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THIS Is The Day..............

Tuesday, May 08, 2012


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JOANNHUNT 2/8/2013 11:46AM

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TERESAKLE 7/23/2012 10:37AM

  Good reminder. Enjoy the moments. emoticon

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SILLYHP1953 7/14/2012 5:04PM

    Ok, I'll straighten up my desk area while I listen to your vlogs.

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SHAKACRAW 5/19/2012 4:19PM

  Thank you, very inspirational!!!!!

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MANILUS 5/19/2012 9:56AM

    Excellent blog, what inspiration! Keep it up!

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GEORGESPRAGUE 5/18/2012 7:16AM

  I keep watching your blog, I just find it very inspirational.

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TTAYLOR43 5/18/2012 5:49AM

    Thanks. Wonderfully inspirational.

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KIMCOLLINGS 5/14/2012 11:00AM

    I kept thinking about this post over the weekend. I took a walk yesterday and it was so beautiful outside and remembered "This is the day". Thanks for helping me remember to appreciate what I have and that each day is special and needs to be experienced fully.

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NASFKAB 5/12/2012 12:44AM

  thanks again

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RADAZZLE 5/11/2012 11:42PM

    Once again, you have been inspirational! ♥

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JEWLSM 5/11/2012 4:12PM

    Thanks John! I needed that!

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SABLENESS 5/11/2012 9:24AM

    My mother-in-law, who recently passed, began every day of her 93 years with that scripture.

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TIMEFORTHISMAMA 5/10/2012 11:34PM

    Great Blog, just what I needed to hear. emoticon

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WORKINGSTIFF 5/10/2012 10:43PM

    Life really sucks when you don't get enough sleep.

I loved your message. It reminds me of a note on my desk that I wrote to myself, "Tomorrow never comes. Today is the day you must become something."

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LADILADIDA 5/10/2012 7:44PM

    How we feel or react to our circumstances is absolutely our own decisions. Our feelings/emotions can MOVE like fireflies and we can choose to feel sorry for our circumstances and then turn that sorrow into feeling hopeful of what possibilities can come from the moment. Some amazing things happen to us when we are down, if we are willing to see and then DO something about it. Great blog. I'm sure had a great day.

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MYRNACARRIER 5/10/2012 2:04PM

    This is the day the Lord has made. I am going to rejoice as I walk to my noon hour monitoring job at the school near by. It will be the first time and I will see how it goes. It is about a mile from my house and a lot of it is up hill. I know that if I take God long with me it will go okay. He is able to lift us up and give us strength just when we need it. Thank you for your wonderful reminders.

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GLITTERGIRL69 5/10/2012 8:07AM

    After reading your blog I took a look at your page & saw your video blog. Good job! I agree so much with what you said, I might repeat your same thoughts, but I just want to share with you. While watching your blog it reminded me that many times I have to totally put God in my mind to get me through a bad mood, or a frustration that might just put me over the edge. It is when we put God in the center of it all, when we meditate on such things in the bible as, this is the day the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad, such verses like those are medicine to our mind, body, and spirit. If more people realized the healing power of God's word think about how different this world would be... People just might run out of things to complain about, lol.

I loved what you said about how God talks to you. I could not have explained it better. I try to explain it sometimes to people. I tell people God talks to us all, and He does it in a way that we can understand. I just want to thank you for saying what you did about how God talks to people. I think that if more people understood it, then more people would realize that God has been talking to them for a long time.

I loved your message. Keep up the good work. I did a series of video blogs myself on the Spark Diet. I think I did 10 total. It was hard for me to do. I did not want to be in front of the camera. But I did the v/blogs for my team. Watching your blog, you see so relaxed and calm. emoticon

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COOKI3123 5/9/2012 10:42PM

    Good Job!

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GARDENCHRIS 5/9/2012 9:31PM

    hope you get some sleep tonight! And thank you for the reminder that God is good!

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MYSTERY-LADY1 5/9/2012 6:43PM

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DEBK0923 5/9/2012 4:45PM

    Great blog, I needed to hear this. I felt so bad over the loss of my dog, for the last week that I forgot this was the day God chose for me. Thank you John

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GINGERSNAP73 5/9/2012 4:42PM

  try sleepy time tea if you wake up during the nite, it really works

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JIBBIE49 5/9/2012 4:15PM

    emoticonWOnderful to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail. What an honor! WOW, again. You are a real STAR. emoticon

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NAVYSNIPE 5/9/2012 3:03PM

    =D

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CICELY360 5/9/2012 12:17PM

  Good blog.

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TERRIJ7 5/9/2012 12:01PM

    Great vlog, John. Thanks for taking the time to put it together. I hope you felt better as the day progressed and that you got a good night's sleep as a reward!

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GALINAZ 5/9/2012 11:57AM

    God bless you and thank you for beginning my day

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MIMIDOT 5/9/2012 9:16AM

    Great message! One we need to hear every day. Thanks for sharing.

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NCSUE0514 5/9/2012 8:04AM

    Carpe diem!

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MALEXANDER4 5/9/2012 7:25AM

    Thank you....I loved the message. I needed to hear that today.

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KIPPER15 5/9/2012 7:15AM

    Seize the day and be happy. Great vlog.

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NAVYSNIPE 5/9/2012 7:12AM

    John,

Fantastic message today!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and mind set, and my 2cents worth is that you may quote scripture absolutely any old time you are called to do so!!

On my desk I have Ephesians 4:2
"I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received"

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FARIS71 5/9/2012 6:27AM

    Wow! I'm running a bit late this morning- wasn't sure I had 7:19 to watch the video but the Lord nudged me. Truly awesome! Thank you. This will stick with me for awhile.

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JENNIFERWEIDEN 5/9/2012 6:26AM

  Oh, you just go ahead and quote scripture whenever you are darn well moved to do so. After all, this is a motivational and inspirational website, and you're just taking the rest of us to the Source. Nutin' wrong with that.

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NASFKAB 5/9/2012 3:34AM

  have a great day

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LISALGB 5/8/2012 11:43PM

    Great message!! Each day is a gift and should not be squandered!! Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts. It is truly inspirational!!
And, I hope you rest better tonight!!
Have a great week.

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ANHELIC 5/8/2012 10:54PM

    Thanks John,
I needed to hear that. This is the day the Lord has made. I will rejoice and be glad in it. I have this verse on my wall. My daughter embroidered it for my 25 years ago and I can't help but read it every time I pass by. I love how you put it into words. I sometimes feel like garbage and look to where I can put the blame. Now you have given me a new perspective on everything.
Thank you again and God Bless you.
I have emailed this to my daughter for her to watch you. I wrote that this was the best 7 minutes she will have today.
God Bless,
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ONEKIDSMOM 5/8/2012 7:51PM

    I hope your day got better. You have the determination and attitude part right! emoticon

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BELDONDOG1 5/8/2012 7:28PM

    John, very good! This is the day the Lord has made, as was yesterday and tomorrow, if we're lucky enough to have one. We have to make the best of what we have. I also had a crappy night, birds chirping so loudly, I wanted to yell 'shut up already" up,it wasn't a pet that said I have to go NOW, just me, so I got up, exercised, showered and said my mantra--"worrying will not take away tomorrow's troubles, it will just take away today's peace"-- and believe me, I won't let anyone take away my peace no matter how hard they have tried lately. He said to rejoice and be glad--so be it! Hope your day went well and tonight will also.

