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The Coach Gets Coached

Wednesday, October 31, 2012

My second swim lesson was Monday. The net result of my efforts was this slow sinking about half way across the pool. It seemed as if my arms, legs and breathing wouldn't sync which resulted in a lot of struggling. I got to the pool 30 minutes early so I could practice. Things only got worse. I'd decided 15 minutes before the lesson I was going to tell her "this just wasnt going to work."

"Pity party of one your table is available."

Julia showed up early. Well actually she came bouncing out of the locker room, grinning from ear to ear, clapping her hands and hopping up and down like a larger version of Tigger. She slid into the water and said "Okay, swim to the other side and let me watch your technique." I figured I'd do the one pass and then tell her my tale of woe, sit in the hot tub and go hide from Joan for a few years. "Swim back to me." she asked. When I popped out of the water she had a concerned look on her face. "What do you think about while you're swimming?" she asked me. "Uhmmmm staying alive and how foolish I must look." I responded.

"Did you know that every time you come up out of the water you're shaking your head? You decide before you even start that you arent going to succeed." The good news is this was all uttered softly and with genuine compassion. I didnt realize I was doing that. She asked me what was my biggest concern? I told her I was scared. She decided we'd slow down and not move forward until I was comfortable. She had me do various exercises and about every five minutes she'd squeeze the back of my thigh to see how relaxed I was. At the end of the lesson she asked me to swim again and this time not to think, just swim. Things went much better.

As I went to climb out of the pool she grinned and asked me "Whatcha thinkin' now?"

"How da*n smart you are for a 24 year old." I replied.


  
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GIRANIMAL 11/13/2012 2:10PM

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I love it!

I am so proud of you for sticking with it anyway. And, wow -- she is pretty darn smart. emoticon

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FITBODME 11/6/2012 5:58PM

    YAY JOHN! I had read a previous blog that you were considering taking swimming lessions, I am soooo happy for you that you are trying! You do not look foolish, everyone that knows how to swim started the same as you, more splashing than moving right? And the Coach is right, don't think!Just keep swimming...just keep swimming...... I feel like swimming now....but stuck at work for another 1 1/2 hours. emoticon

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PATTILYNN224 11/6/2012 3:17PM

    She deserves a hug! And you too for your efforts!!

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GEEMAWEST 11/4/2012 3:02PM

    So proud of you!

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SHERIO5 11/1/2012 9:38AM

    Wow! I think your coach is a divine gift...therapist to boot! Keep trying! I think you are really making progress! emoticon

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NASFKAB 11/1/2012 9:20AM

  great instructor wish had one like her all the best

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GOANNA2 11/1/2012 8:34AM

    What a great instructor!. One stroke at a time and by jove-
you'll be a swimmer yet. emoticon emoticon

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MAUITN 10/31/2012 11:57PM

    John, I think you have met your match! emoticon

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CARTOONB 10/31/2012 11:04PM

    Dang young whipper snappers! But I love that she reminds you of Tigger! He's my favorite Winnie The Pooh character.

And listen to her...give yourself a chance to succeed!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/31/2012 8:59PM

    Love it. You will be a swimmer yet. LOL.

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OPTIMIST1948 10/31/2012 7:30PM

    Age doesnt always bring wisdom. Sometimes people are born with it!

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ONEKIDSMOM 10/31/2012 6:55PM

    I remember thinking that about my son a few times, too. Amazing how smart they come these days! Well done, John... you picked a winner... now you're gonna be one, in yet ANOTHER area of your life! emoticon

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JENAE954 10/31/2012 6:41PM

  Yay for swimming instructors.
They save lives!

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LYNMEINDERS 10/31/2012 6:08PM

    Hahaha...love it...I see you learning a lot from this....lol

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DEBRITA01 10/31/2012 5:52PM

    You've hit the jackpot with your instructor. She seems like an intuitive and caring person and I'm sure she'll have you swimming with confidence in no time. Others believe in us, so time for us to become emoticon believers, too!

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WATERMELLEN 10/31/2012 4:26PM

    What a totally remarkable swimming teacher you have! Wow!! I was a swim instructor/lifeguard in my teens . . . . taught my own kids to swim too . . . . and this 24 yo is totally amazing and intuitive. I'll be thinking about this "lesson" many many times and trying to use it in my own life: thanks for sharing her wisdom with all of us.

