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All About Eggs, Shoelaces, Kids and Sports

Saturday, January 19, 2013

Once a month, on a Saturday, Joan goes shopping with our daughters. They leave early and return late. That leaves me to my own devices. I’m kind of like the dog that walked out the back gate that’s left unlatched. I wander up and down the alley of my life, meandering, reflecting, and generally enjoying the fact I don’t have to be anywhere or do anything in particular. There’s an implied sunshine during his day and I warm myself with it.

My first stop was breakfast. I always order two eggs, over easy, fresh pineapple, wheat toast and an unsweetened iced tea. I usually bring my IPad so I’m able to catch up on blogs and newspapers and the like. When my breakfast arrived one egg was over easy and one was hard. It didn’t really upset me, it just sort of perplexed me. How could they get an order half right? Two possibilities crossed my mind. Like that pair of socks you’re wearing that don’t match there’s another pair at home in the drawer. Someone who ordered two hard eggs was processing the same conundrum. The second possibility was a crazed chef who was taking great delight in knowing that this would bother me the rest of today.

I went on to Sam’s Club to pick up some fabric softener. The lady watching the You Scan line approaches me and asks if I’d mind her “getting into my personal space.” Initially I thought maybe my zipper was not zipped and I was equally glad that Joan wasn’t with me because, well it just wouldn’t have been very pretty. I was intrigued so I assented. The lady looked at me and said “Your shoe lace is untied!” Apparently that’s very personal and apparently people get really irked if you inform them they are about to fall and potentially break their necks. I guess they’d rather die with dignity than be informed they can’t keep their shoes tied. The lady looked really relieved when I gave her a very sincere “thank you.”

I sauntered next door to Home Depot to pick up a flexible dryer vent since ours had a rather large hole in it. I was trying to separate two carts when a young mother, tussling with three kids said to me, “Here’s a cart and look it has a child in it. It’s all yours.” The kid didn’t think it was funny but most eight year olds don’t think much is funny. I know this because when I get really crabby Joan tells me to quit acting like an eight year old.

My final stop of the morning was my gym. I was looking forward to a leisurely swim. Like every Saturday morning, Mr. Miller was in the pool and looking for someone to talk to. Mr. Miller is 92 and his mind is as sharp as a tack. He likes to talk sports, mostly from the 20’s 30’s and 40’s and I can hold my own with him because that was my dad’s generation and he used to share a lot of those things with my brother and I. Mr. Millers eyes light up when he gets an audience and for me I was able to exercise while chatting and it helped make the time go quicker.

That’s been my day so far. What about yours?

  
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SILLYHP1953 1/31/2013 8:57AM

    You have such a way of making the most mundane events into the most interesting stories. You have been blessed with such gifts AND you use them.

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ADARKARA 1/21/2013 2:12PM

    sounds like a great day!

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 1/20/2013 9:29PM

    Reading this a day late, but still enjoyed it immensely! DH and I hiked a bit of the Buckeye Trail on Saturday. It was 53 degrees (in Northern Ohio)

Today was high of 23 degrees. Glad I enjoyed the reprieve yesterday!

Hope today was good for you too!



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NASFKAB 1/20/2013 5:03AM

  great job all the best

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LYNMEINDERS 1/19/2013 9:50PM

    What a brilliant day you have had so far....

My day is going well....it is Sunday for me and church this morning was awesome....hubby preached a really good message.....
Home chilling and catching up on spark and off to the 2nd part of a series tonight.....

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/19/2013 9:23PM

    My eggs were perfect. I fixed them myself. It's something my dad taught me. If you want something done right then.................. well, you know the rest. Personally, I think over easy eggs are gaggy.

Must be a city slicker thang as no one here thinks anything about invading your personal space. If your fly is undone you will be told in any number of rather amusing ways pertaining to cows leaving barns, Elvis leaving buildings, cucumbers leaving salads, etc. Shoelaces are easy - we just tell you straight out. Tie your shoelace, you dummy.

I'm always very careful not to get anywhere near mothers with litters because a lot of them are trying to give away one of their "pups". Anyone who has ever had one knows the routine - 21 years of luxuries like being used as a teething ring, cleaning up massive quantities of cool-aid puke, having the inside of your $30,000 vehicle gutted, replacing the floor in your bathroom every 2 months, etc.
No thanks.





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NEEDBU66 1/19/2013 9:14PM

    Yeah the poor kid. Served that mother right if you'd have looked the kid up and down a minute, then said, "sure" and drove off with him. That would have set that poor mother back a step.

Not that I hadn't thought the same thing she did and more than once when mine were that age.

Glad your day went well.

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POPSY190 1/19/2013 9:13PM

    Laughed about the child in the cart!

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_MOBII_ 1/19/2013 7:52PM

    That sounds like a fantastic day! Thank you for sharing it! emoticon

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CRYSTALJEM 1/19/2013 7:22PM

    Your day sounded great. I enjoyed watching my son play basket ball and was glad my daughter was well enough to attend her drama practice. Enjoying the mild stiffness from my last 2 workouts. Now enjoying a movie with family and thinking about getting busy tomorrow.

