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Writing Our Story Part 1: The Here and Now

Tuesday, October 02, 2012

I saw a cartoon the other day that pictured of an attorney talking on the telephone. The caption read, ďIím sorry mamí I never heard of anyone suing a mirror manufacturer.Ē Iím not a huge fan of mirrors. They point out things Iíd rather not see. They point out the here. Iím not always in the mood to deal with the here and now. Let me create a vision of the future. Itís much less threatening and easier to manage. Iíll only get a negative payoff from the future when it fails to come to pass and Iíll blame myself, just like I do for everything else that goes wrong in my life. Remain positive, listen to uplifting music create a collage of everything you always wanted and allow it to collect dust somewhere. Itís not real.

Wow John, thatís an awfully dim view of things. Iím making a point. We are so, so caught up in the latest and greatest feel good that we neglect to look in the mirror and love and appreciate the current version of ourselves. What do we think that weíll learn all that positive behavior and loving appreciation of ourselves once we reach our goals? We view it as a reward. ďI can finally beÖÖ.Ē Everything else in our world suggests practice makes perfect. We donít hop in a car at the legal age and take off down the road. We practice, we study and we gain experience.

Itís hard to look in the mirror and see the real value we offer this world. Weíre too caught up in reading other peoples stories and wishing that we somehow had the wisdom to ďbe like them.Ē The here and now cries out ďHere I am, warts and all. I have something unique and special to offer you.Ē Some days the mirror is clear, some days dusty and some days I swear itís cracked, but itís MY mirror, created just for that amazing, yet often flawed version of me. There is no before and after, there is only now and the now should be embraced, warts and all starting today.

On my bulletin board this morning: ďMy name is John. I am warm and witty and Iíll be the best friend you ever had. I am charming but I also believe that at times there is no one who knows any more than I do. My smile and booming voice fills a room when I enter. I do not suffer fools patiently and often wish the world moved at my pace. I take time to share part of me with everyone I meet because I know what itís like to feel abandoned and without a friend. I am a compulsive over eater, an emotional eater and I struggle almost daily with the fear brought on by panic/anxiety disorder. They are fears that almost never come true. I love to smile. ď

SoÖÖÖ.What about you?


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KELLYPAQ 10/5/2012 5:59AM

    You always give me something to think about during the day. Glad I found your blog.

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HDHAWK 10/4/2012 6:55PM

    Love it John!

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KATHIC2 10/3/2012 8:36AM

  You are a wise and thoughtful man.

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JENAE954 10/3/2012 7:35AM

  Thought provoking words!
Thanks for your wise words.
Can't wait for your next blog...

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ANATASHIKI 10/2/2012 2:50PM

    lol, I usually don't "see "the image in the mirror and lately my only problem is the rebellious hair that grows too fast.I don't know if I accepted myself or whatever . I KNOW I am extraordinary. so are you. emoticon emoticon

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SHERIO5 10/2/2012 2:05PM

    You've written some powerful stuff here, my friend.

I (and most people I know) struggle at some point with worth, what constitutes value, and certainly, physical attractiveness, or lack of...sigh...but the truly lasting things of value and worth won't be found in the mirror, as you've put so well!

So, as I read recently, breathe in God, and be thankful, breathe out, and smile!

Thanks for sharing your heart. emoticon

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KIMCOLLINGS 10/2/2012 1:06PM

    Love this. Something I really struggle with but such a terrific reminder.

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CHANGING-VICKI 10/2/2012 11:35AM

  I'm glad to have the time to "get it right". emoticon

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MARITIMER3 10/2/2012 11:07AM

    I am so grateful that my husband accepts me. Warts and all!

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Wow John...Talking about Food For Thought!!!!

Kind of difficult to respond to this one! I love what you are saying and I am sure you are an absolutely wonderful man and Joan a wonderful girl, too. I think perhaps she might reflect your true beauty. You must admit..The mirror makes it much easier to shave each morning.

For me..I like my mirror. the reflection is not as pretty as I would like physically, but it does keep me honest. Sometimes I gaze into my own eyes and stare long enough to try and see my own soul.

I like honesty..In myself and in others. That is what I like about you.

You know the song," Im not as Good as I once was...Well, I am thinking that applies to just about everyone over the age of 28 that has NOT had Botox or some other enhancement. lol.

