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This Day Is For You

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Our friend Joe passed away early Monday morning. He was diagnosed with cancer in mid-August and went rather quickly. Like most people I get caught up in the day-to-day of life and dont give many valuable things a second thought. This blog isnt about hugging everyone you run into or making a special friend or sending an email. It's about you, enjoying life just as it is for you, at this moment.

I went to the park with my lunch yesterday. I sat beneath a huge tree and spread my salad and california roll out on the picnic table. I closed my eyes for a moment to purposefully invite all of creation to soak into me. I felt the sun dance along the edges of my face, the leaves on the tree above rustle slightly. A breeze started, stopped and then started again. They were things I wouldnt notice unless I'd taken the time to look for them.

This morning I sat on the front porch and waited for the sun. If I move the large wicker chair to the right position I can see the sun emerge between two trees. It was a poky little thing and I'll admit the fall chill almost pushed me back in the kitchen but when it finally showed up I could feel it on my body. It wasnt warm and radiant but it was there. It was like it just stopped by to say hello.

I hear a few of you murmur that "It must be nice to have the time to do that stuff." Maybe, today you roll down your car windows on the way to work and listen to the sounds of life that are around you. You might take thirty seconds to stand on your back porch and breath in whats near to you.

Life isnt a Hallmark greeting card and most of us will never have one of those On Golden Pond moments in our lives. Mostly its the growing awareness that we are connected with everything in this universe and that as it breathes, so do we.

I'm off to see what today holds for me. I savor my todays and look forward to tomorrow.

Namaste

  
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CMBELISLE 10/18/2012 12:54PM

    Sometimes it is something as simple as recognizing the beauty of the wildflowers blooming on the side of the road as I'm stuck in traffic that reminds there is still beauty in this world despite all the negativity we see.

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LYNMEINDERS 10/18/2012 5:24AM

    a Big AMEN to your blog John

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GEEMAWEST 10/17/2012 11:14PM

    emoticon blog!

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JENNYBOYKIN 10/17/2012 10:55PM

    HEY JOHN, IM SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR FRIEND.
YOU ARE A GREAT WRITER AND HIS BLOG IS GOING TO GET ME OFF MY BUT AND OUT SIDE RIGHT NOW THANKS BEAUTIFULLY WRITTEN!;]
YOUR AWESOME!

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MARITIMER3 10/17/2012 10:24PM

    John, I think you are a wise man, who has learned through experience that today is all we have... don't waste it. I'm sorry about your friend. I have a friend who was diagnosed with cancer in August as well, and she is not expected to live through the night. Her priest has said the prayers for the dying, and her sister and niece are with her. I have wonderful memories of times we spent together, and I hope that you have similar memories of your friend.

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CARTOONB 10/17/2012 10:17PM

    You make a good point. Thank you.

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HLPRATT 10/17/2012 8:32PM

    Working in health care, I know that life can be fragile. I wish I could cultivate more mindfulness. In Sept I did a bike relay for St Jude. The weather was perfect and I was in my home town Memphis with my friends. I felt several moments of such peace and thankfulness. I am so happy that I can move my body and enjoy beautiful weather. My blessings are so many.

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WONDERFUL2BME 10/17/2012 7:36PM

    John this is a beautiful blog. My daughter text me a picture from her commute to work. She was at a traffic light and the clouds were just amazing so she snapped a picture and sent it to me. What a gift! It thrilled me that she could appreciate something so beautiful on her way to work and that she knew I would love it as well!

My walk today was in search of Halloween decorations in front of homes-mainly pumpkins to snap pictures of. I think it is yet a bit early because I only found 4 homes decorated. When I am walking, I also like to take pictures of other things that catch my attention especially if it is something I would not normally see, like the squirrel peaking under a garage door that had been left open a few inches for probably a cat...yikes that could have turned out badly for the squirrel.

In-joy

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HDHAWK 10/17/2012 7:35PM

    I'm sorry to hear about your friend, John. The older I get the more I notice the little things.

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WANDAH3 10/17/2012 5:36PM

    It's when we take those moments and really allow our spirit to be in balance that we get the most out of living. Thank you for the reminder to take the time.
Hugs,
Wanda

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/17/2012 4:53PM

    I am so sorry about your friend, John. I have lost many close friends.

My childhood best friend came home one day and found her mother dead in her chair with a cup of coffee sitting next to her. She had a massive heart attack at a young age.

In my teens I had two boyfriends died. One from a car wreck and one from carbon monoxide poisoning.

My fiancee died unexpectedly when we were young adults. He had undiagnosed type one diabetes. He went home and went to bed and never woke up.

My high school best friend who stood up for me when I got married died when we were both 25. She had just graduated as a physical therapist and I was working as an R.N. by then. Her only brother got cancer too in his 20s but lived.

I lost almost all my family between 95 and 98.

Noe that I am 60 I have lost a lot more friends. The last was similar to Joe. She went to England to visit a friend of ours in March and by June she was sick and diagnosed with terminal cancer. She died in November.