Noel

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GOODLUCKCHARLIE 5/8/2012 7:27PM

    You made me smile! emoticon

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AVANELL 5/8/2012 7:14PM

    Good Vlog! Thanks for sharing it with us. May we always remember to be thankful for the day that we have!

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LYNMEINDERS 5/8/2012 7:10PM

    Awesome as usual John....
THIS IS THE DAY......you are so so right...thankyou

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SLIMLEAF 5/8/2012 6:49PM

    Oh, John! I do not know you and you don't know me, but to hear you speak on your vlog today.... well, it was a privilege.
When I meet you in heaven I'll give you a big hug and thank you for passing on the message from our heavenly Father: "This is the day that the Lord has made. Let us rejoice and be glad in it."
It sounds impossible but you're so right, God is so right (as He once pointed out to me, always being right is a perogative of being God!)
So tomorrow (it's bedtime as I write), I'm going to take my Father's hand and dare to step out of the front door, putting past failures behind me and looking for the reasons to rejoice.

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SNOWANGELDIVA 5/8/2012 1:53PM

    "Lucky Winners" on the phone roll...oh good gravy.
Sleep deprivation is a form of torture.
Kids ~ sheesh!

Let us Rejoice and be glad in it!
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Hmm..track-stopping in the shower...if you're shuffling!

I'm stopping your vlog, right now and hugging my kids. Sorry about not finishing, but, I think you can appreciate. I just gotta.

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STEADFASTNSEE 5/8/2012 1:35PM

  John, another beautiful one! Thanks. As I was watching your vlog I got a call from Special Olympics (fund raiser). While I didn't need any magazines (they said a magazine subscription will bring in one more athlete) I was intrigued about doing Special Olympics again with my new strength. Your vlog gave me that idea! emoticon Laurie

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VONBLACKBIRD 5/8/2012 1:32PM

    You are so right...we have to choose to be happy in all circumstances and rejoice in the days we are given in this world and make the best of what God has and wants for us. Thanks again.

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HKARLSSON 5/8/2012 1:27PM

    Thanks, John. I needed that. Hope your day goes well.

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CBRIGGS1956 5/8/2012 1:16PM

    I was sitting here at my desk eating lunch and yes having myself a pity party over the unfairness of my situation at work and as usual your blog came with perfect timing and sense, so now I am up and out the door to walk for a few minutes, thanks John.

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I Will Run Again: Patience, Perseverance and Inspiration.

Monday, May 07, 2012



That's me, September 26, 2010, right before I ran in my first 5K. If you want to know more about that day I wrote a blog entitled "What I Learned Going Up the Hill." I was very proud, happy, emotional, yes all of those things, when I crossed the finish line. It was a major accomplishment in my life. I had only began running four months earlier. I was not the quickest and I'll have to tell you my form was not the greatest. Purists shook their heads a bit because I have to run with music in my ears. I can't keep a pace without it, lol. But I did it!!! I ran my very first 5K and I was on top of the world.

A month later I ran in another with my son and new daughter-in-law. You wont see any pictures, lol. That's the race where I tripped on an expansion joint in a bridge and according to witnesses, took an amazing and spectacular fall. In the process I banged my right knee up pretty bad. For the next month, even walking was a challenge for. My skin was scraped pretty bad. My trainer looked at my wound and proclaimed "Now we know you're a runner."

I rebounded, though. In February of 2011 I ran for the third time.



It was thirty seven degrees Fahrenheit at race time and I have never been that cold before or since. I thought of quitting at least a dozen times but I didn't. I made it.

A few months later I injured my back and legs in a fall leaving my back yard. It's been a long road back. I am at the point where I can walk comfortably for a half mile every day. Between us friends, I even jogged about twenty feet the other day. I found out I'm not quite there yet. I became depressed during that period of time. It seemed as if every movement produced pain. Honestly, I just had one huge pity party for myself on a daily basis. "Poor, John!!!!"

Thanks to the inspiration of three Spark friends I crawled out of my pity pot and gave myself a large kick in the posterior for good measure. I don't make it a habit of naming people for two reasons: I might leave someone out and I may embarrass someone. I am going to make an exception here. These are the kind of people you want to hang around with!! These are folks who will lift you up!!!

GIRANIMAL suffers from fibromialga, chronic back pain due to disk issues and a host of food allergies; yet every morning she hops on her bike and pedals through the labyrinth that is Chicago traffic. She does this rain, shine or snow. You never hear her cry or complain. BTW: She has been at her goal weight for some time now.

PRINCESSNURSE was a runner who was exposed to a type of hepatitis virus. Better safe than sorry she went through the painful treatment which produced a lot of nasty side effects. She continued running through the painful treatments. I had a habit of writing peoples names on a sheet of paper when I ran in a 5K. They were the people who for one reason or another weren't physically capable of running. A few months ago PRINCESSNURSE sent me a Goodie. It simply said "I ran with your name in my pocket this weekend." I have to tell you I got really choked up. She's been featured in some publications and has been at goal weight for some time.

MSSUNBUGG lost 145 pounds and developed an exercise program that has led her to participating in triathalons. She has gone through all sorts of physical and emotional challenges but hung in there to reach many of her goals. She has been so very kind to me. She will answer any Spark Mails I send her and you can tell she genuinely cares about other people. She has never given up despite the obstacles in her path. Recently she became a certified life coach.

There are more, many more, that help me make it through the soreness and pain. I'll run again someday. I don't have the date circled on the calender. I know my body will let me know. It will say "It's time John!!!" I'll be ready, through patience, perseverance and the inspiration of folks like you.

  
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LOGOULD 9/24/2012 9:32PM

    Hey, twenty feet is twenty feet more than last week....you ARE already running again. Just take it slow and don't hurt anything else and you'll be running another 5K before you know it!

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YOBOELI 9/24/2012 8:37AM

    That is the way to be keep going strong and I know that you will get there. Good Luck can't wait to see that you are running again.

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PATTISTAMPS 7/10/2012 1:06PM

    I hope to read that you are running again soon, but if it doesn't happen, you have known the joy of finishing races and the pride that comes with that. Keep your spark burning, and be sure you give yourself enough time to heal!

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BUFFALOKAY 5/17/2012 8:09AM

    Yes, you will run again and I'm hoping it's soon!

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SARAHG831 5/11/2012 2:06PM

    Your determination is refreshing!! Enjoyed reading this, very motivational!

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LANAHAUTH21 5/10/2012 11:51PM

  Thanks for sharing


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MYRRH924 5/10/2012 9:46PM

    This is so inspiring!