It is not about how we look as you well know. It is about being the person God created us to be. It would be so much easier for us to have to gaze into a pool to see our reflection..that way we do not have to see ourselves as the world sees us.

I spent the last 4 years depressed about my husband getting killed. I have moved on or at least in the process of moving on. I have had to use Music to cheer me up at times..To lift my spirit a bit. I say Use what ever it takes..Do whatever it takes.

The mirror reflects the physical part of you, but your Smile reflects your soul.

I am me.. God loves me. My Doggy loves me. Infact, My Dog thinks I am the best and most beautiful person on Planet Earth. Who Am I to argue with Laney Puddles..

Have a truly Blessed Day. We will be your mirror..My mirror says you are a nice looking man with a heart of gold. I'll bet if I asked your better half she would say the same thing..

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HLPRATT 10/2/2012 10:20AM

    I love honesty and you are right there John. That's the trouble with that mirror it doesn't lie and sometimes I'd rather not face it. But not facing it or beating ourselves up doesn't help either. Honesty is a valuable commodity,

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/2/2012 10:12AM

    I simply love myself warts and all. I don't spend much time analyzing myself. As Popeye says, " I yam what I yam.' LOL.

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JAE_HENNINGTON 10/2/2012 10:12AM

  I always enjoy your posts.. I am trying to rewrite my own story into something that is outtstanding and so different from my past.. my thoughts get in my way of believing things can be different.. i am working on it

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REGILIEH 10/2/2012 9:51AM

    Oh John, I wish I could know you and Joan in person, how great thou art! You are one of the very best things about Sparkpeople! I think your mirror is the Best! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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October Goals

Monday, October 01, 2012

Success can be vastly over rated. Mostly, itís the day to day things, the often tedious and boring things that make the difference between us running around doing the happy dance or sitting with our head in our hands and wondering what happened. Itís called the ďday-to-dayĒ for a reason and quite often, to use a scientific term ---------- It sucks.

So as I set my October goals I bear this in mind. Simply put Iíll continue with what worked in September and refine it, add to it, explore different avenues and venues. Here are my plans for October:

1.) Iím going to work on food variety with an emphasis on more vegetarian meals. Truth be told I love veggies but I have a huge lazy gene in me that would rather wait in line at McDonalds than prepare a nice stir fry. Iím going to substitute lower calorie foods when possible. I adore butter. Recently I have been using butter substitutes and they take a bit of getting used to but once I do they are fine. I plan on exploring other possibilities.

2.) I met with a yoga therapist on Friday for two hours and we discussed ways to reduce my back and leg pain levels while increasing my flexibility. The pool is providing me with good opportunities but I am getting bored and I KNOW what happens to me when I get bored. I have a bit of a challenge. As George Clooney said in O Brother Where Art Thou? ďThis place is a geographic phenomenon. Itís two weeks away from everywhere.Ē There is not a lot of hands on support in my community. Iím going to drive two hours one way to work with the yoga therapist

3.) Everything that happens in my day hinges on that first important step I take each morning. If I am mindful and practice relaxation and meditation each day I find clarity and control over my actions. My anxiety levels decrease and I make better choices. When I fool myself into believing that I can ďget byĒ for a few days is when I run the ship aground. Some folks raise their eyes at this but let me ask you a question? If you are diabetic do you randomly take insulin and pray your blood sugar levels will work themselves out? Of course not!!! It seems that when we deal with the emotional or spiritual we put a different spin on things. My October goal is to be more consistent in this area while accepting what is in my life.


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LYNMEINDERS 10/7/2012 6:45PM

    Great Goals John

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SHERIO5 10/1/2012 7:07PM

    Great goals!

I'm sorry you have to drive so far to reach your yoga therapist, but maybe you can get some "maintainence" type exercises to do after a few sessions. I love yoga for strength and relaxation, and primarily, for pain relief. If you haven't discovered them already, there are yoga DVD's which are done well and can help you with pain relief, or beginning or maintaining your practice. I do most of my yoga at home.

Best wishes on your October goals, and your continued success!!

