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What If You're The Answer To Someones Prayers?

Thursday, September 27, 2012

We’ve been working with a young couple; helping to plan a banquet. They work for the facility hosting the banquet and in the last six weeks between meetings, phone calls and email, we’ve come to know them pretty well. She is an administrative coordinator and he works there part time. He’s in graduate school studying to be physical therapist. They have the cutest six month old son. They are struggling. Joan suggested we get a gift card from one of our grocery stores and mail it to them in an anonymous fashion, so to speak. I reflected on this in the wee hours of this morning, when all my cares and woes decided to visit all at once and a voice, very clear, but gentle spoke to me.

‘What if you’re the answer to a prayer?”

This journey towards health can be a very selfish one. It’s often a “Me,me,me” sort of thing. MY weight, MY diet, MY exercise, MY accomplishments. Yeah, we have teams and challenges and warm fuzzies to make us continue, but often we put on blinders to the rest of humanity.

Haven’t we suffered enough, though? Don’t we deserve to devote that time we squandered in the past solely to ourselves? We have our own worries and woes, right? What if, in all the struggle, and pain and confusion our lives produce; what if during all the aches, pains and plateaus, God, however you conceive Him or Her to be calls on you to be the answer to someone’s prayer?

It’s not all about ME and I struggle with that until an angel or two, in the form of a physical therapist and his wife, remind me that WE are often the answer God supplies to another’s prayer.

Namaste

  
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HDHAWK 9/30/2012 7:17PM

    Lovely gesture. You're married to a very smart lady!

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MARITIMER3 9/30/2012 5:08AM

    Sounds like your wife is a kind, wise woman.

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KATHIC2 9/29/2012 9:46AM

  You are very thoughtful and inspiring. If we are not the answer to a fellow human's prayers in this life and on this earth, who is?

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FUN2BAROUND 9/28/2012 8:51PM

    Thanks for the reminder to listen to God's message to me. And what a great idea for a random act of kindness for a sweet couple!
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LYNMEINDERS 9/28/2012 12:52AM

    Awesome...this happens to me quite often

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DOODIE59 9/27/2012 9:40PM

    Lovely blog. Thank you for the reminder to appreciate and be grateful, and to consider others.
Best wishes for a wonderful weekend:)
Deirdre

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HLPRATT 9/27/2012 9:20PM

    I'm so glad to know that some people think like this. It restores my faith in humanity

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JENNY888 9/27/2012 6:41PM

    Thank you for the beautiful blog John.

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 9/27/2012 3:08PM

    Thanks for the reminder!

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RSTENNER 9/27/2012 12:55PM

    Thanks John, you inspire me again. I just want to remind you to be an encouragement everyday to someone. Thus, Joan is so right. Send the card! We had someone send us a gift card years ago when we were struggling with groceries with 5 young children. It was $50 to a meat market, and it was such a blessing. It made me know that someone loved us out there in that big world and we could make it through! Have a great day! :)

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SPEEDY143 9/27/2012 12:26PM

    emoticon thanks for the blog emoticon

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LOVINGKATE 9/27/2012 12:04PM

  Thank you for sharing this blog with us John. This is so true. God speaks to us in so many ways. Joan was spot on and you as well. God has blessed us all .
We need to put God front and center and he will speak to us in ways we never dreamed of. It's not about us, it's about others. Yes we come first, yet we need to put our focus on what Jesus would do. Our bodies are our home of the holy spirit. All around us are people in need of one thing or another. I feel if we focus on that and less on poor me we will succeed in our journey of weight. When we give of ourselves the blessing does come back, more ways then we know.
John, you are one of my blessings. God bless you and your family.


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MORTICIAADDAMS 9/27/2012 11:56AM

    Joan certainly is an angel, isn't she. You married well as my husband likes to say. It strikes me as a funny statement. We were always meant to help other. Every day in fact. It's the gift of service and we all have access to it whether it is time or money.

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LANEYPUDDLESMOM 9/27/2012 10:43AM

    How nice to read your blog this morning, John. This is how i have felt all my life since I was a little child of maybe 7 or 8 years old.

Sometimes we do get caught up in our day to day lives and do forget the most important thing of all, humanity.

What is wonderful is that even when we are distracted for a moment by what is going on around us..we have an angel (wife in this case) that wakes us from our(nap).

You are so blessed. I am so happy that you have such a loving and thoughtful wife. I am sure you are just as wonderful as she.

I know God smiled when you came to this realization and I know he continues to smile as you write your blogs..Thank you so much for reminding us what being a good Christian is all about. Thank you for doing God's work. The disciples are with him so it is up to us to continue his work, That is how I see it. lol

God Bless and Keep you, your family and friends. Imogene aka LaneyPuddlesMom
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SLIMLEAF 9/27/2012 9:33AM

    And didn't Jesus say it's more blessed to give than to receive?

