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What's In Your Refrigerator

Monday, May 28, 2012




I am a visual person. You can talk to me all day about good, better and best but until I see a picture, image or example I am often clueless. I paint with words. I relate to images. The irony here is that a close friend, an artist in their own right, “tried” to teach me how to draw. She claimed her professors told her “anyone” could accomplish the task if they worked hard enough. (Thank goodness I am not just anyone.)My claim to fame is stick people. They are gender, race and culturally neutral, guaranteed to offend no one. But I digress.

I was reading an excerpt from a book on change (The Little Book of Letting Go by Hugh Prather) when the author compared our internal life and our self-effectiveness to a refrigerator. He asked “What’s in your refrigerator?” I sat back in my chair, closed my eyes and immediately began to feel emotionally queasy. My “fridge,” so to speak, resembled the above photo – crammed full of all sorts of things that are 100% guaranteed to throw me off track and keep me there. The more frustrated I become the more stuff I cram until a very unpleasant odor emanates from within.

Ever played a guessing game as to what a left over item might have originally been say three weeks ago? I hold mine out at arm’s length and get a disgusted look on my face. It may be an old piece of cheese but allegorically it’s an unhealthy behavior that’s keeping me from stocking healthy habits. There is a whole refrigerator full of them. When I look at the picture I see where I’ve really short changed myself. I’ve hung on to old practices and beliefs and they left no room for newer, healthier ones. Literally I’ve thought of little else the past three days. I “willed” myself to lose weight. Fought all the urges and desires to drop an agreed upon number of pounds. I crossed the finish line, people cheered; I bowed and then headed for Mickey D’s. Slowly the weight came back. I became frustrated. “This stuff doesn’t work!!!” Ahhhhh here the siren song of behavior that never changed. Throwing out old beliefs and ancient practices is difficult. Some we’ve had since birth. Some we acquired and wear as a badge of honor. They define us. We chart calories and exercise and look at our lives through the same smudged glasses.

Hugh Prathers image shook me to my core. I have begged and pleaded for almost two years to try and understand why I lose a certain amount of weight and no more. Why does it all come back? Quite simply I haven’t had the courage to change some things about me that prevent me from being more wonderful then I already am!!! In all honesty, this reality stuff frightens me. It means the definition of whom and what I am, what I REALLY is has to change. The outside is simply a mirror of the inside. It’s easy to be the lovable fat guy who trips over his own initiative, the wordsmith who encourages……. The real change almost causes me to wet myself.

At least I got my answers. I feel fortunate in that respect. I know what you’re thinkin’ “Don’t be too hard on yourself.” It’s not a matter of being hard. It’s getting up every morning and looking at what has to happen to make my life a better. It means starting over one more freakin’ time.

I sat back in my chair and lifted my eyes skyward. “I’m counting on you.” I prayed. A silent voice bounced back. “I’m counting on you too.”

What’s in your refrigerator?

  
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SILLYHP1953 6/28/2012 2:12PM

    I guess I have another book that I need to acquire now. I love books, so thank you. Learning to let go is major, really big stuff, and very scary. Very, very scary.

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DMANN104 6/8/2012 2:10PM

    Sometimes being "hard on ourselves" is just the tough love we need, the kick in the pants to change things for the better.

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IRP1114 6/6/2012 3:00PM

    Great blog!! So true. I have a blog with pictures of my fridge :-)

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GIRANIMAL 6/6/2012 2:40PM

    This reminds me a little bit of my fellow food-intolerance-saddled friend at my local Whole Foods. Whenever I come through her line with wheat bread and good ol's cow's milk, she begins to scold me: "what are you doing buying that stuff?!" I assure her it's for my BF, and she looks at me askew, as if to say, " Uh-uh. Not in my house. Why would you tempt yourself that way? Can't he just follow your diet?"

It's been hard, but I am happy to say that MOST of my refrigerator is a nutritionally sound powerhouse of offerings, and I am vary rarely tempted beyond my strength/will/new values/whatever by the "other" anymore. And I know better than to remove someone else's temptation (in this case, for my BF, his cookies and chips, not his fairly nutritious milk and bread! LOL) for them -- that's something we all have to do for ourselves.

I marvel that you could afraid of unleashing the real you -- the you who's just slightly held back is awfully wonderfully already! Imagine John without restraints. A thing of pure beauty, I tell you!

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AVANDREA_ 6/2/2012 9:34PM

    My fridge is looking a lot healthier these days, I think because I have decided that I need to make these changes for myself. Not for anyone else, but for me. I don't know if I have the courage so much as the determination to make myself over as a healthier me. My fridge has to have no junk food in it for now, because I still have those cravings and if they are in there, I will eat them, all the while telling myself I should not. Removing those bad foods, limiting my exposure to them to very occasionally is the only way I will get to my goal and then maintain.

It sounds like you are on that same path to recreating yourself to be a healthier you, with both the courage and the determination to keep going, even when you get tripped up along the way. I will be here cheering you on, and hope that you will be there for me when I trip up as well.

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TIKATAKAWITHA 6/2/2012 3:47PM

    I'm pretty sure there are a few science experments in my fridge. I went to look for lettuce the other day and had a veggie soup in my bottom crisper. emoticon

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SPARKLISE 6/2/2012 8:23AM

    My fridge and pantry are actually pretty clean!
I even overheard my daughter tell somebody that she can't eat junk foods at our house because there are none! emoticon

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LADILADIDA 5/30/2012 9:22AM

    Sometimes "being hard on yourself" IS loving yourself. Seeing, then accepting and forgiving, allows forward motion towards transformation. Every day is a day to ask "who am I?" and "who is doing this?" I've come to realize that I am no longer moving to make my life "better" but more in line with who I am at this moment. I think you are on the path to do the same.

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MARITIMER3 5/29/2012 10:14PM

    DH and I renewed our wedding vows on Saturday, followed by a party for about 25 people. Unfortunately they didn't eat as much as I thought they would, so we have lots of left-overs. Mostly healthy things, so portion control will be the biggest challenge for the next few days. I'm planning to use luncheon size plates instead of dinner plates, and filling a big part of the plate with salad. Then, once I have more room in the fridge, I'll fill it with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables.

