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Finding Support For Our Journey

Friday, March 26, 2010

I feel really good about the choices I made at dinner last night. The only real issue I had was the unsweet iced tea I drank. Our server, who did and excellent job kept my glass full. I was awake until late last night. So I turned on my computer and caught up on those emails that we all want to read but never seem to have the time. to read

I get a newsletter from Dr. Johnny Bowden every week or so. He is an exercise physiologist who I enjoy reading. The article I read last night was about The Four Pillars of Success. I wont regurgitate the article but I will tell you about pillar number one - support of family and friends on your journey. I agree with that. There is no way I would be as strong as I am without my wife. Every morning I am home she gives me "the hug test." Then she smiles and says "I think you are getting smaller." Good motivation.

This morning I was reading my Spark Page and my very good friend Marcyna said to me, "PS Each of your victory is my victory too!!!" Nice feeling.

I started to prepare for my day and I was thinking how true that statement is.
When I read your postings or your blogs that detail how you over came adversity, reached a goal or even when you struggled I feel like I am right there with you. Likewise, when you comment on my postings and offer encouragement I feel like I have the Verizon network traveling with me all day. That's a good feeling too,

Yes what I do and you do are our choices but knowing that I have this whole network of people behind me, as happy for my victories as I am for there's........ well it makes for some super motivation.

So this morning I give three cheers for me and for you and yes for you there in the corner , and you there sitting in the balcony and you.......

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KLEONIKI 3/29/2010 4:56PM

    Yes, dear John, supportive friends and family are our secret weapons..
Co-sparkers, exercise buddies, and sparkfriends are the best vehicle in our trip to health and happiness.
Happy to read you as always and hopeful for our common battles, dear spark friend!
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MARCYNA 3/29/2010 2:47PM

    Thanks for quoting me as a very good friend, I really enjoyed & and am so PROUD of it!!!!


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BECCALYNN75 3/29/2010 2:00PM

    I agree 100%. And you are one of the best at support, encouragement and motivation! Glad you are a part of our SP team.

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TNTEACHER2 3/27/2010 10:53AM

    Wow, John. Each day I begin sparkpeople by reading your blog. You inspire me. Marcy

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JBLINE123 3/27/2010 4:26AM

    I love the hug test your wife gives you!!!! Does she mind if I steal that idea for my hubby??? We are all here to support eachother, that is what makes SPARK so great!!! Good luck on your journey!!

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1WALKINGMAN 3/27/2010 12:18AM

    I am always happy for a SPARKER who succeeds.

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TINKERBELL200 3/26/2010 6:01PM

    I agree John! We are all in this together! Thanks for all your wonderful blogs! You should have been a writer! It's amazing all the support that is on this site, from friends who are having the same struggles. That's really cute how your wife encourages you. She must be amazing! Have a blessed day!
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MUFFINK9 3/26/2010 5:44PM

    You are so right about support from family and friends and Sp friends, it is so helpful. I find when I open myself up and tell others my feelings and plans that I really hear myself better. Seems like it helps clarify aspects of this journey when they get reflected back to me from a trusted person. emoticon

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TAZZAT2003 3/26/2010 4:40PM

    People are amazing! You are amazing! I can be having the worst day and no matter what I know I can rely on Jay, my family and you, always! Sorry I have not been here to motivate you this week. I am back now and not going anywhere!
Have a great weekend!

~hugs~
Jessica

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REMODELINGPAT 3/26/2010 4:04PM

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Blessings!

Pat

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WANDAH3 3/26/2010 3:56PM

    I loved that statement from Marcyna...."your victory is my victory too". It says it all.

Hugs,
Wanda

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AMYTATH 3/26/2010 1:07PM

    The support I receive here is the only thing that keeps me going! Without spark right now I cannot maintain my success. Everyone here is responsible for my successes. I totally love your message today John!!!

Amy

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DIASTER 3/26/2010 11:28AM

  You just never know what your blog means to some and to whom it is going to touch that day.You have a beautiful style of writting that reaches out to us all. Seems we all have the same universal problems and we need each other to motivate and encourage each other. Thanks.

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TRIPLE_EMME 3/26/2010 10:45AM

    I really love the Verizon analogy!

The Spark network is strong and vibrant.

Sparkle on, my friend!!!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/26/2010 10:43AM

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TWENKY215 3/26/2010 10:36AM

    Three cheers and back at you too John. Happy Friday!! emoticon emoticon

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STORMTMB 3/26/2010 9:53AM

    I like your analogy of the Verizon Network. The New Testament also talks about the "great cloud of witnesses" who are cheering us on as well. Obviously you and Joan have a great strength and bond in your marriage that provides for mutual support. You are loved, John, on earth and on high. Keep up the great work!

