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Don't Forget About Your Dreams

Monday, April 05, 2010

By all accounts Saturday should have been picture perfect. Joan and I went to the mall with our granddaughter where she got her very own personalized Chicago Cubs baseball hat and as a bonus Grandma Joan took her on the carousel. The carousel is conveniently located right in the middle of the food court, (Funny how that worked out, huh?) so that no matter which way you choose to turn you are faced with a lot of things that, well, they are just not good for you. Cookies, pizza, steak on a stick with greasy, cheesy potatoes……

I sat at a table while they rode the carousel. I waved every time they passed by. All of a sudden out of now where, as I sat in that there with temptation taunting me at each turn, I was overwhelmed with frustration.

“Is this what it’s supposed to be like forever?” I wondered. “I’m gonna sit here and just be so overwhelmed because my lunch choice is starvation or a slow death by watching my arteries close centimeter by centimeter?”

It had been a hectic morning. I had a really quick breakfast. It was healthy but it was quick. The ride to the Mall normally takes forty minutes but because of road construction and a very odd detour it took us ninety. The parking lot was full. It just went on and on and on. By the time this wave of frustration hit me I had originally planned on lunch right around then.

Spending time with a very energetic four year old can make you forget whatever else you are preoccupied with. There is no classification in the Spark Exercise section for “Chasing a grandchild all over hells half acre.” I forgot about being overwhelmed until I woke up around five Sunday morning.

I lie in bed trying to orient myself when this voice inside of me said very quietly but emphatically, “Don’t forget about your dreams.”As far as I knew, I didn’t have any dreams last night.

“Oh, THOSE dreams.”

Sometimes I get so caught up in the calorie counting, the search for better food, the different sort of exercises, the weigh in’s, the challenges and all that really positive and tangible stuff that I forget about my dreams. My dreams are what make this march towards health worthwhile. My dreams are the real reason I do all this. My dreams become the pay off foe all the hard work and the frustration I feel at times.

Before I met all you wonderful folks and began Sparking; my dreams consisted mostly of really bitter thoughts about how I had been cheated out of a lot of things in life because I was fat, and lazy. Never mind I was the person shoving all that food in his mouth and never mind that I was the clown laying on the couch, belching and wanting to take three naps on a Saturday afternoon because the sugar he just ingested would supply a small country for about a week. It weren’t my fault, it was God’s fault, fates fault and whatever president was currently in offices fault. It was never mine. Dream were something you had at night, and most of them scared the snot out of me.

When I started the journey to locate John and remember who he was under that molten mountain of chocolate and fried foods I started to dream, dreams again. It’s the stuff that keeps my engines revving. It gets me excited. All of this reminded me that along with the nutrition and the exercise equally important is locating the authentic me.

My dreams are achievable and all of them depend on me being John again and that is my biggest John does a lot of cool things that are all part of his dreams!! Those dreams are what sustain me when that wave of frustration over whelms me and makes me feel like I am stuck in quick sand.

One of the things we are asked to do when we begin the Spark journey is to make a collage. That collage represents our dreams. Successful people know that this journey isn’t about simple endurance; it is about that “spark,” that deep down motivation that is our dreams.

What about your dreams? How often do you think about them? Do you dust them off every now and then and recall how they get your juices flowing? I am guilty of forgetting and when I do, I begin to lose focus.

The biggest lesson I learned from all of this? Invite my dreams out for a cup of coffee once a week and get to know them better. They are as important to me as the air I breathe.

I’ll share one:

I hope you see your dreams come true too!!!!

  
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CHRISSYVB 4/6/2010 9:11AM

    Sadly, I have to admit that I don't have any dreams. I have a lot of 'to do lists' and I'm really good at crossing things off. But - dreams are different aren't they? I have dreams for my children but I just have 'to do lists' for myself. I think that needs to change. Maybe I'll add "get a dream" to my to do list for today.


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MARCYNA 4/6/2010 5:22AM

    You are a motivator and like it when people achieve their dreams....Is this a job/profession??'Can I do it in my daily job as a teacher???You're making me think so much....too much for my little brain I'm afraid, but i just love it emoticon

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TADTURC 4/5/2010 11:03PM

    Thank you so much.

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DUTCHIEKIWI 4/5/2010 9:14PM

    Thanks for sharing John,

Yesterday me too took off in the morning for a trip to the mall, just me and the twins....
No need to tell you that it was pretty full on, the mall was packed as Easter Sales had started.

I had promised the twins Pancakes for lunch....
Now pancakes don't tempt me, as I find dutch pancakes much nicer ( thin, a little thicker then crepes) then those fat bouncy pancakes.

It was a nightmare to find table and when I did the unofficial plan was to get something for myself at another food outlet.
i thought subway, but the line was phenomenal and what by Golly was i gonna do with the twins?!

So... I ended up with NO lunch.

The perfect solution? No! but in this case it was the better choice I decided.
I had a little lunch at 4.00 pm when I came home.

I hate food courts at the best of times, and sometimes get so disgusted when I look around and see what people eat and more what they feed their kids.

The pancakes? The twins have only had them twice in their lives, and they are almost three. I was an Easter treat for them.

Again I can really relate to how you feel.

The last two weeks my dreams have been hard to realise in my mind as I've had such a bad flu and have been inactive...

I could do with a boost... might make a new collage!!!

Blog ya later,

Dutchie

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WEEZIE1122 4/5/2010 6:02PM

    John,

Great Blog as always.

I checked into it and guess what. You can add "Chasing a grandchild all over hells half acre" to your fitness plan and even mark it as a favorite.

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WANDAH3 4/5/2010 5:53PM

    Ahhhh, a breathe of fresh air and the freedom to dream. Thanks John for the great reminder!

Just remember, you keep up this healthy lifestyle and your granddaughter will be chasing you all over hell's half acre! lol

Hugs,
Wanda

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IMJUSTDUCKIE 4/5/2010 2:58PM

    This blog gave me goose-bumps. Thank you for making us remember!

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ANNSTOECKL 4/5/2010 2:05PM

    Thank you, John. You inspire, as usual. Blessings, Ann

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MORTICIAADDAMS 4/5/2010 1:42PM

    Don't blame yourself completely. A lot of the problem is that there are more poor food choices in public situation than good. The food manufactures and supplies didn't have to load them with salt, sugar, HFCS, and transfat.

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GETFIT2LIVE 4/5/2010 12:52PM

    Thank you for the reminder . . . it's so easy to forget why we are doing all this if we don't regularly take time out to reflect on our dreams. Excuse me while I go revisit mine for a bit!

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REMODELINGPAT 4/5/2010 10:37AM

    John, we all need to be reminded of our goals from time to time. And a mall food court is a horrible place to be marooned while your family frolics. Stand firm, my man! emoticon emoticon

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TRIPLE_EMME 4/5/2010 10:20AM

    Good morning, John.

Excellent blog!

Thank you for the reminder. I need to have a weekly coffee date with my dreams.