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JACEBEL 5/10/2012 6:32PM

    thanks for the inspiration. I do hav some health issues that has haulted my exercise. My sparky friends gives me a push to never giv up. Even though the healing is slow I wont give up.

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MACHOL 5/10/2012 4:46PM

    I'm running my first 5k tomorrow. Reading this has given me a new motivation to finish. I'm not running a race. I'm doing it for me!

I know that you'll "get back on track"!

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ROSGETSSERIOUS 5/10/2012 2:19PM

    You definitely will achieve your goal - but you are doing the right thing in taking it one day at a time and listening to your body!! Well done! I am doing my first race on Sunday so I will run with your name to give me the inspiration I need to keep going! Have a great week!
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LADYVALK 5/10/2012 11:36AM

    Fantastic Blog!

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STACEY1840 5/10/2012 11:36AM

  Love your posts John. Keep on keeping on. :)

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BEACHSANDPIPER 5/10/2012 11:19AM

    Way to go, your story motivates others, too.

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MARGARITTM 5/10/2012 10:48AM

    Thanks for another great blog!

See you at the finish line!

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RETURNTOTHIN 5/10/2012 9:43AM

    You are an example of James when he says, "1:4 But let endurance and steadfastness and patience have full play and do a thorough work, so that you may be [people] perfectly and fully developed [with no defects], lacking in nothing."
Have a good day!
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MELOSPARKLE 5/10/2012 8:57AM

    Awesome blog! You will get there! And it's wonderful to have such supportive friends on SP!!!

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PJ51798 5/10/2012 8:47AM

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HOAGIE22 5/10/2012 8:35AM

  Git Er Dun!!!

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PENOWOK 5/9/2012 9:32PM

    Your day will come again! Meanwhile, you inspire the rest of us!

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MYOWNHERO 5/9/2012 4:34PM

    You will do it!

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AVANDREA_ 5/9/2012 2:59PM

    John, you continue to inspire me, encourage me with your blogs. I am not sure I will ever be able to run a full 5K, but I am able to walk that far on good days, much to my surprise. Walking with friends I started out doing thirty minute walks, and now have been able to walk for over an hour at a time. Long before the end of that 5K I am usually in pain, and hobbling along but determined to finish the walk on my own. A dream I have is to be able to say I have walked the entire Bruce Trail, from Niagara Falls to Tobermory. With all its hills and rocky terrain I know it will likely push my knees well beyond their limits, but like our weight loss, it can be done over time by walking a day at a time, or perhaps a weekend, then rest for a few weeks before tackling the next section. Like you, I have a dream and am working towards it with help from others here.

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PJBONARRIGO 5/9/2012 1:24PM

    You can do it John! You do get by with a little help from your friends. I love the idea of the names in your pocket. I used Edison Pena as a mantra (the miner from Chile). Thinking about him helped me overcome injuries and I managed to jog a 5K again this April. emoticon

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NASFKAB 5/9/2012 3:33AM

  great inspiratio as usual

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BIRDLSLAURIE 5/8/2012 9:58PM

    With your kind of perseverance you will definitely be running again. I look forward to reading about your progress.

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EEEEELIZABETH 5/8/2012 5:38PM

    GREAT blog post!

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NCSUE0514 5/8/2012 4:05PM

    You can do it!

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GROWNINOP 5/8/2012 3:03PM

  I can truly identify with what your are saying/feeling. I injured my knee last June. I don't know how I did it, but after a month of hobbling around in excrutiating pain I had surgery to repair the damage. I set a goal of walking a 5K within 6 months of my surgery. I am not, and never will be a runner, but after what I had been through being able to walk that far was a big goal. The race was on the beach and that morning it was 32 degrees out. SInce it was a benefit for the Humane Society I was able to walk with my dog. However, when I took my registration packet back to my car he jumped into the car and refused to come back out. I guess he knew better than I what lay ahead of us. When the starting horn blew I immediately knew I had gotten myself in over my head. But with the encouragement of others and my big dog towing my along, I somehow made it over the finish line in less than an hour. What a wonderful feeling of accomplishment! If you had asked me three months before that if I thought I could walk a mile, I would have assured you it was not possible. I read lots of your blogs and you are incredibly strong and inspiring. I have no doubt that you will overcome your injuries and be back in the race in no time!

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DEBK0923 5/8/2012 2:30PM

    great blog, thank you for sharing

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FOX8518 5/8/2012 2:05PM

  Great work and very inspirational!

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TERESANAVARRO 5/8/2012 1:40PM

    Thank you for sharing your road back to running. It's important for us to do what we can until we can do more. Thanks for the reminder.
You've made so much progress already and with dedication like that, you'll be running again in no time!

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KWAJPODGE 5/8/2012 1:23PM

    Thank you for sharing. Our journey's are like us - unique. I too am a former runner that is walking her way back to running. Good luck on your journey.

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TERRIJ7 5/8/2012 1:14PM

    John, life is made up of seasons which each hold--and teach--something different. I very much appreciate the candor of your blogs. Just as you have encouraged others, you are now being encouraged--that's what Spark is all about!

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CICELY360 5/8/2012 11:43AM

  Keep on fighting.

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SJKENT1 5/8/2012 9:41AM

    You "Sparked" me today, John. Thank you.

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LDRICHEL 5/8/2012 8:54AM

    Absolutely beautiful and you totally capture the spirit of SparkPeople. The people on this site are what make it so much easier to make this lifestyle chnange. Beautiful.

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HEARTS116 5/8/2012 8:14AM

    You can do it!

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ARTW45 5/8/2012 7:59AM

  I have never been a "runner", but I was able to get on the treadmill and jog/run for 5 miles in an hour 5 days a week at one point. Now after being out of the gym for too many years and a knee surgery that left me with both knees hurting now. I have been back in the gym for a while. I can get up to 3.5 mph for a bit, am able to walk at 3 mph for a while. But my legs, though strong are not wanting to move. Like you I am determined to run, I do not care how long it takes I will not quit, give up, or back down, I will run!

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CHANSEN_20001 5/8/2012 7:33AM

    Don't give up. You can do it!!

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BESSHAILE 5/8/2012 7:09AM

    You WILL run again. I know it.

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MANILUS 5/8/2012 6:57AM

    Your perseverance is admiring, you WILL get there! Keep reaching for the goal!!!

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DONNASUMRALL 5/8/2012 6:13AM

  Thanks for the encouragement. I "used to be" a runner - now I'm trying to make a come-back and it can be hard. Thank you for reminding me my "hard" is easy compared to what some have to overcome each day.
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LYNDA519 5/8/2012 6:04AM

    Great article, thanks for the encouragement.

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SUSANK16 5/8/2012 5:48AM

  Stay positive and motivated. Everyday is one step forward

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LYNMEINDERS 5/8/2012 5:36AM

    You must remember too that you are a inspiration to a lot of people.....

