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September Goals

Monday, September 03, 2012

My plan this month is simple. Itís to concentrate on the areas of my health journey that need the most improvement. I split them into three areas of concentration and youíll notice there is no number attached. If I follow my intentions here I will lose weight this month. I wonít add the stress of moving towards a specific number because I have learned the body will do what the body will do. No cop out, just a bit of realism. Here they are:

In September Iím going to concentrate on portion control as well as staying within my calorie limits. It means Iíll measure my food when itís practical and use good sense and the correct portions to stay within my calorie limits. This has always been a weak spot for me so I might as well start off building a solid foundation. No more, lol, ďguesstimating.Ē

Keep on Moving. I can create a million reasons not to engage in some form of physical activity so this month I'm going to switch things around and make exercise more of an adventure. I am starting a Vinyasa Yoga Class on Friday morning and I canít wait!!! I love the water so I'll spend more time there. I'm exercising 30 minutes, 6 days per week and I'll keep on doing that. I'm shooting' for consistency. No matter how great I feel Iíll stop after thirty minutes. No matter how many excuses I make Iíll do something for thirty minutes six days a week. The hardest part is going to be letting my body rest one day. Like so many others I am caught in the trance of believing I need to be doing something all the time or I have no value. Sigh

When I become tense I eat. When I am anxious I eat, when I lose focus I eatÖÖÖÖ I am therefore I eat. I am adding three short periods of ďquietĒ each day. Lasting 10 minutes at the most, they are times to stop what Iím doing and focus on letting everything settle and regain balance.

Nothing real fancy here but Iím sure you have felt the same thing --- Consistency can be awfully dull and boring but produces such amazing results.

  
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BESSHAILE 9/9/2012 7:39AM

    I bet that last one will bring the most amazing results!

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CAROLZ1967 9/5/2012 8:41AM

    Great goals and realistic too! You can do it!

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ROSGETSSERIOUS 9/5/2012 8:10AM

    Great goals - you can do it! Consistency will bring awesome results.


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MEME102 9/4/2012 11:21AM

    Good thoughts and a good plan -- may have to develop something like that on my own if you don't mind that I 'borrow'....Good luck and while I'll be waiting for a progress report - no pressure!

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YIWEN39 9/4/2012 8:31AM

    Sounds like a great plan, John! Best of luck and keep us posted emoticon

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LYNMEINDERS 9/4/2012 6:47AM

    Greta goals John...you can so do it....right there cheering you on

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CARTOONB 9/3/2012 10:08PM

    Good goals...and good luck!

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_MOBII_ 9/3/2012 7:01PM

    Consistency isn't always boring...sometimes knowing what comes next is comforting!

It sounds like a great plan!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 9/3/2012 6:04PM

    Sounds like a great plan. We will be here to support you along the way.

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AJDOVER1 9/3/2012 3:58PM

    Consistency may be boring, but it works! September will be a great month for us!

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CUPCAKZ 9/3/2012 2:48PM

    Those sound like great goals. Consistency IS tough but plodding away day after day DOES produce results. Have a great September, John!

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THESLIMMERME1 9/3/2012 2:13PM

    emoticon plan - I like the word 'consistency'
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ANDYINBC 9/3/2012 1:11PM

    You can do it...and you will!

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BARB5970 9/3/2012 11:10AM

    I really like the idea of spenting at least 10 minutes of "quiet" time and "being present". This is something I believe I need to add to my day. So, John, I hope you don't mind, but I'm steeling this idea and adding to one of my daily goals, as well. As always, thanks for sharing.

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VONBLACKBIRD 9/3/2012 10:34AM

    Great plan and certainly do-able...Keep us posted.

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ISHIIGIRL 9/3/2012 10:34AM

    Great goals! You can do it!

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NASFKAB 9/3/2012 10:20AM

  great goals you can do it

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    Good goals! emoticon

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    I'm with you! emoticon

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REGILIEH 9/3/2012 8:04AM

    Good plan! You'll do it!