I've been out of touch for the past 4 days. The LONG weekend kept me away from the internet. I'm slowly re-connecting. I'll be in touch more later in the day, but wanted to say a quick "hello."

Have a healthy day!
Mel

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STORMTMB 4/5/2010 10:02AM

    I need regular reminders of my goals. I use my journal at least once a month, if not weekly, to remind myself of what I want and what I have already accomplished. It helps tremendously.

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CROBINGO 4/5/2010 10:00AM

    Excellent blog and so true. We remember the actions and activities we are supposed to do and forget to focus on the why; not the health why but the dream why.

Very good reminder for me personally and thank you.

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CMBELISLE 4/5/2010 9:18AM

    When I sit at work each day, there is a wall next to my computer screen covered in sticky notes, cards and sayings that I see every day. I'm trying to make it habit to look at them and think about them on a regular basis. It's essentially my dream/vision board and I've had one at work for years - it just never had a name.

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GREENCAT1 4/5/2010 8:34AM

    Thank you John, as always, for hitting the nail on the head! It is so easy to forget our dreams, the reason we are doing this in the first place, when bombarded with all of the temptations out there. I can attest to feeling sorry for myself sometimes too. Thanks for the reminder to focus on my dreams, not on the temporary frustrations!

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KAT573 4/5/2010 8:19AM

    Dreams are the motivation for sure! There is a saying on here somewhere, can't remember seeing it ever again but it struck me and it led to the change from just dreaming, and having goals to getting to them!

"A goal without a plan is just a dream."

When I saw that, I realized exactly what was missing. The action steps! I did not have them fully developed! They come up as I travel along on this lifestyle journey! Since then, when things frustrated me, I took the FRUSTRATIONS out to breakfast and sat down with them, looked at them, defined them, and then saw the "opportunties" beginning to blossom;

-water in the back of my car
-healthy protein or meal bars that I actually "enjoyed" in the side door of my car
-or else small snack bags already portioned out to take with me of cherry tomatoes and cheese sticks etc.
These, and other planned activities have really helped me to skim on by the fast food places, and having them in my pocket or my bag allowed me the choice to tend to my need for nutrition, rather than give into resentful self-justified purchases of the "only food around"....... I have, as I have traveled along this road, found there are many many other opportunities for dealing with old habits into new, but, like the quote said, it does take looking at the frustrationm defining it and all it means to you, and then "planning" in a way that creates affirmative actions that logically lead to your goal!
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DOLLBABE56 4/5/2010 8:02AM

    Dreams.... I still am having trouble with this one. The problem is that I don't know what they are yet. Odd, isn't it. I guess that over the last 30 years I have forgotten what my authentic "me" is (that is if I have known who that is). I'll figure it out eventually I suppose. The collage I made should be redone. All that is on it is pix of my younger "me". What I want to look like. Hey, let's face it - I am not in my 30's anymore. lol Maybe this journey isn't all about our outer shell, but something more - shall we say, spiritual. Inside. Not only to be healthy, but to be at peace with oneself. This is going to be a difficult journey, but I'm going to try to enjoy it. First thing - I'm going to redo that collage. Today.
Thanks for the inspiration John. You have given me a direction to start in.

Debbie

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NJMATTICE 4/5/2010 7:47AM

    I love that voice. The one that slips in there quietly and so gently but so clearly redirects! The voice that lets you know that you are well loved and well cared for. That divine companion. Thank you for sharing the wisdom of that voice today. It is so "human" to get caught up in the details and distracted from our dreams. Our mission. Thanks for passing on the reminder. It's not all about the food and the exercise and the smaller sized clothing and the better blood pressure reading. Once you arrive, where will you be?
Have a great day, John. And thanks for enriching mine.
Love,
Nancy

I forgot to ask. . .what did you finally have for lunch? Okay, maybe it is all about the food.

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JAE_HENNINGTON 4/5/2010 7:45AM

  very beautifully written, heartfelt...I can relate so much to your words.I am at the place of dusting off my dreams and getting back to the business of making them come true. I dont like the person I have become, and the only way out of that is to get busy creating the person I want to be

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Suprise!!!! It's me!!!!

Saturday, April 03, 2010


My very first video blog. I have never done this before so I am not sure how the quality will show up on your computer.

  
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DUTCHIEKIWI 4/5/2010 9:21PM

    Don't know what I'm doing wrong but I can never see any video's....


What am I doing wrong???

Dutchie

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CRAZYGAGRANNY 4/5/2010 3:25PM

    What a Wonderful First video blog! You did great! Loved the hairdo! Will be waiting for the next one!
Hope you and your family had a wonderful Easter too!

Keep those Sparks flying!
Barbara

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MORTICIAADDAMS 4/5/2010 1:38PM

    I could not get the sound up enough on my computer to hear it! DARN!!!

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STORMTMB 4/5/2010 9:37AM

    Hey John, I just got a chance to watch this. So cool. I'm surprised that no one else has said it... you have a great voice for radio. Nice to hear from you. Have a great week.

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REMODELINGPAT 4/4/2010 9:34PM

    Hi, John! I've not ventured into videoblogging yet. Brave man! Yes, your hairdo looks great...very much like my hubby's. He often asks me to check it for him LOL!

Hope your Easter has been super, and is the beginning of your best year yet!

Blessings!

Pat

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SPARKENISTA 4/4/2010 12:11PM

    emoticon video blog. You are really stretching. The quality was great. Hope to see more of you.

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CMBELISLE 4/4/2010 8:58AM

    Happy Easter to you too John! Hope you're having a great day!

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DAVEINSEOUL 4/4/2010 8:26AM

    John,

I don't know if there is anyway to have your video buffered a litte, but if you have a way to set this on your video record program it would be great. I'm out here in Korea and because the video and audio are streaming at the same time, I get the audio before I get your video. So to watch you and here your voice out of sync is a little disconcerting.

But I liked your video.

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TEENY_BIKINI 4/3/2010 5:18PM

    Wow! That was so cool. You are just enjoyable and an easy-going personality on onscreen. What a great gift. I certainly hope you do it again. Awesome and thank you.



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KATIEGLEN012 4/3/2010 4:40PM

    The quality was super...and it was good to hear from you! You have a wonderful Easter also. Sounds like your family might be visiting...enjoy.

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JCDROLSHAGEN 4/3/2010 4:34PM

    John, the video was great. Very nice to meet you face to face so to speak. Have a wonderful Easter. And if you find out the tremendous calorie burnup from chasing a four year old, pass the info on. I have a granddaughter that age myself.

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GETFIT2LIVE 4/3/2010 3:58PM

    Nicely done, John! You're right, your humor comes through as well 'live' as it does in print.

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I pray you and your family have a blessed Easter!

