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Friday, August 17, 2012


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TERESAKLE 9/11/2012 4:04PM

  Your thoughts are always so relevant, I love your honesty:)

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ULTRAVAL21 8/30/2012 1:57PM

    thanks for sharing! Hope it helps you to know this helped me too.

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HOPE4LOSS1 8/28/2012 12:50PM

    Just came across this vlog and I really appreciate it. You seem like a kind man and I wish you continued success on your journey.

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BARBIE66 8/27/2012 2:53PM

    Hi John love the insight information you made me really think .. I have been on and off on sparks just recently I have recommited So you spoke my truth thanks for the motivationthat I can do it

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HDHAWK 8/19/2012 9:32AM

    I'm starting year 5 so this was the blog for me. Consistency has been out the window for way too long. Still working on getting it back. Thanks for this!

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SAGELADY2 8/17/2012 9:09PM

    You struck home with this vlog. Glad I popped in to see it.

Yes, we are all bits and pieces of success and failure. I think it's the composite of experience that paints our landscape rather than the individual elements. Stare long enough at the blue blobs and you miss Starry Night. Or a nose and the Mona Lisa disappears.

We'll all fail at some points in the journey, but that's what makes it a journey and not a destination. Peace to you this weekend.

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ONEKIDSMOM 8/17/2012 6:44PM

    Namaste, John... great insights as usual... love your vlogs whenever you get to them!

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NASFKAB 8/17/2012 4:48PM

  great blog made me think

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TXMOMMY23 8/17/2012 1:33PM

    love this blog!!!! emoticon emoticon

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DEBRITA01 8/17/2012 1:09PM

    Thanks for the vlog, John...always food for thought. We won't fail unless we give up, so let's keep making those positive choices...one day at a time. Namaste, my friend emoticon

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THEFLORIDAFAIRY 8/17/2012 12:35PM

    Thanks John - as always, very insightful and thought provoking. I love your blogs. Glad you are doing okay. Have a great weekend!

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THESLIMMERME1 8/17/2012 11:28AM

    emoticon emoticon piece of information - we are on a journey to a new life... emoticon emoticon

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VONBLACKBIRD 8/17/2012 10:55AM

    Thanks so much for this..

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VONBLACKBIRD 8/17/2012 10:55AM

    Thanks so much for this..

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PATTERD707 8/17/2012 10:52AM

    Thanks for the vlog. The author's idea gives meaning to "deer in the headlights look," which I see a lot in the people I work with and in my family.

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TIGRKITTN 8/17/2012 10:29AM

    You are a wise and thoughtful man, John! Your vlog has *sparked* a seed of a thought for me, and I'm not sure where it's going but something like, the Point of all this - the new way of relating to food, creating new habits like exercising, making an effort to do the things that will lead to a healthy and full life - the Point isn't to get into a size two (or ten, or sixteen), but to become the kind of person who treats themselves well because the deserve it, and their life is richer for it, and they get to meet wonderful people and be inspired and inspire others and there's a circular, expanding effect like we're our own little universe!

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Namaste

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

A few of you have written me and asked why I end my blogs with the word “Namaste.” I thought I’d collect my thoughts and share with you the meaning the word has for me.

The gesture Namaste represents the belief that there is a Divine spark within each of us that is located in the heart. The gesture is an acknowledgment of the soul in one by the soul in another. Namaste literally means “I bow to you." On a much deeper and personal level, when I bow to you I honor you as a creation of the Divine, just as you are, right now, no strings attached. It means I do not desire to change you or mold you or create in you anything other than what is there. I honor you as are you are, as you exist, in the present. When I bow to you I acknowledge there is no past or future, only the now.

That’s easier said than done isn’t it? I ran across a saying yesterday that I used as my status update this morning: “The mind creates the chasm that the heart bridges.” What prevents me from honoring you as I should is that nasty “P” word. We only whisper it. It’s not politically correct, you know. Some people will tell you it no longer exists. The word is prejudice. We all suffer from it but most of us won’t admit it. Most of us churn through life chanting a mantra that we accept everyone as they are. We very well may accept someone but do we honor them as they are? Do we bow to the Divine spark inside of them; acknowledge that God exists inside that creature we feel may be the work of Satan himself? Our prejudice manifests itself in all shapes, sizes, religions, colors or preferences. It is never grounded in reason or rationale. It is the most difficult emotion we will battle in our lives.

