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It Starts and Ends With Me

Thursday, April 26, 2012


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VOLLEYGIRL77 5/1/2012 10:42AM

    So awesome! Thanks for the great blog!

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YIWEN39 4/30/2012 7:06PM

    Very powerful John! Thank you emoticon

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BELDONDOG1 4/29/2012 9:56PM

    John, you are truly a great writer, and this blog actually really touched me. We are all worth it and thank you for reminding me of this. Losing weight is so very hard, but does become easier when we have friends who know exactly what we are going through. I have been off track but I've kept up my exercise and it saved by butt (from getting bigger) and I only gained 1/2#. Exercise has become a part of my daily life like breathing. I wish I could feel that way about food. The exercise is now a habit, and the food is also, just not a good one. And yes, I too have gotten a lot of food that I let rot before I got to eat it. I signed up for your blogs, so maybe you can inspire me more. Thank you and may God bless you and yours! Noel

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CATHYROSE40 4/29/2012 7:21PM

    I am new to SP and find you very inspirational. So, thank you.

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RADAZZLE 4/28/2012 6:16PM

    Wow! It's amazing about timing.... I had been thinking about how important it is to get my mind in check with my actions and desires, and here you are talking basically about the same thing! THANK YOU! emoticon

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REDSHOES2011 4/28/2012 9:33AM

    Yes life is choices and your right it starts and stops with ourselfs..

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ONEKIDSMOM 4/28/2012 9:16AM

    Love your blogs, John. Finally added you as a Spark friend, after being a fan girl for a while. I, too, am a compulsive eater. I have taken it off, I am working hard at keeping it off... but the real key is the "I am worth it" message that sometimes gets lost in the shuffle. You add it back. And I'll keep echoing it back at you: YOU are worth it, too!

Every Sparker is WORTH taking care of his/her health! Spark on. emoticon

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NASFKAB 4/28/2012 2:44AM

  great blog as usual

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CICELY360 4/28/2012 12:48AM

  Good timeline.

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JIBBIE49 4/27/2012 10:21PM

    What an honor to have your blog featured in the Spark Mail. You are a STAR. emoticon

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TEXASFILLY 4/27/2012 9:24PM

    Hey John~ *hugs* You feel like a brother~man to me. Are we twins? I hear ya, it's all in our heads. Hey, just know that the habits we build now are gonna pay off in the end. The stuff in our heads may take a while to change, yet I've discovered that educating myself about foods~ healthy, organic vs. crappola that poses as food & how it can nourish my body~ how it makes me feel empowered~ that's good stuff to know to help change the headtalk, which sometimes we just gotta scream "SHUT~UP!" as it is a spoiled, inner child talking. You hang in there! Together we are victorious! *hugs* All the best, BonnieBlue~ emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
P.S. I found you through our D*I*V*A~ ;) emoticon

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ANGELWENDYMAMA 4/27/2012 8:27PM

    You are worth it! You deserve to be healthy and happy! Make it happen!

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ALIDOSHA 4/27/2012 5:06PM

    I'm your fan! on't stop!

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TERRIJ7 4/27/2012 1:19PM

    Great blog, John. It was nice having you visit me in my home via this blog!

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LARSEN_84 4/27/2012 11:45AM

  MIND OF MATTER IS THE MOTTO OF THE DAY.

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BARB5970 4/27/2012 9:44AM

    Hey John, I've never met you and I certainly don't really know you, but I feel such a connectoin with you and relate to your blogs in a profound way. .. Thanks for sharing your insights. Love the way your straight forward and honest.

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NEWTINK 4/27/2012 8:20AM

    Nicely put .... You are worth the effort and strength it takes to change your perception ... Have a great day emoticon

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CARTOONB 4/26/2012 11:36PM

    That voice in your head is busy...came to talk to me this morning, and yesterday, and the day before that, and...you get the idea.

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CBRIGGS1956 4/26/2012 11:35PM

    Thanks, John as usual you give us plenty of "food" for thought.

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MANILUS 4/26/2012 11:13PM

    You hit the nail on the head John, change comes from the mind and transcends to the body! All the best!

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GEEMAWEST 4/26/2012 10:38PM

    OK, now I'm in the right place.

Thanks John. Really needed to hear this. Been feeling really beat up by life lately. However, I made myself go to the pool this morning. I appreciate the reinforcement!

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GIRANIMAL 4/26/2012 7:59PM

    My self-esteem has always been pretty lousy in a lot of ways, but you've got me realizing that it has actually improved in some key ways since I started this journey. I have become a rabid advocate of real, whole foods. I get angry at the crap that is passed off as "healthy" -- like green-washing for food. (Ha! Make that "food.") I go out of my way to make conscious choices when I shop, and when I eat. Even when I commute! "I'm tired. Maybe I'll take the train today. After all, it's supposed to rain..." is almost always beat out by "Nah, bike's good for me. Stop being lazy." And pedaling away I go!

Without even realizing it, I have begun making more and more of these choices because I DO believe that I am worth it. We all are.

Good to know that I believe such a thing deep down. Thanks for making me see it.

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VICKI-B--56 4/26/2012 4:41PM

  John, thank you so much for this blog. You honestly don't know just how much you help me by posting like you do. It makes me think and it helps me feels so not alone in this journey. Thank you so much. emoticon

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VONBLACKBIRD 4/26/2012 2:56PM

    It is a hard lesson to learn that "we deserve" this for ourself and not to impress or for anyone else...we are worth it...Thanks so much for a great blog.

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WILDHONEYPIE1 4/26/2012 2:14PM

    Thank you as always for sharing. emoticon

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TRULYVISIBLE 4/26/2012 1:45PM

  Great Vlog! What you said was so wise. Changing the behavior and not the perception along with it will not get us far. That's the interpretation I heard anyway. Your entire vlog was really good words for thought.

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PR.ANNIE 4/26/2012 11:28AM

  John - I loved everything you had to say--it is speaking straight to my heart and pin point exactly how to address the big "gorilla in the room".

We are the exact same age...I like that fact. We are in the trenches together dear sparkfriend.

kind regards, Anne

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RSTENNER 4/26/2012 11:27AM

    Great message John. Did you know that by watching exercise video's on tv, doesn't help you tone up and lose weight? My daughter came in while I was channel surfing, and said, "Mom, you just can't watch the exercise video, you have to get up and move! Really? So that's how that works! Too bad it's not just that easy. So, I have to get it in my head that I must move everyday to lose weight and maintain that weight loss. And make the right food choices that my body prefers. When I eat junk, the next day I feel like junk. When I eat healthy, the next day I feel good and energized. What a concept! You have a great day and a good weekend! emoticon

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CECI1950 4/26/2012 11:14AM

  Good Morning~~Thanks for the uplifting video that started my day. I have been down in the dumps because the scale hasn't moved in a week or so, though my clothes are fitting looser. You encouraged me to see more than the scale and believe in myself. I am ready to go exercise now and will be encouraged again tomorrow as I remember your words. You keep on trucking John, we are here, right beside you, facing the same demons every day. Together we shall accomplish our goals! emoticon

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REFFIE1 4/26/2012 11:10AM

    Wonderful blog. I go out with a "ladies who lunch" group and they always pick places full of fattening goodies - pizza, hamburgers etc. I still manage to find something healthy. I used to feel sorry for myself but now, like you mentioned I think I am worth too much not to be better to my body. As for exercise, I always struggle but I always just "do it" like the Nike ads say. I believe you can't over think these decisions you just have to make it a habit. Of course, habits can be broken and then you start on that slippery slope. I just try never to break them. Maybe it's rigid but that seems to work best for me. I can't seem to have just a little bit of cake etc. it's much easier for me to forgo stuff like that. I keep picturing my insides feeling better not just my outside looking better. I think about my heart pumping more efficiently and not getting diabetes type 2 and then my decision is made. Anyhow I appreciate your candid remarks and how you say things that we all don't like to admit. emoticon

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LOOKSLIKELILY 4/26/2012 10:54AM

    What a wonderfully uplifting vlog! United we stand emoticon

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SENIOR62 4/26/2012 10:48AM

  What a gret video. Gives us all alot to think about. Hope you hve a great day as well.