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MOBYCARP 10/31/2012 4:21PM

    I don't remember ever having a swimming instructor that good. Now you have to complete the series of lessons!

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DOODIE59 10/31/2012 3:58PM

    Sounds like you have a fabulous instructor:) Go, John, go!
Deirdre

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BETHANYBOUND 10/31/2012 1:34PM

    It's nice to have someone doing the positive thinking for us sometimes. It can be contagious. Good for us to remember because our attitudes can be infectious - whether good or bad. Today I will try to be like your coach.

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HDHAWK 10/31/2012 12:26PM

    Cool story and what a great coach! Very wise young woman!

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ANATASHIKI 10/31/2012 12:26PM

    I always wanted to learn to swim in childhood but didn't make it until I almost drowned . the key of swimming is relaxing and not thinking at all , let the water keep you floating . emoticon

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PRESBESS 10/31/2012 12:02PM

    Wow, you have indeed inspired me. I am not a swimmer and basically could care less about it. My husband and son both swim. At our previous house we had a beautiful large pool in our backyard that I only got in a handful of times. However, now, hmmm, swimming just might be something I look in to. I hear it's a good workout. Glad it's working out for you!

Swim on swimmer!
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CRYSTALJEM 10/31/2012 11:58AM

    I really like this blog! Congratulations - and I'm always happy to know that there are actually smart 24 year olds out there (just kidding!) Sounds like you've got yourself the perfect swim teacher.

"Well actually she came bouncing out of the locker room, grinning from ear to ear, clapping her hands and hopping up and down like a larger version of Tigger." Perfect picture, it says it all. I hope her enthusiasm for the pool continues to wear off on you little by little. Just like small steps, one at a time... it's just one stroke after another. emoticon

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REGILIEH 10/31/2012 9:59AM

    This was WONDERFUL!!!!! But John, you wrote that she squeezed the back of your THING, what is the THING??? Maybe thigh???

I am still impressed that you are swimming!!! emoticon emoticon

It is great that you are keeping on, keeping on! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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TRISTAROSE 10/31/2012 9:50AM

    I agree with LosingVicki ..... You must THINK POSITIVE!

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SLIMLEAF 10/31/2012 9:50AM

    It sounds like you've got just the right instructor there for you! I'm so glad.

I remember years ago when I was learning to drive. It seemed that there was so much to think about (mirrors, signal, steering, gear changes, braking, clutch, accelerator etc) that I thought I wouldn't ever get the hang of it. But then I looked at all the other people driving around - all different ages, shapes, sizes and levels of intellect - and I thought "Surely if they all learnt to drive, I can too?" So I persevered and, sure enough, one day I found myself driving and not even really having to concentrate on every little action. Now, of course, it's something I take for granted - of course I can drive!

I reckon it's the same with you learning to swim. Think of all the people who can swim - all different ages, levels of fitness, weight, intellecct etc. If they can all swim, there's absolutely no reason that you shouldn't be able to learn. Just take it very slowly, have faith in your instructor and don't give up!

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SENIMMO 10/31/2012 9:43AM

    Good for you! So glad you didn't give up. Sometimes the biggest battle we have in this is fears we don't even realize we have. It sounds like you are well on your way to overcoming one of yours. Soon you will be swimming like a pro and wondering what all the fuss was about emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LOSINGVICKI 10/31/2012 9:40AM

  Good for her, and good for you!!! Think POSITIVE!! emoticon

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You Grind It Out

Sunday, October 28, 2012

Sometimes it’s all you can do. You get on the scale and it’s moved in a positive manner but not as far and as quickly as you’d like. You might grimace a bit. You look in the mirror and shake your head. Maybe there is a perceptible sigh. You get dressed for the gym or you walk in the kitchen and pour a huge glass of water, eat an apple or a banana. No, you don’t feel like one of those cover photo success people right now. Some days you feel a bit frustrated. Sometimes it approaches anger. You’ve worked hard. You’ve passed up tasty and savory treats and you’ve done all the emotional rewarding you’ve read about and again, while things are moving in a positive direction they aren’t moving quick enough to suit you.

You grind it out.