My solution is to honor the Spark of the Divine in each person. When I greet them I remember that no matter how much I may disagree with what they do or who they are; that if I truly call myself a child of that amazing and loving God, I will fold my hands at my heart and bow slightly as I utter that word. Sometimes the gestures are done silently. Sometimes they are done to remind me that whether I choose to believe in it or not you and I are connected to each other by God. I have no choice to honor that if I choose to embrace love. I must love you in return. That is often difficult. Each of us has a mirror in our minds eye that tells us what we are supposed to be. Each day, we look into that mirror and begin finding our faults and flaws. We compare ourselves to other people and usually find ourselves lacking. That’s when we begin to find fault with other people in an attempt to make ourselves feel better. It doesn’t work does it?

We stand perfect and complete before our notion of the Divine each day. I work each day to see that in each life that touches mine. Whether you are slender or obese, young or old I say to you my dear one:

“Namaste”

  
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STAR8278 8/17/2012 7:17PM

    I remember my brother, a 3rd degree black belt, using that term quite often as he was training throughout the years. I am very glad to know its origin.

thank you for sharing, thank you for being you!

Keep up the great work. be positive.

--- fellow positive team member!

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NASFKAB 8/15/2012 7:56PM

  all the best hugs

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ANGELCOWBOY1 8/15/2012 7:04AM

    Namaste - thank you John.

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SPARKENISTA 8/14/2012 10:55PM

    Unconditional acceptance is a wonderful thing!

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DEBRITA01 8/14/2012 10:05PM

    I have an inspirational rock that fits in the palm of my hand...on it is one simple word: "Accept" . Namaste, John emoticon

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LYNMEINDERS 8/14/2012 8:58PM

    Namaste John


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BRAVENEWGRL 8/14/2012 8:14PM

    And this is why I love yoga :) Namaste.

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BIRDLSLAURIE 8/14/2012 5:35PM

    Namaste

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REGILIEH 8/14/2012 3:31PM

    NAMASTE! Thank you kind sir!

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WALKAWAY 8/14/2012 3:18PM

    Thank you John.

Namaste

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VONBLACKBIRD 8/14/2012 3:13PM

    Namaste

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MORTICIAADDAMS 8/14/2012 3:12PM

    Most people can find something in nearly everyone that they can relate to no matter how deep the differences are. We are all human and share some needs and desires.

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KIMCOLLINGS 8/14/2012 1:13PM

    Namaste

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ANGIEJAY77 8/14/2012 12:46PM

    Namaste

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DR8561 8/14/2012 12:00PM

    Beautiful and well said! Namaste!

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LEANSNOOPY 8/14/2012 11:48AM

  I learned so much from you,thank you.
This is so beautiful! Namaste!

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SLIMLEAF 8/14/2012 11:39AM

    Namaste.

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SANDRALEET 8/14/2012 11:26AM

    Interesting view

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MYOWNHERO 8/14/2012 11:23AM

    John, this is beautiful. This is why I pop in to read your blogs. Thank you.


Namaste

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"I'm Rubber You're Glue"

Monday, August 06, 2012

I learned a valuable life lesson on my morning walk a few summers back. Each morning I would pass a college aged woman standing at the bus stop. She was dressed in a fast food uniform and as I passed by I would greet her with a cheerful “Good Morning!!” She would turn around and smile and we’d both go about our day. One morning in early August I heard her voice say “Excuse me sir?” I thought maybe something had fallen from my pocket so I stopped and turned around.

“I wanna thank you for saying hello to me every day,” she began.” I’ve had a rough summer and I’ve had a lot on my mind and when you walked by every morning and smiled and said hello it made my day bearable. I’m going back to school on Wednesday and I wanted to make sure I thanked you. You made me feel that someone really cared enough just by saying hello. ”We both stood there a bit uncomfortable for a few minutes and I actually had a tear or two in my eyes. I mumbled something like “Thanks,” or “God bless you,” and went on my way.

That life lesson stuck with me. I can’t tell you how many times I have watched a grumpy cashier or servers turn their face into a grin when I’ve simply said. ‘Hi, how are you this most amazing day?” They will tell me they are fine or well or whatever and then the grin breaks out. “Thank you for asking!!!” I say it with sincerity. I genuinely do care.

