Monday, March 29, 2010
I love to eat. I can see a lot of you nodding your heads in silent agreement. Not only am I an emotional eater I am an eater who looks at a meal as something that can be a wonderful life experience. I love to cook, to bake, to grill. I brew my own beer.
One of the reasons I have failed in the past in this journey towards health is I have always felt deprived. I always felt as if something had been taken away from me and I would act , well I'd act like I was five. "I'll show you!!!" Then I'd gain ten pounds. I used to think it wasn't fair, that the world got to sample all of life's pleasures and I was stuck eating cottage cheese.
Thanks to Spark People and thanks to my Spark friends and especially thanks to my daughter-in-law, I no longer believe that.
I am on my way to West Virginia. I usually break the trip in half and drive to Louisville on Sunday afternoon. My daughter-in-law has never cooked for me. she is in culinary school. when I talked to her on the phone she said she was excited about cooking me what she called her "go to" meal. when my son was tied up at work, this is the meal she would cook for herself.
Let me pause for a short frame of reference here. My left leg weighs more than her whole body!!!
I cannot believe meal I had for six hundred calories. if you take away the two ounces of white wine I drank it is even less than that. She cooked, salmon, in a small amount of olive oil, artichokes and asparagus tip sautéed in the same pan. She garnished that with a fresh pineapple-tomato-onion salsa in its own juices. I had with it a serving of wild brown rice.
Who knew!!! (Not me!!!) OMG it was delightful. All that good, wonderful food and it wasn't going to clog my arteries.
My friends, this journey is not a punishment, but rather a discovery of what can be, if we look hard enough. It means that you can still enjoy a really good meal and not feel guilty about it. It means you are not any differant than the rest of the world.
I'm off to WVA. I'll catch up with you this evening
Sunday, March 28, 2010
As of this morning I am slightly more than half way towards my original weight goal. When I began, what has become the seventh best experience in my life, (My wedding day and birth of six kids ranks one through six.) I set a goal of losing one hundred pounds. As I wrote it I was way skeptical. I couldn’t imagine me one hundred pounds lighter.
The Spark was published two weeks after I joined and I devoured it. I was comfortable that no one tried to sell me a drug or a program and I didn’t feel like Chris was pointing a finger in my face and telling me I was some sort of evil nasty person for not always living a healthy life style. I felt like he was welcoming me to participate in a process that would finally give me the confidence to put together in a logical and cogent order all the ideas that had been floating around in my head for so long.
Then there are all of you. So, so many of you that along the way gave me tips, gave me encouragement and gave me the best gift I believe anyone can give anyone else, your friendship. When I get up in the morning and head out the door I look over my shoulder and I see all of you clapping and waving and yelling “Go John.” I mean who couldn’t succeed with friends like you guys?
So for what it’s worth here is what I have learned so far and even some stuff that didn’t work but I learned from:
I decided I was not on a diet. To that end I am only going to weigh myself every two weeks. This happened quite by accident to begin with. I was out of town for a funeral last weekend and Sunday is my weigh in day. I didn’t get home until Monday and I decided to wait until today. But I noticed last week that I was more relaxed not worrying about the Satan called a scale. (I got that phrase of a really good Spark friend) I made good food choices because one day I will reach my goal weight and instead of going OMG, stressing out and eating everything see, I will know how to act and behave. I realize it may take me a little longer than I’d like to get the next fifty pounds off but I need to learn to be comfortable with me. Once it’s gone I have promised myself it isn’t coming back.
Take what the room gives you in relationship to exercise. I darn near put myself in intensive care a month into this experience. I was up to forty minutes a day of cardio, seven days a week and posted a blog that said I was going to go to fifty five minutes a day and then a month later fifty minutes a day. My body wasn’t ready. I am still comfortably doing forty minutes, seven days a week. I am cheering on my younger and more durable Spark friends who are performing at a higher level. I am gaining strength and I am getting healthier so for right now I am staying at forty minutes a day. I do plan on starting to add strength and core training. In two weeks I am beginning a class on developing abs and core on the stability ball and using resistance bands. It meets twice a week for one half hour and it lasts four weeks. When I have completed that course I am going to look into retaining a personal trainer.
I made myself a priority and let everyone I love know I was doing so and why. Mostly we fail because we fail to communicate. I told my wife and my family what I wanted to do and why it was important. They understood. When people know WHY you are doing something they either help you along or get out of the way. I do miss my wing eatin’ beer drinkin’ buddies sometimes but as I am so fond of saying, “You are who you hang around with.”
As I posted yesterday I am starting to explore living healthier by eating less or eventually no meat. I am doing this slowly and I am going to research it completely before I get into it. I want to be successful if I do.
My stress level has decreased because I am reaching goal I have set for myself and so my self esteem is higher. Some people who know me live and in person cant believe I have/had a self esteem issue. But if you have been or are overweight you know what I am talking about. No matter how good you feel there is always that guilt or shame. By reaching small goals I feel better and know I can accomplish more.
I have two affirmations I read over and over:
“They way you see the world is the way you see yourself.”
“If I can find an excuse not to do something, I can find a reason to do it.”
Finally, I really believe that positive energy is the greatest healing tool God gave us. I have been profoundly affected by each of you and am grateful for you.
Have a great day
Saturday, March 27, 2010
I am looking for some resources that might help me better understand the benefits of a vegetarian diet. Since I have been a Spark person I realized that I am only eating meat about twice a week and I have only had red meat twice in four months!!
This is something I want to do gradually. I dont want to wake up tomorrow morning and announce "Hey I'm a vegetarian." I also realize there are varying degrees of being vegetarian. I need something to read, watch, etc.
I Googled the word vegetarian and what I got was a lot of people trying to sell me stuff. I need to be educated. Anyone have any advice?
Request number two:
Stir Fry cooking. I want to learn how to do it healthy and the right way. Any suggestions on where I can go to learn?
Thank you guys. I appreciate the help
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