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Ya Cant Give What You Aint Got"

Thursday, January 21, 2010

I believe I have created every excuse possible as to why I am over weight. Write me and I'll send you all of them. I quit smoking five years ago and my body never adjusted. I travel for a living and am forced to unhealthy food. (I have pictures of the people that hold me down and force me to eat it!!!!) I am getting older and my metabolism is slowing down....... I can go on and on.

What I have had in the past five years is a lot of failure. I dont care how positive you think, how much you try to motivate yourself, failure compounded by excuses makes John an insecure individual. Yuck, what a mess.

All I had to do was look in the mirror and that would make me feel even worse. I am sure a lot of you have been there and know what I am talking about. You feel so gosh darned out of place that you want to hole up in a corner and cry.

Enough with the sadness John.

I read a book, actually listened to it on CD. It's called "Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting. In my listening/reading the author challenged us to an interesting exercise. Every day for thirty days write one really good, great, and wonderful thing about yourself. Take that one thing and throughout your day think about it.

Let me tell you its tough. Every morning I'd get stressed. What else is there about me that's good? I made it through and now part of my morning ritual is to read all thirty things, out loud, to myself. I put a little bit of background music to it. They are not all serious things. I have fun stuff about me also. I am a most excellent cook. I sing very well. I play a mean set of drums. By the end of the list I am inspiring me. Who is this really cool guy????

It increases my capacity to give to others but most importantly it increases my capacity to take. That's right, take. I have participated in things similar to spark.com in the past but not without the overwhelming support I receive from everyone I have gotten to know and will get to know. I cannot do this alone and neither can you. But if I dont feel good about me I am useless to you. and if I dont feel I am worth it all how in the name of all that is holy can I allow you to give to me?

One thing about you each day for thirty days. Very tough. At the end you start seeing all those wonderful things in other people.

Thank all of you for being who all of you are.

If you'd like my list to get an idea of what I am talking about let me know and I'll
Spark mail it to ya.

Have a good day. A good day is any day that you're alive.

  
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JOYATLAST 11/19/2010 12:42PM

    "But if I dont feel good about me I am useless to you. and if I dont feel I am worth it all how in the name of all that is holy can I allow you to give to me?"

You have said some profound things here. God is leading me this way too.

I'm squeezing through to victory and needed to be reminded today that I too and a "really cool guy"!!!

Thanks for the message.


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MARCYNA 1/23/2010 9:21AM

    I think you're a quite sensitive person. You can add it to you list. For free.
Bye, emoticon

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TRIPLE_EMME 1/21/2010 10:34AM

    Another GREAT blog entry!

I would like to do this exercise. Although, I have to admit, it seems a bit (OK, a lot) daunting to think of one different great thing about myself for thirty days.

Please email me your list if you don't mind. Thank you.

Thank YOU so much for sharing yourself and being a source of inspiration!

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WANNABTHIN02 1/21/2010 8:39AM

    Good Morning JOHNJT1

What a great blog. It really made me reflect on myself and how little self esteem I have.... I used to be very good at my job and 40 hours a week (we are our jobs). I probably am still very good at my job, but after being beat down at the same job for 10 years my self esteem meter is on empty. I have been off for a month and am having a very hard time thinking about going back. But today I am going to dig deep for a wonderful thing and maybe in a months time my meter with be half full. I'll settle for a quarter full. I'd like to see your list. Have a wonderful day. You must be a very awesome person because the blog is pretty awesome.. emoticon

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Helping Others ----- A Challenge

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

What has touched me more than anything is the real compassion and genuine support everyone here shows each other. I think it's often over looked as a real tool towards healthy living - - - as important as diet and exercise. Extending myself to another person means, just for that one moment I am putting their needs ahead of mine. It doesnt have to be something huge. I have come to believe it is the very small things that fortify us and give us the strength to keep on going.

A few days ago, at the gym, I saw my very favorite stationary bike empty and crying out 'Here I am John, use me." Apparently it was crying to a lady much older than I because we arrived at the same time. She had a cane and moved slowly. I let here use the bike. I found something else to do for twenty minutes. While my thighs ached from the stairmaster my heart felt pretty good. I did something for someone else. It wasn't sending 10 million dollars to Haiti, or being a Mother Teresa look alike. It was a small thing in my daily life.

We insulate ourselves from other people. We are scared to share the real joy and beauty of who we are with other people. To me that is one of the most healthy strategies that exists. Simply be kind in thought, word and deed.