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JEANNETTE59 10/1/2012 5:50PM

  I center myself with prayer and meditation morning and nightand can't imagine life without this practice.
Find the joy in every day, you are on a wonderous journey emoticon

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AJDOVER1 10/1/2012 4:38PM

    You reminded me what a friend once told me, "I mediate every day, unless I'm too busy. Then I meditate more often."

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ANATASHIKI 10/1/2012 2:57PM

    sounds like a good plan . good luck on sticking to them !

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JENAE954 10/1/2012 12:24PM

  You really (!) are goal oriented.
Good for you!

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 10/1/2012 11:50AM

    Awesome goals! keep up the great work!

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NEELIXNKES 10/1/2012 11:18AM

    Sounds like good goals. emoticon

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DOTTIEJANE1 10/1/2012 10:46AM

    You are so right day to day , choice by choice is what breaks or makes this journey. Have a FAB. OCT .

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OUBACHE 10/1/2012 10:10AM

    Great goals. I would love to learn how to meditate to reduce anxiety. I'm going to make it a goal of mine to find someone who can help me do this. Keep up the great work!

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SUNSHINEGB 10/1/2012 9:22AM

    Right on! I make out my goals for the month but it is the day by day stuff that makes it or breaks it.
Wishing us the best for the month of October!
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MISSPEACHES3 10/1/2012 9:06AM

    Love the great attitude. emoticon emoticon

Thanks for posting.

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NASFKAB 10/1/2012 9:05AM

  great goals best of luck

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    Good luck with the goals. I hope you have a great month!

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BUSYGRANNY5 10/1/2012 8:46AM

    Good for you!!! Keep on keeping on!!!!!

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KITT52 10/1/2012 8:25AM

    you are so right this is a day by day journey ....finding what works and sticking with it..

Have a healthy Oct.

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My September Goals ........... How Did I Do???

Sunday, September 30, 2012

Itís hard to believe September has already come and gone. Itís time to account for my September health goals. I wrote a blog in early September where I told you, my dear friend and reader, that I was going to concentrate on three areas of improvement. I felt if I was successful in each area it would reflect when I stepped on the scale. Letís see how I did.( Iím as excited as you guys are!!!)

My first goal was practicing portion control. Iíll give myself a solid B in this area. Plastic measuring spoons and cups arenít all that expensive!!! For me, it was creating and taking the time to accurately measure and not saying ďYeah, that looks like a half of cup, donít it?Ē Was it a pain? Yes indeed it was, especially for the first week ,but like anything else we repeat it became a habit. I received a pleasant surprise at mid-month. Our daughter Katie is a lifetime Weight Watcher member somehow ended up with two digital scales. She gave us one. This is a major benefit for me. It accurately weighs anything you desire. During this time I began to practice substituting, also. I love butter!!! I started using butter substitutes and this will be one of my goals for Rocktober. (More about that tomorrow.)

My second goal was to keep moving. Joan and I swim each morning before work and I walked and cycled also. I took one day a week off and it can best be described as a ďfloating day off.Ē Iíd work it in around my schedule. The more I move the less anxious I am and the less anxious I am the less likely I am to abuse food. I am an emotional and compulsive over eater and I always will be. If I choose to be healthy, wealthy and wise I have to develop strategies to maintain a good balance in my life. Keep moving is one of them. I exercised no more or no less than 30 minutes each day. I give myself an A here.

My third goal was creating at least ten minutes of ďquiet timeĒ for myself each day. This goal was the most difficult to work towards. I give myself a C here because Iíd get so busy that Iíd look at the clock and wonder where the day went. When I took time to meditate for ten minutes each day I found I slept better and had a clearer focus. Taking time to accomplish this is taking time to slay the excuse monster deep inside of me that bleats out things like ďBut youíre a busy dude, dude.Ē or ďThere are only so many hours in a day.Ē Ten minutes, minimum, thatís all Iím looking for. I didnít attend the yoga class Iíd planned on. Well, let me say I went to one class and saw it as being much more advanced than I was ready for. No worries. When the student is ready the teacher appears.

So letís see how I did, hey? (Drum roll please!!!) During the month of September I lost 14.4 pounds. For a man thatís not a lot, BUTÖÖÖÖÖÖ I donít feel nervous, anxious or pushed into embracing the ďDĒ word. I feel pretty balanced right now. Tomorrow Iíll share my October goals.