So I agree about making the most of every day. It could be our last or a loved ones.

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SWEETMAGNOLIA2 10/17/2012 2:58PM

    God's second book...nature. What a blessing to find comfort and strength in the lessons learned there. So sorry for the loss of your dear friend.
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LOVINGKATE 10/17/2012 12:14PM

  Good morning John, So sorry for your loss of your friend. Losing some one special to us is always difficult but you made life a celebration of God's master piece. We are so blessed with all He provides for our daily breath of fresh air and the beautiful pictures He paints for us each and every day. We all need to take the time to reflect on all of God's precious gifts.
You are a great friend to have John and all your words are so inspiring to me. God Bless you.
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GIRANIMAL 10/17/2012 11:44AM

    I'm sorry to hear of Joe's passing, dear friend. But your turning this into a moment to be thankful for the present is a beautiful gesture. This morning on my ride in, I drank in the vibrant reds and yellows in the trees, and savored the nearly 60 degrees at 7:30 a.m. on a mid-October day in Chicago. After that, 8 hours at a desk seems a little more tolerable. emoticon

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CRYSTALJEM 10/17/2012 11:01AM

    Sorry for your loss. Your observations are so very true. I agree that life isn't a Hallmark greeting card, but I do like Hallmark's slogan of "Life Is A Special Occasion" . I think it's wonderful that you've found ways to celebrate it throughout each day. Thanks for the reminder, I'm gonna do that today too.

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JENAE954 10/17/2012 10:53AM

  Life has its seasons and sometimes the toughest season to watch a friend go thru is the last one. Sounds like you celebrated his life today. You were a wonderful friend to him and to yourself.
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NASFKAB 10/17/2012 10:12AM

  Sorry for your loss all the best

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TRISTAROSE 10/17/2012 9:39AM

    Sorry to hear of your loss. Yes, we really take things for granted and really need to make time for ourselves to enjoy everything around us.

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SHERIO5 10/17/2012 9:29AM

    I think you honored your friend today by being mindful. Wishing you a day full of reminders that bring a smile to your face.

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LOSINGVICKI 10/17/2012 9:03AM

  I'm sorry to hear of your friends passing. But you know he's in a better place and in no pain now.
I know most of us forget to savor the day. We're so busy that we don't enjoy what life holds for us. I work to give myself 15 minutes each day just to stop and be quiet and let the peace speak to me.
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LANEYPUDDLESMOM 10/17/2012 8:55AM

    John, I am so sorry for your loss.

Nature has always restored my faith in God. He is the a masterful Artist who given us all that we need to experience life to the fullest. We just have to take time to see and feel the beauty around us. That is God's gift to us daily. Enjoy the sun upon your face.

Good Morning to Joan as well... Laney emoticon

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SFREY217 10/17/2012 8:53AM

    Thank to for reminding me to take time and appreciate what this life holds for me!

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REGILIEH 10/17/2012 8:50AM

    John, I am so sorry for the loss of your friend Joe. I am sure your friendship was a blessing to him.

I am going to go out on my patio with the dogs and have my cup of coffee and breathe in life.

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GOANNA2 10/17/2012 8:44AM

    Sorry about your friend. Tha emoticon nks f.or a great blog and sound advice

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DIANE7786 10/17/2012 8:43AM

    emoticon It's hard when a friend passes. His gift to you is an awareness of our wonderful surroundings. As you said, taking a few seconds or minutes to enjoy nature can make us feel renewed and energized.

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TDEMAIO2 10/17/2012 8:23AM

    emoticon for the loss of your friend : ( and using this moment to open our eyes, ears and savor life emoticon

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ELRIDDICK 10/17/2012 8:19AM

  Thanks for sharing. I'm sorry for your loss

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MAMADWARF 10/17/2012 8:19AM

    I love this. I will make a moment t to myself today. And think of you. Jan

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What, Me Worry? (With Apologies To Alfred E Newman)

Monday, October 15, 2012

We're fortunate enough to live close to a small university. The buildings are the old weathered brick type and most are covered in ivy. We love walking our dogs through the campus. The university is almost two hundred years old and I could go on and on but suffice to say it's really, really cool. One side of the campus borders the same street we live on so I see students coming and going all the time.

This morning after I dropped Joan off at work I was headed home when I saw a young lady walking down the street. She had on a pair of flannel bottoms , a sweat shirt, and flip flops. Her hair was scrunched up and she was carrying a back pack. In one hand was a container of good old Vitamin D WHOLE milk. In the other was an, I'm not kidding here, enormous donut. Did I say she appeared to be about 100 pounds soaking wet? As my car snaked around the bend, she looked over and grinned and waved to me. Not a single or solitary care in the world.