You’re tired of success blogs, team challenges and tracking your food. Motivational wisdom leaves you sorta going “Ehhhh.” This isn’t what you signed on for. But somehow you pass up the quick processed meal and you make the oatmeal. Intellectually you know you are on the right path but emotionally some days you really wonder if this is worth it. Yeah, you stumble, but you get back up. You wear those scars like badges of triumph and honor. They represent your journey forward. Sometimes it’s painstakingly slow but it inches forward.

You grind it out.

With apologies to the thousands of people who’ve lost millions of pounds here the REAL success story stares at you in the mirror each morning or night. No matter how hard it becomes you make a commitment each day to move one painful millimeter towards being healthy and balance. No gimmicks, no smoke and mirrors, just plain old sweat that’s sometimes is flavored with a bit of anguish. No one denies its difficult.

The real hero is you. You are the hero because you grind it out. We don’t always hear you going through your day to day routine. One day, you creep up on us with a huge grin, because you grind it out.

Namaste

  
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JENNYBOYKIN 11/2/2012 11:00PM

    NO ONE WORKS HARDER FOR YOU THAN YOU.. ACCEPT IT AND KEEP WORKIN! IM GRINGING RIGHT NOW!!!LOL=]

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/29/2012 8:23PM

    I need to spend more time grinding it out and less stressing out. LOL.

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GOANNA2 10/29/2012 5:26AM

    Thanks for another great motivational blog. emoticon

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 10/28/2012 10:11PM

    Thanks for this :) today's kind of been like this :)

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MOBYCARP 10/28/2012 8:58PM

    Good thought there, on grinding it out in spite of low motivation. It doesn't just apply to the weight loss effort. It also applies to the fitness effort and (shudder!) to the maintenance effort.

If I don't want to go back to where I came from, sometimes I just have to grind it out to stay where I am. Maybe the Red Queen was a motivational expert?

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CARTOONB 10/28/2012 8:15PM

    Here's to grinding!!!

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LYNMEINDERS 10/28/2012 6:00PM

    Love it...and so so true....
i need to start doing more grinding each day in order to get the rewards....
Thanks John

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SHERIO5 10/28/2012 3:11PM

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WILLOWBROOK5 10/28/2012 1:29PM

    Awesome blog! emoticon

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MARCYNA 10/28/2012 1:24PM

    Lovely....one of these days I had the impulse of buying all the wrong food at the supermarket...I was so bored of being a,ways so careful,,,,maybe I should write a blog, what'dya think?
Lovely,
M.

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JENAE954 10/28/2012 12:49PM

  Great motivational blog.
Thanks again...

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MJZHERE 10/28/2012 10:55AM

  Thank you for such a well written, thoughtful blog.

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KATHIC2 10/28/2012 10:53AM

  LOVE IT!!! Thank you!!!

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REGILIEH 10/28/2012 10:47AM

    AMEN!!! AMEN!!! AMEN!!!

YOU ARE SO PROFOUND!!!

YOU ALWAYS KNOW HOW TO SAY IT SO PERFECT!!!

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FUN2BAROUND 10/28/2012 10:45AM

    Thanks - we all need a reminder to stick to it!
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LOSINGVICKI 10/28/2012 10:44AM

  Thanks John. I needed this today. emoticon

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DEBRITA01 10/28/2012 10:34AM

    Some days we just have to grind it out and keep those goals in sight. We are worth it! emoticon

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CRYSTALJEM 10/28/2012 10:30AM

    Timely and true. Thank you

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ONEKIDSMOM 10/28/2012 10:26AM

    Love today's message, John. So true. Each of us has to write his/her own success story. Nobody else can do it for us. emoticon

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NASFKAB 10/28/2012 10:20AM

  thanks for the blog

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HDHAWK 10/28/2012 10:17AM

    I'm finding myself there more often than not lately. Thank you!

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ANDY_54 10/28/2012 10:03AM

    Thanks so much for posting this--I'm exactly in that state. Mentally I know what needs to be done, emotionally is a different matter. Didn't count on all these "feelings". Personally I think feelings are like some relatives--you visit them once a year and when you get home you take a big nap. So I'm exercising and trying--trying!--to get into that one day at a time mode in regards to my eating. Great post--thanks again.