So many of you here have encouraged me this first month or so and I cannot express how grateful I am for it. I'd like to issue you a challenge. Along with your nutrition and fitness goals create a "niceness goal." Do something for someone else every day that doesnt seem really large but gets a smile from the person you do it for. Try try to make it a person you never seen before and may never see again.

I am smiling very big right now for all each of you has done for me. bless you all.

  
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GETDONE 1/20/2010 6:25PM

    Simply and beautifuly said--thank you much. emoticon

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CMBELISLE 1/20/2010 11:40AM

    You have a wonderful challenge here. I hope more people read your blog and join the challenge. I'll be working on it as a daily goal too!

Have a wonderful day and an insightful journey as you work your way toward your healthy lifestyle!

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TRIPLE_EMME 1/20/2010 9:39AM

    I stumbled upon your blog from reading my friend feed.

I'm glad that I found it! Your words struck a chord with me; I find your honesty refreshing. I feel that I've gained so much from SparkPeople; and that I'll never be able to fully show my appreciation. I fully accept your niceness challenge and will set a "niceness goal" for myself.

Be healthy!

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MARCYNA 1/20/2010 8:39AM

    Thanks for your reflection, actually I received so much since I've been part of SP - and I've been thinking how to give back what I've received - part of it, at least.
I'll try to set 'niceness goals' as part of my everyday plan, then we'll check the results together!!!
Thanks and blessings to you!!!
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Only If I Have To......

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

When the alarm went off I was already behind. Tat did not make for a cheerful mood. I tumbled around, showering, getting dressed, doing all the routine stuff thats part of everyones morning. Over in the corner, sitting quietly, was my gym bag. Like that commercial on TV I eard the little jingle; "I always feel like somebody's watching me...."
That part of my day had somehow slipped out of the equation. I'd like to tell you I raced to the corner and soothed my gym bags feelings. Actually Itried to kick the corner of the bed. Thank goodness I missed!!

"Just another something else!!!" I said

So I did what any rational person would do. I made a deal with my gym bag, even though in my mind I had a good excuse for not working out today. I decided I would keep it on the front seat of the car and I would work my measley forty minutes of cardio in there sometime today.

Yes, yes I should have a Plan B but somedays just figuring out Plan A takes all my energy.

Yes, yes I know i'll feel better once I do it and I'll reach a goal.

It's cold, its foggy and I'm a bit achy and my day is full. I'll do it, maybe not with a smile on my face and a song in my heart.

Like the commercial says "Just Do It"

I'll keep ya'll posted

  
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TNTEACHER2 1/19/2010 8:08PM

    Good for you!

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JOHNTJ1 1/19/2010 5:25PM

    Done and Done lol

Succesfully completed our cardio program for today in spite of myself

Yay Me emoticon

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FERRETLOVER1 1/19/2010 8:30AM

    You know that once you get going, you will feel so much better...so JUST DO IT!!

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CLSYLADY 1/19/2010 8:18AM

    I'll just say... YOU CAN DO IT! I know it gets frustrating and tiring and seems like there are more important things to do but... aren't you important as well? Make you a priority for today.. worry about tomorrow, tomorrow.

YOU CAN DO IT!

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LAURIE-RN 1/19/2010 8:02AM

    The first step is getting the gym bag to the car.....you can do it!

Laurie

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Consistency

Monday, January 18, 2010

I did not want to exercise this morning.

The more I thought about it the angrier I got." How come I just cant think myself into shape?" I muttered.

I listened to peppy music to get me psyched up. it didnt work. Read a few inspirational blogs and postings at Sparkpeople.com. It had little to no effect.

I got in the car, muttering and cursing all the while. I pointed it toward the gym and let the steam come out of my ears. "I really, really hate this." I sighed

I put on the ear buds, cranked up the sound and stepped on the treadmill. One foot in front of the other, one foot in front of the other until the sweat started to run down my face and The Black Eyed Peas had a feeling. Somewhere in the next forty minutes or so I remembered why I did this.

And I'll do it again tomorrow

  
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WEEZIE1122 3/16/2010 8:49AM

    I know this is an old post but I could not help myself. I'm still doing additional research for my English paper and have decided you are the most inspirational person I have come in contact with on SparkPeople. So I began reading you blogs from the beginning for inspiration (paper and me).

I love the Black Eyed Peas. The music is so upbeat and energetic. Who would not want to get moving with them playing.