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KWAJPODGE 5/29/2012 1:59PM

    Interesting! I figured you actually wanted to know what was in my fridge - don't wanna go there. But it does make me think. I have adopted the motto "Actions speak louder than words." However, this weekend didn't have a bit of my actions only myself enjoying a decadant weekend - didn't journal, didn't hesitate about consuming anything...but that's over now and I will make a better plan for the next holiday weekend.
Thank you for sharing.

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WALKNLOVE 5/29/2012 6:14AM

    ...pressing the "like" button! ;)

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LYNMEINDERS 5/29/2012 5:04AM

    Awesome...am going to get this book and read it...
thankyou for putting som pieces together for me....

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NASFKAB 5/29/2012 3:32AM

  You have to change

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MORTICIAADDAMS 5/28/2012 8:32PM

    My fridge is stuffed to the gills with healthy food - fruits, veggies, low carb milk, nuts, meat, cheese, yogurt, eggs. Obviously my intentions are good but I still can manage to over-eat these healthy foods. LOL.

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CARTOONB 5/28/2012 6:05PM

    We do what we do because, on some level, it works for us. You have to figure out what you're getting from your current habits and decide if it's worth it to keep the habits. THEN yours have to decide that the change is worth it. Gonna be hard, but i know you'll make the choice that works for you.

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LDMCNIEL 5/28/2012 5:04PM

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PANFRIEDTROUT 5/28/2012 3:11PM

    wonderful analogy John!

what i've found on my journey so far is that little changes over time add up and that includes my mindset as well. moving from resentment to actual joy in the process has helped immensely ..... not only in losing weight but keeping it off and overall, being happier with myself.

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DEARTOMYHEART 5/28/2012 1:54PM

  You did it again John. You made think about myself in a different way. What I look like on the outside is a mirror image of what is on the outside. That is very powerful stuff. Then when you asked what is in my refrigerator, I got to thinking about my insides and outsides. Stuff we need and stuff you don't need. What holds us together? Comes done to feeding myself healthy food and healthy food for thought. Do you love yourself enough to feed it healthy as well as what we say to ourselves. Do I love me? Am I a good friend to myself? I may not be able to change every thing about me or around me, but what I put into it I can change. Thanks John for sharing. You always give me so much to think about. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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RICOCHETBEAR 5/28/2012 1:52PM

    great blog emoticon

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RONOSOF 5/28/2012 1:28PM

    This definitely is about restarting until habits become permanent, however I think you've hit on something deeper inside some of us who struggle with this issue. I can't quantify it, despite being a behavioral scientist!) but it is related to self worth, self kindness, self love. These values often go back to infancy and early childhood, which is why making the habits permament is so slippery! Thank you for writing this post. My comment is as close to comprehending my own challenge as I've come.

Peace,
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ROSGETSSERIOUS 5/28/2012 1:12PM

    Very thought provoking - thanks for sharing - we are lucky that we get the chance to start over every day - we just have to reach out, grab the ball and run with it!
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DEE797 5/28/2012 1:05PM

    WOW, this is powerful John. Thanks so much for sharing it with us. Good luck on your journey! emoticon

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KENDRACARROLL 5/28/2012 12:42PM

    I love it when you reference books you read. I went ahead and ordered it.
Great blog, as always.
Have a wonderful Memorial Day.
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HDHAWK 5/28/2012 12:34PM

    Thought provoking!

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VONBLACKBIRD 5/28/2012 12:01PM

    Thanks to another great blog. I clear out my refrigerator once a week..I rarely save left overs...our yard dogs have it lucky as they get all the goodies..Now my freezer is a different story..yes I find something and look at it and wonder what in the world did I freeze in that? Which this reminds me my freezers (yes I did say freezers we have 3 not counting the top of the refrigerator...but we garden)....they all need cleaning as our veggies from the garden are coming off. Thanks again.

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VICKI-B--56 5/28/2012 11:58AM

  Another good blog to make me think. Thank you John.

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SPARKENISTA 5/28/2012 11:56AM

    It's easy to "change" for a period of time. It's the long-run that is the problem. We often think that "forever" is a year or even two--the amount of time it takes to lose the weight. In my experience, this is like a rubber band waiting to break. As soon as I reach a set goal weight or I can't hold out any longer and I go back to my old habits--and my old weight.

You have hit the nail on the head. The real change comes from within when we accept that "permanent" changes have to become our reality in order to maintain the change.



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SANDRALEET 5/28/2012 11:34AM

    A good start my friend. I joined over eaters anonymous to help me to learn to understand myself and why I do what I do to myself.

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LDRICHEL 5/28/2012 11:12AM

    Wow..this is just great, John. Thanks, as usual, for being so vulnerable and honest. You are amazing, man.

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ISHIIGIRL 5/28/2012 11:07AM

    hhm, I think you have metaphorically nailed it this time. You have to want to change on the inside and you have to be sincere. It isn't easy, it is very hard and once you acheive your gaols it is even harder to maintian. You have to find balance. It is easier to maintain blance than to go all out and make changes you know you will never keep. Get back to basics and make the small changes. Little by little those will become habit. Once those become habit, you can make a few more. Its when you lose those small habits that the war is really lost. Keep it simple and it becomes much easier. It is never easy to maintain a weight loss. Keep that in mind as well. Have a good memorial day!


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Warriors, Heroes and You (Me 2)

Thursday, May 24, 2012


If you cant view this here you can see it @
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v-0KQ9YoX
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SILLYHP1953 7/14/2012 4:04PM

    Well, well, well...I just figured out why my trainer at the gym I joined a month ago is doing (besides torture); he's challenging me. Very interesting concept. It's going to put a whole new light on squats and lunges.

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CARTOONB 5/28/2012 12:16AM

    You can make this journey sound like it's worth it. Oh! Wait! That's because it is!! Thanks for the reminder.

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REFFIE1 5/27/2012 6:17PM

    Such a great boost. I am definitely on a plateau but your blog makes me want to continue and not give in. My leg is aching and would make a great excuse not to personally train tomorrow but no excuses allowed. Thanks for expressing so well what those of us are feeling as we struggle to succeed. emoticon

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LYNMEINDERS 5/26/2012 11:28PM

    Thankyou for sharing this with us John

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SLIMLEAF 5/26/2012 5:16PM

    Just as I'd almost decided to write-off this weekend because I'm feeling so low, I watched your vlog and it has made me determined to do SOMETHING active tomorrow, even if it's only a little. I WILL get out of the house and do something to increase my heart rate and need a shower afterwards. I WILL keep taking these little steps instead of crumpling in a heap and wailing "It's all useless!" (like I did today).

