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New Years Greeting (A Few Days Early)

Thursday, December 27, 2012

I started reading a book Joan gave me for Christmas last night. (Give me a book as a present and I’ll follow you anywhere.) Written by Thich Nhat Hanh it is called Living Buddha, Living Christ. If you want to know more about the author, Google him. I was amazed at his accomplishments that included a nomination for the Nobel Peace Prize.


I am going to be away until the first of the year and I thought I’d share a passage from this book that really moved me.

“Our capacity to make peace with the world and another person depends very much on our capacity to make peace with ourselves. If we are at war with our parents, our families, our society or our church, there is probably a war going inside of us also, so the most basic work for peace is to return to ourselves and create harmony among the elements within us……"

Here is to a very peaceful New Year for you and all you hold dear to you. I look forward to sharing part of me with you and vice versa in the new year.

Namaste dear ones, namaste

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SILLYHP1953 1/30/2013 4:18PM

    I gave all my children one of his books for Christmas a few years ago.

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MARITIMER3 12/28/2012 9:06PM

    Very thought provoking quotation. I have recently found a peace in my life that I never had before. I believe it started when I became deeply involved in my church, and it continues to grow.

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REGILIEH 12/28/2012 7:38PM

    You will be missed! Happy New Year! Namaste! emoticon blog! I like your new book!

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NASFKAB 12/28/2012 5:33AM

  all the best for the new year for Joan & you

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CARTOONB 12/27/2012 11:19PM

    Books are the best presents! Happy new year to you and yours.

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MOBYCARP 12/27/2012 8:53PM

    Wow. You gave us a great story on joy, and now a profound quote on peace. I can hardly wait for the insights when you take up the topic of forgiveness.

Have a wonderful time away, and come back to us safe and well when it's time to come back.

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ONEKIDSMOM 12/27/2012 6:46PM

    Much truth to digest in that quotation. Thank you!

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LYNMEINDERS 12/27/2012 5:43PM

    Awesome quote from the book...thankyou...

Have a great time away John and an awesome New year to you and Joan....

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LUCYJOY 12/27/2012 5:35PM

    Hmm, this blog has interesting timing for me. Was talking with some friends today about my struggle to forgive some people in my life-which is normally not an issue for me. Guess it's time to look deeper into me for the answer. Happy New Year!

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SLIMLEAF 12/27/2012 4:41PM

    May you have a happy, healthy and peaceful New Year, John.


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TIME4AFITME 12/27/2012 3:06PM

    Very true!! Happy New Year

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MORTICIAADDAMS 12/27/2012 2:55PM

    I am all for inner peace. I find it hard to achieve though when exposed to the constant turmoil that surrounds some people.

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PATTYCAKE17 12/27/2012 11:58AM

    Very true, and a good reminder for everyone regardless of spiritual orientation. Jesus also said "My peace I leave with thee," to His true followers who can attain the "peace that passes all understanding." What a beautiful feeling to know true peace. Something to think and pray about as we watch those who talk about peace in the world and try to bring it about, knowing NOTHING about an inner peace which would stop them from striving to make war and calling it peace. emoticon emoticon Many blessings of peace and good will to you and all who stop by this page in the new year.

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NEEDBU66 12/27/2012 10:15AM

    We are called to be peacemakers. It is no easy task

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HLPRATT 12/27/2012 10:07AM

    Wonderful quote and so true. Happy New year!

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SHERIO5 12/27/2012 9:20AM

    Blessings to you in the New Year! emoticon

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TRISTAROSE 12/27/2012 8:43AM

    Thank you John .... A great thought for the day!

Happy New Year! emoticon

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MLMEYER98 12/27/2012 8:37AM

    Thank you! Your words were exactly what I needed to hear... Happy New Year ya'll

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HDHAWK 12/27/2012 8:35AM

    That's a powerful quote John. Enjoy your time away and be safe on the snowy roads.
Happy, healthy new year.