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SAGELADY2 9/3/2012 8:02AM

    Sounds good. Got me to thinking about what mine are this month. Breaking the month long stall is one of them. :-)

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WENDYSPARKS 9/3/2012 7:35AM

    Good luck!!!!

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Some Success At Last!!!

Sunday, September 02, 2012

I lost another Spark friend the other day. Iíve been there myself. You are ready to hit the ďdeleteĒ button on your account and find some corner to hide in. You are frustrated, you are ashamed, you are scared and most of all you just do not understand why ďthis thing,Ē doesnít work for you. You tell yourself it is time ďfor a break,Ē or ďtime to move on.Ē Iíve been there, Iíve done that and I proudly possess the scars, wounds and insecurities to prove it.

I started my journey almost three years ago believing that if I ate right and exercised daily Iíd look like a cross between Tom Cruise and Matthew McCounaughey. I lost 80 pounds, looked good, felt good. I worked with a personal trainer ran a few 5Kís and life was good. It was after about 6 months that I hit a plateau. I used all the traditional wisdom and nothing seemed to work. That plateau lasted close to two years. Truth be told I regained all the weight I lost because the only logical explanation for my issues were that I was a goof, up, screw up, sort of guy who wasnít worthy of health. I pushed myself physically to the point where I incurred two moderate to severe injuries. The downward spiral steepened. My dad died in March and I immediately put on 10 pounds. I was right back to where I started.

Jesus tells the story of the Prodigal Son. There is a passage in the story that sees the father looking at the son returning home, ďWhile he was a long way off.Ē The son, tired and dejected was coming home; hat in hand to ask forgiveness. The father, miles away leapt for joy. In so many ways I am that son. My head would spin, the scale would groan as much as my back and legs did. I felt eons away not realizing I was millimeters close to finding the right combination.

I wouldnít give up.

Iíd like to tell you it was because a few angels appeared in the corner of my office and showed me the light. Plain and simple, at age 59 I want to live a long time. I lost 6 pounds this week. I didnít do anything spectacular. I discovered what worked well for John, put blinders on to the rest of the world and showed a bit of success. I exercised 30 minutes each day, I stayed within my calorie limits and I took time to ďbe present,Ē at least for ten minutes each day. Tomorrow Iíll write a blog on my September goals.

Today I am going to bask in the glow and joy of success. It was a long time coming. My confidence level is high right now. Thatís because after 3 long years I do believe, in my heart, my own mantra, ďI am worth all the effort I put into myself.Ē

Donít give up dear friend. The road may be steep and long but every now and then there is an oasis of enlightenment that makes this journey worthwhile. As Cat Steven once said ďOh Iím on my way I know I am, somewhere not so far from hereÖÖĒ

Namaste

  
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SCRIPTEDFLIGHT 8/3/2013 2:42PM

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SILLYHP1953 1/30/2013 10:48AM

    Thank you, thank you, thank you for still being here when I came back after a few months hiatus. I hadn't read blogs since July but I started reading today.

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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 9/13/2012 7:12AM

    I've been here for 6 years and hit a 3 year plateau and currently back at that range - struggling to move beyond that barrier again. It's so good to know we're not alone in the journey. And you're right - we sometimes have to put our blinders on and do what works for US. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

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TERRIJ7 9/12/2012 1:29PM

    Well done, John!

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MYUTMOST4HIM 9/11/2012 8:54AM

    Wonderful encouragement - thanks for being so transparent

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LIVINHEALTHY9 9/9/2012 8:13PM

    Good for you for staying strong and sticking with it.

I am struggling with seeing any results lately and it is frustrating. But, I am not going to give up.

Thanks for sharing your blog.

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JUNETTA2002 9/8/2012 6:49PM

    Good For you. You can do this. Just remember one step at a time.