Now, the 59 year old curmudgeon in me stuck his head out from his cave and found like a million things wrong with this picture. Whole milk!!!! Donuts for breakfast!!! It was in the mid-forties and she was barley dressed!!! If she didnt die from a thousand assorted viruses, the sugar and fat in her breakfast would bring her arteries to a grinding halt one day and she'd fall over dead in her tracks. The old curmudgeon could almost predict it! I was having a judgement fest here and my righteous indignation just kept urging me forward! Those da*n kids!!!

It was then I recalled her smile and her wave and that she REALLY doesnt seem to have a care in the world. She'll figure out the health and fitness part of life soon enough but she's got me beat hands down on the Worry Free Zone. I pulled the car into the driveway and wondered how many of my health issues were driven by my worries and fears. It's something to ponder for sure.

Did I tell you I feel fortunate to live near a small university?

Namaste

  
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GARDENQE2 10/19/2012 1:52PM

    Good for her! emoticon

It's going to be a shame, forty years from now, when all of us health nuts are 100 years old and sitting around the hospitals, dying of NOTHING!! emoticon

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LYNMEINDERS 10/18/2012 5:22AM

    I agree with you John....I think a lot of our health issues come from worry.....

I work at the university in our city and I see the students barely dresses and eating some amazing foods at times but they haven't got a care in the world....it is often refreshing

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GOANNA2 10/16/2012 7:03AM

    Wonderful blog John. Oh how I wish for those days of
not having a care in the world. Those were the days my friend,
those WERE the days. emoticon

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HLPRATT 10/16/2012 1:48AM

    Funny Too funny I love your blogs

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ONEKIDSMOM 10/15/2012 10:49PM

    Well said... and I remember Alfred E Newman, back from the days when I used to *think* I was fat!

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NASFKAB 10/15/2012 10:46PM

  awesome

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CARTOONB 10/15/2012 10:46PM

    I don't know that I've ever been that worry free. You are truly fortunate.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/15/2012 9:50PM

    You local college sounds like the one my son attended. It is the oldest college in Illinois and was really neat. The kids dressed the same - in pajama bottoms, shorts, t-shirts, flip flops...............in the snow. I would freeze just looking at them.

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GEEMAWEST 10/15/2012 6:29PM

    So true, so very true!

BTW, I live just a couple of blocks from an old university, too. I just love walking around the area with the grandkids. Although ours isn't quite as old as yours, it's only 160 years old.
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KELLYPAQ 10/15/2012 5:27PM

    Agree, agree. There's been many a time where my worries and fears have made a situation way worse than it actually was.

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WANDAH3 10/15/2012 5:12PM

    Oh to be young like once again! Hope your day was great.

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DEBRITA01 10/15/2012 4:11PM

    At least she was having milk instead of a Red Bull or Energy drink....anyhow, as we know, one donut and whole milk isn't a deal breaker. It's when it becomes a daily habit! emoticon Glad she shared some sunshine with you today... emoticon

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CHARTHESTAR 10/15/2012 4:01PM

    great post!
love your back ground!

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BLUE42DOWN 10/15/2012 3:08PM

    A much better thing to take away from the encounter!

I do find it funny how easy it is to judge others' food based on our own situation. If she's as slim as all that, I'd rather see whole milk than diet soda. Eating disorders are far too common amongst college students as it is.

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SHERIO5 10/15/2012 3:01PM

    I think it is great you got a smile and a wave!

Makes you think.

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WONDERFUL2BME 10/15/2012 2:52PM

    I love the old buildings of our universities as well. I also enjoy the energy level of being around young people and their craziness!

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ANATASHIKI 10/15/2012 2:45PM

    you know, people drank whole milk since idk 1800? later? it didn't seem to kill humanity yet emoticon stress can kill people , whole milk , I doubt

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 10/15/2012 2:38PM

    No worries! :) Like someone else said, you don't know what the rest of her diet looks like.

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TERESAKLE 10/15/2012 1:43PM

  I've been thinking a lot about when I started to fret about stuff. As far as I can recall it was around 12 years old. What a waste of time! Today I'm going to deliberately try not to worry.

Staying tethered to worry is so debilitating.

Be well.

Teresa


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ADELE66 10/15/2012 1:26PM

    You write so descriptively.... I was almost there with you!

Who knows.... maybe the donut and whole milk were the one treat that she allows herself once in a while... and you just caught her at it!

But yes, I'm with you, we should be including anxiety and stress up there with the overeating, smoking, drinking.... and so on....

So, smile and wave.... smile and wave... you never know... it might catch on!

Adele :o)

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NESARIAN 10/15/2012 1:11PM

    Wonderful blog, John! I was never her but do remember feeling care free. I tend to be on the anxious side and you are spurring me to think about how worries may have played in my health. Thank you! Not sure which is worse though; worries or full fat milk and giant donut!

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GIRANIMAL 10/15/2012 12:44PM

    I love the word "curmudgeon" but I would never, ever use it to describe you!

I wish I could just buy a subscription to the Worry Free Zone. I am not typically about buying success (especially since I usually can't afford it! LOL) rather than earning it, but man, sometimes it feels like I'll never be a member otherwise. emoticon (But in all seriousness, I do think my brand-new yoga practice is helping already.)