I am so pleased that you are seeing that you will run again....your accomplishments are great

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JPEARL127 5/8/2012 5:03AM

  Your story is an inspiration to me, as I am soon to have knee replacement surgery and was wondering about my recovery. You see, I would like to run a 5k race in about a year. My weight goal should nearly be achieved by the time of the race, and I just want to prove that being 65 doesn't have to slow me down, it will give me a new form of keeping fit (I've never done a 5k).

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Knock Three Times? Having Faith In The Process

Sunday, May 06, 2012

The thunderstorm jarred me awake around 2:30 Saturday morning. After fifteen minutes, I was wide-awake. From experience I knew it would be a while before I drifted back to sleep. Rolling over on my back I listened to the thunder and lightning. It’s when I started to think about Moses.

Of all the Old Testament personalities, Moses is a favorite. Moses took on the responsibility of leading a large group of people to the Promised Land, the home God had promised to them. It wasn’t until a few years ago that I realized the forty-year journey the Bible talks about takes only eight weeks in a direct line from Point A to Point B. When you stop and think about it how many of us take a direct line anywhere? I have been on a fifty-eight year journey and I do not think I have rarely gone from Point A to Point B, paused, and said, "Boy you got that one right the first time!" Mostly I fumble around in the dark until I hit my head on the wall or the beam overhead and realize I might want to try a different way out of the room. That is where I can relate to Moses. He wandered around the desert for forty years and during that time, he relied on God to provide him with food, shelter, and safety. There was so much drama that this journey takes up four books in the Bible. When all was said and done Moses simply could not rely on the experience of faith that had guided him for close to forty years. We know tracking our food, staying within our calorie limits, working our exercise program, getting enough rest, all those real important things to creating healthy balance in our life; we know those things are critical, crucial, and important to us but how often do we go looking for other sources? How often do we go looking for "quick fixes?" When we can’t get in shape quick enough, the pounds don’t come flying off us quick enough, we lose faith, we become frustrated, and we begin looking for other alternative sources to. We who dwell in the 21st century are not about to put up with a forty-year journey towards anything. Shoot fire, we have a hard time putting up with a forty-minute journey. As the people who Moses led around the desert we periodically create those quick fixes, those idols that we believe are going to get us from Point A to Point B quicker. Maybe we starve ourselves or push ourselves to the point of injury because “skinny” is more desirable than “healthy.” I have been there and done that.

Moses had a tough job. It seemed no matter what he said or what he did there were always a handful of people who seem to know better. It happens at the gym from time to time. The folks that come up to me and say, "If you did…”

Moses went up to the top of the mountain and during his conversation with God, he shared his frustration. The people were complaining that there wasn't enough water. Moses sat there at the top of the mountain venting. Maybe it's not an issue of water for us Maybe it's an issue of a weight plateau, or sore back or” I'm just plain tired and don't want to exercise.” Maybe we lose our motivation from time to time. Like Moses, we get lost in the desert. Some of us are there longer than forty years. We know, intuitively, that if we have faith in the process we will ultimately achieve a healthy balance in our lives. God suggested to Moses that he go over to a formation of rocks, take his staff, and hit the rock one time and one time only. He would have all the water they needed. Moses gathered up his robes, picked up the staff and headed towards the rock. Moses lifts his staff and hits the rock one time. “If once is good twice must be better.” Moses strikes the rock again. "Third times a charm," Moses must have thought, so he hit the rock a third time. As I said, I have never had a water shortage but I have started thinking what would happen if I cut even more calories from my diet. Wouldn't I lose weight quicker? What would happen if I exercise for an hour everyday rather than thirty minutes? Never mind that my doctor, my trainer, my beloved wife, and a host of other wonderful friends who have made this journey successfully have laid out a simple process “Hit the rock once John!!!.

The water started to trickle, Moses felt satisfied and turned to walk down the mountain, another crisis averted. That's when he heard God asked him if he understood the directions, and like us, when Moses kept trying to come up with an excuse for not following the plan he ended up seeing Gods wisdom. There is a consequence to not following our plan. There is a consequence to being impatient. It takes us that much longer to reach our destination and we begin to become self-critical and doubt the process itself. How often do you and I receive signs and wonders by the very people God has placed in our lives to share their journey, their wisdom and their experience? How often do we ignore them because we seem to know better. I realize how many times a day I hit the rock three times figuring something that is good has to be even better if I modify it. In Moses case, he wasn’t allowed into the Promised Land because of his lack of faith.

It's the "P" word. Patience is such a hard thing to practice. It is why we have each other.

  
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LIMIG2 5/11/2012 12:51PM

    Thanks for the refocusing on the problem and what we need to do to get beyond the problem.

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MARJORIEWRIGHT 5/11/2012 10:07AM

    That is a great point. Thank you for reminding me.

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LILSHINE 5/11/2012 9:44AM

    Thank you for sharing this wisdom. I really enjoyed reading this. I said last nite that while we pray an important thing to ask and work on is PATIENCE. It took time to get here and it's going to take time to drop the weight as well.

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BABY77A 5/11/2012 1:42AM

    Thanks for writing this . Makes me think. Thanks again!

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GRAMMAP1 5/10/2012 11:45PM

    You are a fine communicator. Thank you for this blog. I have not read any before, but be sure I will read others in the future. emoticon emoticon

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MSACTIVE_DOC 5/10/2012 8:58PM

    Such an inspiration.... I think I've knocked on this weight loss "rock " 20 times or more, lol. emoticon

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DADDYS_GIRL6 5/10/2012 6:42PM

    Thanks for an inspiring blog and your perspective on more isn't always better. You are right!


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JUNEBUG150 5/10/2012 6:27PM

    I really enjoyed this blog! Nice way to put our journey to a better lifestyle in perspective! Thanks.

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JACEBEL 5/10/2012 6:24PM

    seeing something at a different person's point of view may not be a bad thing! Thanks for sharing. We all hav a responsibility to ourselves to look after our health.

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TRESA7 5/10/2012 6:06PM

    Thank you. This is so inspirational!

In comparison, I think I'm more like Moses when he asked God, ~Why me. Why don't you choose someone else?~ I'm afraid I can't do it OR maybe I don't want to go through all the trouble.

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LSIG14 5/10/2012 2:03PM

  What a fantastic way of pointing out that more is not necessarily better!! We really do need to have patience and trust in God to do things on His timetable and not on ours! Thanks so much for the very timely reminder!

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TLOVESC1125 5/10/2012 12:29PM

  I loved reading your blog as it spoke right to me thank you

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MARITIMER3 5/10/2012 11:18AM

    Love your recap of the story of Moses - we can learn a lot from him, and it's interesting how often he comes up, usually as an example, in the bible study group I've been attending for about 6 years.

Patience and I have only a nodding acquaintance, and it's something that I pray about often.

Thanks for the great blog and for the reminder to be as patient with myself as I try to be with others.

I've seen your blogs quite often, and have added you as a Spark Friend.

