhood.

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ELIZABETH525 5/6/2010 8:25AM

    Wow I really enjoyed this! It is so very true that people do not do things because they are scared of failign before they even try. The way I see it...they are right...they will never fail if they never try...but they will never succeed either. People do not take chances in life because they choose not to. People KNOW that eating an entire pizza , an entire bag of chips is unhealthy but they make that choice. What defines me: being a mother, a wife, a sister, a daughter. Being someone who walks at the park. Being someone who loves to write and loves to inspire people. Being someone who will not lose focus of my goals! Thank you!

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MICKEYMAX 5/6/2010 8:23AM

    I love your positive attitude, and willingness to share it!

Thanks and happy Thursday to you, too!

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DOLLBABE56 5/6/2010 8:20AM

    You know, John, just seeing and listening to you is a huge motivation. As I watched and listened, I was thinking about everything you said. I realize just how negative I have been. The trick is turning that around. I am trying to be positive. It is not always possible, but I am getting better at it.

Have a happy, positive day!

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Cheating ME

Wednesday, May 05, 2010

Terry and I had been talking for close to an hour. He had told me fifteen times how his lack of success in life stemmed from a verbally abusive father. Fifteen times, I know because I was keeping track. I’m not sure whether it was out of frustration or genius but I put my hand out in a motion to stop him.

“When’s the last time your dad ragged on you?” I asked.

Terry moved some papers around on his desk, looked at me and in one of those sotto voices we all get from time to time replied “Well, he’s been dead for over twenty years, so I guess twenty years.”

“And you have been using that as a reason to not be successful?”

He looked at me a minute, sorta with that hurt puppy dog look.

“I make excuse too, ya know, probably more than you. Lemme tell you a story.” I began.

Monday morning was my last Ab-Blast class for two weeks. I could tell the instructor was frustrated with us because she kept repeating the same instruction to us over and over again:

“People, keep your heinies down please!!!”

Finally she told us to stop, sit on our mats and look at her.

“If you don’t do it right people, you are only cheating yourself!”

It was like the heavens opened for me. (I still couldn’t keep my rear end down completely, but I am working on that.) I can use anything I want to motivate me and help me reach my success and I can use anything I want to prevent me from reaching my success. I am only cheating myself.

How many of you write me and tell me that skinny or fat you will still be my friend? Joan will still love me. I have built in excuses if I choose to take them.

I have built in reasons to be successful also. I have a good food plan, a solid exercise program and a clear set of goals and objectives. If I choose to “fudge” on them, well I am only cheating myself. It’s easy for me to blame everything from the alignment of the planets to the New York Yankees for my failure. In the end it’s only me that determines my success.

Yes, we have obstacles and there are mean and cruel people in our path who for whatever reason do their best to stop our forward progress.
I keep a button in my brief case. I have carried it for close to twenty years. It’s one of those “not buttons” You know the button with the little circle and the line through. The writing beneath is says “Them.”

You know “Them” they are the people we blame for our failures. Their cousins are “those people.”

The button was given to me by a friend I met in the late eighties. She carried a purse full of them with her. She said she refused to give anything or anyone power over her. She gave me the button and then told me the story that went with it.
She was walking home from work one evening. It was a nice night, sorta like the ones we have this time of year. She lived in a suburb of Washington DC. Three blocks from home she was attacked, repeatedly by a group of men. She was raped repeatedly and left clothes torn and in a coma, in the gutter. A man found her six hours later when he got his morning paper. She was told it was a miracle she survived the attack.

She suffered organic brain damage because of the trauma to her head. That was minor compared to the emotional horror she endured. She didn’t work for two years. She told me when I met her she was paralyzed, both physically and emotionally. Until this day, she walks with a slight limp in her gait and has problems putting a complete thought together at times.

One day she was in a small shop and saw the button and she told me it was like an angel touched her on the shoulder. She purchased all the buttons the store had, went home and decided it was time to start living again. She went back to college, not just any college, Georgetown mind you, and graduated with honors. When I met her she was working for the US Government in their state department. Since then she has started a successful business of her own.

