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C = S (Consistency Equals Success)

Monday, May 21, 2012

After a long drive Friday Joan and I stopped to see my mom and had a light supper. Dead tired we lay on the bed and enjoyed a rare luxury……… watching TV. We don’t have a TV in our bedroom so it was a good change of pace. After flipping through the channels for five or ten minutes we settled on an interview with Dr. Oz. The interviewer asked him what HIS secret was to maintaining good health. (Have you noticed that everyone has a secret to good health?) His answer was simple: He did the same activity each day, seven days a week. He ate the same breakfast, and always engaged in exactly seven minutes of exercise each morning immediately after getting out of bed. He went on to say this was important to him because it relieved him of the stress and burden of having to decide what to eat each day. Life is full of too much unavoidable stress. We might as well get rid of the stuff we can. Well anyway, it made sense to me!!!I thought about it most of the weekend. (I get like that when I latch on to something. We’re sitting at the wedding reception and I’m staring off into the mist trying to find a divine message in all of this.) It’s probably not new to you but it was a bit of an “ah-ha” to me. When I am consistent in my thoughts, my action and behaviors I will ultimately be successful. It’s not too terribly exciting or earth shattering, it’s life. It’s putting one foot in front of the other and marching to the same beat, YOUR beat, each day. Joan, (My wife of 38 years) has stayed within fifteen pounds of what she weighed the day we were married. She gained through six pregnancies, but each time she managed to drop back to a comfortable spot for her. No magic, no secret berries from an island in New Guinea, no home remedies. If you ask her about her diet she will tell you she is a “Plain Jane.” She eats beef, and chicken with a baked potato and either corn or peas for dinner. Lunch is a ham sandwich or a can of tuna with an apple. Breakfast is coffee, cereal and skim milk or toast with a sausage patty. She drinks a lot of water but enjoys diet Pepsi. Holiday meals are ham or turkey. If you ever talk to her she’ll tell you probably eats too many carbs. Her exercise regimen is walking three to five days a week or swimming in our pool when the weathers warm. Her guilty pleasure is butter and a brownie on occasion.

Driving home yesterday I started reviewing my mental food logs and realized that I had drop weight when I establish a consistent eating pattern . It was when I started chasing the exotic or trying to emulate someone half my age that my body started asking me what I was doing. I think it’s where I get lost. The desire to sit with the cool kids gets in the way of plain old common sense and I go off chasing butterflies. Suddenly I wake up one morning and nothing fits.

Consistency equals success. It is often not inspirational; it’s simply the everyday activities we discover and integrate into our life pattern that produce long term success. It’s not chasing every fad and folly that rings our doorbell. I lost weight establishing a consistent pattern. I gained it all back when I deviated from that pattern. It’s not very inspirational and maybe your scratching your head and saying “I KNEW that!!!” I guess I did also but I guess it took Joan and Dr. Oz to remind me.

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    John, I like to come by and re-read this post from time to time. Lack of consistency has been my downfall in the past. Over the last few months this chant has been with me : "C = S, C = S, C = S" as I made it a point to get out of the house and walk each night after supper. 17 pounds later, here I am! Thanks again for your words of wisdom!

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SILLYHP1953 6/28/2012 2:07PM

    I manage to start off each day the same...a spoonful of natural peanut butter, a banana, glass of skim milk, and cup of green tea. Every day I start that way. Now, I guess I need to figure out how to make the other meals the same, or close to the same, each day. Interesting.

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TERRYFIELD1 6/21/2012 7:44PM

    Consistancy is the Key! I am trying to become more consistant, establishing a habit of healthy choices and exercising regularly.

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GIRANIMAL 6/6/2012 2:57PM

    Ha, I guess I am a creature of habit too, though I haven't thought about it in a while. I fell in love with a pumpkin oatmeal recipe, oh, last year maybe? (thanks again, BTINTERNET!) and have eaten it nearly every day since! Sometimes I might alternative with a cold cereal and a banana. And I've been eating half an avocado smashed onto rice cakes for a snack for so long that months ago I actually bought one of those dedicated gadgets that are the bane of cluttered kitchens -- an avocado-shaped avocado keeper! LOL It does remove one stress from my days, knowing what I'm going to eat for certain meals and tracking the others first thing, while I am having breakfast, most days.

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MARYM1962 5/31/2012 10:21AM

  so logical! - I have to do the same thing to get my blood sugar down. It does not work following a calorie count diet. I have to get one of the diets that tell you how much to eat or what item at what time of day and follow it to the "t" to be able to reduce my numbers. You are correct - consistency = success!

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WRITINGDIVA1 5/28/2012 11:30PM

    Wow, with so many choices, it's a lot easier to get off track! Thanks for the reminder.

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SUSANSERENE 5/28/2012 2:51PM

    Awesome, John, and thanks for sharing your "aha" moment! That's definitely some info to think about.

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JEANNINEMM68 5/27/2012 5:25PM

    Sometimes it takes a reminder of how simple things can be. Thank you for reminding me.

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NWFL59 5/26/2012 10:08PM

    Thanks for the reminder to KISS (Keep It Simple Sparker) and that being consistent is a key to success. emoticon

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THATLOANGAL 5/25/2012 10:32AM

  This is timely wisdom, as I embark upon week 2. Just stay on the path, 1 step in front of the other....straying neither to the left of the right, consistency equals success! SIMPLICITY.

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EGGBASKET1 5/25/2012 2:37AM

    THIS IS A GREAT BLOG !!! I REALLY NEED TO FOLLOW AND MAKE "CONSISTENCY" MY BEST FRIEND!!! THANKS FOR THE FORMULA...C=S, I HAVE ADDED IT TO MY DAILY MANTRA. I HOPE YOU DON'T MIND.
MY DAILY MANTRA IS..........

STAY MOTIVATED, DETERMINED, PERSISTENT AND CONSISTENT...NO EXCUSES !!! I CAN DO THIS WITH MY FRIEND "WILL" POWER !!!
C=S ( CONSISTENCY = SUCCESS )

THANKS FOR SHARING !

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MEDDYPEDDY 5/25/2012 1:00AM

    I think I wouldn´t mind eating the same thing all meals all the time... I do have the same breakfast every day and yes, it makes it easy.