What comes around goes around as they say? The other morning I was running late and needed some water to wash my BP pill down with. I swung into a long line at a fast food place to get a bottle of water. After what seemed like forever and my anxiety level rising higher and higher each moment because I just knew I was going to be late for everything for the rest of my natural life, I reached the window. A hand reached out with a bottle of water. I fumbled for my wallet and the person said “Apparently you have a new friend John, because the person in front of you paid for your water. Have a good day.”

I did

When we were kids there was a chant prescribed mostly as a negative. It went “I’m rubber, you’re glue. Anything you say bounces off me and sticks on to you.” So maybe, just maybe we turn it around. And anything I say bounces off me and sticks on to you, especially the warmth, love and affection.

Namaste

  
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BRIDGIEEE 8/14/2012 11:38AM

    I love this.

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SNOWANGELDIVA 8/13/2012 8:33AM

    Namaste, John!
Excellent message.

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LYNMEINDERS 8/12/2012 12:48AM

    This is so so true....
I have been speaking to people I cross paths with for years now and it is amazing how they speak to me first now....and they always have a smile when they see me coming....

Glad that this is how you live as well..you are right...what goes around comes around.....
Look out for the awesome blessings that comes with it....woohoo


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VICTORY2XS 8/11/2012 1:17PM

    Amazing post. I think of the difference you made in that young girl's day each time you said hello. I think of the way you must have felt when the person ahead of you paid for your water.

These all may seem small, but we remember them. When we think of them, our day brightens a little, our step becomes a bit lighter.

I want to influence someone in a positive way like that every day. I know the difference a smile or kind word can make in someone's day. At work, I was called Smile, some called me Bubbly. It has always made me happy knowing I made someone else smile.

And I hope it is infectious!

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RAMONAFLOWERZ 8/8/2012 9:31AM

    FANTASTIC POST! WONDERFUL!

Sometimes it's the littlest of things that prove to us that the world really is a good place in spite of those few horrible people that make it seem so ugly.

THANK YOU!

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 8/8/2012 9:20AM

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Very nice reminder for all of us....



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SHELLIECAN 8/8/2012 8:27AM

    Its true.. and theres nothing nicer than when someone asks how you are and actually waits for an answer. I always do...otherwise the words are insincere, arent they ?
Pay It Forward..should be everybodys motto.

Wonderful thoughts as always John


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MYOWNHERO 8/7/2012 10:32PM

    Ah ha! A random act of kindness!

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THESLIMMERME1 8/7/2012 4:02AM

    It's true - its amazing what a 'smile' or good word can do not only for the person you give it to = but yourself. I have experienced the same 'kindness at a drive through'; it certainly gives a 'boost to your day!' emoticon emoticon

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NASFKAB 8/7/2012 12:43AM

  great one for pointing how we can make a difference in a person's life

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NASFKAB 8/7/2012 12:40AM

  great one as usual

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KATRINAKAT23 8/6/2012 9:03PM

  This was a great post. Such a wonderful message. We just never know how we impact someone's life sometimes.

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MARITIMER3 8/6/2012 7:55PM

    Nice one, John. We never know how much our greeting, or our patience in listening, can affect someone else.

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NEWMOM20121 8/6/2012 7:29PM

    A smile and kind word goes a long way. Thank you for the reminder. So glad you were the recipient of a kind deed, you deserve it.

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ONEKIDSMOM 8/6/2012 7:26PM

    LOVE it, John! Just when you need it. Guardian angels... amazing the timing our Maker has!

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DOODIE59 8/6/2012 6:35PM

    Very uplifting. Thank you for sharing and for the reminding that we need to slow down and remember that everyone around us has a story.
Deirdre

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SLIMLEAF 8/6/2012 6:08PM

    What an uplifting message!
Thanks for sharing it.

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GARDENSFORLIFE 8/6/2012 5:29PM

    Wow! This blog is wonderful! The kindness of a stranger is powerful. We never know how much good we do by just being kind to others.

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ANATASHIKI 8/6/2012 4:45PM

    it happens to me all the time but the people involved are not important. I always feeel like I'm dealing with "the universe" . "universe "being one of the many names of God of course :D. "luck "is another one emoticon

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RUNNINGOMA 8/6/2012 4:28PM

    I remember that saying.
"Cast your bread upon water and it will return to you after many days." Ecc. 11:1
What a blessing to know that there are some wonderful people in the world.

