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Turning "Cant"s Into "Cans." A Few Personal Examples

Monday, August 20, 2012

Who tells your story?

Here’s a hint: If you walk to the closest mirror and take a good hard look you will meet the author of your personal journey. It’s not mom, dad, husband, wife, or BF. It’s you. From the moment you are born there is a cosmic pen poised in your hand to write about a journey that is so unique and so amazing that in was entrusted to you and you alone. Can ya give me a sincere Amen? How’s about a hearty Hallelujah?

Yeah, me either. Some days, the importance and impact of my life journey gets lost in the excuses of negativity and doubt. Sad thing was none of them are legitimate. They were excuses, the kind I make when I want to feel better about copping out on a commitment. Yes, I hear some of you in the back of the room saying “Well what if I don’t WANT to do something?” Well you don’t have to! If you really WANT to, you will find a way. Saying I CAN’T just means I want to feel better about not getting something accomplished. Don’t get me wrong. Some things take much longer to accomplish than other things (See Weight Loss.) but it is never a matter of not having the tools. We were born with them they are our standard operating equipment and from the very moment we are cognizant of the differences we create between each other we want someone else’s tools. Ours aren’t good enough or shiny enough. We want to be taller or shorter or have a certain complexion or hair color. It’s when we begin to limit ourselves. Someone else has what we want and for whatever reason we begin to create the “cant’s”

I am a really good example of this “Stinkin’ Thinkin’ “as Zig Ziglar likes to call it.

Imagine you are Yoda’s younger brother and live in a Bible belt community of roughly 50,000 people. If it isn’t in the Bible or Sunday business section it just won’t hold water. So when you start exploring, the spiritual aspects of yoga people start whispering about burning you at the stake. The yoga class in my community offers no meditation component. So I walked around singing the blues and saying it would really be nice to have some alternative stuff to do but ya know “I can’t………”

God became weary of listening to me whine. One afternoon I am in a restaurant (It’s always about food isn’t it, lol) waiting on a client and the server and I strike up a conversation. She’s a new mom who is, wait for it………a yoga instructor. Matter of fact she emphasizes the spiritual side of yoga as well as the physical and health benefits and yes she works with clients privately. We are going to meet next week to talk about what she can do for me. I have to drive 100 miles one way for this experience but I sorta heard God ask me “You want your cake and eat it to?” It’s a start, a beginning, a “can.” I had an opportunity and I am a bit nervous, (See negative self-image blogs lol.) but it’s something I want to be a part of my life.

When my dad died a few months ago I struggled with the grieving process. I process things at a really intense level and plunge way, way deep into thought and emotion. (See Joan being canonized a saint for living with this for close to forty years.) I had no one to talk to about some of the feelings I was experiencing. A friend suggested a book, Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach. I devoured it. I sat openly crying as I read parts of it because OMG she’s writing about me and ya know what I am NOT CRAZY.

You think I’d be satisfied. I got upset because all I had was a book!! I scoured the internet for people like Tara who lived close to me and found none – another “can’t.”

In his infinite wisdom or maybe once again growing weary of my moaning God threw me another pearl. Tara Brach conducts a class each Wednesday evening in Bethesda, MD and guess what? They are available as podcasts the next day. Her guidance and insights have meant so much to me. They provide me with clarity and some sort of direction. If any of you happen to attend her sessions would you please let her know what she does has tremendous impact in places she doesn’t even realize. (Or maybe she does.) It became a “can.”

We all write our own story and we all accept our own unique challenges. For my part I am going to highlight all the “cant’s” in my story and replace them with “cans.”

Namaste my dear ones.

  
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PROVERBS31JULIA 8/27/2012 8:43AM

    Namaste!

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DUTCHIEKIWI 8/26/2012 11:45PM

    John, it is always a pleasure to read your blogs, and more often than not have you managed to pick me up with your words at JUST the right time. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and wisdom ;-)

Dutchie

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MARCYNA 8/24/2012 11:32AM

    Oh I can yes I can, thanks for this beautiful blog
Love,
M.