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ANGELWENDYMAMA 5/25/2012 12:40AM

    I have the same breakfast almost every day. I have half a lemon squeezed into a glass of water with a half teaspoon of truvia in it., I have a cup of steel cut oatmeal with about 5 chopped up strawberries and a banana and 1 tablespoon of maple syrup (or peanut butter) and between 1/2 and 1 cup of milk with it. I have a greek yogurt for a mid-morning snack. My lunches vary a bit and dinners vary, too.

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LISALGB 5/24/2012 9:33PM

    Ah-Ha!! I like the idea of having the same thing for breakfast - or at least a fixed breakfast menu, having certain things on certain days.
Thanks for a great post!!! I'll ponder this for a while.

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JIBBIE49 5/24/2012 8:40PM

    emoticonWOW, you are a STAR. Love seeing you featured in the Spark Mail. What an honor!!! emoticon

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JPEARL127 5/24/2012 2:00PM

  Thank you for an uplifting post. I guess you're right, about consistency and its relationship to success. And there is no "one size fits all" when it comes to diet and exercise. We are each unique and thus will always need to tweak any set program or use the Spark to learn and design the program we each need.

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TISTEN23 5/24/2012 11:47AM

    Great blog. Thanks!

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GOING-STRONG 5/24/2012 10:43AM

    Life is full of so many choices and it seems if we try to stay plain Jane that somehow the World judges us s "boring". No we don't have to try every new restaurant in town! I'm with Joan.. stick to the basics. Spark on!

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CAPTAINMORGAN2 5/24/2012 10:15AM

    Consistency has always been my problem, I let myself be easily led astray. I try to eat like my mother did. Always small portions, lots of fruit and veggies, salad, she kept veggies in water in the fridge to snack on, she didn't really like meat but had the sense to realize it has it's place in vitamins etc. so she ate it but never much, her weight never changed and she didn't struggle with it. sigh!! She also loved sweets, especially chocolate but again, it was a small part of her diet so it never caused weight gain. Consistency again. I am trying!! She also never had to take any medication except eye drops well into her 80s. She walked a lot, did crosswords and read all the time. She did it right with no effort at all. sigh! emoticon

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MARCYNA 5/24/2012 5:28AM

    I guess my consistency equals zero, I'm the exact opposite as your wife....too bad for me.....I have to find my way in all this mess.
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RADAZZLE 5/24/2012 12:51AM

    Wow... yesterday I went to the nutritionist associated with the Bariatric group I go to. And one of the things that I complained about was that, due to the pickiness and various food restrictions of both myself and my husband, I can't make "interesting" and different foods. So your topic sure hit the nail on the head - I'm complaining, but maybe I should re-think how this can be turned into a positive! Consistency! Hmmm!!!

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CUDDLYPOLARBEAR 5/23/2012 9:44PM

    Great post....

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PEGGY11 5/23/2012 12:47PM

   
Right you are. I am finding it easier now that I have let Sparkpeople plan my menu. I am eating things I have never eaten before eg. black beans on my sweetpotato . It was good. Surprise, Surprise. More beans and nuts, no beef. I don't miss that yet, but it is only two days. I will find out how it is working on Monday night when I weigh in at TOPS. emoticon

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GARNETTS 5/23/2012 9:20AM

  Definitely some good points and something to think about.
Sounds like a lot of us just TRY too hard. Better to just establish consistent habits.

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ELLIE381 5/23/2012 8:30AM

    Your blogs are always great to read. They always make us think. Thanks. emoticon

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JLEMUS1 5/23/2012 8:27AM

    Awesome, Thank you.

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    Good eye opener. emoticon

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REGILIEH 5/22/2012 8:21PM

    As always, I loved reading your writings!

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MARIONWARSAW 5/22/2012 12:50PM

  Thanks again for pointing out something I knew and yet always move away from because others tell me I need to try new things. I just need to be consistent and then I will be successful.

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MOMMY445 5/22/2012 12:37PM

    What a terrific blog,John! thanks for sharing and have a fabulous day!

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GINA180847 5/22/2012 12:29PM

    Thank you John for that reminder. Yes, I kind of knew that. My body tends to go to repeating the same thing over and over and then I deviate just a little at a time till it is part of the patern. Where I do go wrong is the fact that my husband wants variety above all else. That makes life so much more work and I get confused. Exercise is always the same and dog walking works so well for me. Belly dancing is NOT in my future, as exciting as it sounds. Right now I have a huge container of bean salad in the fridge and I could just eat that for quite a while. Charlie is going to get something else as he will eat lettuce but not actual salads. See what I mean!!!!

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CICELY360 5/22/2012 11:51AM

  I enjoy reading your journey because you speak for the real people.

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SJKENT1 5/22/2012 9:28AM

    Yes... You are right on target. This is an ahah! for me also. Thanks

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MIMIDOT 5/22/2012 9:08AM

    You are sooo right! Last week I told my friend that I lost weight when I was eating chicken, broccoli, and half a sweet potato for dinner. I usually eat the same things for breakfast and lunch. It's the dinner that has changed. But I never really thought about it.

Thanks for reminding me.

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TARAH85 5/22/2012 8:56AM

    I really like your background, and I think it's great that something so simple as having a routine can be such a powerful motivator of positive change. It's something I'm working on too.

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MRSTABER 5/22/2012 8:47AM

    This is a wonderful revelation! I always eat the same breakfast everyday because I don't have to think about it. This is great!

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CGHARNER 5/22/2012 8:44AM

  Very helpful ah ha moment - some times the simplest idea needs a tangible example


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FARIS71 5/22/2012 8:43AM

    Such a good point. Consistency, habits . . . Thank you!

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BIRDLSLAURIE 5/22/2012 8:28AM

    I read Dr Oz's book You On A Diet many years ago and he brought up the very subject of keeping things simple and consistent. I have followed that advice for the most part and it really does take a lot of stress away. Thanks for the reminder.

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Enough Small Victories Pave The Way For Larger Ones

Thursday, May 17, 2012

I wasn’t feeling it this morning. I looked at the clock and it was 5:45 AM. I WAS going to take a bike ride this morning. I have been trying to rotate my cardio to get back in the swing of things after convincing myself my life was over because I somehow injured my back. Rotation provided diversity. Slowly but surely things are coming around. I have to be patient. Cleaning up after a major pity party is never fun. I went through the motions, got dressed, looked out the window, hoped it was raining, snowing or there had possibly been an earthquake……… I opened the back door and hopped on my bike.

If this were a made for TV special we would now cut to the scene that says “3 Days Earlier…..”