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CMBELISLE 3/26/2010 9:51AM

    Our networks really are important. The hubby has helped me rearrange my schedule by rearranging his own so I can exercise every morning. While I wish he would exercise with me, I'm not pushing - I'm setting an example and appreciating what he has done for me.

I think we often overlook what our network does for us - thanks for the reminder.

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YOYONOMORE1 3/26/2010 9:07AM

    Joan sounds like she is a good motivatior, the hug test, that is neat. Have a great day John.

Hugs,
Shirl

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GREENCAT1 3/26/2010 9:07AM

    I am fairly new to SP, but I agree - the community of support makes all the difference. My husband is on this journey with me and his support can help me keep going! We both celebrate our successes! Have a good day! emoticon

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VTORIA3 3/26/2010 9:07AM

    Thanks, John. We appreciate you, too! A successful day for me is always driven by my fellow sparkers. I can hear you all in the distance, rooting me on, and it keeps me going when I feel I am running on empty. emoticon emoticon in the plural!! emoticon

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NJMATTICE 3/26/2010 8:26AM

    Thank you John. And your blog, I consider to be my blog. So I guess my work is done here.
"Have an incredible day". (Wanda's blog is my blog as well)
Love,
Nancy

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AMABILE75 3/26/2010 8:13AM

    What a wonderful image you painted... we DO have something similar to the Verizon network traveling with us all day... only it's the SPARKPEOPLE Network, and it is oh so much better. emoticon

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WALKNLOVE 3/26/2010 8:01AM

    I always love your blogs! I like "the hug test"...what a great wife!
My hubby is very supportive too...it get "the curves test"...teeheehee emoticon

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Dodging Bullets and Then To Bed

Thursday, March 25, 2010

First of all thanks so much to each of you who responded to my blog on humor and its effect on our lives. This may sound like a very poor excuse but I am dead tired from work and while I want to respond to each of you individually, the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. So collectively to all of you I really enjoyed the stories you shared and your perspectives on humor in your own lives.

BTW I did not really join the circus. I wish I could have, but I didnt. I traveled to Paducah, Kentucky. So thank you all again.

Okay, now on with the show.

I had dinner with a client and his wife this evening. I was dreading it because we ate at a gourmet restaurant that the old John used to just love. Lots of calories, rich food. You get the picture.

I am really proud of me. I had no alcohol, no dessert, no bread drenched in seasoned olive oil. I ate fresh grouper with some veggies that were cooked in a pastry shell. I ate as little of the pastry as I could. I had a taste of an appetizer with tomatoes and a cream cheese. I had coffee at dessert time.

I stayed within my calorie limits and I am really happy with myself. This was a big test for me and I passed. I want to thank all of you who have been there for me. Without the good examples you have set for me I might have fallen to massive temptation. But i didnt!!!

The way I look at it this is a victory for us all.

I am going to bed. TTYL Sparkies.

  
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CMBELISLE 3/26/2010 9:20AM

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VTORIA3 3/26/2010 9:02AM

    Totally awesome John. I knew you would pass this test even if you were unsure. It was a tough one, too. I have been in that position, too, and passed it myself. It IS a great accomplishment and nothing feels better! emoticon

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WANDAH3 3/26/2010 7:46AM

    Way to go John! Congratulations on the knowledge you have gained...You are the one in control of your choices! Awesome job!

Have a fantastic Friday.

Hugs,
Wanda

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KATIEGLEN012 3/26/2010 7:08AM

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Way to set a good example!!!!!!

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MARCYNA 3/26/2010 5:39AM

    WoW....You're great!!!
It was difficult not to be ashamed of
1) Place (gourmet rest.)
2) People(Clients)
3) Old self..(major difficulty, for me)
But you made it!!!!I'm so proud!!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon
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_MAOMAO_ 3/26/2010 1:50AM

  You did GRRREAT! Way to go! It's really hard to go to an old hang & eat like the new you. Now you know you can do it.
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NJMATTICE 3/25/2010 11:40PM

    Way to love yourself well! Thanks for modeling good behavior!
Love,
Nancy


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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/25/2010 10:30PM

    Paducah is not all that far from me. 125 miles south.

You did really great on eating out. Even after all these years when I'm confronted with a lot of food I eat like it's my last meal. LOL.

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TINKERBELL200 3/25/2010 10:29PM

    emoticon John,
You passed the test! You are making good lifestyle changes and choices! I don't know if I could have made such good choices! I still have some favorites I can't stay away from. You did awesome!

