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The Scale

Sunday, November 18, 2012

That darned old scale!!! Just when we think we have it all figured out and we can predict its every movement, every bob and weave; from clear out of nowhere it throws a curve ball, high and tight. Sometimes we stand and stare at it, often with a modicum of contempt, daring it to inch higher. We become angry. Some of us have even been known to hurl epithets at the darned thing and threaten to throw it out the window. How dare it show us gaining weight?

When I was really young I never really grasped the concept of the first commandment: “Thou shalt not have strange gods before me.” None of my friends had altars with four headed dragons who spouted fire. None of their parents dressed in tribal robes, shaking shrunken heads on the front lawn!!! It had no meaning. Then, I met The Scale. I weigh on Saturday morning. I have a hard time sleeping Friday night. I start reviewing everything that went into my mouth the previous week and even some foods I simply lusted after in my mind and heart. Will the scale know? I always position it in the exact same place and wear the same clothes and weigh in at almost exactly the same time each week. After all a controlled environment works best, correct? I approach the scale with reverence and respect. As I enter its holy sanctuary I’ve often wondered if I should have candles burning. My lower lip trembles as I ascend the steps one at a time. Is it me or does the scale glow? Is it me, or do I hear a faint rumbling and a low deep chuckle? That can’t be lightening outside the bathroom window is it? There is that moment, as the scale cycles though, that all of time stands still. I look down waiting, heart in my throat. Then it renders its verdict. Maybe that choir in the hallway is singing “O Happy Day,” or is that the sound of a funeral dirge moving closer and closer that I hear? My existence hinges on that digital readout. My self-esteem hangs on that weekly evaluation.

Maybe you’re laughing right now. “Oh John,” you say. “You have such a way with words but you’re exaggerating.” Really, I’m exaggerating? Query me this dearest ones. If that’s the case and I’m following some flight of frenzy why is it we have those insidious little weight tickers? Why do we define ourselves as having lost or having gained? Why are the most popular blogs on any weight loss sites the ones that have the good old “Before and After” pictures or the details of how someone lost a ton of weight? What about the healthy people who aren’t stick thin? We live in a world that emphasizes what should be rather than what is. Are you happy, are you healthy, are you adopting different nutritional strategies? Are you bouncing to the gym or in the family room and down the street more than you used to? Then my friend, you are a success. You are move your “is” towards your “should be.” Did you ever stop to think that such a large number of amazing, wonderful and loving, caring people converge on the same web site each day by chance? Scale be damned, you’re amazing and you grow more amazing each day and I am glad you are part of my life even if it’s only in a virtual fashion.
I wrote this blog to support my Spark Friend JENNYBOYKIN. She’s going through the same stuff you and I do and she’s a bit discouraged. I feel all of these things from time to time and I’ll hazard a guess so do you. The good news is we are here to love and support each other and to me, that is worth a lot.

I had a 1.4 pound gain last week. You still love me don’t ya?
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SPARKLISE 11/23/2012 6:24AM

    I can totally relate to the scale "God".
But you siad it better than I ever could. emoticon

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SNOWANGELDIVA 11/22/2012 11:48AM

    "I’ve often wondered if I should have candles burning." I gut laughed, not of disrespect, but, familiarity. I was becoming a devote follower of The Scale and I sought daily it's blessed opinion. It was an emotional disaster.
I'm grounded to once a week to keep things in perspective, but, not my main focus.

I love your encouraging words and humour.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/20/2012 10:33PM

    I should weight more actually but have decided not to be a slave to the scale. I am going to judge my health by how I feel.

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TERESAKLE 11/20/2012 1:53PM

  I should'nt laugh at your 1.4 but you make it so darn funny! Hope this week the scale will be leaning to the lighter side.

T

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HLPRATT 11/20/2012 11:52AM

    You know I never really understood the scale. Sometimes I'm bad and it doesn't reflect it. Sometimes I'm good and the scale doesn't agree. I just know I can't put too much stock in it. I've just got to hang in there doing what I know to be right and it will all come out in the end

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WORKINGSTIFF 11/20/2012 10:02AM

    Honestly, I bought a digital scale, but never use it. There are too many variables and uncontrolable factors that go into that number, especially if you're a woman.