It’s Monday morning and I am preparing to leave town to take my one man show on the road. I’m facilitating a seminar on The Law of Attraction and Business Goals. Fun stuff. The road that leads to the hotel I’m staying at is lined with restaurants and the only way” healthy” enters into the equation anywhere is their menus that say “Hope you have a HEALTHY appetite.” Okay, I’m weak. It’s hard to get past those greasy, sugary, carb loaded oasis. It feels so, so good going down……….. Somewhere in the garage is a nice cloth cooler. It waves at me and I pack three meals to take along. No, they won’t be hot but they will be healthy. Some fresh fruit, a bit of yogurt and because I still haven’t broke the habit of striking the rock more than once, a diet Mt Dew. I stuck with what was in my cooler, my appetite was satisfied and I had fashioned a small victory for myself. I was uber proud. After all I AM worth all the effort I put into being happy and healthy.

“The next evening…………..”

It’s Tuesday night. I am home from a very fulfilling but long day plus two hours in the car. I’m in my recliner, eyes closed and concentrating on relaxing when the patio door flies open and in walks my daughter Maggie. I knew what she had in her hand. My nose has been finely attuned to sniff out cake, on a dead run, from a zillion miles away. Just get in the way of me and cake…………. might as well start writing your obituary. I’m salivating………….. a lot! Maggie saved me a piece, let me stop here. Maggie saved me enough food to save a small nation. I looked at that sugary goo and felt my body moving forward………. “Really, John?” It’s that da*n voice again. The voice that reminded me of my victories Monday and Tuesday. I sat for a moment, teetering back and forth and politely thanked Maggie and went back to capturing relaxation. If there hadn’t been that small victory to build upon Monday, who knows? Wait, I do, there would have been a sugary moustache highlighting my mouth. The point is I found something really small to build upon and then added to it.

The camera cuts to Wednesday at noon………..

John is speaking at a luncheon and on the menu is the following: “Three sliders covered with caramelized onions, gouda cheese and a Dijon mayonnaise. They are served with a mountain of fries. It was the only option I had, or was it? I politely refused and toughed it out till I got home a short hour later. I made a salad and created another small victory. We all get stuck and we all feel like we are in a room that is exactly three feet square. We feel hopeless, helpless and throw our hands up. We begin thinking this “health thing” isn’t for us!! In frustration we give up because we can’t recapture our previous success. It’s slipped through our hands. I am learning to find the small victories to build upon. We get so lost and we seem to have misplaced the map.

As the smoke clears we are back to John, his bike and a rather chilly ride this morning.

“Good goal setting is a balancing act between seeing the details involved in reaching a goal, while still being able to hold the big picture view of what those details will eventually create. Most of us have a natural leaning towards one or the other. Some people excel in understanding and ordering details and some people naturally understand and connect with the big picture. Both are incredibly valuable and complementary to each other. As we become more effective in goal setting we learn to balance our natural inclinations, we will generally play to our strength and find ways to build the weaker view. This is a neat and tidy little theory... until a really wound-up, tender and frustrating goal comes up. You know the one, the one that consistently befuzzles you? The good news is that this goal area is your "working edge" and this is the place bursting with the most growth for you; the steepest climb resulting in the most breathtaking view, if you will. And since we do tend to get the most turned around and frustrated in this area, we will generally fall back into (cling to :) what comes naturally. So, here's a thought, an idea that may work for you in unwinding this goal once and for all... if you are a detail person- is it possible that you have detailed this goal to death? Maybe you know each step, each milestone, each nanosecond of planning- but is it possible that you have lost your big view for this goal? Have you spent enough time playing and basking in the big picture to drive you forward? And if you are a big picture person- could it be that you are spending all of your time frolicking through the theoretic fields of the big view without dedicating time to working the details and creating doable systematic action steps? The answer for me is "yes!" this is exactly the case, so I am currently taking my working edge back to the drawing board for rebalancing. :)” This comes from a colleague and dear friend Kat Garrard. I couldn’t have said it better (A tip of my hat to you dear friend.) Sometimes we lose our way and it’s through the small victories that we find our course again.

Daily victories lead to weekly ones and then one morning when we start the engine, we find the trucks no longer stuck in the mud but careening down the highway.


  
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SILLYHP1953 6/28/2012 2:03PM

    The Law of Attraction...wow, I don't hear those words on spark very often, maybe never. Do you video your conferences? I'm sure the attendees would appreciate a dvd and I'd love to hear one of your talks.

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DEBK0923 6/11/2012 5:45PM

    another great blog and interesting

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LOGOULD 6/5/2012 11:05AM

    LOVED this blog John! Thanks so much for sharing your wise insight. I can overanalyze anything and lean toward the all or nothing mentality, which all to frequently results in nothing. What really popped out to me was your phrase, "the steepest climb result(s)ing in the most breathtaking view." I think that is my new mantra of the season!

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JEANNINEMM68 5/28/2012 3:30PM

    Great choices are hard to make but you did a wonderful job.


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ANGELWENDYMAMA 5/25/2012 12:44AM

    Congrats on your successes!!! You made some hard choices, but so happy for you!

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MSTAPLE1 5/22/2012 8:44AM

  Awesome!!

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NASFKAB 5/21/2012 8:40PM

  need to read your blogs over & over thanks

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keep building on those (not so) small victories!

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EARLYBIRDM 5/21/2012 3:41PM

    I needed to read that today. Thank you! And, I think I might need to read some more of your blogs.
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COLEE82 5/21/2012 2:55PM

    Very well said. I too am a "big picture" type of person and it's in the day-to-day that I consistently find myself getting lost along the way. You've given me something to think about - Thank you!

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COCO29 5/21/2012 1:44PM

    I always take away something from your blogs. Thank you for sharing. emoticon

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ANCLIFE 5/21/2012 1:16PM

    interesting post.

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BARB5970 5/21/2012 9:32AM

    As always, stated beautifully. Thanks for sharing. I needed the reminder to take baby steps instead of giant leaps.

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NORMANDYBREW 5/21/2012 9:13AM

    Thanks for your inspiration - way to go!!

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JLEMUS1 5/21/2012 8:24AM

    One step at a time...thanks, great blog!!

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WINE4GIRL 5/21/2012 8:05AM

    Well said... Congrats on your successes!

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CM_GARDNER78 5/20/2012 11:54PM

    I love this. You are so totally right about letting good habits build upon one another. LOVE THIS! :-)

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CINDYB3511 5/20/2012 10:32AM

    ty tyty!!!