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SNOWANGELDIVA 1/19/2013 6:26PM

    John, I love your day share.

My laces (double-knotted) TWICE came loose today. Did anybody warn me that this lady was in potential peril? No.
My conundrums: Were they hoping I would trip and harm myself? Did they even notice? and what kind of people would they be if they did wnat me to harm myself or paid that little attention to a fellow human being? Would I even want to know a person that delighted in a minimum wage working mama of five to injure herself?
I think I hate shoelaces. I'm moving back to velcro and my inner eight year old wants the blinky ones...all eight year old like light ups.
ROCK ON, Brother!



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DOLLIE6 1/19/2013 5:44PM

    People are a hoot, aren't they? Glad you had a nice relaxing day nothing too stressful. emoticon

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HDHAWK 1/19/2013 5:36PM

    You have the most interesting things happen to you John. Hmmm, finished cleaning the house (my hubby did part of it yesterday:), reread some articles on teaching reading comprehension to kids with autism. That's what makes my mind swirl with ideas. Now, how to get it all done!

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REGILIEH 1/19/2013 5:26PM

    I'll take your day! I'm packing up Christmas decorations!!! But I did enjoy them so I'm really not complaining.

I have an uncle that will be 92 in August, he sometimes is sharp as a tack but he is always happy and such a gentleman and such a sweet soul. He was a lead bombardier in WW11, he dropped the first bomb on Berlin and received the Distinguished Flying Cross in person from President Roosevelt. He is such a sweetheart. He has 2 sons but chooses to live us, we are blessed.

I hope the rest of your day is great! emoticon

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CARTOONB 1/19/2013 5:10PM

    You didn't take the kid?!?!? emoticon

I've done laundry, gone to the gym and made candy.

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ANATASHIKI 1/19/2013 4:17PM

    lol , nice day ! mine? first pre birthday party, I'm celebrating my birthday 4 days emoticon

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VICKI-BISHOP56 1/19/2013 4:11PM

  Yours was a lot more interesting than mine, that's for sure. emoticon emoticon

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PRAIRIECROCUS 1/19/2013 4:07PM

    I enjoyed hearing about your day !
emoticon for sharing !

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A Bit of Wisdom (Not My Own) and a Bit of Humor (My Own)

Thursday, January 17, 2013

I love to share stuff, especially the stuff that has deep meaning and blows me away. I was traveling today and I had an opportunity to catch up some of my favorite pod casts while driving through Southern Indiana. One story has captured my attention for the remainder of the day. When I returned home I Googled the story and I share it below. It told me that everything I need is no father away then my soul.

An Excerpt from The Diamond in Your Pocket:

"There is a story my teacher liked to tell about a consummate diamond thief who sought to steal only the most exquisite of gems. This thief would hang around the diamond district to see who was purchasing a gem, so that later he could pick their pocket.

"One day he saw a well-known diamond merchant purchase the jewel he had been waiting for all his life. It was the most beautiful, the most pristine, the purest of diamonds. He was very excited, and so he followed the diamond merchant as he boarded the train, getting into the same compartment. He spent an entire three-day journey trying to pick the merchant's pocket and obtain the diamond. When the end of the journey came and he hadn't found the gem, he was very frustrated. He was an accomplished thief, and although he had employed all his skills, he still was not able to steal this rare and precious jewel.

"When the diamond merchant got off the train, the pickpocket followed him once again. Finally, he just couldn't stand it any more, and he walked up to the merchant and said, 'Sir, I am a renowned diamond thief. I saw you purchase that beautiful diamond, so I followed you onto the train. Though I used all the skills of my art, which have been perfected over many years, I was not able to find the gem. I must know your secret. Tell me, please, how did you hide it from me?'

"The diamond merchant replied, 'Well, I saw you watching me in the diamond district, and I suspected you were a pickpocket. So I hid the diamond where I thought you would be least likely to look for it — in your own pocket!' He then reached into the thief's pocket and pulled out the diamond."

Now for the humor. (I know you;ve been waiting!!!)

My personal trainer is a wonderful young lady who has helped me more than I could capture in words. However, she is VERY social person which means while I'm sweating and groaning shes relaying stories about her BF or her dog or her dad or what she did with my daughters. So........... before each exercise I'll ask her how many repetitions. That way she can talk, and I can count.

This morning she asked me to do some simple squats. I asked how many. She smiled and said "Until I am ( meaning her) tired." Then she laughed.

Thanks for letting me share part of my day with you and in return yours with me.

Namaste dear ones

  
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MYOWNHERO 1/18/2013 9:53AM

    "until I'm tired" lololol!

I used to say that to my children doing chores :D

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NASFKAB 1/18/2013 4:42AM

  great stories enjoyed both

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CARTOONB 1/17/2013 10:48PM

    I liked both your stories!

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REGILIEH 1/17/2013 10:04PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CRYSTALJEM 1/17/2013 8:07PM

    That was a great read. Your trainer sounds like a lot of fun.

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SHERIO5 1/17/2013 6:51PM

    Love the story and the humor!

