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The Little But Oh So Important Things

Tuesday, October 23, 2012

I have a lot of friends here at Spark. I'm not bragging just reflecting on how very fortunate I am to be able to sample life's buffet table from all different perspectives. From the very athletic to the beginners I can always find someone to get me gong at the right moment.

I found a friend here that's relatively new to Spark. She blogs daily and if you read her blogs they are short, sweet and to the point. She drinks eight glasses of water each day. She walks or jogs three days a week. She exercises. Like you and I she has to tweak her diet plan to stay on track and like you and I she has challenges. Nothing really exotic, just the meat and potatoes of health.

She ended her blog today by asking "What's everyone elses goals for the day?" Gee, lol, that's right, I have to do this every day. Years ago I had a boss who used to remind me "Take care of the little things and the big things will take care of themselves." The proof is in the pudding?

Thank you my new and dear friend for sharing part of your journey today. It's just what I needed.


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LYNMEINDERS 10/25/2012 4:53AM

    It is so so true...someone always passes by and gives us what we need when we need it....

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DEE797 10/24/2012 5:07PM

    "Take care of the little things and the big things will take care of themselves."

this is something I need to work on as I tend to look at the big things and get overwhelmed by them.

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GIRANIMAL 10/24/2012 3:20PM

    Great reminder, as always. I've spent months lamenting how long it's been since I've done a morning (or any) strength training workout. Monday was gonna be my start again, but I slept terribly Sunday night and was exhausted. This normally is an invitation to say, "See? There you go again, blowing things off." (Let's face it, that translates to "FAILING" in the subconscious internal monologue.

So I resisted the urge for self-berating and instead told myself, "You have the rest of the week to still do well." And I got up on Tuesday and did a 15 minutes of intervals with Leslie Sansone! And you know what? It felt GREAT. In the past, when I was in gung-ho weight loss mode, I would have chided myself for "only" 15 minutes. But darn it, that's 15 minutes more than zero! So Tuesday - that one day in time - I met my goal. One day at a time!

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CARTOONB 10/23/2012 11:18PM

    The proof is in the pudding? I need to go look up the origin of that saying! I've heard it before. Heck, I've used it before! Just curious now where it came from....

Thanks for the reminder.

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NEEDBU66 10/23/2012 1:23PM

    Who is it? Perhaps we want to friend her too. ;-}

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CINDYHOUGHTON 10/23/2012 11:24AM

    One day at a time. One decision at a time. So, what is your goal? Mine is half done. Walk with Leslie and walk with my dog :)

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JENAE954 10/23/2012 10:47AM

  Thanks for the dose of gratitude.

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WISEONE68 10/23/2012 10:26AM

    Truer words were never, uh, written... emoticon
I am making daily goals--feels like I am just starting again--duh, I really AM just starting again. But, the good thing is that I have the CHANCE to begin again.

Every day is a new day...and, it begins with smaller goals which will carry us on to completing the larger goals...pound by pound, inch by inch.

Have a GREAT, goal-filled day!! emoticon

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LOOKY-LOU 10/23/2012 10:03AM

    Man I needed that this morning...thank you!

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HDHAWK 10/23/2012 9:53AM

    Thank you for being part of my journey as well!

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DOTTIEJANE1 10/23/2012 9:47AM

    Yes, we all ( me included) need to get our goals in line each and every day thanks for the reminder. Have a GREAT week .

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NASFKAB 10/23/2012 9:31AM

  great blog hugs

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LOSINGVICKI 10/23/2012 9:12AM

  emoticon Good blog. emoticon emoticon

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BARB5970 10/23/2012 9:08AM

    Blogging is something I think I need to try more often. I forget how many people are affected by something I might share, whether it's good or bad, someone always seems to comment that they can relate. Thanks to my fellow Sparkers who blog daily. I'm always inspired.

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BETHANYBOUND 10/23/2012 8:50AM

    It ties back to your blog yesterday of focusing on the present day/moment.

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REGILIEH 10/23/2012 8:39AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon

John, your are soooo appreciated!

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Right Here, Right Now

Monday, October 22, 2012

It's no fun being over weight. Whether its fifteen pounds or one hundred pounds we seem to have an internal radar that compares us to other people and I've found that shaky self confidence often goes hand in hand with obesity. We feel pressured dont we? Pressured to be like everyone else. Oh, I know, publicly we spout off mantras that suggest we're our own person and we NEVER, did I say NEVER compare ourselves to others. (I know double negative but its my blog, my rules, lol) Then why do we exist in varying degrees of misery? Why do so many of us fail and give up? If we didnt listen to all the chatter that steadily hums in the background would we be successful?