May God bless you, Joan and your friends.

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JEANNETTE59 9/27/2012 9:28AM

  Great Blog emoticon

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NASFKAB 9/27/2012 9:25AM

  Beautifully put thought provoking

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REGILIEH 9/27/2012 9:17AM

    BEAUTIFUL!!!! and soooo true! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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NEWMOM20121 9/27/2012 8:59AM

    Love the blog. Thank you so much for sharing.

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ANGIEJAY77 9/27/2012 8:53AM

    I loved reading this blog. Thank you for reminding me it isn't all about me. I've been struggling myself lately, but...there are other people, many others, that are worse off than me. I need to remind myself to take the blinders off and, even if I can't support someone financially, I can be there for them in other ways.
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Creating A Mindful Plan For Ourselves

Saturday, September 22, 2012

Being overweight is not a punishment for some past transgression. You’re nodding your head in agreement but the first time there is a misstep the mind monkey’s start making all those monkey noises and suddenly you’re reliving the second grade when you pilfered your best friend’s dessert. I’m not preaching, I’ve been there and I have done that. When I joined Spark close to three years ago and lost weight in massive chunks I was, as Travis Tritt once sang “Ten feet tall and bullet proof.” I was never going to hit one of them there plateau things nor was I going to ever regain any weight either. Wanna know what’s worse? I would sorta-kinda look down my nose at those folks who did have “issues.” Poor people, they just didn’t get it. Well, my plateau lasted close to two years and did I tell you during that time of self-punishment I regained all the weight I’d lost?

We punish ourselves for so many things that go beyond our control. We are overweight for a variety of reasons but lack of character and moral fiber isn’t one of them. (I know lottsa skinny people who are mean.) When things don’t go as planned we don’t look at adjusting the plan to suit our own circumstances we immediately stare at the floor and pull out the whip and begin telling ourselves to “Do better,” whatever that is. I mean, we had to do something wrong, right? If we hadn’t then we’d be like all the beautiful people we envy so often.

Question for you, do you ever take your car to the mechanic, tell him your check engine light is on and then proceed to let him know it probably happened because of something you did when you were 18? Nope, you let him diagnosis the problem, repair the car. You ask what caused the situation. You don’t pull over to the curb and look in the rear view mirror and say “You nasty, nasty person you!!!!!” This journey is yours and yours alone. It’s like going to buy a suit or a dress. We all don’t walk around wearing the same thing because our tastes are different and some things fit other people better than others.

We stumble, we fall and get back up and say “Hmmmmmm what do I need to adjust here?” Real health is about establishing mindful behavior. It’s about looking at yourself, no matter how painful that process may be and making corrections to move you towards balance. I’m in the middle of that process. I am an emotional eater. I have started asking myself, why? I won’t bore you with all the details but I’ve found my thoughts and ideas are linked to my behavior. Tara Brach writes that things that are real aren’t always true. We may feel hurt and alone and engage in all kinda of destructive behavior because we believe that we are not capable of being loved. The feelings are true and real. We hurt, we suffer and we are in pain. Are we unlovable? Uhmmmm, no. As long as there is a Divine Presence in this universe we are bound and joined by love. Our pain is real; our reasons for being in pain aren’t always true.

Okay, enough Saturday philosophy. That will teach Joan to leave home all alone while she goes to a craft show!!! (I know I coulda gone but I’m not in a crafty mood today.) I tell you all this stuff to illustrate a behavior. I changed my weigh in date from Sunday to Saturday. It fits my schedule and my comfort level much better and I just feel more relaxed doing it that way. I listened to myself and my body and soul. I became mindful to the real purpose of this journey. It’s for me to be happy and healthy. They go hand in hand.
Weight loss is not a punishment and nutrition should not be a restriction because we don’t see ourselves as other people see us. It is our loving practice of making the whole us all we can be and during that process we find the real love inside of us.

So I weighed myself this morning and there is two pounds less of me then there was Sunday. It’s almost inconsequential. I’m learning so much more the second time through. It’s all about me. You Too!!!! Listen to yourself, love who you are and then go out there and light a dark corner with one of your best smiles.

Namaste

  
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SPARKENISTA 9/28/2012 8:26PM

    You certainly make some great points here, as usual. I am really having a problem with my weight lately. Of course, I need a reason for this apart from eating too much.

I had a hunch an googled the medication I'm on. Sure enough, others are having the same problem. I'm going to have to speak to my doctor. Very frustrating.

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JANIEWWJD 9/26/2012 7:57PM

    I loved your blog. Weight loss is a positive thing. Keep up the good work!!!!
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FITBODME 9/25/2012 12:15PM

    Weight loss is not a punishment and nutrition should not be a restriction because we don’t see ourselves as other people see us.