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HDHAWK 1/17/2013 5:49PM

    Great story! I hope she got tired quickly. I know I couldn't knock out too many squats in a row at this point!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/17/2013 5:34PM

    LOL!!!!

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DIVINEPRINCESS 1/17/2013 4:52PM

    loved the diamond in the pocket story! Great food for thought (with no calories for me track).

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VICKI-BISHOP56 1/17/2013 4:49PM

  At least your trainer has a sense of humor. emoticon

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LYNMEINDERS 1/17/2013 4:46PM

    Brilliant....totally brilliant

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CC3833 1/17/2013 4:45PM

    That's a cute story.... your trainer sounds a lot like me hahaha I love talking and sharing stories and experiences. Its awesome you can afford a trainer. Glad you had a good day.

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KNEWMETODAY 1/17/2013 4:27PM

    ...sounds like you found a diamond, albeit in the gym.

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Results and Some Stuff Just For Fun

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

It might seem insignificant but I had tears in my eyes. I was able to walk one half mile (Not quite sure what that is in meters to me friends on the metric system.) this morning without any pain. Oh, I was a bit stiff and sore afterwards but I wasn't in pain. My legs and muscles felt loose and well, really good. I could have walked a bit farther but to be honest I am still in that "Why tempt fate?" mode. I'd spent a half hour on the recumbent bike and decided to give it a go. Half way through I realized I was walking fairly normal and I started to cry. (Yeah I know Emo-Boy.) Part of my motivation came from the song I was listening to. I went to YouTube when I got home and I want to share the link with you. The song is called The Fighter by Gym Class Heroes and its very motivational. Here is the link:

http://youtu.be/8TzCLpgbJ_g

Ok, cool. So I get back to my locker, sitting on the bench and feeling those blessed beads of sweat on my forehead when a young college age man sits down next to me and gives me one of those "Hey dude how are you today?" accompanied by a sincere grin. "I am well," I responded. "That makes two of us," he said "We have the rest of the day to convince the rest of the world."

"Lets split em' in half . I'll take the cute girls." He said.

"Yeah you better," I responded. "At my age they call you a creeper when you do that."

He laughed and walked away.

“If you want to take your mission in life to the next level, if you’re stuck and you don’t know how to rise, don’t look outside yourself. Look inside. Don’t let your fears keep you mired in the crowd. Abolish your fears and raise your commitment level to the point of no return, and I guarantee you that the Champion Within will burst forth to propel you toward victory.”

It's hung on the door inside my locker for four years. It's a quote from Bruce Jenner. Some days it was hard to believe but no matter how hurt I was, I never took it down.

"Give em hell, turn their heads, gonna live life till we're dead."

  
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NASFKAB 1/17/2013 10:08AM

  great how inspiring

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CATNCAG 1/17/2013 9:48AM

    Great job John! You inspire me! I have neuropathy & have been tested & tested & tested. Of course they couldn't figure out why I have neuropathy other than I am pre-diabetic & if I lose weight hopefully the neuropathy will go away! I have it in my feet & have nerve damage. When you are outside for a long time when it's really cold & you have the numbness, tingling & burning sensation in your hands - well that's what my feet feel like constantly but sometimes much worse if you can believe it! So, when my neuropathy eventually is gone & I no longer feel this pain I will definitely be crying a river from tears of joy! So good for you! John, you will be my inspiration to get me "pain free"! emoticon

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CC3833 1/17/2013 9:13AM

    That is awesome! And you deserved a tear or two what a big thing to accomplish! Keep pushing!

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REGILIEH 1/16/2013 10:57PM

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CARTOONB 1/16/2013 10:49PM

    Congratulations!!!

And good choice on not going after the cute young girls...you need to keep being my creeper! emoticon

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MOBYCARP 1/16/2013 8:49PM

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I make a half mile to be a bit over 800 meters. I derived that from 39.37 inches to the meter, then remembered that 8K is roughly 5 miles so 0.8K would be roughly 0.5 miles.

Doesn't it feel great to easily do a distance that used to be a stretch goal?


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LYNMEINDERS 1/16/2013 6:21PM

    Woohoo...well done John..thats so so awesome and so so encouraging.....
Love the song...its real catchy....

Like the convo with the young dude as well....he is so right...we have the rest of the day to convince the world.....yay

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SLIMLEAF 1/16/2013 6:18PM

    Hello John.

Thanks for sharing that song - I hadn't heard it before and I can see why you find it motivating: I did too.

It's such good news about you being able to walk half a mile without pain!

And the fact that this is such a big thing for you makes me realise how much I take for granted. I spent an hour tonight running up and down a steep hill with my running club. That must be something that a lot of people could only dream of and yet I feel bad about being one of the slowest in the group!

I think I'd better get back to counting my blessings a bit more! Thanks for the reminder and....

WELL DONE!

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SHERIO5 1/16/2013 6:01PM

    Nice! Sounds like a great experience all the way around!

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BLUEROSE73 1/16/2013 2:32PM

  That is great. It's better than you have done before. And that's all that matters. Doing your personal best.