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AMABILE75 3/25/2010 10:21PM

    How wonderful that you stayed within your limit at a place you love to eat at. That can be very difficult. emoticon emoticon

Paducah, I've been there before... I can't remember for sure which place that is but I know I've been there. That isn't where they used to have the Street Machine Nationals is it? I went there a few times years ago. Always loved that event!

Have a great night!!! FYI I'm going out of town so may be very limited on my availability, I'm not sure yet. Can't wait to catch up with you when I return.

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STORMTMB 3/25/2010 10:02PM

    Congrats on another victory. One by one you're winning the war! Have a fabulous Friday!

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LIGIRLBOOBLE 3/25/2010 9:50PM

    Coffee at desert time... I have to remember that!

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"I Can't Think With My Pants On."

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

My oldest son John told me that one night when he was five. He was wrestling with whatever mystery five year olds wrestle with sitting in the middle of his bedroom he was dressed in a blue polo shirt, black socks and Superman Under-Oo’s. His pant s were tossed on his bed. He looked up at me, at first with a grin and then he finally burst out laughing. It was the really contagious laugh young kids have.

No matter the time of year my granddaughter will ask me what I want for Christmas. I always give her the same answer:” A full head of hair!” Every time she hears me say that she bursts into laughter. She will ask me over and over and she will laugh just as hard the fifteenth time as she did the first time.

I read recently that the average child laughs three hundred fifty times a day. The average adult laughs ten times a day. I guess we are too busy.

The same article talked about how most adults surveyed said happiness and peace of mind were something they didn’t have time for. I mean with soccer practice, career advancement and wondering who the next American Idol Is going to be I can see where we don’t have time for fun. Life, after all, as adult is serious business. It’s so serious that we only have time to eat at fast food emporiums, or wolf down packaged food with “ninety eight percent less fat” We are so miserable at times that we want our children and grand children to be miserable right along with us.

At Christmas this year we were gathered around the table eating dinner. I went to pick up a glass of water that had some condensation on it. Guess what? The water glass (Thank goodness it was one of those plastic disposable glasses.) slipped out of my hand and the water ran down my shirt and on to my pants.
My granddaughter began to laugh. “Pappy spilled water on himself” she cried. “Pappy’s all wet.” She thought it was hilarious. She told me I wouldn’t have to take a shower.

The serious adults at the table admonished her not to laugh. It wasn’t funny that Pappy had just supplied some comic relief. You shouldn’t laugh at people!!! The biggest problem was Pappy. Pappy was laughing himself. My son leaned over and said "Dad, don’t encourage her. She’s going to think it’s okay to laugh all the time.”

It is, mostly!!!

Okay before some of you get all pumped up let me add this disclaimer. I do not condone making fun of people. I do not condone laughing at people who are ill, hurting or disadvantaged. Our kids were taught to be respectful. They were also taught to enjoy themselves.

There is so much we “can’t do” or “can’t say” anymore that we just don’t laugh at all. But how many times have you seen someone do something you wanted to laugh at but you left the room to do it? While I am spilling water all over myself Joan has a wry grin on her face. Why? On our first three dates I spilled water, beer and wine on her in that order. I am surprised on our fourth date she didn’t show up in rain gear. Actually, I’m surprised she showed up at all.

What’s your point John? I used to have this notion that once I lost weight and got all terribly buff that I would be happy and then stay that way until they lowered me in the ground. Getting healthy is serious business, dude!!!

As adults we forget the real joy there is in this amazing journey we are on. If I don’t learn to laugh now how am I going to know how to do it when I reach my goal? It aint osmosis you know!! (I do love exclamation points.) It means when I am on the elliptical that’s it’s okay to burst into song as long as I do it softly.

We are born happy and spend the rest of our lives forgetting the most important thing we knew when we were born:

You are the greatest miracle in the world. You were born with your laugher in working order. Find some joy today and then share it. Gosh we need it so, so badly

Okay, time to go. I have two hundred thirty seven laughs left before I catch up with my granddaughter. Anyone have a whoopee cushion?

I'll be out of town helping other people have fun Thursday and Friday so I published this Wednesday night. I'll catch up with you guys Thursday from my hotel room.


  
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WANNABTHIN02 3/26/2010 6:59AM

    John, As always you crack me up. yes from a laugher I can relate. My husband and I use to laugh all the time.... the really hard belly laughs and now. We are stressed. It will come again. I will make it.