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BTINTERNET 8/21/2012 2:58PM

    Dear John,

Thanks as always for your wise thoughts!



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LYNMEINDERS 8/21/2012 6:16AM

    Another brilliant blog John....

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NASFKAB 8/21/2012 6:11AM

  thanks

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WONDERFUL2BME 8/21/2012 4:40AM

    Synchonicity at work brother! I love it when stuff like this happens. So sorry about your loss. In 2009 I lost my mom to cancer and my beautiful brother to suicide. Talk about sending my world reeling. Even though at times I thought the tears would never end if I let them start, they do. It is so important to release the emotions. They may seem like they are bottomless, but there is an end and feeling will return to those parts that seem so numb.

I wrote a very small book about my experience with grief to help my healing process. It is available on kindle to borrow. Coping With Loss by Angelica ORourke. I hope it can be helpful to you.

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POPSY190 8/21/2012 1:41AM

    We were brought up with the saying, 'No such word as "can't" ', and I don't think the reference was to grammar and punctuation.

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MARITIMER3 8/20/2012 10:28PM

    Yes, I can; and yes, I will!

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HDHAWK 8/20/2012 9:50PM

    The book and podcasts sound interesting. Have you ever heard of the Inside Out Weight Loss podcast? It's very good too. I set my clock early this morning to work out before school (first day of school & working out). Well, I didn't get up so I forced myself to have no excuses and took a walk after dinner (not my ideal time of day). I'm happy to say it's day 1 of not letting "I'm too tired" win!

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THESLIMMERME1 8/20/2012 3:22PM

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VONBLACKBIRD 8/20/2012 2:33PM

    If there is a will there is a way..Can'ts should always be questioned as "why not?" and then turned into Cans...Thanks.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 8/20/2012 1:57PM

    My father hates the word can't and I was not allowed to use it as a child. If I dared to say I couldn't do something he would prove it to me that I could. Lesson learned. So today I know for a fact that I can do anything I set my mind to or if I really physically (can't) do something, like pee standing up without filling my shoes, I won't dare say so as he is still alive. LOL.

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REGILIEH 8/20/2012 1:47PM

    you are too wonderful for words!

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MMARTHUR 8/20/2012 12:31PM

    Just ordered the book on my Kindle. Am anxious to read it. Thanks for sharing. I need to start changing some of my can'ts into cans. I have spent too much time in the "can'ts" lately. Am ready to make some changes!

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HARRIET2 8/20/2012 12:16PM

    Thank you for the reminder. You are so right

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It Was A Good Day..........Really It Was :)

Friday, August 17, 2012

Sometimes I have one of those days I just can’t help but sharing.

I just returned from the gym. A Friday afternoon workout is my gift to myself. It means an extra few minutes in the hot tub and some time in the steam room and hey, hey, hey it’s Friday, correct? A lot of anxiety and tension goes swirling down the shower drain!!! I finished my workout, changed into my swimming gear, (Remember when they were called swimming trunks?) and get ready to immerse myself in fifteen minutes of hot churning water and think of, well think of NOTHING!!! As I come around the corner I see a young man of about twenty in the hot tub. I slide into the water and much to my surprise he is furiously typing on a smart phone. (Remember when they were called “cell phones?” Remember when they didn’t exist at all?) I try not to gawk but ya know I don’t think I’ve ever seen a smart phone in a hot tub before, so I’m curious. Mostly the 59 year old inside of me wonders how much the phone cost and what the water and steam might do to it. Now if Joan had been with me I’d gotten one of those “Shut up John,” looks and this wouldn’t be much of a story. However, the five year old in me was struggling to get out. I looked across the steamy water and said something like “Aren’t you worried that you might drop that thing?” It took a few seconds for him to answer and it was short and brief – “Nope.” He continued texting away, brow furrowed, face contorted and in the end he looked rather pleased with himself. He set his phone on the ledge and leaned back. “I just asked my girlfriend to marry me,” he said with a grin. “Via text message?” I asked. One word response – “Yup.” This is where I started to feel really old, really, really old. ‘Bout that time his phone dinged. He looked at the screen and shot straight out of the water, yellin’, sreamin and generally carrying on. (I was still worried he was going to drop the phone into the hot tub and we both might get electrocuted.) Apparently she had said yes. I stood up to shake his hand (It’s the right thing to do.) and he hugged me. I can’t describe the visual that created. (I have plaid swimming trunks.) After a few awkward seconds I extricated myself from his hug and went to the steam room. I called Joan when I got to the car and started with “Guess what happened at The Health Park…..” Her immediate response was “What did you do now?” Sigh