Way to go

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KIMCOLLINGS 1/16/2013 1:39PM

    Love this blog. That was a cute conversation you had with that fellow. Clever :) I really like the Bruce Jenner quote and the song too. Thank you for sharing and way to go on your progress!! Awesome!!!!!!!

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UPENDA 1/16/2013 1:02PM

    My new favorite song! Thank you for sharing.

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HDHAWK 1/16/2013 12:40PM

    That's great news John! I'm going to check out that song.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/16/2013 12:32PM

    Love the quote. I'm a fan of Bruce Jenner.

Congratulations for pushing yourself. You have crossed an imaginary line that comes from pain and fear and has held you back. emoticon

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NEPTUNE1939 1/16/2013 12:15PM

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 1/16/2013 12:10PM

    Great job! :)

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VICKI-BISHOP56 1/16/2013 12:09PM

  emoticon emoticon John! emoticon

BTW: I downloaded the fighter song. I'll take it to the gym with me.

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Hang Tough, You Warrior

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

I got on and off the scale three times.

Each time the result was the same. I’d gained 2.8 pounds this past week which was exactly the amount I’d lost the week before. Like a revolving door, a whole host of emotions ran through my brain – sadness, anger, frustration and mostly I was perplexed. I sat down and reviewed my food intake and my exercise and there wasn’t a significant difference from the week before. In my pre-Spark days I’d have been stumped. Chalked it up to my body type and would have decided I was doomed to be fat. I dug a bit deeper. Last week was a stressful week in many ways, most of which were career related. Oh, I slept, just not very well. I spent a lot of time staring off at the distance looking for some sign or direction. I fell into the bad habit of believing activity, any activity is a cure for what ails you. In short, I was stressed out. This week isn’t much better and the best way to describe it is I am preoccupied. In short, I could be doing everything correctly but the stress I’ve placed my body under has caused it to react in a negative fashion.

I set an intention today to be successful in making surethe third component of my health, my spirit, is nurtured. I’m not giving up, not by a long shot. I’ll just ride this out and maybe next week we’ll show a promising loss.

Maybe your saying you already knew this stuff, but someone out there needed to read this. That’s why I wrote it

Hang in there.

  
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NASFKAB 1/16/2013 5:02AM

  thanks so much

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STARSMEMBER267 1/15/2013 11:15PM

    Thank you. That is something I am afraid to deal with.. I know its coming! But I will pretend it could never happen to me. emoticon

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CARTOONB 1/15/2013 11:08PM

    I am constantly learning new things about how my body and my brain will react to my life. I'm glad you learned this about yourself!

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 1/15/2013 9:32PM

    Oh, my. I could have written this. I have been so disgusted with my scale lately, and it's lack of sympathy in reflecting what I feel are Herculean efforts, I'm contemplating throwing it out.

Not giving up though.

°•.•.¸ღ¸☆

(¯`♥´¯) .♥.•*¨`*♫.♥
.´*.¸.•´♥ We can do it one day at a time!!

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MARITIMER3 1/15/2013 8:37PM

    So frustrating when you yo-yo like that. I know the feeling well! Don't worry; you are a warrior and you will get through it. Love the fact that you're going to nurture your spirit. I attend 2 study groups at my church, and get a lot out of both, although they are very different. I didn't go to church for a lot of years after my first marriage ended, but now I can't imagine my life without it.

Gail emoticon

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MOBYCARP 1/15/2013 8:28PM

    Managing stress and nurturing the spirit is definitely part of the puzzle. I'm in a pretty good place with that right now, having gone through the serious stress management and spiritual crisis stuff before I was ready to tackle the nutrition stuff; but your blog is a reminder to be thankful that I've addressed that in the past, and that nothing new has shown up in the past few years to force me to revisit how I deal with stress.

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CRYSTALJEM 1/15/2013 7:49PM

    You can do this. There will always be ups and downs LOL but if we're moving in the right direction over all then we're really living life in my opinion. Everything trends up and down; stocks, emotions and even our bodies. Namaste. CJ

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NEEDBU66 1/15/2013 7:10PM

    The scale is no friend some days.

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TOTHEFUTURE1 1/15/2013 5:27PM

    You know the joke "I lost twice my own body weight several time" Think healthy and +ve. Hugs

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HDHAWK 1/15/2013 5:14PM

    I'm trying to relax more about the scale although I'm much happier when it moves in the right direction. Get some sleep this week and try to relieve some of the stress. It will come off quickly! emoticon

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LYNMEINDERS 1/15/2013 4:59PM

    Amen...thanks John...its about never giving but keeping going forward

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TRISTAROSE 1/15/2013 4:43PM

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SHERIO5 1/15/2013 3:52PM

    Yeah the stress component...the hardest one to deal with!

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HLPRATT 1/15/2013 3:46PM

    I have to say I haven't always understood the number on the scale. Sometimes I lost more than I should have and other times I gained when I felt I should have lost. Just don't give up- look for a cause and keep going. Stress is a big issue

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 1/15/2013 3:14PM

    You can do it! :)


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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/15/2013 2:34PM

    It's like any race. You are not always going to be the winner. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose but if you apply yourself and really work hard the chances are you will win more than you lose.