Each morning I do a short guided meditation to start my day. It guides me into the present, the now. This is vital for me. I usually get out of bed with my mind whirling and in short order I'm stuck in a ditch somewhere feeling tense, frustrated and anxious. This morning my mind moved to that feeling of self judgment I get when I start comparing myself to other people. My first impulse is to panic and try something very radical to get me where I perceive to the need to be in a hurry. I might look at all the Spark success stories on the log in page and tell myself "You need to amp it up John." My mind moves me towards activity and that activity usually goes beyond my bodies capability.

As I allowed my body to relax I had this image of a cut on one of my fingers. I stood before my doctor and said, "I cut my finger, could your amputate my hand?" The inner John laughed but there was an amazing wisdom in that image. How often do I engage my over kill instinct because I perceive myself to be "less than." I have to catch up quick and rather than wait for some healing I employ drastic measures only to find myself with even more issues that I began with.

Close your eyes for just a moment and focus on right here, right now. You'll be glad you did. Warts and all you are an amazing person living in a most amazing time.

And here we are.

Namaste dear ones

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WALKNLOVE 10/25/2012 5:57AM

    My daughter wrote some beautiful positive things on the mirror in my bathroom with a dry erase marker...Now in the morning when I wake up I read these things to myself. Positive affirmations....what a great way to start the day!

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DEE797 10/24/2012 5:05PM

    I can totally relate to this blog as well. Thanks so much for sharing your insight with us. You've given me a lot to think about.

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LYNMEINDERS 10/23/2012 4:28AM

    Am so glad you are takling time for you...woohoo

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CARTOONB 10/22/2012 10:40PM

    If you have a flat tire, you don't get out and stab the oth least I don't! LOL! Good for you for taking time for you. You deserve it!

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LINDA7668 10/22/2012 9:49PM

    Thanks for sharing! This is something I need to work on.

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ONEKIDSMOM 10/22/2012 7:05PM

    Love the image, John! And you know, with the mind of an addict, it doesn't matter how much success you have losing weight or getting fit, or whatever, that tendency to feel "less than" will be there without the meditation and re-centering. Good for you, sticking to your guns. One day, nay, one decision at a time... slow, breathe, we can DO this, and we are worth it!

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ALLISON145 10/22/2012 1:50PM

    "I have to catch up quick and rather than wait for some healing I employ drastic measures only to find myself with even more issues that I began with."

This is me, 100%. Healing. I need to keep that concept in mind. Too often I seem to focus on punishing myself.


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TRISTAROSE 10/22/2012 12:27PM

    Another great blog! emoticon emoticon

You are an amazing person as well!

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DEBRITA01 10/22/2012 12:09PM

    Being in the present in necessary...without it we tend to get overwhelmed by the bigger picture. I liked the cut analogy...puts things in perspective. Here's to enjoying the here and now...Namaste. emoticon

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JENAE954 10/22/2012 10:23AM

  Thanks once again for the wise words. Look forward to reading your posts!
Please keep 'em coming.

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FUN2BAROUND 10/22/2012 10:11AM

    Thanks, John, I needed thos today. When I got on the scale after a weekend of birthday celebration (but also a lot of exercise) my weight was at my all time high. I almost collapsed in shame.
I know that I am more than a number on the scale. The panic that set in when I realized that I have even further to go to reach my goal had me thinking along the same lines. I keep going back to that Jillian Michaels quote "Why do you choose failure when SUCCESS is still an option?". I had a long talk with myself this morning on the way to work and realized that the coming year is going to have to be about my health and being the best I can be. And every year after that should be , too.
I am worth "good" choices.
Hope you have a blessed day!

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ANATASHIKI 10/22/2012 10:09AM

    I always knew I was different .because it was only me that way I presumed it was bad different. because I was almost the only fat kid I presumed it was the fatness. but somewhere deep down I knew it wasn't that . after that there were some(too many) years when I tried to be like the others . after a while I decided I liked myself more(some modesty , I know :P ) .after another while I discovered I was happy I was different. other people discovered that too and were also happy .so why the fatness remained like a vestigial body structure? because I didn't integrate properly what other people do naturally , put yourself and your needs on the first place. make yourself happy and after that you'll be able to help more the others. take care of your needs first and you'll be strong enough to support others . great theory , huh? wish me good luck with the practice :D
emoticon kori

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CRYSTALJEM 10/22/2012 10:07AM

    Oh so true. So often we have a cut only to seek amputation. Great reminder. I seem to experience the same thing. Thanks for the wake up.