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Experiencing Joy

Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Last week I posted a blog about perfect joy. It was a story about St Francis and one his fellow travelers discussing what perfect joy might feel like. If you would like to see the whole exchange, you can read that blog at:

In the end, Francis declared that perfect joy did not come from comfort and wealth but often from the discomfort of being rejected. This morning I had the opportunity to experience that type of joy up close and personal.

It had been sleeting since midnight. It was that nasty slushy stuff. I took Joan to work and started to the store. Having lived up north for many years, I know you do not wear a three-piece suit in this nasty, wintery weather. I usually wear an old pair of warm ups, a sweatshirt and a hoodie. I have a pair of running shoes that just might be older than me. Did I tell you Joan had been after me for about two weeks to get my beard trimmed? I needed to buy the usual staples – milk, bread, and eggs. I take a blood pressure pill that is also a diuretic. This morning, I NEEDED to use the men’s room before I shopped. I walked past three clerks and said my usual cheery good morning. The all nodded and I could feel them follow me with their eyes into the men’s room. Upon exit, I noticed a shoelace untied so I sat down on a bench to tie it. I sat for a few seconds, warming up. One of the clerks approached me and said “Excuse me, but the restrooms are for our customers.” I wanted to say something like” I’m just resting a moment I’m going to shop here in a minute,” but I was so incredulous that I just sort of stared at the ground. I heard one clerk say, “If he doesn’t move in a few minutes just call security.” I got a cart and took care of my shopping. As I walked up and down the aisles, a manager followed my movement from aisle to aisle. Honestly, I was a bit freaked out. I hurried through the You Scan, paid my bill, and headed to the car. As I loaded my groceries, I realized I had not paid for my milk. A quick look at the receipt confirmed my suspicions. This is not negotiable. If you do not pay for something and you know you did not pay for something you go back into the store and pay for it. Contrary to popular belief, it is not your lucky day. It is theft.

I walked back into the store, explain what happened, and hold out a ten dollar bill. The clerk tells me to wait a minute. Shortly thereafter, the store manager approaches me. He asks for ID. I comply with his request, explaining the milk must have nestled behind the toilet paper and I overlooked it. He asked me where I lived, where I worked and how could I have missed the milk. He took my money, and walked me to the door and watched as I drove away.

There is lots of stuff I wanted to say, even a few people I wanted to call. The people in that store thought I was homeless. They treated me with contempt. I was angry, really angry, until it dawned on me that my attitude suggested I was BETTER than someone who had no permanent home. How dare someone treat my like “one of those people.”

That’s when I began to feel something close to perfect joy


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ANNE-ELIZ 1/3/2013 12:21AM

    Thanks John! emoticon

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MARCYNA 1/1/2013 1:10PM

    Wow, great. I love this emoticon emoticon emoticon
PS The point is, not how the people treat you, but the way to react to it!!!

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PATTYCAKE17 12/27/2012 12:47PM

    So much to say about this story, but emoticon and emoticon seem to say it best. The joy of the Lord is my strength! To have lost your peace for even one word would have lost it for who knows how long? emoticon emoticon

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ANGELWENDYMAMA 12/27/2012 12:17AM

    Very interesting take on it.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 12/26/2012 9:58PM

    What I got from this is that you need to shop somewhere else. I understand about not wanting homeless people living in the bathroom of the store but they jumped the gun and no one at all seemed to pick up that they had made an tremendous error in judgement. And, yes, they are prejudice. Shop somewhere else. Seriously.

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CARTOONB 12/26/2012 9:29PM

    Wow! Great way to think and make something different of the situation.

Hope you find a place to live soon! emoticon

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NASFKAB 12/26/2012 8:46PM

  thoughtful made me think

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HDHAWK 12/26/2012 7:06PM

    That's a tough one John! Thank you for reminding us to always look for the joy no matter how difficult it may be.