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TRINITYROYAL 5/10/2012 10:19AM

    Thank you for the inspiring words.

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ANHELIC 5/10/2012 10:12AM

    Thank you John. I just came back from my kidney specialist and she was not too happy, but I told her because I gained 20 lbs. since my last visit 6 months ago. I told her I have just gotten myself turned around and am starting to have patients and determination to get myself out of the maze. I will follow your journey, one day at a time and if I hit a roadblock, I will go another route.
Moses obeyed God and got to the other side. I will do the same.
Again, thank you John, your bogs have been an inspiration to me.
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REGILIEH 5/10/2012 9:54AM

    Thank You!

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BARB5970 5/10/2012 8:47AM

    As always, I can count on you to put things in great perspective. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I gain somuch from your experiences.

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ELLIE381 5/10/2012 7:43AM

    emoticonWhat a great blog. It really gets everyone thinking. emoticon

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GLITTERGIRL69 5/10/2012 7:29AM

    I have seen you many times on MARCYNA/\'s blogs. I am not big on reading blogs. I am a leader for the team, Can't do this on my own, and I am very involved with it, and just don’t have enough time each day to do all that I do for my team & read blogs . I have never read any of your blogs & I truly believe that God lead me to your blog today.

God told me to read a section of the bible and part of this section included the whole story of Moses. God is taking my husband and me on a journey, and I believe God wanted me to read certain books in the bible to help me prepare for it through Him. As I read through those books I too thought about how their one month journey took them 40 years. Weeks after reading those books in the bible I remember complaining about my body, the process and sometimes lack of progress I was making. The Israelites grumbled and complained all of those 40 years. Much like us it got them nowhere. God wants us to put our faith in Him and allow our faith to silence our complaints. I know that when we put our faith in God's process, in God's plans, and in God's timing that He give us the patience to not only see it through, but through His grace we can actually ENJOY the slow progress we make.

There is a reason behind God's slow deliverance. He knows that if He gave us sudden weight loss, or a sudden break though of anything we would think, I DID this! Through this sometimes slow process of receiving anything that we want eventually we become wise enough to realize the only way we are going to get what we want is to TOTALLY rely on God. It is when we finally give up and completely give it to God - when we completely surrender - it is during that time God shows us ALL of His power, plan, & His wisdom. He then not only gives us what we want, he gives us what we need.


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THINKPINK06 5/10/2012 7:01AM

    Great Blog!

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SWEETMAGNOLIA2 5/10/2012 6:55AM

    Thank you again for sharing such an inspirational blog with all of us. I will remember this as I continue on my journey with the faith that each little "trickle" will get me there. No need to speed the process. And, yes, we do have each other.
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MARCYNA 5/10/2012 5:39AM

    Knocking the rock toomany times has only brought me to a desert, thanks for reminding me I only need to hold on to Faith!!!
Love,
marcyna

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SUGARBABY60 5/10/2012 2:42AM

    yup only 37 more years left on my journey through the desert! great comparison.....40 yrs in the desert , who knew when we first started this journey ????? emoticon

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TXGRANDMA 5/10/2012 1:00AM

    How right you are! Really enjoyed the analogy! emoticon

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PRAYERMOMOF5 5/9/2012 7:34PM

    hello folks i am knew to the sight. i have been dieting since fri. i need to loose 100 pnds to save my life. i need support. emoticon

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GOING-STRONG 5/9/2012 5:53PM

    Thanks for sharing.. good lesson to remember. Spark on!

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AVANDREA_ 5/9/2012 2:42PM

    One of the things I am reminding myself of, and others as well, is that we did not put all this weight on in a few months... so why expect it to fall off in a few months... It takes time and hard work to get to the goals that we have set for ourselves. Accept the ups and downs, and keep working towards those goals will be a lot easier than beating ourselves over the head when the numbers don't do what we think they should be doing. It helps when others remind me of this as well, which your blog today does.

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JAYDEE16 5/9/2012 11:24AM

    This really spoke to me today. I had one of those moments where I was tempted to stare at my shoes and mumble "yes, sir, guilty as charged." :) I have intermittently lost faith in the process, thought I knew better than the process, and thought "if one is good, three is better." Sometimes, all of those at once.

Thanks for lighting my path back to the straight and narrow today! :)

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CINDYBEL 5/9/2012 10:33AM

    Well said.

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ANIHAKA 5/9/2012 4:26AM

    So so true and a great allegory for this weight loss journey.

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RINA2002 5/8/2012 11:52PM

  Great illustration for a skill, patience, that can make the difference in our success.

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STOPPLAYING2011 5/8/2012 11:26PM

    Nicely spoken i like how you used a biblical person such as Moses to emphasize your point emoticon emoticon

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1990SHO 5/8/2012 11:23PM

  This is my first time to read your blog, but it will not be the last. What a beautiful piece. You are a special person born to lead people. Please keep up the good work and I will listen (read) emoticon

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REFFIE1 5/8/2012 10:37PM

    Thanks for the reminder that patience really is a virtue. The weight didn't come on all at once and it is not going to leave all at once. It is key to enjoy the moment we are in. emoticon

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TEACHING1ST 5/8/2012 8:55PM

    Amen!!

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JOYCECAIN 5/8/2012 7:33PM

    I SOMETIMES FEEL THAT I AM WALKING IN A DESERT, AND NOT GOING ANYWHERE. WE NEED TO GIVE IT TO GOD.

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MSTAPLE1 5/8/2012 5:56PM

  Great blog!

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WARMSTRONG2 5/8/2012 3:11PM

  Great blog. I wish we all had infallible advisers as Moses had.

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MICHELLENEWMAN 5/8/2012 2:51PM

  Thanks!!! Very Good Stuff, I think I'm gonna like it here.. ;-)

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RSTENNER 5/8/2012 11:40AM

    Hit the rock once= everything in moderation. If we could just "get" that and live by it, we would see the pounds drop off week by week and we would reach the goal. I read somewhere recently that God can only answer our prayer if we take the time to really ask for something. We can't just think it, we have to say the words, Dear God, help me to stay on my program and not cheat, and do this thing for myself. Can it really be this simple? I really do think that weight loss is about patience. And making those adjustments to lifestyle. So, I'm going to hit the rock once and really work hard to take better care of myself. Have a great day! emoticon

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PETESKI24 5/8/2012 11:22AM

    Great blog

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WILEE323 5/8/2012 9:52AM

    That darn "P" word gets me every time!! Moses is one of my fav Biblical characters!

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TRICKER20 5/8/2012 9:15AM

  Wow- thanks! I really needed to hear this right now!

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BEACHBUM4LIFE 5/8/2012 9:13AM

    Great blog!

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RYANB1982 5/8/2012 9:08AM

    John, you are such an inspiration. Your honesty and wisdom are so appreciated. I love that you see God as a part of your journey. Often times I get distracted with reaching the destination. I can take shortcuts to get there, but i won't stay there long. We tend to forget that God is using the journey to teach us the things that will not only get us to our destination, but will keep us there. emoticon

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FATGRAMS61 5/8/2012 9:08AM

    How inspiring even if I am reading it a day later. This really gave me a good look at myself, so John you are not alone. May God give me patience as I run this race of weight loss and healthy living.