This is going to stick with me today, thanks John! I was searching for a blog that would help get me back on track emoticon

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 9/24/2012 5:05PM

    Love your blogs! Thanks for posting this!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 9/24/2012 10:45AM

    The all or nothing attitude gets us nowhere. We will have set backs just like in other areas of our lives and we have to accept them with grace, try to correct our failings, and move on. Congratulations on the weight loss.

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MARCYNA 9/23/2012 1:27PM

    I agree!!!!!I normally tend to lose weight when I stop punishing myself and let myself free to follow my body's instructions., thanks for ths blog!!!

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KATHIC2 9/23/2012 10:59AM

  Words to live by.

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NASFKAB 9/23/2012 8:28AM

  thanks great blog

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KELLYPAQ 9/23/2012 7:43AM

    CartoonB, funny comment about feeding the skinny people. You may be onto something. John, good post. I'm glad I found your blog.

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LYNMEINDERS 9/23/2012 12:02AM

    A big Amen to this blog John

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CARTOONB 9/22/2012 11:13PM

    What was Joan thinking, leaving you alone? Doesn't she know that you need constant supervision? emoticon

Great post, as always.

BTW, skinny people who are mean are just hungry. Feed them.

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LIFEISPURRFECT 9/22/2012 9:40PM

    Great post. I'm also an emotional eater and really can relate to this post. Thanks for sharing and letting His light shine through.

Peace -

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ANDASI 9/22/2012 7:53PM

    Excellent blog. Lot of truths here. A journey of exploration trial and error and success and through it all having patients love and understanding with yourself.
Many answers lie within and around us waking to them and being receptive to them is a gift.

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JEANNETTE59 9/22/2012 4:11PM

  Another emoticon Blog

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DEBRITA01 9/22/2012 4:00PM

    Figuring out the Why is an important piece of the puzzle...until then, we are destined to repeat the behaviors. Another good blog, John...thanks. emoticon

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MEME102 9/22/2012 2:20PM

    Thanks for your great blog and insight!! I, too, have fallen off the wagon one too many times and would let it override any other thought process I might have! I am s-l-o-w-l-y learning that I can do this but with COMMITTMENT (hence my blog I'm being Committed) I had the motivation to change - but I couldn't commit to it longer than 1,2, 3 days or if I was lucky even 5!! I am on Day 7 of my commitment now -- and I intend to keep it. Reading words you've shared will help!

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JENAE954 9/22/2012 2:02PM

  Thanks for the wise words.

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LANEYPUDDLESMOM 9/22/2012 1:24PM

    Thank you again John.
Love the Go out and light a dark corner with one of your bright smiles.

I have been a bit sad today. I had a mild difference of opinion with a friend(my scale) It gave me back 2 pounds that I don't think I should of had returned to me)

I am not going to let it rule my day. I am going to keep doing all the right things, planning healthy meals and exercising. I know next week the scale will reflect my committment to myself in a more favorable way.

God Bless you and May he keep Lighting your pathway. emoticon

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NEWMOM20121 9/22/2012 12:36PM

    Well said.

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ONEKIDSMOM 9/22/2012 12:33PM

    "As long as there is a Divine Presence in this universe we are bound and joined by love. Our pain is real; our reasons for being in pain aren’t always true."

Deep and apropos! Thanks for this one.

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REGILIEH 9/22/2012 12:27PM

    AMEN!!!

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The F Word

Thursday, September 20, 2012

Did you know we are hard wired for survival? It goes back to primitive times when literally walking out your front door was a coin toss. Our bodies and minds adapted to those circumstances and as we evolved as human beings we were taught that survival was our top priority. Hopefully there is no one waiting for us outside our front door this morning. We’ve morphed in a way, though. We view each challenge, and each new experience as a threat to our security. If we’re not on top then we are surely on the bottom. Ever heard the saying, “Second place is first loser?” Since there are no dinosaurs around to snatch us off the front yard we look for other ways to satiate our survival instinct. We even use our kids. They have to be smarter, prettier, more athletic and popular than the kid next door because if they’re not, well they “won’t get ahead.” (Whatever that is!)

Okay, enough of the rant. I could go on for days telling you things you already know and some of you are starting to feel your survival mechanism beginning to kick in. So I have a question for you. It pertains to this journey we are traveling on together. You know this march towards health? Are ya having fun? Are ya looking for new ways to replace the old behaviors and are ya treatin’ them like an adventure rather than an obligation? I’m not talking about running around grinning from ear to ear. I’m talking about plain old down in the dirt fun?

Come close I’ll whisper a secret to you. I tried doing this without a lot of fun and I failed. I got close to my goal weight and because I hadn’t replaced a number of negative and unhealthy thoughts with fun activities and adventure…………..