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BETHANYBOUND 10/22/2012 9:35AM

    I think we can only try to commit to this moment, on this day. The broader list of must/should - dos is too scary and overwhelming. So today - no, this morning for breakfast - I shall think about something healthy for my body. If I succeed or fail - I will then move on to lunch.

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LOSINGVICKI 10/22/2012 9:33AM

  Thank you for my morning cup of cheer. emoticon

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REGILIEH 10/22/2012 9:27AM

    AMEN!!! AMEN!!! AMEN!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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NASFKAB 10/22/2012 8:52AM

  great thoughts thanks

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NEWMOM20121 10/22/2012 8:49AM

    Wonderful blog.

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DONNALYNN22 10/22/2012 8:49AM

    emoticon John, great insights, great imagry. I'm so glad I selected your blog this morning! THANX for the words that heal. emoticon

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HDHAWK 10/22/2012 8:46AM

    So very true!

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There Is Less of Me To Love This Week and I Really Don't Mind

Saturday, October 20, 2012

I lost 3.2 pounds this past week. Even I was surprised. I sat here for a few moments and tried to reach out and capture some pearl of wisdom to share with you that caused that type of loss. I apologize, I simply can't. I can't come up with anything other than I've stuck to the three goals I set for myself a few months back.

I stayed within my calorie limits.
I exercised for 30 minutes 6 days per week.
I practice mindful meditation at least once daily for 10 minutes.

There's a fourth and its hard to capture in words but I will try.

My daughters stopped over with a pizza last night. It was thin crust with cheese and veggies. I didnt stress. We hadn't planned anything for dinner. I had three slices. I was content and was well within my calorie limits. Did I say I didnt stress? What was important is the time I spent around the table with my wife and daughters. I may never have that moment again and I know what you're thinking "You could have sat there and not eaten." Yeah, probably, but I wouldnt have had as much fun. I know the plan I am following is a good one. I know I'll stumble and fall and I know one day I'll reach my goal weight. In the interim if life allows a few slices of veggie pizza into my universe so be it.

Yeah, I know we had the cookie fiasco earlier this week but we dealt with it. And really, isnt that what life is, dealing with stuff? So no worries, right now. I'm sure someday soon I'll have them again. This morning I just want to enjoy the 3.2 pound loss.

"We just get one ride around the sun in this dream of time.
It goes so fast that one day we look back and we ask:
Was that my life?"
Jo dee Messina


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CARTOONB 10/21/2012 11:22PM

    I agree! If you can't enjoy your food, it's not worth it. Congrats!

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HLPRATT 10/21/2012 9:14PM

    Way to go! That's great and enjoying pizza and your family! emoticon

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SLIMLEAF 10/21/2012 7:19PM

    Congratulations, John - that's great!

In contrast, though, I've GAINED over three pounds this week - don't know why, very demoralising, but I've got to face up to it and do something about it.

It's really encouraging to hear of your success this week, though - it shows it IS possible!

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CANDOSUE52 10/21/2012 3:52PM


I really enjoyed your blog and way to go, about your weight loss!

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KELLYPAQ 10/21/2012 12:50PM

    Sharing a meal with your family is truly one of lives little blessings. I'm glad you had enough confidence in yourself and your program to be able to enjoy the moment.

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CRYSTALJEM 10/21/2012 10:09AM

    You are one smart cookie! I applaud your choices And attitude. -3.2 sounds great to me. Enjoy!

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LIFEISPURRFECT 10/21/2012 8:49AM

    Congrats on the weight loss. This is a lifestyle change, every moment to be enjoyed with family and friends.

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ADELE66 10/21/2012 8:38AM

    Pizza with the family and a little self-control - good choice!
Self denial with a lot of resentment and a miserable face at the dinner table - bad choice!


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GOANNA2 10/21/2012 7:34AM

    Good job John.
Congratulations on the weight loss. emoticon emoticon

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 10/20/2012 4:00PM

    Great job! Hope the pizza was tasty!