The other story unfolded earlier in the day. I am the current president of a local service club. We recently decided that our secretary/treasurer was taking on too much and we were going to split the positions come October 1. A new club member is an accountant and she volunteered to handle the financial end of things. This change is not going over too well. I wanted the new treasurer to get her feet wet and help with the report on our recent golf scramble. I sent an email out asking the two of them to get together. My phone rang about twenty minutes later. It was the secretary/treasurer. She wasn’t happy. Her replacement didn’t take over until October 1, this was only being done to embarrass her, yada, yada, yada……… She was calling the chairman of our board of directors and that’s when all mypatience vanished.
“I don’t care if you call Apollo son of Zeus,” I said.

It got quiet

“I guess that’s one of those Catholic saints you all pray to all the time, huh?” she yelled

I wasn’t quite sure what to say

Be safe my dear ones

Namaste to each of you

  
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PROVERBS31JULIA 8/27/2012 9:00AM

    Hahaha "Call Apollo Son of Zeus" being mistaken for "one of those Catholic Saints"...
Actually kinda sad... A lot of confusion in the world.

Sad that Tele(hot)Tubby Boy could not propose to his girlfriend in person. Then he could hug her in person!! Even if she was deaf and couldn't hear on the phone well, there are visual ways to make ones marriage proposal known. Or maybe I'm just insanely partial to the way my husband proposed to me (and not by cell phone. Much too expensive in the day.).

Namaste !


Julia

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SMOCKON 8/21/2012 9:40AM

    You made me laugh--a great thing at 8:30 on a Tuesday morning! Thank you!

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MYOWNHERO 8/19/2012 11:28PM

    I guess it's better than praying to Saint Verizon.

But really ...proposing via text? I just ran that one past my 21 y.o. daughter and she gave it a big thumbs down. Because when she says yes he's supposed to hug HER not the random hot tub guy!

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MYOWNHERO 8/19/2012 11:26PM

    I guess it's better than praying to Saint Verizon.

But really ...proposing via text? I just ran that one past my 21 y.o. daughter and she gave it a big thumbs down. Because when she says yes he's supposed to hug HER not the random hot tub guy!

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MARCYNA 8/19/2012 9:43AM

    How funny, I wish I could have seen the scene - I cannot imagine the steam in the hot tub, you in tartan trunks, and a boy with a smartphone all together, but , hey, how funny!
M.
Nothing happens to smart phones, mine has fallen off from incredible places and still works....no electrocuts also, and the cost is quite affordable,,,,some phone companies here in EU give them for free if you want to try them!!!!

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LYNMEINDERS 8/19/2012 6:15AM

    Excellent blog....love both the stories

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VONBLACKBIRD 8/18/2012 11:29AM

    She doesn't know mythology does she...that was snide....love that you got to experience the marriage proposal..I don't understand it all either. My phone doesn't even have text option much less anything else and still pay an arm and leg..thinking of maybe going stoneage and dropping the cell phone completely....Namaste

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NOCALORIES 8/18/2012 10:51AM

    Thank you for the blog. So glad I had the privilege to read it. You are a delight to know. Life does have its challenges even when we desire to be kind and helpful to someone.

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NASFKAB 8/18/2012 7:34AM

  we are so outddated imagine proposing by phone & in a hot tub all the best

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SBNORMAL 8/18/2012 2:44AM

  He must have good insurance on his Smartphone to use it while in water.Maybe you need to pray to St. Jude to deal with the club people, because you need another Saint to calm down all their egos! Namaste!