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KSGROTHE 9/8/2012 2:40PM

    emoticon I've been away for a while myself. I keep telling myself I need to get back on track, and then I don't. I've put back on all the weight I lost + 10 lbs or so. Blech. I sunk into bad habits which I'll have to break again. Inertia makes it hard to get started again.

Thanks for the inspiring blog!

- Karen

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LEANMEAN2 9/8/2012 7:50AM

    Thanks for sharing.

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FOUNDER3 9/7/2012 10:03PM

    Been there, done that, have ALL of the Tshirts.

Since coming to Spark People about 4 1/2 years ago, I have been working on putting all of that behind me, (well, there is enough behind me already, but you get the idea).

I have up days, down days, up periods of time, and down periods of time. The only thing that has been consistent is coming to Spark People even during the really down times.

I did have a period of time when I could not use the computer because of back issues, but even then I tried to get here at least a couple of days a week.

Stories like yours, keep me grounded, keep me going.

Learning to love myself, and let go of the old negative messages has helped a lot.

Living one day at a time, one small change at a time, has made it all so much more manageable

I know something about how you feel. At least I think I do

Congratulations on bringing yourself back, and recommitting yourself to this journey. The rewards are great emotionally, mentally and physically.

I am so happy that you are here. This is the place to be, don't 'cha know!

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I know you can do it, one day at a time.

Bonnie

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GOPINTOS 9/7/2012 6:40PM

    Congrats on the 6! Weight loss is a crazy deal. Ups and downs. Just keep doing the right things, and the weight loss will come. For me, that is limiting my carbs, moderate proteins, high fats. When that quits working, I will try some other combo :)

Best of luck to you!

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XENATHOMAS 9/7/2012 6:06PM

    Namaste

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TRUCKERSMRS 9/7/2012 1:17PM

    Thank you for such an inspiring blog. We are all worth the effort - we just need to remember it at times.
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VOLLEYGIRL77 9/7/2012 11:41AM

    Awesome blog! Thanks for the supporting words :)

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    Great blog! emoticon

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    Congrats! Keep up the good work! emoticon emoticon

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MTREFRY 9/7/2012 9:03AM

    Thank you for sharing your trials with us! You are an inspiration emoticon

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ROUNDTOWNMOM 9/7/2012 8:54AM

    You are inspiring me today when I need it most. I've not regained every ounce I've lost, but I've regained 9 lbs I didn't ever hope to gain back. Thanks for this.........and thanks for not giving up on yourself!!!!

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NESSY759 9/7/2012 8:30AM

    good job on not giving up. you can do this

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WENDENANNIE 9/7/2012 12:53AM

    Good for you dear Spark friend!

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RAINBOWMF 9/7/2012 12:14AM

    emoticon blog. emoticon

Mary

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CORINA-MOMOF4 9/6/2012 11:43PM

    great blog! You can do it!!

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FATHINSN 9/6/2012 11:37PM

    Don't ever give up! Let's us support each other through ups and downs!

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MOMKAT4310 9/6/2012 10:15PM

    Awesome. Sorry for the loss of your father. Glad you decided to stick with SparkPeople even when on the plateau. And congrats.

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TXGRANDMA 9/6/2012 10:08PM

    Great Blog! So many of us have been where you were, but are still here, trying every day to improve! If we can just get one little thing at a time going our way, then put it all together, eventually (that is the key word here!) we will get where we are going!
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CLUMBOY 9/6/2012 9:22PM

    wonderful blog. way to go! all the best to you.

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SPEEDY143 9/6/2012 8:44PM

    emoticon YOU are worth all the effort and your SparkFriends are encouraged by your struggles because we are all human and have..... "Been there, done that!!!!" Spark On John and emoticonon the first of many 6 pound losses on your journey to better health emoticon emoticon

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DONNAJZ4241 9/6/2012 8:37PM

    What a wonderful blog. I know exactly how you feel. It will be 2 years in October since I have joined Spark and I have struggled consistently in the past year. Every day I wake up with the best intensions...telling myself today will be the day. Sometimes I get through a day or two or maybe even 3 if I'm lucky. Then my luck runs out and I am back in the same situation...wonderful when something will "click" so I can be on my way to a healthy me. Thank you for sharing your story with us. It is stories like this that give me the courage to keep trying. Good luck in your journey!