Lemme put it this way: You pull all the weeds from the garden before you plant your flowers, right? Otherwise the flowers don’t grow. We put our minds and bodies through a bit-o-hell when we decide to become healthy. We “remove,” we “take away.” What do we replace it with other than carrots, celery and fruit? Because we are hard wired to survive after a bit our bodies take back over unless……….

We have to weed the garden, till the soil and ENJOY it. Slowly the weeds die out and they are replaced by an amazing bouquet of flowers. We don’t say, “I used to have weeds there!” We care and tend the flowers and we have fun doing it.

So maybe you had a gain this week, maybe the scale didn’t move or maybe the siren song of ice cream was too hard to resist. It’s over, it’s done and you can’t change the past. Smile and look for something energize you.
Go have fun and don’t worry a lot about survival, unless a dinosaur pokes his head in your kitchen window tonight and tries to snatch you up.

Namaste

  
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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 9/22/2012 9:13AM

    A dinosaur might make me move a little quicker, but it probably would not be too much fun.

Thanks for the reminder....

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    emoticon food for thought! emoticon emoticon

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NASFKAB 9/21/2012 10:48PM

  great blog thanks

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ONELUCKYSUSAN 9/21/2012 6:00PM

    Oh, John, what an awesome blog today! I can so relate to weeding the garden because it seems as though I did a lot of that this summer, and more weeds remain! I enjoy the dickens out of a freshly weeded yard and using that analogy for my journey to health is perfect. I need to plan better, stick-to-it better, believe in myself better. Thank you for the inspiration! emoticon

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GALINAZ 9/21/2012 1:58PM

    You are a wonderful writer! I'm thinking a lot more about how to "play" each day

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MORTICIAADDAMS 9/21/2012 12:48PM

    I discovered long ago that I'm not too good at suffering so for me to do an exercise or even a certain diet it has to be fun for me. Otherwise my tiny attention span leads me astray.

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DR8561 9/21/2012 12:16PM

    I needed that today. emoticon

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KELLYPAQ 9/21/2012 5:45AM

    You helped me to start my day with a smile on my face. Thank you

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LYNMEINDERS 9/21/2012 1:55AM

    I ,love it...thankyou so much for writing this.....this is freedom

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JANIEWWJD 9/20/2012 11:32PM

    Very well said!! Have a great day tomorrow and God bless you!!!!
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CARTOONB 9/20/2012 10:05PM

    Excellent plan. I will enjoy my garden.

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JENAE954 9/20/2012 8:53PM

  Love the idea of the weeding of the mind before replanting.
Thanks much!

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JEANNETTE59 9/20/2012 3:22PM

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SGRAY478 9/20/2012 2:35PM

    I like the idea of weeding the garden of our minds before re-planting. Well said John!!

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FITBODME 9/20/2012 1:16PM

    Thanks John, I'm going to have some fun today choosing and eating a healthy lunch. emoticon

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CRYSTALJEM 9/20/2012 1:13PM

    Really liked this and you are so right! I like how you pointed out about what we are striving for (e.g. the kid analogy) only to realize that "whatever that means". How often don't we say things exactly like that without giving any thought to what it really means to us, or to others. Too much of life is just "filler" for the sake of "filling" whether it's thoughts, food or wasted activity and opportunity. Just incase, though, I'm keeping my eyes peeled for dinosaurs. lol.

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DEBRITA01 9/20/2012 12:05PM

    Sometimes we have to let our inner child loose and have fun. I loved the garden analogy, too. emoticon

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ADELE66 9/20/2012 11:24AM

    I absolutely love the garden analogy! And I am completely with you!

Adele (planting flowers as we speak!)

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SLIMLEAF 9/20/2012 10:42AM

    Hello John.
I'm tentatively posting on Spark People again and I like your blog.
Thought you'd like to know.
Slimleaf / Lindsay

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 9/20/2012 10:22AM

    Great way to look at things! I always enjoy your blogs.

Hey, maybe the ice cream is today's "dinosaur!" emoticon (closest to a dinosaur they had! ) RAWR!

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STEADFASTNSEE 9/20/2012 10:17AM

  Having FUN on this journey; or another way to see it JOY-filled Journey. Good idea. Maybe that's why I gained back. Hmm.

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PATTERD707 9/20/2012 10:13AM

    I've had the privilege of marrying two family members (via internet ordination) and in both I talked about a marriage being like a garden (you have to weed it, and feed it). I think our inner self is like a garden too, as you've alluded to it.

I also like the idea of "getting over" the concept that it's bad to weed, that we should be "above that" or "beyond that now." That's just our inner self trying to trick us, maybe for the survival-type reasons you mentioned above.

Thanks for your blog.

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Diners, Drive-In's and Dives (With Apologies to the Food Network.)