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SPARKENISTA 8/6/2012 4:01PM

    John--Another way of saying it is, "What goes around comes around!"

I have to say thank you for sharing but I'm not the least bit surprised.

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CASPIAN3 8/6/2012 2:41PM

  Thank you for sharing

AND wishing you a HAPPY day emoticon

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DEBRITA01 8/6/2012 2:14PM

    It only takes a minute to show some kindness...and, as you know, it can make the difference to someone. Thanks for the reminder! emoticon

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MINENA2 8/6/2012 1:34PM

    Wonderful blog!! Thank you for sharing. emoticon

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PURPLE180 8/6/2012 1:25PM

    I love this blog...I needed to read this today.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 8/6/2012 12:45PM

    It really doesn't cost anything to be nice and kind. It should be the norm.

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HEALTHYME229 8/6/2012 12:12PM

    The simplest of gestures - a please or a thank you or a smile or holding the door - can mean so much to some folks are really require little effort on our part. Thanks for a sweet reminder of this very true principle.

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STSCOTT11 8/6/2012 12:07PM

    Awww...THAT IS JUST WONDERFUL. THANK YOU for such a positive blog.

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SPARKL3 8/6/2012 12:02PM

    You are so right! The benefits of smiles and simple words of encouragement are far-reaching. It's like that Liberty Mutual commercial that was on TV a couple years ago. Someone does something nice for a stranger, and people pass on the love to others......... It makes the world a better place!

Thanks for a great blog!

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SANDRALEET 8/6/2012 11:56AM

    The simplest things mean so much .I say things like nice outfit love your hair .Hold doors open when peoples hands are full .Say thank you. Be kind and smile treat people with respect. emoticon

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THEFLORIDAFAIRY 8/6/2012 11:55AM

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PGNBRI 8/6/2012 11:51AM

    What a wonderful post John!

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VONBLACKBIRD 8/6/2012 11:43AM

    I agree...what goes around comes around whether good or bad..we need to always pay it forward even if it is nothing but a cheery greeting or a smile. Thanks.

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LDRICHEL 8/6/2012 11:43AM

    Beautiful. I love people like you.

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JLOVESDOGS 8/6/2012 11:36AM

    Just reading your blog today put me in a good mood! Thank you!! emoticon

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GINA180847 8/6/2012 11:13AM

    I just spent the weekend with a bunch of warm and fuzzy people and I sure agree with you. Bless you for looking for the positive instead of wanting to be clever and saying something negative. The world is a better place for it.

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LAWRALOO 8/6/2012 10:50AM

    Your positive attitude never ceases to amaze me, John.
Have an amazing day

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THEBEV2 8/6/2012 10:30AM

    This brought tears to my eyes! So often we wonder if our little gestures of friendliness have any impact on the world. Your example was a beautiful reminder that YES! we can make a difference in someone's life, no matter how small. And how lovely that the young lady actually took the time to say thank you. I keep smiling and waving to a man I see on my daily walks. It's been a couple of years now, no response at all from him. No return smile, no wave. I was about to give up on him but your message has encouraged me to keep on! Thanks so much.

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BAMAJAM 8/6/2012 10:28AM

  "warmth. love and affection"----- How important indeed! Often the smallest gesture of kindness can lift the spirit of another. John, I am sure that your kind gestures are most sincere. I commend you for your "warmth, love and affection'---and I am happy to read your blogs! God bless you!

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DIANE7786 8/6/2012 10:12AM

    I also remember the rubber/glue saying as negative. I wonder why no one ever turned it around--until you. Thanks!

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REGILIEH 8/6/2012 10:03AM

    Beautiful!!!! Beautiful!!! Beautiful!!!!

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MAMADWARF 8/6/2012 9:58AM

    Love this!!!!!

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BEATLETOT 8/6/2012 9:57AM

    A gorgeous blog, but I'm sure you already knew that. =)

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HDHAWK 8/6/2012 9:48AM

    A very nice reminder of how to make a better day for someone else and for us!

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Look Into My Eyes, Do They Dazzle?