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-TAMI- 3/25/2010 10:38PM

    What an absolutely, amazing, splenderiffic blog!!!
Thank you so much for posting this and I hope you had a great time getting all those laughs in. I think I'll join you! emoticon

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TINKERBELL200 3/25/2010 10:17PM

    John, you are so right! We don't laugh enough! They say laughter is the best medicine! You do feel less stressed when you laugh it off. Just yesterday I opened a bottle of water while driving and it spilled in my lap! I was at lunch at work! It did make me laugh too! Sometimes that's all you can do, to shake the negative off is laugh! Especially when you have a domino effect go wrong day, when it seems like everything you do goes wrong! We are all in charge of our own happiness. We get to choose whether we have joy or not!

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1WALKINGMAN 3/25/2010 8:07PM

    Laughing good, grumpy bad, but please keep your pants on John.

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DIASTER 3/25/2010 6:14PM

  Thank you once again!!!!
As a nurse we used to laugh all the time, had a wonderful cheerful staff and we seemed to have the greatest patients.You made me laugh at the visual of you bursting into song while on the ellipical, all I can do is puff and hang on, but at least I'm on the darn thing.
Have a good trip.

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VTORIA3 3/25/2010 4:42PM

    Great, uplifting blog. Thanks for sharing it. Signing off to go find me some joy...not being a smart alec...just one of those dull days that's has kinda overtaken me. Need to get my mojo back.

Update: After procrastinating almost a full day, I finally got that walk in, although I dragged myself like I was carrying a ton of bricks. Finally: a state of JOY ascended upon me. My neurotransmitters were workin' overtime. Hoo Ha. And, exercise is D O N E, done. I'll try and remember this lesson for the gozilianth time. emoticon

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MARCYNA 3/25/2010 4:15PM

    Hey, great!!!!You're seeing the whole thing from a totally different angle, now I'll follow you and I'll look for funny things where nobody would see them.
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STORMTMB 3/25/2010 1:36PM

    You certainly know how to get a person to read your blog, don't you! lol. Great reminder, John. I know that I don't laugh enough. I definitely need to work on that.

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AMYTATH 3/25/2010 11:34AM

    Having a 2 1/2 year old I know that laugh all too well! And I love it!! We laugh all the time at our house, my husband is just a big kid himself so there is plenty to laugh about. But I never thought about how "healthy" laughter really is! Maybe not so much physically but mentally.

I can't wait to go home and laugh with my boys!

Thanks John for reminding us to laugh.

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CMBELISLE 3/25/2010 10:04AM

    My hubby tells me that when we met, I didn't laugh much. We have also discussed the fact that my youngest hardly ever laughed at all during that point in my life. Nowadays, we laugh way more than we used to and I'm getting to where it's more and more every day. And it's not just a giggle, it's a good old-fashioned belly laugh. After all, as Reader's Digest tells us - Laugher is the Best Medicine.

Have a safe trip and a great weekend!

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GREENCAT1 3/25/2010 9:52AM

    I believe that we were created to have jpy. Thanks for the reminder! emoticon

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SWEETNEENI 3/25/2010 9:22AM

    I can't think with my pants on either! Seriously, it's like a running joke in my family that someone will walk into my house ahead of me, turn around, and I will already have changed out of my clothes into my pajamas.

Laugh on John!

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MOTHERLORI 3/25/2010 9:19AM

    Seriously ~ 10x's per day is all the adult laughs??? I guess I can see that, however, if I can't find things to laugh at during the day, I'm not looking hard enough. I worked with severely Autistic 5 year olds last year and they had such unbridled joy, thier laughter was always contageous!!! It was wonderful! I have always believed that laughter is the one of the most important things in keeping you happy and healthy! Lori

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DOLLBABE56 3/25/2010 7:51AM

    You are so right about laughter. I will try to achieve a goal of laughter today! Wish me luck!!! I'll post tonight how well I do today. Thanks John!

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AMABILE75 3/25/2010 7:34AM

    How do you always seem to know what I need? LOL. A gentle reminder to be happy, laugh & have fun. emoticon

I can see such things with my daughter, Victoria, also. She will laugh and laugh and laugh at the same thing over and over until Jason and I are telling her, OK it's really not funny anymore. Then she'll stop, but you still hear that little giggle she's trying to keep quiet because SHE still thinks its funny. emoticon

I hope you have a wonderful Thursday & Friday, filled with tons of laughter and FUN! :)

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REMODELINGPAT 3/24/2010 10:58PM

    John, your blogs are truly delightful...and right on target!!! (I love dots AND exclamation points) Most of my life I've been a pretty cheerful character. My kids complained that I disciplined them with a smile on my face (Isn't that better than scowling and yelling???) But, thinking back, the year or two prior to my surgery, I wasn't as cheery. Now, I'm happy to say that once again I'm going around wearing a silly grin most of the time. It feels so GOOD to be getting healthier! Let's all SMILE together emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Blessings!