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SKEETOR 4/26/2012 10:27AM

    Yours is the very first video blog I've seen! It was great and you ARE a great person. I do have one thing that I noticed. In your tape you said that your needed to change your perception of yourself but then you said that you "will always be a compulsive overeater". I think you need to cross that out! You WILL NOT always be a compulsive overeater! (From one rehabilitating compulsive overeater to another....)
Have a great day, John!

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SNOWANGELDIVA 4/26/2012 9:36AM

    6:00 intimidation...hmmm...you're touching my sacred fear...shhh...
Love that you tell us how to take a step back and reaffirm that EVERYONE has a right to be in that room instead of disappearing. *paused to process*

We're not trash cans we can stop treating ourselves that way.
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NARNIAROSE2003 4/26/2012 9:36AM

    Thanks for your thoughts, John. I wrote a blog yesterday that talks about some of this. Keep on keeping on!

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"By An Inch It's A Cinch"

Monday, April 23, 2012

Thank you Carl. It took twenty years for me to get. Every morning when Iíd walk into your office sitting on your desk, was a simple message. ďBy an inch itís a cinch. By a mile itís a trial.Ē I looked at it every day for two years and its meaning didnít hit me until about a week ago. You were telling us to take it slow and easy and one day weíd all wake up and go ďOMG, I reached my goal!Ē But, like a lot of other people I chose to win the whole game with one swing of the bat.

When I joined Spark two and a half years ago I was heavier than Iíd ever been in my life. I weighed in at 326 pounds. (Yikes!!!) I was ready to change, or so I thought. I jumped in with both feet. I joined a lot of teams, accepted a lot of challenges, went through the obligatory C25K, ran in three 5Kís started spinning and low and behold I lost 79 pounds. I was well on my way to reaching my initial goal of a 100 pound weight loss. I hit the dreaded plateau. I tried everything. Maybe a new Spark team, maybe exercise regimens changes. I hired a personal trainer, got rid of diet soda, gluten and quite frankly ended up being really miserable. The scale never moved. You know what happened next. Many of you have been there. The closet door opened and out popped the monsters. Their nasty little voices told me ďSee, you are never going to make it!!!Ē In a way they were right, itís what I believed. In May of 2011 I hurt my back and my exercise was significantly curtailed. The weight didnít creep back on it roared back on! In early March I thought I had a handle on it, thought Iíd gotten back on track. My dad suddenly died at age 88. Being an emotional eater to begin with this only added insult to injury. I could barely close my pants and began telling myself I knew it was a mistake to get rid of my fat clothes.

An old friend once told me ďGod creates from nothing and until we are nothing God cannot create.Ē Yoo Who, God, I believe I get the point.Ē Iíd regained all but seven pounds. Slowly I began to realize that in my zeal and my hurry to get healthy Iíd taken on way too much. It was like juggling ten balls at once. Itís hard to keep up! It was like I had to make up for a lifetime of poor choices all at once. Thatís when I remembered what Carl said. If you look at it in small increments itís more manageable, isnít it? I want to be healthy. Thatís a milestone. A milestone is like way huger than a goal. Itís like standing at the bottom of a mountain and declaring youíll climb it without ever having climbed a mountain before. You get up the mountain a bit and you are lost. You purchased all the correct gear. Why isnít this working? Itís because you didnít start with the small hills, build up your confidence and then scale Mt. Everest. Our goals lead us to milestones which lead us to major life accomplishments and Iíve realized that my whole notion was slightly skewed. I was swinging for the fences.

I am shelving long term goals for now. Yes, I know it goes against the grain, but for me, weekly goals will keep me better focused and are completely manageable. Each Monday, Iíll set a health related goal for the next week. Each week Iíll build on that accomplishment. This week I am going to work very hard at making the right food choices. Iíll know Iím on target by looking at my tracker and making sure I stay within my limits. Easy you say? I have a question. How many of us who DONíT track our food intake on a regular basis stay healthy and maintain our desired weight? I know I didnít. Next Sunday I will evaluate my progress and add to it. Iím not living beyond next Monday morning.

Like so many other people I tried to do too much at once. Am I bitter, shoot no!!! I am grateful that I see what needs to be done. Yes, it took over two years but for the first time in forever I feel like my focus is clear as well as my intent.

Do me a favor, I need some help. If you have time this week shoot me a Goodie or Spark Mail and ask me how Iím doing? Iím not ashamed to admit it; right now I need some accountability support.

ďBy an inch itís a cinchÖÖĒ

  
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INCH_BY_INCH 9/1/2013 10:06AM

  emoticon emoticon Thanks for the pep talk. This plateau was getting my mind twisted around instead finding the positive stride to keep on this journey.

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SILLYHP1953 6/27/2012 1:19PM

    I'm coming up on my two years here and feel like I'm just starting to "get it". I knew all the right info, and went into it gung ho, and then lost it. Now I'm finding myself and starting to like myself...pretty cool.

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FIT2BETHIN 5/1/2012 5:10AM

    I've been on that roller coaster you just described. Success...failure...success...etc. I too decided to make small goals the key to my health journey. I've heard it before...but it never clicked with me until this past week. You are on the right track! You WILL succeed! Keep on sparking...one day at a time!
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FRANKI46 4/29/2012 8:45PM

  Just wanted to wish you all the luck you will need this week. And also thank you, If I find myself on a plateau I will try your little mini weekly goals.
You said you need the help and I hope we all give it to you but little do you know that you are helping lots of people yourself.
Keep up the good work.
One week at a time.

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XXEDRA 4/29/2012 3:48PM

    Best of luck! I think those small weekly goals will work great for you

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SERASARA 4/28/2012 12:12PM

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JANETTEB553 4/28/2012 1:05AM

    Great Blog, thanks emoticon

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YASMINCOLEMAN 4/27/2012 12:39PM

    Hey John great blog and Wesome advice...yes the little things do count. Please keep up the good work Nd don't forget to log in Nd let me know how you did this week.

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CERULEANTEAR 4/27/2012 10:34AM

    Hi John,
I went through a similar problem a couple of years back when I slowly regained nearly 50 lbs. because my back was hurting me. For some reason, when I can't exercise I feel like it justifies poor eating. I'm starting to lose some of that weight I regained, but it's a very slow process.

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PEACOCK15 4/27/2012 10:16AM

    This is great, wishing you continued success throughout this lifelong journey!

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DONTIRPAK 4/27/2012 10:12AM

  John: Keep up the good work. It doesn't come over nite. Your on the right track. A little at a time will lead to more weight loss. When you do stuff to fast you get burned out. Then go back to your old ways. Hang in there. emoticon

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MISSILENE 4/27/2012 8:49AM

    great blog...thanks. keep up the good work

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JIBBIE49 4/27/2012 12:19AM

    emoticonWhat an honor to be featured in the Spark Mail with the most popular blog. emoticonWhat an inspiration to others!!