I live about 2-3 miles away from my own alma mater, but it's such a different place just (*gulp*) 12 years later that it kind of just makes me feel old sometimes! Talk about difference of perspective. Again, so much to learn from you, my wiser and more experienced friend. emoticon

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LOSINGVICKI 10/15/2012 12:42PM

  Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could all go back to being that care free again? The joys of being young. Hopefully the whole milk and donut won't start a bad food trend for her. Or maybe she'll be one of the lucky ones that bad eating habits will never cause problems. emoticon

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DOODIE59 10/15/2012 12:37PM

    That young lady's joy is not to be tampered with:) She'll figure things out.
Have a wonderful day!
Deirdre

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REGILIEH 10/15/2012 12:20PM

    There is nothing better than living by a college, in fact towns have much more to offer if they do have a college. Now John, I think you wanter her donut! emoticon

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THESLIMMERME1 10/15/2012 11:40AM

    emoticon have a great day emoticon

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CRYSTALJEM 10/15/2012 11:34AM

    it is just those kinds of realizations that make us grow and blossom. Sounds like your day was off to a great start. Wishing you a great day in the Worry Free Zone. CJ

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"Turn And Face The Strange - Ch-Ch-Changes"

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

The only thing we really control is how we react to the changes and circumstances in our lives.

Im not sure when I heard that for the first time. I know it was a long time ago and it pops up in my head on a regular basis. In short, I control nothing and oh my goodness thats scary. I could win the lottery tomorrow and be set for life, as they say or a tornado could flatten my home 10 minutes from now and take away everything and everyone I hold dear. Both extremes are possible (Though not probable.) without me moving one centimeter from where Im currently sitting. Sure, I make choices. We all do in some form or fashion. Each of us chooses a path or course to walk. I wont win the lottery unless I buy a ticket and I promise you if I hear the storm warning sirens Ill lead the way to take cover. My decisions or reactions are what I can control. No use crying over spilt milk and all that rot.

I was exercising in the therapy pool earlier this week when a young lady walks up and sits down at pool side. Julia is the new aquatics director and shes noticed me in the pool exercising. Shes observed that it must get awfully boring just walking back and forth. I introduce myself, tell her about my back and stuff and she smiles and says she knows Joan. (Everyone knows Joan!!!) She asks if Id be interested in aquatics personal training. She rattles off all of her certifications most of which mean little to me. Shed love to work with me. Let me just pause for a moment and say I sensed my wifes fine hand at work here somewhere - Decision time.

Do you realize we face these opportunities hundreds of times every day? God, The Universe, call it what you will presents us with all sorts of opportunities to move forward. So as I floated getting water logged I had a decision to make. See all the cool kids train upstairs. Those of us who are limited physically or emotionally; well we work out in the warm water therapy pool and you know what they call us dont you? Im not going to say because its taken Joan close to 40 years to teach me how to be politically correct. The other factor is, well were all friends here right? Come close and Ill tell you my dirty little secret --- I cant swim. I tromp around in 3 to 5 feet of water and my actions often scare little children into believing there really is a Loch Ness Monster. So here I am with someone built like an Olympic swimmer and she wants to train me in the big kids pool!!!

Anxiety, insecurity, low self-esteem and BTW there really should be a chocolate cake dispenser in the pool area so I can toss crumbs to the emotional eating mind monkeys. I smiled, told her Id think about it and tromped away. Id moved about three feet and I heard her. You cant swim can you? This is where walking ON water would be a major gift. It ok, we can start there and its cheaper than personal training. No one has to know. When I turned around she was smiling. I may be out of town all of next week so I told her Id let her know by Friday when we MIGHT start. She turned and walked away leaving me looking somewhat prune like in the water.

Opportunities--- they are there at every turn. They scare the snot out of us and reduce us to our lowest common denominator along with the rest of creation. Intellectually I embrace this opportunity. It makes sense and Joan agrees LOL. Emotionally I cower and run away. When Im in the gym I wear a tee shirt, shorts, etc. In the pool, well I have my suit and thats it. I mean gosh, I have man boobs!!! Now ya want me to stand in front of someone and show them myself just as I am?

Opportunities - Makes ya grin dont it

Namaste, my dear ones, Namaste.

  
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SILLYHP1953 1/30/2013 2:06PM

    I can't swim, either. I think I get what must be a panic attack when I try to put my face in the water. I wish you the best in this opportunity.

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ANNE-ELIZ 10/18/2012 12:24AM

    John,

You always make me smile!

Up until now I have found water exercise to be the only thing I could do consistently and not hurt myself, but consistency with my water aerobics has helped with strength and stamina and now I can consider the possibility of adding a few non-pool exercises.

I'm also considering some swimming lessons, because while I can swim, I notice that my form is off and I can't do the distance that I was able to do at one time. I think that I might be able to improve that now.