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VICKI-BISHOP56 12/26/2012 5:11PM

  I can certainly understand your anger and I'm glad you were able to come to good terms over it. So many people only see with their eyes, not their heart. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LYNMEINDERS 12/26/2012 4:40PM

    I love your philosophy.....I am not sure I would have kept my mouth shut as well as you did yours....

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DEBRITA01 12/26/2012 3:38PM

    Today you were a victim of discrimination based on your appearance...something people deal with daily. It makes one angry that people are treated this way and opens our eyes to what others deal with. As I sit in my warm home as it snows and sleets, I know you are blessed b/c yours was just a case of mistaken identity.

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LINDAMARIEZ1 12/26/2012 3:23PM

    It takes all kinds and God loves every one!

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REGILIEH 12/26/2012 3:21PM

    WOW!!!! That was certainly insightful. Also very sad. A lot to think about.

Blessings to you and yours! emoticon

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MOBYCARP 12/26/2012 2:59PM

    Perfect joy, indeed. May this reminder teach me to experience such joy when and if I get an opportunity like yours!

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YOYONOMORE1 12/26/2012 1:48PM

    What an amazing story and thanks for sharing. I guess that saying "unless you have walked a mile in there shoes" would apply here, but what an incredible experience for you and the realization of how the homeless are looked at and treated and you shared the lesson with us. Bless you John.


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MARITIMER3 12/26/2012 1:36PM

    What an incredible story, John. It's so sad to realize that this is how the homeless, and others who are marginalized, are treated every day. Thank you for sharing your experience - it will certainly make me think twice when I see someone who looks "different."

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MYTURN11 12/26/2012 1:29PM

    emoticon emoticon Sorry you were treated that way but am happy how you dealt with it and the good feeling it gave you as well.

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MATHMAGICIAN 12/26/2012 1:19PM

    Isn't it lovely how when we focus on something the universe gives us the opportunity to experience it? That's why it's so important to focus on the lessons and experiences we want to have not the ones we don't. Thank you for sharing this beautiful example!

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JILL313 12/26/2012 1:15PM

    Wow, what an incredible but awful experience for you. I can't even imagine something like that happening--how can people be so mean and judge others. . .I'm so glad you held up well through it all and experienced perfect Joy. You're a better man for it.



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SCRAPPINPOLLY 12/26/2012 12:59PM

    I am happy for you doing the right thing, but appalled at how they treated you. That stuff really gets under my skin. You took the classier route and didn't respond to it. I hope to be able to react that way when I am treated in such an awful way.

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SHERIO5 12/26/2012 12:56PM

    Quite an eye -opener...thanks!

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Why Jesus Came

Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Many years ago, a pastor of ours, preached a Christmas sermon. In it he challenged us to allow the sweet baby Jesus to leave the manger and to grow into the man who’d saved us. He went on to say that many of us kept that Christmas tableau all year round because a sweet, innocent child cannot do anything you and I don’t agree with.

Poor Jesus. The reason He came gets more distant every year. Why it was just Sunday when I read the NRA says our right “to bear arms” is based in one of the Gospels. The Republicans claim Him as theirs, so do the Democrats. Right to Life, Pro Choice, trust us, Jesus is on our side. The voice grows dimmer as our own concerns grow larger and more forthright. Let me ask you something? 2000 plus years later given how we’ve read the tea leaves and discerned what Jesus “really meant” --- How’s that working out for ya? Are you loving’ your brother and sister any stronger than you are last year? Is there more peace and harmony or do we spend most of our time uttering ablutions and forcing our own point of view down someone else’s throat in the name of Christ Jesus.

Jesus had a simple mission. Strip it of all the glitz, glamour, and guilt we have added it comes down to this: Jesus Saved. The problem is not Jesus; the problem is ours. Jesus paid a ransom, set things right, balanced the books call it what you want. By His death, he said “It’s over, there is no reason to sin any longer. “ It cannot be that simple can it? All we have to do is love, respect, and practice “Namaste” honoring the presence of God in the person across the table from us. We have built large, impressive structures to honor God, ensconced him in gold and silver, called down the wrath of the almighty, and killed folks who do not believe the way we do.