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FRIENDOFBACH 4/26/2012 11:40PM

  Thanks for sharing. And, I believe that if ware all honest, we all need some accountability support.
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LUCINDARW 4/26/2012 9:41PM

    Great attitude! Keep up the good work and the scale will move in the right direction. Better to follow your own schedule that way you have success. Lucinda

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TEACHING1ST 4/26/2012 8:41PM

    John, you open your heart and your life to us----thank you for being such a great friend to all at SP. Hang in there and take it 1 day at a time. You have a plan...and a gift!

Mary

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SLIMLADYJ 4/26/2012 7:48PM

    Thanks for the reminder! I really needed this today! I have really been struggling with taking on too much and, in my mind, failing miserably.

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RODYANNE 4/26/2012 6:30PM

  Thanks for your sharing. It is a great reminder for me. I need to start again and add the exercise and watch my portions of food.

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KLONG8 4/26/2012 5:55PM

    You and I are on the samepage. As I struggle to make the scale budge I realized that I was trying to make everything happen perfectly. So I focused one week on adding 3 exercise sessions to my schedule and this week, I'm watching portion control (the exercise was easier than the portion control). It's a different approach but if you think it's the way to go too? Well, that gives me a boost! Thanks.

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HAZZEL1461 4/26/2012 5:18PM

  John
I love your blogs. I especially like what you said about God making something from nothing.Keep up the good work.You are an inspiration to us all.

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39JEANNIE 4/26/2012 4:33PM

    Thanks John for reminding us all of the "By An Inch It's A Cinch" philosophy. The important thing is, you have realized that we have to initially take things slow, master it and move on to the next phase an so on. It's okay because you move to the next challenge with loads of knowlege and wisdom and experience. Nothing wrong with starting over. The most important thing is you're doing it. So with that in mind let's stay focused and keep sparking.

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KATIEM929 4/26/2012 4:15PM

    So true! Thanks for the reminder. Slow and steady wins the race, right? emoticon emoticon

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SWEETMOMMY41 4/26/2012 4:07PM

  thanks for sharing this,John! you are so inspiring!

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SOCKKNITTER 4/26/2012 2:35PM

    Sounds familiar! I, too, am starting over again. Enthusiasm is wonderful but I find you can't scatter all your energy over too many Groups or you lose your resolve. Find a couple of Groups - I had to chop most of mine - and get to know the members really well. They will be your support system & you will be theirs. It keeps you honest when you really know people instead of popping in & out for points. Kick Butt JohnT - you can DO this!!!

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WRKINPROGRESS 4/26/2012 1:49PM

    I think we all try to take on too much at times. Thanks for the reminder that it's better to start small and work our way up to our momentous achievements. I hope you are doing well. Keep up the good work and thanks for being an encouragement to us! emoticon emoticon

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HEALTHYSLIM2 4/26/2012 1:11PM

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Thanks for sharing!
Good words for all of us!!

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SPARKENISTA 4/26/2012 11:55AM

    John--Your greatest strength is how you keep it real. You are always honest and down-to-earth whether you are on the upside or the down.

In my recent reading, I have come to know that life cycles in at least these two ways:
-the ebb and flow--things improve with a great flow--and they ebb when the tide goes out--it is never at a standstill

--the spiral--we meet the same challenges along the journey. However, every time we meet a challenge we've dealt with before we are always at a higher place than we were the last time.

These two ways of cycling are true of all of us--including you. The weight loss flowed, then ebbed.

However, you are not in the same place you were originally. The wisdom and knowledge that you have gained along the way will help you as you meet the challenge once again.

I have not had your great weight loss success--nor have I had your weight gain. Yet, I have learned a lot here, at Spark, much of it from you.

As I re-commit to feeling better in my body and moving toward a healthier weight I will remember you and your "it's a cinch by the inch" philosophy.

I KNOW that you can do this. I support you and care about you. Now, excuse me while I select a goodie for you.

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TATTER3 4/26/2012 11:34AM

    Thanks for the inspire!!! Keep Sparkin

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CAHIGHTO 4/26/2012 11:24AM

    You're able to describe what so many of us are going through. I lost 70 lbs using Spark a few years back and hit a plateau that I just couldn't get past. All the weight (and more) came back. So here I am again, having learned a bit along the way. Now I only look at the next 5 lbs, not the next 100. And, I'm preparing myself for that plateau that I will surely see again.

We can do it, step by step, inch by inch . . .








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MISEDDIE1972 4/26/2012 10:57AM

  Thank you, Thank you. My goal was always to lose 100 lbs but going no ware. I had to take a good look at my self and my plan. I am back on plan, now my goal is 1/2 to 1 lb a week. I am now down 4lbs for April. emoticon

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ELISACHAN 4/26/2012 10:15AM

  When I was 30 lbs heavier I thought losing 2-4 lbs wasnt a big deal. Now I know that losing 1-2 lbs a week is a huge accomplishment and needs to be celebrated. It is the difference between wearing my clothes tight or lose for the week.
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GAILRUU 4/26/2012 8:33AM

    Great blog! I have found that when life seems overwhelming I make a list and work off one item at a time. Small goals when dealing with health and diet should work too. Thanks for the insight.

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COWBOYPISTOL 4/26/2012 7:53AM

  boy for a moment there i thought your were telling my story. i could read so much in your blog, i am trying so hard to get on track but it is so easy to fall back to old habits. but i can see some real help in this spark program and i am working on making it a part of my life. i am close to the weight you were [315] so i really need to work on it, thanks for the blog and keep on inching

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MFLYNN8 4/26/2012 7:42AM

    I had a totally blah week last week and worse this week bc I'm feeling sick! Your blog helped me see that just a little change is good when I can't run 5 miles right now!

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GREENTRAILS 4/26/2012 7:33AM

    Love your mountain analogy! Will try to hike the hills before tackling the big mountain. Hope your week is progressing well. Enjoying the views from the hills?

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BLOOMING52 4/26/2012 7:11AM

    Thanks for the reminder.

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DEE_DEE1972 4/26/2012 6:58AM

    Thank u, John... You are a gift to this community, and to the world. You have my respect, my love, my admiration and my support. Keep being YOU.

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KATRINFIENCHEN 4/26/2012 4:24AM

  It's Thursday! Half way done now...Hope you are able to keep up the good work. YOU can do it, because you deserve this! All the best for you!!! emoticon

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CTTAGENT 4/26/2012 12:41AM

    A wonderful blog to remind me that the little milestones/goals are worth so much in relation to our ultimate goal.

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VANHALENFAN 4/25/2012 11:43PM

    I love that saying. I always heard it as this: Inch by inch, life's a cinch. Yard by yard, life is hard emoticon Thanks for posting this entry....Hits home, big time. I really like your approach!

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ANHELIC 4/25/2012 10:36PM

    Love your blog. I need to read and re-read it. I have hit an all time high and almost feel hopeless. You have just shone some light on my life and I thank you for it. I guess I can add if it going to be, it's up to me. Somehow I just never thought of this until now after reading your blog.
Thank you again.
God bless you and thank you again for your help.
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MOMMAKNOWSBEST 4/25/2012 10:34PM

  slow & steady wins the race

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GIGIDISAPPEARED 4/25/2012 10:33PM

    Thanks so much for sharing. I can really relate. I like the idea of setting a weekly goal for myself & then building on it. Thanks again for the idea. :)

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FIREBUG32 4/25/2012 10:06PM

    I really needed this right now. Thank you! Its a good reminder of how to do the best for ourselves.. slow and easy... consistent and determined... Love your blog!

