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Knock Three Times? Having Faith In The Process

Sunday, May 06, 2012

The thunderstorm jarred me awake around 2:30 Saturday morning. After fifteen minutes, I was wide-awake. From experience I knew it would be a while before I drifted back to sleep. Rolling over on my back I listened to the thunder and lightning. It’s when I started to think about Moses.

Of all the Old Testament personalities, Moses is a favorite. Moses took on the responsibility of leading a large group of people to the Promised Land, the home God had promised to them. It wasn’t until a few years ago that I realized the forty-year journey the Bible talks about takes only eight weeks in a direct line from Point A to Point B. When you stop and think about it how many of us take a direct line anywhere? I have been on a fifty-eight year journey and I do not think I have rarely gone from Point A to Point B, paused, and said, "Boy you got that one right the first time!" Mostly I fumble around in the dark until I hit my head on the wall or the beam overhead and realize I might want to try a different way out of the room. That is where I can relate to Moses. He wandered around the desert for forty years and during that time, he relied on God to provide him with food, shelter, and safety. There was so much drama that this journey takes up four books in the Bible. When all was said and done Moses simply could not rely on the experience of faith that had guided him for close to forty years. We know tracking our food, staying within our calorie limits, working our exercise program, getting enough rest, all those real important things to creating healthy balance in our life; we know those things are critical, crucial, and important to us but how often do we go looking for other sources? How often do we go looking for "quick fixes?" When we can’t get in shape quick enough, the pounds don’t come flying off us quick enough, we lose faith, we become frustrated, and we begin looking for other alternative sources to. We who dwell in the 21st century are not about to put up with a forty-year journey towards anything. Shoot fire, we have a hard time putting up with a forty-minute journey. As the people who Moses led around the desert we periodically create those quick fixes, those idols that we believe are going to get us from Point A to Point B quicker. Maybe we starve ourselves or push ourselves to the point of injury because “skinny” is more desirable than “healthy.” I have been there and done that.

Moses had a tough job. It seemed no matter what he said or what he did there were always a handful of people who seem to know better. It happens at the gym from time to time. The folks that come up to me and say, "If you did…”

Moses went up to the top of the mountain and during his conversation with God, he shared his frustration. The people were complaining that there wasn't enough water. Moses sat there at the top of the mountain venting. Maybe it's not an issue of water for us Maybe it's an issue of a weight plateau, or sore back or” I'm just plain tired and don't want to exercise.” Maybe we lose our motivation from time to time. Like Moses, we get lost in the desert. Some of us are there longer than forty years. We know, intuitively, that if we have faith in the process we will ultimately achieve a healthy balance in our lives. God suggested to Moses that he go over to a formation of rocks, take his staff, and hit the rock one time and one time only. He would have all the water they needed. Moses gathered up his robes, picked up the staff and headed towards the rock. Moses lifts his staff and hits the rock one time. “If once is good twice must be better.” Moses strikes the rock again. "Third times a charm," Moses must have thought, so he hit the rock a third time. As I said, I have never had a water shortage but I have started thinking what would happen if I cut even more calories from my diet. Wouldn't I lose weight quicker? What would happen if I exercise for an hour everyday rather than thirty minutes? Never mind that my doctor, my trainer, my beloved wife, and a host of other wonderful friends who have made this journey successfully have laid out a simple process “Hit the rock once John!!!.

The water started to trickle, Moses felt satisfied and turned to walk down the mountain, another crisis averted. That's when he heard God asked him if he understood the directions, and like us, when Moses kept trying to come up with an excuse for not following the plan he ended up seeing Gods wisdom. There is a consequence to not following our plan. There is a consequence to being impatient. It takes us that much longer to reach our destination and we begin to become self-critical and doubt the process itself. How often do you and I receive signs and wonders by the very people God has placed in our lives to share their journey, their wisdom and their experience? How often do we ignore them because we seem to know better. I realize how many times a day I hit the rock three times figuring something that is good has to be even better if I modify it. In Moses case, he wasn’t allowed into the Promised Land because of his lack of faith.

It's the "P" word. Patience is such a hard thing to practice. It is why we have each other.

  
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LIMIG2 5/11/2012 12:51PM

    Thanks for the refocusing on the problem and what we need to do to get beyond the problem.

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MARJORIEWRIGHT 5/11/2012 10:07AM

    That is a great point. Thank you for reminding me.

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LILSHINE 5/11/2012 9:44AM

    Thank you for sharing this wisdom. I really enjoyed reading this. I said last nite that while we pray an important thing to ask and work on is PATIENCE. It took time to get here and it's going to take time to drop the weight as well.

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BABY77A 5/11/2012 1:42AM

    Thanks for writing this . Makes me think. Thanks again!

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GRAMMAP1 5/10/2012 11:45PM

    You are a fine communicator. Thank you for this blog. I have not read any before, but be sure I will read others in the future. emoticon emoticon

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MSACTIVE_DOC 5/10/2012 8:58PM

    Such an inspiration.... I think I've knocked on this weight loss "rock " 20 times or more, lol. emoticon

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DADDYS_GIRL6 5/10/2012 6:42PM

    Thanks for an inspiring blog and your perspective on more isn't always better. You are right!


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JUNEBUG150 5/10/2012 6:27PM

    I really enjoyed this blog! Nice way to put our journey to a better lifestyle in perspective! Thanks.

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JACEBEL 5/10/2012 6:24PM

    seeing something at a different person's point of view may not be a bad thing! Thanks for sharing. We all hav a responsibility to ourselves to look after our health.

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TRESA7 5/10/2012 6:06PM

    Thank you. This is so inspirational!

In comparison, I think I'm more like Moses when he asked God, ~Why me. Why don't you choose someone else?~ I'm afraid I can't do it OR maybe I don't want to go through all the trouble.

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LSIG14 5/10/2012 2:03PM

  What a fantastic way of pointing out that more is not necessarily better!! We really do need to have patience and trust in God to do things on His timetable and not on ours! Thanks so much for the very timely reminder!

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TLOVESC1125 5/10/2012 12:29PM

  I loved reading your blog as it spoke right to me thank you

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MARITIMER3 5/10/2012 11:18AM

    Love your recap of the story of Moses - we can learn a lot from him, and it's interesting how often he comes up, usually as an example, in the bible study group I've been attending for about 6 years.

Patience and I have only a nodding acquaintance, and it's something that I pray about often.

Thanks for the great blog and for the reminder to be as patient with myself as I try to be with others.

I've seen your blogs quite often, and have added you as a Spark Friend.

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TRINITYROYAL 5/10/2012 10:19AM

    Thank you for the inspiring words.

