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Halfway There

Sunday, March 28, 2010

As of this morning I am slightly more than half way towards my original weight goal. When I began, what has become the seventh best experience in my life, (My wedding day and birth of six kids ranks one through six.) I set a goal of losing one hundred pounds. As I wrote it I was way skeptical. I couldn’t imagine me one hundred pounds lighter.

The Spark was published two weeks after I joined and I devoured it. I was comfortable that no one tried to sell me a drug or a program and I didn’t feel like Chris was pointing a finger in my face and telling me I was some sort of evil nasty person for not always living a healthy life style. I felt like he was welcoming me to participate in a process that would finally give me the confidence to put together in a logical and cogent order all the ideas that had been floating around in my head for so long.

Then there are all of you. So, so many of you that along the way gave me tips, gave me encouragement and gave me the best gift I believe anyone can give anyone else, your friendship. When I get up in the morning and head out the door I look over my shoulder and I see all of you clapping and waving and yelling “Go John.” I mean who couldn’t succeed with friends like you guys?

So for what it’s worth here is what I have learned so far and even some stuff that didn’t work but I learned from:

I decided I was not on a diet. To that end I am only going to weigh myself every two weeks. This happened quite by accident to begin with. I was out of town for a funeral last weekend and Sunday is my weigh in day. I didn’t get home until Monday and I decided to wait until today. But I noticed last week that I was more relaxed not worrying about the Satan called a scale. (I got that phrase of a really good Spark friend) I made good food choices because one day I will reach my goal weight and instead of going OMG, stressing out and eating everything see, I will know how to act and behave. I realize it may take me a little longer than I’d like to get the next fifty pounds off but I need to learn to be comfortable with me. Once it’s gone I have promised myself it isn’t coming back.

Take what the room gives you in relationship to exercise. I darn near put myself in intensive care a month into this experience. I was up to forty minutes a day of cardio, seven days a week and posted a blog that said I was going to go to fifty five minutes a day and then a month later fifty minutes a day. My body wasn’t ready. I am still comfortably doing forty minutes, seven days a week. I am cheering on my younger and more durable Spark friends who are performing at a higher level. I am gaining strength and I am getting healthier so for right now I am staying at forty minutes a day. I do plan on starting to add strength and core training. In two weeks I am beginning a class on developing abs and core on the stability ball and using resistance bands. It meets twice a week for one half hour and it lasts four weeks. When I have completed that course I am going to look into retaining a personal trainer.

I made myself a priority and let everyone I love know I was doing so and why. Mostly we fail because we fail to communicate. I told my wife and my family what I wanted to do and why it was important. They understood. When people know WHY you are doing something they either help you along or get out of the way. I do miss my wing eatin’ beer drinkin’ buddies sometimes but as I am so fond of saying, “You are who you hang around with.”

As I posted yesterday I am starting to explore living healthier by eating less or eventually no meat. I am doing this slowly and I am going to research it completely before I get into it. I want to be successful if I do.

My stress level has decreased because I am reaching goal I have set for myself and so my self esteem is higher. Some people who know me live and in person cant believe I have/had a self esteem issue. But if you have been or are overweight you know what I am talking about. No matter how good you feel there is always that guilt or shame. By reaching small goals I feel better and know I can accomplish more.
I have two affirmations I read over and over:

“They way you see the world is the way you see yourself.”

“If I can find an excuse not to do something, I can find a reason to do it.”

Finally, I really believe that positive energy is the greatest healing tool God gave us. I have been profoundly affected by each of you and am grateful for you.

Have a great day

Love
John

  
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CRANBERRYKITTY 3/30/2010 9:51PM

    Although I have only known you for a short time, I am very, very proud of you.

Thank you for sharing this today.

Best wishes,
Sydney

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LAWRALOO 3/29/2010 2:53PM

    I am so proud of you :)
You've come a long ways since you joined spark and I have enjoyed being a part of your journey. :)

Thanks for always keeping me positive :) You're made of awesome!

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BECCALYNN75 3/29/2010 2:05PM

    John, almost everytime I read one of your blogs there is a statement that I feel I could have written myself. This time it was:

"Some people who know me live and in person cant believe I have/had a self esteem issue. But if you have been or are overweight you know what I am talking about. No matter how good you feel there is always that guilt or shame"

Just this weekend someone very close to me asked me why I was so insecure about certain things. Because they have never been overweight they never realized the insecurity that causes. It was also a good learning experience for me too, in that I never consider the fact that naturally thin/fit people might not realize that.