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DRB13_1 4/25/2012 9:26PM

    How many times does "life" throw us a curve ball and throw us off balance?
Congrats on having lost weight before and for taking steps to do it again.
This time you will get even farther, and the lifestyle changes will stick.
Thanks for sharing your experience and all the best as we move forward together.
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BARBARAHOBBIT 4/25/2012 9:25PM

    Your Blogs are great, I always find them inspirational, but this one really hit the mark for me.
I have got it wrong sooo many times, it's an embarassment. Most of my Adult life has been spent on one diet or another. Loosing a couple of stone and then piling it back on , and more. I have always tried to run before I can walk, wanting it all yesterday.
A month ago I was diagnosed with Diabetes type 2, on top of High BP, Cholestoral, Arthritis and Depression - and only myself to blame., no excuses, I had been warned I was peri diabetic, but the thought of trying again to loose the weight that is causing me so many problems, threw me into a blind panic.
Fortunately for me, whilst wandering around the Diet sites of the internet I came across SP. I read with interest the success stories, the battles that people were undergoing and realised that there were so many people like me, and they were now getting in control of their Monsters.
I have lost 18lbs - so what, I've done that before - the difference is this 18lb has been lost through healthy eating, tracking my food every day, one day at a time.
I am with you every step of the way my friend, I am going to get it right this time, and I know you will too. We can do this, day by day - week by week - Inch by Inch.

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One Voice

Sunday, April 22, 2012

I was traveling a better part of last week which meant I had to play the food challenge game. This used to really bother me. Iíd get all bent out of shape and mutter nasty invectives about the skinny people who wanted to stop at The All You Can Eat Carb Bar and wash it down with three or four high calorie beers and I just had to sit there. I swear Iíd see my tummy grow the minute we walked in the door.

Thursday morning, while I was dressing it dawned on me that I was AS important as the people I sat around the table with and I indeed had my own voice. Maybe it was time I used it for my own good. Us overweight people often have self-esteem issues amongst our luggage. We feel lucky just to be allowed in the room, much less participate in the fun and games. So we sit in the corner, hoping no one sees us there. Slowly but surely we lose our voice. You know the voice, right? Itís the one that allows us to move front and center and assure our basic needs are taken care of. When your self-esteem is really bruised and battered you lose your voice. You rationalize that ďyouíre being selfish,Ē or ďyou donít want to make any waves.Ē Iím not talking about an in your face sort of style. Iím talking about a quiet assuredness that knows whatís best for me and you. The more weight we gain , the more false starts we endure, the smaller our voice becomes. We get lost and feel unworthy.

Cold hard fact: No one will look out for you until you begin to look out for yourself. No one will intervene on your behalf but you. Friends, family, co-workers may express concern about your health but no one will intervene. Itís up to me and you. Those thoughts went through my head the other morning as I dressed. I got a bit angry at myself. I am reasonably intelligent. I should have seen this. No worries. I believe God turns a fresh page every morning and because he loves me in a most amazing way he gives me an opportunity to learn from yesterday. I have learned that the best time to begin anything is RIGHT NOW. Itís not next week, next month or next year. Iíve learned that your level of commitment to a new project or behavior will never be stronger than RIGHT NOW.

I met my client in the hotel dining room. He had already hit the omelet bar. His plate was loaded with eggs, three cheeses and every meat known to man. I could hardly see his face from all the steam rising off his plate. No time like the present John. I patiently waited my turn in line and said the following words: ďIíd like an egg white omelet with spinach, tomatoes, green peppers and mushroom. No cheese please and could you cook that in cooking spray rather than butter?Ē He asked if I wanted sausage or bacon. I told him fruit. He told me that would ďcost extra.Ē I told him no worries. I sat down to eat breakfast and my client asked ďNot hungry, John?Ē I could have launched into a speech about healthy eating but instead I just grinned and said ďWell I am going to be teaching today so I want to be light on my feet.Ē He laughed, I laughed and when I went back to my room I did a modified version of the happy dance.
You know how us overweight people bemoan the fact that one bad behavior, one misstep, leads to us sliding down the side of the hill and drowning in a sea of French fries? I do it all the time. Iíll snag a donut on the way out the door and as far as Iím concerned Iíve undone three weeks of good and the rest of the day is a sugar and carb stupor. I might as well give up. You been there? Seems like every fault and flaw pushes front and center and reminds us how big of a failure we really are. Do we look that way on positive behaviors as well? One really healthy decision in the morning leads to a strong foundation for the rest of the day. Fortified with that knowledge, I dusted off my voice and used it for my own benefit at breakfast. I was able to use it confidently the rest of the day. Funny thing though. I had some challenges. Some I navigated successfully, some I didnít. I never blew it but when faced with a bad or worse choice my self-esteem wasnít flushed because of it. I knew the next opportunity offered me a chance to make best choices for me. A chance to use my voice

Practice makes perfect. We all have a voice. Wouldnít it sound amazing your voice and mine, part of a most amazing chorus?

  
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INCH_BY_INCH 8/30/2013 12:30PM

  At least we are starting movement outside the home to ask for healthier food choices. It is not being selfish but rather the better way to take care of ourselves. Feed our body the engine that runs us. That is a fact healthy; natural foods seem to cost more than the cheap processed foods no nutritional value. That's for validating standing up for our voice.

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SILLYHP1953 6/27/2012 1:15PM

    My voice is much smaller than it used to be, but you made me smile, and so far today I have made good choices.

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CLEO27 6/3/2012 11:22AM

  This blog really touched me. I'm the same way, I try to keep to myself thinking, "who wants to talk to the fat girl", but you know what we are all people wether too big or too small or just right. I have just as much right to be liked and loved as anyone other person.

Thanks. Great choices at the buffet. There have been times when I've brought cookies or sweets to work and while everyone else is eating sweets I'm eating fruit.

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REJ7777 4/29/2012 10:44AM

    You started a winning cycle with that 1st smart choice in the morning. And your teaching probably did go better because you ate a *light* breakfast. I do need to find my voice. I tend to be one of those people who hides in a corner when in a group. This was a good blog for me to read!

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MCFITZ2 4/28/2012 8:48PM

    Thank you for sharing this. Staying committed can be tough. You have added a good point to take to heart.

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JKLEMME1 4/27/2012 9:39AM

  Wow - your words built a bridge. Thanks for sharing.

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NASFKAB 4/27/2012 12:22AM

  thanks for sharing

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GEEMAWEST 4/26/2012 10:36PM

    Oops, computer goofed. what I wrote was for your last vlog.
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DOLLIE6 4/26/2012 10:00AM

    I really enjoyed your blog. Thanks for sharing.
Pat

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BEYOURBEST1 4/26/2012 8:29AM

    You have made good choices. We cannot let ourselves be pushed around by other people's choices and we cannot sideline ourselves, either.
Great blog, thank you for sharing it.

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KLONG8 4/26/2012 12:25AM

    Absolutely right on. Thanks for putting this in words!

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SARS613 4/25/2012 11:24PM

    This is something I always need to hear!!! I often find my voice wavering in the face of more outspoken people when it comes to choosing what to eat. At a recent family event, I was in a way lucky, as a religious obligation prevented me from eating something, but when my husband tried to say he was full, his mother almost slammed in down in front of him, forcing him to eat it! Had that been me, I do not know what I would've done.

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DREENAMT 4/25/2012 8:40PM

    This is emoticon! I am going to remember this story when I am in the same situation.