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VTORIA3 4/3/2010 3:47PM

    Really cool, John. Will all of us sparkers around, you will soon be recognized out in public. emoticon

Have a wonderful Easter with you and yours.
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ANNSTOECKL 4/3/2010 3:46PM

    John, What a wonderful Easter greeting! It was good to see your great smile. Blessings, Ann

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TNTEACHER2 4/3/2010 2:54PM

    Nice video, John. Maybe I will recognize you if you are walking around in Murray.

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JUST_TRI_IT 4/3/2010 11:45AM

    You are so cool. Love the hair! Thom's hairdo is very very similar - just darker and greyer :)

Have a great one yourself!!

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AMYTATH 4/3/2010 11:33AM

    YAY!!! Its like we get to "meet" you! hahaha You shouldn't be nervous...you did great! I still haven't gotten the nerve to video yet! You look so great, your pictures don't do you justice...OR you, yet again...need to put a new picture~! Cant wait to acutally meet you in person in May!!!

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PINETREEGIRL 4/3/2010 11:28AM

    John!!!! Those cheekbones!!!
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WANDAH3 4/3/2010 10:56AM

    John, I loved it! Thanks for sharing. You sound exactly how I imagined you would sound...love the humour. (PS...the hair looks just fine!).

Have a wonderful Easter. Easter blessings to both you and Joan.

Hugs,
Wanda

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DOLLBABE56 4/3/2010 10:44AM

    This was GREAT John! You are as inspiring on camera as you are off. lol Great job!

May you have a wonderful Easter weekend also. I imagine you will get a lot of "play time" with your granddaughter too!

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TRENTDREAMER 4/3/2010 9:55AM

    Totally. I don't think that I would ever do a vlog. Good job on it.

Happy Easter to you as well!!

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KLEONIKI 4/3/2010 9:22AM

    Dear John!
You sound completely as i have imagined you!
Interesting, attractive voice, good articulation, cool and calm speaking gentle kind words of friendship!
Good work!
Go ahead!

PS i have been struggling for my first video a month now and it doesn't seem to get uploaded..i could use some advice!
Best wishes for Easter
Kleoniki

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CROBINGO 4/3/2010 9:00AM

    That was GREAT! By the way, you have an amazing voice. You probably know that but it is a pleasure to listen to. Way to step out of your comfort zone and Happy Easter back at you.

Great video blog. I enjoyed it very much.

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NJMATTICE 4/3/2010 8:19AM

    I look forward to the day that the picture and voice go together on my computer. I had a bit of a delay so it was kind of like watching "Max Headroom" if you get that reference. A bit obscure, perhaps. Thanks for modeling good behavior. Stepping outside of your comfort zone and making great strides in the healthy lifestyle. I am proud of YOUR achievement. Happy Easter to you as well.
emoticon I saw you trying to imitate this guy a couple of times. Cheese right back at you. I can't have cheese.
Love to you and Joan and the family this Blessed weekend.
Nancy

having difficulty spelling this morning.

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SUZIEQS65 4/3/2010 8:05AM

    Very cool...congrats..and good luck with your journey.

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The Magic (And I Dont Mean The Basketball Team From Orlando!!!)

Friday, April 02, 2010

My granddaughter is coming for Easter. This is wonderful on so many levels. First, the energy level ramps up tenfold in the house when she is around. Don’t make any plans for “me” time” unless it directly relates to her. The term whirlwind is an understatement. When you are four and a half there in an unlimited supply of energy and the dirtiest word in your vocabulary is “nap.” (As I get older it’s becoming my favorite word!!!)

She brings something really unique to the table. It revolves around the glow in her eyes and the fact that she really believes in magic. Not the kind of magic you see on infomercials, the kind of magic a four year old believes in. She knows there is an Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy and Santa Claus. No, she has never seen them or talked to them. (She has known since age three that the voice on the other end of the phone is not Santa but me) She knows what the rules are and she is happy to abide by them. She will walk into my office count the pictures she drew that hang on my wall, produce one more from behind her back and walk away with the smug satisfaction there will never be room for a Picasso or Monet as long as her art work is hanging there.

She calls just to say hello and there are always lots of giggles and “I love you's.”

She believes in the magic of life. She believes in having fun. There are no deadlines, no bills no worries about economies, healthcare and military involvement in a strange land. She goes to the park and immediately creates relationships with the hundred other kids vying for the slide, swing and monkey bars and they spend about fifteen seconds working everything out and viola the fun begins and doesn’t end until some adult who is tired of sitting on a wooden park bench comes to end it.
She simply believes in magic and it oozes out of her pours every time you talk to her. There is a “what can we do next” look on her face all the time along with high anticipation of fun. Too bad we can’t hold onto that for eternity. The day will come when the mantle of maturity will be thrust upon her and she will be miserable like all the rest of us. She’ll watch CNN and FOX and all those other purveyors of doom and she will grow sad.

Not if I can help it. Next to my wife, my granddaughter has taught me more about life in her short tenure here on this planet than anyone else I know.

I know longer watch the news. If I am going to be upset with someone or a group of someone’s I am going to arrive at that conclusion all on my own. A few weeks ago she sat down with me and gave me one of those “we have to talk.” looks. I had been pulling her braid when she turned her back to me.

“Pappy,” she began. “If you don’t quit doing that, then I am not going to play with you anymore.” She smiled, gave me a hug and turned around again. Case closed. Do what you are supposed to do or I don’t roll with you. I won’t lose any sleep over it and please be quiet I am watching a cartoon and oh yeah I love you.

I watch the weather and the sports scores. I read things that lift me up not weigh me down. I make a conscious effort every single day to find something mystical and magical about my life and the people in it. I am “growing down.”

My granddaughter has taught me to believe in the true power of the beauty of this world and most of the people in it. She causes me to look for magic and fun as I look for health and happiness. She shows me it’s not found in the pages of Fortune, Forbes or The Wall Street Journal, but in a quiet afternoon, drawing with chalk on the sidewalk.

So I take you my dear Sparkies with me today and challenge you to look only for the magic today because it’s been waiting for you to acknowledge it in your life
Big Hug, big grin.

Wanna go play on the swings?

  
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TRIPLE_EMME 4/5/2010 10:24AM

    I'm a little late in reading this blog entry. I hope that your visit with your granddaughter was extra special. She sounds like so much fun!

I would love to play on the swings!

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ROBINRC1 4/3/2010 1:57PM

  Our children & grandchildren remind us what is important in life!! Have a great weekend with lots of hug & kisses !! emoticon

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GEINAHG0757 4/2/2010 8:02PM

    I miss my children being little and have no grandchildren. (I used to LOVE going to the park and swinging.) Enjoy EVERY moment with that little miss! Sounds like she has a great view of the world.

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DUTCHIEKIWI 4/2/2010 6:53PM

    Love it!

No more words needed....

except,
for goodness sake Boss, will you stop giving me goosebumps!
I hate being cold!!! .

;0)

Dutchie

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ANNSTOECKL 4/2/2010 2:49PM

    Magic!