As always thanks for your love. Namaste

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SLIMLEAF 10/9/2012 11:13AM

    I was away hill-walking in Scotland last week and am only now catching up on your blog, so although this comment is somewhat late, I still wanted to say


Both for sticking to your goals (by the end of a month I reckon many of us have forgotten what our goals were for that month let alone achieved them!) and also for your weight loss. Despite what you said, I think 14.4 pounds is a really big amount to lose in a month, so Well Done!

As for me, I'm on Day 4 of the Fall 5% Challenge and the big challenge for myself today is to do some strength training...

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RSTENNER 10/1/2012 2:55PM

    Wow, John, 14 and a half pounds in a month is great! Keep up the good work!

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REGILIEH 10/1/2012 2:07AM

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GEEMAWEST 10/1/2012 12:00AM

    As always you are a great inspiration to me and give me lots to think about. Now I just need to stop 'thinking' and 'just do it'. I have been suffering from a lot of headaches lately and am thinking that maybe it's because I am not doing much exercising these days. Ever since I hurt my back and then my ankle I have not gotten back into regular exercise. I know, I know, I just need to make it happen.

So quit nagging me, will ya! emoticon

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HDHAWK 9/30/2012 7:15PM

    You're building consistency John, which shows in your numbers lost. I'm proud of you. I hope you are too! I hope you and Joan had a lovely day together!

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ME_FIRST 9/30/2012 6:01PM

    14 lbs lost in a month is a Very Respectible number. You get an A+ for that one giving you a darn good average on your September report card. I like Rocktober. I'm going to spend some time now deciding what my Rocktober goals are and how I will accomplish them. Thanks for for sharing your success.

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    Totally amazing!! I would love to lose that much weight in a month.

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JEANNETTE59 9/30/2012 4:15PM

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ADELE66 9/30/2012 3:27PM

    Excellent! In every way!!


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MAUITN 9/30/2012 2:50PM

    Do you realize that 14 1/2 pounds in a month is over 3 1/2 pounds a week and is 174 a year. Not shabby. Not shabby at all. Celebrate it!

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TMW54812 9/30/2012 1:57PM

    Outstanding! The world makes way for a man with a plan! emoticon

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WONDERFUL2BME 9/30/2012 12:48PM

    Yea, for meeting your goals. 14 lbs is a lot of weight no matter how you look at it. I lost 10 lbs this month which was my goal for each month. I was told I might be setting the goal too high. Hmmmm. I think not! I also measure once a month and I have lost lots of inches... an inch in my wrist and inch and a half in my hip (across the stomach). It is exciting to know I don't have to fear the scale or tape measure any more. I know the truth and I know each day it gets better!

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PATTERD707 9/30/2012 11:52AM

    Wow! That's amazing. 14+ pounds in month is not something to sneeze out. You're clearly doing MANY thing right. Much to build on!

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DR8561 9/30/2012 11:33AM

    Sounds like you had a good month! Great job with the weight loss! I can relate to problems finding quiet time. I live with my husband, mother, and 2 sons and quiet anything is hard to come by. emoticon

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NASFKAB 9/30/2012 11:31AM

  awesome fantastic

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ANATASHIKI 9/30/2012 11:22AM

    that's great and don't say it's not much for a man , I say it's fantastic ! emoticon

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PJBONARRIGO 9/30/2012 11:21AM

    A loss of 14 # is a giant plus on anyone's scale LOL I liked reading about your September goals and can see their merit; I think I need to borrow them. I'm looking forward to reading about Rocktober :-) emoticon

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CARTOONB 9/30/2012 11:20AM

    Congratulations on remembering your September goals and doing so well with them.

One question, though. Your inner excuse monster is a surfer dude? Dude? emoticon

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KATHIC2 9/30/2012 10:59AM

  Awesome! I will try your strategies and hope to see a loss.

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TXTOAD9970 9/30/2012 10:57AM

    Congratulations on meeting the goals you set for yourself and for losing 14.4 pounds. I think that's quite an accomplishment for one month! Keep up the great work and keep sparkin'!

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LOOKY-LOU 9/30/2012 10:53AM

    Fourteen pounds in one month...doesn't matter if you are a man a woman or a yak, that is a fantastic accomplishment of extraordinary proportions!!!