I think it's great that you see opportunities... emoticon

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GIRANIMAL 10/16/2012 11:19AM

    Does Joan give man-coaching lessons? LOL

This is indeed a great opportunity! Learning to swim can be useful to you in so many ways: great exercise, esp. for us injured ones, plus it's one more thing you can be proud of achieving. It's not so bad or difficult, trust me -- and I was traumatized as a child by too-aggressive Chicago Park District instructors. Julia sounds much kinder, so you'll be just fine!

As for the fear of embracing who you physically are right now being a hurdle: I wish I could be more of a cheerleader there. At my smallest size ever I am still terrified of bathing suits, so I really feel your discomfort there. Of course, in my case, the fact that I have no easy access to a pool gives me some legitimate reason, but I'd be lying if I said that were the only thing keeping me from swimming. emoticon

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FUN2BAROUND 10/14/2012 10:38PM

    Good for you! I admire your willingness to push your limits. Taking myself out of my comfort zone seems to be the best way to keep motivated....and the small gains and victories mean exponentially more,

Keep challenging yourself!

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GEEMAWEST 10/12/2012 11:00PM

    I have not doubt that you will be swimming in no time. That's just the way you are. You don't do anything half arsed. Good for you!!

BTW, I have been going to the pool for over 2 years now and still feel embarrassed. But I get sympathy from no one because they are all doing their own thing and could care less how I look.
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ME_FIRST 10/12/2012 9:57AM

    You will learn to swim and it will be Wonderful. Your trainer has already seen you in your bathing suit, so no biggie for her

You said "My decisions or reactions are what I can control. No use crying over spilt milk and all that rot." Very true for me this week. I found out the other day that I had a mini stroke over the weekend (when I fell and sprained my ankle) and that I've had others in the past. So all this time I've been procrastinating my healthier life style and loosing some of this 100 extra pounds I carry around I was having strokes. I can cry (which I have not yet, but I'm working up to it as I write this), or I can take the actions necessary to be healthier. I choose the latter.

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CARTOONB 10/11/2012 11:02PM

    This will be interesting to "watch" as you progress. I predict that you will have a blog soon titled "I'm a swimmer!". Or something much more clever!

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SUNNYSIDEUPMARY 10/11/2012 4:53PM

    Seems to me that this could be an OTS - an Opportunity to Succeed. One of your previous blogs planted the idea of looking for OTS's in my head. Thank you and best wishes, Friend!

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JENNYBOYKIN 10/11/2012 4:48PM

    REALLY THANKS FOR SHARE THIS =]]SOUNDS LIKE A GREAT OPPURTUNITY!!!!YOU CAN DO THIS I SUPPORT YA ;]

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PINETREEGIRL 10/11/2012 9:15AM

    I can't say enough high praise about working with a trainer...it's hard work, expensive, sometimes a bother, and one of the most positive things I have ever done for myself. I see this as my 'year of change' and know that working with a trainer is behind that sentiment. I'd say, if you can, grab on to the opportunity!


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THESLIMMERME1 10/11/2012 1:58AM

    emoticon obviously, you enjoy being in water, it sounds like you are ready to take the next step. - the key thing I remember from lessons as a young adult, is 'if you can relax' the body will float...after many years, I have gone back to the water to do 'aqua exercise' after 13 weeks, my strength, coordination and balance have improved, significantly, the water has made the work seem effortless, along with learning to eating healthy, the #'s are melting away...in time I hope to 'take some swimming lessons so I can enjoy that aspect of using the pool. emoticon the 1st step is always the hardest, but look at what new doors this opportunity will be presented to you. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/10/2012 9:17PM

    Love it. I totally love the way Joan works. You have been set up and rightfully so. I taught both of my parents to swim when I was a lifeguard. They were TERRIBLE! LOL. The head lifeguard said he had never seem 2 people who could sink to the bottom like a rock so fast and stay there. I swim like a fish and he inferred that maybe I was adopted. LOL. But they did learn to swim some and that gave me peace of mind. Now get your butt in that pool and start those lessons! LOL.

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ONEKIDSMOM 10/10/2012 7:16PM

    emoticon It may be hard to learn something "new" at our age (yep, I figure you're "mature" like me, maybe not quite AS mature, but definitely adult). But it's soooo worth it. Try it. If you don't like it, what have you lost? An opportunity, as you point out. And you will have learned something: whether or not you like it!

Good luck. Look forward to reading all about it!

- Barb

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ANATASHIKI 10/10/2012 5:58PM

    you should try it and see if you like it. I'm the self teaching type , I learned how to swim when I almost drowned when I was 10 years old and I generally learned the best from books .don't think about"opportunity" . what do you feel in your heart about it? it's stressful or exciting?