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VALERIEMAHA 3/29/2010 1:14PM

    I followed my friend GIRANIMIAL here to see what "halfway" we were talking about! MOST IMPRESSIVE!!!!!! And your attitude through the blog is quite amazing really. Besides the discipline and consistency that you need, the support and compassion of the SparkCommunity is definitely a factor in the ongoing motivation needed to achieve what you have...I quite agree with you!

Spark On!!!
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GIRANIMAL 3/29/2010 1:01PM

    emoticon, John, on reaching your halfway mark! It really feels great doesn't it, especially when you once were skeptical about the feasibility of your original goal. I know that feeling!

Your consistency and self-confidence are inspiring as ever -- and I really need it today, so thanks!

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CMBELISLE 3/29/2010 12:14PM

    Woo Hoo! Time to do the happy dance for John - he's halfway to goal! Way to go!

Best of luck with leaving off meat. I most likely won't be joining you on that journey - as the hubby says, those eye teeth are in there for a reason. emoticon I am however eating smaller portions and increasing the varieties by adding fish more often to my beef, chicken and pork rotation.

Have a great week!

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TWENKY215 3/29/2010 10:31AM

    Congratulations! Amazing is how I know you are feeling right now. emoticon

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OHYESITSME1 3/29/2010 7:25AM

    Congratulations! What an amazing feeling that must be!

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REMODELINGPAT 3/28/2010 9:27PM

    The halfway point is definitely something to celebrate!
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PINETREEGIRL 3/28/2010 8:04PM

    John, I'm so happy to have you in my network of supporters. I love your posts. I'm excited that you're working so hard toward what you want!
This is my favorite quote (roughly) from your page:
"Do you want a good reason to be happy? Look in the mirror--that is your reason to be happy."
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FIT2BME2010 3/28/2010 5:17PM

    Great post!! Your doing great! emoticon

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TINKERBELL200 3/28/2010 4:58PM

    Congrats on being 1/2 way there John! I know since I reached my goal I have had so much more confidence in myself. It's great when you wear a new outfit and everyone says Wow you look great! What size are you wearing now? I have a great support system too, my hubby and kids, and church and work! What more could you ask for? Keep on keepin on and you'll get there! emoticon You're doing emoticon!
Just look at it as Phase ll of your journey!
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LUNADRAGON 3/28/2010 3:53PM

    Bravo! Well done! Keep it up!
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CRYSELLE 3/28/2010 3:31PM

    Congrats John, you are so totally Awesome :) emoticon

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TEENY_BIKINI 3/28/2010 2:23PM

    Wow!!! That is amazing.

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BARBARAROCKSIT 3/28/2010 2:18PM

    WooHoo! Half-way! Incredible awesomeness!

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TAZZIEGIRL 3/28/2010 1:06PM

    You are doing great. I'm a carnivore so I doubt I will be giving up meat any time soon though.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/28/2010 12:46PM

    emoticon You are doing great!! Keep it up!!

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STORMTMB 3/28/2010 12:09PM

    Congrats on being half way there. I'm thinking that your new class will change your body and your metabolism in a great way and give you yet another boost toward your final goal. Keep it up and thanks for sharing the journey, Dude.

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I Need some Assistance, Please

Saturday, March 27, 2010

I am looking for some resources that might help me better understand the benefits of a vegetarian diet. Since I have been a Spark person I realized that I am only eating meat about twice a week and I have only had red meat twice in four months!!

This is something I want to do gradually. I dont want to wake up tomorrow morning and announce "Hey I'm a vegetarian." I also realize there are varying degrees of being vegetarian. I need something to read, watch, etc.

I Googled the word vegetarian and what I got was a lot of people trying to sell me stuff. I need to be educated. Anyone have any advice?

Request number two:

Stir Fry cooking. I want to learn how to do it healthy and the right way. Any suggestions on where I can go to learn?

Thank you guys. I appreciate the help

John

  
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LAWRALOO 3/29/2010 2:55PM

    Also, please make sure you talk to a health care professional about this choice.
I see a lot of people make this choice for the wrong reasons.
I am not in any way a health care professional, I just want to make sure you're as healthy as you should be :)

Talk to your Dr. before you decide to do this.