You ROCK! emoticon


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What If You're The Answer To Someones Prayers?

Thursday, September 27, 2012

Weíve been working with a young couple; helping to plan a banquet. They work for the facility hosting the banquet and in the last six weeks between meetings, phone calls and email, weíve come to know them pretty well. She is an administrative coordinator and he works there part time. Heís in graduate school studying to be physical therapist. They have the cutest six month old son. They are struggling. Joan suggested we get a gift card from one of our grocery stores and mail it to them in an anonymous fashion, so to speak. I reflected on this in the wee hours of this morning, when all my cares and woes decided to visit all at once and a voice, very clear, but gentle spoke to me.

ĎWhat if youíre the answer to a prayer?Ē

This journey towards health can be a very selfish one. Itís often a ďMe,me,meĒ sort of thing. MY weight, MY diet, MY exercise, MY accomplishments. Yeah, we have teams and challenges and warm fuzzies to make us continue, but often we put on blinders to the rest of humanity.

Havenít we suffered enough, though? Donít we deserve to devote that time we squandered in the past solely to ourselves? We have our own worries and woes, right? What if, in all the struggle, and pain and confusion our lives produce; what if during all the aches, pains and plateaus, God, however you conceive Him or Her to be calls on you to be the answer to someoneís prayer?

Itís not all about ME and I struggle with that until an angel or two, in the form of a physical therapist and his wife, remind me that WE are often the answer God supplies to anotherís prayer.


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HDHAWK 9/30/2012 7:17PM

    Lovely gesture. You're married to a very smart lady!

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MARITIMER3 9/30/2012 5:08AM

    Sounds like your wife is a kind, wise woman.

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KATHIC2 9/29/2012 9:46AM

  You are very thoughtful and inspiring. If we are not the answer to a fellow human's prayers in this life and on this earth, who is?

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FUN2BAROUND 9/28/2012 8:51PM

    Thanks for the reminder to listen to God's message to me. And what a great idea for a random act of kindness for a sweet couple!

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LYNMEINDERS 9/28/2012 12:52AM

    Awesome...this happens to me quite often

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DOODIE59 9/27/2012 9:40PM

    Lovely blog. Thank you for the reminder to appreciate and be grateful, and to consider others.
Best wishes for a wonderful weekend:)

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HLPRATT 9/27/2012 9:20PM

    I'm so glad to know that some people think like this. It restores my faith in humanity

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JENNY888 9/27/2012 6:41PM

    Thank you for the beautiful blog John.

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 9/27/2012 3:08PM

    Thanks for the reminder!

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RSTENNER 9/27/2012 12:55PM

    Thanks John, you inspire me again. I just want to remind you to be an encouragement everyday to someone. Thus, Joan is so right. Send the card! We had someone send us a gift card years ago when we were struggling with groceries with 5 young children. It was $50 to a meat market, and it was such a blessing. It made me know that someone loved us out there in that big world and we could make it through! Have a great day! :)

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SPEEDY143 9/27/2012 12:26PM

    emoticon thanks for the blog emoticon

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LOVINGKATE 9/27/2012 12:04PM

  Thank you for sharing this blog with us John. This is so true. God speaks to us in so many ways. Joan was spot on and you as well. God has blessed us all .
We need to put God front and center and he will speak to us in ways we never dreamed of. It's not about us, it's about others. Yes we come first, yet we need to put our focus on what Jesus would do. Our bodies are our home of the holy spirit. All around us are people in need of one thing or another. I feel if we focus on that and less on poor me we will succeed in our journey of weight. When we give of ourselves the blessing does come back, more ways then we know.
John, you are one of my blessings. God bless you and your family.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 9/27/2012 11:56AM

    Joan certainly is an angel, isn't she. You married well as my husband likes to say. It strikes me as a funny statement. We were always meant to help other. Every day in fact. It's the gift of service and we all have access to it whether it is time or money.

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    How nice to read your blog this morning, John. This is how i have felt all my life since I was a little child of maybe 7 or 8 years old.

Sometimes we do get caught up in our day to day lives and do forget the most important thing of all, humanity.

What is wonderful is that even when we are distracted for a moment by what is going on around us..we have an angel (wife in this case) that wakes us from our(nap).