I keep that button with me. Maybe I don’t look at it enough, but yesterday morning after I left Terry I put it on my lapel to remind me, that the only person who controls what happens to me is me.

I can make all the excuses I want to but when I do then “They” win. “They” are right. Abusive parents, spouses, siblings or friends. The moment I let “them” gain control of how I live and how I react, then Brandy, my most amazing fitness instructor is right.

I am only cheating myself.

  
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TAMMYFOX3 5/9/2010 12:13PM

    Thank you for sharing this!!!! Boy i need to remember this i am cheating my self by letting the people around me control me!!! I am in control of my self and need to practice it more!!! Man what a moving story to get me thinking!!!! emoticon

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KARENB137 5/8/2010 12:59PM

    This is an excellent illustration of the power of the human spirit to overcome - if we only claim it. Kind of reminds me a little of the Eleanor Roosevelt quote, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." I love it. God bless this woman. And thank you for sharing.

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MARTINT011 5/8/2010 9:46AM

  thanks for the blog post. Yes, the title got to me. Only cheating myself. Will get a button for them and other people too. emoticon

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GRACEISENUF 5/8/2010 1:50AM

    Words that can change a mindset...FANTASTIC! The blame game never helps anyone suceed.

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LAWRALOO 5/7/2010 6:26PM

    John you continue to astound and amaze me.
Thank you for sharing this. I'm going to create a mental button.


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JCDROLSHAGEN 5/7/2010 5:42PM

    If you live in the NYC metro area, you could blame the Yankees!! LOL. Good blog about responsibility for your own actions. Can't blame my daughter for the pizza I ate! (but I can logged it and eat some healthy with like a salad and fruit to complete the meal) Then I can go the gym and do some healthy exercise to work it off! Nice reflection today. Thanks.

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JCDROLSHAGEN 5/7/2010 5:42PM

    If you live in the NYC metro area, you could blame the Yankees!! LOL. Good blog about responsibility for your own actions. Can't blame my daughter for the pizza I ate! (but I can logged it and eat some healthy with like a salad and fruit to complete the meal) Then I can go the gym and do some healthy exercise to work it off! Nice reflection today. Thanks.

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ANNABELLA007 5/7/2010 5:25PM

    This got me thinking a lot. Thank you. emoticon

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UNSTOPPABLE_ 5/7/2010 5:19PM

    Wonderful blog! I've lived that way for a long time, sometimes I still react that way. SP has been a great place for me because I learned that I AM in control of my life...No one else, Just me!

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PSSN4FITNESS 5/7/2010 3:09PM

    This is truly a beautiful story encompassing so many of life's important lessons. Thank you so much for sharing. emoticon

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JENREDDIG 5/7/2010 2:34PM

    This is beautiful. Thank you so much.

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SUNQWEEN21 5/7/2010 2:27PM

    I clicked the "like" button only because there wasn't a "love" button. Awesome blog. Thank you for reminding me that no one is in control of me except me.

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SPARK-A-LICIOUS 5/7/2010 12:59PM

    Awesome blog! I have to remember that everytime I decide to go have a cookie instead of something "nutritious" that I too am ONLY cheating myself.

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LUCKYONE60 5/7/2010 11:10AM

    Whoa. So right on. Thanks for sharing this inspirational post.

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STACYLEIGH09 5/7/2010 9:51AM

    Great blog! Thanks for sharing.

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JUSTFOXXY 5/7/2010 9:21AM

    Very nice and very profound.

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LUSHON 5/6/2010 11:50PM

    Thanks for a great reminder. emoticon

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MAWRTIAN 5/6/2010 11:06PM

    Thank you for the inspiration. I'm only just starting this and I feel so disorganized but I know the tools are here and all I need to do is learn and keep with it and things will get better!

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ANNE-ELIZ 5/6/2010 9:44PM

    Great insight. We are and can be only responsible for our own actions and not of anyone else. We can't necessarily stop people (or life) from doing bad and even horrible things, but we do have control of how we respond to what happens to us.

Thanks for the reminder.