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NASFKAB 5/20/2012 6:58AM

  great thought provoking

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MOUNTAINGIRL41 5/19/2012 9:04PM

  Once again, your blog arrives with perfect timing. I definitely do better when I have small victories to build upon. But somedays -- like today -- it is HARD! Thanks for the insight today -- you have helped me achieve yet another small victory upon which to build the next!

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PATTOMMC3 5/19/2012 7:52PM

    I so understand all the challenges you faced and I admire the way you handled them! Kuddos to you!

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HONEYPOT319 5/19/2012 7:33PM

    Hi John:

Let me just say that I love reading your blogs! :) They are so animated, honest and inspiring. It really gets me down sometimes when I read some of the blogs of our frustrated spark friends. I always seem to take something helpful and uplifting from yours. Keep finding your way to your goals and helping all of us as a bonus!

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TYLERDRANGUET 5/19/2012 6:17PM

    Thank you for another incredible and inspiring blog, John! Somehow your blogs always seem to say exactly what I need to hear when I need it the most. Hope you're doing well!

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SHAKACRAW 5/19/2012 4:08PM

  Great blog. Thank you.

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JULIA1154 5/19/2012 3:35PM

  Thanks for the insights, John. This came at a good time!

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TENORSAXYLADY 5/19/2012 10:54AM

    Thank you for sharing!

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2BEEFIT 5/19/2012 10:45AM

    great job...and boy did I need this.

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NUNZIATA43 5/19/2012 10:25AM

    Well said.... I know all the theories and how to achieve success yet, I'm not there! Thanks for the kick in the pants - just WHAT I NEEDED!!! emoticon

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BLOOMING52 5/19/2012 10:21AM

    Thank you!

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MEMORIES7 5/19/2012 10:20AM

    Pure AWESOME Friend ! Hugs, Rose

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VANHALENFAN 5/19/2012 10:08AM

    Thanks for the inspiration this morning!! emoticon

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NLDOWNEY 5/19/2012 9:25AM

  Thanks for the inspiration. Your blog is great.

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Thanks for the inspiration!

Blessings and be well,

-M

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RYANB1982 5/19/2012 7:14AM

    Great blog, it really struck a chord with me this morning. Thank you!

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MAGGIEMAE03815 5/19/2012 6:50AM

  thanks, Jonh - great blog!

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TATTER3 5/19/2012 5:53AM

    Thank you! Keep Sparkin'!!

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MANILUS 5/19/2012 4:35AM

    You pinpointed some very important details in keeping with the healthy lifestyle. Congrats to you for figuring out how you can stay on track! Keep up the great work!!!

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YIWEN39 5/18/2012 9:41PM

    Another great blog John :-) Way to go with these small but so important victories :-)

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KIPPER15 5/18/2012 9:26PM

    Great job of obtaining small victories. You can do it.

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GALINAZ 5/18/2012 9:00PM

    It's sad your daughter would tempt you with cake. Is she unaware of your struggle? Is she old enough to understand respecting your boundaries?

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MORTICIAADDAMS 5/18/2012 3:54PM

    My ultimate goal is to take such good care of myself that making the right decisions becomes effortless and I wake up one day and realize that I have achieved my goals without much fanfare. I arrived at the finish line without all of the obsessing.

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FARIS71 5/18/2012 3:42PM

    I read this again before leaving for home. It really impacted me and I want to carry over some of this into my evening. Small victories & big picture . . . .

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SJKENT1 5/18/2012 3:26PM

    Just like the song says, "put one foot in front of the other.... and soon you'll be walking out the do-o-or!"

Small victory... I think not! Victory is victory!

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MOMMY445 5/18/2012 2:33PM

    what a great blog!

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LIVELYGIRL2 5/18/2012 2:28PM

  Particularly excellent blog. You are a good writer and good at expressing your ideas and thoughts.Really intersting... you can most certainly obtain your goal with these sort of thinking. Thanks for sharing. We often need a pep talk to train ourselves to have motivation. emoticon

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I Choose Health..............

Tuesday, May 15, 2012


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    Yes, today I choose to be healthy and to eat healthy, too. ;) emoticon

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SKINNYMINNIE25 5/22/2012 9:52AM

    Absolutely!!! We tend to act like victims around eating and most everything else in life....
Look what you did to ME!
Look what you didn't do for ME!
It's not MY fault!

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Looking at it as CHOOSING health is way cooler. Life is constantly about making choices...Some of them will not be the best choices, but the idea is to learn stuff & have fun!


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DEBK0923 5/20/2012 6:39PM

    I chose Health as well, Another great blog

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CAP218 5/20/2012 2:34PM

    I've tried everything but I finally have decided that I want to be healthy more than skinny. I choose health also! Thank you for inspiring me. emoticon

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AMIV07 5/19/2012 6:20PM

  definetley health it will be :)

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MANILUS 5/19/2012 4:41AM

    Excellent work John, you are absolutely right about choosing to see the healthy choice as one you made for yourself instead of deprivation. This is a very difficult concept to grasp and put in place.

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LARKSONGRUTH 5/19/2012 1:07AM

    Thanks for your personal observations about self-talk and how you respond to what you are saying to yourself, and how changing the way you are looking at things helped you to avoid resentment and self-destructive behavior in your choices. It is inspiring.

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DIAMONDLOVR 5/18/2012 6:32PM

    Thanks for that it was very inspiring to me!!

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39JEANNIE 5/18/2012 5:45PM

    Thanks for that wonderful blog. I choose health!!!!

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PRESBESS 5/18/2012 2:08PM

    Like you... I choose health!

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GRAMPIAN 5/18/2012 11:25AM

  Good advice.

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JENNYBAKER247 5/18/2012 8:26AM

    Ditto!
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MISSILENE 5/18/2012 7:07AM

    I choose health too.

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ROX525 5/18/2012 6:50AM

    Today I plan on joining you by eating healthy and being healthy. Great blog.

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LSTEMM 5/18/2012 1:13AM

    Great thoughts and actions! Our attitude is one of the things that can help us be successful or it can defeated us, and it is important to give yourself "good self talk" emoticon

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MSTAPLE1 5/17/2012 4:07PM

  Great!