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DEBRITA01 10/20/2012 3:50PM

    Veggie pizza once in awhile isn't a deal breaker and you spent some quality time with your loved ones. It's all about the LIFEstyle... emoticon

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NASFKAB 10/20/2012 2:37PM

  Congratulations greay hugs way to go

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SHERIO5 10/20/2012 10:50AM

    I think you are totally on track! Remember- this is a lifestyle- a marathon- not a diet or sprint. With that in mind- a few slices of veggie piazza or even cookies - fit in just fine! emoticon

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HDHAWK 10/20/2012 10:50AM

    Congrats on the loss! I think that's the key to this whole lifestyle change thing. We have to have food we enjoy. You can't stay in deprivation mode forever.

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LOSINGVICKI 10/20/2012 10:41AM

  Fantastic on the weight loss John, and also for seeing what was more important when you were with your wife and daughters. I'm proud of you! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Caught In The Act Part Two

Friday, October 19, 2012

I try to limit my blogs to 500 words. I've found as a writer you obey the old adage "You tell someone what time it is, you don't tell them how to build a watch." It's the reason I wish we could all sit around a large virtual table, share a beverage and our thoughts. I don't always get my point across in a clear manner. (I have this compulsion to entertain people. emoticon )

The point I was trying to make yesterday was that in the old days I would have rationalized NOT throwing the cookies away. I would have convinced myself that with people going to bed hungry each night it was my moral duty to eat those cookies. Once they were gone I'd find a reason to buy more, along with cakes, candy and the like. The fact that I drug my sorry butt out of bed at 2 AM to throw them away shows real progress on my part.

I cant have sweets in the house. I simply run amuck when I do. It is, as they say, what it is. It was a huge step towards mindfulness to remove them right then and there along with the fruit slices I didnt tell you about emoticon A grape and a cookie can be sitting side by side and I'll grab the cookie every time, if it's there.

Joan finally spoke on the issue and told me she believed I wanted to get caught or I would have tossed them when she wasnt home.

This is a huge step for me and I wanted to share it with you because I know some of you struggle with the same issues and I want you to know I do to. So do lots of other people. But there is hope!!! If I can hang in there, so can you!!!

There!!! LOL What time is it?


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GOANNA2 10/20/2012 8:38AM

    It is a struggle for me too when I know that there is something
'forbidden' there in the pantry and now I don't buy any sweet stuff.
Mindfulness is important and we have to try and be mindful all the time.
We fall, but we get up and keep going. emoticon emoticon

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ANNE-ELIZ 10/20/2012 1:13AM

    My friends and I were just talking about what a struggle it is to get over that particular piece of programming...those starving children in other countries (they varied over the years) were certainly part of the dialogue in my childhood and in all of theirs.

Thanks for sharing that.


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HLPRATT 10/20/2012 1:05AM

    I find it hard to waste anything. I clean my plate most all the time. And sweets call to me. Until they are gone, I'm not satisfied but I've yet to throw any away. I can relate.

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NASFKAB 10/20/2012 12:08AM

  no trigger foods should stay in the house

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CARTOONB 10/19/2012 11:12PM

    I trigger foods in the house! I believe you that you were throwing them away...want me to talk to Joan for you? LOL!

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REGILIEH 10/19/2012 8:02PM

    Yu ARE the best!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MARITIMER3 10/19/2012 7:39PM

    Good for you! If I throw food away, I do it when DH isn't around because I know he would absolutely have a fit... food isn't thrown away around here... at least not when he's around.

There are things I shouldn't have in the house. The worst temptations for me are chips and other salty foods. DH likes chips, salted nuts, crackers. He "hides" them, but I always know where they are, so it doesn't work. I'm trying very hard to learn to eat a few chips, or a few cashews, but I really wish I could keep them out of the house.

Problem is, I'm an emotional eater, and when something is bothering me, and I know there are chips upstairs, the apples and baby carrots don't seem nearly as interesting.

Keep up the great work, and please keep blogging.

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JENAE954 10/19/2012 6:27PM

  Sounds like your fruit slices and cookies are MY large bag of mixed nuts.
Congrats. Awareness is the first step toward positive changes.