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CHRISTYK08 5/6/2010 9:08PM

    Amazing. Right on. Thanks for sharing.

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MYOWNHERO 5/6/2010 8:17PM

    So inspiring and so true!

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LIZZYMITCH 5/6/2010 7:04PM

    This is so me. Not everyday. Not all the time. But I get into deep "blaming them" cycles, and they are so hard to break out of. It gets so hard to remember that these people have no tangible effect on you, and can they can't actually stop you from doing what you want.

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IRENE100 5/6/2010 6:30PM

  What a beautiful post!! You are so right too. I'm a psychiatric nurse and I see way too many folks playing the blame game and the only ones that they are hurting is themselves. Very profound. As I tell my clients the minute you assume responsibility for yourself is the minute you take control of your life and can make change for the better. Your change. Thank you for your inspirational message. I enjoyed it.

Irene

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TUTUNAN 5/6/2010 6:09PM

    You hit the nail on the head with this. Thanks.

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ADVENTUREGIRL04 5/6/2010 5:00PM

    You're blog was awesome!! Keep them coming!!

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SNORRIS40 5/6/2010 4:04PM

    Thank you for this truly inspiring blog entry. It really is all about seeing the door closed or seeing the window opened.

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NIKERUNNER 5/6/2010 3:27PM

    Wow! What a great story, and great motivation! Thanks for that...it's been a little bit of a hard day for me, but I just needed a little push to get past it. Thanks for that! emoticon

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BRANDI.FEY 5/6/2010 3:22PM

    Such motivational stories. And humbling. Thank you for sharing!

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MOMGOODIE 5/6/2010 3:21PM

    Thank You! You really have me thinking of what is holding me back from changing my life. You are right is is Me!

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TABATHAMAX1 5/6/2010 3:03PM

    Thank you for that empowering post. emoticon

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PRAYINGSUZIE 5/6/2010 2:56PM

    I really needed to read this today! Thank you

Suzie

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RAINDROP2000 5/6/2010 2:34PM

    Excellent blog....THANKS!

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SHEILAKHS1 5/6/2010 2:28PM

    this was a great blog. too many times i blame everything for why i am not succeeding i need to remember i am the only one who can do it...no one can do it for me...Thank You again i am going to add you too my friends i really need a few positive people to keep me accountable

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STARRYK 5/6/2010 2:27PM

    Thank you! I think I needed to read this to hear it said - you are only cheating yourself...

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TIFFANYBAGNAS 5/6/2010 2:19PM

    Oh my god!!! That was exactly what I needed to read today. You could never imagine how much you have helped me. I have been in such a rut and blaming everything from my family, to PMS on why I wasn't doing well. I am ready to take control. Thank you so much for your inspiration

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MARCYNA 5/6/2010 2:01PM

    WoW, again you give me food for thought.
Amazing, John.
You were created to make us think. And change for the better.
I just needed this!!!!
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LEEANNE1980 5/6/2010 1:49PM

    I really, really, really needed this, today. I guess God was listening after all. Thank You! emoticon

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STARGIRL66 5/6/2010 1:40PM

    Thanks for sharing a great blog, I needed it today! emoticon

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VICUNJA 5/6/2010 1:34PM

    How very true - and how very funny that infidelity to the self was the very topic I just blogged about! Just as you describe so very well, 482 days and 110lbs down the line, I can truly say the greatest transformation is the one, which has taken place within.

Thanks for sharing. Love the button.

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LOSINGERIN 5/6/2010 1:32PM

  Thanks for sharing. It is a great reminder that we are only in control of own actions. Emotions are one thing -- what we do about them is quite another.

I will keep the image of your button with me.

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REACHNDREAM 5/6/2010 1:27PM

    WOW!!!! I really needed to read that today. emoticon

Thanks for sharpening my focus and reminding me how important I am no matter what.

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CHERRIERUNS 5/6/2010 12:45PM

    very nice. You are right, we have to reach a moment where we accept and own our own 'stuff' and no longer blame the things that go on in our lifes.

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This was really inspirational...thank you!