Mwah

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KAT573 3/28/2010 1:02PM

    Welp, you got a lotta help there; so go for it! I just get mags on vegetarian cooking and I have several of the Moosehead Restaurant cookbooks. I am not totally veg, and I am not vegan;
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STORMTMB 3/28/2010 11:37AM

    I think I could use some of these resources as well. I'm such a carnivore. It's a huge effort for me to not eat meat. I've read many articles however that say my blood sugar will come down a lot if I stop eating meat, especially red meat. My first step is trying to eat more fruits and vegetables and a smaller portion of meat. You're obviously waaaaayyyyy beyond that. Good for you and good luck with this journey.

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GREENCAT1 3/28/2010 9:10AM

    John - There are a couple of vegetarian spark teams. They should be really helpful. The thing to be careful about when becoming vegetarian and trying to lose weight is if you decide to eat dairy products - watch the fat. That is obvious I guess, but it is easy to forget. A vegan diet does not include any animal products at all. A good source for information on a vegan diet is the PETA website. They even have menus for weight loss there. If you look that over, I would be happy to answer any questions that you have. I have been a vegetarian, vegan and I have a degree in nutrition. Anyhow, those are some good places to start. Oh - Dr. John McDougall too. I think there is a McDougall spark team and he has a website. An EXCELLENT book to read is, "The China Study", By Dr. Colin Campbell.

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TNTEACHER2 3/28/2010 8:51AM

    Just make certain that you take the proper vitamins to make up for deficiencies which vegetarians can develop. Look on the internet at vitamins vegetarians need.
Marcy

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TRIPLE_EMME 3/28/2010 8:49AM

    I will put together a list for you.
I'll be back in a couple of hours.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/27/2010 8:52PM

    These urls should help

http://www.mayoclinic.c
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http://www.nlm.nih.go
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Stir frying is easy. You just pre-chop the veggies into equal size pieces and fry the veggies separately and quickly at moderately high temps in a small amount of oil until tender crisp.

http://www.ehow.com/how_289
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JCDROLSHAGEN 3/27/2010 8:00PM

    There are any number of sources about a vegetarian diet. I would start with any book that Vegetarian Times publishes. This is where I learned about vegetarian diets when my daughter decided she wanted to be a vegetarian a few years back. She ultimately decided that it was not for her. However, I am using that knowledge today; I am nearly vegetarian at this point and I have been losing a lot of weight this way. I am currently reading The Engine 2 Diet by Rip Esselstyn which discusses a vegan diet (no animal products at all).

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JCDROLSHAGEN 3/27/2010 7:42PM

    There are any number of sources about a vegetarian diet. I would start with any book that Vegetarian Times publishes. This is where I learned about vegetarian diets when my daughter decided she wanted to be a vegetarian a few years back. She ultimately decided that it was not for her. However, I am using that knowledge today; I am nearly vegetarian at this point and I have been losing a lot of weight this way. I am currently reading The Engine 2 Diet by Rip Esselstyn which discusses a vegan diet (no animal products at all).
I researched for stir-frying and found this link at About.Com: http://chinesefood.about.com/librar
y/blstirfrytips.htm It is pretty comprehensive on the subject. I think the amount of oil cited is a little high (I use about a third of what they say). The article also said something about stir fry sauce but no recipe for it. I use soy or a soy-vinegar 50/50 mix. You could also use chicken or veggie broth to moisten the food. Hope this helps.

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GERIKRAGH 3/27/2010 6:09PM

    Go somewhere where they have LOTS of magazines for sale and get a vegeterian one. There are lots. Go to the library and look at veggie cook books. A lot of them have prefaces which explain the eating. Go to a bookstore and look through the books and find one that has what you want. I even think they have "The Idiots Guide to Vegetarianism."
I call myself a flexitarian. I eat as vegetarian as I can but if I get a little meat in, I don't sweat it. I don't like eggs but will eat them in cooking. I don't eat a lot of cheese, but do use it in cooking. As you said, there are lots of degrees of vegetarianism. I don't like to see or eat a chunk of meat but if it's in a sauce or soup (small pieces) I'll eat it. I really don't get much, but my iron is always low. So be careful and good luck.

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HAVALOVER 3/27/2010 5:43PM

    Hi John,

Hope all's well on your end.

I was looking for an article I just read about the benefits of cutting on meat (specially red meat), how it extends your life, and cannot find it... argh...

However, everything I've read lately seems to agree on it.

There is an article on the NY Times about the latest book from Michael Pollan entitled "Rules Worth Following, for Everyone’s Sake". The book is “Food Rules: An Eater’s Manual,”, a tiny one, just received it yesterday.