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LOLAJO54 9/6/2012 8:16PM

    oh wow started reading this blog and it hit home big time.. I am people like this I know people like this ...

ďI am worth all the effort I put into myself.Ē
love this

thank you

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CKAYTHOMAS 9/6/2012 7:44PM

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Never give up.

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NASFKAB 9/6/2012 7:06PM

  thoughtful great blog asusual

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KACEYSW 9/6/2012 7:04PM

    Thank you for the encouragement. Sometimes that wall seems so daunting!

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JULIA1154 9/6/2012 4:46PM

  Thank you, John. We all need to be reminded of the need to a) persevere and b) find our own path and stick with what works for us. You did so, eloquently.

(I'm sorry for the loss of your father, John. I'm sure he must have been very proud of you.)

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YAFENELRA 9/6/2012 4:15PM

    It is a long struggle but with Sparks it can be done.

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PRAIRIECROCUS 9/6/2012 3:34PM

    Good for you !
Congratulations !
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ALBERTAROSE57 9/6/2012 3:30PM

    oops, posted twice, sorry.

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ALBERTAROSE57 9/6/2012 3:27PM

    They say that messages will come when you need them the most, from the most unlikely sources. I was giving up this week, today actually. Tonight is the weekly weigh in, and with a dismal 6 weeks behind me - was ready to say wth??? I have only started my journey (again), and 6 weeks in and 14 pounds down am frustrated. I've tracked until I can track no more :P I've been so faithful of making sure I get a balance in my diet. I have ADHD, so exercise is never a problem - I just don't sit still. I have trouble not looking at the 80 pounds ahead of me, and the commitment to stick it out for as long as it takes is daunting. My knees groan, my back aches - and I have very little patience with myself. It's very comforting to know that this is quite a "normal" feeling that others have gone through. Thank you :)

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MAMAOWLS 9/6/2012 2:58PM

    Thank you for writing this it could almost be my story except that I've only put on 10 pounds. I know I just need to rededicate my self to me and I can finish the journey I started almost 2 1/2 years ago. Thanks for reminding me that I am in control and I can do it. emoticon

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GENEALOGYGAL 9/6/2012 2:00PM

    Thank you so much for writing these wonderful words of encouragement and success. The road we are on can be very hard and very treacherous at times. So happy you discovered your way back. Total success is just around each bend. You ARE worth every effort! (I say this with sweat, dripping hair and a tummy that is growling...and after all the hard work and staying on track...actually gained .8 today...haha...how in the world is that even possible?). I refuse to give up. We are so worth it.
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LOGOULD 9/6/2012 1:14PM

    SO happy for you John. It is harder to stick with the program the further along you go, and maintenance is a BEAST! I hate the word maintenance because it sounds like so much stagnation.....and then the slippery slope to putting it all back on. I managed to catch myself at a 10-15 pound gain and am almost halfway to taking it back off. Let me tell ya, it's harder this tine around, but I am beginning to realize how good it really feels - not going there again! Way to stick with it!!!

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JIBBIE49 9/6/2012 12:58PM

    emoticon What an honor to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail. emoticon

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JLLOVETT 9/6/2012 12:07PM

    What a powerful, inspiring story of SUCCESS!! emoticon Day by day, step by step, that is what I keep telling myself.. Congrats on your mental override!!