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SMOOCHIEFACE 5/6/2010 12:26PM

    Thank you.

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MYREALANA 5/6/2010 11:57AM

    You're so right. I often have to remind myself that the only person who loses if I cheat on my diet, or on my workout is me.

There's no prize for being "The Biggest Lier"

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MORTICIAADDAMS 5/6/2010 11:43AM

    Great blog. My mantra is we choose to be happy or we choose to be miserable. As a nurse I saw lots of people coping with life threatening illnesses who were happy and people with seemingly insignificant problems who weren't. Life is to short to waste it being miserable. I tell people to stop blaming and start living.

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LUNORZAHRA 5/6/2010 11:39AM

    Great! Thanks for sharing that ... it's a keeper!

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SKINNYMINNIE25 5/6/2010 11:21AM

    The victim's mantra:
Look what you did to me.
Look what you didn't do for me.
It's not my fault.

We all have choices. Thanks for sharing yours.

Skinny
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    Don't cheat on yourself!!!! Doesn't get ya anywhere!!! emoticon

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Gone With The Wind

Tuesday, May 04, 2010

I have a full day in the car, with three or four stops over the next ten hours. I'll be back later this evening.

I hope everyone has a great day and thank you so much for all your love, friendship and support.

You are a great bunch of people



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Love

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MORTICIAADDAMS 5/6/2010 11:34AM

    Car days. Ugh. I hope you eat on plan.

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    Hope you had a great day (even in the car). Remember to stretch really well when you get home. That will help those sore muscles from sitting so long!

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ROTTLADY 5/4/2010 7:52PM

    Take frequent breaks while on your travel to prevent back issues and drink your fluids as you travel through the day. Stick to your menu for the day and stay focused. emoticon. Have a good day.

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LILYBELLE8 5/4/2010 3:52PM

    Hii - from your title "Gone With the Wind" I thought you might live in Idaho - where our winds have been up to 75 mph the last few days - hurricane speed, in the valleys of the Rocky Mountains? Makes no sense - but beyond that, have a good trip.

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BMRBUDDY 5/4/2010 12:15PM

    Have a great day and will be looking forward to your blog!

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IMJUSTDUCKIE 5/4/2010 11:42AM

    Have a wonderful day!

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    Have a great day!

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    Ha ha, I love your title!! Have a great day!
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TRISH2229 5/4/2010 10:40AM

    Drink lots of water to stay hydrated! Be blessed!

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    Have a happy and healthy day!

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YOYONOMORE1 5/4/2010 10:18AM

    John with all the traveling you do I still say "On The Road Again" should be your theme song, lol. Have a blessed day and safe traveling.

Hugs,
Shirl

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    Enjoy the wind blowing through your hair, Dude! emoticon

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DOLLBABE56 5/4/2010 9:50AM

    Have a good day and be safe.

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    I hope you have a happy and productive day. emoticon

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    Have a great day, drive safe and "make great decisions" emoticon


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    Have a wonderful day! Be blessed in your business!

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    Have a safe drive!!

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    Have a safe drive & a wonderful day! emoticon

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1888MICHELLE 5/4/2010 8:47AM

    Stop and stretch as often as you can.

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    drive safe!

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    Drive safely!

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Finding Imperfection and Then Smiling

Monday, May 03, 2010

If you have followed the adventures of this over weight middle aged traveler, you will know that for the last two days I had checked into the Anxiety Hotel, penthouse suite, for what apprised to be an extended stay. If you haven’t read Saturday and Sundays blogs I’ll wait here while you do.

Good you’re back!!!

Without the guidance and wisdom my wife provided me I might still be stuck in my gloom. As we were getting ready to go to the gym yesterday afternoon I was struck with another feeling. It was one of relief. I’d like to tell you that the relief came from understanding where I had stumbled or failed. I’d like to tell you it came from reinforcing my plan so that I could minimize future weight gains. That’s what I’d like to tell you.

As I stuffed my back pack I was hit with this wonderful sense of relief that I no longer had to be perfect. See, I have had fourteen consecutive weight losses for sixty pounds before yesterday. That works out to around three pounds per week. Every time I would lose some weight I wouldn’t do the happy dance, there was part of me that went “Oh crap. Now I have to do it again next week.”