You tell me there are people who do not believe and it’s our mission to save them, to bring them to Jesus so they can believe what we do. I’ll share something with you God often tells me “John when I need your help I’ll ask for it.” Every path is different and every journey makes different stops. My relationship with Jesus has grown stronger in the past year not because of hymns and scripture but because I have spent time reading the writings of the Buddha. They have caused my faith to grow stronger. A lot of you might want to burn me at the stake. Do you think Jesus would?

Accepting the fact that the ransom has been paid can be a huge responsibility and that’s why some choose to keep Jesus in swaddling clothes. The true mission of redemption is never met; it is to love without reservation.

Merry Christmas and Namaste

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SILLYHP1953 1/30/2013 4:14PM

    Peace on Earth would happen if we followed the teachings of the great masters. Thank you for being on that path and sharing it with us.

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PATTYCAKE17 12/26/2012 2:19PM

    The true message of Christ is the Cross and the reason He hung there for us. He was the ultimate sacrifice, paying the ransom for our sins so we didn't have to. When we accept what He did for us and grow closer to Him, we form a relationship with Him, not a religion, which is man-made dogma. When you read the Bible for yourself you don't need an interpreter, just a prayer that
God will reveal Himself to you through His Word. emoticon emoticon If you were the only one, He would have died for you. emoticon

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LOVINGKATE 12/26/2012 12:30PM

  You are so awesome John! God has given you an opening to spread his word by what he is doing in your life. We lead by example and how we speak. What would Jesus do is something I say everyday cause this helps me think in the word and pray at all times. His door is always open and he wants to hear from use continually. Use you phones to talk to Jesus Christ or text what ever you like, just talk and listen to Him, our Lord. Merry Christmas and Namaste to you as well. Love you John

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CARTOONB 12/25/2012 11:27PM

    I would like to think that I have done better this year at practicing goodwill. Bear in mind, I'm still practicing! Merry Christmas and Namaste to you as well.

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IMEMINE1 12/25/2012 7:54PM

    emoticon Merry Christmas. emoticon

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LYNMEINDERS 12/25/2012 6:43PM

    Thats awesome John....
A real good challenge for us all...thankyou

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SLIMLEAF 12/25/2012 1:22PM

    The more I see and hear of the sufferings and injustices in this world, the more I am incredibly grateful that Jesus came. Because of what he grew up to be, how he lived and died and rose again, we can find forgiveness, hope, love, life and peace beyond anything this world could offer.

Happy Birthday, Jesus.

and Happy Christmas, John.

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ALLISON145 12/25/2012 1:19PM

    Merry Christmas!

...and Namaste, now that I understand what it means. :)


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CEHALLA 12/25/2012 12:04PM

    Thank you! Beautiful words to live by, as Jesus would want us to.

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SHERIO5 12/25/2012 11:19AM

    Well done. Merry Christmas!

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MDOTZERO 12/25/2012 10:58AM

    Very good points indeed. Merry Christmas!

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ONEKIDSMOM 12/25/2012 10:46AM

    Well said! Namaste AND Merry Christmas!

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WELLNESSME09 12/25/2012 9:46AM

    Thank You!

Merry Christmas! emoticon

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NASFKAB 12/25/2012 9:33AM

  thanks a lot all the best

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TRISTAROSE 12/25/2012 9:11AM

    Merry Christmas!


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To My Friends

Monday, December 24, 2012

Blessings to each of you this holiday season. However you choose to celebrate and honor this day I hope it not only meets but exceeds your expectations. If I began thanking each of you for all the wonderful gifts you give me each day of my life I would run out of room to write.

I honor the presence of the divine spirit within each of you. Formally, there are 1505 of you who have acknowledged me as a friend. I sometimes wish I could send a personal message to each of you and to tell you how much you mean to me. To some of you that doesn't happen too often. You toil and struggle and work very hard to make yourself the best you imaginable. Little do you know that you inspire me to continue my own amazing journey.