I know that I've also read a couple of good articles in the Website www.realage.com. Go there and write "meat" on the search engine.

If you have not taken the real age test, give it a shot. It is really cool and an eye opener.

Hope I've helped some, even if I didn't find the darn article!!!

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NJMATTICE 3/27/2010 5:11PM

    I can help you, sir. Start at nutritionMD.org Check out foodforlife.org any of the PCRM websites There is a "scrolldown" to access any of their sites. PCRM.org, I think. It stands for Physicians Council for Responsible Medicine (I think). There is PCRM for diabetes and the like. It's a great resource. Also they had a kickstart vegan month this past March and will be doing it again in September. That program gets you in touch with some great resources like engine2diet.com and talronnen.com who have great recipes. But I would start with Dr. Neal Barnard's site(nutritionMD.org) That ought to give you a great wealth of info. I look forward to seeing what you discover!
Love,
Nancy

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Finding Support For Our Journey

Friday, March 26, 2010

I feel really good about the choices I made at dinner last night. The only real issue I had was the unsweet iced tea I drank. Our server, who did and excellent job kept my glass full. I was awake until late last night. So I turned on my computer and caught up on those emails that we all want to read but never seem to have the time. to read

I get a newsletter from Dr. Johnny Bowden every week or so. He is an exercise physiologist who I enjoy reading. The article I read last night was about The Four Pillars of Success. I wont regurgitate the article but I will tell you about pillar number one - support of family and friends on your journey. I agree with that. There is no way I would be as strong as I am without my wife. Every morning I am home she gives me "the hug test." Then she smiles and says "I think you are getting smaller." Good motivation.

This morning I was reading my Spark Page and my very good friend Marcyna said to me, "PS Each of your victory is my victory too!!!" Nice feeling.

I started to prepare for my day and I was thinking how true that statement is.
When I read your postings or your blogs that detail how you over came adversity, reached a goal or even when you struggled I feel like I am right there with you. Likewise, when you comment on my postings and offer encouragement I feel like I have the Verizon network traveling with me all day. That's a good feeling too,

Yes what I do and you do are our choices but knowing that I have this whole network of people behind me, as happy for my victories as I am for there's........ well it makes for some super motivation.

So this morning I give three cheers for me and for you and yes for you there in the corner , and you there sitting in the balcony and you.......

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KLEONIKI 3/29/2010 4:56PM

    Yes, dear John, supportive friends and family are our secret weapons..
Co-sparkers, exercise buddies, and sparkfriends are the best vehicle in our trip to health and happiness.
Happy to read you as always and hopeful for our common battles, dear spark friend!
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MARCYNA 3/29/2010 2:47PM

    Thanks for quoting me as a very good friend, I really enjoyed & and am so PROUD of it!!!!


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BECCALYNN75 3/29/2010 2:00PM

    I agree 100%. And you are one of the best at support, encouragement and motivation! Glad you are a part of our SP team.

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TNTEACHER2 3/27/2010 10:53AM

    Wow, John. Each day I begin sparkpeople by reading your blog. You inspire me. Marcy

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JBLINE123 3/27/2010 4:26AM

    I love the hug test your wife gives you!!!! Does she mind if I steal that idea for my hubby??? We are all here to support eachother, that is what makes SPARK so great!!! Good luck on your journey!!

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1WALKINGMAN 3/27/2010 12:18AM

    I am always happy for a SPARKER who succeeds.

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TINKERBELL200 3/26/2010 6:01PM

    I agree John! We are all in this together! Thanks for all your wonderful blogs! You should have been a writer! It's amazing all the support that is on this site, from friends who are having the same struggles. That's really cute how your wife encourages you. She must be amazing! Have a blessed day!
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MUFFINK9 3/26/2010 5:44PM

    You are so right about support from family and friends and Sp friends, it is so helpful. I find when I open myself up and tell others my feelings and plans that I really hear myself better. Seems like it helps clarify aspects of this journey when they get reflected back to me from a trusted person. emoticon

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TAZZAT2003 3/26/2010 4:40PM

    People are amazing! You are amazing! I can be having the worst day and no matter what I know I can rely on Jay, my family and you, always! Sorry I have not been here to motivate you this week. I am back now and not going anywhere!
Have a great weekend!

~hugs~
Jessica

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REMODELINGPAT 3/26/2010 4:04PM

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Blessings!