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ANHELIC 5/10/2012 10:12AM

    Thank you John. I just came back from my kidney specialist and she was not too happy, but I told her because I gained 20 lbs. since my last visit 6 months ago. I told her I have just gotten myself turned around and am starting to have patients and determination to get myself out of the maze. I will follow your journey, one day at a time and if I hit a roadblock, I will go another route.
Moses obeyed God and got to the other side. I will do the same.
Again, thank you John, your bogs have been an inspiration to me.
Blessings,
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REGILIEH 5/10/2012 9:54AM

    Thank You!

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BARB5970 5/10/2012 8:47AM

    As always, I can count on you to put things in great perspective. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I gain somuch from your experiences.

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MISSILENE 5/10/2012 8:22AM

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ELLIE381 5/10/2012 7:43AM

    emoticonWhat a great blog. It really gets everyone thinking. emoticon

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GLITTERGIRL69 5/10/2012 7:29AM

    I have seen you many times on MARCYNA/\'s blogs. I am not big on reading blogs. I am a leader for the team, Can't do this on my own, and I am very involved with it, and just don’t have enough time each day to do all that I do for my team & read blogs . I have never read any of your blogs & I truly believe that God lead me to your blog today.

God told me to read a section of the bible and part of this section included the whole story of Moses. God is taking my husband and me on a journey, and I believe God wanted me to read certain books in the bible to help me prepare for it through Him. As I read through those books I too thought about how their one month journey took them 40 years. Weeks after reading those books in the bible I remember complaining about my body, the process and sometimes lack of progress I was making. The Israelites grumbled and complained all of those 40 years. Much like us it got them nowhere. God wants us to put our faith in Him and allow our faith to silence our complaints. I know that when we put our faith in God's process, in God's plans, and in God's timing that He give us the patience to not only see it through, but through His grace we can actually ENJOY the slow progress we make.

There is a reason behind God's slow deliverance. He knows that if He gave us sudden weight loss, or a sudden break though of anything we would think, I DID this! Through this sometimes slow process of receiving anything that we want eventually we become wise enough to realize the only way we are going to get what we want is to TOTALLY rely on God. It is when we finally give up and completely give it to God - when we completely surrender - it is during that time God shows us ALL of His power, plan, & His wisdom. He then not only gives us what we want, he gives us what we need.


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THINKPINK06 5/10/2012 7:01AM

    Great Blog!

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SWEETMAGNOLIA2 5/10/2012 6:55AM

    Thank you again for sharing such an inspirational blog with all of us. I will remember this as I continue on my journey with the faith that each little "trickle" will get me there. No need to speed the process. And, yes, we do have each other.
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MARCYNA 5/10/2012 5:39AM

    Knocking the rock toomany times has only brought me to a desert, thanks for reminding me I only need to hold on to Faith!!!
Love,
marcyna

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SUGARBABY60 5/10/2012 2:42AM

    yup only 37 more years left on my journey through the desert! great comparison.....40 yrs in the desert , who knew when we first started this journey ????? emoticon

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TXGRANDMA 5/10/2012 1:00AM

    How right you are! Really enjoyed the analogy! emoticon

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PRAYERMOMOF5 5/9/2012 7:34PM

    hello folks i am knew to the sight. i have been dieting since fri. i need to loose 100 pnds to save my life. i need support. emoticon

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GOING-STRONG 5/9/2012 5:53PM

    Thanks for sharing.. good lesson to remember. Spark on!

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AVANDREA_ 5/9/2012 2:42PM

    One of the things I am reminding myself of, and others as well, is that we did not put all this weight on in a few months... so why expect it to fall off in a few months... It takes time and hard work to get to the goals that we have set for ourselves. Accept the ups and downs, and keep working towards those goals will be a lot easier than beating ourselves over the head when the numbers don't do what we think they should be doing. It helps when others remind me of this as well, which your blog today does.

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JAYDEE16 5/9/2012 11:24AM

    This really spoke to me today. I had one of those moments where I was tempted to stare at my shoes and mumble "yes, sir, guilty as charged." :) I have intermittently lost faith in the process, thought I knew better than the process, and thought "if one is good, three is better." Sometimes, all of those at once.

Thanks for lighting my path back to the straight and narrow today! :)

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CINDYBEL 5/9/2012 10:33AM

    Well said.

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ANIHAKA 5/9/2012 4:26AM

    So so true and a great allegory for this weight loss journey.

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RINA2002 5/8/2012 11:52PM

  Great illustration for a skill, patience, that can make the difference in our success.

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STOPPLAYING2011 5/8/2012 11:26PM

    Nicely spoken i like how you used a biblical person such as Moses to emphasize your point emoticon emoticon

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1990SHO 5/8/2012 11:23PM

  This is my first time to read your blog, but it will not be the last. What a beautiful piece. You are a special person born to lead people. Please keep up the good work and I will listen (read) emoticon

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REFFIE1 5/8/2012 10:37PM

    Thanks for the reminder that patience really is a virtue. The weight didn't come on all at once and it is not going to leave all at once. It is key to enjoy the moment we are in. emoticon

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TEACHING1ST 5/8/2012 8:55PM

    Amen!!

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JOYCECAIN 5/8/2012 7:33PM

    I SOMETIMES FEEL THAT I AM WALKING IN A DESERT, AND NOT GOING ANYWHERE. WE NEED TO GIVE IT TO GOD.

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MSTAPLE1 5/8/2012 5:56PM

  Great blog!

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WARMSTRONG2 5/8/2012 3:11PM

  Great blog. I wish we all had infallible advisers as Moses had.

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MICHELLENEWMAN 5/8/2012 2:51PM

  Thanks!!! Very Good Stuff, I think I'm gonna like it here.. ;-)

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RSTENNER 5/8/2012 11:40AM

    Hit the rock once= everything in moderation. If we could just "get" that and live by it, we would see the pounds drop off week by week and we would reach the goal. I read somewhere recently that God can only answer our prayer if we take the time to really ask for something. We can't just think it, we have to say the words, Dear God, help me to stay on my program and not cheat, and do this thing for myself. Can it really be this simple? I really do think that weight loss is about patience. And making those adjustments to lifestyle. So, I'm going to hit the rock once and really work hard to take better care of myself. Have a great day! emoticon

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PETESKI24 5/8/2012 11:22AM

    Great blog

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WILEE323 5/8/2012 9:52AM

    That darn "P" word gets me every time!! Moses is one of my fav Biblical characters!

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TRICKER20 5/8/2012 9:15AM

  Wow- thanks! I really needed to hear this right now!

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BEACHBUM4LIFE 5/8/2012 9:13AM

    Great blog!

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RYANB1982 5/8/2012 9:08AM

    John, you are such an inspiration. Your honesty and wisdom are so appreciated. I love that you see God as a part of your journey. Often times I get distracted with reaching the destination. I can take shortcuts to get there, but i won't stay there long. We tend to forget that God is using the journey to teach us the things that will not only get us to our destination, but will keep us there. emoticon

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FATGRAMS61 5/8/2012 9:08AM

    How inspiring even if I am reading it a day later. This really gave me a good look at myself, so John you are not alone. May God give me patience as I run this race of weight loss and healthy living.