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LIVINGFREE19 5/17/2012 1:12PM

    Great blog!
I love to hear other people's take on coming across unhealthy items in the store, and I find, it is the same way I feel.
I feel like I have truly conquered something when I leave without any unhealthy foods!
I am weighing in my mind...how will I feel after eating this unhealthy food....dragged down for sure, so I am better off making a healthy choice because I also want to feel better during the day also!
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THEFLORIDAFAIRY 5/17/2012 1:09PM

    Thank you for sharing these very valuable bits of wisdom. emoticon

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SCRAPPINPOLLY 5/17/2012 12:40PM

    Awesome post today!! You are definitely right - it's all in how we view it. Such good words today!

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CLOVER2 5/17/2012 12:32PM

    Amen! One of the things I have found to be most interesting on this journey I am on is the reaction of people at work. There are those who bring in something, such as cookies, Artisan breads, cake, etc. and when they get to my cubicle they look at me and say "Oh, sorry, I know you can't have this." My reaction to them is "Yes I can. I can have anything I want. I just choose not to have that right now." Or if I do choose to eat ONE cookie or have ONE slice of pizza for lunch and someone sees this they go "Uh oh, you're messing up!" No I am not, I just choose to enjoy this, I am aware of what I am doing and I make it a part of my plan. I will NOT put ANYTHING on a "denied" list, it's like waving a red flag in front of me! This is a life time commitment, I will NOT spend the rest of my life denying myself! I have lost 68 pounds at this point, I have 5 pounds to reach my goal. I must be doing SOMETHING right!
Wonderful blog!
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RIET69 5/17/2012 11:22AM

  Thank you so much. Wonderful message.

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BLOOMING52 5/17/2012 8:02AM

    Great!

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HONEYPOT319 5/17/2012 7:26AM

    Thank you for your inspiration! I applaud you for being able to self analyze and move forward away from the unhealthy choices (would have loved to have seen you talking out loud to the twinkie though :-D). I admit that I struggle with self analysis. Unlike you, I do not think that I make bad choices because of a " I cannot have that" mentality. I am an emotional eater and often realize that when I choose unhealthy foods, it is because of some bad feelings or events that pull me towards certain foods that I think will make me feel better. I am steadily working towards improving my self image and making peace with those issues. Years of teasing and insensitive comments from strangers AND family are difficult to forget and overcome. I am taking it one day at a time and hope to reach for that piece of fruit or force myself to go for a walk when feelings of inadequacy arise. Your post was very uplifting and I hope to hear more from you!

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CRINKLYMONKEY 5/17/2012 6:45AM

    I am the same way. I can not look at things as being taken away or I feel like I have to have them. I changed the way I looked at this new life and when I did change then it was much easier to make the right decisions. Thank you for sharing!!

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GENKI_LADY 5/17/2012 5:08AM

    Really great blog. Health is the best gift we can give ourselves. Plus, no sugar crash after!

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NASFKAB 5/17/2012 12:54AM

  loved your blog

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JEANETTECURRY 5/16/2012 8:21PM

    Thank You for the Blog. I enjoyed listening to you.

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TRISHMO1 5/16/2012 4:22PM

  Hey John, I'm having such a struggle at the moment, I am going to take on board what you are doing today, thankyou. emoticon

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RUBYEAGLE134 5/16/2012 3:47PM

    Nothing earth shattering you said!?!! Yet it was for those of us trying to lose weight. It's our choices that have gotten us where we're at, our wrong choices ~ to eat unhealthy food that won't sustain us, to not exercise, etc. It's food for thought. Thank you for sharing. It was earth shattering, just not an off-the-charts earthquake, maybe a trembler emoticon It's these everyday moments that count. Thanks for the reminder!

P.S. ~ Could you put what you said in your vlog on paper so I can put it in my notebook of my journey so I can refer to it often? emoticon

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CPATRICK9 5/16/2012 3:32PM

    Great blog. Thank you!

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SPECIALGURL7 5/16/2012 2:13PM

    I like what you said about having choices. If we would remember we do have a choice on what we do or don't do we would be alright. I choose my health, but it is also a continuous work. Thanks.

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CLUTTRELL8 5/16/2012 1:11PM

    Very inspirational and thought provoking! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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MOMMY445 5/16/2012 12:06PM

    what a terrific blog,John! thanks for sharing!

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RSTENNER 5/16/2012 11:57AM

    Thanks John, it is so true, we think we are denying ourselves those bad choices when we need to realize that we make the choices for a healthy lifestyle. It's such a journey to finally make the good choices everyday. My husband and I are both working towards lifestyle changes in our eating habits. At times he does better than me and then I have really good days when he is more tempted. What helps us both is that our kitchen only has the good stuff in it, so if we want to cheat, we have to go to a drive through or to the store to buy the temptation. One day at a time is all we can do. Have a great week!

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JEWITCH 5/16/2012 11:49AM

    Fantastic blog. Thanks for sharing that great bit of insight.

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YUMMO04 5/16/2012 11:18AM

  Loved your blog.Thank You!

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BARB5970 5/16/2012 10:33AM

    We all have choices to make, every day. Some days I choose better than others. The other day I found myself, also, faced with the Hostess Cupcakes. I CHOSE to have them because I decided to deny myself at that moment would feel like a punishment,which would ultimately lead to a binge. So I ate the yummy little cakes, enjoyed them and moved on. No more agonizing over "I can't have it". For me, in oder to live a healthy life, sometimes I have to allow the little treats to be part of that journey.

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EMTFF376 5/16/2012 9:09AM

    I'm with ya! and I agree. I have said to myself "I can't have..." even though I say to other people when they tell me "oh you do weight watchers, so you can't have...., right?" and my knee jerk response is "I can have whatever I want". I guess I need to self reflect and practice what I preach a little more.

I am amazed that the processed, frosted treats (twinkies, etc) gross me out just talking about them, but boy oh boy does the bakery smell good in the grocery store. Not the doughnuts, cakes, etc. I'm not a big sugar fan, but I could eat a whole loaf of fresh baked french bread. Lesser of the evils, but not at that quantity!!! :)

As always, so good to "see" you. I hope we can meet up again soon!

Much love,
Janette


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GLORYB2014 5/16/2012 9:06AM

    Thank you John, great blog!
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SKIDAMARINK 5/16/2012 8:33AM

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I hope one day I can practice what you preached. I am having the same problem realizing that I have to CHOOSE instead of thinking that something is being TAKEN AWAY.
I'm not there yet, but I hope to be one day.
Thanks for the reminder.