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LYNMEINDERS 10/10/2012 5:09PM

    What an awesome opportunity...woohoo...go for it....
You are right though...it is how we respond to change that counts

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FAT2THIN-2014 10/10/2012 4:59PM

    Once you learn, it's something you'll enjoy the rest of your life. I'd live in a pool if I could. Go for it, my new friend. emoticon

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FITBODME 10/10/2012 4:40PM

    GO FOR IT JOHN! Swimming is soooo much fun!The great thing I love about swimming is there is no hot stinky perspiration involved!
Do your kids know how to swim? If not, what a hero you will be, if they do, another activity to do together ..WIN WIN
Just keep swimming....just keep swimming....

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KIMCOLLINGS 10/10/2012 2:41PM

    Terrific blog. It seems that all of my sparkfriends are posting such inspirtional blogs today. This is definitely one of them. Opportunity...recognizing it and acting on it. I need to be more conscience of noticing the opportunities around me. I hope you'll take advantage of this one presented to you. It sounds terrific! Thanks John :)

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LUCYJOY 10/10/2012 1:33PM

    It's a great opportunity. I'd grab it in a second. I can sorta swim/dog paddle from one end of the pool to the other, but if I had access to a pool and a teacher? I'd so do that.
I hope you will. My friend, with rhumotiod arthritis had to give up running but took up swimming and man, she loves it. (And can now run again as well-and does)


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DEBRITA01 10/10/2012 12:47PM

    There are opportunities all around us...it's up to us what we do with them. emoticon

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HKARLSSON 10/10/2012 12:35PM

    Go for it, John! You got this! Swimming is fantastic exercise, and also a great skill to have in case you fall off a pier or something. Seriously, everybody needs to be comfortable in water where you can't touch the bottom, because you just never know when you'll find yourself in that situation. I personally am afraid that Jaws will come out from the bottom of the pool and eat me, but I hear that is highly unlikely, mostly because sharks don't dig chlorine. And just think! If you learn to swim, you can go snorkeling! That's how I got over my fear of fish! Okay, well, we've called a truce and I don't assume the fetal position when anything bigger than a minnow shows up, but you know what I mean. This will open up a world of possibilities in the event that you and Miss Joan take a big, well-deserved vacation. emoticon

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BEATLETOT 10/10/2012 12:30PM

    This is a cool blog. I hope you do the training. It would be really good for you, I think. Also, I liked seeing a blog titled after the David Bowie song with something other than just the chchch part. =)

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SCOTMAMA 10/10/2012 12:18PM

    Let us know how your lessons go, John -- I have no doubt you WILL TAKE THEM and you know something? I'm 74 and I never had the opportunity to learn how to swim either. I can swim a little but don't like to get my face in the water. Never learned how to properly hold my breath.

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IFDEEVARUNS2 10/10/2012 12:09PM

    not a doubt in my mind that you can do this!

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 10/10/2012 11:57AM

    You can do it!

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CRYSTALJEM 10/10/2012 11:56AM

    This was a wonderful blog. I empathize - grasping those opportunities so often make perfect sense - but somehow that doesn't seem to make it easier to do! I really hope you jump right into this opportunity because it sounds like once you do you won't regret it. Wow... the big kids pool!!!!! emoticon Namaste.

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HEALTHIERKEN 10/10/2012 11:20AM

    Great blog! Boy, you really know how to call it like you see it, don't you?
I say you've got the poise to go ahead with the personal trainer in spite of how you feel about your current appearance--best of all, that appearance is changing and more focused work will hurry those changes along. I believe you can do it.
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NASFKAB 10/10/2012 11:18AM

  interesting blog

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LOVINGKATE 10/10/2012 10:57AM

  God bless you John. I am afraid of water and have a hard time even telling myself to walk in a pool. I have self esteem problems and what other will think etc. Just thinking about a suit fightens me. So John, go for it. If I had that kind of help, I would do it. Joan is a God sent.
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KAT573 10/10/2012 10:54AM

    I liked WonderfultobeMe's observation because it is key! Thinking and feeling from the inside OUT, rather than from the OUTside IN is what helped me overcome the mental blocks for going to the gym, accepting who I am and where I am at; and you can't GET where you want to if you don't start where you are at; I was in the very same spot as you, unable to walk to do groceries; I proactively embraced water aerobics; it saved my life, portected my joints, yet gave me the challenge I needed to get fit; I cannot swim welleither, and it is not necessary i order to do water aerobics; in fact, swimming has little to do with it.
Go back through your essay, and take out all the little fear phrases and self-denigrating comments and see what is left: then turn that into a pro active pro LIFE launching board! NEVER give up; keep on keeping on not for an audience of people but for God the Father who brought you into this world for a reason yet to unfold completely; don't get in the Way, emoticon, rather,Walk it.

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SLIMLEAF 10/10/2012 10:51AM

    Go on, John - do it!

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SMOCKON 10/10/2012 10:45AM

    What will be best for JOHN--not Joan, or the instructor, or the other people in the pool area--in the end?

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SHERIO5 10/10/2012 10:45AM

    Your honesty and willingness to contemplate something new are so refreshing!

Let us know what you decide.

Peace and blessings!