Thank you , my dear Spark Friend.

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CBRIGGS1956 5/25/2012 10:33PM

    Thanks John

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GEEMAWEST 5/25/2012 10:30PM

    John, you really hit a home run with this one. I never thought of it that way. I am frustrated often, but instead of beating myself up I will do my best to remember that I'm doing something. I still care about my health and I will not give up. Thank you!

Love and Hugs, Cheryl

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VICKI-B--56 5/25/2012 6:17PM

  John, You ALWAYS make me think and if I'm having a crappy day ( as I have been the past 2 days), you always make me feel better. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. emoticon

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JACKH35 5/25/2012 3:03PM

    Hey John.....I think you might have "unfrustrated me, in fact I'm sure you have. I don't have as much weight to lose as lots of people I see on SP, and I really admire those who have made big strides getting the weight off and getting themselves in better physical condition. I set out to lose about 30 pounds, go from 200 down to 170, maybe a few more than 30, but 30 at least. After getting to the 180 mark about two months ago, I hit that plateau and have been waffling between 178 and 182 since then. Not much has changed, but I have delayed adding my "Lost 20 Pounds' Trophy until I know I am under 180 for good. This blog was a good kick in the butt. I just need to work a bit harder at it - walk a bit further, stay on the treadmill a bit longer, push the plate away a bit earlier. We all know the drill. Thanks for a good reminder.

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DAHLEEA 5/25/2012 2:41PM

    This is exactly what I needed to hear today. I am new to SparkPeople and have had a lot of trouble motivating myself. I worked out hard yesterday and am a bit sore today. I was thinking of not exercising today, taking it easy. But that would be continuing the cycle of poor habits I have engaged in for half a lifetime. I do need to look at all this as a challenge. There are going to be days that are difficult. But I am so very tired of sitting on the couch mindlessly eating while I watch the world go by.
Thank you so very much for your insightful words.

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DEARTOMYHEART 5/25/2012 1:34PM

  You did it again, John. Gave me a new perspective on things and where I'm at. I hurt all the time but feel so much better mentally then I did before I start. I'm so greatful for your blogs. I look foward to the next one because I know you will help me change something about myself. Thanks so much John.. I'm getting off the couch!!! emoticon emoticon

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JUNIAATROME 5/25/2012 12:48PM

    Ha, ha! I AM out there doing something! I'm great! thank you for the pep talk.

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PEGGY11 5/25/2012 11:21AM

   
As usual, an excellent blog. I can't run, jump or ride a bike. Walking is hard too because of my arthritic knees, but I am off the couch doing the strenth training and walking as far as I can. It is only a quarter to a half mile but it is easier every time. Hey, I am off the couch. Thank you.

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THEFLORIDAFAIRY 5/25/2012 10:45AM

    Awesome blog - I am sharing it with the world!

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LDRICHEL 5/25/2012 9:03AM

    Oh, John. You've done it again. I got chills because I'm preparing a blog right now to help motivate some of my people that are feeling discouraged and you have communicated SO well what I want to say to them. I hope you don't mind if I take a different angle with my blog and then just highly encourage them to watch this vlog if they are feeling down.

Thanks again!!! You are one of my top motivators!


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NASFKAB 5/25/2012 2:20AM

  thanks again & again

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WARMSTRONG2 5/25/2012 12:14AM

  Thanks, again.

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LISAMARIE1313 5/24/2012 10:20PM

    You gave me the boost I needed today. Thank you !

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MOBYCARP 5/24/2012 9:33PM

    Thank you for the alternative perspective on frustration, right when I'm very frustrated by my work life. The whole Spark thing is going okay, but there are more ways to get frustrated than simply not meeting weight or fitness goals!

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ONEKIDSMOM 5/24/2012 8:06PM

    LOVE this blog, John! You are worth every bit of the effort, and I love seeing the insights that you so generously share.

You and I, and all the Spark folks who are up off the couch, are winners already. The struggles, as you say, just show that we're DOING something! Way to go!

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TERRIMMIX 5/24/2012 7:43PM

    I AM a warrior! And I DO believe it! Thanks for taking the time to put a new perspective on frustration. :-)

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C = S (Consistency Equals Success)

Monday, May 21, 2012

After a long drive Friday Joan and I stopped to see my mom and had a light supper. Dead tired we lay on the bed and enjoyed a rare luxury……… watching TV. We don’t have a TV in our bedroom so it was a good change of pace. After flipping through the channels for five or ten minutes we settled on an interview with Dr. Oz. The interviewer asked him what HIS secret was to maintaining good health. (Have you noticed that everyone has a secret to good health?) His answer was simple: He did the same activity each day, seven days a week. He ate the same breakfast, and always engaged in exactly seven minutes of exercise each morning immediately after getting out of bed. He went on to say this was important to him because it relieved him of the stress and burden of having to decide what to eat each day. Life is full of too much unavoidable stress. We might as well get rid of the stuff we can. Well anyway, it made sense to me!!!I thought about it most of the weekend. (I get like that when I latch on to something. We’re sitting at the wedding reception and I’m staring off into the mist trying to find a divine message in all of this.) It’s probably not new to you but it was a bit of an “ah-ha” to me. When I am consistent in my thoughts, my action and behaviors I will ultimately be successful. It’s not too terribly exciting or earth shattering, it’s life. It’s putting one foot in front of the other and marching to the same beat, YOUR beat, each day. Joan, (My wife of 38 years) has stayed within fifteen pounds of what she weighed the day we were married. She gained through six pregnancies, but each time she managed to drop back to a comfortable spot for her. No magic, no secret berries from an island in New Guinea, no home remedies. If you ask her about her diet she will tell you she is a “Plain Jane.” She eats beef, and chicken with a baked potato and either corn or peas for dinner. Lunch is a ham sandwich or a can of tuna with an apple. Breakfast is coffee, cereal and skim milk or toast with a sausage patty. She drinks a lot of water but enjoys diet Pepsi. Holiday meals are ham or turkey. If you ever talk to her she’ll tell you probably eats too many carbs. Her exercise regimen is walking three to five days a week or swimming in our pool when the weathers warm. Her guilty pleasure is butter and a brownie on occasion.