I don't think it's healthy mentally to be obsessed and consumed by "a number."

There are people who will read this and think, "Well, she's in denial." No, not really--a number I pay more attention to is the number of minutes I spend working out each week. Another number I pay attention to is my blood pressure. My cholesteral numbers. The number of hours of sleep I get each night. My pant size. How many times do I laugh really hard in a day?

All of these numbers give a truer indication of overall health, not just that number on the scale. How would one explain an anorexic? Starving to death, literally, but hey! that number is great!

Scales have their place, true, but don't give them more room than they deserve in life.

And one of the most important numbers? How many loved ones, how many good friends are in my life? How many people do I touch in a meaningful way every day?

Of course, you are still loved! Take care!

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JLLOVETT 11/19/2012 3:40PM

    I so needed to read this today - my scale hasn't budged in two weeks!!!!
Thanks for your inspiration!!! And yes, we still love ya!

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LYNMEINDERS 11/19/2012 2:33AM

    Brilliant points John...we do all go through exactly what you have written....and we allow that darn scale to rule us....ugh

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CRYSTALJEM 11/18/2012 11:49PM

    Excellent points. Thanks. CJ

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NASFKAB 11/18/2012 10:10PM

  great

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NAYKNITS 11/18/2012 9:31PM

    emoticon I needed this today!

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REGILIEH 11/18/2012 8:43PM

    ABSOLUTELY!!! You are loved by multitudes!!! Whatever your size but for your own good we do wish you to be healthy! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MOBYCARP 11/18/2012 8:37PM

    Even in maintenance, I wrestle with controlling my attitude toward the scale. Yes, I want the weight to move sideways. Yes, I'm controlling it in a range from 160-163. But somehow, a movement from 162 to 161 feels like a Good Thing and a movement from 161 to 162 feels like a Bad Thing. Go figure.

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TRISTAROSE 11/18/2012 7:10PM

    For Sure!

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CARTOONB 11/18/2012 6:29PM

    Your scale glows too?!?!? Does it laugh maniacally? Or is that just mine? I do weigh myself every day, but I don't let the scale determine how I feel about myself or the mood I'll be in. I'm trying to teach it that is just a tool to help keep me where I am happy and healthy. It can learn, right?

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ONEKIDSMOM 11/18/2012 6:28PM

    I'm overloaded on Sparking this weekend, having spent it with old friends I was meeting for the first time in person. Spark really is about all you said, and you are preaching to the choir here.

It's funny, but to offer hope to those who are coming in for the first time, we offer our success stories. Hopefully the in-between Sparker also sees the "tough time" blogs and finds encouragement. We ARE wonderful, just for not giving up. Even when we slip up, even when we gain. This is one great community! emoticon

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JENNYBOYKIN 11/18/2012 5:00PM

    PAHAHAH! SERIOUSLY WHEN I GO TO WEIGH MYSELF IT FEELS THAT DRAMATIC!!!=) YOUR SOO COOL! LOL THANKS FOR THE SUPPORT!
YOU SURE DID PUT A SMILE ON MY FACE!=)

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SHERIO5 11/18/2012 4:27PM

    Timely.... emoticon emoticon

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JENAE954 11/18/2012 3:49PM

  Love ya?
Of course no matter what!

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BLUEROSE73 11/18/2012 2:01PM

    definitely. And I fully understand your struggle with the scale. I'm sure we all do

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LOOKY-LOU 11/18/2012 12:36PM

    Yup, still love you! And REALLY REALLY needed your words this morning.

Thank you!

Tina

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BOOKAPHILE 11/18/2012 12:25PM

    Yes, of course!

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SIMPLY-4-ME 11/18/2012 11:25AM

    Always. emoticon

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DEBRITA01 11/18/2012 11:03AM

    Sure do. Someone once told me "the scale is a fickle lover"...so true. emoticon

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SLIMLEAF 11/18/2012 10:59AM

    Oh, yes, John! Yes, I do!