Your blog caused me to think about patience and a recent Bible Study I attended was on this scripture.

Hebrews 12:1 says : "Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,"

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BLOOMING52 5/8/2012 9:08AM

    Thank you.

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DISAPPEARING1 5/8/2012 8:21AM

    Thank you for writing such an inspiring and encouraging blog! And thank you for my new motto "Hit the rock once!"
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Accepting The Challenge To Live My Life

Wednesday, May 02, 2012

My sister told me I needed to hurry. She said dad was hanging on so he could say good-bye to me. Just an aside, the state police, especially the highway patrol don’t grasp the concept of “having to hurry.” Looking back, I was glad I had eight hours and four hundred miles to prepare. Aside number two: I hate hospitals, sickness and death. They create an anxiety attack in the pit of my stomach just waiting to occur. My dad had always been a strong person, both physically, and mentally. Until his vision left him he and my mom walked to Mass every morning, a round trip of over two miles. Likewise he took water aerobics well into his 80’s. Yes, I know, I had an amazing gift in my life. I am 58 and until six weeks ago both my parents were alive, lucid, and relatively healthy. All this spun through my mind as I drove north. Aside number three: When you are really scared and feel extremely threatened deep inside counting your blessings isn’t much of an antidote. I didn’t want to go in alone. I don’t know how to handle that stuff emotionally. I sort of freeze. I get tongue tied. Joan acts like she does this stuff every day so she went with me in case my motor skills abandoned me. My dad had an oxygen mask on so it was difficult to understand him. He reached for my hand and motioned for Joan to pull the oxygen mask away.

“ I have no regrets, I’ve led a good life, but gosh it went by so fast.”

We stayed with him for a little while longer and then we were told to leave. He looked up at me and squeezed my hand. The look said “Remember what I just said.” Dad hung on another two days but that was the last lucid moment I had with him. In all honesty the next few weeks were a blur. There is disbelief, followed by numbness, followed by this over all deconstruction of your emotional self as you go to pick up the phone to share things with him and realize he won’t be on the other end. Finally something that resembles resignation begins to build a place inside of you.

So I am driving down the road last Friday and suddenly there is this defined ray of sunshine in my soul. Aside number four: sometimes it takes a while for me to “get it.” I realized that what he was telling me was to take advantage of every possible moment you have in your life and don’t ever miss an opportunity to do something new or different. I thought about the stuff I wished I had done with the kids when they were younger. Aside number five: I have a 24 year old daughter who still reminds me I never took her fishing. But I have come to believe that regretting the past is like rocking in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere. My dad was telling me to take advantage of every opportunity that crossed my path. I might not get a second chance.

Somewhere in this moment a lot of my anxiety disappeared. It was like the story in the Gospel, where Jesus healed the blind man, suddenly he could see clearly. Most of what we fail to do comes from some sort of inborn fear that we won’t succeed so I mean why try. We who struggle with our weight carry an extra self-imposed cross. We hold ourselves up to ridicule because we believe the world is judging us negatively. So we stay at home and sit on the couch and munch on Cheetos and lament our fate. We never see ourselves as being inspiring to other people. We rarely take the opportunity to get out there and make our mark. We’re going to wait until we get to that perfect pants or dress size. My dad pointed out in a most poignant way that waiting, is wasting time and resource.

Yup, I am over weight. Yup, I struggle and please don’t consider me arrogant or self-involved, but I believe that my struggle and my journey can be a source of inspiration to other people. It CAN if I get off the couch, put myself out there and allow myself to experience life show other people striving for health can pay off. I haven’t lost a hundred pounds and I never will as long as I limit the world before me. This is as much about what comes out of us as what goes into our mouths.

This blog is about me and about you. My dad, and possible many people in your life, may have pointed that out to us. It’s safe to treat this as a heartwarming Kleenex moment. That’s the easy road. The hard road for me is to go out and live his challenge.

Anyone want to take a walk?

  
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JOANNHUNT 1/30/2013 10:58AM

    I sympathize with you. My Mother died 2 years ago and I regret not being there for her more. I let my younger brother deal with my parents. He is dealing with my handicapped Dad at present time. I am there for him as a sounding board, but don't go to visit as it is too painful. I attend every function my brother makes to get us 6 kids together. Right now we are trying to get the grandchildren involved in these functions. Not doing too well at that. Not going to stop trying as my brother doesn't think my Dad will last another year. I let myself wallow in self pity when my Mom died and put on the pounds. My brother has left my Mom's voice on the answering machine and at first it killed me to leave a message and now I enjoy listening to her voice. It reminds me to keep up my spirits and keep pushing forward. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon Sorry for the rambling.

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SILLYHP1953 6/27/2012 1:31PM

    You reminded me, and others, of probably the best lesson we need to learn in this life. Thank you for sharing your family and love with us.

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REGILIEH 5/12/2012 8:37AM

    Beautiful!!!!!

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BUZZANDWOODY 5/10/2012 9:33AM

  I strongly agree with Gailruu, it isn't too late to take your daughter fishing!


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SANDIBETTS1 5/8/2012 4:31AM

  Thank you for this blog. I have a dear neighbbor who passed on Sunday. I am experiencing a lot of emotion. .I know you will get that fishing trip in for your daughter.

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SWEDE_SU 5/7/2012 10:15PM

    what a gift - thank you for sharing!

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LAURA747681 5/7/2012 7:23AM

    I lost my dad suddenly in 2007. No chance for reciprocal good byes, but I remember distinctly thinking We had already said everything to each other. The love, the respect, the caring. No regrets. I still miss him a lot.

Thanks for the reminder to live in each moment, and do step out and dance each day.

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GRANDKATZ 5/6/2012 12:19PM

    Thank you John for reminding me to put my regrets about some of the things I've missed out on, into the past. There's no reward for past regrets. emoticon

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BLOOMING52 5/6/2012 8:38AM

    Thank you. Very inspirational.

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LYNMEINDERS 5/6/2012 1:18AM

    Where are we walking to John.....
I'm right there beside you wlaking along with you.....

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MCMAHANEY 5/5/2012 11:10PM

    Where we learn in the moment or later in life, our parents teach us some of the greatest lessons in life.

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GEEMAWEST 5/4/2012 9:57PM

    What an awesome gift your dad left you with. And yes, I would love to take a walk with you. We could talk about so much.

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THISTIMEMYWAY 5/4/2012 8:55PM

    Thank you for sharing.
I cannot imagine my life without my parents. Although they annoy me (and me them!), I love them so dearly. I guess I need to show it to them more. My kids love being with them. You had a great father to tell you that so that you can act on it now.
I see my kids growing up so fast and feel so blessed and so full of love when I am with them. That is true happiness.