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WANDAH3 3/26/2010 3:56PM

    I loved that statement from Marcyna...."your victory is my victory too". It says it all.

Hugs,
Wanda

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AMYTATH 3/26/2010 1:07PM

    The support I receive here is the only thing that keeps me going! Without spark right now I cannot maintain my success. Everyone here is responsible for my successes. I totally love your message today John!!!

Amy

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DIASTER 3/26/2010 11:28AM

  You just never know what your blog means to some and to whom it is going to touch that day.You have a beautiful style of writting that reaches out to us all. Seems we all have the same universal problems and we need each other to motivate and encourage each other. Thanks.

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TRIPLE_EMME 3/26/2010 10:45AM

    I really love the Verizon analogy!

The Spark network is strong and vibrant.

Sparkle on, my friend!!!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/26/2010 10:43AM

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TWENKY215 3/26/2010 10:36AM

    Three cheers and back at you too John. Happy Friday!! emoticon emoticon

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STORMTMB 3/26/2010 9:53AM

    I like your analogy of the Verizon Network. The New Testament also talks about the "great cloud of witnesses" who are cheering us on as well. Obviously you and Joan have a great strength and bond in your marriage that provides for mutual support. You are loved, John, on earth and on high. Keep up the great work!

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CMBELISLE 3/26/2010 9:51AM

    Our networks really are important. The hubby has helped me rearrange my schedule by rearranging his own so I can exercise every morning. While I wish he would exercise with me, I'm not pushing - I'm setting an example and appreciating what he has done for me.

I think we often overlook what our network does for us - thanks for the reminder.

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YOYONOMORE1 3/26/2010 9:07AM

    Joan sounds like she is a good motivatior, the hug test, that is neat. Have a great day John.

Hugs,
Shirl

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GREENCAT1 3/26/2010 9:07AM

    I am fairly new to SP, but I agree - the community of support makes all the difference. My husband is on this journey with me and his support can help me keep going! We both celebrate our successes! Have a good day! emoticon

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VTORIA3 3/26/2010 9:07AM

    Thanks, John. We appreciate you, too! A successful day for me is always driven by my fellow sparkers. I can hear you all in the distance, rooting me on, and it keeps me going when I feel I am running on empty. emoticon emoticon in the plural!! emoticon

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NJMATTICE 3/26/2010 8:26AM

    Thank you John. And your blog, I consider to be my blog. So I guess my work is done here.
"Have an incredible day". (Wanda's blog is my blog as well)
Love,
Nancy

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AMABILE75 3/26/2010 8:13AM

    What a wonderful image you painted... we DO have something similar to the Verizon network traveling with us all day... only it's the SPARKPEOPLE Network, and it is oh so much better. emoticon

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WALKNLOVE 3/26/2010 8:01AM

    I always love your blogs! I like "the hug test"...what a great wife!
My hubby is very supportive too...it get "the curves test"...teeheehee emoticon

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Dodging Bullets and Then To Bed

Thursday, March 25, 2010

First of all thanks so much to each of you who responded to my blog on humor and its effect on our lives. This may sound like a very poor excuse but I am dead tired from work and while I want to respond to each of you individually, the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. So collectively to all of you I really enjoyed the stories you shared and your perspectives on humor in your own lives.

BTW I did not really join the circus. I wish I could have, but I didnt. I traveled to Paducah, Kentucky. So thank you all again.

Okay, now on with the show.

I had dinner with a client and his wife this evening. I was dreading it because we ate at a gourmet restaurant that the old John used to just love. Lots of calories, rich food. You get the picture.

I am really proud of me. I had no alcohol, no dessert, no bread drenched in seasoned olive oil. I ate fresh grouper with some veggies that were cooked in a pastry shell. I ate as little of the pastry as I could. I had a taste of an appetizer with tomatoes and a cream cheese. I had coffee at dessert time.

I stayed within my calorie limits and I am really happy with myself. This was a big test for me and I passed. I want to thank all of you who have been there for me. Without the good examples you have set for me I might have fallen to massive temptation. But i didnt!!!

The way I look at it this is a victory for us all.

I am going to bed. TTYL Sparkies.

  
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CMBELISLE 3/26/2010 9:20AM

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VTORIA3 3/26/2010 9:02AM

    Totally awesome John. I knew you would pass this test even if you were unsure. It was a tough one, too. I have been in that position, too, and passed it myself. It IS a great accomplishment and nothing feels better! emoticon

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WANDAH3 3/26/2010 7:46AM

    Way to go John! Congratulations on the knowledge you have gained...You are the one in control of your choices! Awesome job!