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BEATRIZ269 4/25/2012 6:50PM

    Always a pleasure to read your blogs. Thank you.

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FRABBIT 4/25/2012 6:24PM

  Great blog. Thanks for sharing. I find that once I do one bad thing I tend to think the day is blown which is crazy thinking. Got off track on Easter but getting back now. Good luck!

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JIBBIE49 4/25/2012 5:22PM

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MARUKI52 4/25/2012 7:43AM

    Thank you for this blog post. You are so right about using your voice or losing it. Even if we, as you found, do not surmount all the challenges facing us every little achievement that we make must be celebrated for being just that. It is also an achievement we can remember and tap into once again knowing that the strategy worked for us. I celebrate with you.


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SHOSHI1432 4/25/2012 12:40AM

    Awesome blog, great writing and speaking from the heart. Love it. I'm new on SP and am still figuring out whats going on. Loved your writing, thank you for sharing.

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CURVYELVIESAYS 4/24/2012 10:59PM

    You make some valid points as usual. Thank you.

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LOWFATFOODIE 4/24/2012 8:58PM

    great post

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SCBAGRL09 4/24/2012 6:45PM

    I had to travel for work last week and faced a lot of the same challenges. The worst is when they bring lunch in and you have very limited options. Some days the only defense was a cliff bar and lots of willpower!

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MARYM1962 4/24/2012 4:08PM

  this is the third blog of yours I have read - you are an amazing man! I really enjoy your words of wisdom - YES you see things from a wonderful point of view and now I am trying to see things as you do and get some motavation in my life - THANK YOU

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LESSOFPMCD 4/24/2012 1:58PM

    Great blog! You are so right - we are the ones in charge of ourselves - our decisions - our reactions.

We have to speak up for ourselves.

I think you are right - if you make that first decision in the morning - the one that you know is the right one - you will continue to make the right ones for the rest of the day.

It is one day at a time - or even moreso - one decision at a time. Looking at the whole day - week - month etc can be overwhelming and cause you to maybe think you can't do it. But if you are only looking at the here and now - the one decision you are facing at that time it seems so much easier.

Like they say - many small steps in a long journey - just need to equate that to many small decisions in a lifetime of being healthier!



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AVANDREA_ 4/24/2012 1:54PM

    Wow, your words hit the nail on the head for me. Yes, no one but me can make the choices when it comes to foods and exercise. When faced with pizza loaded up with meats, and no other option offered, instead of shrugging my shoulders and scarfing down three or four slices, its time to think about portion control, and plan the remainder of the day to minimize the damage done. One meal may slow the weight loss for a day or so, but it will not stop it so long as I continue to make the most healthy choices. Thank you for posting this!!

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CONIFERA 4/24/2012 12:46PM

    I love this little vignette -- how you asserted yourself in a "real world" complex setting. In your case, the mixture of travelling, an unfamiliar hotel, a professional relationship where you want to keep things cordial and smooth. And you finessed it, with skill and grace. This takes practice to execute well! That's a wonderful example the rest of us can call up in our heads. Thank you for sharing this.
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JUJIFRUIT 4/24/2012 11:53AM

    Thanks for sharing! This really resonated with me. I read this yesterday and then spent the whole day telling myself, "I have a voice. I am worth making waves. I can make different choices than others without being bitter. I HAVE A VOICE!!" This may be my new mantra for a few days. We can do this!


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BIGDOG1969 4/24/2012 11:23AM

    You write so well and your messages are always strong. Thanks for your view and keep the faith!

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WARMSTRONG2 4/24/2012 11:17AM

  Thanks for ideas and encouragement in my journey.

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SNOWANGELDIVA 4/24/2012 10:16AM

    It's like muscle; use it or lose it. Way to flex! You're a strong man, John!
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DENISE223 4/24/2012 10:07AM

    I've just become aware of your blogs John and I am so very grateful : ) !
Your blogs always touch a chord in my heart and for that I thank you.

Thank you for sharing all that you do.

Peace, love, good health & happiness!

May God bless you and yours,
Denise

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JUJU2168 4/24/2012 10:04AM

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SPARKL3 4/24/2012 9:54AM

    You have a real talent for being able to articulate the things I try so hard to say. Thank you!

After reading today's blog (from Tues. the 24th), my goal for the day will be to use my voice to speak up for myself and make good, healthy choices. "By an inch..."

We can do this!!

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LISADEVLIN1 4/24/2012 9:32AM

  Wow, I need this!!! Thank you John. emoticon

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PR.ANNIE 4/24/2012 9:13AM

  Beautifully written. I loved everything you had to say---. I am challenged by the "all or nothing attitude" and your - the best time to begin is right now- is hugely inspirational. Everyday is Day 1 when changing old habits and really taking on the challenge of loving ourself and adding to our self esteem stockpile!!! I have an image in my head of each positive choice being a new packet of fireworks. Some days I will add a little, sometimes a lot- but regularly stockpiling enough to have a magnificent, award winning, fireworks shows of celebration.... of Me and my daily choices!

Anne



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TLYNNE125 4/24/2012 9:11AM

    what a great way to start my day...so often those words are right there in my head but I don't give them a voice either...thanks for the inspiration emoticon

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DEEDLEDEE21 4/24/2012 9:01AM

    Thank you for sharing! That's exactly what I needed to hear today.

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INBRAZILFORNOW 4/24/2012 7:56AM

    I will find my voice....thank you for this courage.


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REGILIEH 4/24/2012 7:20AM

    You need to write your own column for a newspaper!

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DMF2012 4/24/2012 6:52AM

    Well put

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CAM2438 4/24/2012 6:32AM

    Thank-you for such a great blog!

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MEDDYPEDDY 4/24/2012 1:24AM

    Could not have said it better myself, thank you!

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MARYJEANSL 4/24/2012 12:26AM

  Very, very well said!

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DRAMAJLN 4/24/2012 12:16AM

    Great point: When we make one bad decision we think we just fell off a cliff and therefore make bad decisions for the rest of the day (or weekend, or trip). But we don't see it the same way when we make a good decision. Maybe we can look on the good decisions as a conveyor belt, continuing to take us up more and more easily as we go. That's certainly how it seems to me. After I have made one good decision, it's easier to make the good decision the next time.

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FLYBABYRD 4/23/2012 11:50PM

    Wow...that post sure put a positive spin on my day. You are an inspiration, John. Thank you for telling it like it is! Super day to you tomorrow! emoticon

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TUBLADY 4/23/2012 11:28PM

    Wonderful enthralling blog.
Thank you for reminding us about our "voice".
Congrats to you for your accomplishments.
Stay positive and believe in yourself.
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SLIMLILA 4/23/2012 10:05PM

    Incredible blog! I loved it! You sure hit the nail on the head... I have lived and re-lived the exact situation you wrote about. And in reverse, what I always try to do when life is out of control, is take control of my eating... I wonder why!!! Continued success on your journey, and hope to hear you VOICE lots and lots... and even better if I could hear my own voice a lot more too!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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22CHUNKY 4/23/2012 9:57PM

    This is the first thing I have read on Spark People is a loooong time, and I really needed to "hear" your voice. I have gotten on and fallen off the wagon so many time I can not count. However, lately, my son have adopted the "healthy living" pattern, and I have been encouraged to try once again. His decision has nothing to do with weight. Instead, he has decided to overcome acid reflux and the inclination to fall victim to diabetes...which seems to be prevalent in his Dad's family. With him eating healthy, it is much easier for me to cook and eat the same. Hopefully, this will be the support system in our home I need.
Congratulations to you for your blog, as well as your bold approach to life.