Sunday, September 16, 2012

It would be nice to plan for a perfect route when I’m preparing for a trip. There’d be no detours or delays. I’d arrive ahead of schedule and the road I’d travelled would be smooth and pot hole free. I’d only use one tank of gasoline and there would be no speed limits. Unfortunately, that world doesn’t exist but I use it as a metaphor to describe my life during the past week. My grandmother was much more succinct. She often said the road to hell was paved with good intentions.

I maintained my calorie level this past week it’s just that the quality of calories might best be called “suspect.” Even though I planned well, I hit a few potholes and detours. Close to 70% of my meals were in restaurants. If I could have swerved and avoided them trust me I would have but it’s hard to tell a client you are going to wait in the car eating the meal you packed while they are having lunch. I navigated as best I could avoiding fats, sweets and the dreaded basket of rolls and french fries. In many respects I did pretty well. I made sure my breakfasts were full of fruit and veggies and some whole grain. My snacks were fruit. I decided not to stress because I was doing the best I could given my circumstances.

So when I got on the scale this morning it showed I lost .6 pounds. I have to tell you I had mixed feelings. I was glad for the loss but I started feeling some shame and a bit of embarrassment and well you guys know the stuff that goes with the perception that you failed. I paused for a moment and I received a moment of inspiration from of all people the country recording artist Toby Keith. Through my head ran the lyric “I aint as good as I once was but I’m as good once as I ever was.”

There was no failure, a bit of delay, for sure, but no failure. I LOST .6 pounds and I have to tell you that considering all the detours I encountered last week it feels pretty good. Perspective is what counts and living in reality. I stayed true to my exercise regimen and I hit my meditation target 50% of the time. I got lazy for a few days and opted to do some other things. The lesson wasn’t lost on me.

There are no perfect trips; just the ones you and I travel each day. Those trips have more detours than we’d like. Pat yourself on the back when you get through the maze. You are stronger, wiser and much lighter.

Namaste

  
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FATHINSN 10/6/2012 9:35PM

    I wish I'm much better in control at work events but I do try to eat smaller portion :D
Congrats for your pound losses!

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PATTISTAMPS 9/25/2012 11:05AM

    Wish I had read this before I took my business trip this month! You did GREAT! Congrats!

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    emoticon Wonderful to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail. You certainly are a emoticon

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FAVORITEAUNT84 9/21/2012 12:27PM

    At least you made the effort instead of giving yourself a good excuse to just let your nutrition go completely. I'd have totally done that in the past. Until I became aware that I was failing myself by doing that.

Good for you!

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TXLIBRARYLADY 9/21/2012 11:54AM

  "Little by little, a little becomes a lot." Keep it up! emoticon

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KATHIC2 9/21/2012 9:07AM

  Love that song and your blog!

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TERID816 9/21/2012 7:03AM

    Yeah, those great big rolls can be a b*tch! Good for you for conquering the dreaded restaurant challenge! emoticon

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BLOOMING52 9/21/2012 1:50AM

    Tough "assignment"! Way to go!

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KHALIA2 9/21/2012 12:50AM

  You did well! Good luck on the rest of your journey.

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WHITEANGEL4 9/20/2012 11:22PM

    Congratulations on meauvering the detours and bouncing with the potholes. We all have these days in our lives. You managed well and planned for the detour.

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ELSCO55 9/20/2012 11:17PM

    Way to go.

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YOBOELI 9/20/2012 10:49PM

    Good Job

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LOGOULD 9/20/2012 10:16PM

    Perfectionism is not all its cracked up to be. Given all the curve balls thrown your way, you're doing GREAT! I heard a message yesterday relating to baseball that really drove the point home to me. (and I'm not even a baseball fan!) A truly great baseball player is doing awesome when they bat 350 (out of 1000) - so who am I to say I'm a failure or any less of a success when I am only on target 8 or 9 times out of ten?!?!

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HYATTI1 9/20/2012 9:54PM

    Its a tough road but someone has to drive it. You and I have a lot in common. I enjoy reading your blogs from time to time. Keep up the good work.

Joanna

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QTEALADY20031 9/20/2012 9:21PM

    Well, said. I think too may times our detour can be through the fast food drive-thru. I think you did well with a loss. A loss is a loss and it sure is better than a gain! Good for you! emoticon emoticon

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MAVERICK59 9/20/2012 4:39PM

    Well said!

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LSIG14 9/20/2012 3:04PM

    Fantastic perspective!! I have been going through life sailing along and then hitting a pot-hole and staying there. I guess I need to accept that I can get out of the pot-hole and go on with the trip. Thanks so much for this post and congrats to you for making the reality of life work well!