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A Mental Health Day

Thursday, October 25, 2012

Do you recall Charles Dickens A Christmas Carol? The three ghosts who visited Scrooge? I felt a bit like one them this morning. Joan and I are taking a mental health day. We decided life is on hold for 24 hours. I can’t tell you we have anything planned. Joan is still in bed……..I felt like Scrooge because old habits die hard. The judgmental John stood with his arms folded, shaking his head with a look of disdain on his face. Thursday is a work day!!! Bad John!!! LOL.

Come close, I’ll tell you a secret, just between us friends………….

There is only going to be one October 25, 2012 and no matter how hard you try you will never get it back. A lot of people in my life have left this planet in the past year. As if by rote I’ll pick up the phone to call them or wonder if they’d like to go to an event I know we both like and I realize they aren’t here and I wonder why I never took the time when I had the opportunity.

As I type I am glancing out my office window. There are two huge trees, one a vibrant yellow in color and the other a deep and vivid red. I never noticed them before.

No great wisdom or motivation today my friends. I’m going to sit back in my chair, feel the breeze on my face and look at those two amazing creations God has presented me with this morning --- All for my enjoyment.

Maybe later I’ll take my shoes off and walk in the lawn………. Ya Never Know

Namaste dear ones

  
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MTRACHEL 10/28/2012 7:00PM

    I'm going to take the thought...there will never be another October 25, 2012...with me all week. (of course I'll update the date!)

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SAGELADY2 10/27/2012 11:41AM

    Oh, that struck home with me. So many of my friends have died over the past few years. It is hard to realize that today might be the last one you have. Make the best use of the time you have been given.

Thanks for the reminder.

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LYNMEINDERS 10/27/2012 5:37AM

    Woohoo...a Mental Health day....you are awesome...people don't take those days often enough....go you and Joan

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JENAE954 10/26/2012 10:38PM

  Sounds like you are living in peace today and appreciating all of nature's blessings.
Peace

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REMEMBER2BME 10/26/2012 12:49PM

    Good job!

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HLPRATT 10/26/2012 11:58AM

    Yesterday was a wonderful 80 degree day. Me and the dogs enjoyed a long walk and all the colors. Today it's raining and 50. That weather forecast told me I needed to enjoy myself yesterday and I did. And I'm glad I did.

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 10/26/2012 1:48AM

    Hope you had a great day!

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JENNYBOYKIN 10/26/2012 1:07AM

    =]

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CARTOONB 10/25/2012 10:15PM

    Hope you enjoyed every minute of your day and that you are now fully mental. emoticon

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BEWELL48 10/25/2012 8:42PM

    Hope you enjoyed your day!
Namaste? emoticon

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ONEKIDSMOM 10/25/2012 6:55PM

    So true when we lose folks we have in our lives for so long... it makes us appreciate and focus on the day we *do* have.

Peace, John!

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TRISTAROSE 10/25/2012 6:27PM

    I love mental health days! Hope you enjoyed yours.

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MARITIMER3 10/25/2012 6:14PM

    I hope you had a wonderful mental healh day today, John. We all need to take one of them every once in a while.
gail

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/25/2012 2:00PM

    Enjoy your down time. You have earned it.

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SHERIO5 10/25/2012 12:57PM

    Enjoy!

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HDHAWK 10/25/2012 12:23PM

    Enjoy every minute of it John. We all deserve a day like that once in a while.

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LOSINGVICKI 10/25/2012 11:55AM

  Hope you and Joan have a truly wonderful day and enjoy all there is to offer this special once in a lifetime day. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SLIMLEAF 10/25/2012 11:26AM

    That sounds good. emoticon

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GIRANIMAL 10/25/2012 11:09AM

    Good for you! Enjoy it to the fullest.

Namaste. emoticon



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DOTTIEJANE1 10/25/2012 10:29AM

    We all need to take a day and enjoy all that God has given us glad that you are .

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DEBRITA01 10/25/2012 10:20AM

    We need more days to stop and be aware of all that is precious and beautiful in our lives. Enjoy your day...and a barefoot walk sounds good to me! emoticon

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CRYSTALJEM 10/25/2012 10:06AM

    Your present of your presence in the present was wisdom to me. Thanks for the reminder. I will do my best to do the same. Thank you. Namaste

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GOANNA2 10/25/2012 9:36AM

    Namaste. emoticon

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NASFKAB 10/25/2012 9:35AM

  great blog as usual

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JOHNMARTINMILES 10/25/2012 9:26AM

    We should all set aside a day to smell the roses. And remember, even if you smell manure, it is what makes the roses grow,

Make Today a Great Day!