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GAILRUU 5/4/2012 5:30PM

    I am so sorry for the loss of your father. My mother is 94 and her body is still living but her thinking processes are gone. I miss the old Mom.
It is still not too late to take your daughter fishing!

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GAILSQUEST 5/4/2012 12:49PM

    Thank you.Yes,death really sucks!
I lost my beloved husband of 34 years in Dec.I`m still grieving and learning to live life alone.
I,too picked up the phone to call mom or dad after they were gone.
Now I catch myself thinking I need to share something with my husband and then realize that He`s gone.
Fortunately,exercise is my therapy.I spend a lot of time on the treadmill at the gym.It`s like a friend that I visit every day.

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KM1116 5/4/2012 12:43PM

    Great read... Thank you so much for sharing!

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4THELOVEOFDOLLS 5/4/2012 11:17AM

    What an amazing blog and yes you are inspiring others and making a difference. Thank you for putting yourself out there. emoticon

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WMUGRAD 5/4/2012 11:14AM

    Thank you for sharing. I'm in tears at this present moment. Wishing you well in your healing and health journey.

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CBRIGGS1956 5/4/2012 10:59AM

    So very sorry for your loss John and very grateful that you chose to use your loss to once again help the rest of us with your inspirational comments.

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RSTENNER 5/4/2012 10:45AM

    Oh John, so sorry in the loss of both your parents. It really is a difficult phase to go through realizing for the first time, that you or I are now the older generation. And that our time on this earth is on a countdown of sorts, hopefully we have another 25 years, but that remains to be seen. I will never get over losing my parents, but I also know that is the way of life and they taught me well and I want to go on and be an encouragement to my children and nieces and nephews. We are the teachers now and can lead by example. You'd better be making that bucket list, did you watch that movie? But ya know, my mother is with me everyday anyway. She comes to me in my dreams and we have the best time. They will always be in your heart. You take care of yourself, get some exercise, eat well, and I agree, go fishing with your kids! emoticon

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SANDIBETTS1 5/4/2012 6:46AM

  I love your blog. I love your "cover" page.

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DEBK0923 5/4/2012 1:04AM

    great blog, thank you for sharing something personal

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EGR2BEME 5/3/2012 10:09PM

    So sorry about your Dad! What a great message for us all - thank you for taking the time to write it. I need that walk...so much! I hope you get to go fishing with your daughter soon!



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NOCTURNALBABY 5/3/2012 9:42PM

  I was just sitting here, thinking that I will never get what I want out of life when I just happened to click on your blog. Thank you. Thank you so very much. emoticon emoticon

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JIBBIE49 5/3/2012 8:47PM

    emoticonHow wonderful to see you as the FEATURED BLOG in the Sparks Mail. What an honor. emoticon

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TYLYNN61 5/3/2012 8:29PM

    Yes SIr Lets go for a walk. Thank You so much for being who you are and for sharing yourself with us. I am so grateful I got to read your blog. you are AMAZING !!!!!!!!!!!!!

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KATHYTEEPLE 5/3/2012 7:47PM

  Thank you so much fo sharing this very personal time in your life. I really did find it inspirational.

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IAMAGEMLOVER 5/3/2012 5:57PM

    I want to take that walk. I am sick of existing, I want to live. emoticon for the blog.

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QUIKSYLVER 5/3/2012 5:34PM

    “ I have no regrets, I’ve led a good life, but gosh it went by so fast.”

What a great last memory to have of your dad. I am not looking forward to when my parents die, but I hope they sound as peaceful as your dad sounds to me.

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HEALTHY4ME 5/3/2012 5:02PM

    Awesome blog, and yes even though I am in pain in both knees I am goign for a walk very shortly, must let my supper settle a bit. My condolences to you and your family, your dad sounds like a smart, and nice guy.
I will remember what he told you, My mum when she passed, 3 years in june. I was holdign her hand sort of laying my head on the rails of the bed, dad was laying down on a cot and dd and bf were just hanging around. I felt her open her eyes and she looked so tired. Didn't say a word, I just said OH hi mum, ( she hadn't been lucid in a day) told her I loved her, told lisa to come say hi, and told dad to get ready to come over. I knew it was going to be then. I wish I had asked her to hang on just till my son and hubby would get there, she may have.
I have many regrets about her time in hosptial, but at the time it was the best i could do for her. ( I worked in healthcare seniors).
Sorry I carried on but you made me really think, that was agood thing.
HUGS and again remember we need to cherish every day!

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SOFTBALLMOM422 5/3/2012 4:21PM

    This was a wonderful blog. Thank you for sharing your emotions so openly, we all struggle through life and need the reminder that we need to pay attention and live not just put our heads down and survive!! I will walk with you.
Thank you and I am sorry for your loss!!
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FITMAY 5/3/2012 4:02PM

    I want to take the walk! Let's live!
LOVE your blog!!
May

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JEHART1 5/3/2012 3:58PM

    This is truly a heartfelt and amazing blog! Thank you for sharing it. A great reminder to us all that life is short, don't waste the time we're given.

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TIMEFORTHISMAMA 5/3/2012 3:38PM

    Loved this blog! Made me think, no more time wasted. My parents are getting old fast and we have to enjoy every moment! Thank you! emoticon

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TINNATEE 5/3/2012 2:44PM

    I am sorry that you lost your dad. You have such a way of expressing things. I just wanted to tell you thank you. It is a powerful message and one I personally needed to hear.

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SUNSHINEYDAYS 5/3/2012 2:38PM

    Fantastic blog -very inspirational ! I have been grieving hard for my mother for nearly twelve years now and she would be so happy to see that I am finally ready to let go and live my life. I will see her again one day but until then I am going to try to enjoy every moment I can here !

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KMSIMMONS1 5/3/2012 2:10PM

  Count me in! Thank you for this blog!

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PETESKI24 5/3/2012 1:40PM

    We need to remember that life is to be lived. Thank you for the reminder.

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TAURUSGIRL3 5/3/2012 1:40PM

  Well said!

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JAS9096 5/3/2012 1:37PM

    What an amazing heartfelt blog. Thank you for the reminder.

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BABYLOSTBACK 5/3/2012 12:41PM

    Thank you for sharing, and I also wanted to say it's not to late to take your daughter fishing. emoticon

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CIVIAV 5/3/2012 11:46AM

    Hand in hand John!

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EMTFF376 5/3/2012 11:35AM

    someone used the rocking chair analogy with me last night. I can't remember what we were talking about, but man that struck a chord when I read it in your blog.

Your blog has perfect timing. I have received my new triathlon training program and I WILL race this year. Period, end of story. It was a part of my life I loved and I don't want to holding my daughter's hand saying, "Jane I wish I had raced just one more season". I want to be uttering the words that your father did to you.