Have a fantastic Friday.

Hugs,
Wanda

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KATIEGLEN012 3/26/2010 7:08AM

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Way to set a good example!!!!!!

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MARCYNA 3/26/2010 5:39AM

    WoW....You're great!!!
It was difficult not to be ashamed of
1) Place (gourmet rest.)
2) People(Clients)
3) Old self..(major difficulty, for me)
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_MAOMAO_ 3/26/2010 1:50AM

  You did GRRREAT! Way to go! It's really hard to go to an old hang & eat like the new you. Now you know you can do it.
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NJMATTICE 3/25/2010 11:40PM

    Way to love yourself well! Thanks for modeling good behavior!
Love,
Nancy


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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/25/2010 10:30PM

    Paducah is not all that far from me. 125 miles south.

You did really great on eating out. Even after all these years when I'm confronted with a lot of food I eat like it's my last meal. LOL.

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TINKERBELL200 3/25/2010 10:29PM

    emoticon John,
You passed the test! You are making good lifestyle changes and choices! I don't know if I could have made such good choices! I still have some favorites I can't stay away from. You did awesome!

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AMABILE75 3/25/2010 10:21PM

    How wonderful that you stayed within your limit at a place you love to eat at. That can be very difficult. emoticon emoticon

Paducah, I've been there before... I can't remember for sure which place that is but I know I've been there. That isn't where they used to have the Street Machine Nationals is it? I went there a few times years ago. Always loved that event!

Have a great night!!! FYI I'm going out of town so may be very limited on my availability, I'm not sure yet. Can't wait to catch up with you when I return.

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STORMTMB 3/25/2010 10:02PM

    Congrats on another victory. One by one you're winning the war! Have a fabulous Friday!

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LIGIRLBOOBLE 3/25/2010 9:50PM

    Coffee at desert time... I have to remember that!

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Have a great sleep!

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"I Can't Think With My Pants On."

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

My oldest son John told me that one night when he was five. He was wrestling with whatever mystery five year olds wrestle with sitting in the middle of his bedroom he was dressed in a blue polo shirt, black socks and Superman Under-Oo’s. His pant s were tossed on his bed. He looked up at me, at first with a grin and then he finally burst out laughing. It was the really contagious laugh young kids have.

No matter the time of year my granddaughter will ask me what I want for Christmas. I always give her the same answer:” A full head of hair!” Every time she hears me say that she bursts into laughter. She will ask me over and over and she will laugh just as hard the fifteenth time as she did the first time.

I read recently that the average child laughs three hundred fifty times a day. The average adult laughs ten times a day. I guess we are too busy.

The same article talked about how most adults surveyed said happiness and peace of mind were something they didn’t have time for. I mean with soccer practice, career advancement and wondering who the next American Idol Is going to be I can see where we don’t have time for fun. Life, after all, as adult is serious business. It’s so serious that we only have time to eat at fast food emporiums, or wolf down packaged food with “ninety eight percent less fat” We are so miserable at times that we want our children and grand children to be miserable right along with us.

At Christmas this year we were gathered around the table eating dinner. I went to pick up a glass of water that had some condensation on it. Guess what? The water glass (Thank goodness it was one of those plastic disposable glasses.) slipped out of my hand and the water ran down my shirt and on to my pants.
My granddaughter began to laugh. “Pappy spilled water on himself” she cried. “Pappy’s all wet.” She thought it was hilarious. She told me I wouldn’t have to take a shower.

The serious adults at the table admonished her not to laugh. It wasn’t funny that Pappy had just supplied some comic relief. You shouldn’t laugh at people!!! The biggest problem was Pappy. Pappy was laughing himself. My son leaned over and said "Dad, don’t encourage her. She’s going to think it’s okay to laugh all the time.”

It is, mostly!!!

Okay before some of you get all pumped up let me add this disclaimer. I do not condone making fun of people. I do not condone laughing at people who are ill, hurting or disadvantaged. Our kids were taught to be respectful. They were also taught to enjoy themselves.

There is so much we “can’t do” or “can’t say” anymore that we just don’t laugh at all. But how many times have you seen someone do something you wanted to laugh at but you left the room to do it? While I am spilling water all over myself Joan has a wry grin on her face. Why? On our first three dates I spilled water, beer and wine on her in that order. I am surprised on our fourth date she didn’t show up in rain gear. Actually, I’m surprised she showed up at all.