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WONDERFUL2BME 10/10/2012 10:42AM

    I have found it so alleviating (I could even me elevating!) to face where I am at on this journey and to quit thinking I am hiding anything under the baggy clothes. Ha! It is wonderful to let it fly, knowing I am working on it and I get healthier with each passing day and moment. By the time I finish this sentence, I am healthier. Woo Hoo. You are healthier with each and every aquatic step.

Thank you so much for your blog that sent me on this stream of consciousness.


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REFFIE1 10/10/2012 10:40AM

    Good for you for deciding to take the plunge! Swimming is great for ligaments. emoticon

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LOOKY-LOU 10/10/2012 10:29AM

    Happy choosing!! emoticon

Tina

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REGILIEH 10/10/2012 10:28AM

    John, John, John! I loved starting my day today with your blog! I laughed out loud so much my husband came to see what was so funny so I then shared you and he too was laughing out loud! You really are a prize! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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PJBONARRIGO 10/10/2012 10:24AM

    Wow, great post, even greater challenge and decision to make. It's a wonderful opportunity and yet so very scarey and much easier to "just skip it". I'm thinking that you should go for it. At the end of the day, you very seldom regret the things that you do... it is mostly the things that you don't do that you regret :-) emoticon emoticon

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We've Lost A Child --- It's A Good Thing!!!

Sunday, October 07, 2012

I walked into the kitchen one afternoon in late August to find my wife and daughters sitting with their arms crossed. After close to forty years of marriage I smelled only one thing trouble for me. When Joan begins with Let me start by telling you how much we all love you.. it usually means its the last positive thing Im going to hear for the next half hour. I was half right, lol. She realized Id been through a lot in the past six months with my dad passing away and my back injuries, but, she added, my weight had ballooned to a really unhealthy number. Id gained back the eighty pounds Id lost plus added another ten pounds to that. Like the government, she and the girls were here to help.

Their proposal was simple. We would all make a real conscious effort to live and eat healthy from food choices to exercise options. Maybe that would help me get back on track. We did the ceremonial cleaning of the cabinets and stocked it with good stuff. Katie and Maggie both joined Weight Watchers. Its what works for them. Katie is a lifetime member having reached her goal weight and keeping it off for a year a long time ago but by her own admission she had slipped a bit. Maggie said it would be good to feel good again. Joan has major food allergies so eating is always a challenge for her. She has always used a high protein diet with success and of course I use Spark People.

Our goal wasnt to lose weight as much as it is to live healthy. In the past six weeks we have eaten out much less, gotten rid of the sugar and carbs that always tempt us and its been fun working out with my adulate daughters a few days per week. Its been nothing to adventurous walking and swimming. Joan and I exercise together in the pool three to four days a week and she and the girls have their own regimen. Everyone is much more relaxed. Its good to turn to either side of me and know I have support at home as well as here at Spark. When I open the cabinet I see healthy options rather than all the junk. We go out to eat, as a family, every two weeks, and the options are healthy ones, fresh fish, chicken and veggies. The French fries are fading in the rear view mirror.

I weighed myself yesterday a 1.4 pound loss for the week and a total of close to 16 pounds, in the past five weeks. Katie sat back and said, Between the four of us weve lost right at 60 pounds. Thats a small child.

Its a child Im glad to be rid of.

Namaste

  
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LIBBYL1 11/11/2012 10:45PM

  Thanks for making me laugh!

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MAZDAWD50 10/16/2012 11:41PM

    Congrats and keep up the good work. It's great that it is also a family affair.

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JLLOVETT 10/16/2012 9:44AM

    You are all inspirations!!! emoticon

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FATHINSN 10/14/2012 9:18PM

    One of lost things that we can celebrate happily is pounds losses :D I like that your family wanted to intervene in your life, to make everyone in the family has better lifestyle :D I'm still trying to do same thing with my parents and elder brother, have inches in progress and miles to go!

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ADELE66 10/13/2012 1:21PM

    Sounds like you have a wonderful family!

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KARRENLYNN 10/13/2012 2:16AM

    Hi John,

Congratulations on your decision to be healthier and your progress so far. Having family support is really important to our success. Keep going and we'll be cheering you on!


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IFEOMA4 10/12/2012 5:14PM

  emoticon its nice to have home support.

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DRAMAGIRL32 10/12/2012 12:59PM

    Great job! I love how it's a family effort to be healthy. That must be helpful and a great bonding experience for all of you.

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GARDENCHRIS 10/12/2012 10:14AM

    glad you have such nice support!

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MANILUS 10/11/2012 5:42PM

    Congrats on your progress and you are blessed with a supportive family! I am an individual champion. Keep up the great work!!

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SUSANELAINE1956 10/11/2012 3:53PM

    Good job! emoticon

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SPIRALDOWN 10/11/2012 12:29PM

    Very positive...WTG

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TASHANCARRION 10/11/2012 8:50AM

    WAY TO GO!!! Doing it as a family is awesome. Thanks for the motivation!!!!