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BEATRIZ269 1/15/2013 2:11PM

    Thank you for sharing. I did need to hear that and I know that stress management for me is instrumental in getting results as well. Keep on keeping on. We will do this.

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BLUEROSE73 1/15/2013 1:22PM

  You can do this. I believe in you. Keep pushing

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SHEDEVIL6464 1/15/2013 1:21PM

    Thanks, John...I, too, gained some weight this past week due to stress, and my reaction to it(over-eating). In the past I probably would have thrown in the towel, but not this time!! I'm going to get right back on track. Best wishes to you.

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VICKI-BISHOP56 1/15/2013 1:10PM

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KT-NICHOLS-13 1/15/2013 12:48PM

    Great job on digging a little deeper.
I too gained a tiny bit this week. I looked at my Dr and shrugged, then commented - "Forward. I'll just keep walking forward to a new day, a new start." I walked a little taller on my way to work - I had empowered myself by not getting bogged down in the mental crap of it all.

Blessings to you John.

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SHSCHLEIN 1/15/2013 12:02PM

    Thank you for the timely words today; they are much appreciated :)

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HKARLSSON 1/15/2013 11:51AM

    Thanks, John. I did need to hear that. You've convinced me it's not such a bad thing to take a break from my To-Do list today. My brain is so scattered, I can't even concentrate on anything, much less perfect anything I'm trying to work on. I think I'll just take it easy, do some yoga, and enjoy the unexpected Texas snow.

Have a good day!
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ANATASHIKI 1/15/2013 11:42AM

    oh ,just ignore the scale and continue to do what you know it's good for you. and find a way to get rid of the stress , cortisol induces storing fats , God knows for what. I wish our bodies had the same succes with the rest of their functions cause the storing fat mechanism works fabulous emoticon

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REGILIEH 1/15/2013 11:09AM

    I like whatever you write whenever you write! emoticon emoticon

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PATTYCAKE17 1/15/2013 10:58AM

    Yes, I'm not alone on the merry-go-round!! Good and comforting news. It happened after a significant weight loss recently as I was about to break into a new "century" numbers and had NO appetite or cravings for any food I didn't need. My family drama queen began calling me in the evenings distressed over her latest break up and I TOOK IT ON. STRESS OF HER STRESS. I went back the following week and had gained a few pounds. I think I was emo exausted, then sleep deprived, and that's not a happy combo regardless of what causes it. Hope your work issues have been resolved, and you have learned something towards dealing with stress emoticon for the next time! You're doing a emoticon job on this journey, and I always take something good away from your blogs. emoticon emoticon

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TMW54812 1/15/2013 10:48AM

    Exactly the reason I only weigh in on the first of the month! I don't handle the weekly fluctuations very well.

t.

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SLIMLEAF 1/15/2013 10:37AM

    Thanks for writing your blog today, John. I was one of the people who needed to read it.

*hug*

Lindsay

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CC3833 1/15/2013 10:17AM

    Whoa... I do not like that feeling either. But stress is a terrible thing. It does some horrible things to your body. Have you ever tried meditating? Maybe 10 minutes a day can help you just let it go. When I'm stressed I try to think of why it's stressing me, is there anything I can do to change it (if not let it go), and what I can do to give myself a few minutes away from the stress to see it from a different angle. Good luck you warrior!! Keep pushing!

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AMCLELLAN 1/15/2013 10:10AM

    Great blog... really is helpful. Stress does play a huge role. Thank you for posting this!

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BRIDGIEEE 1/15/2013 10:09AM

    It's crazy what stress can do to our bodies. In the past I've gotten physically sick because of stress. You CAN do it!

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SASKGIRL81 1/15/2013 10:08AM

    I'm always the first person to give up when things get tough but not this time. I'm tired of being so unhealthy. Thanks for reminding me that I'm not the only one who struggles or has bad days and the important thing is to keep going. Good luck to you! Here's to a better week! emoticon

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Am I Over Reacting

Monday, January 14, 2013

Let’s establish a baseline. I am, for all intent and purpose a red blooded American male who is far from being a prude. I appreciate the human body and yes I often find myself attracted to it mostly in the personage of my wife. However I am not immune from seeing a magazine cover or television ad of an attractive female and muttering some sort of appreciation usually beginning with “Da*n.”Ok, we got that out of the way. A few minutes ago I had the opportunity to spin the Spark bonus wheel. (Hooray for me.) As the wheel went round and round, dead in the center was an obese woman with rather large breasts modeling a bra for a new reality show about women with large breasts who can’t seem to get fitted correctly for that type of support. These were not your typical large breasts they were so large that they were noticeable. The commercial went on and on mostly showing women jumping up and down and jiggling with glee because they found a bra that fits.