Wednesday, August 01, 2012

I consider myself a live and let live sort of guy. As a small business owner living in a very tight economy, I know you have to watch every nickel and dime and maximize every opportunity to generate revenue. It means you stay competitive in the market place by offering your customers a better pricing structure. I get all of that.

I was a team player when Spark started posting ads for feminine hygiene products. Yeah, I know the demographic states that most subscribers here are female and yes this is free web site, and yes I’ve met some very cool people, and no I don’t want it to go away. I realize they have to generate revenue in some form or fashion. I grinned and bore it. (GIRANIMAL is bore the plural of bear?) It speaks to the success of what these fine folks have accomplished. It’s like the old song from the 80’s by Billy Squires’, “Everybody Wants You.” Way to go Spark Team!!!

However, (There is always an however isn’t there?) when I went to read my email this morning I received a notice from Spark People suggesting I “ditch my current mascara,” and use a product “as seen on The Doctors.” I could save a ton of money and my eyes would be more dazzling and brilliant in 60 Days. Oh yeah, free shipping also!!!

I ran, or what resembles a run for me these days, a sort of herky-jerky waddle, up the stairs and shouted to Joan “What brand of mascara do we use?” She assured me that we were well within the guidelines suggested by The Doctors. (Joan DVR’s The Doctors and Doctor Oz while she’s at work.) I breathed a sigh of relief and came back to my computer only to see an add on my personal page that asked what type of tissue did I use? I use what Joan buys. She handles the money. (I tried to buy a monkey one time. That’s when she took the checkbook away from me.)

Chris, thank you for being concerned with my well-being and overall health but at 6:30 AM I was a bit overwhelmed by all those decisions. Thank goodness I don’t need probiotic yogurt! I for one would gladly pay a fee for this site. I believe, as someone once said, it separates the contenders from the pretenders. Until then I’ll have to limp along worrying my eyes look okay.

Gosh, I hope I don’t have to deal with lip gloss.

Joan kissed me on the forehead and told me my eyes dazzle, just the way they always have in the past.

  
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JOANNHUNT 12/5/2012 9:44AM

    emoticon emoticon for the humour . It made my day. It is good to have humour in the morning with all the crap going on now a days. As for lip gloss it might clash with your beard. HAHA LOL Have an awesome day. emoticon emoticon

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ALIDOSHA 10/4/2012 5:20PM

    So funny

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GODSGALS 8/16/2012 8:31PM

    This was so funny I just couldn't resist re-reading it. Thanks John. A merry heart sure does a body good. You have a dry wit that shines through in all your writings, but I think this is one of my personal faves. If you're interested, I have a mascara story of my own... Ask and I'll tell it! May you continue to be the encourager you were born to be.
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JULIA1154 8/9/2012 7:46PM

  I'm pretty good at tuning out the ads (most of the time) but have to say I do get tired of all the ads for various food stuffs. Honestly, it just seems thoughtless at times.

Nonetheless, I do value the fact that the site is free - and certainly hope it stays that way.

By the way, John, I'll bet your wife would say your eyes dazzle :)

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SPARKCHANTAL 8/9/2012 4:37PM

    oh well, we're all in this together...

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LEALOWE 8/9/2012 3:48PM

    Love it. For me, the pop up ads are becoming too good at predicting what I use or like. Someone is stalking me when I do a google search. Sometimes the ads are so "on" that they are spooky. Thanks for the laughs about your less than intuitive pop ups.

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TIGRKITTN 8/8/2012 10:09AM

    *giggles* This was brilliant. I'm puzzled about the source of the ads, though- I never see any. Are they pop-ups? Because Adblock Plus is your friend!

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 8/8/2012 9:24AM

    Yeah, pop up add are an annoyance. I would pay for Spark People if the add revenue doesn't cut it.

Why, because I have gotten results here unlike when I paid for Weight Watchers, LA Weight loss or some of the gym or other fitness classes I swore I would use and never did (in the past...consider myself a gym rat now!)

Keep the observations coming!

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STACYJANE77 8/7/2012 12:35AM

    Ha!!!

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PRESBESS 8/6/2012 7:28PM

    Hey gorgeous! Thanks for making me laugh out loud today!
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CATLADY2012 8/5/2012 9:07AM

    You are hilarious! emoticon

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CAROL494 8/4/2012 6:36PM

  How funny! Thanks for the humor!