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KIARARAMIREZ 9/6/2012 11:58AM

    Thank you for that, I woke up feeling like everything I'm doing is for nothing. After reading your blog, I feel much better and very encouraged. I'm not doing it for nothing, I'm worth it! You are an inspiration, I hope you know that. God bless you

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SPIRIT42013 9/6/2012 11:56AM

    Thanks?, John!! I won't! And if I do, I hope someone will b**** slap me! Take care, and read what you wrote here OFTEN! emoticon

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WALKSINLIGHT 9/6/2012 11:28AM

    Awesome ! Congratulations ! emoticon Thanks for Sharing
and Dinja - just think, if you are losing/gaining the same 2 pounds, you are not putting on weight anymore so you have definitely started journeying on the right road - hang in there !
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GINA180847 9/6/2012 11:26AM

    Good for you John, the job is much harder for some of us than others. Be it mind clutter, stinkin thinkin, whatever, as long as we do not give up we are still in the game.

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What Do YOU Regret?

Friday, August 31, 2012


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THESLIMMERME1 9/3/2012 2:10PM

    emoticon for the perspective - my only comment is what have I learned - sometimes this answer comes after I have experienced life - then move forward with new goals and objectives - live today to enjoy tomorrow! emoticon emoticon

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BARB5970 9/3/2012 11:23AM

    Wow, great words of wisdom.... You're absolutely correct. Spending too much time thinking about regrets is a total waste of energy.

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LYNMEINDERS 9/2/2012 7:27PM

    Brilliant...thankyou so much for this

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HDHAWK 9/2/2012 10:49AM

    Wow! I do spend too much time on things I can't change.
Have a lovely weekend!

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MARITIMER3 9/1/2012 8:47PM

    I regret not giving up regrets a long time ago. I focus on enjoying today and making tomorrow a better day for myself, my friends and my family.

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BARBIE66 9/1/2012 9:18AM

    hey John great message you made me think and try to stop thinking about regrets in my life thanks

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TRISTAROSE 9/1/2012 7:03AM

    This is something I need to work on .... Thanks for another great Vlog!

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_MOBII_ 8/31/2012 11:24PM

    That is one of the hardest things I have to work on! Too often we spend too much time looking back playing the 'woulda, shoulda, coulda, but didnt' game.

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SMCKINNEY4 8/31/2012 2:01PM

  Great talk, don't waste what time we have on things that don't really matter. I almost lost my health over this very thing. Learning to let go was hard at first but has gotten easier everyday.

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JOSTENGER 8/31/2012 1:58PM

    Fabulous!

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NASFKAB 8/31/2012 12:54PM

  awesome I do grieve over mistakes I have made but its time to move on thanks for your blog

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COOKINGIRL 8/31/2012 12:52PM

    What a wonderful blog! Great recommendation to let go of what never happened. Keeping my mind focused on what is good and meaningful in life lets joy into my heart.

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MY_YEAR_IS_2012 8/31/2012 12:30PM

    The only thing I can say is that even though you know that there is somethings that you can not grieve about from your past does not mean that you can focus on setting goals like running that marathon. ALL THAT i am saying is that don;t limit the potential possibibies that may come....sometimes positive visualization does go along way.

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TJCADDO 8/31/2012 11:50AM

    This was so lovely! It helped me alot. I do grieve over crucial mistakes I have made in my life. These mistakes are so heartfelt, but I need to be strong and push past it and look at today's blessings.

I am not one to blame others, but I carry a heavy burden of responsibility that I need to lay down.

Thank you so much and you have a good weekend too!

Nan

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SPARKLISE 8/31/2012 10:42AM

    So true!
I spend way too much time grieving over things that never happened or wish they had happened.
I too, am trying to let go.
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DEBRAPHINA 8/31/2012 10:01AM

  Interesting thoughts!!

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CHANGING-VICKI 8/31/2012 9:40AM

  You always make me think John. I spend way too much time grieving over things that never happened as well as things I know never will happen ( like running a marathon). It's time to be more accepting and do the best I can with what I do have control over.
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SHELLIECAN 8/31/2012 9:35AM

    What an eloquent speaker you are John, and what thought provoking words.

Thank you for sharing.