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ANGELWENDYMAMA 8/18/2012 1:52AM

   
Seriously, someone proposed to his girlfriend by TEXT message? WTF? I'd say, "No, ask me in person if you're serious. And you'd better have a ring!" LOL.

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STEELKICKIN 8/18/2012 12:30AM

    Can you really get electrocuted if you drop your cell phone in the water?????
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CARTOONB 8/18/2012 12:11AM

    The Catholics do have a lot of saints...

I'm just sayin'

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BELDONDOG1 8/18/2012 12:08AM

    Okay, John, I keep forgetting, which one is our saint that we pray to-Apollo or Zeus?
That was a funny comment and a funny blog!

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THEFLORIDAFAIRY 8/17/2012 9:48PM

    I love this story! Once in a lifetime event, that text was. Can you imagine sending a proposal by text? What is this world coming to? Thanks - Ruthie

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HDHAWK 8/17/2012 8:32PM

    Since I'm closer to your age John, I'd have to say a proposal by text wouldn't be my first choice, but I'm glad he got the answer he was looking for!
Sorry about the other situation. Sounds like you were trying to be helpful.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 8/17/2012 8:14PM

    You are probably the talk of the hot tub area. LOL. Have they got closed caption cameras in there? LOL.

I'm shocked when I go to a nice restaurant with my hubby and we watch other couples sitting across from each other frantically flicking their thumbs on their devices while they are oblivious to the mates they are with. I tend to wonder how long marriages like this will really last. To me it says, "I have someone I would rather talk to than you."

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OPTIMIST1948 8/17/2012 8:10PM

    I'm with you: Cell Phone in the Tub? And really, some things should be done in person. But it seems that your young man and lady were happy, so what do we matter?

And you can take work OFF of my plate ANYTIME.

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BRENDABUNNY 8/17/2012 7:34PM

    What a great blog...I'm still smiling...Love that 1st story John and love how you know what Joan woulda said to you... emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JECKIE 8/17/2012 7:18PM

    *snicker*

John, I love your blogs. Your view of the world makes me happy.

And it's great to hear some young kids still that happy about the prospect of marriage (even if he did ask via text).



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SANDRALEET 8/17/2012 7:12PM

    Oh whot a clown.Have to take life with a grain of salt. emoticon emoticon

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SANDRALEET 8/17/2012 7:12PM

    Oh whot a clown.Have to take life with a grain of salt. emoticon emoticon

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BLUE42DOWN 8/17/2012 7:05PM

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Ah, some wonderful humour in your day - thank you for adding it to ours!

Happy Friday!

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ONEKIDSMOM 8/17/2012 6:47PM

    emoticon To both stories!

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LINDAMARIEZ1 8/17/2012 6:45PM

    well well well! All I can say is I ruined a perfectly good digital bathroom scale putting it in the bathroom! Isn't that where bathroom scales are suppose to be? Apparently not if you take hot steamy showers! I got to use it once and then it wouldn't turn off! I ruined it! I guess we all have some cool moments! and I am worried now of my daughter plugging her curling iron on at the bathroom sink!
I have told her and told her but no one ever listens to me!
I hope your weekend is grand one John! emoticon

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SIM1SAYS 8/17/2012 6:42PM

    Okay - I'm subscribing to your blog. You made laugh and that is a perfect way to enjoy a Friday evening.

Keep sparking!

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Maybe This You, Too?

Friday, August 17, 2012


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TERESAKLE 9/11/2012 4:04PM

  Your thoughts are always so relevant, I love your honesty:)

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ULTRAVAL21 8/30/2012 1:57PM

    thanks for sharing! Hope it helps you to know this helped me too.

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HOPE4LOSS1 8/28/2012 12:50PM

    Just came across this vlog and I really appreciate it. You seem like a kind man and I wish you continued success on your journey.

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BARBIE66 8/27/2012 2:53PM

    Hi John love the insight information you made me really think .. I have been on and off on sparks just recently I have recommited So you spoke my truth thanks for the motivationthat I can do it

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HDHAWK 8/19/2012 9:32AM

    I'm starting year 5 so this was the blog for me. Consistency has been out the window for way too long. Still working on getting it back. Thanks for this!