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MRE1956 8/4/2012 7:09AM

    As someone who needs to watch the ol' household budget myself, I have come to truly appreciate useful, FREE things that life occasionally brings my way - for me to PAY would be unacceptable........I do respect and totally understand your concerns regarding cheesy, tasteless ads.......I'm sure that Spark itself would not personally recommend - you gotta know that's the responsibility of the marketing company that created the ad, eh?

I always scoff off those ads - I'm not a big cosmetic fan anyhow, so that definitely helps me!


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EATVEGAN 8/4/2012 2:36AM

    Funny blog. But those ads aren't as bad as the e-mails I have gotten in the past promising to enlarge personal equipment that I don't have. (I hope that wasn't too suggestive for SP. ; )
Janet

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LBEEKMA 8/3/2012 11:18PM

    Thanks for bringing laughter to pop up ads!

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JUDYAMK 8/3/2012 10:57PM

    Oh my gosh I love it!!! I am sitting here in my recliner laughing out loud & no one is here,I am not feeling well tonight,but gosh I am happy my laughter is still there.
Thanks I need this tonight
Judy

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STEELKICKIN 8/3/2012 10:32PM

    Oh, John! LOL! I absolutely love the fact that you tried to buy a monkey!

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JLJOYNT 8/3/2012 9:31PM

    Thanks for the laugh. I really enjoyed this!

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LIVINHEALTHY9 8/3/2012 8:48PM

    This was too funny! I was laughing out loud.

Thanks for that. emoticon

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BEATLETOT 8/3/2012 6:25PM

    I love this! You are so clever and cool! And your eyes do dazzle in all your pics!

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EWL978 8/3/2012 4:27PM

    Isn't it a tough life being the board "sex symbol'?? emoticon

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CARINO_PARA_MI 8/3/2012 4:06PM

  At least the next time you are at a dinner party, BBQ, or gathering you can dazzle the ladies w/your knowledge of the various products we use.....your wife may not be amused however! (grinning here)

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NEWCHINELO 8/3/2012 3:53PM

    SWEET!

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SHAR261 8/3/2012 3:38PM

    Point well-taken! Thank you for giving me my giggle of the day. emoticon

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PARKERCM 8/3/2012 3:27PM

  Thanks for some perspective!! emoticon

and your wife is a good woman!

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_MOBII_ 8/3/2012 2:49PM

    Hahahha!
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DR8561 8/3/2012 1:40PM

    emoticon for the smile today!

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LADYGSC 8/3/2012 1:10PM

    Keep on dazzling! emoticon

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TMOORE073 8/3/2012 1:05PM

    Thanks for posting this! I laughed the whole time reading it! emoticon

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GUDDIGO 8/3/2012 12:19PM

  Your blog made me smile

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FATBASTICH 8/3/2012 12:00PM

    Yes, but what sports bra have you settled on?

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DAREDEVILME 8/3/2012 10:41AM

    You have made my day, and I'm smiling from ear to ear.
Have a fantastic day, Dazzle Eyes, and keep on Sparking!

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MAXXIZ20 8/3/2012 10:06AM

    You gave me a chuckle indeed. Thanks for making this a fun place to visit!

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BEAUTIFULBRIT50 8/3/2012 9:52AM

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RITZYOGAGAL 8/3/2012 8:45AM

    LOL!! I do understand what you mean. I get a little concerned about all the emails I recieve offering to help me enlarge my manhood. So far I figure my money is better spent elsewhere (like on mascara) emoticon

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LORELLELAURA 8/3/2012 8:25AM

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GOLFLADY11 8/3/2012 8:00AM

    Hilarious! I applaud you being able to keep your sense of humour. Great blog! emoticon

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TIMETOMOVEIT 8/3/2012 7:58AM

  hehehe...great read! emoticon

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HONORINGGOD 8/3/2012 7:57AM

    LOL emoticon

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AMSPARKER 8/3/2012 7:27AM

    Very funny!

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BRASKIN 8/3/2012 6:44AM

  LOL! emoticon

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CASPIAN3 8/3/2012 6:39AM

  Just what I needed this morning -- happiness emoticon

Thank you emoticon

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PATTOMMC3 8/3/2012 6:02AM

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STALEYK 8/3/2012 5:47AM

    Glad you eyes are dazzling! Make it an awesome day! emoticon

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FAERY_FACE 8/3/2012 5:40AM

    Well said indeed. Lol.