Pat

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NJMATTICE 3/24/2010 10:33PM

    I can't think with my pants on either. Unless they're the ones with the elastic waist. Have a safe journey.
Love,
Nancy

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HAVALOVER 3/24/2010 10:20PM

    Loved it, John.

And just because our memory works in the weirdest ways, your post reminded me of the time I was weighing myself, with my son - then 3 years-old- as my witness.

All excited, when the numbers came to a standstill, he looked up and asked: So, Mommy: How much are you worth?

After the longest silence, I could only say: a fortune, sweetie.

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TAMMIEANN717 3/24/2010 10:03PM

    I loved this post! You are a great writer!!

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SAMGERBINE 3/24/2010 9:48PM

    I love the part "As adults we forget the real joy there is in this amazing journey we are on. If I don’t learn to laugh now how am I going to know how to do it when I reach my goal? "

so so true! I think it can be with anything...why wait to enjoy life? Its about getting through it that we should relish in!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/24/2010 9:38PM

    I'm not a very serious person which may seem odd because I'm a former mobile trauma nurse, critical care nurse, dialysis nurse, supervisor, head nurse. LOL. I learned that some severely ill people still love to be teased and to laugh. It made my difficult job easier and brought joy to some people's lives which were shortened.

My father almost died recently and he didn't. He loves life and loves to laugh and act silly. He is 80 and the nurses in the hospital talk about what a crazy old girl-chasing coot dad is. He was very popular with the staff. I would rather lose him than see his spark snuffed out.

My husband and I laugh so hard sometimes that we almost split a gut. It feels good.

My motto - Don't ever let anyone steal your joy.

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URSULAVAN 3/24/2010 9:33PM

    Thanks for sharing a great blog! I have 4 year old twin boys, and it is amazing to me the things they find funny, and the things they can do to make me laugh. I hope they never lose that!

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CATIEBELLE 3/24/2010 9:31PM

    It is healthy to laugh and it makes me feel so much better. We all need to laugh more and I find that the older I get and I have so many more senior moments that laughter is so much better. I am tired of taking life so serious and find that I want to have more fun.

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CRANBERRYKITTY 3/24/2010 9:25PM

    ++++ Great post as usual. I totally agree... we all need to laugh and smile more. :)

Thanks! :D
Sydney

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WANDAH3 3/24/2010 9:24PM

    There's a reason why the adage "Laughter is the best medicine" holds true.

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Hugs,Wanda

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More Than Diet and Excercise

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

There is an old proverb that goes something like this:

“The way you see the world is the way you see yourself. “

When I am on top of the world nothing can bother me. Things that might get under my skin on a bad day roll right off my back. On those days I can do anything and be anything I want to be.

When I am in the doldrums, nothing or no one is right. The smallest slight, the tiniest altercation can send us into a tailspin. “Get out of my way,” We snap at the world.

It’s never our fault is it? It’s never how we look at things?

Christa is a fitness instructor at my gym. We don’t care for each other. I can’t tell you what she really thinks of me because most of her conversation with me is delivered in one word, with a straight face. I mean how could someone not adore me? I mean as wonderful as I am and all? And, hey, it’s never my fault that she doesn’t talk to me.

Anytime she walks past me I grunt a “hello” that is delivered with a slight curl of my upper lip. If I have a question or need some help I will walk to the other end of the gym to find another fitness instructor. I will do anything not to deal with her.
Yesterday was my walking day and because it was raining a bit I walked around the gym track. Christa was working out. As I made my laps I would look at her and I started to wonder why she made my blood boil?

When I see a young, healthy, person who is in good shape and vibrant I automatically compare myself to them and I see myself as lacking or falling short. In a word I am jealous. Why can’t I be like that? Why do they have something I don’t have? So I do what’s normal, I don’t like them.

Christa made me stop and think that I do that with a lot of people. I measure them and then I measure myself. When I see where someone may have an edge on me right now instead of finding out their secret I simply get frustrated and find all kinds of reasons not to like them.

Then I get frustrated. What do I do when I get frustrated, I eat. I drown my sorrows in a greasy pizza or a cream filled cake. I curse the fates.

It’s not a contest. It’s not about who does more, who loses quicker, who has more friends. It’s about looking in the mirror and seeing a very wonderful person. It’s looking at Christa and being happy for her that she does the good things she does. When I can do that then I am able to give back to myself. When I can give back to myself then I am more open to give to others.