Thank you, dear friend, for your thoughts. They make me think. They make me laugh. They make me cry. Lets take a walk sometime.

Love,
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BANDMOM2012 5/3/2012 11:18AM

    Thanks for the reminder to live to the fullest.

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DAISYTERRI 5/3/2012 10:55AM

    Thank you!

Great Blog!

Great Attitude!

And, what wonderful, wonderful finals words from your Dad.

Yep, I'm ready to take a walk!

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MAVERICK59 5/3/2012 10:45AM

    John,

I am sorry for the loss of your father. He walks with Jesus now. He truly is at peace.
Your axis has tipped a bit and things in your world might wobble for awhile, but it eventually straightens itself out. But you will always miss him, you just learn to live with it.
I am so glad you had a positive relationship with your father and good memories to draw on when you feel a little empty inside.

Since my daughter passed, I have had so many regrets about should have, could have and didn't.
I hope you have a great time fishing with your daughter, and I hope it happens more than once!

God bless you and may the Angels hold you in your moments of grief. They will help you ride them out.
Belinda

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LIVELYGIRL2 5/3/2012 10:41AM

  I can sense you will always recall your Dad's message. I know it is raw now. Some of us would like to give you a hug. it is one of lives most intense experiences, losing a parent. Years ago, I lost 4 relatives in 2 1/2 years. They all had very serious health problems such as ALS, cancer...

It can leave one in a negative permanent state or when the grief is precessed, project you into a level level of gratitude and sight for what truly matters and what you are going to do about it.

Hang in there and we are here to share new ways to digest stress and pain ( than eating marathons ).

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Here's A Thought: Find A Friend

Sunday, April 29, 2012


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EEKAMIGHTY 4/7/2014 6:55AM

  I realize this post is 2 yrs old, however, it is no less relevant. I was just looking up old video blogs and I must say, I truly enjoyed this. I see on the side of this video that you are still posting so I'm happy you have continued the spark. I hope I can say the same in 2 years.

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BE-THE-CHANGE 5/3/2012 1:15PM

    What a great vlog! I feel like you were inside my head (scary place sometimes).

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WORKINGSTIFF 5/1/2012 8:57PM

    As always, good thoughts...while I've been on Spark a long time, I believe it is what we each make it. I enjoy reading/listening to others blogs, and responding (hopefully mostly to the positive).

Let's each of us make the effort to extend a hand when we can.

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MEDDYPEDDY 5/1/2012 2:27AM

    WHen I think of leaving spark because there are too many ads, too much nagging about me liking on facebook or telling a friend or promoting spark here and there ... I stay because of the friends. The tools are great but I can find them at many other places. The articles are great too and saves me the effort to find them myself. But I am a swede and there are lots of stuff here that does not really fit to my way of thinking... but the friends do. The wonderful people I get to meet that supports me, that allow me to support them, that shows me that I am not alone, that share my fears, strenghts, efforts... I am on facebook but don´t use it that much because it is too ... not focused. On spark I share a goal - to live a healthy life, and I do think that it is not only about being soical in general, it is about progress in my life, and by sharing we help eachother along...

You are a great thinker (in spite the fact that you are a man...just joking! emoticon)

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SNOWANGELDIVA 4/30/2012 8:09PM

    "I'm having a no hair day"...nice hat.
Cute.
Focusing.

"We are the World!..." emoticon

To have a friend ya gotta be a friend.

I heard Street DaNc3 ~ So there!!!!
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YIWEN39 4/30/2012 7:16PM

    Right on, John! So true :-) emoticon

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GIRANIMAL 4/30/2012 2:10PM

    Huh. I never would have dreamed you sometimes felt awkward one-on-one with people. I have felt terribly socially inept for most of my life (although I feel like I've gotten a teeny bit better into my 30s) so I just assumed I could recognize my own kind! LOL But here you are, one of my "besties," and I had no idea!

I think this means we're both just fine and it's only the nagging self-doubt talking. Or yelling. emoticon

Because you're tops in my life, before this blog I have already begun to emulate your awesomeness of reaching out to people, or conversely taking the friendship bait more often, and I'm glad for the connections I've made because of it.

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CBRIGGS1956 4/30/2012 9:25AM

    As always a great blog, I always look forward to the next, thanks.

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ANGELWENDYMAMA 4/30/2012 4:30AM

    Over 12 million people on SparkPeople now!

Anyone can go to the Community boards - Introduce Yourself board and welcome some new people. When I do that I get a bunch of people who add me as a friend.

Nice vlog, John!

Are SparkFriends imaginary? Nope, but I can see why she might think that! They're virtual in some way.. but real on their end and we're virtual to them. :)


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NASFKAB 4/30/2012 1:23AM

  Just knowing is good to learn great thanks

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AVANDREA_ 4/29/2012 10:22PM

    I am glad that I read your blogs, and have added you as a friend.
you seem to have a way of stating issues and ideas that come across clearly when I read them. Thank you for sharing.

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WORLDSERIES11 4/29/2012 9:20PM

    Thanks so much John for sharing your thoughts and wisdom! As always, very insightful and helpful! emoticon

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ONEKIDSMOM 4/29/2012 8:15PM

    Another home run, buddy! It's like going to meeting or church or whatever to pop by your video blogs... and the written ones, too. It's my Spark friends that keep me going through the rough patches, and they (rough spots) don't stop when you reach goal, as well you know.

And thanks for adding me back. One more friend to keep us going ... can never have too many.

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WILDHONEYPIE1 4/29/2012 6:26PM

    emoticon as always John. emoticon

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CONJO163 4/29/2012 4:44PM

    Thanks Very encouraging to me as a New Person. emoticon

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SARAWALKS 4/29/2012 2:33PM

    Great blog, John, I am SO VERY grateful for my Spark friends. Just by commenting on my feed they help me so much. Right now I have a new spark buddy and it is helping us both stay on track to stay consistent here. Accountability and support - what more do we need? emoticon emoticon emoticon

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HDHAWK 4/29/2012 2:19PM

    I hadn't thought about reaching out from the male perspective. I would have missed a lot if you hadn't. Thanks!

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VONBLACKBIRD 4/29/2012 2:13PM

    Thanks so much for being you!!!

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GEEMAWEST 4/29/2012 1:39PM

    I got a good chuckle out of your granddaughter asking if you Sparkfriends were imaginary. Too precious!

Great vlog!

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NUNZIATA43 4/29/2012 1:22PM

    John,

I'm so GLAD you are a male! I've often wondered where men store the deep rooted feelings. You are AWESOME! I agree - I'm in it for the long haul and am so thrilled to hear/see you being so real! THANK YOU for your video and sharing the wisdom, Friend! You're the best!!!