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REMODELINGPAT 4/2/2010 2:37PM

    Magic...the twinkle in the eye of your loved one...the fun of picking and blowing dandelions...blowing bubbles...watching fireworks...sailing a leaf boat down the stream or the gutter... emoticonThanks, John!

Blessings!

Pat

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1WALKINGMAN 4/2/2010 11:36AM

    I stopped watching and listening to the news back in September, 08 and really do not even miss it. The whole world would be a lot better off if more people were out improving our world instead of listening about others are out messing it up. emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 4/2/2010 11:08AM

    My husband and I backed off of watching the news years ago. I'm a very happy and contented person and don't need to be bombarded with bad news. Your grand daughter is my kind of person. enjoy.

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WANDAH3 4/2/2010 10:58AM

    Love your blog...your love for your granddaughter fills every word. Children are such a wonderful gift from God. They are here to teach us all the beauties you have expressed. Many of us are just to blind to see it, so wrapped up in the miseries of the world that we have become blind to the beauty that surrounds us and the blessings. I'm so glad you have your eyes wide open.
Enjoy your wonderful granddaughter time.

Hugs,
Wanda

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WALKNLOVE 4/2/2010 10:35AM

    I used to teach 4 year olds and my but the "magic" of just hanging out with them...their unconditional love, the innocent way they look at life, their "way to cute" perspective on things that can make you "bust a gut" laughing.We can learn a lot from them...
like the color of people's skin doesn't matter
like sharing is caring
like God is great & God is good
like let us thank Him for our food
like "everybody, everywhere clean up, clean up"(clean up after your messes in life)
Like Jesus loves me this I know, for the Bible tells me so....
The list goes on and on....

And when it comes to the "horrible news", why does everyone take FOX or CNN as the "gospel truth", because most times, they are not.Any why do we buy into it? And why don't they spend more time reporting the good going on in our world? Why does the world have to be so negative? BECAUSE they are the world, and we are not.We are in this world, but not of it.It's up to us to show them the way, the truth, and the light....another lesson from a child's song..."Hide it under a bushel NO! I'm gonna let it shine!" Shine on my friend...there's a little someone looking for the "spark" in your eyes!

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CMBELISLE 4/2/2010 10:31AM

    The swings are probably my favorite, but the trapeze bar was a close second. Nothing quite like swinging AND getting to do it upside down. I love to swing when I get the chance, but these days, my legs are usually too long and my hips too wide. However, I do still try and the last time I had to get off after a few to give a child his turn on the swings. That kid was really staring me down.

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GREENCAT1 4/2/2010 10:14AM

    I can't wait to have a grandchild. Six kids - no grandkids yet! emoticon

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TNTEACHER2 4/2/2010 10:12AM

    Hey, John,
I feel the same way you do about the news. While I vote in elections, I do not obsess about them. I read a book while my husband watches the news. I am optimistic and he is a pessimist.

A cute four year old story from long ago. The neighbor's little girl knocked on my door with a picture she had made. I praised her, and immediately placed it on the fridge with a magnet. She got a funny look on her face and tromped our the door. In a few minutes she came back, handed me a different picture, and announced, "Here is a delicious sundae for you to put on the refrigerator. Now hang the other one on the wall.."

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VTORIA3 4/2/2010 10:06AM

    Bravo! Excellent blog. Being the grandmother of two, I agree that they teach us much about the wonder of each and every day. If I arrive with the weight of the world on my shoulders, I soon forget what it was that weighed on me so heavily. What a gift they share. Enjoy your Easter time with your granddaughter.

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STORMTMB 4/2/2010 10:01AM

    So many people look at me funny when I tell them how many times each year I go to Disney World (I'm an annual passholder) because, after all, it's for children. And I don't have any children. My best friend and I go. We spend about 30 days a year there. The magic is phenomenal, even for adults. I get lots of character pictures. I watch the parade. I stop and admire the beauty of their landscaping. I look for the details that they put into every attraction. I look for Hidden Mickeys. Mary Poppins is the only "face character" that I'll have my picture with. I love her as if I was still 5. I found my Magic at Disney when I was 18 and it has only gotten better over the years.

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MONTANA_ED 4/2/2010 9:55AM

    It's amazing at what children can teach us. Well, maybe not teach us - but remind us of what is inside each and every one of us. We just need to let it out and play. This is a great blog and I hope you have lots of fun with your granddaughter!

Onwards...>
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AMYTATH 4/2/2010 9:50AM

    First let me say that I love this blog.

I learn so much through the tiny, fresh eyes of my 2 1/2 year old. I love to see him see things for the first time. And I love the fact that he truly believes there are monkeys in the woods and that when we see one Daddy will catch it for him.

We have not watched the news in years. It only upsets us and we decided that the most important things in OUR lives is in our livingroom, running and playing and dancing and singing.

Oh, and those parents on the benches have always peeved us off a little, we are running and playing with Joey and we take turns on the swing next to him (he dictates who swings next) We slide down the slide with him, help him climb the rock wall ect. Helps keep us young at heart even if our body keeps aging!

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YOYONOMORE1 4/2/2010 9:35AM

    Defintely the swing, it gives you a feeling of flying and freedom, at age 66, if I go to the park I'll still sit and swing, there are bits and pieces of childhood we can hold onto forever, I never heard o fit written in stone that we have to entirely grow up, lol. Sunday we'll have our kids, grand kids and great grand kids here, I've got a craft for them to do and bottles of bubbles to blow and have fun with, and there is a playground here between our building and the townhouses in back, so I am sure it will be a day full of fun. Enjoy your granddaughter and let your inner child out to play. It sounds like she pretty much adores her grandpa. Blessings to you and yours.

Hugs,
Shirl

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DOLLBABE56 4/2/2010 9:11AM

    Great blog! I look forward to the day we have grandchildren (hopefully we will).

I don't watch the news, and rarely read a newspaper. Oh yes, I do watch the weather sometimes. I don't want more depression in my life - there is nothing I can do about what goes on in the world. Okay, this last statement worries me. I do need to be more informed about what is happening in our country/world. Especially when it comes to politics. I tend to be uninformed when I vote for any official. I go by intuition?, you could say. I know that it sounds odd. But that is how I've always been. So in actuality, do you suppose if I start being more informed, I will not be my true self? hmmmm.... I feel at times that I've never fully grown up. I'm 53 and in my mind I AM still very young at times. I guess that is a good thing. lol

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CROBINGO 4/2/2010 8:58AM

    I love the magic in the eyes! I remember thinking the same thing about my daughter. At times I could see the sugar plums and the magic of life just dancing in her eyes.

So lucky that you have that, SHE has that, You recognize it in her, and that you both enjoy each other so much. I had that with my Grandfather and he is long gone but that relationship still lives inside me.

At times he is the voice in my head. Others he is a wonderful memory or just the wonderfulness of our time together. So lucky for both of you. Enjoy!

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OHYESITSME1 4/2/2010 8:50AM

    I perfer the swing myself. When I worked in the mental health field, the very first prescription I would give all of my patients is: NO news, TV, or newspaper for 1 week if not longer. Amazing how ignorance really is bliss.