You are so blessed. I am so happy that you have such a loving and thoughtful wife. I am sure you are just as wonderful as she.

I know God smiled when you came to this realization and I know he continues to smile as you write your blogs..Thank you so much for reminding us what being a good Christian is all about. Thank you for doing God's work. The disciples are with him so it is up to us to continue his work, That is how I see it. lol

God Bless and Keep you, your family and friends. Imogene aka LaneyPuddlesMom
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SLIMLEAF 9/27/2012 9:33AM

    And didn't Jesus say it's more blessed to give than to receive?

May God bless you, Joan and your friends.

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JEANNETTE59 9/27/2012 9:28AM

  Great Blog emoticon

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NASFKAB 9/27/2012 9:25AM

  Beautifully put thought provoking

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REGILIEH 9/27/2012 9:17AM

    BEAUTIFUL!!!! and soooo true! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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NEWMOM20121 9/27/2012 8:59AM

    Love the blog. Thank you so much for sharing.

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ANGIEJAY77 9/27/2012 8:53AM

    I loved reading this blog. Thank you for reminding me it isn't all about me. I've been struggling myself lately, but...there are other people, many others, that are worse off than me. I need to remind myself to take the blinders off and, even if I can't support someone financially, I can be there for them in other ways.

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Creating A Mindful Plan For Ourselves

Saturday, September 22, 2012

Being overweight is not a punishment for some past transgression. Youíre nodding your head in agreement but the first time there is a misstep the mind monkeyís start making all those monkey noises and suddenly youíre reliving the second grade when you pilfered your best friendís dessert. Iím not preaching, Iíve been there and I have done that. When I joined Spark close to three years ago and lost weight in massive chunks I was, as Travis Tritt once sang ďTen feet tall and bullet proof.Ē I was never going to hit one of them there plateau things nor was I going to ever regain any weight either. Wanna know whatís worse? I would sorta-kinda look down my nose at those folks who did have ďissues.Ē Poor people, they just didnít get it. Well, my plateau lasted close to two years and did I tell you during that time of self-punishment I regained all the weight Iíd lost?

We punish ourselves for so many things that go beyond our control. We are overweight for a variety of reasons but lack of character and moral fiber isnít one of them. (I know lottsa skinny people who are mean.) When things donít go as planned we donít look at adjusting the plan to suit our own circumstances we immediately stare at the floor and pull out the whip and begin telling ourselves to ďDo better,Ē whatever that is. I mean, we had to do something wrong, right? If we hadnít then weíd be like all the beautiful people we envy so often.

Question for you, do you ever take your car to the mechanic, tell him your check engine light is on and then proceed to let him know it probably happened because of something you did when you were 18? Nope, you let him diagnosis the problem, repair the car. You ask what caused the situation. You donít pull over to the curb and look in the rear view mirror and say ďYou nasty, nasty person you!!!!!Ē This journey is yours and yours alone. Itís like going to buy a suit or a dress. We all donít walk around wearing the same thing because our tastes are different and some things fit other people better than others.

We stumble, we fall and get back up and say ďHmmmmmm what do I need to adjust here?Ē Real health is about establishing mindful behavior. Itís about looking at yourself, no matter how painful that process may be and making corrections to move you towards balance. Iím in the middle of that process. I am an emotional eater. I have started asking myself, why? I wonít bore you with all the details but Iíve found my thoughts and ideas are linked to my behavior. Tara Brach writes that things that are real arenít always true. We may feel hurt and alone and engage in all kinda of destructive behavior because we believe that we are not capable of being loved. The feelings are true and real. We hurt, we suffer and we are in pain. Are we unlovable? Uhmmmm, no. As long as there is a Divine Presence in this universe we are bound and joined by love. Our pain is real; our reasons for being in pain arenít always true.

Okay, enough Saturday philosophy. That will teach Joan to leave home all alone while she goes to a craft show!!! (I know I coulda gone but Iím not in a crafty mood today.) I tell you all this stuff to illustrate a behavior. I changed my weigh in date from Sunday to Saturday. It fits my schedule and my comfort level much better and I just feel more relaxed doing it that way. I listened to myself and my body and soul. I became mindful to the real purpose of this journey. Itís for me to be happy and healthy. They go hand in hand.
Weight loss is not a punishment and nutrition should not be a restriction because we donít see ourselves as other people see us. It is our loving practice of making the whole us all we can be and during that process we find the real love inside of us.