Namaste to you my dear ones and I hope you enjoy this season and all it holds.

Much Love


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EPIPHANYANGEL 12/25/2012 7:30PM

    Namaste, Happy holidays. emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 12/25/2012 4:22PM

    Merry Christmas to you too!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MARCYNA 12/25/2012 8:40AM

    Thanks John, may you be blessed and may you be forever full of the Holy Spirit.

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REGILIEH 12/24/2012 10:30PM

    NAMASTE to you! The season is better because of you! emoticon emoticon emoticon

May you and yours have many, many blessings in 2013! You deserve the blessings as you give so many blessings!

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GEEMAWEST 12/24/2012 9:59PM

    Thank you, John. Right back at ya!

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GREENEYES2020 12/24/2012 6:45PM

    You too! Merry Christmas!

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ALLISON145 12/24/2012 6:34PM

    Merry Christmas, John.

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TERESAKLE 12/24/2012 6:27PM

  You warm my heart John.


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LYNMEINDERS 12/24/2012 6:26PM

    A totally superb Christmas to you as well John and may 2013 be the best year you have ever had on your journey with the greatest results and revelations....

Praise God in all you do...focus on Him and He will focus on you....


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SHERIO5 12/24/2012 5:26PM

    Peace! emoticon

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CARTOONB 12/24/2012 1:53PM

    Mass emails to spark friends would be a good tool. Until then, this works. emoticon

Merry Christmas!!

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TRISTAROSE 12/24/2012 1:47PM

    Wishing you and your family all the happy things this very special holiday brings!


Thank you for all your great blogs and being my Spark Friend!


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LOVINGKATE 12/24/2012 1:41PM

  Bless you John. Merry Christmas! emoticon emoticon

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DEBRITA01 12/24/2012 1:36PM

    Bless you, John...Have a Merry Christmas! emoticon

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PRESBESS 12/24/2012 1:11PM

    Merry Christmas to you and yours! Thanks for being my SP friend.

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MATHMAGICIAN 12/24/2012 1:09PM

    Thank you for the blessing that is you. Have a wonderful holiday!

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ONEKIDSMOM 12/24/2012 1:06PM

    Right back at you, John. Who was it said "motivation is the gift you give yourself, inspiration the gift you give others"?

Happy Holidays to you, too!

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OPTIMISTIC11 12/24/2012 12:52PM

    Happy Holidays!!

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HDHAWK 12/24/2012 12:51PM

    All the same to you and your family! Your friendship is a blessing!

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No Matter What You Call It Addiction Is Still Addiction

Friday, December 21, 2012

Some of us are hard wired to trade one excess for another. We struggle with emotional and compulsive eating, develop many bad habits, deal with chronic health conditions, and end up generally feeling unhappy and frustrated.

We become active. We exercise and train and generally force our bodies into what we believe is health. Then we wake up one morning injured and if we are fortunate, we realize we have traded one addiction for another. There aren’t too many people who will be critical for pushing towards what we believe is health. There’s no arguing it increases our self-esteem, we feel better, we look better and often like a highly addictive drug it gives us an amazing high. We are doing the things the obese us never dreamed of doing. In the background muscles that hadn’t been used in years, if ever, begin to break down.

I spent 10 minutes and 6 seconds on an elliptical machine Monday morning. It’s the first time in 18 months I’ve been able to do something like that. It’s taken six weeks of aquatics personal training and a strong dose of wisdom from my trainer, plus the realization that for a period of time I trade chocolate cake for exercise and because I am hard wired towards compulsion and addiction it produced disastrous results. Prior to finding Julia, I ran into all sorts of walls that made me believe I’d never do anything more than walk back and forth in a warm water therapy pool. Julia reviewed all my medical stuff. (When you pay close to five grand for this stuff you show it to anyone who’ll look. I think there are people who say “Oh shoot here comes John. He’s gonna want us to look at his MRI.”) Her decision was to begin to build my core muscles I have little to no pain when I move. Oh, I’m sore, but it’s the good sore.