Thank you SO much for your blog today. I gained nearly 4lb in just a matter of days last week - so unfair after it took me weeks to lose 1.75lb, with very careful weighing, measuring and tracking of everything I ate. That's why I knew you weren't exaggerating when you wrote about your self-esteem being determined by the number on the scale on a Saturday morning. My self=esteem and motivation have taken a major nose-dive this week when my efforts seem to have been in vain.

But instead you reminded us that we're much more important and, indeed, valuable than our body weight. Hard to take in, but true nonetheless. Feel free to remind me of it as often as you like!

*BIG HUG* from a grateful English friend.

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ALLISON145 11/18/2012 10:53AM

    Always, John. :-)

Allison

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LIFEISPURRFECT 11/18/2012 10:46AM

    You are a mind reader. You have such a way with words and putting pen to paper. Thank you so much for verbalizing what I have been struggling with for the past few months. Yes, we are amazing and will continue to be amazing.

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INBRAZILFORNOW 11/18/2012 10:37AM

    I grow more amazing each day... words to get me through! Thanks for posting this!

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LANEYPUDDLESMOM 11/18/2012 10:36AM

    I must say John. I simply love you...lol. Thank you so much for this today. I simply needed it!!! I Thank God for people like you..a person who has a way with words that can make your spirit soar. I Thank you for making me laugh as I took this "trip to your scale with you..I could see it all happening as if I were right with you. Thank God you were dressed. I appreciate that!!! lol. It is true..all of it..every last funny word..Thank you for making my day a bit brighter..Imogene aka LaneyPuddlesMom emoticon

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HDHAWK 11/18/2012 10:34AM

    I sure do John! I only lost .2 and I know exactly why. It isn't the fault of the scale.

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Stand Still

Thursday, November 15, 2012



I heard Tara Brach read this poem the other day during her weekly podcast. It reminded me so much of the picture adjacent to it. Joans Uncle Bill would sit on that bench after work and stare out at Lake Michigan and relax. We visited one summer and he and I sat there, saying nothing to each other for a long, long time. As I looked at the lake, it almost reached out and rocked me into a very gentle and warm peacefulness. Joan walked down the hill and told us it was time for dinner. I told her I found Nirvana and that I was going to stay there forever.

A few years later, after Uncle Bill had passed, Joan went back to visit her aunt during the late winter. She snapped this photo for me.

Through the wonders of Powerpoint I was able to marry the poignant poem and the picture and because you are so dear to me I thought I'd share it with you.

Namaste

If the words of the poem arent clear to you they are as follow:

Stand still.

The trees ahead and bushes beside you are not lost.
Wherever you are is called here, and you must treat it as a powerful stranger,
Must ask permission to know it and be known.
The forest breathes. Listen. It answers,
“I have made this place around you.”
If you leave it, you may come back again, saying “Here.”
No two trees are the same to Raven.
No two branches are the same to Wren.
If what a tree or a bush does is lost on you,
You are surely lost. Stand still. The forest knows
Where you are.

You must let it find you.
David Wagoner

  
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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/16/2012 2:24PM

    I loved the photo and poem.

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DOODIE59 11/16/2012 9:05AM

    Beautiful poem and magical photo. I feel that way about the ocean. Nature is powerful. To be in it is healing.

Wishing you a wonderful weekend:)
Deirdre

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JENNYBOYKIN 11/16/2012 1:05AM

    BEAUTIFULL! =) I LOVVVE THIS KINDA STUFF!

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JENAE954 11/15/2012 10:10PM

  Really nice.
Thank you.

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KATHIC2 11/15/2012 9:24PM

  Beautiful.

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CRYSTALJEM 11/15/2012 9:21PM

    Beautiful

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GEEMAWEST 11/15/2012 9:07PM

    Standing Still is one of the hardest things for me to do. Which obviously means it's one of the things I really need to work on doing. Thanks for the reminder.