What’s your point John? I used to have this notion that once I lost weight and got all terribly buff that I would be happy and then stay that way until they lowered me in the ground. Getting healthy is serious business, dude!!!

As adults we forget the real joy there is in this amazing journey we are on. If I don’t learn to laugh now how am I going to know how to do it when I reach my goal? It aint osmosis you know!! (I do love exclamation points.) It means when I am on the elliptical that’s it’s okay to burst into song as long as I do it softly.

We are born happy and spend the rest of our lives forgetting the most important thing we knew when we were born:

You are the greatest miracle in the world. You were born with your laugher in working order. Find some joy today and then share it. Gosh we need it so, so badly

Okay, time to go. I have two hundred thirty seven laughs left before I catch up with my granddaughter. Anyone have a whoopee cushion?

I'll be out of town helping other people have fun Thursday and Friday so I published this Wednesday night. I'll catch up with you guys Thursday from my hotel room.


  
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WANNABTHIN02 3/26/2010 6:59AM

    John, As always you crack me up. yes from a laugher I can relate. My husband and I use to laugh all the time.... the really hard belly laughs and now. We are stressed. It will come again. I will make it.

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-TAMI- 3/25/2010 10:38PM

    What an absolutely, amazing, splenderiffic blog!!!
Thank you so much for posting this and I hope you had a great time getting all those laughs in. I think I'll join you! emoticon

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TINKERBELL200 3/25/2010 10:17PM

    John, you are so right! We don't laugh enough! They say laughter is the best medicine! You do feel less stressed when you laugh it off. Just yesterday I opened a bottle of water while driving and it spilled in my lap! I was at lunch at work! It did make me laugh too! Sometimes that's all you can do, to shake the negative off is laugh! Especially when you have a domino effect go wrong day, when it seems like everything you do goes wrong! We are all in charge of our own happiness. We get to choose whether we have joy or not!

By the way, thanks for making me laugh yet again today!!! emoticon emoticon
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1WALKINGMAN 3/25/2010 8:07PM

    Laughing good, grumpy bad, but please keep your pants on John.

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DIASTER 3/25/2010 6:14PM

  Thank you once again!!!!
As a nurse we used to laugh all the time, had a wonderful cheerful staff and we seemed to have the greatest patients.You made me laugh at the visual of you bursting into song while on the ellipical, all I can do is puff and hang on, but at least I'm on the darn thing.
Have a good trip.

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VTORIA3 3/25/2010 4:42PM

    Great, uplifting blog. Thanks for sharing it. Signing off to go find me some joy...not being a smart alec...just one of those dull days that's has kinda overtaken me. Need to get my mojo back.

Update: After procrastinating almost a full day, I finally got that walk in, although I dragged myself like I was carrying a ton of bricks. Finally: a state of JOY ascended upon me. My neurotransmitters were workin' overtime. Hoo Ha. And, exercise is D O N E, done. I'll try and remember this lesson for the gozilianth time. emoticon

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MARCYNA 3/25/2010 4:15PM

    Hey, great!!!!You're seeing the whole thing from a totally different angle, now I'll follow you and I'll look for funny things where nobody would see them.
Thanks for sharing, and may you receive whatever you wish for!!! emoticon emoticon

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STORMTMB 3/25/2010 1:36PM

    You certainly know how to get a person to read your blog, don't you! lol. Great reminder, John. I know that I don't laugh enough. I definitely need to work on that.

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AMYTATH 3/25/2010 11:34AM

    Having a 2 1/2 year old I know that laugh all too well! And I love it!! We laugh all the time at our house, my husband is just a big kid himself so there is plenty to laugh about. But I never thought about how "healthy" laughter really is! Maybe not so much physically but mentally.

I can't wait to go home and laugh with my boys!

Thanks John for reminding us to laugh.

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CMBELISLE 3/25/2010 10:04AM

    My hubby tells me that when we met, I didn't laugh much. We have also discussed the fact that my youngest hardly ever laughed at all during that point in my life. Nowadays, we laugh way more than we used to and I'm getting to where it's more and more every day. And it's not just a giggle, it's a good old-fashioned belly laugh. After all, as Reader's Digest tells us - Laugher is the Best Medicine.

Have a safe trip and a great weekend!