As an overweight person I know that I spend a lot of time compensating. I do not fit in to the men’s equivalent of a size zero but somewhere deep in my psyche I think I should. But I don’t and then things get all crazy. That means, my evil twin, also known as my ego, says we have to be a lot better than everyone else just to be equal with everyone else. In other words we have to be perfect.

Until yesterday morning I was like a dog chasing his tail. I created this really vicious cycle that with each weeks weigh in, the stakes got higher and higher and I found it harder and harder to be perfect.

I wasn’t eating enough and what I was eating fulfilled an immediate need but didn’t give me what I needed to sustain myself and to lose some of this weight. I threw reason and rational thinking out the window. I have seen this coming for a couple of weeks now. It’s like going to Vegas with the mortgage money.

“One donut won’t hurt!!! “

“Ah it didn’t!!! Cool I’ll have another this week.” (BTW you don’t need to write it down.)

Two steps forward for every one step back. That’s what we are taught here isn’t it?

I do not have to be perfect. I just have to be John and you sitting there reading this have to be you. When we first joined Spark People we were asked to sign a little pledge card. Mine still hangs on the fridge. I looked at it before I wrote this blog and I am quite sure that no where does it say we have to be perfect from now until the end of time. It says “I promise to make healthy and positive choices so that I can have live a healthy life style and reach my goals.” Pretty straight forward and simple. No mention of perfection.

The real beauty of what happened to me this weekend exists on a lot of different levels and as you read this you may find a few more that apply to you.
First I am blessed to have the guidance, support and wisdom of my family, especially my wife. I have a daughter in law in culinary school who is a “healthy chef” and truly is a size zero. She gives me a lot of recipes for good tasting food without paying that “gourmet calorie price.” The rest of my kids encourage me and some of them have amped up their exercise.

I have you guys. I quit reading all the supportive comments on my blogs and my Spark page around ten last night because my eyes were watering. Wow. You wanna talk about an out pouring of love!!! I was over whelmed by it.

Here is my point: Every one of us has people, places and things in our lives that help us make a difference and keep us on the path most days. You and I have Spark in common, but I’ll bet if we sat down and had a cup of coffee we’d find out we had a lot more in common than that.

Lean on each other, support each other and to those of you who are feeling the strain and maybe leaving this experience I tell you this:

“You do not have to be perfect; you just have to be you. The last time I looked we take all comers here, no matter how silly they get some times.”

Just ask me, I know

  
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BUNNYCATS 6/7/2010 8:07AM

    Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering.
There is a crack in everything,
That's how the light gets in.
~Leonard Cohen

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MORTICIAADDAMS 5/6/2010 11:31AM

    Perfection can be very dull. Some of the coolest things come from aberration like albino squirrels.

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JURI62 5/5/2010 11:01PM

    John, thanks for the heartfelt blog. You are an inspiration. I'm struggling with the last 10 lbs to my goal weight and some days it feels like it might as well be 100.
Reading your blogs gives me encouragement, so thank you.
Judy

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4DOGNIGHT 5/5/2010 8:51AM

    Thank you for being you, my new best friend and blogger! I love your postive attitude, even in the face of adversity! You might want to read my blog of today.

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1DERLAND_BOUND 5/4/2010 4:24PM

    Wow, you are an inspiration. Thank you.

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KBUCKMASH 5/4/2010 4:14PM

    John,
Love how you tell it like it is. For some of us who still have a certain about of fear factor in us to make the full commitment to all the tools Spark has to offer because ....(whatever excuse a person has) you have shown we need to get rid of that fear and take a leap of faith. For if we do not take a step, then another, another, another and still another we are standing still. Will we stumble back? More then likely. Will it hurt us? Maybe our pride. Can we recover? From your example - yes we can.
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HLPRATT 5/4/2010 1:37PM

    I don't think it's that unusual to gain or not to lose at times. It's hard to keep up the momentum or to be perfect all the time. The important thing is not to give up completely and just to keep at it

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TINKERBELL200 5/4/2010 9:31AM

    You got it John, you don't have to be perfect, just you, which is a pretty awesome guy! emoticon
Lynne

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STARLIGHT615 5/4/2010 9:21AM

    I just love reading your blogs!! They make me feel so much better and but all my little set back into perseptive (Sp?) thank you!! emoticon Your writings are truely an inspiration and a blessing!!