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Thanks To Each and All Of You

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

I honestly do try to respond to all the blog comments, Spark Mails and Goodies I receive from all of you very wonderful people. In all honesty after a bit I get overwhelmed and my responses become a bit mechanical and from rote. If you have added me as your friend: THANK YOU. If you took the time to comment on my blogs: THANK YOU. If you took the time to send a Goodie with an encouraging note: THANK YOU. I am quite capable of writing forever and ever, on how much I appreciate your love and support. I will simply repeat those two words from my heart and spoken sincerely.

ďThank YouĒ

  
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SILLYHP1953 6/27/2012 1:10PM

    I'm behind again reading your blogs. Every time I catch up I say it will not happen again, but somehow it does. Your blogs might be what keeps me coming back. So, thank you!

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NASFKAB 4/27/2012 12:20AM

  great reading your thought provikinh blogs

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BLUECOUGAR54494 4/24/2012 9:31AM

    As stated by other members ....THANK YOU John. You are truley gifted in the art of putting thought into printed/typed form. Your ability to be an inspiration to us all is true gift. Keep up the great blogging!!!!!!!

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JENNAAW 4/22/2012 4:19PM

    What an enjoyable blog entry to read! I could almost feel your triumph as you returned to your room. Up until recently, I would make your friend seem like small potatoes at the omelet bar because I would call what he had "appetizers". I have been slowly learning tricks to succeed at dealing with buffet type situations. A few months ago I went on a cruise ship that had nonstop buffet opportunites. I gained one pound, not ten like the cruise I went on before. It is going to take time for me, but I am progressing.

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CARTOONB 4/20/2012 9:53PM

    You're welcome. I'm here for you! emoticon

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MKPRINCESS007 4/20/2012 9:05PM

    No, THANK YOU! You are truly a blessing how you share so freely of yourself.

Have a great weekend,

Karen

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EVWINGS 4/19/2012 9:22PM

    The same to you, John for bringing all of us such joy with your positive attitude!!

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CIVIAV 4/19/2012 5:30PM

    I really hear you John...

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TIGGERRD 4/19/2012 4:46PM

    So sincere. You're welcome!

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GINA180847 4/19/2012 10:28AM

    No John, THANK YOU! Your blogs give me lots to think about and causing the cogs and wheels to turn burns calories.

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ZURDTA- 4/19/2012 10:03AM

    No worries John, just glad to read your very thoughtful blogs.

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REJ7777 4/19/2012 7:29AM

    You're very welcome! emoticon

I agree with you. I do respond to a few comments on my blogs and those who send goodies. But, if I spend too much time sitting at my computer, Sparking, I won't have time do be physically active. And my tendency is to do just that. I can identify with what you wrote and want to thank you for writing this blog. I feel like *stealing* it, which I may. I want the people who support me to know how very much they're so very appreciated!

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EMTFF376 4/18/2012 9:16PM

    Thanks to you too John! :)

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NEWMOM20121 4/18/2012 7:47PM

    Thank you, loved the blog.

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CLOVER2 4/18/2012 5:50PM

    You are so very welcome. And I can't ever really thank you enough for your wisdom that you share with us!
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    lol , don't forget to live your life outside of sparkpeople too emoticon

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NEETERB 4/18/2012 5:03PM

    Every time I read one of your blogs, it is EXACTLY what I need to hear at that very moment. You speak from the heart and you speak the truth. Thank you!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 4/18/2012 4:57PM

    You're welcome.

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CAROLJ35 4/18/2012 4:46PM

    I can see you are one special person!!! THANKS!!!

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FITBODME 4/18/2012 3:42PM

    You're welcome and thank you! I didn't bring my lunch to work today and was having a difficult time deciding where/what to eat...I settled for a small Mexican restaurant for Chicken Tortilla Soup, tastes and looks very homemade.
My co-workers ordered a pizza and I didn't eat a slice....so again THANK YOU!

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NEWTINK 4/18/2012 3:26PM

    The mere fact that you took the time to write this follow up blog is exactly the reason that we all look up to you ... have a great day emoticon

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  You are always so encouraging John.
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WILDHONEYPIE1 4/18/2012 2:58PM

    We see all the love you get (equal to the love you give) here. I don't think anyone could be offended by lack of personal response. I just appreciate hearing what you have to say. emoticon

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The No Fry Zone

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Everyone has them. They are trigger foods. Everyone around you can eat as much of it as they want and not gain a single solitary ounce. You and I, we put on five pounds just thinking about how good they taste. Worse yet, they lead us to other ďless than positive behaviors.Ē Those who hold us dear find us hunched up in a corner at three am devouring a chocolate cake and hear a small voice crying ďI canít take it anymore!!!Ē Yeah I exaggerate and yeah this is often a topic we overweight folks shy away from. Itís the ďAĒ word, addiction. We donít like being thought of as addicts. It conjures up a picture in our minds that causes us to shake our heads really hard and utter that foolish mantra about moderation. We know thatís an excuse. There are some foods you or I canít eat. Itís ok to be addicted to your favorite college basketball team, to live and breathe every step they take, every word they utter and every small action. We festoon ourselves in team colors buy books, magazines, apparel and paint our faces. Some of us sit in frigid temperatures at football games, shirtless, with our team colors slathered on our torso. We grin, and shrug our shoulders and say ďwe are addicted toÖÖ.Ē

When it comes to food, well there is a modicum of shame involved. As I prepared to write today it dawned on me that I wouldnít suggest a drink every now and then to an alcoholic. Imagine telling someone with an addiction to prescription drugs that a little pain medication every now and then wouldnít really hurt. Itís unthinkable. But when it comes to food and it comes to us, well we just would rather rationalize and stay in close touch with others who feel the same way. Some of us have that one food that pushes us over the edge. . Yours may be different than mine are but there is a food or foods we just shouldnít eat if we want to stay healthy. We canít have a ďlittle bit.Ē They cause us to come unwound. We struggle to ďJust Say No!!Ē

The food that triggers my massive addiction to a whole host of other foods is French fries. Yeah, you read that right, French fries. I can take or leave mashed potatoes, baked potatoes, even potato chips, but tempt me with a plate of fries and itís all over. There are others. Diet soda deserves a really wide berth on my radar too. It triggers the proverbial vision of sugar plums. When I first joined Spark I lost close to 80 pounds. Sad to say Iíve put close to 70 pounds back on. I went back and reviewed my food journals and saw what I was eating when I was living healthy. There were no fries, no Cokes, no cookies. Lottsa fruit, lottsa veggies and meat three times per week. Then one day I was in a rush, Mc Donaldís beckoned I ordered some fries with a fish sandwich and the rest of my downhill slide came quickly as I made excuses for everything but the real issue. My appetite slowly evolved back to a lot of bad habits. I stopped listening to some of you. I regained my weight. Itís not rocket science.

So I sit here today a bit wiser. Iíve instituted my own personal ďNo Fry Zone.Ē I have a laminated list of foods in my wallet that will get me in trouble. When I get ready to eat I pull them out and review them and compare them against whatís in front of me. Part of my addiction comes from being unable to say ďno.Ē I can create all sorts of excuses why I shouldnít hurt someone elseís feelings.
In the end, itís how much I value myself and my health and who I choose to hang around with. This blog may not be popular with some people. Iíve found that when you hit a nerve people recoil and defend. I know I do. As I walk away this morning, headed for work I know one thing

I am worth it
I deserve it
I am who I hang around with


  
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BRADIA 12/25/2012 12:49PM

    You helped me realize what triger foods I should avoid, I already have marked them.
Thanks

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SHARIPAM 7/1/2012 6:25AM

  My trigger food, believe it or not, is roasted garlic hummus. That stuff is fabulous on just about anything!