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KALEIDOSCOPEO 1/18/2010 11:14PM

    That is precisely what happened to me today. In fact, I was dressed and ready to head to the gym when I first read your blog earlier today. My Black Eyed Peas song, however, was Let's Get It Started. And my visit to the gym ended up being not so bad afterall. emoticon emoticon

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LAURIE-RN 1/18/2010 9:10PM

    I love this blog! Thank you for finding the words for the way I feel sometimes.

Laurie

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TIE_DYE00 1/18/2010 7:20PM

    emoticon At least you made it there and got it done! Good job!!

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1WALKINGMAN 1/18/2010 6:16PM

    Great blog, John. Sometimes you just have to make yourself do things that you don't want to do, but that is what mature people do. emoticon

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MRSSTOGS 1/18/2010 5:50PM

    Ah! Love this post. Sometimes, no amount of motivation will work for me, either, and I envy those people who have a thing in their lives (a vacation, a dress, a special song, whatever) that keeps them going, because I don't.

There are so many days where I think about how unfair it is that I can't just eat what I want and sit around and still be healthy, I grumble and I grump, I go to the gym purely out of habit, and then when I'm done I'm so happy I did it.

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That Time of Year

Wednesday, December 30, 2009

I have a friend in West Virginia who is a gardener extraordinaire. People comment all the time how talented he must be. It seems he can get anything to grow well. Each year he produces a bumper crop of vegetables. I can tell you from firsthand experience, they are delicious. I have heard people lament how they wish they had his talent. I won’t deny that he has a real gift. I think most of it is born in his interest and excitement for the gardening he does. (I refuse to use the word passion any longer. It’s the most misused and misunderstood word in the English language.) I think it goes much deeper.

This time of year he has his nose buried in seed catalogues. He is planning what next year’s crops will look like. He has a list and a time table. He is aware of pitfalls and roadblocks and his years of experience tell him to expect the best but prepare for the worst. As the wind and snow swirl around him it’s awfully hard to imagine a warm June day with your hands in the rich soil.

I bring this up because we are at THAT time of year again. It’s time for our annual foray into goals and resolutions territory. So……… How did you do this year? I give you permission to declare victory if you reached more than fifty percent of a goal you set. It means you are fifty percent closer to victory. If you decided you were going to be debt free by the end of 2009 and you fell a bit short, rejoice that the amount of debt you removed is gone. You are that much closer!!! So here are a few quick but effective tips to help you in 2010.

“By an Inch It’s a Cinch. By a Mile It’s a Trial”
A boss of mine used to have that saying on his desk. It means that the smaller we package things the easier they are to handle. If I set an activity goal for the year I might run out of gas sometime in February because running five miles becomes too overwhelming for someone who runs out of breath walking two miles.

What if I break it down? What if I pick a time or a distance that’s reasonable for me to accomplish by the end of January? I am more likely to stick with that goal because I will see real and tangible progress. Come February 1 I can assess whether I am ahead of my goal at that point or behind. In other words I can make necessary adjustments.
Take your resolutions and break them into “bitable” pieces.

Remind and Reward
My office is full of sticky notes to remind me what my goal(s) is. My lap top has its screen saver set to remind me what I am going to focus on the next month. That’s important to me because I need to be reminded when I see myself veering off track.

Today’s world stresses immediate gratification. Like The Queen songs says “I want it all and I want it now!!!” We forget the long term satisfaction we receive. So remind yourself. I have even started sending myself emails to remind myself to focus. Corny? Yeah I guess so. But it works for me. Don’t misunderstand I am not obsessed. I have little reminders posted in strategic spots. They help keep me on track. I also share my goals and ask people to ask me how things are going. The same boss had this saying on the wall behind his desk; “What Gets Checked On Gets Done!”

When we break our goals down into manageable increments we have a tendency to show a bit more interest in reaching them. This leads us to rewards. Rewards along the way are the very best thing about achieving our goals.

I love to read, I love all kinds of music and I enjoy a good bottle of wine. Come February 1, when I reach my goal for the month I am going to reward myself with a good book I might not otherwise purchase. I may dally around I Tunes a bit longer and download some music I always wanted. It may mean an extended trip to a couple of stores I know that stock good wine. It’s a reward for doing what I said I’d do and it will rev up my engines for the time until my next reward.

Just two small things that might make a big difference.

  
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HOPE208 1/12/2010 6:09PM

    That is an awesome outlook. Thanks for sharing.

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1WALKINGMAN 12/30/2009 5:37PM

    Thanks for sharing this good advice. We should reward ourselves when we accomplish our goals emoticon

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