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Fear Strikes Out

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Reasons why I Shouldn’t Go To Swim Class Today – Monday October 22

1. I hate new things, things I can’t control
2. I do not trust the instructor
3. I’m claustrophobic
4. I’m 59, I’ve gotten by this far without really knowing how to swim
5. No one will save me if I start to drown
6. Other people in the pool will laugh at me
7. I’ll have an anxiety attack
8. What if I can’t breathe once I put my head in the water
9. I could use the time in more effective ways.

I couldn’t think of a tenth one and my well defined sense of order was driving me crazy!!! I’d dreaded it all weekend. My first ACTUAL swimming class, the one where we’d learn to breathe under water. There are few things that terrify me more than being under water. After Fridays initial assessment at my lumbering attempt to swim Julia told me it would be a good idea to get some swimming goggles. They’d keep the chlorine from burning my eyes. I waited until late Monday morning hoping against hope that there wouldn’t be the right pair for me and then I could call and cancel and abusage my guilt and anxiety with a bag of orange slices. I walked around with a note pad and kept writing reasons why I shouldn’t go. Maybe I could pretend to be sick?It was quite an internal battle. I kept pushing forward and each time I’d make a small step forward the anxiety monster would pop up and beat me with this huge hammer. As I was sitting on the bench waiting for Julia all the previous swim lessons in my life started floating in front of me, all the failures and botched attempts at doing anything.

Julia came bouncing out of the locker room and took off her sweats “Time to rock and roll. How ya doing today?”

“I’m scared.”

Julia flexed her arm and squeezed her bicep. “Don’t worry John, I’m strong enough. I won’t let you drowned!” I thought this is where I was supposed to get a hug or something?

It’s really kind of funny, you know, because after about fifteen minutes of doing exactly what she told me to do I suddenly realized I was swimming. I wasn’t David Phelps but I was displacing water in a relatively smooth fashion. I let someone have control. Julia clapped her hands and jumped up and down. (I didn’t tell you the child is terminally perky!!)

It dawned on me later Monday evening that my first reason for not wanting to come back is the main reason I don’t do a lot of things. “I hate new things I can’t control.” Between us good friends I hate anything I can’t control so I rationalize not doing things for a host of really valid excuses. (Well at least they are valid in my mind.) I’d like to tell you that I conquered my fear of water and there is a wreath of birds chirping above my head as I walk through life. I have not conquered my fear of water but come Friday at 2:30 I’ll be waiting for Julia on the bench and we’ll do another lesson. Between now and then maybe I’m going to look at some of the other things that petrify me and start dealing with them. Care to join me?

Namaste

  
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MARITIMER3 10/27/2012 10:45PM

    Love your honesty, John. I've avoided doing things that I can't control for years... and now I'm starting to do them, so I understand how great it feels. Congratulations for facing year fear of swimming.

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NASFKAB 10/25/2012 6:27AM

  great blog

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HLPRATT 10/25/2012 1:46AM

    I know exactly what you are going through. I took swim lessons awhile ago. I've never totally conquered my fearof the water but I do have a comfortable stroke I mastered and I can float. It takes alot of effort though. Hang in there. Anything that scares you is something worth doing

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CARTOONB 10/24/2012 11:15PM

    Is David Phelps Michaels dad? Maybe you do swim like him...I'm just sayin'! Congratulations on going AND learning!

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CELLISTA1 10/24/2012 7:48PM

    This is big. Doing something you have feared all your life?! Fear of being underwater is a really big fear. This isn't a little fear. You have taken a huge step and I have a feeling it will have major repercussions in your entire life. Congratulations!

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AJDOVER1 10/24/2012 7:20PM

    I'll bet Julia wasn't surprised.

Now on to the next....