Driving home yesterday I started reviewing my mental food logs and realized that I had drop weight when I establish a consistent eating pattern . It was when I started chasing the exotic or trying to emulate someone half my age that my body started asking me what I was doing. I think it’s where I get lost. The desire to sit with the cool kids gets in the way of plain old common sense and I go off chasing butterflies. Suddenly I wake up one morning and nothing fits.

Consistency equals success. It is often not inspirational; it’s simply the everyday activities we discover and integrate into our life pattern that produce long term success. It’s not chasing every fad and folly that rings our doorbell. I lost weight establishing a consistent pattern. I gained it all back when I deviated from that pattern. It’s not very inspirational and maybe your scratching your head and saying “I KNEW that!!!” I guess I did also but I guess it took Joan and Dr. Oz to remind me.

Namaste dear ones

  
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ALIDOSHA 10/24/2012 5:43PM

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CUPCAKZ 9/3/2012 2:44AM

    John, I like to come by and re-read this post from time to time. Lack of consistency has been my downfall in the past. Over the last few months this chant has been with me : "C = S, C = S, C = S" as I made it a point to get out of the house and walk each night after supper. 17 pounds later, here I am! Thanks again for your words of wisdom!

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SILLYHP1953 6/28/2012 2:07PM

    I manage to start off each day the same...a spoonful of natural peanut butter, a banana, glass of skim milk, and cup of green tea. Every day I start that way. Now, I guess I need to figure out how to make the other meals the same, or close to the same, each day. Interesting.

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TERRYFIELD1 6/21/2012 7:44PM

    Consistancy is the Key! I am trying to become more consistant, establishing a habit of healthy choices and exercising regularly.

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GIRANIMAL 6/6/2012 2:57PM

    Ha, I guess I am a creature of habit too, though I haven't thought about it in a while. I fell in love with a pumpkin oatmeal recipe, oh, last year maybe? (thanks again, BTINTERNET!) and have eaten it nearly every day since! Sometimes I might alternative with a cold cereal and a banana. And I've been eating half an avocado smashed onto rice cakes for a snack for so long that months ago I actually bought one of those dedicated gadgets that are the bane of cluttered kitchens -- an avocado-shaped avocado keeper! LOL It does remove one stress from my days, knowing what I'm going to eat for certain meals and tracking the others first thing, while I am having breakfast, most days.

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MARYM1962 5/31/2012 10:21AM

  so logical! - I have to do the same thing to get my blood sugar down. It does not work following a calorie count diet. I have to get one of the diets that tell you how much to eat or what item at what time of day and follow it to the "t" to be able to reduce my numbers. You are correct - consistency = success!

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WRITINGDIVA1 5/28/2012 11:30PM

    Wow, with so many choices, it's a lot easier to get off track! Thanks for the reminder.

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SUSANSERENE 5/28/2012 2:51PM

    Awesome, John, and thanks for sharing your "aha" moment! That's definitely some info to think about.

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JEANNINEMM68 5/27/2012 5:25PM

    Sometimes it takes a reminder of how simple things can be. Thank you for reminding me.

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NWFL59 5/26/2012 10:08PM

    Thanks for the reminder to KISS (Keep It Simple Sparker) and that being consistent is a key to success. emoticon

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THATLOANGAL 5/25/2012 10:32AM

  This is timely wisdom, as I embark upon week 2. Just stay on the path, 1 step in front of the other....straying neither to the left of the right, consistency equals success! SIMPLICITY.

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EGGBASKET1 5/25/2012 2:37AM

    THIS IS A GREAT BLOG !!! I REALLY NEED TO FOLLOW AND MAKE "CONSISTENCY" MY BEST FRIEND!!! THANKS FOR THE FORMULA...C=S, I HAVE ADDED IT TO MY DAILY MANTRA. I HOPE YOU DON'T MIND.
MY DAILY MANTRA IS..........

STAY MOTIVATED, DETERMINED, PERSISTENT AND CONSISTENT...NO EXCUSES !!! I CAN DO THIS WITH MY FRIEND "WILL" POWER !!!
C=S ( CONSISTENCY = SUCCESS )

THANKS FOR SHARING !

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MEDDYPEDDY 5/25/2012 1:00AM

    I think I wouldn´t mind eating the same thing all meals all the time... I do have the same breakfast every day and yes, it makes it easy.

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ANGELWENDYMAMA 5/25/2012 12:40AM

    I have the same breakfast almost every day. I have half a lemon squeezed into a glass of water with a half teaspoon of truvia in it., I have a cup of steel cut oatmeal with about 5 chopped up strawberries and a banana and 1 tablespoon of maple syrup (or peanut butter) and between 1/2 and 1 cup of milk with it. I have a greek yogurt for a mid-morning snack. My lunches vary a bit and dinners vary, too.

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LISALGB 5/24/2012 9:33PM

    Ah-Ha!! I like the idea of having the same thing for breakfast - or at least a fixed breakfast menu, having certain things on certain days.
Thanks for a great post!!! I'll ponder this for a while.

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JIBBIE49 5/24/2012 8:40PM

    emoticonWOW, you are a STAR. Love seeing you featured in the Spark Mail. What an honor!!! emoticon

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HIKETOHEIGHTS 5/24/2012 5:16PM

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JPEARL127 5/24/2012 2:00PM

  Thank you for an uplifting post. I guess you're right, about consistency and its relationship to success. And there is no "one size fits all" when it comes to diet and exercise. We are each unique and thus will always need to tweak any set program or use the Spark to learn and design the program we each need.

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TISTEN23 5/24/2012 11:47AM

    Great blog. Thanks!

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GOING-STRONG 5/24/2012 10:43AM

    Life is full of so many choices and it seems if we try to stay plain Jane that somehow the World judges us s "boring". No we don't have to try every new restaurant in town! I'm with Joan.. stick to the basics. Spark on!

