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Reflections On My Dads Passing

Thursday, March 15, 2012

“It is a curious thing, the death of a loved one. We all know that our time in this world is limited, and that eventually all of us will end up underneath some sheet, never to wake up. And yet it is always a surprise when it happens to someone we know. It is like walking up the stairs to your bedroom in the dark, and thinking there is one more stair than there is. Your foot falls down, through the air, and there is a sickly moment of dark surprise as you try and readjust the way you thought of things.”
Lemony Snicket, Horseradish: Bitter Truths You Can't Avoid

It’s amazing how everything that was so important just a short week ago really doesn’t hold much meaning to you. You are grateful for very small things: A kind word, someone handing you a cup of coffee or a blanket while you sit in an ICU waiting room and mark time. You stare at a sickly green wall a lot. You get up and hug people you haven’t seen in ages and after a bit that gets tiresome also. You want to be left alone.

You forget about Republican primaries, March madness and spring training. You spend a lot of time being silent. You find it to be soothing. When the moment comes you are surprised. There is no real dam of emotion that breaks inside of you. You feel really disconnected from everything; like you are watching yourself in a movie. Every time you close your eyes you see yourself on a huge rock in the center of an empty field. You feel no breeze, hear no birds or bees, and smell no flowers. You only realize how alone you are right now.

After the Monday funeral you have an opportunity to cubby yourself away and be alone. The cold, icy knife of grief begins to poke and prod you. You don’t fight it. In the midst of that storm, off in the distance you see a small ray of sunshine darting in and out of the storm. As it moves closer you smile a bit. In the midst of this storm and sense of loss you realize the lesson you are to learn. You are learning what’s important. It’s not all the goofy stuff you’ve concerned yourself with over the years, it is the people you have met, the places you have been and the love you hadn’t recognized. It’s the moments you wished you’d seen what was REALLY their and not conjured it into “What’s best for me……” There is a certain sort of peace there. The clouds clear and your emotional spectacles are clean, you see. You even laugh out loud a bit. The lesson, albeit a long and hard one, was that you’d been looking in the wrong direction for a really long time.

Thursday evening, just a few short hours before he passed from this existence, my dad said goodbye to all of his grandchildren, one at a time. My son Matt shared part of their conversation. It went like this: “I have had a good life Matt, but it went by so, so, fast.” (My dad was 88)

“We just get one ride around the sun in this dream of time. It goes so fast and one day we look back and we ask, “Was that my life?” Jo Dee Messina

Be blessed today and stop for just a few minutes and take in everything around you.

  
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SILLYHP1953 4/9/2012 9:35AM

    Thank you, again, for bringing me back to awareness of the here and now, and what is important.

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SNOWANGELDIVA 3/21/2012 11:02PM

    emoticonJohn, You peeled back the blanket of darkness with your eloquent writing and its power is lessened as our feelings of alienation are.
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NASFKAB 3/21/2012 12:10AM

  Thanks for sharing love hugs

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GEEMAWEST 3/19/2012 3:22PM

    Beautifully written, John. Thank you for sharing such intimate thoughts.

Love and Hugs, Cheryl

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LADILADIDA 3/19/2012 11:06AM

    Be well today and loving to yourself. What is important to me? What is important to me? What is important to me? - This is my mantra today. Thank you.

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TRULYVISIBLE 3/19/2012 1:47AM

  Sorry to read about the loss of your Dad. He passed at a age most of us would like to get to. Beautifully written blog.

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CIVIAV 3/18/2012 9:52AM

    Will honor your Dad and our friendship and take it all in today John.