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DOODIE59 10/24/2012 7:00PM

    Way to go, David Phelps:) Swimming really IS an important life lesson, so good job.
Just for the record, no one would let you drown, so you will have to take excuse #5 off the list. Sorry:)

Swimming is one of those magical skills. One minute you cannot, and the next you can -- and nothing has changed except your head set. True! Enjoy the moment!
Deirdre

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DEE797 10/24/2012 5:02PM

    emoticon emoticon on conquering your fears. I can so relate to what you wrote. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts with us. Wishing you continued success on your journey! emoticon emoticon

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ANATASHIKI 10/24/2012 3:56PM

    our control is an illusion anyway. congrats for the swimming emoticon . I hate to be afraid emoticon

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GIRANIMAL 10/24/2012 3:26PM

    Please stop jabbing me with a knife in my sore spots, sir! emoticon

Most days you'd think I freakin' invented the concepts of control and fear of the unknown. emoticon

I am so proud of you! I recall swimming lessons as a child and, truth is, they were awful! But at least (I am fairly certain) I can still swim. I may never know since I still loathe the idea of wearing a swimsuit -- even at home, let alone in public! Talk about needing to take a cue from you! Of course, in my defense, I have next to no access to a pool, and sand grosses me out. emoticon

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DEBRITA01 10/24/2012 12:44PM

    Hmmm...taking on our fears and letting go of control. That is huge and you did it! You may have not conquered them but I'm in awe of your determination. As always John, you speak of the struggles that many of us share and I thank you for that. emoticon

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 10/24/2012 12:35PM

    GREAT JOB! WOOHOO! :) I'm proud of you!

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HDHAWK 10/24/2012 12:27PM

    Fantastic John! I hate things I can't control and am so self conscious. This is why I don't dance, even though it looks like so much fun!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/24/2012 12:20PM

    good job!! I taught both of my parents to swim when they were adults and I was a lifeguard. You can do it.

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MAUITN 10/24/2012 11:33AM

    You did it!!!!! You swam. You were swimming. You can swim. You are a swimmer. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LOVINGKATE 10/24/2012 10:52AM

  So PROUD of you John!! I to have a few of your same fears. I'm someone that fears the swim suit. I am 59 and heavy and afraid to put on a swim suit. I am my own worse enemy. I fear people will judge me or stare at me, snicker behind my back. So insecure. Maybe if I took private lesson, I tell myself, but other people are in the pool. How do I handle that? I have much to work on but if you can do this I can too. That's what I'm telling myself right now.
You are such an inspiring man John. I love reading your blogs because you really hit home for me. Thanks John for always sharing. God bless you.

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REGILIEH 10/24/2012 10:23AM

    I am so IMPRESSED! I really can't swim either although I water skied for years. I can float on my back but I really hate the water and I'm afraid of it. I certainly understand how you feel and to think after all of these years you are doing it! WOW!

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CRYSTALJEM 10/24/2012 9:59AM

    Yes! Way to go! Seriously, that's a huge step. Just think, if you can master swimming, snorkeling and scuba diving could be just freestyle stroke away. LOL. Seriously scuba diving and snorkeling are great fun and you're on your way to being able to make them a choice in your life if you want to.




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SLIMLEAF 10/24/2012 9:44AM

    Well done, John - that's excellent!

As for joining you in facing up to scary things.... I'm not sure. I think I'd rather run away and hide, but I suppose that's the whole point.

Maybe, then...

If I'm not on my own...

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LANEYPUDDLESMOM 10/24/2012 9:11AM

    John..I am so proud of you. I am doing a happy dance for you. Sometimes we need a terminally perky person in our lives to push us in the right direction. Fear is a biggie and I need help in this area.

Since my husband was killed 4 years and 4 months ago I have not dated anyone. I have known someone as a friend for 3 years and he tells me how much he Loves me and wants us to date and get to know each other and see where it goes. I am to scared. Living alone. Totally isolated from family and friends is not a good way to live but the chances of getting hurt are really big reasons of WHY I have the fears I do. I then see people like you and your wife who are best friends and ask myself..Why not take that chance?.

I want to live life before I no longer have a life to live.

I don't know if I can but I want to overcome my fears and have a life. It is hard to do but not impossible. emoticon

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LOSINGVICKI 10/24/2012 9:09AM

  WTG John on facing your fear and doing it anyway. I really think you'll come to enjoy it. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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NEWMOM20121 10/24/2012 9:07AM

    Great blog. Way to go.

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JUSTLLAMA 10/24/2012 9:00AM

    You are amazing. I think it's incredible that you are tackling your fears head on. It takes a strong, strong person to do that.