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SILLYHP1953 6/27/2012 1:08PM

    I've compared myself to an alcoholic or drug addict for years...I know I'm addicted to food, some foods, though I can overeat on the best of foods. If we can't be honest with ourselves and others, then what the heck are we doing here? I had some french fries last night, but they're not my "drug" of choice and I didn't finish them or my plate, though I was overfull. I'm doing better now, more aware, more ready to say that yes, I am worth it.

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FERFEY02 5/6/2012 10:39AM

    Thanks for this blog. I needed it.

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FIT2BETHIN 4/28/2012 5:43AM

    Thank you for saying what experts WON'T say: food addiction! When you look at your trigger foods like an alcoholic would alcohol, it takes on a whole new meaning. I love baked goodness in any shape or form. And eating anything sweet and baked will send me spiraling down the wrong path! Now that I've read your blog, I will have to re-think my relationship with trigger foods...and the "eating them in moderation" theory. Because that just doesn't work for me! Thank you!
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NASFKAB 4/27/2012 12:17AM

  great thanks

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MARGOT814 4/26/2012 7:50AM

    That is so true.I was an addict,or maybe should I say, an addict of HOT CHEETOS.for many months all I had for dinner was a big bag of hot cheetos, while of course watching TV.then after six months,my craving stopped just simply I decided to go to sleep early n stopped watching TV at night.I was sober for good 5 months then I will crave and eat full bag for three consecutive nights n then will stop.I can't do moderation, its either I have it ALL or Don't have it.now it become my comfort food , tired, bored, then I have it with no limit.don't tell me of weight loss,gain back, been there, done that.its like am on diet, weight obsessed from the day I was born, its a lifetime battle.so hot Cheetos will always be part of my life, being on heavy size or not.

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ANDYGIRL1219 4/26/2012 12:36AM

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LLINDY65 4/24/2012 11:48AM

    I enjoy reading your posts.... for me when my daughter leaves leftover bbq what was one of my most fav's..... I found them and devoured the rest of her sandwich....

Later I asked her to please put it down on the bottom shelf of the fridge and mark her name on the package ( I will stay out of it)... she had left it out on the counter for me to clean up after, being the irresponsible 13 year old that she is..... not her fault I ate it, but it would have helped me not to have it to deal with since it was her take out.

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HIKESHAPPY 4/23/2012 12:27PM

    Wow. Not only because what you say is true. I suppose I need to get real with myself (again!) and get away from Cokes - that's my addiction (she says as she has one sitting next to the computer right now).

Thank you, as well, for sharing your story of losing then gaining most of it back. That's where I am. I lost 40 pounds (of the 140 I needed to lose). I was so happy and proud of myself. Then I had a few things change in my life, and I lost sight of doing those things I was doing - I went back so quickly to all my old habits, and 30 of those pounds are back on. I now have gotten over my major anger at myself for it (that took several months). I just have to figure out how to fit in healthy habits with where I find myself now, which is a different set of circumstances around me when I lost the 40. Most days I just don't feel up to it, but I know that it's up to me.

Thanks again for sharing and inspiring!

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TOPFORM1 4/23/2012 10:11AM

  You're right on with this.

I tried for years to 'eat everything in moderation' as I was told by 'the experts' in nutrition. It doesn't work for me.

Sweets are my trigger food, as in processed foods with lots of added sugar (cookies, candy, ice cream, certain cereals, etc.) Once I eat one bite of that stuff, it can take me days, weeks, even months to get back on track.

Food addiction is real and has both psychological and physical components.

Thanks for a great post! Good luck!

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TAGSUIT2 4/23/2012 9:06AM

    It's a mind over matter, anything you eat it comes with moderation, no joke. Once you start eating fried foods the smell get addicted.

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IDAPACHINSKY 4/23/2012 7:57AM

  we cut out potato chips with our lunches. The bag would stay open and everyone would grab a handful.
now they are gone and have to say, weight loss is happening for all of us.
Had a party and went to costco, got a big bag for the super bowl. Just found it in the pantry. Still full. Threw it out.
It's like eating instant sugar and salt.
Now we get 10 grapes with our lunches. small changes, big results

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SPARKL3 4/23/2012 6:15AM

    I have been trying to incorporate my trigger foods into my food plan, but it always leads to a binge. After reading your blog, I will put those thoughts aside (and put those foods aside and "just say no!").

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DURANGOREDDOG 4/23/2012 2:32AM

    Oh man. Girl Scout cookies are my trigger food of the day.

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THISTIMEMYWAY 4/23/2012 12:13AM

    I am going to the kitchen now and putting all chocolate in a give away bag and putting it at the door to take away tomorrow while I am still feeling sick from eating too much today. It's midnight and I have been eating chocolate all day, a little bit here, a little bit there. I just got up because I couldn't sleep from feeling nauseous. I was going to write that I will get of the chocolate tomorrow but tomorrow doesn't come, I would just end up getting rid of it by eating it!
So I have to admit that I may be addicted to chocolate- physically, psychologically, emotionally...whatever, I just know that a little is never enough. So I will make my house a
No chocolate zone!
Now, here I go! emoticon

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STREO2004 4/22/2012 12:03PM

  Great info & blog

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JIBBIE49 4/22/2012 7:14AM

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LINKYSD 4/22/2012 7:10AM

    Loved your blog. There is so much truth to it. I have more of a problem with salt. That's kind of hard to avoid, but I do it as much as possible. Hang in there and hope you are able to shed those regained pounds.

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HEALTHIERKEN 4/21/2012 9:14PM

    Gooey, sugary, creamy restaurant desserts. Eat one and there goes my eating plan for the next week at least. Can't say no to anything once I have that restaurant dessert : (

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INCH_BY_INCH 4/21/2012 3:36PM

  Those nasty trigger foods....although having a gallbadder attack last summer helped to put things in perceptive. One of the outcomes of that attack is fried foods, pastas, and breads still makes me pretty sick. Although last night when the family went out to dinner...in our area fish frys are staple on Friday nights. I did pinch off two bites of bread and had to put aside. I pinched a french fry off my son's plate and that was enough. I took a fried cheese curd off my daughter's plate. I was satisfied with just my two bite minumim. So I ate my steamed baked salmon with tomatoes, pickles, and lettuce.
It was a painful process to deal with my addiction to fried foods and breads. I have given up soda for over a year now. That was a hard one too. I loved the bubbles in the soda or the carbonation water drinks.....they too were adding more to me than I needed to be.
For me maybe that was the wake up call I had to endure. It doesn't take much of trumpet horn to remind me now...don't go back down that road. So far the addiction is being waned just to sit and smell it or deal with the two bite blessing. Thank you for the great posts. I see I'm not the only one who deals with this....

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SHIRE33 4/21/2012 11:50AM

    French fries, locally-made potato chips, kettle-cooked potato chips, baked potatoes slathered in butter, thin sliced potatoes fried in oil . . . Ohhhh, yes. Potatoes are a huge temptation for me. I've lost 69 pounds, and I think I've had a baked potato about half a dozen times, fries about the same, and a couple of times I sliced and cooked ONE potato for breakfast. So, maybe once a month or so. So far, this is working for me, but if it didn't, I'd have to go "cold potato" and Just Say No. Once I even picked up a 10-pound bag of potatoes in the grocery store and thought long and hard about how that'd be to carry around again -- seven times 10. It helped. Thanks for sharing your experience. It's nice not to be alone in this.