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LYNMEINDERS 11/15/2012 4:30PM

    Awesome...thankyou

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TRISTAROSE 11/15/2012 4:00PM

    Beautiful ... Thank you for sharing!

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ANATASHIKI 11/15/2012 3:15PM

    looks like you could release your soul to float over the face of the waters emoticon

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GIRANIMAL 11/15/2012 3:01PM

    Thanks for sharing such a beautiful story, a poignant reminder and your handiwork!

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SIMPLY-4-ME 11/15/2012 2:35PM

    Beautiful, thank you

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REGILIEH 11/15/2012 2:02PM

    BEAUTIFUL!!! LOVELY!!! WONDERFUL!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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NASFKAB 11/15/2012 1:21PM

  awesome thanks for sharing

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DR8561 11/15/2012 1:14PM

    Beautiful! emoticon

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SHSCHLEIN 11/15/2012 12:16PM

  Just beautiful. Thank you for sharing this with all of us.

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GETFIT2LIVE 11/15/2012 12:12PM

    Love the picture and the poem. Reminds me of what God calls to do regularly: be still and know that I am God. Just what I needed this morning!

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LOVINGKATE 11/15/2012 12:08PM

  Thank you for sharing such a beautiful poem and picture. We LOVE Lake Superior. We visit as much as possible. Trees talk to us all the time. They look down on us with such mighty strength and beauty. The leaves blowing in the breeze as if to say all is well. The beauty of the water is so calming. You put the two together and what a beautiful song they make. Have a beautiful day John. God Bless.

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KJELLYBEAN15 11/15/2012 11:57AM

    Beautiful poem and beautiful picture. Thank you for sharing this.

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HDHAWK 11/15/2012 11:55AM

    We've gone to Lake Superior a few times and have a similar view outside our cabin. So relaxing!

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A Top 10 List

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

The Top 10 things about time and space that most people seem to forget...

10. You chose to be here and you knew what you were doing.
9. There are no "tests" and you're not being judged.
8. Everyone's doing their best, with what they know.
7. You already have whatever you're looking for.
6. You are of the Divine, pure God, and so is everyone else.
5. Religion needs spirituality; spirituality does not need religion.
4. You're naturally inclined to succeed - at everything you do.
3. You happen to life, life does not happen to you.
2. Order, healing, and love belie every moment of chaos, pain, and fear.
1. Following your heart is the best way to help others.

The truth shall set you free,
The Universe


From tut.com

Just thought I'd share

  
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JENNYBOYKIN 11/16/2012 1:12AM

    No matter how smart or dumb someone may be, you can learn something new from anybody and everybody. Never underestimate someone's knowledge.

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HLPRATT 11/14/2012 9:31AM

    You are right. Especially about following your heart

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LYNMEINDERS 11/13/2012 4:45PM

    Very Interesting..thanks

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JENAE954 11/13/2012 4:21PM

  John,
This is yet another winner.
It is so right on!
Thanks forever.
J

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NASFKAB 11/13/2012 3:39PM

  amazing awesome thanks

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REGILIEH 11/13/2012 12:22PM

    Interesting, but I do not believe #8. I think too many public figures have proven #8 not to be true. emoticon emoticon

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CRYSTALJEM 11/13/2012 11:23AM

    Sweet - I loved that one too. Thanks for sharing. CJ

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 11/13/2012 10:53AM

    emoticon Loved this!

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ANATASHIKI 11/13/2012 10:47AM

    I absolutely love TUT,I got this one too! emoticon

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FUN2BAROUND 11/13/2012 10:46AM

    Its true, its true!! Thanks for sharing.
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The River Of Our Lives

Sunday, November 11, 2012

In the last days, God says, I will pour out my Spirit on all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy, your young men will see visions, your old men will dream dreams." Acts 2:17

I have a reoccurring dream. I am standing on a river bank looking at the other side. Before me a river flows. Sometimes the river is clear and sometimes it swirls and is indiscernible. Always there are stones and rocks. Some are large, and some are small. Some jut out of the water and some lay quietly letting the water rush over them.