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JUSTLYLE 4/2/2010 8:50AM

    Great blog John, they sure can bring out the magic in all of us.
My 6 and 8 year old GS came for a short time yesterday and reminded me they brought their ball gloves with them, with that "please" look in their eyes said could you play some catch with us? You just find time for that.
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NJMATTICE 4/2/2010 8:20AM

    I prefer the Monkey Bars, but I'll try a swing for a change.

Thanks for seeing the magic and believing in the magic. It creates more in the world. We can't all be "artists" but we all can appreciate good art. Patron of the MAGIC. I like the sounds of that. "I'm a patron of the Magic"
Enjoy your Holy Week services and all that unseen magic as well.
Love,
Nancy

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Good Intentions

Thursday, April 01, 2010

If you didn’t read my posting yesterday on fighting off the arch enemy often referred to as dessert you might want to scan it quickly or this posting might not make sense.

When we last left our hero (That would be me.) he had just turned down a offering of delicious and tempting desserts in lieu of cup of coffee and some stimulating after dinner conversation. Being the amazing super hero/dude he has become it didn’t bother him a bit. Something else did.

The server who I have known for about two years, tried to coax me a bit. She was doing her job and that’s not what bothered me.

I looked up and said “Arianna, I have lost fifty pounds since the last time I saw you. I’m not going to blow it now!!

She smiled down at me and said “I noticed that when you walked in but I was afraid to say anything.”

Why would you be afraid to allow my self esteem to shoot through the roof and permit me to grin from ear to ear and……………. Give me an opportunity to Spread The Spark!!! (Joan says I need to be a bit cautious about Spreading The spark or I may end up incarcerated for stalking.)

Fast forward to yesterday morning

I am sitting in a client’s office. He keeps this enormous jar of candy on his desk . The little mini Snickers and Three Musketeers and the like. He offers me one. I politely refuse. He says “Are you losing weight? I noticed Monday but I was afraid to say anything.”

Why?

When I got home last night I asked Joan seeing how she knows everything I don’t. She thought for a second and said

“They might have been worried you were ill or had gone through an emotional issue and didn’t want to cause you any additional pain. They were being careful.”

Okay I can buy that, intellectually. But I mean even I look in the mirror and tell myself I am looking better. It’s necessary for my emotional well being and my self esteem. I want to …. No that is wrong I NEED to hear it from other people.

My greatest fault is that I can isolate myself. I can develop a “I know what’s good for me and no one knows better attitude.” I think it’s called living in a vacuum.
So when other people tell me I’m doing well or conversely if I am slipping a bit I NEED to hear that. (I guess that makes me needy. One of my daughters always said I was a drama queen.)

It comes down to your intentions. If you hang around with people who think like you do, (That would be Spark Friends) then you pretty much know your intentions are there to be supportive and good. I am not discounting what Joan said. If I saw a fragile or weak person who appeared ill I wouldn’t be insensitive.

We are so scared to love and be loved. We can romance a box of Twinkies or make flirtatious remarks to a four layer cake, but we cant smile at someone and pay them a compliment because they are doing the things that will keep them on the planet a few years more.

I am going to be me. If you look good I am going to tell you that you look good because whether you want to admit it or not you do need my approval by way of a thumbs up and smile.

And I need yours.

BTW: Have I told YOU how good you look lately? Yes you!!! Don’t look over your shoulder. I am talking to you!!!

  
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PCDORK 4/8/2010 10:33PM

    I like your blogs... thanks for posting them.
As for why people don't compliment you.... if they are like me, they probably don't pay enough attention to really notice FOR SURE. So, when they see you they either #1: vaguely think, gee he looks smaller than before, but I could be wrong so I won't mention it. or #2: they truly DON'T NOTICE, but then when you TELL them about it, they try to cover up their inattention by saying 'I noticed but I didn't want to say anything.'
I'm one of those people who don't pay much attention to someone's size... so I'm not likely to truly notice if someone is gaining :( or losing! :)
And... I know from experience... that when a person has A LOT of weight to lose, even tho they start FEELING BETTER with 10 or 20 lbs gone, it takes A LOT of weight to be gone before other people notice. (Not that I am minimizing your accomplishment... you've lost a lot!)
I'm new here, but will be watching you for inspiration and motivation! I need lots of both!
thanks again!
sally

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ROCKINFOX 4/7/2010 4:37PM

    I never thought about that, but it's so true. We are afraid to tell someone if they lost weight for some reason. I loved this blog and can't wait to read more of yours.

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DUTCHIEKIWI 4/2/2010 6:47PM

    Okay boss,

You want my opinion... sometimes being Dutch my opinion is rude and blunt....
Though "We" like to call it "honest and sincere....."

I believe two things,
I truly believe they're not saying anything, because for some people it's damn hard to give another human being a compliment.
That's THEIR problem, you have done an amazing thing, they don't really want to acknowledge that because... well, what kind of amazing thing have 'they' achieved lately??
We don't want you feeling superior now do we??!!

and two.... this one is ouchy... they look at you and think you're still fat, you shouldn't have been fat in the first place, so no compliment for the fat person....

Am I being gloom and doom here?? maybe. But I have had well, to say the least in my own way, an interesting life, with interesting jobs where people for instance don't talk to you at all when you're fat and therefore, not cool.
Loose all that weight, have more 'fake' friends, because all of a sudden everyone talks to you....
then gain that weight again, and realise that you're all of a sudden not worthy talking to anymore... of course VERY worthy of talking ABOUT, mostly behind your back.

It's okay, because it made me see the light, and make the decision of who I really wanted to have as a friend.
Great way to find out who is actually worthy of YOU!

Everyone has their own opinion, and it's great to hear them all.

No intent to hurt anyone, just being honestly blunt about my vision.

Keep it up, as you're kicking butt!!!

What a ride! What a journey! Right here with ya!

Dutchie

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KOKGIRL 4/2/2010 8:00AM

    Yes, I understand the situation all too well. Some people just flat out don't notice (I'm guilty of that sometimes too). Others are more worried about insulting me if they ask if I've lost weight and I haven't (that happened 3 months into me starting to workout with a trainer. I had lost size but not weight. Being the engineer I was talking to an engineer, I pointed out the distinction and thanked him for noticing.) Men are more afraid to remark to women about their appearance just because of the society we live in.

Don't be bewildered by this, it's a sign that they don't know what your goals are or they are too focused on their own lives to pay attention. If you need/want the support, when you lose some weight or achieve something really great (like avoiding dessert), then use the "How are you?" question you get asked most often as your in to Spreading your Spark. It doesn't have to feel like bragging. It can be as simple as "I feel great because I've lost another pound" or "...because I'm eating five servings of Fruits & Veggies daily and its helping my energy level" or "I'm jogging/biking/swimming X miles a week and I feel great". That's the not so subtle hint that you want to talk about it if they are comfortable talking about it. There's nothing wrong with being the initiator to boosting your self esteem.