At 10 minutes and 6 seconds, Julia pulled the plug: “Time to get off.” I told her I could go another 20 minutes and she said she didn’t doubt I could but she wasn’t in the mood to roll me to her car and take me home. Tuesday I did 10 minutes on the recumbent cycle and yesterday we spent a 30 minute session in the pool. (Jumping jacks have a completely new meaning as does treading water with ankle weights!! She promised she wont let me drown.)

I am sore, from the base of my skull to the bottom of my feet. It aches to move. I rolled over in bed this morning and began to feel guilty about not going to the gym today. It’s a compulsion I fight daily. But this little voice inside of me made me realize this is what caused me to injure myself to begin with, pushing myself because all my self-esteem and value was tied up in a tradeoff. It’s not food, its not exercise, its how I think and process things. I have an emotional and compulsive personality. My personality takes things to an excess. I got up, made a pot of tea and read the paper

When I got off the elliptical Monday Katie was standing off to the side. Katie was my spinning instructor back in the day. She was with me when I hurt myself back in May of 2011. I really hadn’t talked to her in awhile

“I wanted to tell you I was so sorry that you got hurt when you were with me. I’m a trainer and I…….”

I put my hand up to stop her. “Hon, you didn’t make me do do anything I didn’t want to do. I was 57 acting like I was 17. No worries.”

We make trades believing one thing is better than another without realizing the issue is us. It’s why we are here to support and love each other.


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MARCYNA 12/25/2012 8:43AM

    Cool, what really like about all this is that we share same personality type AND we're learning how to make it work for ourselves, not against ourselves.
Your experience is so precious as I'm learning so much from you!!!
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PS you're getting so much better John hope you know!

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 12/24/2012 6:35AM

    I'm sure Katie appreciated you and your words to her.

Glad to hear you are on the mend.

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MARITIMER3 12/22/2012 9:37PM

    You've made some good points, John. Thanks for explaining what's been going on. and I'm really glad that you ae learning to pace yourself.

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HLPRATT 12/22/2012 10:46AM

    Yes addictions can come in all shapes and sizes. Moderation is key to life. Trying to keep up with my 20 year old daughters will get me in trouble everytime

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NASFKAB 12/22/2012 4:24AM

  you have made me think have to be careful myself

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GEEMAWEST 12/21/2012 9:43PM

    Hmmm? Apparently we are never too old to learn.
Who knew? emoticon

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MAGGIE101857 12/21/2012 7:29PM

    Thanks for sharing this very personal blog! Reading it after my own diagnosis today (and a veto on my Marathon 3 weeks from now). Like you, I will work my way back...tomorrow I start PT.

Take care - you've got this!

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ONEKIDSMOM 12/21/2012 7:15PM

    As one addictive personality to another, like you said, "It’s why we are here to support and love each other." To balance, peace, joy, and good will toward men!


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SLIMLEAF 12/21/2012 6:47PM

    It's really complicated being human, isn't it? I definitely haven't got the hang of it yet.

So I can identify with your blog.

It sounds like you're definitely making progress though. I would say 'Woo Hoo!" or make some other suitable cheering exclamation, but I'm not really a 'Woo Hoo!" sort of person. Instead, I'm more of a smile and a quiet "Well done, John," whilst bringing you a cup of tea (do you drink tea? maybe coffee would be better) sort of person.

Yes, here in the small, cold bedroom that I call my study, in a non-descript row of 1950s terraced houses in a small town in NorthWest England, someone you've never met is silently cheering you on, a little part of her dancing for joy at the progress her friend is making.

God bless you John.

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LYNMEINDERS 12/21/2012 5:17PM

    AMEN.....I am so like this as well and am slowing learning that i don't have to push to achieve....I can just do what i can do and it will achieve....
Thankyou for this blog....really appreciate the realization it has brought for me,....