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JLLOVETT 10/19/2012 3:13PM

    Great going!! emoticon

If I can clean my pantry I feel everyone should be able to! emoticon

I went to my brother's house last Saturday and I had to go outside because of all the WONDERFUL things to eat - but I beat temptation emoticon

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LUCYJOY 10/19/2012 2:02PM

    This is why it drives me crazy when parents tell children to eat everything on their plate. Seriously? Shouldn't we encourage them to stop eating if they're full?

I read somewhere once that you can either waste the food or waist it-your choice.

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GIRANIMAL 10/19/2012 1:31PM

    Joan is soooo smart! It's obvious why you too make a powerful team. That's nearly more intelligence and wisdom than the world can handle! emoticon


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CRYSTALJEM 10/19/2012 12:28PM

    Huge step, way to go!

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 10/19/2012 12:17PM

    Great job! I'm proud of you!

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SCHNEBL 10/19/2012 11:22AM

    I am the same way with tortilla chips. If they are in the house I will eat them, regardless if I am hungry or not, especially if there is cheese in the house which can be melted over them! Sweets can stay forver with nary a glance from me. We have a deal at our house. When the last party guest has gone (we entertain alot) then I go to the living room to clear glasses and plates while my honey goes into the kitchen and throws away the tortillas and takes the garbage out. (If the bag is not opened we send it home with whomever brought it or wants it.) Recognizing the pattern is half the battle! Carry on!

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ANDI571 10/19/2012 11:11AM

    I enjoyed your last two blogs. I think as foodies, we are all in the same boat. My husband loves sweets. I have told him I use him. I won't usually get in the car and head down to the store for something, but know if I bring it up he will. He's easy, lol.

I have gotten to the point I can throw away food. I tell myself, how is "not" throwing it away going to help that starving child somewhere. They are still going to go hungry whether I throw it away, or if I eat it. A foodie will always play mind games so we can go in for the kill.

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1HAPPYSUSAN 10/19/2012 11:06AM

    I understand your accomplishment, John, and I can totally relate. Your act of mindfulness is inspiring and I thank you for setting a good example.

I don't believe you wanted to "get caught"; you were acting in the moment and Joan just happened to walk in. You did nothing wrong and everything right FOR YOU!

Have a fabulous and blessed weekend!

Namaste. emoticon

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DEBRITA01 10/19/2012 10:58AM

    Throwing away or "wasting" food is a fairly new concept to me since SP also. If a food isn't a healthy fuel for the body, the garbage can is where it belongs anyway. Your former blog resonated with me and made me smile. And Joan's comment got me thinking about our need to be punished or caught....something to ponder.

Have a great weekend, John...Namaste emoticon

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TRISTAROSE 10/19/2012 10:30AM

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LOSINGVICKI 10/19/2012 10:24AM

  Small steps make giant leaps!! emoticon
Like you, I can't have sweets in the house. Especially cookies. But I have a hubby that doesn't understand that so he insists on having them and them being center front on our kitchen table. So he makes it difficult for me. But I'm hanging in there. emoticon

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BARB5970 10/19/2012 10:15AM

    Congrats. You've made a positve change. emoticon emoticon

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HDHAWK 10/19/2012 9:41AM

    I fight that battle too. If I spend hard earned money on something I better not throw it away. Same goes for eating in restaurants.

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XANGELSTEARZX 10/19/2012 9:39AM

    I was raised on that adage that if I didn't eat everything I was given some poor kids in a third world country would starve. So taking that step and tossing out the sweets is a huge task and one you should feel pretty accomplished about. emoticon

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Caught In The Act

Thursday, October 18, 2012

I know what you are going to say before you say it. Intellectually I agree with you. I should keep a cadre of fresh fruits and veggies handy. I should phone a friend.

Side Note: As long as Spark has been around I really wish they had a "chat" option. There are days I could really use the interaction with other people who encounter the same obstacles and yes, I have suggested it

Yes, I know I have been at this long enough to know all the danger signs. Okay, now that we've gotten past that........... on with the show.

I didnt lose any weight last week. I didnt gain any either. You know what that meant dont you, lol, I did something wrong? I examined my food plan. It was good to go. Exercise, sleep and mindfulness issues all on target. It had to be me. Maybe I was eating too much...........Ahhhhhhhhhh that's it!!! I'll cut back.