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JANEINE 9/20/2012 1:34PM

    I think your metaphor about the pot holes is so right. None of us are perfect, nor is our world. I had done very well until I had to eat out this week. My conclusion is that restaurant food is not what I want...but I will be more careful on what establishment I pick when it is necessary

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CRYSTALJEM 9/20/2012 1:08PM

    And sometimes those detours make the trip more worthwhile than expected. Sounds like you learned, succeeded and managed to enjoy for the most part. Wow! Way to go! No wonder this blog was voted most popular. Have a great rest of the week. CJ

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GINA180847 9/20/2012 11:51AM

    The way I see it you did very well in spite of the fact that it wasn't exactly as you might have planned. I totally understand your confusion. You had a map, were unable to follow it but got there anyway, hence the confusion as you thought you would be good and well lost but weren't. I would take that as a sign somebody up there is looking out for you and you are careful in spite of confusion.

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NATRONA32 9/20/2012 11:28AM

    I understand & can relate! It's hard to congratulate yourself when you feel like you failed (going out to eat so much!) But when that scale shows a positive movement you have to wonder, 'why do I work so hard, when I can slack & still make progress?'
confusing!
I think the bigger part of our journey is to be able to look in the mirror & be happy with what you see. And there is DEF. something to be said for FEELING at the top of your game! When we dont' like what we see or how we feel, then what the scale tells us is irrelevant.
Sounds like you learned a lot from this week & I am glad you shared this blog with all of us!!
Hugs my friend!

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VONBLACKBIRD 9/20/2012 11:21AM

    You are not a failure!!! emoticon

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TONYVAND1 9/20/2012 11:08AM

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PEANUT9157 9/20/2012 10:59AM

  Congratulations on your weight loss! Stay with positive thoughts and stay
motivated. You are definitely headed in the right direction. Also, you have the Spark People with you for any support you should need. Good luck with the rest of your weight loss! emoticon

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TINY67 9/20/2012 10:11AM

    Sounds like a journey that I've been on.

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SJKENT1 9/20/2012 9:40AM

    here's to the journey... including the bumps, detours along the way and victories. Sure makes some good stories too

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CICELY360 9/20/2012 9:40AM

  Good blog

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DENDYLYNN 9/20/2012 9:32AM

  just think, had you lost 3 or 5 pounds it may have given you a license to think you got away with it....you know the way our heads work? You did the best you could with what you had and I think that your weight loss is terrific and humble and is natures way of protecting us from ourselves and our crazy thinking. I know if I had lost several pounds after a difficult week I would take it as permission to do it again.

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HLOCHRIDGE 9/20/2012 9:05AM

    Congratulations on your .6 weight loss! It was a LOSS so don't beat yourself up! We are all proud of you!!!

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EFFRAYECHILDE 9/20/2012 8:48AM

    emoticon You still lost weight, so it means that you have learned a lot from SP. Everyone gets sidetracked once and awhile.

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AMBERD239 9/20/2012 8:45AM

  Every step in the right direction is a good and productive step. Just keep in mind that .6 one week is still an added loss to the big picture and this journey is about the big picture. I say celebrate the fact that even with the detours and pot holes you still accomplished something that goes toward your goal. Great job and here's hoping those pot holes get less and less in the way, life makes it hard sometimes.

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WALLINMW 9/20/2012 8:28AM

  Way to go!

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NOW2DAY 9/20/2012 8:17AM

    Done good.

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AMARILYNH 9/20/2012 7:51AM

    Such is life - you did GOOD!! emoticon

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INTRIBUS 9/20/2012 7:26AM

  Great post!

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LAURANCE 9/20/2012 7:08AM

  Good for you!

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CAMAEL100 9/20/2012 6:38AM

    I think it was a great victory that you carried on with your normal life and managed to eat well enough to record a loss. Surely in past times you would have put on weight being in restaurants that many times. I think our aim should be to be able to live 'normally' and chose good choices.

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THESLIMMERME1 9/20/2012 4:15AM

    emoticon emoticon I can appreciate how challenged you were - but you stuck to your principals and 'loss'. It's a dilema eating out - as one item can consome your 'alotment' for the meal and your still hungry...so I think you did great. emoticon emoticon

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MARITIMER3 9/19/2012 9:47PM

    Reminds me of our recent trip and the "diners, drive-in's and dives" that we ate in... and yet I lost 3 lbs, which really pleased me. Eating out is such a challenge. I know that my fat, protein and carbs were way off track, but I did the best I could. Congratulations on your loss.

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CAROLINAKIWI 9/19/2012 8:51PM

    I guess the trick is staying on the road!! Sounds like you were successful at that!! Congratulations!!!

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FERGSGIRL2 9/19/2012 7:56PM

    You did great, and sounds like you still made the best decisions possible! It's all about taking the detours and still living in reality!

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Losing My Mind Monkeys, If Only For A Bit

Monday, September 10, 2012

Yesterday my mind monkeys wouldn’t let go. No matter how many bananas I tossed them they rode the edges of my brain whispering all sorts of negative mantras. You see, I had just stepped off the scale with ONLY (lol) a 2.2 pound loss. It certainly wasn’t the seven pound loss from the week before.