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SAGELADY2 8/17/2012 9:09PM

    You struck home with this vlog. Glad I popped in to see it.

Yes, we are all bits and pieces of success and failure. I think it's the composite of experience that paints our landscape rather than the individual elements. Stare long enough at the blue blobs and you miss Starry Night. Or a nose and the Mona Lisa disappears.

We'll all fail at some points in the journey, but that's what makes it a journey and not a destination. Peace to you this weekend.

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ONEKIDSMOM 8/17/2012 6:44PM

    Namaste, John... great insights as usual... love your vlogs whenever you get to them!

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NASFKAB 8/17/2012 4:48PM

  great blog made me think

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TXMOMMY23 8/17/2012 1:33PM

    love this blog!!!! emoticon emoticon

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DEBRITA01 8/17/2012 1:09PM

    Thanks for the vlog, John...always food for thought. We won't fail unless we give up, so let's keep making those positive choices...one day at a time. Namaste, my friend emoticon

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THEFLORIDAFAIRY 8/17/2012 12:35PM

    Thanks John - as always, very insightful and thought provoking. I love your blogs. Glad you are doing okay. Have a great weekend!

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THESLIMMERME1 8/17/2012 11:28AM

    emoticon emoticon piece of information - we are on a journey to a new life... emoticon emoticon

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VONBLACKBIRD 8/17/2012 10:55AM

    Thanks so much for this..

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VONBLACKBIRD 8/17/2012 10:55AM

    Thanks so much for this..

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PATTERD707 8/17/2012 10:52AM

    Thanks for the vlog. The author's idea gives meaning to "deer in the headlights look," which I see a lot in the people I work with and in my family.

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TIGRKITTN 8/17/2012 10:29AM

    You are a wise and thoughtful man, John! Your vlog has *sparked* a seed of a thought for me, and I'm not sure where it's going but something like, the Point of all this - the new way of relating to food, creating new habits like exercising, making an effort to do the things that will lead to a healthy and full life - the Point isn't to get into a size two (or ten, or sixteen), but to become the kind of person who treats themselves well because the deserve it, and their life is richer for it, and they get to meet wonderful people and be inspired and inspire others and there's a circular, expanding effect like we're our own little universe!

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Namaste

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

A few of you have written me and asked why I end my blogs with the word “Namaste.” I thought I’d collect my thoughts and share with you the meaning the word has for me.

The gesture Namaste represents the belief that there is a Divine spark within each of us that is located in the heart. The gesture is an acknowledgment of the soul in one by the soul in another. Namaste literally means “I bow to you." On a much deeper and personal level, when I bow to you I honor you as a creation of the Divine, just as you are, right now, no strings attached. It means I do not desire to change you or mold you or create in you anything other than what is there. I honor you as are you are, as you exist, in the present. When I bow to you I acknowledge there is no past or future, only the now.

That’s easier said than done isn’t it? I ran across a saying yesterday that I used as my status update this morning: “The mind creates the chasm that the heart bridges.” What prevents me from honoring you as I should is that nasty “P” word. We only whisper it. It’s not politically correct, you know. Some people will tell you it no longer exists. The word is prejudice. We all suffer from it but most of us won’t admit it. Most of us churn through life chanting a mantra that we accept everyone as they are. We very well may accept someone but do we honor them as they are? Do we bow to the Divine spark inside of them; acknowledge that God exists inside that creature we feel may be the work of Satan himself? Our prejudice manifests itself in all shapes, sizes, religions, colors or preferences. It is never grounded in reason or rationale. It is the most difficult emotion we will battle in our lives.

My solution is to honor the Spark of the Divine in each person. When I greet them I remember that no matter how much I may disagree with what they do or who they are; that if I truly call myself a child of that amazing and loving God, I will fold my hands at my heart and bow slightly as I utter that word. Sometimes the gestures are done silently. Sometimes they are done to remind me that whether I choose to believe in it or not you and I are connected to each other by God. I have no choice to honor that if I choose to embrace love. I must love you in return. That is often difficult. Each of us has a mirror in our minds eye that tells us what we are supposed to be. Each day, we look into that mirror and begin finding our faults and flaws. We compare ourselves to other people and usually find ourselves lacking. That’s when we begin to find fault with other people in an attempt to make ourselves feel better. It doesn’t work does it?