Don’t ever fool yourself, the “old you” is lurking somewhere in the background just waiting for the right moment to regain control. Don’t’ let it!!

Health is more than diet and exercise, its digging deep and finding those types of behaviors that are holding us back. I have a whole laundry list and I am crossing them off one at a time. Every day I become less and less afraid of dealing with them. It’s why in their infinite wisdom The Spark Team set this format up the way they did. It’s here for us to support each other and not be afraid.

I won’t see Christa until the weekend. When I do she gets a sincere hello and a smile. Poor Christa, she’s about to get a new friend.
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PINETREEGIRL 3/24/2010 8:18PM

    Ah, I love your honesty. Never change.


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LESLIES537 3/24/2010 7:44PM

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TEENY_BIKINI 3/24/2010 7:39PM

    Wow, lessons come in the strangest places. What a great blog!

"I mean how could someone not adore me?" LOL. Indeed.

Keep being fabulous :) Cheers.

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DOLLIE6 3/24/2010 5:55PM

    John this was a very insightful blog. I read it this morning and it has stayed with me all day. I agree about the "old you" waiting for you to let your guard down to regain control. I was shocked to learn a few days ago this was true. I stayed within my calories but it was the loss of control that threw me. I realized then I would have to stay aware. I wish I had a list of things that I could check off as I improved but I don't know where to start and I don't know if I want to start with a list.
What if I don't want to know? I know how will I ever learn if I don't. It just makes me uneasy to think about it.
Oh well, I enjoy reading your blog anyway.

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WANDAH3 3/24/2010 4:28PM

    Great blog...I can hardly wait for an update!

Hugs,
Wanda

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CUBS07 3/24/2010 3:56PM

    What a great and honest blog!

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KLEONIKI 3/24/2010 1:57PM

    Again , dear John you are communicating the very thought i am having in my mind.
I share the same dream with you of a total wellbeing.
So nice and soothing to read you,once more!
K.


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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/24/2010 11:49AM

    What a wonderful blog!! If Christa knew what you are really like she could not help but like you!!! You are very insightful!! Now that you have acknowledged this problem you can solve it. The first thing you need to do is to start loving yourself as you are now. I look at you and see a nice looking man who is able to state that he is a good husband, father, friend, who is talented and funny. Your blog attests to the latter two. Sounds like the kind of person that everyone likes so you must learn to like yourself too. Maybe you should tell Crista that you want to be like her someday. Stay with us and work on your diet and exercise goals and you can be all you want to be. emoticon

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TRIPLE_EMME 3/24/2010 10:33AM

    You've had yet another "a-ha moment!" Thanks for sharing with your loyal readers. emoticon

There is a lot of truth in that statement:
“The way you see the world is the way you see yourself.“

The negative traits or things we dislike in others are usually our response to our shadow self. It's really important to do some "shadow dancing" and get to know that aspect of yourself. You can learn a lot about yourself and it can be a liberating experience.

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I'll be curious to read about Christa's response to her new friend this weekend.

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GREENCAT1 3/24/2010 9:51AM

    John - It is so true that we see the world in the same way that we see ourselves. What a shift in thinking to realize that! Thanks for the reminder! emoticon

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MARCYNA 3/24/2010 9:35AM

    Hey, you're totally right.
Guess Christa's got a lot to learn from you , you've got a lot to teach her.
I do just the same, names may be different but reality is that my attitude is just the same, thanks for sharing emoticon emoticon

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STORMTMB 3/24/2010 9:23AM

    As Christa gets to know you, she'll figure out that you're so cool, she'll soon have to call you 'Dude'!!!

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SAMGERBINE 3/24/2010 9:02AM

    Awesome ahhaaa moment! I think I'm going to make a list of my own and work on it. I too judge people b/c they are prettier than me, fitter than me, or have less stress in their life than I do. However, I need to appreciate how far they've come and how far I have come as well.

You really made me think this morning :)

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NJMATTICE 3/24/2010 8:15AM

    I've used the mantra "what you dislike in others you dislike in yourself" for a long time. I think I remember looking up the origin of that saying and attributing a similar version to Carl Jung, but I'm old. I get things nutsed up. Regardless of where it came from, (I wanted to write irregardless because that would have made me laugh, BUT) that statement is so ingrained that it makes me stop each time an evil thought occurs to me about someone else and turns it around for self reflection time. After all, it is all about me, isn't it?
Thanks for taking the time to share about your new pal Christa.
Love,
Nancy

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CMBELISLE 3/24/2010 8:12AM

    I know where you're coming from on this. When I look at thin women with more than one child part of me is jealous. One day, I'll get there though.