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TEACHING1ST 4/29/2012 12:53PM

    John, everything you post hits exactly where it's needed! You have so much to say that is vital to all here...men and women alike! Please DO ramble---and even more often! Your down to earth messages give so much 'food for thought.' Thanks for being who you are!

Mary

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"Thank You" Is Only The Begining

Friday, April 27, 2012

Larry’s been out of school for twenty years. He told me the last class he remembers was his PE class two days before he graduated from high school. You can imagine the adjustment. Larry was struggling with, English 101. Larry had to write composition after composition and it was weighing him down. As Larry told this story, I shared my philosophy of writing. I believe that writing is like any other process in our lives. It requires dedication and practice. I usually write for thirty to forty minutes each day. Some days I just don't feel like writing but I do it anyway. Larry looked at me and said: "Well you are a really good writer."

"Uh-oh," I thought. "Here comes the moment that involves the plastic smile and a modest thank you."

I was quite surprised, however. My reaction was genuine and sincere. I felt very calm, very peaceful, very focused; as if Larry's recognition validated many things I have been working towards. My” thank you” to Larry was a sincere one. I have a hard time accepting sincere and genuine thanks and praise. It makes me feel uncomfortable. I was raised in an environment that taught me to ferret out every bit of good and positive achievement and offer it up for some souls languishing in an alleged place between heaven and hell. Never mind that I was good at what I did, that was not the point. The point was that people who took credit for what they did were guilty of false pride and arrogance. I have to practice what I preach. I have to work very hard to live my mantra: "I am worth all the effort I put into myself." My confident acceptance was a validation of that effort and hard work.

How many of you, feel you’re overweight, unhealthy, and unhappy because of something terrible you did earlier in your life? How many of you feel that no matter how hard you try you are never going to achieve and accomplish the things you really want to because unfortunately, you are just one of those people who's not supposed to get what they deserve? I am not proud of it, but I was one of those people. There was no sense, and there was no use in trying to improve myself because I just had the odds stacked against me. "Pity, party of one, your table is now available."

So often, people would genuinely complement me for something I had done well. My face would flush, my heart would beat rapidly, and I'd find some words to discount or negate the complement. After all, if they only knew all the mistakes I had made my life and all the attempts I had made to reach my goals, only to fail they wouldn't be heeping all this praise on me. That's a tough way to live your life. You work very hard, and truth be told you probably don't fail anymore or any less than any other person; it's just that your successes are so far and few between that you never seem to notice them.

Whether it's health and fitness, whether it's writing, knitting, hitting a golf ball or running a marathon if you don't believe you are worth all the effort you put in to your activity no matter how much you tangibly accomplish deep down inside you will never feel as if you were successful. My” thank you” to Larry yesterday was heartfelt and sincere and just between us friends it felt really good. I enjoy writing and I believe I write well. I am proud of my writing and I enjoy sharing it with other people. My writing in many respects may be considered my way of "paying things forward." There's no arrogance and conceit in what I say. My “thank you” to Larry was simply a beginning. That's where it all starts. I have a choice to build on that strong feeling or to simply replaying my mind repeatedly and let it wither on the vine.

What about you? What do you do well and how long have you kept the wonderful talents and amazing things you have to share a secret? You and I have heard repeatedly that a good house is built on a strong foundation. My health, my fitness, my overall sense of well-being doesn't come from a lot of self-discipline but from the pure, clear fountain deep inside my soul that tells me I'm worth all the effort I put into my success, and so are you. Some days it seems that the harder we work the further behind we get and then we have that moment when a Larry looks across the table and tells us something we know is true.

If I can do one thing really well then there's no limit to the things I can accomplish when I believe I am worth all the effort I put into myself. You see, my "thank you" was really just the beginning.

  
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DIANNEMT 12/20/2012 5:02PM

    I have recently started treating myself as "worthy" and it is nice to do!!! Same idea here!

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SILLYHP1953 6/27/2012 1:26PM

    I don't use my talents and gifts as I should. I used to, years ago, not exactly sure what happened.

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SANDIBETTS1 5/8/2012 4:27AM

  This one thing I do--Thank you for inspiring me.

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LAURA747681 5/7/2012 7:06AM

    I am reading this in May, but it really touched me. I had lost 25 lbs, and had put about 7 back on. I printed a couple of quotes from your blog and have posted them in my kitchen. What touched me the most was, "I am worth all the effort I put into my success." Thank you John! emoticon

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JUDYAASH 5/6/2012 10:08AM

    Wonderful and timely article. Thank you you really do write well!

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1STICKBLUES 5/4/2012 12:39PM

    Wonderful! Thank you again for hitting the nail on the head. So many of us struggle with this, it's nice to know it's okay to accept the compliments (especially from ourselfes). As always, what a great share!

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MARYM1962 5/4/2012 10:13AM

  Again I must say you are a truely amazing man - your writing is very thought provoking and straight to the point. You inspire me to reach out and try harder to make my life better and healthier! Thank you so much for sharing with us - I look forward to you next blog!

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KRKNOCKS 5/2/2012 8:57AM

  Thanks for the inspiration. emoticon

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DEBK0923 5/1/2012 2:19PM

    Thank you for giving me such good inspiration, I have difficulty with this area. Great blog

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LADYMCDUFF 5/1/2012 12:50AM

    You are a great writer. You touched my soul.

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LUCINDARW 4/30/2012 8:07PM

    Thank you for the inspirational blog. Something I have a hard time doing it to all though it is getting a little easier.

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JEANNINEMM68 4/30/2012 7:33PM

    Sometimes the hardest thing to say is thank you.


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LYNCHD05 4/30/2012 5:37PM

    We have to learn to accept compliments with grace. I am working on it.

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GOODTHING_TP 4/30/2012 2:48PM

    thanks ... again.


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CBRINKLEY401 4/30/2012 1:27PM

    This is so true. I've never been comfortable accepting compliments, even though I know they are deserved.
When a compliment is sincerely given, or you are told "thank you", and you brush it off instead of accepting it, you are doing a disservice both to yourself AND to the person who offered the words of praise.
You've motivated me to try and accept these graciously from now on. I am eager to praise others, so why not accept it when I'm on the receiving end?
Thanks for sharing.


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LUCYJOY 4/30/2012 1:23PM

    I removed my comment as it was unhelpful and from a dark place-sorry

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SHELBEY74 4/30/2012 1:20PM

    So true! Sometimes the hardest thing about a compliment is saying "thank you."

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ASPENHUGGER 4/30/2012 1:06PM

    So many of us share this habit of being embarrassed when complimented. And it's definitely a hard habit to break!

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KMMAKI 4/30/2012 11:50AM

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DEEJACKSON 4/30/2012 10:13AM

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SHERRY257 4/30/2012 10:00AM

    Fantastic!!!!