I am sensitive to their plight. I have two daughters who find it a challenge to find that type of support and they often spend an entire afternoon getting fitted. I know, too, that it can cause a lot of pain when your breasts are larger than your back can support comfortably and that it can create some pretty serious medical issues. If you are uncomfortable with me talking about breasts I apologize but it seems like there are more and more things we don’t talk about because somewhere, someone has deemed them inappropriate and yet here they are on reality television for the entire world to pop a beverage of choice, sit back and laugh at someone’s plight. It was like watching a train wreck of sorts. I Google searched the show and watched promotions for women, most of them over weight showing off their breasts. If this is what America wants so be it. I won’t be watching. Katie and Maggie answered my text message about the show with one word “Gross!!!” I want to reiterate I am not being insensitive to women who have these issues just their exploitation. What is of greater concern is that SparkPeople chooses to use this add on their web site. If I am not mistaken the majority of members here are female and I know from conversations with my daughters and some close female friends that weight issues and self esteem are a major issue with most females. (They are with most males also, we’re just too scared to let go and admit it) So here we are encouraging people to buy into something that goes against everything we are supposed to be about, here. I am becoming more concerned about the direction we are traveling. I shook my head the other day when I read a blog and then noticed at the bottom it had been copy righted by the writer. Aren’t we supposed to be helping each other out?

Help me here dear friends. Am I over reacting?

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

SILLYHP1953 1/31/2013 8:35AM

    No, you are not overreacting. I have not seen this ad yet, but there used to be a link to let sparkpeople know about inappropriate ads.

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MYOWNHERO 1/18/2013 9:56AM

    I agree that SP should be choosier about ads. I understand that we must endure ads for all this wonderful fee-ness. But I also object to watching gooey desserts while the wheel spins. Not helpful!

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LUCYJOY 1/15/2013 1:04PM

    I don't even notice the ads or I'm immune to them. Would I watch a show like that? No-but I wouldn't watch most reality shows. Whatever sells, I guess.

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2013LOSE20 1/15/2013 12:48PM

  If Honey Boo Boo can be a hit, anything out there will find it's audience. In this big crazy world one has to make a world for themselves within the world. I won't watch it and it won't be part of my world. Very interesting blog, enjoy your writing.

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UNIQDRGNFLY 1/15/2013 10:14AM

    I agree with all the other comments. Sadly, greed...feeds. We live in a free country and my aspect regarding such things is this...the tv has an on/off button and we can pick and choose our battles.

Change is hard for most and trying to get the media to walk away from millions of dollars is like, well...you can lead a horse to water, but can't make him drink it.

Ad blocker works well for me.



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CRYSTALJEM 1/15/2013 9:48AM

    No, I don't think you are over reacting. I'm not prude either, boobs, breasts and assorted other body parts don't bother me - but at the same time this has a "different feel" (pardon the term) to it. Like so much reality tv I feel it at least appears to be at the expense of the people involved under the guise of being helpful. It reminds me of when kids would invite the unpopular kid to join in really just so the could continue to taunt them when they were vulnerable (do I sound bitter? LOL)

I support SP using advertising to keep the site free, I admit that I'm really cheap (well on a budget anyway) and probably would not pay to stay on this site - too much free stuff out there (well, I'm kinda hooked so maybe I would), but I agree with those who've said there is a line. I believe all advertising should have to meet the criteria of being potentially helpful in a supportive (no pun intended), healthy, respectful way. At times, the advertising on this site does not meet that criteria and I think it's sad. All we can do is continue to let SP know how and why we support them and what directions would make us do so even more in the future. That ad - nope.

 CJ

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NASFKAB 1/15/2013 5:09AM

  You are not overreacting at all & I feel Spark should not have taken that ad there are limits I know they need ads to keep it free but that type of ad NO

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LYNMEINDERS 1/15/2013 4:32AM

    I totally don't think you are over reacting at all John....
I haven't seen the ad as I am in NZ and the adds that are on spark here are NZ adds....

I do have a problem with our TV programs though and regularly state that i am so pleased the the TV licience fee was dropped several years ago or we wouldn't have a tv.....lol...

We are going to have to upgrade because the technology is changing in April and we have to get a freeview decoder and I am already complaining about that .....

I will keep a look out to see if we get these adds and also any other adds....
Thankyou

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1FARMER 1/14/2013 10:49PM

    I don't think that you are over reacting. I wouldn't call that entertainment. This type of show is
one reason why I don't have a television. I haven't had a television for over 10 years and my life is very interesting without one. I think as a husband and father you are an enlightened man.

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CARTOONB 1/14/2013 10:27PM

    I think that show falls in the same category as Here Comes Honey Boo Boo. They are on the air because people watch. I'm not one the people, but I can see how people get sucked in. Sorry...I don't have a good answer. Do you think you're overreacting?

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FLY0NTHEWAL1 1/14/2013 9:37PM

    I don't know if you are overreacting or not. I've also seen that show advertised on SP and I know I just glossed over it, though I do think that they are seriously running out of ideas for shows.

I am particularly buxom and I wore the wrong size for many years until a busty friend of mine suggested that I should be wearing a different size. A good bra does make a difference for the wearer. Does that warrant a show? Eh, not really. How many episodes until we're like, we get it, the bra fits! I wasn't offended by it.