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GREENCAT1 3/25/2010 9:52AM

    I believe that we were created to have jpy. Thanks for the reminder! emoticon

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SWEETNEENI 3/25/2010 9:22AM

    I can't think with my pants on either! Seriously, it's like a running joke in my family that someone will walk into my house ahead of me, turn around, and I will already have changed out of my clothes into my pajamas.

Laugh on John!

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MOTHERLORI 3/25/2010 9:19AM

    Seriously ~ 10x's per day is all the adult laughs??? I guess I can see that, however, if I can't find things to laugh at during the day, I'm not looking hard enough. I worked with severely Autistic 5 year olds last year and they had such unbridled joy, thier laughter was always contageous!!! It was wonderful! I have always believed that laughter is the one of the most important things in keeping you happy and healthy! Lori

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DOLLBABE56 3/25/2010 7:51AM

    You are so right about laughter. I will try to achieve a goal of laughter today! Wish me luck!!! I'll post tonight how well I do today. Thanks John!

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AMABILE75 3/25/2010 7:34AM

    How do you always seem to know what I need? LOL. A gentle reminder to be happy, laugh & have fun. emoticon

I can see such things with my daughter, Victoria, also. She will laugh and laugh and laugh at the same thing over and over until Jason and I are telling her, OK it's really not funny anymore. Then she'll stop, but you still hear that little giggle she's trying to keep quiet because SHE still thinks its funny. emoticon

I hope you have a wonderful Thursday & Friday, filled with tons of laughter and FUN! :)

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REMODELINGPAT 3/24/2010 10:58PM

    John, your blogs are truly delightful...and right on target!!! (I love dots AND exclamation points) Most of my life I've been a pretty cheerful character. My kids complained that I disciplined them with a smile on my face (Isn't that better than scowling and yelling???) But, thinking back, the year or two prior to my surgery, I wasn't as cheery. Now, I'm happy to say that once again I'm going around wearing a silly grin most of the time. It feels so GOOD to be getting healthier! Let's all SMILE together emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Blessings!

Pat

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NJMATTICE 3/24/2010 10:33PM

    I can't think with my pants on either. Unless they're the ones with the elastic waist. Have a safe journey.
Love,
Nancy

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HAVALOVER 3/24/2010 10:20PM

    Loved it, John.

And just because our memory works in the weirdest ways, your post reminded me of the time I was weighing myself, with my son - then 3 years-old- as my witness.

All excited, when the numbers came to a standstill, he looked up and asked: So, Mommy: How much are you worth?

After the longest silence, I could only say: a fortune, sweetie.

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Mirie

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TAMMIEANN717 3/24/2010 10:03PM

    I loved this post! You are a great writer!!

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SAMGERBINE 3/24/2010 9:48PM

    I love the part "As adults we forget the real joy there is in this amazing journey we are on. If I don’t learn to laugh now how am I going to know how to do it when I reach my goal? "

so so true! I think it can be with anything...why wait to enjoy life? Its about getting through it that we should relish in!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/24/2010 9:38PM

    I'm not a very serious person which may seem odd because I'm a former mobile trauma nurse, critical care nurse, dialysis nurse, supervisor, head nurse. LOL. I learned that some severely ill people still love to be teased and to laugh. It made my difficult job easier and brought joy to some people's lives which were shortened.

My father almost died recently and he didn't. He loves life and loves to laugh and act silly. He is 80 and the nurses in the hospital talk about what a crazy old girl-chasing coot dad is. He was very popular with the staff. I would rather lose him than see his spark snuffed out.

My husband and I laugh so hard sometimes that we almost split a gut. It feels good.

My motto - Don't ever let anyone steal your joy.

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URSULAVAN 3/24/2010 9:33PM

    Thanks for sharing a great blog! I have 4 year old twin boys, and it is amazing to me the things they find funny, and the things they can do to make me laugh. I hope they never lose that!

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CATIEBELLE 3/24/2010 9:31PM

    It is healthy to laugh and it makes me feel so much better. We all need to laugh more and I find that the older I get and I have so many more senior moments that laughter is so much better. I am tired of taking life so serious and find that I want to have more fun.

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CRANBERRYKITTY 3/24/2010 9:25PM

    ++++ Great post as usual. I totally agree... we all need to laugh and smile more. :)

Thanks! :D
Sydney

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WANDAH3 3/24/2010 9:24PM

    There's a reason why the adage "Laughter is the best medicine" holds true.

Here's Laughing with you! emoticon

Hugs,Wanda

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