Your blog caused me to think about patience and a recent Bible Study I attended was on this scripture.

Hebrews 12:1 says : "Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,"

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BLOOMING52 5/8/2012 9:08AM

    Thank you.

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DISAPPEARING1 5/8/2012 8:21AM

    Thank you for writing such an inspiring and encouraging blog! And thank you for my new motto "Hit the rock once!"
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Accepting The Challenge To Live My Life

Wednesday, May 02, 2012

My sister told me I needed to hurry. She said dad was hanging on so he could say good-bye to me. Just an aside, the state police, especially the highway patrol don’t grasp the concept of “having to hurry.” Looking back, I was glad I had eight hours and four hundred miles to prepare. Aside number two: I hate hospitals, sickness and death. They create an anxiety attack in the pit of my stomach just waiting to occur. My dad had always been a strong person, both physically, and mentally. Until his vision left him he and my mom walked to Mass every morning, a round trip of over two miles. Likewise he took water aerobics well into his 80’s. Yes, I know, I had an amazing gift in my life. I am 58 and until six weeks ago both my parents were alive, lucid, and relatively healthy. All this spun through my mind as I drove north. Aside number three: When you are really scared and feel extremely threatened deep inside counting your blessings isn’t much of an antidote. I didn’t want to go in alone. I don’t know how to handle that stuff emotionally. I sort of freeze. I get tongue tied. Joan acts like she does this stuff every day so she went with me in case my motor skills abandoned me. My dad had an oxygen mask on so it was difficult to understand him. He reached for my hand and motioned for Joan to pull the oxygen mask away.

“ I have no regrets, I’ve led a good life, but gosh it went by so fast.”

We stayed with him for a little while longer and then we were told to leave. He looked up at me and squeezed my hand. The look said “Remember what I just said.” Dad hung on another two days but that was the last lucid moment I had with him. In all honesty the next few weeks were a blur. There is disbelief, followed by numbness, followed by this over all deconstruction of your emotional self as you go to pick up the phone to share things with him and realize he won’t be on the other end. Finally something that resembles resignation begins to build a place inside of you.

So I am driving down the road last Friday and suddenly there is this defined ray of sunshine in my soul. Aside number four: sometimes it takes a while for me to “get it.” I realized that what he was telling me was to take advantage of every possible moment you have in your life and don’t ever miss an opportunity to do something new or different. I thought about the stuff I wished I had done with the kids when they were younger. Aside number five: I have a 24 year old daughter who still reminds me I never took her fishing. But I have come to believe that regretting the past is like rocking in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere. My dad was telling me to take advantage of every opportunity that crossed my path. I might not get a second chance.

Somewhere in this moment a lot of my anxiety disappeared. It was like the story in the Gospel, where Jesus healed the blind man, suddenly he could see clearly. Most of what we fail to do comes from some sort of inborn fear that we won’t succeed so I mean why try. We who struggle with our weight carry an extra self-imposed cross. We hold ourselves up to ridicule because we believe the world is judging us negatively. So we stay at home and sit on the couch and munch on Cheetos and lament our fate. We never see ourselves as being inspiring to other people. We rarely take the opportunity to get out there and make our mark. We’re going to wait until we get to that perfect pants or dress size. My dad pointed out in a most poignant way that waiting, is wasting time and resource.

Yup, I am over weight. Yup, I struggle and please don’t consider me arrogant or self-involved, but I believe that my struggle and my journey can be a source of inspiration to other people. It CAN if I get off the couch, put myself out there and allow myself to experience life show other people striving for health can pay off. I haven’t lost a hundred pounds and I never will as long as I limit the world before me. This is as much about what comes out of us as what goes into our mouths.

This blog is about me and about you. My dad, and possible many people in your life, may have pointed that out to us. It’s safe to treat this as a heartwarming Kleenex moment. That’s the easy road. The hard road for me is to go out and live his challenge.

Anyone want to take a walk?

  
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JOANNHUNT 1/30/2013 10:58AM

    I sympathize with you. My Mother died 2 years ago and I regret not being there for her more. I let my younger brother deal with my parents. He is dealing with my handicapped Dad at present time. I am there for him as a sounding board, but don't go to visit as it is too painful. I attend every function my brother makes to get us 6 kids together. Right now we are trying to get the grandchildren involved in these functions. Not doing too well at that. Not going to stop trying as my brother doesn't think my Dad will last another year. I let myself wallow in self pity when my Mom died and put on the pounds. My brother has left my Mom's voice on the answering machine and at first it killed me to leave a message and now I enjoy listening to her voice. It reminds me to keep up my spirits and keep pushing forward. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon Sorry for the rambling.

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SILLYHP1953 6/27/2012 1:31PM

    You reminded me, and others, of probably the best lesson we need to learn in this life. Thank you for sharing your family and love with us.

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REGILIEH 5/12/2012 8:37AM

    Beautiful!!!!!

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BUZZANDWOODY 5/10/2012 9:33AM

  I strongly agree with Gailruu, it isn't too late to take your daughter fishing!


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SANDIBETTS1 5/8/2012 4:31AM

  Thank you for this blog. I have a dear neighbbor who passed on Sunday. I am experiencing a lot of emotion. .I know you will get that fishing trip in for your daughter.

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SWEDE_SU 5/7/2012 10:15PM

    what a gift - thank you for sharing!

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LAURA747681 5/7/2012 7:23AM

    I lost my dad suddenly in 2007. No chance for reciprocal good byes, but I remember distinctly thinking We had already said everything to each other. The love, the respect, the caring. No regrets. I still miss him a lot.

Thanks for the reminder to live in each moment, and do step out and dance each day.

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GRANDKATZ 5/6/2012 12:19PM

    Thank you John for reminding me to put my regrets about some of the things I've missed out on, into the past. There's no reward for past regrets. emoticon

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BLOOMING52 5/6/2012 8:38AM

    Thank you. Very inspirational.

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LYNMEINDERS 5/6/2012 1:18AM

    Where are we walking to John.....
I'm right there beside you wlaking along with you.....

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MCMAHANEY 5/5/2012 11:10PM

    Where we learn in the moment or later in life, our parents teach us some of the greatest lessons in life.

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GEEMAWEST 5/4/2012 9:57PM

    What an awesome gift your dad left you with. And yes, I would love to take a walk with you. We could talk about so much.

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THISTIMEMYWAY 5/4/2012 8:55PM

    Thank you for sharing.
I cannot imagine my life without my parents. Although they annoy me (and me them!), I love them so dearly. I guess I need to show it to them more. My kids love being with them. You had a great father to tell you that so that you can act on it now.
I see my kids growing up so fast and feel so blessed and so full of love when I am with them. That is true happiness.