Also, you have a gift for writing. Your blog was a pleasure to read.

Keep up the GREAT work!

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The Little But Oh So Important Things

Tuesday, October 23, 2012

I have a lot of friends here at Spark. I'm not bragging just reflecting on how very fortunate I am to be able to sample life's buffet table from all different perspectives. From the very athletic to the beginners I can always find someone to get me gong at the right moment.

I found a friend here that's relatively new to Spark. She blogs daily and if you read her blogs they are short, sweet and to the point. She drinks eight glasses of water each day. She walks or jogs three days a week. She exercises. Like you and I she has to tweak her diet plan to stay on track and like you and I she has challenges. Nothing really exotic, just the meat and potatoes of health.

She ended her blog today by asking "What's everyone elses goals for the day?" Gee, lol, that's right, I have to do this every day. Years ago I had a boss who used to remind me "Take care of the little things and the big things will take care of themselves." The proof is in the pudding?

Thank you my new and dear friend for sharing part of your journey today. It's just what I needed.

Namaste

  
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LYNMEINDERS 10/25/2012 4:53AM

    It is so so true...someone always passes by and gives us what we need when we need it....

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DEE797 10/24/2012 5:07PM

    "Take care of the little things and the big things will take care of themselves."

this is something I need to work on as I tend to look at the big things and get overwhelmed by them.

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GIRANIMAL 10/24/2012 3:20PM

    Great reminder, as always. I've spent months lamenting how long it's been since I've done a morning (or any) strength training workout. Monday was gonna be my start again, but I slept terribly Sunday night and was exhausted. This normally is an invitation to say, "See? There you go again, blowing things off." (Let's face it, that translates to "FAILING" in the subconscious internal monologue.

So I resisted the urge for self-berating and instead told myself, "You have the rest of the week to still do well." And I got up on Tuesday and did a 15 minutes of intervals with Leslie Sansone! And you know what? It felt GREAT. In the past, when I was in gung-ho weight loss mode, I would have chided myself for "only" 15 minutes. But darn it, that's 15 minutes more than zero! So Tuesday - that one day in time - I met my goal. One day at a time!

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CARTOONB 10/23/2012 11:18PM

    The proof is in the pudding? Man...now I need to go look up the origin of that saying! I've heard it before. Heck, I've used it before! Just curious now where it came from....

Thanks for the reminder.

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NEEDBU66 10/23/2012 1:23PM

    Who is it? Perhaps we want to friend her too. ;-}

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CINDYHOUGHTON 10/23/2012 11:24AM

    One day at a time. One decision at a time. So, what is your goal? Mine is half done. Walk with Leslie and walk with my dog :)


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JENAE954 10/23/2012 10:47AM

  Thanks for the dose of gratitude.

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WISEONE68 10/23/2012 10:26AM

    Truer words were never, uh, written... emoticon
I am making daily goals--feels like I am just starting again--duh, I really AM just starting again. But, the good thing is that I have the CHANCE to begin again.

Every day is a new day...and, it begins with smaller goals which will carry us on to completing the larger goals...pound by pound, inch by inch.

Have a GREAT, goal-filled day!! emoticon

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LOOKY-LOU 10/23/2012 10:03AM

    Man I needed that this morning...thank you!

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HDHAWK 10/23/2012 9:53AM

    Thank you for being part of my journey as well!

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DOTTIEJANE1 10/23/2012 9:47AM

    Yes, we all ( me included) need to get our goals in line each and every day thanks for the reminder. Have a GREAT week .

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NASFKAB 10/23/2012 9:31AM

  great blog hugs

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LOSINGVICKI 10/23/2012 9:12AM

  emoticon Good blog. emoticon emoticon

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BARB5970 10/23/2012 9:08AM

    Blogging is something I think I need to try more often. I forget how many people are affected by something I might share, whether it's good or bad, someone always seems to comment that they can relate. Thanks to my fellow Sparkers who blog daily. I'm always inspired.

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BETHANYBOUND 10/23/2012 8:50AM

    It ties back to your blog yesterday of focusing on the present day/moment.

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CRYSTALJEM 10/23/2012 8:48AM

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REGILIEH 10/23/2012 8:39AM

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John, your are soooo appreciated!

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