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MOBYCARP 12/21/2012 3:08PM

    Thank your for this thoughtful blog. I have no personal trainer, but I have wrestled with finding the balance in fitness and training. Too little, and I'll get fat or become unable to do day to day activities. Too much, too fast and I'll injure myself. Moderation is required.

And moderation is difficult. Eat enough, but not too much. Exercise enough, but not too much. You've given me a model to look at, exercise as a form of addiction. This model lines up well with the voice in my head that I call Mr. Testosterone. Mr. Testosterone gets me to push myself and do more. Sometimes that's good, and sometimes it's just too much.

I wish you well.

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SHERIO5 12/21/2012 1:57PM

    So much of this journey is learning more about ourselves and what we need..why we it a need...and so on.

It sounds like you have a good match with your trainer! I am also given to being obsessive about exercise to the point of fibromyalgia has taught me to listen more to my body...regardless of what my mind might be telling me! That's not to say I don't overdo now and then...but I don't quit...I just modify the next day. Its a learning process for sure. Its worth the effort!

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CC3833 12/21/2012 1:03PM

    You are completely right. I think that is why this time I am going to stick with my plan. I am always all or nothing... No pain no gain... But that isn't maintainable. You burn out you lose motivation you don't appreciate your body. So this time I'm working one day at a time. Working on those 10-20 minutes of exercise a day with clean eating and realizing that it is okay to eat not so clean things as long as they fit into your food tracker. That is maintainable. Even with kids and a busy schedule 10-20 minutes a day will keep me healthy.

You are doing great. And it is hard to realize you aren't what you once were. But you are still a better you. Especially when you realize your issues and work around them. You're awesome keep going!

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 12/21/2012 1:01PM

    Sounds like you're making progress! Keep it up!

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CARTOONB 12/21/2012 11:56AM

    Sounds like you are on your way to breaking your addictions. I'll be here to cheer you on the whole way!

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HDHAWK 12/21/2012 9:15AM

    Learning to do all of the "healthy stuff" in moderation is probably the hardest part. When I lost weight the first time I was 49. Now, at 53 and starting over with an extra 45 lbs. on my frame I'm finding it much more difficult to do anything. It's frustrating and I know it causes me to do nothing at all some days. Why bother when you can't go all out. I'm slowly working on doing what I can where I'm at. I know I will gradually be able to do more. I'm glad you're on your way to doing more, but just enough, not too much!

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ANDI571 12/21/2012 9:08AM

    I've always said, if I am eating right, then I am spending money. If I start saving money, then I start over eating. I just transfer one habit to another. It seems like a vicious cycle.

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DEBRITA01 12/21/2012 8:58AM

    With compulsive personalities there is always the excessive. I agree with Bethanybound, it all stems from a need to fill a void. We ARE enough and we don't need anything to make us complete.

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REGILIEH 12/21/2012 8:43AM

    LOVED it!!! How true!!! AMEN!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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WALKNLOVE 12/21/2012 8:42AM

    All I can say is AMEN! Thanks as usual for sharing John! You are so right....we are in this thing together! I will be praying for you in your journey today & I wish you & your family the very merriest of Christmases ever!

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BOOKAPHILE 12/21/2012 8:39AM

    Wise insights, John. I'm glad you're getting better and have someone to train you to pull back on the reins of exercise addiction so you don't injure yourself again.

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TRISTAROSE 12/21/2012 8:37AM

    Great blog .... emoticon

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BETHANYBOUND 12/21/2012 8:34AM

    I think we are all addicted to something. Problem is some of the addictions like money, beauty, power, things - even religion sometimes - are seen as positives. Obesity, drugs, sex, alcohol, gambling are seen as negatives. But it is all addition and it all comes from feeling like we need something "else" to be complete.

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NEWMOM20121 12/21/2012 8:25AM

    Agree addictions come in many shapes and sizes.

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