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AMABILE75 3/24/2010 8:05AM

    Boy did I need to hear a lot of that right now. Thank you John!! :)

I really struggle with the thought that the way you see the world is the way you see yourself. Also a similar thought that when there is somebody you don't like it is because you see a part of yourself that you don't like in them. Don't get me wrong, I don't disagree... but I struggle to fully grasp this. It is easy to go to the extreme and think of some mass murder you don't like and question... how am I seeing myself in them, I'm not a murderer! I'm sure this is Tara doing what she does best and taking things way to LITERALLY! :) So I struggle to really get behind these statements. I've spent a lot of time pondering this... and have yet to come to a solid conclusion for myself.

I can't wait to hear how Christa responds to her new found friend. emoticon

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I Am "Under Construction"

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

I am learning that true health isn’t just measured by gazing down at your belly. Like the stock market, the rise and fall of your stomach may be one of many indicators, but it’s not the end all and be all. I think that’s why diets fail and I think that’s why there are so many of them.

I drove past a work site yesterday and saw that familiar sign “Under Construction.” As I drove down the road I began to think how much that applied to me and my life. When you look at a building going up it’s not a pretty sight. A mass of steel or concrete just sort of juts up in the air, standing there and if it could talk it might say “Okay, what do I do now?”

There is no landscaping around a construction site. Lots of mud and dirt and smelly stuff. Trash lying all over the place. But if you look closely, there is a lot of activity going on inside of it. You see people walking in and out of the structure carrying wood and electrical equipment and all kinds of stuff like that. We never really notice how the building is changing until one day we see that “Open For Business” sign. Then we smile and we remark what a lovely structure it is.

That’s me!!! Under Construction!!! Maybe not too much to look at on the outside right now but all kinds of activity going on underneath. I am working on my goals. I am planning my future. I am starting to realize there is so much more to me being healthy than charting food and sweating.

I am dealing with some feelings and emotions honestly. I get scared about failing. I worry about not having enough time to just sit down and vegetate. I used to deal with that by eating and stressing. I used to handle my problems by popping the top on a can of Pringles and letting television take me away. I think about a lot of things and I am learning to laugh at some of the goofy ideas I have had in the past about what health entailed.

I am learning to love me just as I am and if I never lost another pound or inch that I would be valuable and lovable just the way I am because I serve a real purpose on this planet.

I am under construction.

I am much more active. Not just exercise but simply moving and uhm, well discovering life. I am learning that some days I do have some limitations and that living with those limitations is all part of my growth.

Like the building I drove past, every day I am bit stronger a bit more able to brave the elements. I may not drop a pants size this month but my perception of myself is growing and the confidence I gain from that is like all the steel girders in that building.

We are under construction.

What about you? Are you stressing a bit when demon scale laughs at you because there may not be any movement in the right direction?

Is that how we gauge overall health? What about the “bit of the divine” that is in all of us? What about that soul within you that is so special and so, so YOU that it makes my world a better place for me to live and grow in.

So I challenge you my dear friend to look inside of you this day and find one thing in there that’s helping make you building so much stronger. Then tomorrow add another.

Then someday everyone will drive by the finished product and go “Ooooooo” and “Ahhhhhhh.”

  
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TINKERBELL200 3/24/2010 7:35PM

    Awesome blog John! I loved it! I guess we are all under construction in one way or another! Great analogy! We have to push forward towards the goal! I know you can do it!


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Lynne

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MARCYNA 3/24/2010 9:25AM

    Yes, I admit I've been stressed by the fact that the scale does not want to move...and not only. But you're right. There's a time to stop, a time to move forward. emoticon emoticon
PS I don't know if I got the challenge right but I'll try.........

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SUBVET688 3/24/2010 7:56AM

    What a great way to look at it. I like it a lot. Your constructing a strong building too. One to withstand hurricane winds and 9.0 earthquakes. Keep up the good work!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/23/2010 8:22PM

    I'm fortunate in that I do like myself as I am. Losing weight is for my health, not my vanity.

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WANDAH3 3/23/2010 6:03PM

    John...thank you for your blog today...I too am under construction and I needed this reminder. It's been a rough day and this has helped me to put things into perspective.