We stand perfect and complete before our notion of the Divine each day. I work each day to see that in each life that touches mine. Whether you are slender or obese, young or old I say to you my dear one:

“Namaste”

  
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STAR8278 8/17/2012 7:17PM

    I remember my brother, a 3rd degree black belt, using that term quite often as he was training throughout the years. I am very glad to know its origin.

thank you for sharing, thank you for being you!

Keep up the great work. be positive.

--- fellow positive team member!

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NASFKAB 8/15/2012 7:56PM

  all the best hugs

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ANGELCOWBOY1 8/15/2012 7:04AM

    Namaste - thank you John.

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SPARKENISTA 8/14/2012 10:55PM

    Unconditional acceptance is a wonderful thing!

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DEBRITA01 8/14/2012 10:05PM

    I have an inspirational rock that fits in the palm of my hand...on it is one simple word: "Accept" . Namaste, John emoticon

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LYNMEINDERS 8/14/2012 8:58PM

    Namaste John


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BRAVENEWGRL 8/14/2012 8:14PM

    And this is why I love yoga :) Namaste.

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BIRDLSLAURIE 8/14/2012 5:35PM

    Namaste

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REGILIEH 8/14/2012 3:31PM

    NAMASTE! Thank you kind sir!

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WALKAWAY 8/14/2012 3:18PM

    Thank you John.

Namaste

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VONBLACKBIRD 8/14/2012 3:13PM

    Namaste

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MORTICIAADDAMS 8/14/2012 3:12PM

    Most people can find something in nearly everyone that they can relate to no matter how deep the differences are. We are all human and share some needs and desires.

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KIMCOLLINGS 8/14/2012 1:13PM

    Namaste

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ANGIEJAY77 8/14/2012 12:46PM

    Namaste

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DR8561 8/14/2012 12:00PM

    Beautiful and well said! Namaste!

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LEANSNOOPY 8/14/2012 11:48AM

  I learned so much from you,thank you.
This is so beautiful! Namaste!

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SLIMLEAF 8/14/2012 11:39AM

    Namaste.

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SANDRALEET 8/14/2012 11:26AM

    Interesting view

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MYOWNHERO 8/14/2012 11:23AM

    John, this is beautiful. This is why I pop in to read your blogs. Thank you.


Namaste

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"I'm Rubber You're Glue"

Monday, August 06, 2012

I learned a valuable life lesson on my morning walk a few summers back. Each morning I would pass a college aged woman standing at the bus stop. She was dressed in a fast food uniform and as I passed by I would greet her with a cheerful “Good Morning!!” She would turn around and smile and we’d both go about our day. One morning in early August I heard her voice say “Excuse me sir?” I thought maybe something had fallen from my pocket so I stopped and turned around.

“I wanna thank you for saying hello to me every day,” she began.” I’ve had a rough summer and I’ve had a lot on my mind and when you walked by every morning and smiled and said hello it made my day bearable. I’m going back to school on Wednesday and I wanted to make sure I thanked you. You made me feel that someone really cared enough just by saying hello. ”We both stood there a bit uncomfortable for a few minutes and I actually had a tear or two in my eyes. I mumbled something like “Thanks,” or “God bless you,” and went on my way.

That life lesson stuck with me. I can’t tell you how many times I have watched a grumpy cashier or servers turn their face into a grin when I’ve simply said. ‘Hi, how are you this most amazing day?” They will tell me they are fine or well or whatever and then the grin breaks out. “Thank you for asking!!!” I say it with sincerity. I genuinely do care.

What comes around goes around as they say? The other morning I was running late and needed some water to wash my BP pill down with. I swung into a long line at a fast food place to get a bottle of water. After what seemed like forever and my anxiety level rising higher and higher each moment because I just knew I was going to be late for everything for the rest of my natural life, I reached the window. A hand reached out with a bottle of water. I fumbled for my wallet and the person said “Apparently you have a new friend John, because the person in front of you paid for your water. Have a good day.”