I was slipping back into old patterns and behaviors, wasn’t I?

I had walked this road before only to stumble and skin my knee and remain, well remain FAT.

At least that’s what those monkeys swinging from my synaptic junctions kept telling me. We’re hard wired for the negative. Everything in our world screams “Make you better.” When we fall short of whatever better is, usually on the cover of US and People, we slip into a state of depression and the monkeys go wild. At least mine do. Yesterday I tossed them a few emotional bananas and while it didn’t totally satisfy them it quieted them down long enough for me to have a really good day that didn’t revolve around what I put in my mouth.

My clothing has begun to fit better. It’s not baggy or anything like that. Let’s say it’s less snug. I noticed it around mid-week. This road has been traveled well too. The mind says something like “Ooooooo you’re gonna weigh in with a huge loss!!” The day comes to weigh in and you want to see if your scale is broken. “But never mind, ignore the nice feeling lose clothes give you it was ONLY 2.2 pounds.”

In reality whatever I am doing is starting to work. I’m following the path of my September goals; portion control, thirty minutes of movement or exercise each day and ten minutes of quiet time each day.

The week following a huge loss is like winning the Super Bowl or the World Series. What do you do the next week; lose eight pounds, then nine the next and suddenly you are on life support? There is a lot of pressure to succeed and when we put it on ourselves only one thing is going to happen; someone finds the key, opens the door and the mind monkeys go wild.

I sat at church yesterday and heard the beautiful gospel reading about Jesus curing the man who was deaf and mute. He uttered the words “Be Open.” The monkeys quieted down. He asked that we open ourselves and our lives to everything that comes our way, good, bad or indifferent. In this story he opens us up to all sorts of possibilities if we only stop for a few minutes and really listen to them.

I am 2.2 pounds lighter, my clothes fit better, I am sleeping better and I am more alert and much more active. When I sit and close my eyes those are the images that dance before my eyes.

What monkeys?

  
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GOOSIEMOON 9/19/2012 10:18AM

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MANILUS 9/15/2012 11:07AM

    Congratulations on working the plan, 2.2 is a good weekly weigh in!

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RAINBOWMF 9/14/2012 1:06AM

    non-scale victories that is what you need.

Sending you an e-mail with a link.

Go over some of this gals blogs--- she was a 3X and is now a large - in 190 days
she did not touch the scale-- she did not let the scale rule- she went by her clothes.
BTW she has weighed now but will not weigh again until Jan. 2013.

Mary

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SPSPSP1 9/13/2012 10:52PM

    Every week your mind and body are getting stronger and healthier. Congratulations!

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WONDERFUL2BME 9/13/2012 12:58PM

    Way to not listen and out smart those negative mind monkeys!

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BARB5970 9/12/2012 10:17AM

    Don't let the monkeys live rent free in your head. That's not only negative, but a waste of mental engery. 2.2 down is wonderful. As a matter of fact, even if it was .02, that's still good. For me even staying the same has become a success. As long as I'm no longer gaining, I'm on the right path. emoticon

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LADILADIDA 9/12/2012 9:43AM

    For me, yoga became a practice of not quieting the mind but more like recognizing it's lack of importance of it's monkey business. Your 10 minutes of meditation, or quiet time as you call it, is a huge win for you. Success is the result of our actions. The action is the present and the present moment feels good. Stick with the present and let the weightloss just be a surprise rather than an expectation. emoticon

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POORGIRL_DIET 9/11/2012 10:18AM

    Well done John, 2.2lbs off is awesome! Good luck for next week

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LYNMEINDERS 9/11/2012 5:25AM

    Woohoo John...2.2lbs...thats awesome...go you...keep doing what you are doing...

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LANEYPUDDLESMOM 9/11/2012 12:25AM

    It all adds up over the long haul. Sure, We all want the big loss..but, sometimes we just have to add up the 2 pounds here and there to get that number.
You are doing it.

It all works out in the end. Right?

Love the Mind Monkey concept. I have several of the dang critters I fight off...sometimes daily. Rebuking the negative thoughts in JESUS Name will help. One day there will be less of the little buggers hanging from the tree limbs.

You will reach your destination...

It's a great journey that we share, full of great people to help us along the way. YOU are one of those people . God Bless. Imogene

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CARTOONB 9/10/2012 10:52PM

    Mind monkeys? LOL! Love the visual.

And you didn't lose ONLY 2.2 pounds. You lost an entire KILOgram. Kilo is for one thousand!! Look how great you're doing to lose over TWO THOUSAND grams. emoticon

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AHAVAH123 9/10/2012 9:46PM

    Excellent!

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LIFEISPURRFECT 9/10/2012 9:38PM

    Mind monkeys? I love it. What a great visual. I certainly have my fair share of mind monkeys. Keeping focusing on those non-scale victories and those mind monkeys will be long gone.