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LESA2.0 5/4/2010 8:13AM

    Thanks again for your honesty and insight. Reading your blogs always puts me back in the right frame of mind. I too suffer from "perfectioninsm" and am trying to change this harmful attitude. You are helping me along my path, my friend.

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DOLLBABE56 5/4/2010 7:42AM

    I would like to say that I have been as consistent "loser" as you, but I can't. You are doing great. I'm glad you realize that.

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KATIEGLEN012 5/4/2010 5:29AM

    It is positively amazing that you describing your imperfections allows me to feel ok with mine. It is a humbling experience. I remain grateful that you share.

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KLEONIKI 5/4/2010 3:39AM

    You certainly belong to the "winning team",dear friend!
Grateful for all the burdens that teach us how to fight but also GRATEFUL for all this assistance in abundance..!
Take care!
Kleoniki

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KLEONIKI 5/4/2010 3:39AM

    You certainly belong to the "winning team",dear friend!
Grateful for all the burdens that teach us how to fight but also GRATEFUL for all this assistance in abundance..!
Take care!
Kleoniki

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MYRNACARRIER 5/4/2010 1:22AM

    Boy, I have read a lot of your blogs and they are making me cry.
You are so open and vulnerable with us.
Thanks for being so real. God has made you a very special person. Keep on taking care of yourself because we need you in the world. I am going to subscribe to your blog. emoticon

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MITCHPOOH 5/3/2010 11:15PM

    Perfection.. I try so hard to be perfect and I'm not.. Thank you so much for what you wrote.. I need to learn to just be me.. and nothing else matters...Acceptance from others has been hard for me and I think that is why I strive for that perfection that doesn't exist

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SPARKENISTA 5/3/2010 10:24PM

    Everything we go through has a lesson behind it. However, I don't see you taking a moment to stand back and give yourself credit for a remarkable weight loss so far.

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HAWAIILINDA 5/3/2010 10:11PM

    Another good blog, thanks!
Linda

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TEDYBEAR2838 5/3/2010 9:58PM

    WOW, I been there done that and it is a bit of a letdown at first, but then you realize you are not perfect and don't have to have others think you are perfect. What a relief is right!~

You are a total inspiration to all of us, gain or loss, thick or thin.

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ROTTLADY 5/3/2010 9:28PM

    You have a great wife, hope you appreciate her. Welcome to the real world.Everything we put in or near our mouths counts in the end.Glad you were able to go to the gym. Traveling so much has to be hard.
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CATHERINEL66 5/3/2010 9:13PM

    Dang ... I am mumbling to myself about fourteen weeks of non-stop weight loss! At my snail's pace of a pound every other week, I'm too awed by all that fabulous progress to think past it, LOL!

I think it's great you're continuing forward ... keep on going!



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JAKEANDNELLIE 5/3/2010 7:58PM

    I remember how relieved I was the first time I "slipped" and immediately got back on the wagon - it was important to know that I could do that and continue making progress. It was a freedom from having to be perfect, just like you said!
Now, I don't panic when I gain a few pounds - I know the reasons why and they involved choices I made. I can make the choice to return to my program and get on with becoming a healthier me.
Stay positive,
Sheila

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IDALUKE 5/3/2010 7:57PM

    That is so true, I just like the way you are, You have such fantastic blogs I love them emoticon emoticon

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FANAMAMA 5/3/2010 3:33PM

    Phew. What a relief! You're NOT perfect after all. Welcome to the club! We're glad you're here! emoticon
I happen to love you just the way you are.