I did

When we were kids there was a chant prescribed mostly as a negative. It went “I’m rubber, you’re glue. Anything you say bounces off me and sticks on to you.” So maybe, just maybe we turn it around. And anything I say bounces off me and sticks on to you, especially the warmth, love and affection.

Namaste

  
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BRIDGIEEE 8/14/2012 11:38AM

    I love this.

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SNOWANGELDIVA 8/13/2012 8:33AM

    Namaste, John!
Excellent message.

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LYNMEINDERS 8/12/2012 12:48AM

    This is so so true....
I have been speaking to people I cross paths with for years now and it is amazing how they speak to me first now....and they always have a smile when they see me coming....

Glad that this is how you live as well..you are right...what goes around comes around.....
Look out for the awesome blessings that comes with it....woohoo


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VICTORY2XS 8/11/2012 1:17PM

    Amazing post. I think of the difference you made in that young girl's day each time you said hello. I think of the way you must have felt when the person ahead of you paid for your water.

These all may seem small, but we remember them. When we think of them, our day brightens a little, our step becomes a bit lighter.

I want to influence someone in a positive way like that every day. I know the difference a smile or kind word can make in someone's day. At work, I was called Smile, some called me Bubbly. It has always made me happy knowing I made someone else smile.

And I hope it is infectious!

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RAMONAFLOWERZ 8/8/2012 9:31AM

    FANTASTIC POST! WONDERFUL!

Sometimes it's the littlest of things that prove to us that the world really is a good place in spite of those few horrible people that make it seem so ugly.

THANK YOU!

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 8/8/2012 9:20AM

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Very nice reminder for all of us....



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SHELLIECAN 8/8/2012 8:27AM

    Its true.. and theres nothing nicer than when someone asks how you are and actually waits for an answer. I always do...otherwise the words are insincere, arent they ?
Pay It Forward..should be everybodys motto.

Wonderful thoughts as always John


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MYOWNHERO 8/7/2012 10:32PM

    Ah ha! A random act of kindness!

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THESLIMMERME1 8/7/2012 4:02AM

    It's true - its amazing what a 'smile' or good word can do not only for the person you give it to = but yourself. I have experienced the same 'kindness at a drive through'; it certainly gives a 'boost to your day!' emoticon emoticon

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NASFKAB 8/7/2012 12:43AM

  great one for pointing how we can make a difference in a person's life

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NASFKAB 8/7/2012 12:40AM

  great one as usual

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KATRINAKAT23 8/6/2012 9:03PM

  This was a great post. Such a wonderful message. We just never know how we impact someone's life sometimes.

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MARITIMER3 8/6/2012 7:55PM

    Nice one, John. We never know how much our greeting, or our patience in listening, can affect someone else.

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NEWMOM20121 8/6/2012 7:29PM

    A smile and kind word goes a long way. Thank you for the reminder. So glad you were the recipient of a kind deed, you deserve it.

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ONEKIDSMOM 8/6/2012 7:26PM

    LOVE it, John! Just when you need it. Guardian angels... amazing the timing our Maker has!

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DOODIE59 8/6/2012 6:35PM

    Very uplifting. Thank you for sharing and for the reminding that we need to slow down and remember that everyone around us has a story.
Deirdre

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SLIMLEAF 8/6/2012 6:08PM

    What an uplifting message!
Thanks for sharing it.

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GARDENSFORLIFE 8/6/2012 5:29PM

    Wow! This blog is wonderful! The kindness of a stranger is powerful. We never know how much good we do by just being kind to others.

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ANATASHIKI 8/6/2012 4:45PM

    it happens to me all the time but the people involved are not important. I always feeel like I'm dealing with "the universe" . "universe "being one of the many names of God of course :D. "luck "is another one emoticon

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RUNNINGOMA 8/6/2012 4:28PM

    I remember that saying.
"Cast your bread upon water and it will return to you after many days." Ecc. 11:1
What a blessing to know that there are some wonderful people in the world.