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SUPERSYLPH 4/21/2012 11:36AM

    Great Blog!

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TEXASLYNN 4/21/2012 10:59AM

    Oh John, I love taters! Any kind of tater but you are so right that my favorite food in the world is homemade fried taters - with a thin, crispy seasoned flour coating and gobs of sea salt sprinkled on while they are still hot from the grease, served with A-1 Sauce for dipping. If I were on Death Row, that is what I would want for my last meal. Fortunately, I've made it to the point where I only break down for an indulgence once or twice a year.

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MARITIMER3 4/21/2012 10:50AM

    potato chips - once they're open I can't stay away from them. If it weren't for DH, I'd never buy them.

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IMEMINE1 4/21/2012 9:13AM

    Yes, french fries and cheese.
My husband and I are going from vegetarian to vegan but occasionally if we eat out it is usually pizza. That darn cheese.
French fries and pizza are definately mine.
Great blog.

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TREESA57 4/21/2012 7:33AM

    This is so true for me too. I have to limit all carbs including fruits like pears with a high carb count. They just pack the pounds on me. I love them so they are my no fry zone. Thanks for the idea of a laminated card, I need it in my car.

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GUNNSGIRL91303 4/21/2012 2:02AM

    I love your idea of the laminated card of forbidden foods! As Harry Potter would say, Brilliant!

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CHANGING4ME49 4/21/2012 12:24AM

    Great blog! Thanks for sharing. It definitely hit close to home with me lately. Need to laminate my own No Fly Zone list and fast!

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ASLANSCUB 4/20/2012 11:35PM

    I'll have to think about what my trigger foods are. Probably things with sugar.

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GRACEISENUF 4/20/2012 11:06PM

    emoticon........................ does me in every time

"No cone zone for me".


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CARTOONB 4/20/2012 9:52PM

    Mmmmm.....French fries! Love 'Em! Trying to think what my trigger food is. Can't think of one that will cause me to eat too much or send me on a downward spiral. I'm sure it exists, but I'm pleasantly full right now, so nothing comes to mind. I'll go eat until I think of it. Tee hee. Good luck with your fry-free zone!

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CRYDEN321 4/20/2012 9:17PM

    Thank you for exposing the truth!! My gateway foods are ice cream and chocolate icing. If they are in the kitchen, I am constantly thinking about them and waiting for the opportunity to sneak a bite...and once I do, I can't resist another!! Thanks for sharing
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MKPRINCESS007 4/20/2012 9:03PM

    Thanks for sharing this, John. I can relate. Mine are chocolate and potato chips. I struggle with these items on probably a daily basis. I crave sweet after my healthy meal, and am working to make sure I eat fruit or chew gum or mints to replace wanting a piece of chocolate or candy.

Life is always going to be a challenge for me and my weigh. I am sure of it. But, I won't let that stop me. I will work at it every day, probably forever. Some days might be stellar but doing my best most days is what matters.

I know you are with me on this journey, and I couldn't be happier to have someone in my corner who truly understands.

Luv ya, John!
Karen


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SOLNISHKO777 4/20/2012 8:47PM

  I just wanted to say how in time your blog found me. I was sitting here board and hungry about to order pizza to reward myself for being good. Thank you so much for writing it! We are truly addicted to certain foods. Just try to stay away as much as possible! Thank you again!


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SABLENESS 4/20/2012 8:31PM

    Would you believe jalapeno almonds? Great blog!

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SAL2525 4/20/2012 7:15PM

    WOW Thanks for writing this! I hear the 3 am call often and sometimes I have the strength to ignore it but not always! Thanks for reminding me I am worth it!

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LULUTYM 4/20/2012 6:37PM

    I really identify with what you are saying. I too fool myself and lie to myself self when I want to indulge. The indulgence might be ok if it only happened once a week. Once I start on my forbidden food, I will be off the healthy lifestyle plan for at least a week. A lot of damage can be done in a week.

I really want off the hamster wheel. So every night before I go to sleep I recite this quote, "Courage does not always roar. Sometimes it is a soft voice that says, tomorrow I will try again".

I, like you, have trigger foods that I just can't, at this point, have in my life. Food addictions are not different than other addictions. Deciding to eat unhealthy for me is like the recovering alcoholic deciding whether to take that first drink after being sober for a while. Each day is a series of choices with consequences good or bad. Each one of us has to decide every day what choices we will make to stay healthy.

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EXERTIGER 4/20/2012 5:58PM

    I'm a sugar addict. I especially love pie. I also gave up diet pop almost a month ago. I've done really well, but the other day I wanted one like a drug addict wants a fix when things go a little wrong. I didn't get one, but I was surprised at how hard it was.

I especially liked what you said about how you wouldn't offer alcohol to an alcoholic and tell them just a little would be all right. That happens to me so much.

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THINNYGINNY 4/20/2012 5:48PM

    I think you are right - for some of us there are foods we cannot or will not control ourselves around - so duh - avoiding them is the best thing to do in order to live a healthy, happy life. I am that way with sugar and flour. It amazes me how many people want to argue with me about not giving any food groups up. But - um - sugar is not a food group!!! I am happier, lighter and more satisfied with my eating when i am not eating sugar/flour. If it works - stick with it. Like this blog a lot - I like honesty - even if others don't!

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CHERYLSBUTT 4/20/2012 5:10PM

    I love french fries; I have learned to enjoy them every once in a while and
my size is small. This is a splurge, so it is McDonald's or bust!

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WENDENANNIE 4/20/2012 4:43PM

    Amen John! You always hear the experts say "everything in moderation", but the sad truth is that for some of us, there are just some foods we have to learn to live without...period. These foods bring out the monsters in the closet! For me, french fries and popcorn reincarnate those monsters, so I avoid them at all costs. I am glad to hear that someone else has those same issues...now I won't feel so guilty when the experts say that we shouldn't avoid any one thing in our diets, just eat less and less often.....that simply doesn't work for some of us.

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SARS613 4/20/2012 3:19PM

    Amen. Having the courage to constantly remind yourself of what those problem foods are, and having that list to look at is incredible.

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GRENADAGIRL73 4/20/2012 2:05PM

    Thank you so much for having the courage to wrie this blog! I totally idenify and claim addiction to certain foods too. Now that I am not eating them and I know that I should never eat them, I am a lot more free and happier to focus on the foods that are within my food plan.

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QUIKSYLVER 4/20/2012 1:17PM

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HEALTHYSLIM2 4/20/2012 1:16PM

    LOVE THIS BLOG!
I am worth it
I deserve it
I am who I hang around with

Thanks you for inspiring me (and probably countless others) today!!
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KANOE10 4/20/2012 1:10PM

    You are totally right..Stay away from the trigger foods. You can start eating them oh so quickly and regain.

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AKIMA06 4/20/2012 11:59AM

  I have to say that sugar is my trigger food. There are some kinds of sugar or candy that I don't like but for the most part I do and I will partake if it is around.

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CHATERJOY 4/20/2012 11:39AM

    This blog came at the right time for me. I am really trying to re-think my "relationship" with food. I will go along doing great and then I will think I can bring back in my trigger foods and be able to control myself ....WRONG!!! It just doesn't work for me. I cannot handle some foods. Period. Great blog.

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