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CHANGINGELAINE 10/10/2012 8:59PM

    It's great that you are on this journey as a family!
I am lucky that my husband has joined me also on a path to better health.
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ANASNEWBODY 10/10/2012 8:20PM

    Thank you, I enjoyed your blog. Continue your success and happiness. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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NESARIAN 10/10/2012 8:04PM

    emoticon Such a loving family unit! This was so sweet to read about!

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2TIGRE 10/10/2012 3:17PM

    What a great story!!! I love reading posts like this - they're so inspiring and motivating. Keep up the good work.

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MIPALADY23 10/10/2012 3:08PM

    Sweet!! Nice job!! I'm soooooo excited for you!

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BLESSED2BEME 10/10/2012 12:18PM

    So glad the entire family is in on this together! There is no better support system than that of a family who is working together for the good of each other:)

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ONEATATIME3 10/10/2012 9:58AM

  Lucky to have a loving family who cares so much for you. emoticon emoticon

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STEADFASTNSEE 10/10/2012 8:50AM

  Great Job John! And I too was tricked by your title a bit. HUGS!

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KANOE10 10/10/2012 8:11AM

    Great support with your family.

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MYGOLDENBOYS3 10/10/2012 7:38AM

    Thanks for sharing. Yes, it is a family affair...cannot have two different eaters in the house it doesn't work. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MERRIKATE 10/9/2012 5:23PM

    Yay and BIG BRAVO to you and to all your 'girls', John -- what an inspiring bunch you are! Hang in there, knowing that you've helped me and no doubt others too to get back on track starting Now.
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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/9/2012 2:52PM

    You and your family are doing fantastic!! That is an amazing amount in 5 weeks.

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ILIKETOZUMBA 10/9/2012 11:53AM

    This was so beautifully written, and what a fantastic inspiring story! Your family sounds wonderful and caring and committed to one another. I don't want to sound cheesy, but this was really heartwarming to read. :) Thank you for sharing. And congratulations on you and your family's weight loss! LOL I love the comparison to a small child. I always like to think that I've lost a teenage girl (120 lbs), and I envision myself carrying around one of my cousins on my back all day long as the way I used to be when I was 244 lbs. I really enjoy comparisons like that. I'm glad your family lost this child! :)

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KIMPY225 10/9/2012 10:59AM

    Traffic job! keep up the awesome work!

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WALKINGCHICK 10/9/2012 8:11AM

    Well done you - on hearing the sentiment from your family, on acting on this sentiment, and on making the progress that you have in this short time. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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    Good for all of you !
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FLUTTER-BY)L( 10/9/2012 12:22AM

    love that it has involved the entire family. Awesome accomplishment


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PCASEY7 10/8/2012 11:28PM

    Good for you all! You must be really proud! You're a great example of getting back up, dusting yourself off and trying again! Keep up the great work!

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ROCKYCPA 10/8/2012 11:26PM

    Good job - congrats on losing a "child".

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WORKINGSTIFF 10/8/2012 10:46PM

    John-

How great that you and your family are there for each other. Alone we can do a lot, but with the help of others, each can be unstoppable!

Thanks for sharing.

Helen

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MELLABELLAS 10/8/2012 10:34PM

    Great job!

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ROCKETGIRL229 10/8/2012 9:01PM

    Congratulations! I hope this week is great to you!

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    Great support system you have there!

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 10/8/2012 8:25PM

    Very awesome!

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The 13th Apostle

Friday, October 05, 2012


A blog about me and you :)

  
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LOLAINSC 10/8/2012 4:06PM

    Couldn't agree more--so we better get to work writing Acts 29.
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KELLYPAQ 10/8/2012 6:03AM

    I also couldn't see your post, only the title and the comment " a blog about me and you".

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LOUISE6296 10/7/2012 10:18AM

  Could you post the 13th Apostle again? It just never came through. Thank you. I'm sorry to miss it. Lou

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NUNZIATA43 10/6/2012 12:52PM

    John,

Thoroughly enjoyed your introspection! Gives me something to ponder and I have not though along these lines in the past, but it certainly makes sense. I appreciate that you go ahead and "put it out there'" for us. Love the video (and your hat of course lol). Have a wonderful day and weekend. I can honestly say my day has improved because of you! God Bless! Nanci emoticon

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KATHIC2 10/6/2012 9:50AM

  You are a very wise man. Thanks!

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REGILIEH 10/6/2012 9:01AM

    Oh John! I LOVED it! I believe you are one of my angels on earth. You do inspire me and help me keep hope for all things. I hope I don't sound crazy as I'm really just a normal person but I do love your blogs! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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NASFKAB 10/5/2012 1:38PM

  great blog as usual

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GENEALOGYGAL 10/5/2012 11:46AM

    Loved your Vlog! Thank you, I will ponder your words today. emoticon

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    Great vlog,thank you emoticon

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HOAGIE22 10/5/2012 8:54AM

  Git Er Dun!!!!

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