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BARB3284 5/3/2010 3:10PM

    When I made the goal of getting below 190 by May 1, I got obsessed with the scale and sabatoged myself. That scale became my judge and executioner. I, too, had to go back and remember EXACTLY what it was I was aiming for---eating healthy and being fit, NOT a number, not winning a competition with myself.

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GRACEISENUF 5/3/2010 3:03PM

    Great blog! I read the one about your one pound weight loss first and I though to myself.....Pefectionism can be our biggest battle in life.

No one is perfect, not one. If I beat myself up every time I failed at something I wouldn't have any joy in my life. Glad to see you have cut yourself some slack...YOU ARE A WINNER! You will suceed as you continue to have faith.

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MARCYNA 5/3/2010 2:42PM

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BOHEMIANCAT 5/3/2010 2:30PM

    Well, John,
I saw an answer to your blog on another blog... the snowball effect, right?
I like what you have to say and feel much the same way. We are in this together and all my best wishes go to you!
Linda

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BMRBUDDY 5/3/2010 2:07PM

    Hi John,

I just came across your page and really enjoyed your blog and sense of humor. I had to go back and read several others. I would love to add you to my friend list.

Very inspiring! Kate

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GEEMAWEST 5/3/2010 2:02PM

    We're here for you! Always!

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HVMBRU 5/3/2010 1:59PM

    Something just clicked again, and again and when will I just accept it and remember. What I do is give the donut (or whatever) my power over me. Simple as that. And when I am aware of what I am doing or about to do, then I have the power to stop.



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BECCALYNN75 5/3/2010 1:44PM

    I was watching TV this weekend and can't remember what it was on (maybe a music video?) but someone had a sticky note on their computer that said (something like) "I will make better mistakes tomorrow". Yes, we're going to make mistakes everyday but hopefully they aren't the same ones we made today. If we keep improving ourselves and our lives, we'll just be making better mistakes.

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HVMBRU 5/3/2010 1:36PM

    So glad I came across your blogs! Just one comment - You are so fortunate you can stop at one donut. Ha! I may be good one day but then the next, I eat 2 and on and on it goes! Makes me realize how I lost my 25 lbs. - I was perfect! I guess I am just one of those people who can't indulge at all. But more power to you!

If you have any suggestions let me know. . .I sure hate being this way.

Helen

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SUSIEMILO 5/3/2010 1:28PM

    It's a good lesson to learn, and one that resonates with all of us. Good to hear that you're back to good habits, and I think it won't be too long before you will be reporting to all of us that you kicked that 1.2 to the curb, and some more along with it!


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SKIPPELM 5/3/2010 12:37PM

    HI John,
Wow, amazing! I am new to the Spark and so thrilled I cam across your blog. Even though I'm in my first week, I've already been dreading the weight that is always trouble for me. As soon as I lose enough to get there I panic and do an about face and gain all the weight back. And this time around I'm trying to figure out why- thank you so much for finding the answer for me!! It is all aobut perfection, it's this pressure I put on myself without even realizing it, pressure that says you only lost 1 lb this week, or pressure that says you wont get any lower than x weight- you get my drift. Anyhow, this was a huge eye opener for me- THANK YOU! emoticon

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BESTSUSIEYET 5/3/2010 12:03PM

    It hadn't occurred to me that with each week of continued success came a sense of "gotta stay perfect" -- but I know you are right. And I recognized myself in the comment about the bad choice last week didn't cause me to gain, so I can do it again this week. Keep on telling us the truth -- and we'll learn to believe it! Thanks again, John! Have a blessed week of wise choices!!

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RHAL1462 5/3/2010 11:49AM

    You re very insightful. Thanks for letting us know we don't have to be perfect either. We are who we are and we need to learn to love us anyway don't we.


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MINENA1 5/3/2010 11:43AM

    John you're amazing! You're SO right! We DON'T have to be perfect. Nobody is asking us to be perfect. Thank you so much for your blog. You are WONDERFUL!

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CHANGE_4_ME 5/3/2010 11:37AM

    Just came across your blog. One word- uplifting! Hang in there!