I was very careful about what went into my mouth this week. (My weigh in day is Saturday.) I was hungry all the time but I rationalized it was punishment for my alleged yet unseen sins. I was at the grocery yesterday and I spied a box of cookies. They were small cookies and a "few" wouldnt hurt me. So I purchased the box and stored it in a desk drawer. I didnt say I hid it I said I stored it! (I realize none of you have ever done this so I am quite sure you're shocked at my behavior!!!) When I got hungry I'd snag a cookie.......... okay maybe two............ALRIGHT maybe five. Hey, I was hungry!!!

I woke up at two this morning feeling guilty about the cookies and what it said about me as a person, etc. Quietly I went down to my office and opened the desk drawer. I went to the kitchen and prepared to dump them in the trash when Joan appeared in the kitchen doorway and said "What are you doing?!?!" I now know what a man feels like when he is caught in the arms of another woman. There we were, me and my cookies, hiding out.

"I was throwing them away," I said meekly.

Joan didnt say anything. She started to three or four times but finally went back upstairs. I tried to explain at breakfast but she told me it was okay. Some moments in life are sacred.

The diet myth is one that's hard to bust. We preach about health and balance yet as soon as we dont see the progress our minds envision we freak out. It was a good lesson for me and I'm going to Kroger soon to get fruit. Joan just keeps shaking her head.


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MARCYNA 10/21/2012 12:54PM

    Hey, did I tell you what happened between me & a pistachio nut packet lately??? I will never spend time alone with one of them , I swear!!!
PS And it was NOT love,,,,nor correct calorie intake!!!

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MARITIMER3 10/19/2012 7:31PM

    Love your blogs, John. Love the fact that you're human and you slip up sometimes too. I've done the cookie bit, and the chips, and the ice cream, but at leastit happens much less frequently than it used to. Congratulations to Joan for not saying anything. I know that my DH couldn't have resisted the chance to lecture me.

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MAMADWARF 10/19/2012 10:42AM

    I think that's hilarious that she caught you!!! Lol....I'm proud of you for tossing your cookies...(I'm on fire today!!) Onward!

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GOANNA2 10/19/2012 5:13AM

    Been there - done that. emoticon

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DEBRITA01 10/18/2012 7:34PM

    We've all been there and done that. Often we wonder, why do we engage in those behaviors when we know better?! The addiction will try to trick us into thinking we can handle just a little of___(fill in the blank). We continue to err, but that's how we learn.

Your blog made me laugh when you said " I now know what a man feels like when he is caught in the arms of another woman. There we were, me and my cookies, hiding out". Oh, the guilt and shame of it all... Good news is: no guilt, no shame necessary, right? Just pick yourself up and carry on. emoticon

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LUCYJOY 10/18/2012 7:02PM

    NO Way! You're human? And you like cookies?! It's good that you knew you needed to toss them out right then. Hey, I'd have waited until morning then maybe ate a few, then maybe put them in the kitchen and ate a few more....

I can't have sugar in my house, I just can't.

I hate when the scale won't move. I keep rechecking my intake and I don't know why mine won't move. It is frustrating.

Loved the image of your wife catching you-LOL

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AMARILYNH 10/18/2012 5:26PM

    That darned cookie monster has been getting around! He was in southwest Georgia just last Friday!! And I agree with others - cookies are a trigger food for me and can't be in the house without me eating them. In the freezer? Umm, no - it doesn't take long at all to thaw them out!!

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46SHADOW 10/18/2012 5:19PM

    Oh yeah! I can relate. for me its the food I buy for my very hungry teenagers for whom a 1500 cal diet doesn't work.

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ONEKIDSMOM 10/18/2012 5:13PM

    Since you already know what I'm going to say, I won't say it. OK, I will... been there, done that... have a closet full of T-shirts! Understand ALL the parts of this tale. Including the best part... picking ourselves up, dusting ourselves off, and climbing back onto the "today" band-wagon!

Gotta love you, John! You're one of my kindred spirits!

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GIRANIMAL 10/18/2012 1:31PM

    I could have sworn there used to be a chat function (in the bottom toolbar that, I think, is optional?) but I can't find it now.

Anyway, stupid cookies. emoticon

Since my safe-food list has opened up a bit, I've found myself indulging more ("these gluten-free cookies are loaded with sugar, but everyone deserves a treat and I have so few options now," etc., etc.) and paying the price too. I really am working on a new game plan. The scale is all over the place and, most importantly, I feel flabbier and way less strong and awesome than I did 6 months ago. I still struggle to find balance -- being in control, without being controlling and obsessive.