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FARIS71 5/16/2012 8:33AM

    That is so true. I also turn into a 4year old. But it's not that I CAN'T - it's just that I choose not to. It's not a journey away from unhealthy stuff necessarily, it's a journey TOWARD health. Wow - thanks for the perspective once again.

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LOGOULD 5/16/2012 7:23AM

    emoticonJohn!!! Thanks for sharing....it's all about the choices we make. We need to choose to make good health out prize and reward...not that fleeting twinkie! I'm with you! Here's to making emoticonchoices TODAY!

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TATTER3 5/16/2012 6:26AM

    Look how many people you're helping!!! Good job!! Thank you!!! Keep Sparkin'!!

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NASFKAB 5/16/2012 12:20AM

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GEEMAWEST 5/15/2012 10:13PM

    I'm with ya, Dude! I ate healthier today than I've eaten in a long time and it felt really good.

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WORKINGSTIFF 5/15/2012 9:26PM

    Bingo, John!

We all CAN have whatever we want. We can CHOOSE to eat Drano if we'd like...it's a matter of making a choice. There are people on oxygen who choose to continue to still smoke, even in the face of serious illness. Addiction? Possibly. But then again, it boils down to choice.

The moment we decide to turn from something tasty (like a Twinkie) to something tasty and good for us (maybe a piece of fruit) we exercise making a choice, not being forced to consume something.

Thanks for sharing this important thought with us.

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HDHAWK 5/15/2012 8:27PM

    I did join you today John! I'm cleaning up my act!

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ONEKIDSMOM 5/15/2012 7:27PM

    So right! The choice is ours! We can have that Twinkie whenever we want... but we CHOOSE not to. Today. Because we're worth taking care of. Today, right now.

Have a great week, John!

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Turning Opportunity Into Blessings

Monday, May 14, 2012

We are told to count our blessings. I don’t know about you but some mornings I just can’t see them. Oh, I know they are there, dancing around me going “Needer, needer, needer, you can’t see us.” I have been blessed with so much. I am fortunate to have the amazing family I have. I won’t ever take them for granted, but I am so used to their amazing inspiration and love that it’s not a blessing that leaps right out at me. (Be patient, I’m going somewhere with all of this!!!) So I sat in the kitchen looking out the window and after a bit it dawned on me that the many blessings I have in my life came from the opportunities presented to me on a daily basis. It was up to ME whether I took advantage of them or let them pass by.

How often had I passed up a chance to learn, to grow, to see or do something new and took a pass because “I just didn’t feel like it?” I’m not talking about conflicts with work and such. I’m talking about a real opportunity that might create a bounty of blessings in my life? How many times do I weasel my way out of things because that opportunity might produce some discomfort for me to cause me to look at a behavior that isn’t very healthy? How often do I rationalize my way into making poor food choices when a little extra effort might be the start of an abundance of success? Instead I mope around and become envious or jealous of “the other guy.” I rationalize that they don’t have “my issues,” and oh, BTW, if God wanted me skinny he’d a made me that way. Just sayin……

I pulled out a legal pad and began to jot down the opportunities I’d have just for today. I filled half a page. There were thirteen things I could take advantage of between now and the time my head hits the pillow tonight that most definitely would lead to blessings in my life. The opportunities are there as well as the blessings. I get to make many choices throughout my day. If I take advantage of the ones that create health and balance in my life I am increasing my blessings tenfold. I can choose to eat healthy, to exercise, and to take advantage of learning something new….. The list goes on. If I don’t……….. well I know, I’m loved and all that and I am a good person who make mistakes but, uhm, maybe it only happens to me, but I don’t feel really happy when I miss an opportunity for no good reason other than my own stubbornness or pride. I feel sorta “off.”

So here’s to opportunity. It’s right in front of my nose and oh gosh it smells amazing.

  
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KARENA-G 7/19/2012 4:45PM

    You've given me something to ponder right now! Hmmm.... what opportunity presents itself right now?

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CATHYGETSFIT 7/19/2012 4:00PM

    I realized this after I nearly died in the hospital several years ago. Good for you for realizing this because most people will go their whole lives without realizing this.

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TINY67 7/19/2012 8:18AM

    I like your thinking.

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SILLYHP1953 6/28/2012 1:57PM

    I was in my 30's before I realized I really do have choices...and sometimes still forget it.

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JEANNINEMM68 5/26/2012 11:21AM

    Nice way to think about things.

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DUSTYPRAIRIE 5/19/2012 1:39PM

    I needed to hear that from someone else! Thanx!

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PENOWOK 5/18/2012 6:29PM

    Make this day and day that gives glory to our Maker!! That's a huge blessing!!

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VOLLEYGIRL77 5/18/2012 10:39AM

    Great blog!! Always inspiring!

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LUVTOBOWL 5/18/2012 10:04AM

    Thanks for the inspiration! I needed it.

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ROX525 5/18/2012 6:35AM

    Great blog. Thank you for giving me inspiration today!

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LYNMEINDERS 5/18/2012 5:57AM

    John you are incredible.....you challenge me with your everyday things tat pass in front of you....
I need to start putting things into action.....

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TYLYNN61 5/17/2012 3:33PM

    You are so AMAZING !!!!!!!!!!!!! I needed to hear this today. I am printing it out so I can read it daily. Thank You

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JELLYBELLY221 5/17/2012 1:15PM

    You're right! It is up to each of us to take advantage of the opportunities offered. emoticon

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JUDYAASH 5/17/2012 11:39AM

    I love your blogs.. They always hit home!!

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CURLSUSIEQ 5/17/2012 11:39AM

    emoticon Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and lean not to thine own understanding.

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PAC1952 5/17/2012 11:24AM

  We all need to read these words often, and follow them daily! Thanks for the info

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CICELY360 5/17/2012 11:15AM

  Good blog.

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ANNE007 5/17/2012 9:45AM

    So true. I need to get out a pen and paper and do the same!

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WALKNLOVE 5/17/2012 6:59AM

    Thanks for the reminder. My normally positive self, has had a bad week....stressful, negative, and truthfully, I wasn't liking what I saw. BUT, I kept saying to myself, that:
1)This too shall pass.
2)I'm not going to stay in this mood!
3)Satan is NOT going to win!
....and so I am happyyyyyy to say....today is a new day, and I woke up with a new attitude and joy in my heart! I am counting my blessings:
1)A wonderfully supportive husband!
2)A family who loves me!
3)This too shall pass! ;)
4)GOD is on my side!
5)Friends like you!
6)That joy comes in the morning!
7)....and the list goes on and on! Have a great day John & May God's blessings chase you down & overtake you!