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KELLYPAQ 9/10/2012 9:22PM

    Don't let those negative thoughts creep in. Stay strong and you will see results.

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SAGELADY2 9/10/2012 8:55PM

    Mind monkeys...I'm going to keep that one. They come in all flavors you know? Work, diet, excercise, hair.... I'm visualizing Dorothy on her way to Oz. emoticon

Congratulations on the 2.2 pounds. It's a darn sight better than the alternative on the measuring stick.

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ONEKIDSMOM 9/10/2012 7:19PM

    Monkeys be banished! This is John's house! emoticon

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JANIEWWJD 9/10/2012 7:04PM

    Hey, I think you're doing great!!! Monkeys or no monkeys, lol; keep up the good work!!!
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REFFIE1 9/10/2012 5:05PM

    I wish I could lose 2.2 pounds in a week, so celebrate. Also, even if you did not lose a pound after the 7 pounds it would still be great because you would have maintained that 7 pound loss. Think of the alternative of emoticon gaining 2.2. pounds and you will realize the great progress you made. Those monkey need to swing elsewhere.

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ANGELWENDYMAMA 9/10/2012 4:50PM

    don't disregard 2.2 lbs.. and feeling better and clothing fitting better. YOu're doing GREAT!

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NASFKAB 9/10/2012 3:03PM

  all the best

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REGILIEH 9/10/2012 2:42PM

    I'm glad the monkey's are gone!

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DOODIE59 9/10/2012 2:37PM

    Yes, be open. All kinds of wonderful things can happen. Weight loss is only one of them:)
Deirdre

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SBNORMAL 9/10/2012 2:31PM

  Monkeys are mean and cure and like to kick us when we are down!! I wish I could send my monkeys to the jungle or at least the zoo.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 9/10/2012 1:53PM

    Yep, you have to accentuate the positive. Eliminate the negative. Good old Bing!!

Congrats on the weight loss!!

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SMOCKON 9/10/2012 1:32PM

    If only we could all lose 2.2 pounds each week (which is PERFECT) . . . Let's face it, we want to get off 50-100 pounds overnight. But you know, 2 pounds a week until goal weight gets us to the same place in the end.

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DEBRITA01 9/10/2012 1:30PM

    Oh, how we focus on the scale as the indicator of our success ~ even when we know better!. 2.2 down, improved sleep, and looser clothes reflect great progress. Let's keep feeding those monkeys those bananas...one day they will be off our backs for good! emoticon

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VONBLACKBIRD 9/10/2012 1:14PM

    Wow 2.2pounds in a week would be like winning the lottery for me..I do good losing half a pound a week and I'm not complaining...at least I'm losing!!! Feeding my monkeys now.

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FUN2BAROUND 9/10/2012 1:12PM

    I like the idea of "being open". Think I'll practice that today.
THANKS!
Ellen
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ADELE66 9/10/2012 12:54PM

    Ah... the Silencing of the Monkeys....'tis a wonderful thing!

:o)

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DR8561 9/10/2012 12:26PM

    John 10:10 says the thief's goals are to steal, kill, and destroy. I think the thought monkeys are his little minions. They try to distract us and get us to lose our focus and our confidence to make the thief's job easier. I've been struggling against some of those monkeys myself. I like your goal of setting aside quiet time in your day. I've been missing that in mine.

emoticon We're stronger than we think!

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SHERIO5 9/10/2012 12:24PM

    Ah yes, the monkeys...I think taming the monkeys is the biggest part of the journey...but you are right, when I'm with the Lord, the monkeys are quieter, if not absent.

Have a blessed day! emoticon

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GIRANIMAL 9/10/2012 12:16PM

    Stupid monkeys. I JUST wrote an email to my best friend (who also struggles with weight issues) about how my jeans are uncomfortably tight today, and I know it's my TOM and I sure did eat like it all last week, but come ON, at my worst I am not topping 1800 calories and HOW CAN IT BE that I am one of the ones who seems destined to struggle, struggle, struggle with this for the rest of my life?! It's so unfair! How can you still have an uncomfortable spare tire at 130-135 pounds?! Why does this battle still have to present ALL day EVERY day for the REST of my life?!

Stop it, you silly, screaming monkeys!

All I can say is it's a good darn thing I am FINALLY going to start properly learning yoga. I got a great deal on some classes at a very conveniently located studio. My BF is even going to take some with me! Because seriously, I need to quiet my mind and gain some perspective. These tiny struggles are nothing compared to losing 70 pounds. At least, they shouldn't be. Time to distract the monkeys!




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CHESSARIA 9/10/2012 12:01PM

    This helped me a lot today. I've been watching what I eat, and logging about 90% of it for a week. My exercise goals have been met 90% of the time for the last month. And I have yet to see the scale dip any lower. It's nice to know I'm not alone with my monkeys!

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