I agree that the key here is likely that a) you were too hungry and b) you're human! (and a human with a food "problem" like the rest of us, to boot).

Key #2 -- you're willing to own it (AND throw away the cookies?!) without beating yourself up about it. THAT is the power of a sparked life!


Also, hats off to Joan one more time. emoticon

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 10/18/2012 1:23PM

    *HUGS* a chat feature would be GREAT! :) Cookies are my downfall sometimes too!

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ADELE66 10/18/2012 1:07PM

    Oh my, you crack me up! I have a superb visual of you being caught redhanded in the kitchen now!

Still, look at it this way. You could have put a frozen pizza in the oven at 10 o'clock at night and then eaten the whole thing....

... not that I know anyone who did that last Thursday!


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1HAPPYSUSAN 10/18/2012 12:49PM

    I love that you're human and that you acknowledge it and accept it. Yep, time to get back up and get on track, knowing that slip-ups happen and you're STILL on the path to success! You're good! Keep pushing!

I love the idea of freezing cookies in their serving size for emergencies! I can SO see myself doing that and savoring those two cookies. I wonder how long it would take to make two Oreo cookies last??!!

Make it an awesome day! emoticon

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ALLISON145 10/18/2012 10:52AM

    My husband caught me with a dilly bar yesterday that I had actually smuggled into the bedroom under my sweatshirt to sneak by him having just announced that I was going back on low carb three night before. Seriously?? I don't know where my head is at lately. Sigh.

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SLIMLEAF 10/18/2012 10:22AM

    Hello John

What no-one seems to be mentioning is how commendable it was that you got up in the night to throw away the cookies rather than to eat them. That shows tremendous determination and self-control - a lot more than I have, I'm sure.

As for having fruit and veggies to hand... well I know it's better than binging on cookies, chocolate, pastries etc, but I seem to be able to eat a large number of calorie and 'natural' sugars through eating lots of fruit. In fact, whilst reading your blog I was just polishing off a whole tin of peach slices in grape juice. Delicious and supposedly 'good for me' but 176 calories all the same and that's 176 calories that weren't on my list for today.

I agree about the 'chat' facility being a good idea and I know we live in very different time zones, but if you ever feel like a chat again, you could try emailing me to see if I'm around to chat before you delve into the cookie drawer. I'd be honoured if I could help in this (or any) way.

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REGILIEH 10/18/2012 9:54AM

    John, maybe you hit a plateau. Once again I have a smile on my face that I attribute to you!

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BARB5970 10/18/2012 9:45AM

    It's not about perfection. We all have slip ups. That doesn't make us "bad". It's what you do next that counts,and. BTW, although I'm sure you already know this, it's absolutely normal not to loose weight every week. You said you weigh in on Saturdays, but you're body doesn't know it's Saturday and it's the day it has to show a weight loss. Sometimes the scale shows it on Monday, or Wednesday. Don't be too harsh with yourself, it's counterproductive. emoticon

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TRISTAROSE 10/18/2012 9:44AM

    Just let it go and get right back on track.

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OUBACHE 10/18/2012 9:36AM

    As the weather turns cooler, I turn to baking. I love to bake batches of cookies. Why do I do this? I don't have kids at home and DH and I don't need to be eating them. Of course I justify it by giving some away and making the cookies as healthy as possible with oatmeal and minimal sugar, but they are still cookies! You see, we are all guilty of this. We are human and sometimes we need to eat (and bake) cookies. Unfortunately, it's harder for some of us than others to practice moderation and limit our craving for sweets.

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LOSING30TOWIN 10/18/2012 9:29AM

    Suggestion. If you like cookies, don't buy your favorite, buy your third favorite. If they are 100 calories for two, make several packages of two and keep in freezer. Take out a packet when the strong craving hits and TRACK IT!

It's not like you will now never have another cookie the rest of your life. It's all in moderation just like the normal BMI people have figured out.


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HDHAWK 10/18/2012 9:21AM

    This really hits home with me right now. I starved for 2 weeks, staying around 1000 calories. I know this isn't a long term solution, but I wanted to see a few quick pounds come off to get my motivation ramped up. I did lose 2.2 the first week. Second week 0! This week I've been fairly off track with barely any exercise. I'm frustrated with my lack of progress even though I know if I stay on track the scale will move. We're in the same boat. I'll share a paddle with you!