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CAPTAINMORGAN2 5/24/2012 10:15AM

    Consistency has always been my problem, I let myself be easily led astray. I try to eat like my mother did. Always small portions, lots of fruit and veggies, salad, she kept veggies in water in the fridge to snack on, she didn't really like meat but had the sense to realize it has it's place in vitamins etc. so she ate it but never much, her weight never changed and she didn't struggle with it. sigh!! She also loved sweets, especially chocolate but again, it was a small part of her diet so it never caused weight gain. Consistency again. I am trying!! She also never had to take any medication except eye drops well into her 80s. She walked a lot, did crosswords and read all the time. She did it right with no effort at all. sigh! emoticon

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MARCYNA 5/24/2012 5:28AM

    I guess my consistency equals zero, I'm the exact opposite as your wife....too bad for me.....I have to find my way in all this mess.
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RADAZZLE 5/24/2012 12:51AM

    Wow... yesterday I went to the nutritionist associated with the Bariatric group I go to. And one of the things that I complained about was that, due to the pickiness and various food restrictions of both myself and my husband, I can't make "interesting" and different foods. So your topic sure hit the nail on the head - I'm complaining, but maybe I should re-think how this can be turned into a positive! Consistency! Hmmm!!!

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    Great post....

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Right you are. I am finding it easier now that I have let Sparkpeople plan my menu. I am eating things I have never eaten before eg. black beans on my sweetpotato . It was good. Surprise, Surprise. More beans and nuts, no beef. I don't miss that yet, but it is only two days. I will find out how it is working on Monday night when I weigh in at TOPS. emoticon

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GARNETTS 5/23/2012 9:20AM

  Definitely some good points and something to think about.
Sounds like a lot of us just TRY too hard. Better to just establish consistent habits.

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    Your blogs are always great to read. They always make us think. Thanks. emoticon

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JLEMUS1 5/23/2012 8:27AM

    Awesome, Thank you.

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    As always, I loved reading your writings!

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MARIONWARSAW 5/22/2012 12:50PM

  Thanks again for pointing out something I knew and yet always move away from because others tell me I need to try new things. I just need to be consistent and then I will be successful.

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MOMMY445 5/22/2012 12:37PM

    What a terrific blog,John! thanks for sharing and have a fabulous day!

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GINA180847 5/22/2012 12:29PM

    Thank you John for that reminder. Yes, I kind of knew that. My body tends to go to repeating the same thing over and over and then I deviate just a little at a time till it is part of the patern. Where I do go wrong is the fact that my husband wants variety above all else. That makes life so much more work and I get confused. Exercise is always the same and dog walking works so well for me. Belly dancing is NOT in my future, as exciting as it sounds. Right now I have a huge container of bean salad in the fridge and I could just eat that for quite a while. Charlie is going to get something else as he will eat lettuce but not actual salads. See what I mean!!!!

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  I enjoy reading your journey because you speak for the real people.

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    Yes... You are right on target. This is an ahah! for me also. Thanks

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MIMIDOT 5/22/2012 9:08AM

    You are sooo right! Last week I told my friend that I lost weight when I was eating chicken, broccoli, and half a sweet potato for dinner. I usually eat the same things for breakfast and lunch. It's the dinner that has changed. But I never really thought about it.

Thanks for reminding me.

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TARAH85 5/22/2012 8:56AM

    I really like your background, and I think it's great that something so simple as having a routine can be such a powerful motivator of positive change. It's something I'm working on too.

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MRSTABER 5/22/2012 8:47AM

    This is a wonderful revelation! I always eat the same breakfast everyday because I don't have to think about it. This is great!

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CGHARNER 5/22/2012 8:44AM

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FARIS71 5/22/2012 8:43AM

    Such a good point. Consistency, habits . . . Thank you!

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BIRDLSLAURIE 5/22/2012 8:28AM

    I read Dr Oz's book You On A Diet many years ago and he brought up the very subject of keeping things simple and consistent. I have followed that advice for the most part and it really does take a lot of stress away. Thanks for the reminder.

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Enough Small Victories Pave The Way For Larger Ones

Thursday, May 17, 2012

I wasn’t feeling it this morning. I looked at the clock and it was 5:45 AM. I WAS going to take a bike ride this morning. I have been trying to rotate my cardio to get back in the swing of things after convincing myself my life was over because I somehow injured my back. Rotation provided diversity. Slowly but surely things are coming around. I have to be patient. Cleaning up after a major pity party is never fun. I went through the motions, got dressed, looked out the window, hoped it was raining, snowing or there had possibly been an earthquake……… I opened the back door and hopped on my bike.

If this were a made for TV special we would now cut to the scene that says “3 Days Earlier…..”

It’s Monday morning and I am preparing to leave town to take my one man show on the road. I’m facilitating a seminar on The Law of Attraction and Business Goals. Fun stuff. The road that leads to the hotel I’m staying at is lined with restaurants and the only way” healthy” enters into the equation anywhere is their menus that say “Hope you have a HEALTHY appetite.” Okay, I’m weak. It’s hard to get past those greasy, sugary, carb loaded oasis. It feels so, so good going down……….. Somewhere in the garage is a nice cloth cooler. It waves at me and I pack three meals to take along. No, they won’t be hot but they will be healthy. Some fresh fruit, a bit of yogurt and because I still haven’t broke the habit of striking the rock more than once, a diet Mt Dew. I stuck with what was in my cooler, my appetite was satisfied and I had fashioned a small victory for myself. I was uber proud. After all I AM worth all the effort I put into being happy and healthy.

“The next evening…………..”

It’s Tuesday night. I am home from a very fulfilling but long day plus two hours in the car. I’m in my recliner, eyes closed and concentrating on relaxing when the patio door flies open and in walks my daughter Maggie. I knew what she had in her hand. My nose has been finely attuned to sniff out cake, on a dead run, from a zillion miles away. Just get in the way of me and cake…………. might as well start writing your obituary. I’m salivating………….. a lot! Maggie saved me a piece, let me stop here. Maggie saved me enough food to save a small nation. I looked at that sugary goo and felt my body moving forward………. “Really, John?” It’s that da*n voice again. The voice that reminded me of my victories Monday and Tuesday. I sat for a moment, teetering back and forth and politely thanked Maggie and went back to capturing relaxation. If there hadn’t been that small victory to build upon Monday, who knows? Wait, I do, there would have been a sugary moustache highlighting my mouth. The point is I found something really small to build upon and then added to it.

The camera cuts to Wednesday at noon………..