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SPARKENISTA 8/6/2012 4:01PM

    John--Another way of saying it is, "What goes around comes around!"

I have to say thank you for sharing but I'm not the least bit surprised.

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CASPIAN3 8/6/2012 2:41PM

  Thank you for sharing

AND wishing you a HAPPY day emoticon

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DEBRITA01 8/6/2012 2:14PM

    It only takes a minute to show some kindness...and, as you know, it can make the difference to someone. Thanks for the reminder! emoticon

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MINENA2 8/6/2012 1:34PM

    Wonderful blog!! Thank you for sharing. emoticon

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PURPLE180 8/6/2012 1:25PM

    I love this blog...I needed to read this today.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 8/6/2012 12:45PM

    It really doesn't cost anything to be nice and kind. It should be the norm.

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HEALTHYME229 8/6/2012 12:12PM

    The simplest of gestures - a please or a thank you or a smile or holding the door - can mean so much to some folks are really require little effort on our part. Thanks for a sweet reminder of this very true principle.

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STSCOTT11 8/6/2012 12:07PM

    Awww...THAT IS JUST WONDERFUL. THANK YOU for such a positive blog.

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SPARKL3 8/6/2012 12:02PM

    You are so right! The benefits of smiles and simple words of encouragement are far-reaching. It's like that Liberty Mutual commercial that was on TV a couple years ago. Someone does something nice for a stranger, and people pass on the love to others......... It makes the world a better place!

Thanks for a great blog!

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SANDRALEET 8/6/2012 11:56AM

    The simplest things mean so much .I say things like nice outfit love your hair .Hold doors open when peoples hands are full .Say thank you. Be kind and smile treat people with respect. emoticon

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THEFLORIDAFAIRY 8/6/2012 11:55AM

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PGNBRI 8/6/2012 11:51AM

    What a wonderful post John!

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VONBLACKBIRD 8/6/2012 11:43AM

    I agree...what goes around comes around whether good or bad..we need to always pay it forward even if it is nothing but a cheery greeting or a smile. Thanks.

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LDRICHEL 8/6/2012 11:43AM

    Beautiful. I love people like you.

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JLOVESDOGS 8/6/2012 11:36AM

    Just reading your blog today put me in a good mood! Thank you!! emoticon

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GINA180847 8/6/2012 11:13AM

    I just spent the weekend with a bunch of warm and fuzzy people and I sure agree with you. Bless you for looking for the positive instead of wanting to be clever and saying something negative. The world is a better place for it.

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LAWRALOO 8/6/2012 10:50AM

    Your positive attitude never ceases to amaze me, John.
Have an amazing day

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THEBEV2 8/6/2012 10:30AM

    This brought tears to my eyes! So often we wonder if our little gestures of friendliness have any impact on the world. Your example was a beautiful reminder that YES! we can make a difference in someone's life, no matter how small. And how lovely that the young lady actually took the time to say thank you. I keep smiling and waving to a man I see on my daily walks. It's been a couple of years now, no response at all from him. No return smile, no wave. I was about to give up on him but your message has encouraged me to keep on! Thanks so much.

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BAMAJAM 8/6/2012 10:28AM

  "warmth. love and affection"----- How important indeed! Often the smallest gesture of kindness can lift the spirit of another. John, I am sure that your kind gestures are most sincere. I commend you for your "warmth, love and affection'---and I am happy to read your blogs! God bless you!

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DIANE7786 8/6/2012 10:12AM

    I also remember the rubber/glue saying as negative. I wonder why no one ever turned it around--until you. Thanks!

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REGILIEH 8/6/2012 10:03AM

    Beautiful!!!! Beautiful!!! Beautiful!!!!

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MAMADWARF 8/6/2012 9:58AM

    Love this!!!!!

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BEATLETOT 8/6/2012 9:57AM

    A gorgeous blog, but I'm sure you already knew that. =)

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HDHAWK 8/6/2012 9:48AM

    A very nice reminder of how to make a better day for someone else and for us!

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