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JACEBEL 5/16/2012 9:06PM

    Only when we loose it then we value what we once had.

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NOLAZYBUTT110 5/16/2012 7:45PM

    One more
blessing....... friends on Sparkpeople like you, thanks for the good write! Its alway good to be reminded! susana

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LINDAMARIEZ1 5/16/2012 6:30PM

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PJBONARRIGO 5/16/2012 12:26PM

    As usual, thanks for the food for thought and the shove in the right direction :-)

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MARCYNA 5/16/2012 11:18AM

    Wow!!!!!thanks!!!!

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GLORYB2014 5/16/2012 9:10AM

    Thank you for sharing John!
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NEWTINK 5/16/2012 7:15AM

    Awesome blog ..thanks for sharing

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NASFKAB 5/16/2012 12:21AM

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REENIE131 5/15/2012 11:03PM

    Great blog...thank you!


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MORTICIAADDAMS 5/15/2012 4:21PM

    I think most of us pass up too many good opportunities for growth. Fear is what tends to keep me from venturing beyond my comfort zone sometimes. My hubby as well.

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DEBK0923 5/15/2012 2:57PM

    ANOTHER GREAT BLOG

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CPATRICK9 5/15/2012 2:53PM

    Thanks for the great blog. We all need to remember to be accountable.

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SMILEY3826 5/15/2012 2:26PM

    what a wonderful blog,John! thanks for sharing!

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MOMMY445 5/15/2012 12:43PM

    what a great blog,John! have a fabulous day!

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TERRIJ7 5/15/2012 11:40AM

    Great blog, John--love the perspective you offer :)

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DOLLY1259 5/15/2012 10:21AM

    Just joined today and I'm looking at loosing 80 pounds. This is the first blog I read and I am thankful for the blessing I received in your words. Accountability is not a popular subject but I needed to be reminded, thanks.

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BIRDLSLAURIE 5/15/2012 10:15AM

    I am going to make my own list. Thanks for the perspective.

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DJSHIP46 5/15/2012 9:26AM

    Great reminder... keep makin' lemonaide :)

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MIMIDOT 5/15/2012 9:01AM

    Thanks for sharing. You hit the mark!

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FARIS71 5/15/2012 8:48AM

    Wow, I'm totally going to do that. Write down the opportunities for blessings that I will have today. Discomfort be darned!

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DAYSPRING-STAR 5/15/2012 8:39AM

    Believe
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DIANNEMT 5/15/2012 8:38AM

    Good for you--reminding all of us to "take a chance" and find those blessings!!

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SANDRALEET 5/15/2012 8:18AM

    We work together with God but the things we do is our choices.We have a free will .May we make the wright choices.

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A Tribute

Friday, May 11, 2012

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.

When you have six children and you live in a small community people you don’t know approach you in the grocery store or the bank and say “Are you “fill in the blanks” father? I just wanted to tell you what a great kid you have. I am a boss\teacher\friend of theirs. You did a good job raising them” My answer is always the same; “The credit goes to their mom.” Don’t get me wrong, I’m wasn’t an absentee parent or a dead beat dad but my kids received their values, their morals and their most amazing capacity to love from their mom. They received these amazing gifts of joy, of peace and understanding from her. With six very different personalities it’s difficult to adopt a perspective of wisdom for each child but she manages to do that. When the phone rings today and they begin with “Let me talk to mom….” I know there is some crisis, great or small that’s brewing.

Many of us strive to reflect the Divine essence in our lives. Joan does it naturally. I was waiting for her last night and as she walked out of the store I remarked to Katie that she always has a smile on her face. That smile is always sincere. Each of her children believes that goodness, love and a tiny part of the Divine essence is in each of them no matter what path they have chosen to walk in life. They learned that from the example she’s lived for them.

O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. Amen

Like most moms she never puts herself ahead of her kids. She’s always been there with a band aid, a cookie or a hug. She’s given up a lot for her kid’s well-being and you have never heard a grumble or a complaint out of her mouth. When she reads this she’ll give me a hug and minimize what I’ve written. She’ll say she’s not a saint and I’m partial because she’s my wife. Fair point. Ask anyone who knows her and you’ll get the same answers. She is a holy person. She does not walk around quoting Scripture, or sitting in Church seven days a week. She does something more difficult and challenging. She gets up every morning and she lives the Divine message and shares it with everyone she meets. She is bound by one rule and that is to love fully and completely. She has many challenges in her life. She has no depth perception. She’s never been able to drive a car because she can’t judge distance or perspective. With that she relinquished the freedom to come and go as she pleases and depends on other people and their schedules for transportation. She rarely complains and is always ready to help other people out. That is her nature. It’s holiness and she makes no big deal about it.

I usually blog here at Spark to inspire or share. This morning my task is a simple one: To pay tribute to someone whose life touches so many others by simply and gracefully sharing her love. As you read this a picture of your mom or grand mom may pass before your eyes. Thank them, whether they are here on earth or already passed to another life. Thank them for putting you ahead of everything else and for giving you the opportunity to honor them with your life. I will, just as soon as I post this.

  
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SILLYHP1953 6/28/2012 1:54PM

    My grandmother was a holy person, and my mother is one, and I heard it went farther back in their line. I have the capacity but feel like I fall short most of the time. Your appreciation and honor of your wife has helped motivate me. Thank you and thank her.

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LINDAMARIEZ1 5/17/2012 6:56AM

    You have a great family John! You are truly blessed! Spark on so you will always be there with them!!! I count calories too! Just for today lets's stay in our goal? Are ya with me?
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NASFKAB 5/15/2012 12:04AM

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SIRCATNIP1 5/14/2012 1:30PM

    Great!

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LAURIE-RN 5/14/2012 7:43AM

    You've written a beautiful tribute. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about your wonderful wife. She sounds very special. I am glad I got a glimpse of her through your eyes.

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LIVELYGIRL2 5/14/2012 12:21AM

  Very stirring and lovely.Thanks John for sharing this. It's great you honor her as much as the kids.

I remember years ago hearing a marriage enrichment speaker Gary Smalley share an example of nourishing ones' spouse by thinking of the reaction of the famous Stradivarius violin . Sometimes ones mouth might gasp, or be fascinated how they were produced, and the glorious rich sound of one. This was the word turpitude he used to describe how we should honor our partners

He also used another description that I shall never forget that became etched in my mind. He discussed trying to feed a ficus tree with an eyedropper. Basically this is a visual how neglected one can feel emotionally when one is indifferent to their husbands or wives emotional tank.