John is speaking at a luncheon and on the menu is the following: “Three sliders covered with caramelized onions, gouda cheese and a Dijon mayonnaise. They are served with a mountain of fries. It was the only option I had, or was it? I politely refused and toughed it out till I got home a short hour later. I made a salad and created another small victory. We all get stuck and we all feel like we are in a room that is exactly three feet square. We feel hopeless, helpless and throw our hands up. We begin thinking this “health thing” isn’t for us!! In frustration we give up because we can’t recapture our previous success. It’s slipped through our hands. I am learning to find the small victories to build upon. We get so lost and we seem to have misplaced the map.

As the smoke clears we are back to John, his bike and a rather chilly ride this morning.

“Good goal setting is a balancing act between seeing the details involved in reaching a goal, while still being able to hold the big picture view of what those details will eventually create. Most of us have a natural leaning towards one or the other. Some people excel in understanding and ordering details and some people naturally understand and connect with the big picture. Both are incredibly valuable and complementary to each other. As we become more effective in goal setting we learn to balance our natural inclinations, we will generally play to our strength and find ways to build the weaker view. This is a neat and tidy little theory... until a really wound-up, tender and frustrating goal comes up. You know the one, the one that consistently befuzzles you? The good news is that this goal area is your "working edge" and this is the place bursting with the most growth for you; the steepest climb resulting in the most breathtaking view, if you will. And since we do tend to get the most turned around and frustrated in this area, we will generally fall back into (cling to :) what comes naturally. So, here's a thought, an idea that may work for you in unwinding this goal once and for all... if you are a detail person- is it possible that you have detailed this goal to death? Maybe you know each step, each milestone, each nanosecond of planning- but is it possible that you have lost your big view for this goal? Have you spent enough time playing and basking in the big picture to drive you forward? And if you are a big picture person- could it be that you are spending all of your time frolicking through the theoretic fields of the big view without dedicating time to working the details and creating doable systematic action steps? The answer for me is "yes!" this is exactly the case, so I am currently taking my working edge back to the drawing board for rebalancing. :)” This comes from a colleague and dear friend Kat Garrard. I couldn’t have said it better (A tip of my hat to you dear friend.) Sometimes we lose our way and it’s through the small victories that we find our course again.

Daily victories lead to weekly ones and then one morning when we start the engine, we find the trucks no longer stuck in the mud but careening down the highway.


  
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SILLYHP1953 6/28/2012 2:03PM

    The Law of Attraction...wow, I don't hear those words on spark very often, maybe never. Do you video your conferences? I'm sure the attendees would appreciate a dvd and I'd love to hear one of your talks.

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DEBK0923 6/11/2012 5:45PM

    another great blog and interesting

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LOGOULD 6/5/2012 11:05AM

    LOVED this blog John! Thanks so much for sharing your wise insight. I can overanalyze anything and lean toward the all or nothing mentality, which all to frequently results in nothing. What really popped out to me was your phrase, "the steepest climb result(s)ing in the most breathtaking view." I think that is my new mantra of the season!

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JEANNINEMM68 5/28/2012 3:30PM

    Great choices are hard to make but you did a wonderful job.


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ANGELWENDYMAMA 5/25/2012 12:44AM

    Congrats on your successes!!! You made some hard choices, but so happy for you!

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MSTAPLE1 5/22/2012 8:44AM

  Awesome!!

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NASFKAB 5/21/2012 8:40PM

  need to read your blogs over & over thanks

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keep building on those (not so) small victories!

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EARLYBIRDM 5/21/2012 3:41PM

    I needed to read that today. Thank you! And, I think I might need to read some more of your blogs.
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COLEE82 5/21/2012 2:55PM

    Very well said. I too am a "big picture" type of person and it's in the day-to-day that I consistently find myself getting lost along the way. You've given me something to think about - Thank you!

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COCO29 5/21/2012 1:44PM

    I always take away something from your blogs. Thank you for sharing. emoticon

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ANCLIFE 5/21/2012 1:16PM

    interesting post.

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BARB5970 5/21/2012 9:32AM

    As always, stated beautifully. Thanks for sharing. I needed the reminder to take baby steps instead of giant leaps.

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NORMANDYBREW 5/21/2012 9:13AM

    Thanks for your inspiration - way to go!!

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JLEMUS1 5/21/2012 8:24AM

    One step at a time...thanks, great blog!!

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WINE4GIRL 5/21/2012 8:05AM

    Well said... Congrats on your successes!

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CM_GARDNER78 5/20/2012 11:54PM

    I love this. You are so totally right about letting good habits build upon one another. LOVE THIS! :-)

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CINDYB3511 5/20/2012 10:32AM

    ty tyty!!!

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NASFKAB 5/20/2012 6:58AM

  great thought provoking

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MOUNTAINGIRL41 5/19/2012 9:04PM

  Once again, your blog arrives with perfect timing. I definitely do better when I have small victories to build upon. But somedays -- like today -- it is HARD! Thanks for the insight today -- you have helped me achieve yet another small victory upon which to build the next!

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PATTOMMC3 5/19/2012 7:52PM

    I so understand all the challenges you faced and I admire the way you handled them! Kuddos to you!

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HONEYPOT319 5/19/2012 7:33PM

    Hi John:

Let me just say that I love reading your blogs! :) They are so animated, honest and inspiring. It really gets me down sometimes when I read some of the blogs of our frustrated spark friends. I always seem to take something helpful and uplifting from yours. Keep finding your way to your goals and helping all of us as a bonus!

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TYLERDRANGUET 5/19/2012 6:17PM

    Thank you for another incredible and inspiring blog, John! Somehow your blogs always seem to say exactly what I need to hear when I need it the most. Hope you're doing well!

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SHAKACRAW 5/19/2012 4:08PM

  Great blog. Thank you.

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JULIA1154 5/19/2012 3:35PM

  Thanks for the insights, John. This came at a good time!

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TENORSAXYLADY 5/19/2012 10:54AM

    Thank you for sharing!

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2BEEFIT 5/19/2012 10:45AM

    great job...and boy did I need this.

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NUNZIATA43 5/19/2012 10:25AM

    Well said.... I know all the theories and how to achieve success yet, I'm not there! Thanks for the kick in the pants - just WHAT I NEEDED!!! emoticon

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BLOOMING52 5/19/2012 10:21AM

    Thank you!