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ANDYINBC 8/31/2012 9:18AM

    I don't know if it's my iPad but Nothing shows up above. I will check later on my laptop.

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BEACHBUM4LIFE 8/31/2012 9:11AM

    Great blog!! Very thought provoking for me!!

Hope you have a great Labor Day week-end!

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A Smile is For Free

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

I get eight or ten devotionals and motivations each morning and this one is always my favorite. I often pass things on or write about them dear ones because I get the feeling or intuition someone out there needs to read them. If you have the time to day would you pass this on?


"If you can make just one person smile today, if only by giving them one of yours it just might change their entire week... which just might change their entire life.

I know these things,
The Universe"

Namaste

  
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BARBIE66 9/1/2012 9:25AM

    thanks for this message you made me smule and today going to pass it along emoticon

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LYNMEINDERS 8/30/2012 3:54AM

    Absolutely...a smile is one things that doesn't cost us....like you said it is free....
i would certainly have passed it on...it is brilliant....

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STEELKICKIN 8/29/2012 10:44PM

    So very true!
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CARTOONB 8/29/2012 10:34PM

    Good idea!

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HDHAWK 8/29/2012 7:35PM

    I get these too. Love them!

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ONEKIDSMOM 8/29/2012 6:28PM

    emoticon Here's mine, for you today!

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MARCYNA 8/29/2012 11:47AM

    Thanks your input is so precious.................I have no words....Love,
Marcyna

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SUSANSERENE 8/29/2012 10:55AM

    Beautiful, John! It worked! I smiled and I feel better already!

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CBRIGGS1956 8/29/2012 9:30AM

    Love it

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ANDYINBC 8/29/2012 9:30AM

    Smiling. Thanks!

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PURPLE180 8/29/2012 9:30AM

    Love it! And I just shared it (the blog & a smile). :-)

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Namaste

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NASFKAB 8/29/2012 9:03AM

  great quote thanks

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ANGIEJAY77 8/29/2012 8:48AM

    I love this. Thank you for sharing!
Namaste

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MORTICIAADDAMS 8/29/2012 8:31AM

    Great quote!!

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ELRIDDICK 8/29/2012 8:16AM

  Thanks for sharing

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EMGERBER 8/29/2012 8:15AM

    A smile can do more than many words!

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Who Rules The Roost, My Mind or My Emotions

Tuesday, August 28, 2012

Along with many of the other challenges I embrace in my life I am an emotional eater. Pick an occasion and I can find a reason to celebrate or bemoan it with food. Itís never healthy or nutritional food. Nope a change of attitude calls for a five star indulgence and everyone knows that usually includes things that cause arteries to clog. Those periods of indulgence are followed by moments of guilt, self-accusation and a general overwhelming feeling of failure. That ever happen to any of you? Donít get me wrong, itís not like I walk around holding a ham in one hand and a chocolate cake in another. I self sooth with food and of all the bad habits I have encountered in life this has been the hardest one to deal with. But ďah-haĒ there is hope.

If you are waiting to read about some quick fix, some magical incantation please skip the next part. Itís not. It requires practice and can often be very frustrating and it sounds simple. Itís taking a very deep breath, closing your eyes and being quiet. Itís pulling the plug on your mind and memory and for two or three minutes and letting everything settle. Itís rebooting and restoring stability and oh yeah, BTW, it works.

Afternoons are my busiest and most stressful time of day. I will feel myself going off in ten different directions one of which is towards the refrigerator. Thereís a moment of panic followed by a moment of closing my eyes and letting everything settle down. Itís letting all the worries, cares and concerns take a break while I am quiet. I concentrate on my breathing. I allow my body and mind to disengage and to simply relax. Iíve noticed when I open my eyes the craving is gone or subsided to being manageable. The technical term is called ďhomeostasis.Ē It means that all of me and you are in balance. When I allow my emotions to override my sense of balance I have used food as a quick fix. Then Iím out of balance and all the nasty behavior that goes along with it.