I've had this dream often enough to know its not random. There is a message in it for me. I've taken time to reflect and meditate on its meaning. Because we are part of each other I'd like to share my thoughts with you.

The river bank I stand on is my life as it is now. The far bank are my hopes, dreams and goals. Between the two lays a series of challenges and adventures. The stones and rocks are the path provided to me reach the other side of the river.

Some of the stones are smooth and flat, easy to stand on. I feel comfortable when I stand on them. Other are a bit uneven. I have to concentrate to keep my balance and when I stand on them I never relax. They rock unpredictably. If I'm not careful I'll tumble into the river.

Sometimes I have to make a decision which way to step. The quickest route looks small and sharp. They dont offer much comfort. Veering to their right or left I see large flat stones that take me miles from my destination but offer security. Which path should I take?

Sometimes I have no alternative. I have to stand like a crane atop a set of small pointed stones, bite my lower lip and fight back my tears. As their points pierce my feet I look wildly for the next alternative, wondering if there will be more or less pain.

The dream tells me that life holds no permanence. At any given moment a strong current might knock me off a secure stone and into a raging river. It tells me that no matter how comfortable I become I have to keep adjusting to the changes my life presents me. Real suffering comes from expecting everything to remain just as it was or is.

This dream is not always comfortable. Sometimes it irritates and disturbs me when I wake up. Why cant I stand still and enjoy the breeze and the spray?

Choices, choices, choices - so many choices before me each moment I'm alive. Yes, some are fraught with peril but they create the river of my life.



"'In the last days, God says, I will pour out my Spirit on all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy, your young men will see visions, your old men will dream dreams."

JCS 2012 All Rights Reserved

  
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HLPRATT 11/13/2012 10:33AM

    I love to dream and often have very vivid ones. It's always great when they make sense to you. I really think they can help us with our journey if we can discern their meanings

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RACINGSLUG 11/13/2012 10:01AM

    Thank you for sharing this interesting dream. It's funny, when you first started talking about the rocks in the river, my immediate interpretation is that they were the obstacles in your path, not the stepping stones to success. But then I wonder... could they not be both? Isn't it facing challenges and overcoming obstacles that gets us from one point to another?

And yes, all things are impermanent - that's what my tattoo says, and it is there to remind me. This works both ways. It's true you could get thrown off course, but it's also true that, while off course, you could find your way again. We don't know what life has in store for us, I've been feeling so out of control of my life lately, but you are right, we can control what we put into our mouths. We have more control than we often realize.

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LYNMEINDERS 11/12/2012 3:41AM

    Brilliant John...and so true

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/11/2012 7:57PM

    I used to have a recurring dream until the dream actually happened to some extent. It did help me to move on and conquer my fears.

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REGILIEH 11/11/2012 5:18PM

    Dear, dear John!
I read this and I am in tears. How profound! I feel so blessed to have found you in my life in some way. I hope I don't sound weird or like a nut case because I am quite credible and have had unbelievable opportunities in my life. I served on the Federal Reserve board when Greenspan was the head. I owned my own company for 28 years with over 500 employees. I'm not tooting my own horn I just want you to know I am credible.

All that said, I just thank you so very much for this deep meaning blog. Thank you so much for sharing. I really think you should be a minister. God bless you and yours.

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CARTOONB 11/11/2012 2:04PM

    And if you make it to the other side, then what?

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MOTHER-NATURE 11/11/2012 1:29PM

    emoticon for sharing your dream, it has inspired me and I hope to be able to have dreams just like that .... It was a beautiful dream sparkfriend emoticon

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DEBRITA01 11/11/2012 12:11PM

    Good analogy and interpretation of your recurring dream. Life can be like a river with many choices...and they are ours to make.