Keep up the great job you are doing!

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KATIEGLEN012 4/2/2010 6:12AM

    I laughed aloud when I read the "drama queen" statement. Children are such a blessing, aren't they? I love when my children make an observation about me, they often acknowledge my strengths or put things into perspective for me...knowingly or unknowingly.

I am one of the people in the world who thinks appreciation makes people perform better...in my circles I am referred to as the motivator...as a teacher it is my best tool. I work hard at acknowledging improvement. Just yesterday I sat down beside a student...who is not my student but has been dropping in and out of our GED program for years...and said that I wanted her to know the differences I see in her this time. I see determination. I see effort. I see her study and study and study. I see her attend extra classes...above and beyond her contract. I see that she began in elementary math and is now doing algebra. I wanted her to know that I notice the change in her. She immediately lined up her goals for me. When she gets this credential...don't you just love hearing that she said WHEN...she immediately qualifies for an upgrade at work and when that happens, she will enter a Licensed Practical Nursing program. I took a moment to affirm her goals. LPN will be a growing field for years to come...many of the Boomers will need LPN care as part of their aging, plus the fact that the certification is so versatile, with one being able to work with every age group on the planet!

Do all the good that you can, in all the ways that you can, to whomever you can.
So John...you hero-diva...you're lookin' quite fit these days...workin hard at it, are you? I see you at the gym, saying no to tempting sugars, encouraging friends...I see such a difference in you this time. You are changing your life and the opportunities that will be available to you will only multiply. Pat yourself on the back...you deserve it.















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MARCYNA 4/2/2010 5:11AM

    I noticed you look more handsome but was afraid to tell you!!!!!!
I,m joking.
But you do look handsome!!!!
Love,
Marcyna

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JUST_TRI_IT 4/2/2010 1:40AM

    Dear Mr. Hero,
I think that sometimes people don't say anything out of some kind of jealousy and/or fear. I know that sounds weird, but perhaps people are jealous when people they have felt somewhat more superior to are now looking better from the inside out. Or, perhaps they are afraid that if they tell you they notice now it will mean they noticed when you were fat.. and then perhaps that means they actually called you fat -- and they don't want to show that embarrassing (prejudicial?) side of their minds.

Keep on workin' hard! Keep on lookin' GREAT from the inside out and outside in :)

Diane

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CARTOONB 4/2/2010 12:33AM

    First Hulk Hogan and now a drama queen. You have some interesting voices in that head of yours. emoticon

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GEEMAWEST 4/1/2010 9:54PM

    John, You look Mahvelous! (she said with a Billy Crystal accent)

I mean that from the bottom of my heart. You are doing absolutely super. You are a great inspiration.

Cheryl aka G-Ma

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CHANGEDIN09 4/1/2010 9:21PM

    This was a great post as usual. I can SO relate to this though. I have lost 65 pounds and I will see people I havent seen in a long time and they don't say a word. They must not know how we need the compliments and motivation to keep going...at least I need them and most of us do , I think. Well you look great by the way!!

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WANDAH3 4/1/2010 8:42PM

    John...I see you smiling from the inside out and you are looking fantastic. I'm one of those people that is always jumping right in and letting people know how great they are looking. Everyone likes to have their hard work recognized. I'm also not insensitive and if the person looks unwell, I wouldn't tell them they looked good, but I might gently inquire "how have you been doing".

Have a wonderful day you "drama queen" you. lol

Hugs,
Wanda

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TNTEACHER2 4/1/2010 8:29PM

    You look great, John. And soon you will look stupendous.

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REMODELINGPAT 4/1/2010 5:31PM

    emoticonAnother wonderful Hero John blog! You ARE looking emoticonWe will make it together (but I'd better pay closer attention!)

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KAT573 4/1/2010 4:43PM

    EVERYONE needs acknowledgment and notice. When someone looks good, beautiful or handsome, happy, or full of zest, I tell them so and ask them the secret! That both keeps it neutral enough without withholding unintentionally and allows them to fill in as they wish! We all do need encouragement and notice. Keep on keeping ON! emoticon

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KLEONIKI 4/1/2010 4:22PM

    Thank you for noticing! Yes i look good , dear John, you too dear look much much better!
He!he!
Hugs
Kleoni
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PINETREEGIRL 4/1/2010 2:33PM

    John, you look Fabulous! I love your photos - you've got this proportionate relationship whereby your smile grows bigger as your body grows smaller. How cool is that! And I'm glad that you called yourself a hero--because you are.

I get all the attention in the world from Trevor, which is great, but that's because he sees and feels a very intimate view of my journey. I have not gotten many comments from friends - once, when hugging a girlfriend goodbye, she said "see you later skinny". That boosted my esteem for 2 days! I know the feeling of needing, not just wanting, that to happen.

I noticed one thing also-the further along I get, one friend in particular who used to be my size before I began my epic adventure is now talking to me about wanting to lose weight. We never talk about my weight loss, though. So I wondered, in some cases, is it that when one person loses weight the other person does not address them because they are preoccupied with assessing their own level of success in the same capacity?

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MORTICIAADDAMS 4/1/2010 1:57PM

    My son lost 120 pounds and looks completely different. Some people feel fine commenting on it and some don't. They wait for him to say something because they fear if they say something is will sound like. Wow, you were fat and now you aren't. Some are fearful the weight loss is due to medical problems and they don't want to pry. It sure beats the older woman at the funeral home when I was at the top of my weight who said - I didn't recognize you, you have gotten so fat. LOL.

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MARLIZG 4/1/2010 1:51PM

    i find the better i look the less people tell me, like my success is a threat to them...i was even told once i looked "gaunt"...Dude i wouldn't look gaunt on my deathbed & i always hoped to so i said thankyou sooo much!! I've always wanted to look gaunt. Look in the mirror & tell someone who really cares(you!) how great you look. the rest is just sour grapes

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GEINAHG0757 4/1/2010 1:50PM

    One of the women I work with makes wonderful comments to me about my weight loss and how she wants to look like me! It makes me float around for about an hour after I hear it...

You are looking GOOD, sir!!! Thanks for sharing.

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GETFIT2LIVE 4/1/2010 1:14PM

    John, so often what you write about parallels what I'm going through at the same time! It wasn't until someone who DOESN'T know I have been working on losing weight asked if I have been losing weight that I really felt like I was making significant progress. We need to hear it from those who know the journey we're on but even more from those who don't! Sometimes I think people are afraid to say anything about our weight loss because to do so might seem like they're saying, I saw that you were fat before, especially those who have never had to fight to lose weight. Good job, by the way--you are looking GREAT!

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CROBINGO 4/1/2010 11:04AM

    It is true. Whether we like it or not, we all do like acceptance. We might be able to discount someone's lack of it, but there is that always niggling loss.

Great blog.