ďYeah John, but I donít have the time to take three or four minutes to refocus. Iím a busy person.Ē

Seriously, I thought that too until I did an informal time study on how long it took me to dig out some cash, walk to the vending machine, make my decadent selection, return to my desk, unwrap it, devour it, and spend a cursory moment or so kicking myself for choosing the Milky Way. It takes about three or four minutes. Same with walking upstairs to the fridge, looking through it, etc.

Close your eyes and breathe deep. Let your mind empty. All that stuff can wait. Let everything settle and let your body and mind find a natural balance. Itís not easy some days because we are not conditioned to be quiet. It can be scary but if you persevere you might still be hungry but you may choose an apple over a cookie. Itís called choosing with your mind rather youíre your emotions. It takes some practice and I canít tell you I always get it right but I find itís getting easier and so are my choices.

Two to three minutes, you have that for yourself, donít you?

Namaste

  
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LADILADIDA 9/5/2012 8:23AM

    Breath is the best and first nutrient to the body. NAMASTE!

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DEBRAPHINA 8/31/2012 10:22AM

  I will try this!!

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SCHOOLCOOK2 8/29/2012 2:10PM

    Very good idea. When I am tempted and get a big glass of water and drink it and then get as far away from the kitchen as i can get. My hubby is really good and does his own cooking, for alot of things I can't have now with my esphagus problem so he says don't worry about me, just care of yourself. The mind can take you to bad places if you don't control it. We will conquer.

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SUSANSERENE 8/29/2012 11:00AM

    Wow! What a great idea! I'm definitely going to try this. Thank you, John! emoticon

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MYOWNHERO 8/29/2012 7:37AM

    Great idea. I'll try it.

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LYNMEINDERS 8/29/2012 7:03AM

    Awesome....and so right....a great blog...

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ANDYINBC 8/29/2012 2:27AM

    Great ideas, thanks for posting this blog!

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REGILIEH 8/29/2012 12:21AM

    It works, I have been doing that with stress for years. Good advice.

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GEEMAWEST 8/28/2012 11:21PM

    Hmmmmm? Makes sense to me. emoticon

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CARTOONB 8/28/2012 10:53PM

    Good point.

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POPSY190 8/28/2012 9:18PM

    I sometimes play a computer game for a minute or two, or email a friend - it usually works.

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LINDA7668 8/28/2012 8:21PM

    Great idea! I'll have to try it.

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NEEDBU66 8/28/2012 8:05PM

    I'll have to try that. I liked the 3 minutes lost anyway fact

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ONEKIDSMOM 8/28/2012 7:07PM

    I concluded this time through the journey that there is NOTHING so urgent it can't survive waiting for me to take my ten minute stress-relief walk-break. Controlled deep breathing is an incredible even shorter way to get life back in perspective.

Well written, as usual, John!

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HDHAWK 8/28/2012 6:46PM

    Boy, do I need to work on this one. With school starting less than a week ago it's a very overwhelming time. All I can think about is work! I need to take those mini breaks.

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SLIMLEAF 8/28/2012 6:28PM

    Oh John! Thank you for sharing that tip - at last something practical I can do to battle the emotional eating.

I'm certainly going to try this out and I'll let you know how I get on.

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NASFKAB 8/28/2012 6:18PM

  great tip thanks

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DR8561 8/28/2012 4:40PM

    Great tip, John! I also find that I do better when I'm exercising regularly. It relieves stress and I do better overall. emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 8/28/2012 3:06PM

    I drink a glass of water and distract myself. It works every time I actually do it. LOL.

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_MOBII_ 8/28/2012 2:22PM

    I have the right to remain silent....what I lack is the ability. LOL
Seriously though, you have a good point and it DOES work. It take practise and patience too. Stillness is one of the best thing that I learned with yoga.
Being still and quiet is a wonderful thing!

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VONBLACKBIRD 8/28/2012 2:21PM

    Great thoughts on learning a new habit..Thanks.

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