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HIKESHAPPY 4/30/2012 9:55AM

    Wow. For me, it's quilting. I don't know if writing is a hobby or more for you, but quilting is hobby plus therapy plus more for me:-) (not a job, however) It's the one area in my life that I enjoy and allow myself to NOT be perfect in - I simply allow my creativity to happen. I can so appreciate the quilts that others make, whether or not they're my style, but I have a hard time when someone says something nice to me about mine. I also work hard at my quiltmaking - I want to make something pretty and unique. Why do I point out the flaws in them? I do that before someone else can point them out to me. I know that I don't value myself, the work of my hands, and my creativity - is it because of my weight? I don't know at this point. Something to think about. Thank you!

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RSTAPLE 4/30/2012 8:57AM

  Great!!

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HLOCHRIDGE 4/30/2012 8:52AM

    Wonderful blog! I love hearing your words of wisdom!

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MSTAPLE1 4/30/2012 8:41AM

  Awesome!!

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NASFKAB 4/30/2012 1:18AM

  great as usual thought provoking

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DEB_LEA 4/29/2012 10:28PM

    Thanks for the inspirational words.

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DEEJON123 4/29/2012 10:03PM

    The more one succeeds, the more the lbs. will come off if this is true

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GINA180847 4/29/2012 8:58PM

    The thought that I might be overweight because of something I have done wrong in my life is something I see at the edge of my consciousness. I began to have a real problem after separating from my first husband. The situation was very toxic for our children and that is still extremely painful. This may just be the reason I really don't go too far very fast. I need to spend some time thinking about this. I also am a writer but not too modest. Just need to spend the time to finish that novel. Even if it never is published it is more for family to read than anything else. Life, never boring!!!!!!

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REENIE131 4/29/2012 8:44PM

    It's much easier to see the accomplishments and talents of others than to see our own.

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CUDDLYPOLARBEAR 4/29/2012 7:46PM

    Thanks for the great post....

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CHANGING4ME49 4/29/2012 7:39PM

    This was just what I needed today. I've been struggling lately especially with self worth and self respect. Thanks so much for sharing. Your blogs never disappoint. You definitely have a gift my friend!

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WRITINGDIVA1 4/29/2012 2:23PM

    Thank you! I'm also a writer, a good one at that with a very interesting story (according to my writing groups). I also play the piano, sing and act. But am very modest, don't want to hog the stage. Southern and Xtian upbringing is very hard to override, but I'm doing it moment by moment. Thanks for the encouragement! emoticon

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PGHKATHIE 4/29/2012 2:14PM

  Thank you for this, it was just the insight I needed today.

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SHEDEVIL6464 4/29/2012 2:03PM

    Wow!! You hit me out of left field with this one, John!! As I sit here drying my eyes, I will tell you that I am currently struggling with the belief that I'm not worthy of success. I'm trying to overcome it but it isn't easy, as anyone who's ever been in my shoes knows.

Thank you for the wonderful blogs. Your words encourage me, and I look forward to reading more. Best Wishes

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REJ7777 4/29/2012 10:32AM

    Thanks again for another motivating, encouraging blog. And I agree with Larry, you do write well! I'm glad that you're able to acknowledge your gift, and that you share it with us on SP. emoticon

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JACKH35 4/29/2012 10:32AM

    The comment about our sucesses being few and far between hit home with me. I am going to start looking for some of those successes and build on them. Always enjoy your blogs.

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MANILUS 4/29/2012 9:27AM

    It is funny how sometimes we look to others for validation for something we already know to be true. It seems that we always have something to prove but the only person we have anything to prove to is ourselves. I recently was the top student in a level 1 French course out of 15 immigrants to Canada. I was so proud but it was like I had to prove to my husband I was intelligent. Our own mind is what matters.

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FIT2WIN4 4/29/2012 9:13AM

  Inspiring.

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SANDRALEET 4/29/2012 8:25AM

    I got out of this rut when I stop listening to the old and out of date messages .You are so right .

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LEANMEAN2 4/29/2012 6:30AM

    Thank you for sharing

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MISSLISA1973 4/29/2012 6:17AM

    emoticon This is emoticon. Fortunately I was taught the lesson of accepting compliments several years ago and have since learned to accept them sincerely, not with the plastic smile. It does do a world of good for my self-confidence to be able to accept those kind comments from others, and makes it easier to give them out as well. I do have a friend who struggles very hard with accepting compliments. It is hard to see someone you care about beat themselves up all the time, especially when they deserve the compliment. So many people are amazingly talented. Just think what they could accomplish if only they believed it is OK, like you said, to believe they are worth the effort they put into themselves.

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It Starts and Ends With Me

Thursday, April 26, 2012

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VOLLEYGIRL77 5/1/2012 10:42AM

    So awesome! Thanks for the great blog!

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    Very powerful John! Thank you emoticon

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BELDONDOG1 4/29/2012 9:56PM

    John, you are truly a great writer, and this blog actually really touched me. We are all worth it and thank you for reminding me of this. Losing weight is so very hard, but does become easier when we have friends who know exactly what we are going through. I have been off track but I've kept up my exercise and it saved by butt (from getting bigger) and I only gained 1/2#. Exercise has become a part of my daily life like breathing. I wish I could feel that way about food. The exercise is now a habit, and the food is also, just not a good one. And yes, I too have gotten a lot of food that I let rot before I got to eat it. I signed up for your blogs, so maybe you can inspire me more. Thank you and may God bless you and yours! Noel

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CATHYROSE40 4/29/2012 7:21PM

    I am new to SP and find you very inspirational. So, thank you.

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RADAZZLE 4/28/2012 6:16PM

    Wow! It's amazing about timing.... I had been thinking about how important it is to get my mind in check with my actions and desires, and here you are talking basically about the same thing! THANK YOU! emoticon

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REDSHOES2011 4/28/2012 9:33AM

    Yes life is choices and your right it starts and stops with ourselfs..

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ONEKIDSMOM 4/28/2012 9:16AM

    Love your blogs, John. Finally added you as a Spark friend, after being a fan girl for a while. I, too, am a compulsive eater. I have taken it off, I am working hard at keeping it off... but the real key is the "I am worth it" message that sometimes gets lost in the shuffle. You add it back. And I'll keep echoing it back at you: YOU are worth it, too!

Every Sparker is WORTH taking care of his/her health! Spark on. emoticon

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NASFKAB 4/28/2012 2:44AM

  great blog as usual

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CICELY360 4/28/2012 12:48AM

  Good timeline.