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AMYTATH 4/1/2010 10:52AM

    John...I am totally the same way. I will openly say Im needy. I need that daily affirmation from ANYONE that I am doing good and that it shows...or like you said even if I need a swift kick in the butt to pump it up a notch or two. Nothing wrong with that and I LOVE those who are not afraid to ask if we have lost weight. I had a co-workers husband last week say that it looked like I was "trimming down". It made my whole day! Its amazing how just a few words can make your day so much better!

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DOLLBABE56 4/1/2010 10:29AM

    It does bolster one's morale to hear a compliment (if you will accept it). There's nothing like it to make you feel good about the choices you are making to improve yourself. I agree, we all need it.

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NJMATTICE 4/1/2010 10:21AM

    Hey John. Have you lost weight?
-nj

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TIFFANIE150 4/1/2010 10:02AM

    I think sometimes people don't say anything because they don't want to hurt your feelings by way of saying that you lost weight by default says you were overweight to begin with. I know I've been guilty of not saying anything before for that reason.

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DOLLIE6 4/1/2010 9:37AM

    I agree with Joan they probably were trying to be tactful. I have gone up and down with my weight nobody knows where I will be when they see me. I just want to get to goal this time and stay there. We are here for you John and we will encourage each other because we know what we are going through. Just enjoy when someone does have the sense to complainant you. You'll get to your goal and folks that do not know you will think you have been that weight forever. Whats neat is to have an overweight person say you don't have to worry about your weight, I wish I did not, and you whip out the before picture and tell them about Spark. Wow I'm looking forward to that.

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STORMTMB 4/1/2010 9:24AM

    I'm with Joan on this one and it's because I assume these folks haven't seen you in a while and didn't know if there was something else going on. If I haven't seen someone for a year, how do I say "are you sick or did you lose all of that weight in a healthy way?" I might start by asking how things have been and see what clues I get. Maybe because losing weight is so darn hard, most people assume illness/depression/problem as the reason. And if that is the reason, it can become really akward quickly depending again on how well you know the person.

But, since I KNOW you, I can say that you look fabulous, Dude!

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CMBELISLE 4/1/2010 8:22AM

    I think the fear is derived from an anomaly that makes people think that if they ask if you have been losing weight then they are admitting that they thought your were fat. It's kinda like asking a woman if she is pregnant - you just never know if she really is or is just overweight.

Real story passed along to me by my mother: about a year after my birth a cousin came to visit my mom. When my mom opened the front door, the first thing out of my cousin's mouth was, "Anna, you're not!" Our dear cousin thought my mother was pregnant (again). My mother was mortified because she wasn't pregnant - she had just gained all her weight in her stomach.

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GREENCAT1 4/1/2010 8:17AM

    Great blog John!

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Small Victories

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

We all recall our major victories. The first time we were able to walk, run, cycle or swim without feeling like we were going to die. Maybe it was the first time we stepped on the scale and saw that the hard work, education and determination was really starting to pay off. We keep them close at hand, because we know there are those moments when we need them to help keep the momentum going forward.

What about the small victories? The daily things that if you had to explain them to another person it might take all darn day and you fear they still might walk away scratching their heads going “What the heck was he talkin’ about?” the things that mean something only to us.

We will have gray days. They are days when no matter how many mantra’s we utter, how many invocations we pronounce, we still feel all blah. We behave in a robotic manner and method. I call it “walking through green jello.” You read blogs and postings and Oh yes………… you want to Spread The Spark, just maybe tomorrow, or next week, or next month. Wonder what my calendar looks like for 2011?

I am learning to identify and savor the small daily victories. They are the good decisions I make on a daily basis that no one notices but me. I might be the only one who gets something from them but sometimes, despite the wonderful support I get from those who love me, (That includes you.) I still need that little push only I can give.

I would like to share a small victory with you from yesterday.

I went to dinner with a client at a restaurant I had eaten at many times before. It’s not the kind of restaurant one of the spark coaches would sing praises about. Exceptionally good food, but possibly the only healthy thing about it is the sign that exhorts you to wash your hands when you leave the restroom. The owner knows me as do some of the serving staff. So when I walked in last night, and they gave me the “Gee we haven’t seen you in forever,” and all the big hugs being spread around it was a good feeling.

I know they have chicken on the menu. It’s just hidden between the steaks and chops. I dodged that bullet successfully with chicken and steamed veggies plus a small salad. The worst was yet to come. This restaurant has a dessert tray to die for. I suspect a few people have given the massive sugar content.

There were eight of us at the table. Our server went around the table. I could hear my heart pounding. “What ya gonna do dude?” (That voice always sounds like Hulk Hogan) The server is standing right next to me and she looks down.

“John?”

I am looking down at the table. Moment of truth, mano a mano.

“Pass”

She looks like someone just left her a three dollar tip on a hundred dollar bill. Five minutes later here comes the owner. He leans over to me:

“Everything okay John? You didn’t order dessert.”
“Everything is fine Mickey.”

He bustled away to greet someone else. I had a cup of coffee, enjoyed the convo with my dinner companions and gosh I felt good. I wanted to stand up in the restaurant and do the Tiger Woods fist pump.

I know it’s a small victory. I got back to my hotel and told Joan about it when I called her to say good night.

“You know,” she said. “It’s okay to have a bit of dessert every now and then just as long as you don’t go overboard.”

“I know, but not tonight.”

A very small victory but one that carries me into today. One that I can dig out when I need and give myself one of those “Hang on a second John, remember when…..” Joan was right, there is nothing wrong with a little dessert every now and then

This journey isn’t about punishment.

But I had to know I could resist the urge and temptation and it may be a small thing but I am all grins, and its not even six am yet.

Look out world

  
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RHIPEA76 4/6/2010 2:54PM

    This was AWESOME! I felt this same way a few weeks ago when I ordered baked potato instead of fries (WHAT?!?!?!?!?!) at dinner. I called it exactly that: a "small victory." And no one was as excited or enthusiastic about it as I was. But it didn't matter.

I have become a geek for SV's...they've made me happier than I've been in a long time (not to mention the contribution to my 23lbs weight loss).

Thanks for this blog :)

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JAE_HENNINGTON 4/5/2010 7:49AM

  Bravo, John... its the small victories that we can feel good about, things other people may not even notice but mean so much to ourselves.......

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    emoticonYOU WIN emoticon

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RJFERRARO315 4/3/2010 12:32AM

    You are so right! Small victories can mean more than the big ones. emoticon

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DUTCHIEKIWI 4/2/2010 6:28PM

    YOU, my friend, are getting UP THERE, you have worked your way into my favourite authors list.
I love your blogs, they are down to earth, honest, funny and continue to inspire me whilst giving me goosebumps...

One thing though boss.....

This was in my eyes NOT a small victory, but by golly... it was a HUGE one.

Com'on now... there is nothing small about making a choice knowing that 7 others will be devouring in front of you what possibly was one of the most enjoyable things to you when you went out for dinner!