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NEWCHINELO 8/3/2012 3:17AM

    lovely!

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Just The Way We Are

Monday, July 30, 2012

I had just finished reading some really good insights from Sparker JENNKFIT about how advertisements (even the ones here at Spark.) are often misleading. JENNKFIT was writing about an advertisement which said you could get a bikini body before the end of summer by exercising five minutes a day. I saw the add myself. An attractive, svelte model ran along the beach, the waves cascading behind her. She had that look of happiness……. All in five minutes per day!!! Sign me up, lol!!! If we were on Facebook I’d say “Everyone who has fallen for these ads at one time or another hit “like.” There would be a lot of “likes.” We all have this hidden belief that the magic formula is right around the corner. Sure it takes hard work, dedication and sacrifice, but come on dear friends, who wouldn’t want a bona fide short cut to all of that if it were legitimate? It’s like the Holy Grail of weight loss. No one I know enjoys suffering. Click your heels three times and……… Let’s come back down to earth. It’s awfully frustrating to work so hard and see so few results. It’s why we will believe almost anything. It’s why we choose to give any slim hope a shot. Remember how frustrating it was when you realized there were no short cuts. Yeah……… Me Too.
As I pondered this my phone rang. On the other end of the phone was my gym manager. She didn’t want to “put me on the spot,” but she had a question for me. Had I been on an elliptical machine a few Saturdays ago when a member had a verbal joust with one of the trainers? Yup, I had. I know both very well. They are dedicated, healthy and for the most part intelligent people, but like you and I they can be swayed by all the pressure and hype that comes with maintaining your healthy appearance.

The person on the machine next to me was “getting it.” She had sweat pouring down her face; she was breathing hard and making me look like a slacker. Oh, yeah, she was close to nine months pregnant. The trainer suggested she might slow it down just a bit because her face was red and her breathing a bit erratic. She told the trainer to mind her own business. As she dismounted the machine she stumbled and appeared dizzy. The trainer moved in to assist her. She sat her on a couch, took her blood pressure and called the EMT’s. After a while they phoned her husband to come fetch her as we say in the south. She wasn’t allowed back until she had obtained a doctors release.

Two days later my fellow gym member had “never felt so humiliated in her life.” She phoned the gym manager demanding not only to be allowed to work out as she determined but she wanted the trainer fired. My view was the trainer acted professionally. She explained to the member what her concerns were and did it calmly. If there were any epithets’ thrown around it came from my fellow road warrior.

Now, I’ve never been pregnant, not even close, but I can tell you I have acted that irrationally myself, in the past, when someone told me to dial it down a notch. How dare they??? Later on, when I processed all the info it dawned on me it wasn’t how healthy I wanted to be it was how I wanted to look – Running down the beach, grin on my face and people murmuring in amazement. I’d do anything to feel that.

I look amazing. I am handsome, healthy and sexy. So are you, just as you are. Now have an amazing day you healthy, happy, sexy person --- Just the way you are

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

GODSGALS 8/16/2012 8:54PM

    As a certified trainer I can tell you from experience this happens. More than you'd expect. But I also know one other thing. When I see one homo sapien humiliate another fellow of the species, especially in public, it tells me WAY more about the insulting than the insulted. Just sayin'.
Kari

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ASRMOM 8/2/2012 9:45AM

    Great blog!!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 7/31/2012 2:32PM

    To be honest if it only took 5 minutes a day there are those of us who are stubborn enough and lazy enough to not be able to do that at times. I won't mention any names. emoticon LOL.

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CBRIGGS1956 7/31/2012 2:07PM

    Thanks John, but would any of us be here if we were happy with just the way we are?

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SNOWANGELDIVA 7/31/2012 8:28AM

    If I was 9mo preggo and pushing hard at my exercise it's because I'd be busting my chops to jiggle junior out!
"Here's your notice Small Fry!" *jiggle-jiggle.

If her indignation was due to her healthy, happy, and sexy vanity she'd be of the elite of 'Great with Child' women. I don't remember feeling like a healthy, happy, sexy mama in the latter part of pregnancy...so, although I'd agree that her tantrum was immature I'm actually quite impressed the more of her. She works hard and loves the results and is not ashamed to make herself look like a fool before letting go of her dream of being the elite preggo ~ not letting her sexy go.

blessed brat.