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JENAE954 10/18/2012 9:18AM

  You hit home for me.
Have been Sparking for a while now.
I have been at a plateau for weeks now with no binging .
Wish I would have been caught before gorging on 2 cups of mixed nuts.
Why were they in the pantry, you ask...
They were for a party I was attending.
They didn't make it to the party.
I will add nuts to the 'no no' list.
Nuts ARE like a drug to me... Just for today.

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SHERIO5 10/18/2012 9:17AM

    Ah! Another cookie monster! I can totally picture myself in your shoes (-and have been in the same scene!). I know SP suggests moderation-but cookies and chips are like a drug for me! If you find a solution- please share!

I have been buying the individual snack sizes of cookies to help me be more aware of a serving. I also have been substituting fruit and/or a few nuts. The combination makes me feel more satisfied---almost cookie-like!

Bless your wife for zipping! My sweet husband does the same head shake....

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/18/2012 9:06AM

    As we all know an occasional cookie is okay but it does seem to snowball. If the cookies are around I eat them so I try not to buy them. I'm not good with temptation.

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SCHNEBL 10/18/2012 9:00AM

    John - Have you tried measuring as well as weighing? I have lost only two pounds but over a full inch on my waist and legs. My trainer explained to me about muscle mass versus fat mass. So, perhaps you are building muscle, which takes up less room, but sometimes weighs close to the same. At any rate - good you didn't eat the whole box! And good for your wife for just shaking her head. She loves you. :)

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LOSINGVICKI 10/18/2012 8:54AM

  You're human John. Don't beat yourself up and don't feel guilty. Maybe if you just have to have the cookies you could get something like fig newtons. They're low fat and at least have a little fruit in them. Getting healthy DOESN'T mean you're supposed to be hungry all the time. Hang in there. Today is another day, another chance to make healthy choices. emoticon

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CRYSTALJEM 10/18/2012 8:45AM

    The beauty of a new day is we can always start again. It's all about steps, and once in awhile those steps might be a tiny one backwards, or we might trip over our own two feet (or a bag of cookies lol). As long as we pick ourselves back up, brush ourselves off, it's ok. Give this a read - I just finished it and I think you might find it applies. Sorry I can't make the link live:


I loved this quote:

"And I was even expected to make mistakes because I was told that's how you learn-by making mistakes and then by finding a way to correct them. He would never allow me to take out my mistakes. He said you have to learn to work from exactly where you find yourself and to work through it. "

"Yes. But you do have to follow what's happening. One of the things I love about carpets is that a weaver will get two thirds of the way through the rug and run out of a color for the background, for instance, and they'll just replace it with another color!
I asked Aziz about that once. He said it was because the weavers felt it was more important to continue the movement than it was to stop and re-dye and get everything just perfect. It's the movement of life that you're trying to be true to, more than anything else."

And, I agree, a chat feature would certainly be nice!

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    John...If that had been a woman in your arms, YOU would probably be dead right now!!!!!

You'll be fine. It was just another reminder that when it comes to comfort we still want to go back to the OLD WAYS..We keep banging our head into a brick wall but eventually we begin to learn and we bang our heads LESS OFTEN. Isn't it crazy. When you bought the cookies you were able to rationalize buying them. OH, What a powerful temptress sugar can be!!!!

It is a good lesson. You learned that the cookies don't give you what it is you are wanting. One cookie is never enough. We both know that..but sometimes we need reminding.

Isn't it great that each day we begin anew. Welcome to a new day. Just tell Joan that from now on you'll get your sugar from her lips!!!! That will put a smile on her face. lol.

Don't feel bad...Don't feel guilty...The weight will come off as you keep eating healthy.
You hit a speed bump..that is okay.
You recognize the BUMP and continue on your journey.
If you were in your car..You would pull over, survey the damage and continue on. Right? If the damage was too severe..You would call a tow truck(Joan) and have your car repaired and be back on the road in no time.

Get back to the basics when you need to and KEEP TRUCKIN' dear man... emoticon

God Bless you...Laney

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PATTILYNN224 10/18/2012 8:36AM

    I've done sort of the same thing. Bought something at the grocery store and opened it up as soon as I got in my truck so I could get a fix and then on the way home, opened the window and dumped the package out while I was driving so I wouldn't eat anymore of it. Good for you John. You are much blessed with a wife that didn't comment.

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DMEYER4 10/18/2012 8:14AM

  don't beat yourself up . Just keep pushing.

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