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GAILRUU 5/4/2012 5:30PM

    I am so sorry for the loss of your father. My mother is 94 and her body is still living but her thinking processes are gone. I miss the old Mom.
It is still not too late to take your daughter fishing!

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GAILSQUEST 5/4/2012 12:49PM

    Thank you.Yes,death really sucks!
I lost my beloved husband of 34 years in Dec.I`m still grieving and learning to live life alone.
I,too picked up the phone to call mom or dad after they were gone.
Now I catch myself thinking I need to share something with my husband and then realize that He`s gone.
Fortunately,exercise is my therapy.I spend a lot of time on the treadmill at the gym.It`s like a friend that I visit every day.

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KM1116 5/4/2012 12:43PM

    Great read... Thank you so much for sharing!

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4THELOVEOFDOLLS 5/4/2012 11:17AM

    What an amazing blog and yes you are inspiring others and making a difference. Thank you for putting yourself out there. emoticon

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WMUGRAD 5/4/2012 11:14AM

    Thank you for sharing. I'm in tears at this present moment. Wishing you well in your healing and health journey.

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CBRIGGS1956 5/4/2012 10:59AM

    So very sorry for your loss John and very grateful that you chose to use your loss to once again help the rest of us with your inspirational comments.

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RSTENNER 5/4/2012 10:45AM

    Oh John, so sorry in the loss of both your parents. It really is a difficult phase to go through realizing for the first time, that you or I are now the older generation. And that our time on this earth is on a countdown of sorts, hopefully we have another 25 years, but that remains to be seen. I will never get over losing my parents, but I also know that is the way of life and they taught me well and I want to go on and be an encouragement to my children and nieces and nephews. We are the teachers now and can lead by example. You'd better be making that bucket list, did you watch that movie? But ya know, my mother is with me everyday anyway. She comes to me in my dreams and we have the best time. They will always be in your heart. You take care of yourself, get some exercise, eat well, and I agree, go fishing with your kids! emoticon

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SANDIBETTS1 5/4/2012 6:46AM

  I love your blog. I love your "cover" page.

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DEBK0923 5/4/2012 1:04AM

    great blog, thank you for sharing something personal

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EGR2BEME 5/3/2012 10:09PM

    So sorry about your Dad! What a great message for us all - thank you for taking the time to write it. I need that walk...so much! I hope you get to go fishing with your daughter soon!



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NOCTURNALBABY 5/3/2012 9:42PM

  I was just sitting here, thinking that I will never get what I want out of life when I just happened to click on your blog. Thank you. Thank you so very much. emoticon emoticon

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JIBBIE49 5/3/2012 8:47PM

    emoticonHow wonderful to see you as the FEATURED BLOG in the Sparks Mail. What an honor. emoticon

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TYLYNN61 5/3/2012 8:29PM

    Yes SIr Lets go for a walk. Thank You so much for being who you are and for sharing yourself with us. I am so grateful I got to read your blog. you are AMAZING !!!!!!!!!!!!!

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KATHYTEEPLE 5/3/2012 7:47PM

  Thank you so much fo sharing this very personal time in your life. I really did find it inspirational.

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IAMAGEMLOVER 5/3/2012 5:57PM

    I want to take that walk. I am sick of existing, I want to live. emoticon for the blog.

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QUIKSYLVER 5/3/2012 5:34PM

    “ I have no regrets, I’ve led a good life, but gosh it went by so fast.”

What a great last memory to have of your dad. I am not looking forward to when my parents die, but I hope they sound as peaceful as your dad sounds to me.

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HEALTHY4ME 5/3/2012 5:02PM

    Awesome blog, and yes even though I am in pain in both knees I am goign for a walk very shortly, must let my supper settle a bit. My condolences to you and your family, your dad sounds like a smart, and nice guy.
I will remember what he told you, My mum when she passed, 3 years in june. I was holdign her hand sort of laying my head on the rails of the bed, dad was laying down on a cot and dd and bf were just hanging around. I felt her open her eyes and she looked so tired. Didn't say a word, I just said OH hi mum, ( she hadn't been lucid in a day) told her I loved her, told lisa to come say hi, and told dad to get ready to come over. I knew it was going to be then. I wish I had asked her to hang on just till my son and hubby would get there, she may have.
I have many regrets about her time in hosptial, but at the time it was the best i could do for her. ( I worked in healthcare seniors).
Sorry I carried on but you made me really think, that was agood thing.
HUGS and again remember we need to cherish every day!

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SOFTBALLMOM422 5/3/2012 4:21PM

    This was a wonderful blog. Thank you for sharing your emotions so openly, we all struggle through life and need the reminder that we need to pay attention and live not just put our heads down and survive!! I will walk with you.
Thank you and I am sorry for your loss!!
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FITMAY 5/3/2012 4:02PM

    I want to take the walk! Let's live!
LOVE your blog!!
May

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JEHART1 5/3/2012 3:58PM

    This is truly a heartfelt and amazing blog! Thank you for sharing it. A great reminder to us all that life is short, don't waste the time we're given.

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TIMEFORTHISMAMA 5/3/2012 3:38PM

    Loved this blog! Made me think, no more time wasted. My parents are getting old fast and we have to enjoy every moment! Thank you! emoticon

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TINNATEE 5/3/2012 2:44PM

    I am sorry that you lost your dad. You have such a way of expressing things. I just wanted to tell you thank you. It is a powerful message and one I personally needed to hear.

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SUNSHINEYDAYS 5/3/2012 2:38PM

    Fantastic blog -very inspirational ! I have been grieving hard for my mother for nearly twelve years now and she would be so happy to see that I am finally ready to let go and live my life. I will see her again one day but until then I am going to try to enjoy every moment I can here !

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KMSIMMONS1 5/3/2012 2:10PM

  Count me in! Thank you for this blog!

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PETESKI24 5/3/2012 1:40PM

    We need to remember that life is to be lived. Thank you for the reminder.

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TAURUSGIRL3 5/3/2012 1:40PM

  Well said!

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JAS9096 5/3/2012 1:37PM

    What an amazing heartfelt blog. Thank you for the reminder.

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LAINYC 5/3/2012 12:50PM

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BABYLOSTBACK 5/3/2012 12:41PM

    Thank you for sharing, and I also wanted to say it's not to late to take your daughter fishing. emoticon

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CIVIAV 5/3/2012 11:46AM

    Hand in hand John!

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EMTFF376 5/3/2012 11:35AM

    someone used the rocking chair analogy with me last night. I can't remember what we were talking about, but man that struck a chord when I read it in your blog.

Your blog has perfect timing. I have received my new triathlon training program and I WILL race this year. Period, end of story. It was a part of my life I loved and I don't want to holding my daughter's hand saying, "Jane I wish I had raced just one more season". I want to be uttering the words that your father did to you.

Thank you, dear friend, for your thoughts. They make me think. They make me laugh. They make me cry. Lets take a walk sometime.