So I weighed myself this morning and there is two pounds less of me then there was Sunday. Itís almost inconsequential. Iím learning so much more the second time through. Itís all about me. You Too!!!! Listen to yourself, love who you are and then go out there and light a dark corner with one of your best smiles.


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SPARKENISTA 9/28/2012 8:26PM

    You certainly make some great points here, as usual. I am really having a problem with my weight lately. Of course, I need a reason for this apart from eating too much.

I had a hunch an googled the medication I'm on. Sure enough, others are having the same problem. I'm going to have to speak to my doctor. Very frustrating.

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JANIEWWJD 9/26/2012 7:57PM

    I loved your blog. Weight loss is a positive thing. Keep up the good work!!!!
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FITBODME 9/25/2012 12:15PM

    Weight loss is not a punishment and nutrition should not be a restriction because we donít see ourselves as other people see us.

This is going to stick with me today, thanks John! I was searching for a blog that would help get me back on track emoticon

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 9/24/2012 5:05PM

    Love your blogs! Thanks for posting this!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 9/24/2012 10:45AM

    The all or nothing attitude gets us nowhere. We will have set backs just like in other areas of our lives and we have to accept them with grace, try to correct our failings, and move on. Congratulations on the weight loss.

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MARCYNA 9/23/2012 1:27PM

    I agree!!!!!I normally tend to lose weight when I stop punishing myself and let myself free to follow my body's instructions., thanks for ths blog!!!

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KATHIC2 9/23/2012 10:59AM

  Words to live by.

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NASFKAB 9/23/2012 8:28AM

  thanks great blog

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KELLYPAQ 9/23/2012 7:43AM

    CartoonB, funny comment about feeding the skinny people. You may be onto something. John, good post. I'm glad I found your blog.

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LYNMEINDERS 9/23/2012 12:02AM

    A big Amen to this blog John

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CARTOONB 9/22/2012 11:13PM

    What was Joan thinking, leaving you alone? Doesn't she know that you need constant supervision? emoticon

Great post, as always.

BTW, skinny people who are mean are just hungry. Feed them.

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    Great post. I'm also an emotional eater and really can relate to this post. Thanks for sharing and letting His light shine through.

Peace -

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ANDASI 9/22/2012 7:53PM

    Excellent blog. Lot of truths here. A journey of exploration trial and error and success and through it all having patients love and understanding with yourself.
Many answers lie within and around us waking to them and being receptive to them is a gift.


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JEANNETTE59 9/22/2012 4:11PM

  Another emoticon Blog

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DEBRITA01 9/22/2012 4:00PM

    Figuring out the Why is an important piece of the puzzle...until then, we are destined to repeat the behaviors. Another good blog, John...thanks. emoticon

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MEME102 9/22/2012 2:20PM

    Thanks for your great blog and insight!! I, too, have fallen off the wagon one too many times and would let it override any other thought process I might have! I am s-l-o-w-l-y learning that I can do this but with COMMITTMENT (hence my blog I'm being Committed) I had the motivation to change - but I couldn't commit to it longer than 1,2, 3 days or if I was lucky even 5!! I am on Day 7 of my commitment now -- and I intend to keep it. Reading words you've shared will help!

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JENAE954 9/22/2012 2:02PM

  Thanks for the wise words.

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    Thank you again John.
Love the Go out and light a dark corner with one of your bright smiles.

I have been a bit sad today. I had a mild difference of opinion with a friend(my scale) It gave me back 2 pounds that I don't think I should of had returned to me)

I am not going to let it rule my day. I am going to keep doing all the right things, planning healthy meals and exercising. I know next week the scale will reflect my committment to myself in a more favorable way.

God Bless you and May he keep Lighting your pathway. emoticon

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NEWMOM20121 9/22/2012 12:36PM

    Well said.

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ONEKIDSMOM 9/22/2012 12:33PM

    "As long as there is a Divine Presence in this universe we are bound and joined by love. Our pain is real; our reasons for being in pain arenít always true."

Deep and apropos! Thanks for this one.

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REGILIEH 9/22/2012 12:27PM


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