To me, THAT was really really hard, having my 'friends' around me, and while they are ordering heaps of stuff I KNOW I shouldn't have, and then realising the tingling feeling of annoyance, that made me say to myself; " bwah, I can have this too... why should THEY get all the good stuff and give me looks like I don't deserve it?!! Following me ordering the most delicious but SO not nutritious food on the menu.

This was a battle conquered my friend, kudos to you!

Keep it up!

Your friend,

Dutchie


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LIFE_IS_SO_GOOD 4/2/2010 4:49PM

    I really enjoyed reading this. Thanks!

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KAT573 4/1/2010 4:37PM

    WHOOOOOOOOOT! good for YOU! and GOOD for you! and Good FOR you!
LOL! I know that while I "could" have a little dessert in the restaurant, if I split it with two or three others, I surely CANNOT have donuts, pastries, cakes, cookies and pies in my house! I cannot eat just one of them. Took me a while to acknowledge that limitation of mine, and it makes all the difference to me that I did!

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VTORIA3 4/1/2010 4:12PM

    John, I loved this blog...it speaks for so many of us. The point about the small victories is something only a fellow sparker can truly understand and appreciate. And, those small victories are what support us as we limp through a tough day. In 2008, when I lost 40#, I declined every dinner invitation for 6 months, because I knew I was too weak to make it through the event without failing. I am happy to share that this time I am stronger and have successfully eaten out in restaurants a half a dozen times. One of the six experiences was so bad I walked away hungry while I watched my companion chow down on about 2500 calories. I barely had a grip on myself, but I prevailed. Ah, victory is sweet. Kudos to us and to others who have a similar success story! emoticon

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TNTEACHER2 4/1/2010 5:57AM

    I am surprised, John, that they did NOT seem to notice that there is less of you, and that you probably did not get that way by eating dessert!

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GETFIT2LIVE 4/1/2010 2:18AM

    John, you are so right--we need to savor the small victories, the good choices that we make along the way that others may or may not ever understand as being important. It's learning to be conscious about the choices we make instead of being random or careless. That means when we choose to have dessert, we can enjoy it without guilt, because it was a conscious, measured decision and not a momentary lapse into old habits, and we can choose to NOT have it as well. Well done!

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BOOKAPHILE 3/31/2010 11:53PM

    You have good reason to store this in your collection of victories! Thanks for encouraging us!

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JUST_TRI_IT 3/31/2010 11:25PM

    100% agree with you.. It is so important to see the little daily wins. Congrats on seeing how much you can give yourself the support you want!

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1WALKINGMAN 3/31/2010 10:10PM

    emoticonStay in control!

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JCDROLSHAGEN 3/31/2010 8:32PM

    Way to go!

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KLEONIKI 3/31/2010 1:22PM

    I am glad to read this story!
I will bring it "in my purse", next time i am going to a date with Mr Temptation himself, and me and (John) will say together "no thanks i am o.k." ...
Thank you dear John!
You are doing well!
Kleoniki

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OZARKMARY 3/31/2010 12:09PM

  Good for you!! emoticon

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JILLIEWILLE1 3/31/2010 11:05AM

    emoticon
That is emoticon. The hard part of "not punishing yourself" is being able to stop and say that is enough.

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ANNSTOECKL 3/31/2010 11:00AM

    I'm learning to rejoice in the small victories as well. Blessings, Ann

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GREENCAT1 3/31/2010 10:59AM

    I needed to hear this today John. emoticon

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TRIPLE_EMME 3/31/2010 10:52AM

    John, This is a HUGE victory!!!

Not only did you manage to successfully skip dessert, but you held firm in your resolve when the owner came to talk to you, too! (I think I would have waffled at that point.)

I'm celebrating with you from afar!!!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/31/2010 10:17AM

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REMODELINGPAT 3/31/2010 10:13AM

    It IS a good feeling...and part of developing a new healthier lifestyle is knowing WHEN to skip dessert...a lesson I've NOT mastered yet! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DOLLIE6 3/31/2010 9:56AM

    emoticonI understand. It is a great feeling, right now for right now, tomorrow will take care of itself. You are a dear for sharing. We all are on such a trip. Keep on tripping the best is yet to come.

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STORMTMB 3/31/2010 9:24AM

    You gave me a good laugh to start the day..."the only healthy thing about it is the sign that exhorts you to wash your hands...". Thanks for the laugh - now I must go to a meeting. Be safe traveling home and congrats on your victory last night.

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HAVALOVER 3/31/2010 8:51AM

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CMBELISLE 3/31/2010 8:38AM

    Woo hoo! I too love the small victories and I can definitely relate to that "blah" feeling (going through the motions).

My small victories of late have been getting up every morning to exercise (even on days when it seems like my schedule should not allow it) and ordering chicken with my nachos instead of beef. Another small victory was looking down at my wrists yesterday (first day in short sleeves in a long time) and noticing that they actually look smaller.

As for the "blahs", I've had a touch of that lately but I know it's related to work (both in the office and at home) more than anything else. I stay positive by reminding myself that it will be mostly over come April 15th - at least until next year. For now, I just keep going through the motions and pray that I don't forget anything.

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BIBLIOHOLIC57 3/31/2010 8:11AM

    Fantastic, John! Truly a gold star day.

Way to go, guy!!!!

Annie emoticon emoticon emoticon

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WANDAH3 3/31/2010 7:43AM

    Congratulations John, it's those small victories that sometimes give us the biggest boost. Way to go. Joan is right, it's not about the denying, it's about being in charge of your decisions. You did what was right for you in that moment.

Woo Hoo,
Have a safe trip home.

Hugs,
Wanda

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WALKNLOVE 3/31/2010 7:37AM

    I always love your blogs...you are just so down to earth...being real! I had a small victory yesterday myself.I was taking my regular bodyjam class and for some reason, my body felt like it was moving in slow motion.I was struggling to get through the class...kept watching the clock and was wondering if I was going to last. I did last! Victory! (And then I had to stay at the gym for another 2 1/2 hours while the bomb squad investigated "a bomb" in the parking lot.Ugh! How weird is that? Oh well, I did work out :) !

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DOLLBABE56 3/31/2010 7:27AM

    You took a very tempting, albeit delicious situation on turned it into a huge victory! I'm proud of you John. Sometimes it is best to "pass", especially when (for me) it could set off a binge if you weren't mentally prepared for it. You knew and you conquered the situation. Good on you!

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NJMATTICE 3/31/2010 7:26AM

    It reminds me of one of the signs I see hanging up in the schools I visit. "You are the sum of your choices." Your sum is adding up quite nicely to good health!
Have a great day.
Love,
Nancy

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UNIBOK 3/31/2010 7:26AM

    John, congratulations! And I agree with CROBINGO about your writing style. I'll hope to read more of you.

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CROBINGO 3/31/2010 7:17AM

    Great success! That is huge, actually! Congrats!

(By the way, I love your writing style. It is strong with humor mixed in and fun to read)

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