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ANATASHIKI 11/11/2012 11:42AM

    nice dream and I'm glad you found the meaning for you . if I dreamed that I would have been floating on something on the river emoticon . or going high speed against the stream emoticon (I did dream that :D) . makes you wish you could fly to the other side emoticon . and why not? emoticon

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NASFKAB 11/11/2012 11:16AM

  inspiring thanks

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DOODIE59 11/11/2012 10:33AM

    Your river analogy is pretty clear:) Your mind is trying to straighten things out -- all part of the process of going forward. You are clearing the path to success. Keep on thinking, consciously and unconsciously.

In a small way, your blog reminded me of one I wrote way back near the beginning of my journey. It was called "Ugh! Not hurtling toward success:)" and spoke of being grateful for those stones in the river -- they are crucial to your success. How else to cross the river? My journey has wandered and wavered over the last two years, and I can say that I have veered far from the banks of the river in the WRONG direction several times ... but it is important to keep the far side of the river in your sights. That way lies the future. See you there!
Deirdre

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BLUEROSE73 11/11/2012 10:19AM

    wow. gives me something to think about. Thanks for sharing

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SHERIO5 11/11/2012 9:48AM

    I have had the same image in my dreams repeatedly...different interpretations on different days...thanks for sharing yours...the last time I dreamed of the water I woke wondering why I was fearful of getting wet?

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NEWMOM20121 11/11/2012 9:39AM

    Wonderful blog.

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HDHAWK 11/11/2012 9:34AM

    I think you've got it exactly right John! Very thought provoking.

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Family Weight Loss Monthly Update: Sorry No Sensational or Catchy Title That Might Offend Someone

Saturday, November 10, 2012

At the end of September I blogged about our family weight loss and how well we were all working together on getting healthy. At the time we’d lost a combined weight of 60 pounds. My daughter Katie compared it to losing a small child. I blogged that comparison and caught all sorts of heat from some folks who thought it was cruel for me to compare weight loss to losing a child. Someone suggested I compare it to 60 pounds of blowing balls. I just couldn’t visualize that. I’m not a bowler. But, anyway, the life lesson there was that you can’t please everyone. I went back and checked the date on that blog and found to my surprise it’s been a tad bit over a month since I gave ya’ll and update. (That last phrase is southern for “It’s been awhile since I furnished each of you with an update.”) So here is the tale of the tape. Or scale as the case may be.

In the past month Joan, Maggie, Katie and I have lost an additional 30 pounds. The running total is 90 pounds since September 1. During that time Joan and Katie participated in a “biggest loser” type competition at our gym. I am proud to say, (Close your eyes and imagine my chest puffed out and my face awash with pride……… Okay maybe you shouldn’t) that Joan took first place and Katie took second place. For their effort Joan won a year’s free gym membership and Katie won a six month membership.

Here’s what I learned from a family-get-healthy- initiative:

It’s easier to get to the gym when you are going with other people especially when one of them is your wife who looks at you and says “We ARE GOING to the gym.” It becomes a no brainer and you have three other people to walk, run, swim and work out with.

Food choices get simpler when you buy and cook lottsa good, healthy stuff. There’s support in three other people saying “Nope, we aren’t taking the lazy way out tonight and eat out, one of us is going to cook dinner.”

We have all had losses and we have all had gains and each of us draws wisdom from the other. Katie and Maggie utilize Weight Watchers, I use Spark People and Joan samples from both process. Each of us is doing what is successful for us personally and supporting the other people in the family with their journey. We are not ashamed or embarrassed to take someone to task for slacking off. No pious platitudes, no “isms,” just common sense and a lot of love, sprinkled with the joy of watching someone you love grow the right way, inside rather than outside!!!

In many respects Hillary Clinton was right……….. It takes a village.

  
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GEEMAWEST 11/16/2012 10:53PM

    Did someone really suggest you compare it to 'blowing balls'? That's just weird. They probably meant bowling balls. LOL

It is so great that you have that support. I am hoping to get DH on board in the near future. He is finally realizing that his health isn't what it used to be.

P.S. In the physical therapy room at work they have weights that you can wear around your waist or ankles, etc for exercise. When someone loses 10, 20 or however many pounds they put that amount of weight on the person to carry around. It's amazing to know what 20 pounds feels like when you have to carry it around all day. I'm just saying that it's better than a bowling ball.