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LYNMEINDERS 7/31/2012 5:46AM

    Awesome as always

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NASFKAB 7/31/2012 12:25AM

  great as usual

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MYOWNHERO 7/30/2012 11:22PM

    I hope the trainer knows she behaved perfectly well. But with that said...pregnancy hormones made me somewhat irrational at that stage. I might have done a few things that would be considered over-reactive now that I think about it.

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GEEMAWEST 7/30/2012 11:08PM

    Yes John, you are amazing and thanks for reminding me that I am too! emoticon

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CARTOONB 7/30/2012 10:48PM

    Yes you are!

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LDRICHEL 7/30/2012 4:44PM

    So hard to listen to the trainer! But they are usually right! ;)

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ANGIEJAY77 7/30/2012 12:53PM

    I hope you have an amazing day yourself!! Thanks for posting! This blog is right on!

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SJKENT1 7/30/2012 11:08AM

    Sometimes the "right thing to do" is tough. Good for that trainer - that's one of the reasons she is there. I hope the woman will be able to see the truth through the sweat.

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BLUEROSE73 7/30/2012 10:53AM

  wow. What a difficult situation. That poor woman. Something is eating away at her. I hope everything settles down soon. Pregnancy horomones can be so hard on a woman.

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GINA180847 7/30/2012 10:33AM

    I too agree the trainer did the right thing and deserves a medal. What fruitcakes we are sometimes and we should be careful not to act like spoiled children. Thank you I am every bit as happy, healthy and sexy as we all think I am.

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DEARTOMYHEART 7/30/2012 10:22AM

  God bless the trainer.. I'm so glad God loves me for who He created me to be. We all have unrealistic thought of what we should be, but in all honesty, God love us know matter what and we need to remember that we are made in his image. We are to be healthy and physically active, that is how we were made. We are meant to be active. How ever, active the healthy way, not over doing it to the point of physical harm.
John, you have a great day and thanks so much for sharing. God bless. emoticon emoticon

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SPARKENISTA 7/30/2012 8:47AM

    There is definitely some information missing here. The gym member is completely out of line. She is endangering herself and her unborn child. Perhaps she is feeling pressure to look great or get back into shape after her pregnancy by working out during her pregnancy. Some women feel that they should snap back the way celebrities do.

When I was pregnant (24 years ago) I was doing Jane Fonda's Pregnancy CD. My La Maze trainer and my doctor told me to dial it down. Believe me, it was not as strenuous as what this woman is doing.

The trainer in your gym should get a medal. She is 100% correct, as is the gym's requirement that the woman bring a doctor's note. If, heaven forbid, the strenuous workout precipitated a medical crisis for this woman and her baby she would not hesitate to sue the gym b/c they should have "known" better.

I hope that all works out in the end with a healthy mother and baby.

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DOODIE59 7/30/2012 8:34AM

    I'm puzzled by that member's over reaction ... the trainer had her best interests at heart. And the baby's.

Separately, the most important lesson we need to learn is the absolute miracle of our body and souls. We are what we are, and it's amazing. If we work from that base of true and positive energy, the synergy will be astounding. Together, we are more than the sum of our parts.

Wishing you a wonderful day, John:)
Deirdre

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VONBLACKBIRD 7/30/2012 8:26AM

    We are all amazing..made in God's image...Thanks for the blog.

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HDHAWK 7/30/2012 8:17AM

    That's a tough situation for both of them.
Your last sentence is still one I struggle to believe when it comes to myself. Thanks for the reminder!

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SANDRALEET 7/30/2012 8:14AM

    Self will rudeness and wanting the unattainable Youth worship is the way of the world fast and without effort and right now is the way.I am so glad God likes me the way I am and I will get where I can be .I am who God made me.

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ONEKIDSMOM 7/30/2012 8:11AM

    What a difficult balance for the trainer to have to strike. My humble opinion... keep the trainer. Worth her weight in gold. I have to wonder whether if the trainer had been a guy our PG member friend would have had the same reaction.

Sigh. Human emotions, hormones, and image seeking... volatile. Hope it works out well for all concerned in the end. Including that precious child about to be born!

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