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YOYONOMORE1 5/3/2010 10:33AM

    Hi John, somehow I had missed the last two blogs so went back and read them. Glad you have recognized you don't need to be perfect, come on, who on this earth can be totally perfect, no one that I know of. We are human beings and will act like human beings, what we can do though is each day try and be the best we can for that day. I am so glad you are with us on this journey, your blogs add much to my days and you have a way of putting things so very well. Oh, yes, last but not least be thankful for that good woman who stands beside you. You are blessed. Have a great Monday.

Hugs,
Shirl

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STILLPOINT 5/3/2010 10:32AM

    JOhn, I loved your blog. Thank you for being so honest! YOu are back on track and learned a huge lesson last week!

I am sooooooooooooooooooo not perfect!!! I have been doing a lot of tweaking. I know I generally eat healthy and am active. All I need to do is step it up a tiny bit and I'll lose the weight. There are times when I think - LOSER! Why can't you keep this up. But mostly, I know I just need to be good to myself, good to my body by feeding it healthy food, exercising, yoga, and taking care of myself. And to never never quit.

Looking forward to hearing more about you! Have a great week.

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-H0LY-Y0GA- 5/3/2010 10:14AM

    Just found your blog and have read the last three entries. Such wonderful realism and encouragement. Thank you!

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DEVENIRBELLE 5/3/2010 9:27AM

    Thanks for your blog. I have been a perfect SP for the last two months as a newbie. And I was so proud to reward myself when I hit the two month mark. But along with the pride came a let down. I was seeing that now I have to do this again for another two months. It did not seem fair. I got discouraged. I decided that I needed a break from all this perfection. I took the weekend to break the routine. I had some white wine, Orville Smart Popcorn and I did not do my usual exercise routine. And today is Monday and I am back on track. We all need a break. It is life. We are not robots. And as they say in the program, we need to be consistent. THe message is over time that we follow a better way of eating and behaving is what is important. A few days is OK to keep us going. I had some guilt but I let it go so I could enjoy my sabbatical!

Good job! Thanks for sharing. This was a message I needed to hear.

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JAE_HENNINGTON 5/3/2010 9:11AM

  John,I love your insights, as I consider myself a very insightful person. What makes you unique. You are not afraid to share yourself with us. Every word you write is open and honest and heart felt. I find comfort in what you write from your heart. I am on a road to open myself up to others, not a easy thing to do when I was always taught that is not the best thing to do... your writings touch my heart giving me strength and hope. Wishing for you a wonderful monday with lots of smiles

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CATHERINEL66 5/3/2010 8:59AM

    John I am SHOCKED that you ate a donut and didn't put it on your food tracker! OMG!

Glad you have your spark back and see the middle way.

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CMBELISLE 5/3/2010 8:52AM

    Funny how our acknowledgment of our imperfections helps us reach our goals better than trying to be perfect.

Last week wasn't the greatest for me food-wise either and your blog reinforced my thought that I'm not alone and that I really don't have to be perfect. I just have to keep at it, keep adjusting and never give up.

Thanks for being a friend and have a great week!

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GREENCAT1 5/3/2010 8:52AM

    John you always say the things that I need to hear. I am so glad that perfection is not part of this process. I attended a popular weight loss program years ago and I had to quit when I heard the women behind me, as we were in line for weigh in, discussing how "bad" they were because they had an extra diet chocolate pudding! I can't handle that mentality! We aren't "bad" even when we have a donut or two! It is just a matter of getting back on the path to wellness. I want to be healthy - so do you - it is a life long process - and it truly is a joy. Nothing compares to the freedom of losing the fat that holds us captive inside our bodies. Nothing compares to the feeling of being able to move your body, of sleeping well, and of the feeling of well-being that comes after a healthy meal, eaten with mindfullness. Thank you again, friend, for saying it all. (I think I just wrote my blog for today! i am copying and pasting this one! emoticon



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AMABILE75 5/3/2010 8:39AM

    We are so lucky to have a friend like you behind us John. You are so great at offering perspective, always so supportive and your blogs are always thoughtful and inspiring.

Thank you for being you!!! You are wonderful!

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