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MEMORIES7 5/19/2012 10:20AM

    Pure AWESOME Friend ! Hugs, Rose

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VANHALENFAN 5/19/2012 10:08AM

    Thanks for the inspiration this morning!! emoticon

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NLDOWNEY 5/19/2012 9:25AM

  Thanks for the inspiration. Your blog is great.

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Thanks for the inspiration!

Blessings and be well,

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RYANB1982 5/19/2012 7:14AM

    Great blog, it really struck a chord with me this morning. Thank you!

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MAGGIEMAE03815 5/19/2012 6:50AM

  thanks, Jonh - great blog!

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TATTER3 5/19/2012 5:53AM

    Thank you! Keep Sparkin'!!

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MANILUS 5/19/2012 4:35AM

    You pinpointed some very important details in keeping with the healthy lifestyle. Congrats to you for figuring out how you can stay on track! Keep up the great work!!!

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YIWEN39 5/18/2012 9:41PM

    Another great blog John :-) Way to go with these small but so important victories :-)

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KIPPER15 5/18/2012 9:26PM

    Great job of obtaining small victories. You can do it.

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GALINAZ 5/18/2012 9:00PM

    It's sad your daughter would tempt you with cake. Is she unaware of your struggle? Is she old enough to understand respecting your boundaries?

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MORTICIAADDAMS 5/18/2012 3:54PM

    My ultimate goal is to take such good care of myself that making the right decisions becomes effortless and I wake up one day and realize that I have achieved my goals without much fanfare. I arrived at the finish line without all of the obsessing.

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FARIS71 5/18/2012 3:42PM

    I read this again before leaving for home. It really impacted me and I want to carry over some of this into my evening. Small victories & big picture . . . .

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SJKENT1 5/18/2012 3:26PM

    Just like the song says, "put one foot in front of the other.... and soon you'll be walking out the do-o-or!"

Small victory... I think not! Victory is victory!

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MOMMY445 5/18/2012 2:33PM

    what a great blog!

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LIVELYGIRL2 5/18/2012 2:28PM

  Particularly excellent blog. You are a good writer and good at expressing your ideas and thoughts.Really intersting... you can most certainly obtain your goal with these sort of thinking. Thanks for sharing. We often need a pep talk to train ourselves to have motivation. emoticon

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I Choose Health..............

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

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    Yes, today I choose to be healthy and to eat healthy, too. ;) emoticon

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SKINNYMINNIE25 5/22/2012 9:52AM

    Absolutely!!! We tend to act like victims around eating and most everything else in life....
Look what you did to ME!
Look what you didn't do for ME!
It's not MY fault!

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Looking at it as CHOOSING health is way cooler. Life is constantly about making choices...Some of them will not be the best choices, but the idea is to learn stuff & have fun!


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DEBK0923 5/20/2012 6:39PM

    I chose Health as well, Another great blog

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CAP218 5/20/2012 2:34PM

    I've tried everything but I finally have decided that I want to be healthy more than skinny. I choose health also! Thank you for inspiring me. emoticon

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AMIV07 5/19/2012 6:20PM

  definetley health it will be :)

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MANILUS 5/19/2012 4:41AM

    Excellent work John, you are absolutely right about choosing to see the healthy choice as one you made for yourself instead of deprivation. This is a very difficult concept to grasp and put in place.

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LARKSONGRUTH 5/19/2012 1:07AM

    Thanks for your personal observations about self-talk and how you respond to what you are saying to yourself, and how changing the way you are looking at things helped you to avoid resentment and self-destructive behavior in your choices. It is inspiring.

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DIAMONDLOVR 5/18/2012 6:32PM

    Thanks for that it was very inspiring to me!!

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39JEANNIE 5/18/2012 5:45PM

    Thanks for that wonderful blog. I choose health!!!!

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PRESBESS 5/18/2012 2:08PM

    Like you... I choose health!

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GRAMPIAN 5/18/2012 11:25AM

  Good advice.

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MISSILENE 5/18/2012 7:07AM

    I choose health too.

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ROX525 5/18/2012 6:50AM

    Today I plan on joining you by eating healthy and being healthy. Great blog.

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LSTEMM 5/18/2012 1:13AM

    Great thoughts and actions! Our attitude is one of the things that can help us be successful or it can defeated us, and it is important to give yourself "good self talk" emoticon

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MSTAPLE1 5/17/2012 4:07PM

  Great!

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LIVINGFREE19 5/17/2012 1:12PM

    Great blog!
I love to hear other people's take on coming across unhealthy items in the store, and I find, it is the same way I feel.
I feel like I have truly conquered something when I leave without any unhealthy foods!
I am weighing in my mind...how will I feel after eating this unhealthy food....dragged down for sure, so I am better off making a healthy choice because I also want to feel better during the day also!
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SCRAPPINPOLLY 5/17/2012 12:40PM

    Awesome post today!! You are definitely right - it's all in how we view it. Such good words today!

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CLOVER2 5/17/2012 12:32PM

    Amen! One of the things I have found to be most interesting on this journey I am on is the reaction of people at work. There are those who bring in something, such as cookies, Artisan breads, cake, etc. and when they get to my cubicle they look at me and say "Oh, sorry, I know you can't have this." My reaction to them is "Yes I can. I can have anything I want. I just choose not to have that right now." Or if I do choose to eat ONE cookie or have ONE slice of pizza for lunch and someone sees this they go "Uh oh, you're messing up!" No I am not, I just choose to enjoy this, I am aware of what I am doing and I make it a part of my plan. I will NOT put ANYTHING on a "denied" list, it's like waving a red flag in front of me! This is a life time commitment, I will NOT spend the rest of my life denying myself! I have lost 68 pounds at this point, I have 5 pounds to reach my goal. I must be doing SOMETHING right!
Wonderful blog!
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RIET69 5/17/2012 11:22AM

  Thank you so much. Wonderful message.

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BLOOMING52 5/17/2012 8:02AM

    Great!