How wonderful you are to appreciate your family, that you have shared with us.
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CHERIRIDDELL 5/14/2012 12:15AM

    What a lovely tribute.

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CM_GARDNER78 5/13/2012 11:21PM

    Oh my gosh, how fantastic! Your wife sounds like an amazing woman - and a true vision of what I imagine a Titus 2 woman to be! :-) I hope that she had an amazing day today...thank you for sharing her with us! :-)

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HEALTHY4ME 5/13/2012 10:45PM

    Awesome blog, and what a great wife /mother/friend/ sibling your wife must be.
And btw love the hymns. that is what I clicked for. I love the old hymns wish the church hadn't gotten a lot of the new ones.



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RETURNTOTHIN 5/13/2012 9:16PM

    She and you have been blessed because she lives out Jesus saying, "It is more blessed to give than to receive." God Bless You Both!

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LYNDA519 5/13/2012 2:14PM

    A great post. It's wonderful to see a faith-filled father/husband and to see him holding up his wife and standing with her along the journey.

Have a great day!

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CTUPTON 5/13/2012 11:34AM

    Thank you for posting this prayer! I have been looking for it recently.


Sending some prayers your way!
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POETICJUSTUS 5/13/2012 11:29AM

    Happy Mother's Day to your wonderful help meet. I'm sure she looks in your eyes & sees love & support mirrored in them to her & from her to your wonderful children. What a tribute , what a legacy! emoticon emoticon

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PATTILYNN224 5/13/2012 11:09AM

  What you have written is what I have tried to accomplish my whole life. Unfortunately, as much as I love my children, I've never come close.

You are much blessed to have such a wife and your children are much blessed to have such a mother.

Thank you for writing such a beautiful tribute


One of the greatest gifts is a father that loves his children's mother. I see your family is much blessed too John.





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CHEMARKMOM 5/13/2012 9:49AM

  Happy Mother's Day to all mothers and those who do not have children but have been a special person in a child's life.

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HONEYPOT319 5/13/2012 9:12AM

    What a wonderful blog to read on Mother's Day! :-D

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SBNORMAL 5/13/2012 7:05AM

  What a wonderful tribute, for Joan. The world need more people like her!!

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BBECKER1955 5/13/2012 6:58AM

    Well said, blessings to you and your wife. A happy Mothers Day to all the moms out there.
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ANIHAKA 5/13/2012 4:34AM

    True love lives on in your marriage! That's why your home sounds like a happy place. I hope the kids pampered her to the best of their abilities on Mother's day.

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NASFKAB 5/13/2012 2:01AM

  Returned to read it again TRUVUTE to a great lady

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BLUEJEAN99 5/13/2012 1:37AM

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TEXASFILLY 5/12/2012 10:05PM

    Yes indeed~ what a beautiful tribute to your wife. You, dear John, must be someone very special, too, for this beautiful woman to find someone with your sweet qualities. *hugs* BB~

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MARITIMER3 5/12/2012 9:19PM

    What a beautiful tribute to your wife. She is a very lucky woman to have such a kind, loving husband. I hope you both had a wonderful day with your children.

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BE-THE-CHANGE 5/12/2012 6:34PM

    What a great blog!

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MARJORIEWRIGHT 5/12/2012 6:07PM

    Thanks for sharing that was great!!

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EVER-HOPEFUL 5/12/2012 5:48PM

    thanks love ,one of my favotire hymns as well. emoticon

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TONYVAND1 5/12/2012 3:09PM

  That was great Thank you

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FARIS71 5/12/2012 2:01PM

    That was amazing! Wish her a Happy Mother's Day from me - a stranger - she has inspired me.

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SPEEDY143 5/12/2012 12:58PM

    Clearly you are BOTH blessed as are your children emoticon

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IAMAGEMLOVER 5/12/2012 10:47AM

    What a beautiful blog. I teared up. Men don't usually "get it" and you do. While you are so lucky to have her, I must say she is lucky to have you also. Bless you both.

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MOMMY445 5/12/2012 10:36AM

    what a wonderful blog! have a fabulous day!

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HEARTS116 5/12/2012 10:33AM

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very nice blog

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REGSHAR 5/12/2012 9:30AM

    Thank you for the up lift today.

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MIMIDOT 5/12/2012 9:11AM

    Thank you for the wonderful blog. It makes me hope that I'm just half as good as your wife. What a beautiful tribute! Your blog made my day. Thanks again.

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THE_NEW_MELISSA 5/12/2012 9:05AM

    Very nice! Your wife sounds like a wonderful lady. What a great tribute to her! I hope she has a great mother's day!

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CALRJM 5/12/2012 8:56AM

  Thank you so much for such an inspiring tribute! You seem to describe my Mother who raised 7 of us with the same kindness and understanding and true holiness!

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REGILIEH 5/12/2012 8:27AM

    I wish I knew Joan, what a wonderful friend to have. You are a blessed husband and I am sure she is a blessed wife. Thank you for writing this beautiful message.

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JGRAY76 5/12/2012 8:21AM

    A feel good blog. thanks for sharing.

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GARDENCHRIS 5/12/2012 8:10AM

    how very nice!

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JIBBIE49 5/12/2012 6:04AM

    emoticonWhat an honor to have your blog featured in the Spark Mail. Makes you a real emoticon

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SUSANK16 5/12/2012 5:32AM

  A truly good marriage is one where respect is mutual as you have demonstrated here -- you are both lucky to have one anothter

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DEBK0923 5/12/2012 3:10AM

    wonderful tribute, great job

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ANGELWENDYMAMA 5/12/2012 1:49AM

    Nice job. :)

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WORLDSERIES11 5/12/2012 1:14AM

    Beautiful tribute!!!

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NASFKAB 5/12/2012 12:46AM

  great tribute to a wonderful lsdy by someone great

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GEEMAWEST 5/11/2012 11:23PM

    What a beautiful tribute to your lovely wife. You are a lucky man and she is a lucky woman.

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SJKENT1 5/11/2012 10:51PM

    Thanks John for blessing us with your thoughts today.

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CARTOONB 5/11/2012 9:04PM

    Beautiful tribute, John. Joan is a lucky woman and, as you know, you are a lucky man.

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