As far as SP playing that ad... I'm sure there are many people that use SP and will watch the show. Probably many who won't. SP has to make money somewhere so that we can continue using it for free, with all of the services they provide: workout videos, meal plans, etc. And the show is aimed at a demographic that SP supports (no pun intended).

(Oh oh one more thing - it's a show I - or a lot of us - could be on too, since I'm too old to be on that teen mom show, and too old to be on jersey shore, and waay too old for that toddlers and tiaras show. I have the one thing they're lookin for. Finally fit in somewhere. emoticon )

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WEEPINGANGEL74 1/14/2013 9:31PM

    I agree 100% and won't be watching.

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SHERIO5 1/14/2013 8:19PM

    Nope. I am on the same page.

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DEBRITA01 1/14/2013 6:20PM

    Not over-reacting at all. Sometimes we get immune or desensitized to all the garbage that's out there. Lately, I'm pretty disgusted by what is being portrayed as entertainment., but someone must watch it. emoticon

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NEELIXNKES 1/14/2013 4:03PM

    This is why I use an ad blocker for browsing most of the time. Honestly, the premise seems like it would be an interesting special for those that need the info on TLC or on a magazine website but to make a whole tv show about getting bra fittings seems a bit ridiculous.

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_MOBII_ 1/14/2013 4:02PM

    I don't think you are over reacting...And I am certainly not offended about you talking about breasts...I have two of them after all!!!

I often question myself about turning into an old fuddy duddy, I stick with the food network, sci-fi, history channel, and anything from National Geographics on tv with a couple of sitcoms thrown in because reality shows bite it...except American Idol because I truly enjoy the effort people put into following their dreams (most of them anyways.) Most of today's music is worse than nails on a chalkboard for me as well. I cannot handle all that bass booming through the neighborhood.

But then I think about how things seemed to my dad when I was growing up...think super loud 80's music and 'inappropriate' MTV...way back when they had music on there, lol! Madonna and her pointy chest and men with long hair!

I still blast the 80's music, but wouldn't stop my remote on the MTV channel if someone paid me to do it.

Some of the things on tv/internet are too twisted even for me...making fun of someones plight or misfortune is definitely included in this.

As for the ads on Spark...I think they may be driven by key words on the site at a given time...for instance, talking about someones death on FaceBook may trigger an ad for funeral services or something along those lines...definitely something that you don't want to see/think about.
Since there is a huge amount of food talk on SparkPeople, you get ads for food...whether its healthy or not. Also, the term 'weight loss' may trigger a pill ad...same for voluptuous bosoms and bras....



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KT-NICHOLS-13 1/14/2013 3:30PM

    I don't find your blog or attitude to be an overreaction but a reaction to what was in your face. If more people said no to bad advertising and television things MIGHT right themselves. I wonder how the women on this new reality show really feel?

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NEEDBU66 1/14/2013 1:32PM

    You are not over-reacting. It amazes me when I click the TV Guide on my cable box just how many shows are on the TV that I haven't seen even the first show of, nor would ever do so. Most reality shows fall in that category, but we've never seen the first The Simpson's either. We find ourselves using the On Demand to catch up on the few shows we do watch. There is no doubt that what people find worth watching seems to have slipped a little in the tasteful department.

And yes I do find it ironic that there are so many ads for bad food on a web site where we are all trying to eat good food. I pretty much try to tune out as many of the ads, but this site is really bad at putting them "in the way" so they are impossible, some of them, to avoid. It is one of those things we put up with to keep the site free. I would not get on it if I had to pay money.

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DOLLBABE56 1/14/2013 1:30PM

    OMG! I was just reading my friend feeds, when the ad popped up. Man, I could've done without that!

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DOLLBABE56 1/14/2013 1:26PM

    Seems that there are long any taboos for television anymore. Okay, maybe a few, but I really don't want to see anyone in their underwear. I have enough hangups as it is. lol

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POPSY190 1/14/2013 1:20PM

    A lot of reality shows are voyeurism, there's no other word for it.

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PRESBESS 1/14/2013 12:39PM

    You are definitely not over reacting! Unfortuanately, I'm sure it's all about sensationalism and that mighty mean green.

But I must say... your blog was outright funny! Still chuckling!
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CC3833 1/14/2013 12:11PM

    I don't like the idea of that. As women we already know that we should get measured and things before getting a bra. I don't think there has to be a whole show about it. On Lifetime they have a show called "How to look good naked". I think that is a wonderful show. It makes people appreciate what they are without changing a thing. That seems more appropriate.

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CMBELISLE 1/14/2013 12:07PM

    Just keep in mind that advertising is what keeps the website free. I tried using it with my own website at one point as a way of offsetting the cost (hobby). Typically, you sign up with an advertising service that uses tracking data to determine what kinds of ads to place on the site and you have no real control. Anytime someone clicks on an ad, a specified amount is given to the site owner. If no one clicks on the ad after a certain number of viewings, it probably won't be seen again on the site.