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HONEYPOT319 5/17/2012 7:26AM

    Thank you for your inspiration! I applaud you for being able to self analyze and move forward away from the unhealthy choices (would have loved to have seen you talking out loud to the twinkie though :-D). I admit that I struggle with self analysis. Unlike you, I do not think that I make bad choices because of a " I cannot have that" mentality. I am an emotional eater and often realize that when I choose unhealthy foods, it is because of some bad feelings or events that pull me towards certain foods that I think will make me feel better. I am steadily working towards improving my self image and making peace with those issues. Years of teasing and insensitive comments from strangers AND family are difficult to forget and overcome. I am taking it one day at a time and hope to reach for that piece of fruit or force myself to go for a walk when feelings of inadequacy arise. Your post was very uplifting and I hope to hear more from you!

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CRINKLYMONKEY 5/17/2012 6:45AM

    I am the same way. I can not look at things as being taken away or I feel like I have to have them. I changed the way I looked at this new life and when I did change then it was much easier to make the right decisions. Thank you for sharing!!

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GENKI_LADY 5/17/2012 5:08AM

    Really great blog. Health is the best gift we can give ourselves. Plus, no sugar crash after!

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NASFKAB 5/17/2012 12:54AM

  loved your blog

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JEANETTECURRY 5/16/2012 8:21PM

    Thank You for the Blog. I enjoyed listening to you.

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TRISHMO1 5/16/2012 4:22PM

  Hey John, I'm having such a struggle at the moment, I am going to take on board what you are doing today, thankyou. emoticon

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RUBYEAGLE134 5/16/2012 3:47PM

    Nothing earth shattering you said!?!! Yet it was for those of us trying to lose weight. It's our choices that have gotten us where we're at, our wrong choices ~ to eat unhealthy food that won't sustain us, to not exercise, etc. It's food for thought. Thank you for sharing. It was earth shattering, just not an off-the-charts earthquake, maybe a trembler emoticon It's these everyday moments that count. Thanks for the reminder!

P.S. ~ Could you put what you said in your vlog on paper so I can put it in my notebook of my journey so I can refer to it often? emoticon

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CPATRICK9 5/16/2012 3:32PM

    Great blog. Thank you!

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SPECIALGURL7 5/16/2012 2:13PM

    I like what you said about having choices. If we would remember we do have a choice on what we do or don't do we would be alright. I choose my health, but it is also a continuous work. Thanks.

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CLUTTRELL8 5/16/2012 1:11PM

    Very inspirational and thought provoking! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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MOMMY445 5/16/2012 12:06PM

    what a terrific blog,John! thanks for sharing!

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RSTENNER 5/16/2012 11:57AM

    Thanks John, it is so true, we think we are denying ourselves those bad choices when we need to realize that we make the choices for a healthy lifestyle. It's such a journey to finally make the good choices everyday. My husband and I are both working towards lifestyle changes in our eating habits. At times he does better than me and then I have really good days when he is more tempted. What helps us both is that our kitchen only has the good stuff in it, so if we want to cheat, we have to go to a drive through or to the store to buy the temptation. One day at a time is all we can do. Have a great week!

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JEWITCH 5/16/2012 11:49AM

    Fantastic blog. Thanks for sharing that great bit of insight.

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YUMMO04 5/16/2012 11:18AM

  Loved your blog.Thank You!

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BARB5970 5/16/2012 10:33AM

    We all have choices to make, every day. Some days I choose better than others. The other day I found myself, also, faced with the Hostess Cupcakes. I CHOSE to have them because I decided to deny myself at that moment would feel like a punishment,which would ultimately lead to a binge. So I ate the yummy little cakes, enjoyed them and moved on. No more agonizing over "I can't have it". For me, in oder to live a healthy life, sometimes I have to allow the little treats to be part of that journey.

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EMTFF376 5/16/2012 9:09AM

    I'm with ya! and I agree. I have said to myself "I can't have..." even though I say to other people when they tell me "oh you do weight watchers, so you can't have...., right?" and my knee jerk response is "I can have whatever I want". I guess I need to self reflect and practice what I preach a little more.

I am amazed that the processed, frosted treats (twinkies, etc) gross me out just talking about them, but boy oh boy does the bakery smell good in the grocery store. Not the doughnuts, cakes, etc. I'm not a big sugar fan, but I could eat a whole loaf of fresh baked french bread. Lesser of the evils, but not at that quantity!!! :)

As always, so good to "see" you. I hope we can meet up again soon!

Much love,
Janette


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GLORYB2014 5/16/2012 9:06AM

    Thank you John, great blog!
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SKIDAMARINK 5/16/2012 8:33AM

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I hope one day I can practice what you preached. I am having the same problem realizing that I have to CHOOSE instead of thinking that something is being TAKEN AWAY.
I'm not there yet, but I hope to be one day.
Thanks for the reminder.

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FARIS71 5/16/2012 8:33AM

    That is so true. I also turn into a 4year old. But it's not that I CAN'T - it's just that I choose not to. It's not a journey away from unhealthy stuff necessarily, it's a journey TOWARD health. Wow - thanks for the perspective once again.

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LOGOULD 5/16/2012 7:23AM

    emoticonJohn!!! Thanks for sharing....it's all about the choices we make. We need to choose to make good health out prize and reward...not that fleeting twinkie! I'm with you! Here's to making emoticonchoices TODAY!

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TATTER3 5/16/2012 6:26AM

    Look how many people you're helping!!! Good job!! Thank you!!! Keep Sparkin'!!

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NASFKAB 5/16/2012 12:20AM

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GEEMAWEST 5/15/2012 10:13PM

    I'm with ya, Dude! I ate healthier today than I've eaten in a long time and it felt really good.

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WORKINGSTIFF 5/15/2012 9:26PM

    Bingo, John!

We all CAN have whatever we want. We can CHOOSE to eat Drano if we'd like...it's a matter of making a choice. There are people on oxygen who choose to continue to still smoke, even in the face of serious illness. Addiction? Possibly. But then again, it boils down to choice.

The moment we decide to turn from something tasty (like a Twinkie) to something tasty and good for us (maybe a piece of fruit) we exercise making a choice, not being forced to consume something.

Thanks for sharing this important thought with us.

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HDHAWK 5/15/2012 8:27PM

    I did join you today John! I'm cleaning up my act!

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ONEKIDSMOM 5/15/2012 7:27PM

    So right! The choice is ours! We can have that Twinkie whenever we want... but we CHOOSE not to. Today. Because we're worth taking care of. Today, right now.

Have a great week, John!

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