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HLPRATT 11/13/2012 10:35AM

    That's a great way to do it!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/11/2012 7:40PM

    Congratulations to your entire family. You are doing great!!

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NASFKAB 11/11/2012 11:15AM

  awesome news family doing it together

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SHERIO5 11/11/2012 9:51AM

    So awesome to hear of your family 's success! emoticon

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NEWMOM20121 11/11/2012 9:43AM

    First I would have used the same analogy.

Second - Congratulations to all of you. It does make it easier when everyone is striving for the same thing.

best wishes to you and your family

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WALKNLOVE 11/11/2012 3:31AM

    So happy for all of you! Keep up the good work!!!

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REGILIEH 11/10/2012 10:26PM

    You all are such a wonderful family! I always love hearing about your family activities!

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AMARILYNH 11/10/2012 6:12PM

    Wow - awesome job!!

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JENAE954 11/10/2012 5:47PM

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CARTOONB 11/10/2012 5:39PM

    Congrats on the team work and the successes!

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PHEBESS 11/10/2012 4:46PM

    Great job, all of you!!!!

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HDHAWK 11/10/2012 3:14PM

    Why are people so darn touchy. It was just a comparison for crying out loud. Other than that, congrats on your consistency. It helps to have the whole family on board. I'm married to a junk food eater so the house is filled with things I shouldn't be eating. Hubby doesn't exercise either so it sometimes makes it harder for me to be motivated to do it BUT those are all things than can be overcome. emoticon

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SIMPLY-4-ME 11/10/2012 2:54PM

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I think you're all doing terrific!!

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CRYSTALJEM 11/10/2012 2:26PM

    Oh some folks just have no sense of hee haw! Congrats on the wins and losses emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon Enjoy! CJ

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LYNMEINDERS 11/10/2012 2:26PM

    Woohoo...awesome...well done to you all...
I adored your parallel to 60 pounds....
Like you I need something I can visualize....don't be put off sharing your visuals with us just beccause some peoples brains operate differently....
You right...you can't please all of the people...some people you will never please...

Thankyou....
Lo
ve reading your blogs......don't change them

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HEALTHIERKEN 11/10/2012 1:39PM

    Very insightful blog : )
Congratulations to all of you for making this a family thing--you're right, it makes the whole journey so much more do-able.
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ANATASHIKI 11/10/2012 1:36PM

    wow , great news ! you're lucky , my mom just cooked caramel custard which is my favorite sweet in the world. luckily she ate it fast emoticon . no one in my family needs to loose weight and more or less around me , we are just starting to get fat as a nation lol so I don't expect much support . and may I say that people get too easily offended? emoticon

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DOODIE59 11/10/2012 1:31PM

    Sounds like you have a lovely and positive situation going on in your home -- that's great! Keep up the good work:)
Deirdre

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LINDA7668 11/10/2012 1:19PM

    Congratulations to you and your family!! I believe that losing weight is easier when the whole family is on board.

Personally, I'm not offended by the small child comment. It's an analogy that most people can understand. But, for those that were offended, here is another one. A large bag of mulch weighs 50 pounds- so, to date, your family has lost almost almost the equivalant of two large bags of mulch. That is a huge accomplishment! Ya'll should be proud of yourselves.

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POPSY190 11/10/2012 1:18PM

    Great blog.

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FANGFACEKITTY 11/10/2012 1:13PM

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It's great that you all have each other to support one another (and lay donw the law as the case may be!).

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SENIMMO 11/10/2012 1:13PM

    90 pounds! Wow! I should say you're proud of yourselves! You'd better be, lol. And the comparison thing? Take it with a grain of salt. I understand your daughter's meaning, and the people who were upset took it literally and personally, not in the spirit it was intended. Don't sweat the little stuff. Have a great Holiday season!

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BEACHBUM4LIFE 11/10/2012 1:11PM

    Congratulations!! You guys are doing great!!!

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