SP spends a lot of time with people discussing how their clothes fit. The ad company likely picked up on that to determine the appropriateness of the specific ad for the site. After a while it won't be seen again as long as no one is clicking on it. As for watching it, that is your choice. You don't have to watch the ad just as you don't have to watch the show. Just because you and probably 90% of SP users don't like the ad and don't intend to watch the show doesn't mean there isn't someone out there who will be interested, which is the point of advertising - reaching your audience.

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HKARLSSON 1/14/2013 11:54AM

    Hi John,

No, you're not over-reacting. This is precisely why Mr. Karlsson and I do not own a television. It sickens me to see the tripe that gets foisted upon the public, and it sickens me more that the public seems to eat it up and PAY to see it. It's all "bread and circus" to keep the masses appeased. Of course, keeping Spark free is an important goal, so I guess we just have to put up with the rotten advertising. I find it ironic that we have programs in place to censor our blogs and our forum posts, and yet trashy ads are allowed on the site. There is a lot in American culture that doesn't make sense to me, and I was even born and raised here. At least the Chinese are consistent in their censorship...

Heather

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BLUEROSE73 1/14/2013 11:53AM

  All I can say is wow.

... and no, you are not over-reacting. It's like the cheap pizza delivery adds they used to have here on SP. Just so counter productive to why so many of us are here.

I agree that talking about things like this is necessary. Too many women of all "sizes" do not know that they are wearing the wrong bra size. But there's got to be a better way to do it than that!

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KATHRYN1955 1/14/2013 11:42AM

    Either the ad was gone by the time I spun the wheel, or I missed it completely, but it certainly doesn't sound very professional. I tend to ignore those, but I do resent seeing the e-mails for Herbal Magic or other diet regimes. I realize the site needs the ads to keep it free for the rest of us, but ads like that only demean and devalue the good work of SparkPeople. Didn't our mothers tell us that we are judged by the company we keep?!!!
Thanks for another thought-provoking blog.....hopefully the folks who look after the advertising for the site also see this one.
Take care,
Kathy

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CHESSARIA 1/14/2013 11:16AM

    I don't watch reality tv. I find it appaling. Sadly, i'm not surprised that they have started this new show. Maybe by having larger women on tv finding clothing that makes them look better will help people with lowere self esteem and higher weight issues.

As for the blog with the copyright, it is due to the fact that the internet is out there and people are afraid of other people stealing their work. But even with the copyright, people still steal images and ideas. So the only difference it makes is you have more possible legal action, if you find that someone stole something of yours.

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HDHAWK 1/14/2013 11:13AM

    My husband and I saw the commercial for that show the other day. Coming from someone who chose reduction surgery I don't see the point. Someone is making money from it I guess. I won't be watching it either. I can be accused of watching some pretty useless tv, but that won't be one of the shows I watch.

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KENDRACARROLL 1/14/2013 11:08AM

    This, certainly, isn't the only questionable commercial SP has to offer.
I don't fret about it and just overlook this, really.
Spark to me is about the support my friends here give me.

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LOVINGKATE 1/14/2013 11:05AM

  John, you are not over reacting in the least. It saddens me to see these types of Ad's on tv or any web site. This world has become so corrupted with this type of trash and not enough people want to say any thing about how offensive they are. Money speaks but we should speak louder!!!! Has everyone lost all morality? God knows what is going on and he will deal with it when the time come but we are still to speak up for what we believe is right and wrong. Lets all do our part and not watch and let the right people know how we feel. For me, I'm ready to it all off!!!!!! Have a great day John.

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BARB5970 1/14/2013 10:53AM

    John, I agree with you. Not only is it inappropriate for SP to have such an ad on their website but I also think it's inappropriate for TV, and I don't understand why people watch such things, nor do I understand why any woman would parade themselves for all to see. Perhaps the money outweighs their moral values. This show/web ad leaves me asking....Is nothing private anynmore????

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VICKI-BISHOP56 1/14/2013 10:48AM

  I agree, some of the ads are deplorable and shouldn't be here on sparkpeople, nor should they be on TV. Some things just shouldn't be talked about like it was about the weather. Being a woman, some issues really make me uncomfortable. Not because I'm a prude, but because I was raised to respect myself and others. And some ads simply don't show respect. It's all about sensationalism, and the almighty dollar. emoticon emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/14/2013 10:44AM

    No, you are not. Everyone has to make a living, I guess, and I assume when sparkpeople accepts these companies for ads they don't realize that things will be so .......................titillating. LOL. Our society is obsessed with breasts but you don't expect such tasteless, vulgar trash to be on a nice site like this. Have a good day anyway. I will be bouncing off to the next blog. LOL.

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SHSCHLEIN 1/14/2013 10:40AM

    No, John. I don't believe you are over-reacting. I, too, was dismayed when I saw the promo this morning. :(

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MISSPEACHES3 1/14/2013 10:38AM

    O.K., I know that I won't be watching a show about bra fitting. In fact, on my job, I had to go to school to learn how to fit (measure) bras for women. That wasn't my main job, but, just in case I was needed, I had to learn.

I can't believe the networks can actually earn money on this type of show.



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