Hugs,
Wanda

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KLEONIKI 3/23/2010 5:41PM

    I am UNDER CONSTRUCTION too!
While i was putting all my efforts in building a new body through exercise and good nutrition i got completely surprised by the fact that for the first time i gave an end to a torment long enough kept alive for me and for whoever was waiting for me:
Searching the proper key out of a bounch of keys in a chaotic bag! I just surprisingly changed .Organised my bag, got rid of unnecessary things that cursed me and i know it is a TO BE CONTINUED play...and one with a happy end too!
Kleoniki

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GIRANIMAL 3/23/2010 4:18PM

    Wow. Thanks, John. Once again, I needed this. I am so darn close, scale-wise, to where I want to be, and I am finding it is much too often my point of focus these past few weeks. I know that essence of the diving is within me somewhere, and I know that not being able to recognize it is what keeps me feeling vaguely ... unfinished. It's really well past time to build up that part of me. Now, if you find any spare time and energy ... emoticon

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BECCALYNN75 3/23/2010 1:14PM

    Another GREAT blog John! I work for a construction company so I guess I relate in two ways.

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GETFIT2LIVE 3/23/2010 12:20PM

    As usual, well said, John. I love to read your blogs because you often say something that I'm feeling or thinking about, or else it's something I really need to hear that day. Thank you for sharing; we are indeed under construction, and we need to remember to find the beauty that God has already placed within us.

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CRYSELLE 3/23/2010 11:54AM

    What a great post. And this is what I needed. After learning of a setback and that I may not be able to exercise for a while which may hold me steady at this weight for quite some time, it was important to read this. Although I may not lose any weight, there are other issues I can tackle. Things I can do to improve my overall wellness. I am after all a work in progress :)

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AMYTATH 3/23/2010 11:05AM

    Such a wonderful way to look at things...helps keep you motivated. Thanks

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STORMTMB 3/23/2010 9:55AM

    You are a divine structure already - your mind and your heart are beautiful. I know this because you share yourself with us every day. I wouldn't care if you lost or gained another pound. You are beautiful to me today. Of course, you will be happier when the construction is significantly complete and I will continue to cheer you on to meet that goal.

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AMABILE75 3/23/2010 9:17AM

    Thank you so much, I needed this today. emoticon

A song from my childhood comes to mind, I wanted to share it with you.

HE'S STILL WORKING ON ME


He's still working on me to make me what I ought to be.
It took Him just a week to make the moon and stars,
The sun and the earth and Jupiter and Mars.
How loving and patient He must be, He's still working on me.

There really ought to be a sign upon the heart,
Don't judge her yet, there's an unfinished part.
But I'll be perfect just according to His plan
Fashioned by the Master's loving hands.

He's still working on me to make me what I ought to be.
It took Him just a week to make the moon and stars,
The sun and the earth and Jupiter and Mars.
How loving and patient He must be, He's still working on me.

In the mirror of His Word reflections that I see
Make me wonder why He never gave up on me.
He loves me as I am and helps me when I pray
Remember He's the Potter, I'm the clay.

He's still working on me to make me what I ought to be.
It took Him just a week to make the moon and stars,
The sun and the earth and Jupiter and Mars.
How loving and patient He must be, He's still working on me.

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YOYONOMORE1 3/23/2010 9:10AM

    There's a song we sing in morning worship "He's not finished with me yet" fits in with your blog today, we are or should be constantly changing and improving our building site or our temple inside and out. Thanks for another great Blog John and good to see you back home.

Hugs,
Shirl

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JCDROLSHAGEN 3/23/2010 9:02AM

    Great entry John. Looking forward to "Opening Day"! emoticon

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JCDROLSHAGEN 3/23/2010 9:02AM

    Great entry John. Looking forward to "Opening Day"! emoticon

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CMBELISLE 3/23/2010 8:20AM

    As someone who works in the construction industry, I can visualize what you saw yesterday and completely understand your blog. Maybe that's why I don't entirely stress out over the scale anymore - I know that things on the inside are changing, moving, and re-arranging.

Have a great week!

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WALKNLOVE 3/23/2010 8:08AM

    Aren't we all under construction & the truth be known, we always will be as we grow to become all God has called us to be! We are always setting & reaching new goals.We have to learn to be thankful for what we have in the process while continuing to strive towards the prize of the high calling in Christ Jesus! In the meantime...Romans 8:1..."There is now therefore no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus!" emoticonThanks for sharing!Gotta go to the construction site (aka. the gym)......

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DOLLIE6 3/23/2010 7:44AM

    I needed this reminder this morning. Thank you. emoticon

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NJMATTICE 3/23/2010 7:38AM

    Thanks for the healthy reflection, John. Nice insights.
Love,
Nancy

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ANGIETHORN 3/23/2010 7:36AM

  I love this John we are Under Construction thanks for the reminder.

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