Love,
JanetteR>

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BANDMOM2012 5/3/2012 11:18AM

    Thanks for the reminder to live to the fullest.

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DAISYTERRI 5/3/2012 10:55AM

    Thank you!

Great Blog!

Great Attitude!

And, what wonderful, wonderful finals words from your Dad.

Yep, I'm ready to take a walk!

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MAVERICK59 5/3/2012 10:45AM

    John,

I am sorry for the loss of your father. He walks with Jesus now. He truly is at peace.
Your axis has tipped a bit and things in your world might wobble for awhile, but it eventually straightens itself out. But you will always miss him, you just learn to live with it.
I am so glad you had a positive relationship with your father and good memories to draw on when you feel a little empty inside.

Since my daughter passed, I have had so many regrets about should have, could have and didn't.
I hope you have a great time fishing with your daughter, and I hope it happens more than once!

God bless you and may the Angels hold you in your moments of grief. They will help you ride them out.
Belinda

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LIVELYGIRL2 5/3/2012 10:41AM

  I can sense you will always recall your Dad's message. I know it is raw now. Some of us would like to give you a hug. it is one of lives most intense experiences, losing a parent. Years ago, I lost 4 relatives in 2 1/2 years. They all had very serious health problems such as ALS, cancer...

It can leave one in a negative permanent state or when the grief is precessed, project you into a level level of gratitude and sight for what truly matters and what you are going to do about it.

Hang in there and we are here to share new ways to digest stress and pain ( than eating marathons ).

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Here's A Thought: Find A Friend

Sunday, April 29, 2012

If you cant view the video here it is availible on YouTube @
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NeTDJeBH1
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  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

EEKAMIGHTY 4/7/2014 6:55AM

  I realize this post is 2 yrs old, however, it is no less relevant. I was just looking up old video blogs and I must say, I truly enjoyed this. I see on the side of this video that you are still posting so I'm happy you have continued the spark. I hope I can say the same in 2 years.

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BE-THE-CHANGE 5/3/2012 1:15PM

    What a great vlog! I feel like you were inside my head (scary place sometimes).

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WORKINGSTIFF 5/1/2012 8:57PM

    As always, good thoughts...while I've been on Spark a long time, I believe it is what we each make it. I enjoy reading/listening to others blogs, and responding (hopefully mostly to the positive).

Let's each of us make the effort to extend a hand when we can.

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MEDDYPEDDY 5/1/2012 2:27AM

    WHen I think of leaving spark because there are too many ads, too much nagging about me liking on facebook or telling a friend or promoting spark here and there ... I stay because of the friends. The tools are great but I can find them at many other places. The articles are great too and saves me the effort to find them myself. But I am a swede and there are lots of stuff here that does not really fit to my way of thinking... but the friends do. The wonderful people I get to meet that supports me, that allow me to support them, that shows me that I am not alone, that share my fears, strenghts, efforts... I am on facebook but don´t use it that much because it is too ... not focused. On spark I share a goal - to live a healthy life, and I do think that it is not only about being soical in general, it is about progress in my life, and by sharing we help eachother along...

You are a great thinker (in spite the fact that you are a man...just joking! emoticon)

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SNOWANGELDIVA 4/30/2012 8:09PM

    "I'm having a no hair day"...nice hat.
Cute.
Focusing.

"We are the World!..." emoticon

To have a friend ya gotta be a friend.

I heard Street DaNc3 ~ So there!!!!
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YIWEN39 4/30/2012 7:16PM

    Right on, John! So true :-) emoticon

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GIRANIMAL 4/30/2012 2:10PM

    Huh. I never would have dreamed you sometimes felt awkward one-on-one with people. I have felt terribly socially inept for most of my life (although I feel like I've gotten a teeny bit better into my 30s) so I just assumed I could recognize my own kind! LOL But here you are, one of my "besties," and I had no idea!

I think this means we're both just fine and it's only the nagging self-doubt talking. Or yelling. emoticon

Because you're tops in my life, before this blog I have already begun to emulate your awesomeness of reaching out to people, or conversely taking the friendship bait more often, and I'm glad for the connections I've made because of it.

You're so darn wise. emoticon
And I am who I hang around with! emoticon



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CBRIGGS1956 4/30/2012 9:25AM

    As always a great blog, I always look forward to the next, thanks.

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ANGELWENDYMAMA 4/30/2012 4:30AM

    Over 12 million people on SparkPeople now!

Anyone can go to the Community boards - Introduce Yourself board and welcome some new people. When I do that I get a bunch of people who add me as a friend.

Nice vlog, John!

Are SparkFriends imaginary? Nope, but I can see why she might think that! They're virtual in some way.. but real on their end and we're virtual to them. :)


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NASFKAB 4/30/2012 1:23AM

  Just knowing is good to learn great thanks

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AVANDREA_ 4/29/2012 10:22PM

    I am glad that I read your blogs, and have added you as a friend.
you seem to have a way of stating issues and ideas that come across clearly when I read them. Thank you for sharing.

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WORLDSERIES11 4/29/2012 9:20PM

    Thanks so much John for sharing your thoughts and wisdom! As always, very insightful and helpful! emoticon

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ONEKIDSMOM 4/29/2012 8:15PM

    Another home run, buddy! It's like going to meeting or church or whatever to pop by your video blogs... and the written ones, too. It's my Spark friends that keep me going through the rough patches, and they (rough spots) don't stop when you reach goal, as well you know.

And thanks for adding me back. One more friend to keep us going ... can never have too many.

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WILDHONEYPIE1 4/29/2012 6:26PM

    emoticon as always John. emoticon

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CONJO163 4/29/2012 4:44PM

    Thanks Very encouraging to me as a New Person. emoticon

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SARAWALKS 4/29/2012 2:33PM

    Great blog, John, I am SO VERY grateful for my Spark friends. Just by commenting on my feed they help me so much. Right now I have a new spark buddy and it is helping us both stay on track to stay consistent here. Accountability and support - what more do we need? emoticon emoticon emoticon

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HDHAWK 4/29/2012 2:19PM

    I hadn't thought about reaching out from the male perspective. I would have missed a lot if you hadn't. Thanks!

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VONBLACKBIRD 4/29/2012 2:13PM

    Thanks so much for being you!!!

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GEEMAWEST 4/29/2012 1:39PM

    I got a good chuckle out of your granddaughter asking if you Sparkfriends were imaginary. Too precious!

Great vlog!

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NUNZIATA43 4/29/2012 1:22PM

    John,

I'm so GLAD you are a male! I've often wondered where men store the deep rooted feelings. You are AWESOME! I agree - I'm in it for the long haul and am so thrilled to hear/see you being so real! THANK YOU for your video and sharing the wisdom, Friend! You're the best!!!



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TEACHING1ST 4/29/2012 12:53PM

    John, everything you post hits exactly where it's needed! You have so much to say that is vital to all here...men and women alike! Please DO ramble---and even more often! Your down to earth messages give so much 'food for thought.' Thanks for being who you are!

Mary

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