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JIBBIE49 4/27/2012 10:21PM

    What an honor to have your blog featured in the Spark Mail. You are a STAR. emoticon

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TEXASFILLY 4/27/2012 9:24PM

    Hey John~ *hugs* You feel like a brother~man to me. Are we twins? I hear ya, it's all in our heads. Hey, just know that the habits we build now are gonna pay off in the end. The stuff in our heads may take a while to change, yet I've discovered that educating myself about foods~ healthy, organic vs. crappola that poses as food & how it can nourish my body~ how it makes me feel empowered~ that's good stuff to know to help change the headtalk, which sometimes we just gotta scream "SHUT~UP!" as it is a spoiled, inner child talking. You hang in there! Together we are victorious! *hugs* All the best, BonnieBlue~ emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
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ANGELWENDYMAMA 4/27/2012 8:27PM

    You are worth it! You deserve to be healthy and happy! Make it happen!

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MYSTERY-LADY1 4/27/2012 8:03PM

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ALIDOSHA 4/27/2012 5:06PM

    I'm your fan! on't stop!

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TERRIJ7 4/27/2012 1:19PM

    Great blog, John. It was nice having you visit me in my home via this blog!

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LARSEN_84 4/27/2012 11:45AM

  MIND OF MATTER IS THE MOTTO OF THE DAY.

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BARB5970 4/27/2012 9:44AM

    Hey John, I've never met you and I certainly don't really know you, but I feel such a connectoin with you and relate to your blogs in a profound way. .. Thanks for sharing your insights. Love the way your straight forward and honest.

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NEWTINK 4/27/2012 8:20AM

    Nicely put .... You are worth the effort and strength it takes to change your perception ... Have a great day emoticon

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CARTOONB 4/26/2012 11:36PM

    That voice in your head is busy...came to talk to me this morning, and yesterday, and the day before that, and...you get the idea.

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CBRIGGS1956 4/26/2012 11:35PM

    Thanks, John as usual you give us plenty of "food" for thought.

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MANILUS 4/26/2012 11:13PM

    You hit the nail on the head John, change comes from the mind and transcends to the body! All the best!

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GEEMAWEST 4/26/2012 10:38PM

    OK, now I'm in the right place.

Thanks John. Really needed to hear this. Been feeling really beat up by life lately. However, I made myself go to the pool this morning. I appreciate the reinforcement!

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GIRANIMAL 4/26/2012 7:59PM

    My self-esteem has always been pretty lousy in a lot of ways, but you've got me realizing that it has actually improved in some key ways since I started this journey. I have become a rabid advocate of real, whole foods. I get angry at the crap that is passed off as "healthy" -- like green-washing for food. (Ha! Make that "food.") I go out of my way to make conscious choices when I shop, and when I eat. Even when I commute! "I'm tired. Maybe I'll take the train today. After all, it's supposed to rain..." is almost always beat out by "Nah, bike's good for me. Stop being lazy." And pedaling away I go!

Without even realizing it, I have begun making more and more of these choices because I DO believe that I am worth it. We all are.

Good to know that I believe such a thing deep down. Thanks for making me see it.

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VICKI-B--56 4/26/2012 4:41PM

  John, thank you so much for this blog. You honestly don't know just how much you help me by posting like you do. It makes me think and it helps me feels so not alone in this journey. Thank you so much. emoticon

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VONBLACKBIRD 4/26/2012 2:56PM

    It is a hard lesson to learn that "we deserve" this for ourself and not to impress or for anyone else...we are worth it...Thanks so much for a great blog.

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WILDHONEYPIE1 4/26/2012 2:14PM

    Thank you as always for sharing. emoticon

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TRULYVISIBLE 4/26/2012 1:45PM

  Great Vlog! What you said was so wise. Changing the behavior and not the perception along with it will not get us far. That's the interpretation I heard anyway. Your entire vlog was really good words for thought.

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PR.ANNIE 4/26/2012 11:28AM

  John - I loved everything you had to say--it is speaking straight to my heart and pin point exactly how to address the big "gorilla in the room".

We are the exact same age...I like that fact. We are in the trenches together dear sparkfriend.

kind regards, Anne

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RSTENNER 4/26/2012 11:27AM

    Great message John. Did you know that by watching exercise video's on tv, doesn't help you tone up and lose weight? My daughter came in while I was channel surfing, and said, "Mom, you just can't watch the exercise video, you have to get up and move! Really? So that's how that works! Too bad it's not just that easy. So, I have to get it in my head that I must move everyday to lose weight and maintain that weight loss. And make the right food choices that my body prefers. When I eat junk, the next day I feel like junk. When I eat healthy, the next day I feel good and energized. What a concept! You have a great day and a good weekend! emoticon

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CECI1950 4/26/2012 11:14AM

  Good Morning~~Thanks for the uplifting video that started my day. I have been down in the dumps because the scale hasn't moved in a week or so, though my clothes are fitting looser. You encouraged me to see more than the scale and believe in myself. I am ready to go exercise now and will be encouraged again tomorrow as I remember your words. You keep on trucking John, we are here, right beside you, facing the same demons every day. Together we shall accomplish our goals! emoticon

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REFFIE1 4/26/2012 11:10AM

    Wonderful blog. I go out with a "ladies who lunch" group and they always pick places full of fattening goodies - pizza, hamburgers etc. I still manage to find something healthy. I used to feel sorry for myself but now, like you mentioned I think I am worth too much not to be better to my body. As for exercise, I always struggle but I always just "do it" like the Nike ads say. I believe you can't over think these decisions you just have to make it a habit. Of course, habits can be broken and then you start on that slippery slope. I just try never to break them. Maybe it's rigid but that seems to work best for me. I can't seem to have just a little bit of cake etc. it's much easier for me to forgo stuff like that. I keep picturing my insides feeling better not just my outside looking better. I think about my heart pumping more efficiently and not getting diabetes type 2 and then my decision is made. Anyhow I appreciate your candid remarks and how you say things that we all don't like to admit. emoticon

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LOOKSLIKELILY 4/26/2012 10:54AM

    What a wonderfully uplifting vlog! United we stand emoticon

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SENIOR62 4/26/2012 10:48AM

  What a gret video. Gives us all alot to think about. Hope you hve a great day as well.

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SKEETOR 4/26/2012 10:27AM

    Yours is the very first video blog I've seen! It was great and you ARE a great person. I do have one thing that I noticed. In your tape you said that your needed to change your perception of yourself but then you said that you "will always be a compulsive overeater". I think you need to cross that out! You WILL NOT always be a compulsive overeater! (From one rehabilitating compulsive overeater to another....)
Have a great day, John!

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SNOWANGELDIVA 4/26/2012 9:36AM

    6:00 intimidation...hmmm...you're touching my sacred fear...shhh...
Love that you tell us how to take a step back and reaffirm that EVERYONE has a right to be in that room instead of disappearing. *paused to process*

We're not trash cans we can stop treating ourselves that way.
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NARNIAROSE2003 4/26/2012 9:36AM

    Thanks for your thoughts, John. I wrote a blog yesterday that talks about some of this. Keep on keeping on!

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