Sunday, March 28, 2010
As of this morning I am slightly more than half way towards my original weight goal. When I began, what has become the seventh best experience in my life, (My wedding day and birth of six kids ranks one through six.) I set a goal of losing one hundred pounds. As I wrote it I was way skeptical. I couldn’t imagine me one hundred pounds lighter.
The Spark was published two weeks after I joined and I devoured it. I was comfortable that no one tried to sell me a drug or a program and I didn’t feel like Chris was pointing a finger in my face and telling me I was some sort of evil nasty person for not always living a healthy life style. I felt like he was welcoming me to participate in a process that would finally give me the confidence to put together in a logical and cogent order all the ideas that had been floating around in my head for so long.
Then there are all of you. So, so many of you that along the way gave me tips, gave me encouragement and gave me the best gift I believe anyone can give anyone else, your friendship. When I get up in the morning and head out the door I look over my shoulder and I see all of you clapping and waving and yelling “Go John.” I mean who couldn’t succeed with friends like you guys?
So for what it’s worth here is what I have learned so far and even some stuff that didn’t work but I learned from:
I decided I was not on a diet. To that end I am only going to weigh myself every two weeks. This happened quite by accident to begin with. I was out of town for a funeral last weekend and Sunday is my weigh in day. I didn’t get home until Monday and I decided to wait until today. But I noticed last week that I was more relaxed not worrying about the Satan called a scale. (I got that phrase of a really good Spark friend) I made good food choices because one day I will reach my goal weight and instead of going OMG, stressing out and eating everything see, I will know how to act and behave. I realize it may take me a little longer than I’d like to get the next fifty pounds off but I need to learn to be comfortable with me. Once it’s gone I have promised myself it isn’t coming back.
Take what the room gives you in relationship to exercise. I darn near put myself in intensive care a month into this experience. I was up to forty minutes a day of cardio, seven days a week and posted a blog that said I was going to go to fifty five minutes a day and then a month later fifty minutes a day. My body wasn’t ready. I am still comfortably doing forty minutes, seven days a week. I am cheering on my younger and more durable Spark friends who are performing at a higher level. I am gaining strength and I am getting healthier so for right now I am staying at forty minutes a day. I do plan on starting to add strength and core training. In two weeks I am beginning a class on developing abs and core on the stability ball and using resistance bands. It meets twice a week for one half hour and it lasts four weeks. When I have completed that course I am going to look into retaining a personal trainer.
I made myself a priority and let everyone I love know I was doing so and why. Mostly we fail because we fail to communicate. I told my wife and my family what I wanted to do and why it was important. They understood. When people know WHY you are doing something they either help you along or get out of the way. I do miss my wing eatin’ beer drinkin’ buddies sometimes but as I am so fond of saying, “You are who you hang around with.”
As I posted yesterday I am starting to explore living healthier by eating less or eventually no meat. I am doing this slowly and I am going to research it completely before I get into it. I want to be successful if I do.
My stress level has decreased because I am reaching goal I have set for myself and so my self esteem is higher. Some people who know me live and in person cant believe I have/had a self esteem issue. But if you have been or are overweight you know what I am talking about. No matter how good you feel there is always that guilt or shame. By reaching small goals I feel better and know I can accomplish more.
I have two affirmations I read over and over:
“They way you see the world is the way you see yourself.”
“If I can find an excuse not to do something, I can find a reason to do it.”
Finally, I really believe that positive energy is the greatest healing tool God gave us. I have been profoundly affected by each of you and am grateful for you.
Have a great day
Saturday, March 27, 2010
I am looking for some resources that might help me better understand the benefits of a vegetarian diet. Since I have been a Spark person I realized that I am only eating meat about twice a week and I have only had red meat twice in four months!!
This is something I want to do gradually. I dont want to wake up tomorrow morning and announce "Hey I'm a vegetarian." I also realize there are varying degrees of being vegetarian. I need something to read, watch, etc.
I Googled the word vegetarian and what I got was a lot of people trying to sell me stuff. I need to be educated. Anyone have any advice?
Request number two:
Stir Fry cooking. I want to learn how to do it healthy and the right way. Any suggestions on where I can go to learn?
Thank you guys. I appreciate the help
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
My oldest son John told me that one night when he was five. He was wrestling with whatever mystery five year olds wrestle with sitting in the middle of his bedroom he was dressed in a blue polo shirt, black socks and Superman Under-Oo’s. His pant s were tossed on his bed. He looked up at me, at first with a grin and then he finally burst out laughing. It was the really contagious laugh young kids have.
No matter the time of year my granddaughter will ask me what I want for Christmas. I always give her the same answer:” A full head of hair!” Every time she hears me say that she bursts into laughter. She will ask me over and over and she will laugh just as hard the fifteenth time as she did the first time.
I read recently that the average child laughs three hundred fifty times a day. The average adult laughs ten times a day. I guess we are too busy.
The same article talked about how most adults surveyed said happiness and peace of mind were something they didn’t have time for. I mean with soccer practice, career advancement and wondering who the next American Idol Is going to be I can see where we don’t have time for fun. Life, after all, as adult is serious business. It’s so serious that we only have time to eat at fast food emporiums, or wolf down packaged food with “ninety eight percent less fat” We are so miserable at times that we want our children and grand children to be miserable right along with us.
At Christmas this year we were gathered around the table eating dinner. I went to pick up a glass of water that had some condensation on it. Guess what? The water glass (Thank goodness it was one of those plastic disposable glasses.) slipped out of my hand and the water ran down my shirt and on to my pants.
My granddaughter began to laugh. “Pappy spilled water on himself” she cried. “Pappy’s all wet.” She thought it was hilarious. She told me I wouldn’t have to take a shower.
The serious adults at the table admonished her not to laugh. It wasn’t funny that Pappy had just supplied some comic relief. You shouldn’t laugh at people!!! The biggest problem was Pappy. Pappy was laughing himself. My son leaned over and said "Dad, don’t encourage her. She’s going to think it’s okay to laugh all the time.”
It is, mostly!!!
Okay before some of you get all pumped up let me add this disclaimer. I do not condone making fun of people. I do not condone laughing at people who are ill, hurting or disadvantaged. Our kids were taught to be respectful. They were also taught to enjoy themselves.
There is so much we “can’t do” or “can’t say” anymore that we just don’t laugh at all. But how many times have you seen someone do something you wanted to laugh at but you left the room to do it? While I am spilling water all over myself Joan has a wry grin on her face. Why? On our first three dates I spilled water, beer and wine on her in that order. I am surprised on our fourth date she didn’t show up in rain gear. Actually, I’m surprised she showed up at all.
What’s your point John? I used to have this notion that once I lost weight and got all terribly buff that I would be happy and then stay that way until they lowered me in the ground. Getting healthy is serious business, dude!!!
As adults we forget the real joy there is in this amazing journey we are on. If I don’t learn to laugh now how am I going to know how to do it when I reach my goal? It aint osmosis you know!! (I do love exclamation points.) It means when I am on the elliptical that’s it’s okay to burst into song as long as I do it softly.
We are born happy and spend the rest of our lives forgetting the most important thing we knew when we were born:
You are the greatest miracle in the world. You were born with your laugher in working order. Find some joy today and then share it. Gosh we need it so, so badly
Okay, time to go. I have two hundred thirty seven laughs left before I catch up with my granddaughter. Anyone have a whoopee cushion?
I'll be out of town helping other people have fun Thursday and Friday so I published this Wednesday night. I'll catch up with you guys Thursday from my hotel room.
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