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JCDROLSHAGEN 3/17/2012 8:53PM

    So sorry to hear about your Dad's passing.
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WALKNLOVE 3/17/2012 7:23AM

    Thanks for posting. It's a good reminder to keep our hearts focused on those we love. My parents are getting older and age is not always so kind to our health.I am so thankful I still have them and for the Godly legacy they will leave. Your dad left a great legacy in YOU! emoticon

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CARTOONB 3/16/2012 8:50PM

    Well said.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/16/2012 3:15PM

    As a former trauma nurse I learned this lesson well and early. We only pass this way once and need to make the best of it. I'm sure your father did as he raised a fine son. emoticon

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HOLLYJAE 3/16/2012 8:18AM

    It took courage for you to write this blog. Thanks for sharing. I had never read the Lemony Snicket quote before today. What a profoundly accurate description of that feeling you feel when a loved one passes on. On December 4th, 2011 it was one year since my Mom's passing and on April 24th of this year it will be one year since my Dad's passing. I've been thinking about the issues your blog addresses for a year now - even more so in the past month. Somehow I feel less alone knowing others are thinking the same things as I. Thanks again.

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SPARKLISE 3/16/2012 8:06AM

    That's when we realise life goes by fast but it's too late.
That's why the dying say to enjoy life to the fullest.
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MYGOLDENBOYS3 3/16/2012 6:17AM

    A really wonderful blog and ah, so true. We only have one life to live. When our children are little, we think we have all the time in the world. Not too long after that we are watching graduate from HS/College and then getting married and having children of their own. Wow, where does the time go? And when something happens like your father's passing, it puts all time in perspective.

Hugs to you John in this difficult time. I am so happy your father was able to say goodbye.

Take care of yourself.



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NASFKAB 3/16/2012 12:36AM

  thanks for sharing such profound teuth

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REJ7777 3/15/2012 8:56PM

    "It is like walking up the stairs to your bedroom in the dark, and thinking there is one more stair than there is. Your foot falls down, through the air, and there is a sickly moment of dark surprise as you try and readjust the way you thought of things.” What a poignant image of the confusing disorientation after the death of a loved one, or other major tragedy in our lives. There's something "wrong". May God grant you peace of heart as you navigate through the coming weeks and months.
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CLOVER2 3/15/2012 8:54PM

    Thank you for taking the time to share with us. I know it is a difficult place to be, where you are right now. When I lost my Dad I knew for years it was coming, he had COPD, but when it happened I still felt blindsided. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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VIVIANJ5 3/15/2012 5:17PM

    My thoughts and prayers are with you John, thank you for sharing with us.

Take care.

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LYNMEINDERS 3/15/2012 5:02PM

    Thankyou for sharing your thoughts...they are awesome and thought provoking....

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TRAVELGRRL 3/15/2012 3:55PM

    Thank you for your blog. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

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KANSASROSE67 3/15/2012 3:31PM

    A beautiful post. I lost my mom so I understand. God bless you and wrap his loving arms around you as you grieve.

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YOYONOMORE1 3/15/2012 1:21PM

    Thinking of you and what you are going through. Your dad was so right when he said life goes by fast.

Hugs,
Shirl

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GETFIT2LIVE 3/15/2012 11:56AM

    I have been thinking of you and praying for you and your family, John. What a gift that your dad was able to say goodbye, both to him and to the family. It is always too soon, no matter the age, no matter the situation.

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KKINNEA 3/15/2012 11:07AM

    The opening quote exactly describes it.

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MNCYCLIST 3/15/2012 11:01AM

    Thanks for sharing this with us, and God be with you as you settle into the "new normal."

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MISS_VIV 3/15/2012 10:49AM

    Peace and Love

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SLIMMERJESSE 3/15/2012 10:03AM

    I've got tears from this blog. It is lovely. Thanks for sharing.

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SPARKENISTA 3/15/2012 9:59AM

    John--Your pain is palpable, which is understandable. You talk about a lot of universal issues, like the foot fall on the step, which everyone understands but few have the sensitivity or wisdom to comment on much less use to pull others closer.

You are so right about death reminding us what is important in life. Your father was a wise man. I am so sorry for your loss.

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ZURDTA- 3/15/2012 9:47AM

    So sorry for your loss. Your father gave a very wise statement: “I have had a good life Matt, but it went by so, so, fast.”

There is much to take comfort in... but it is a great loss to lose anyone.

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HIPPICHICK1 3/15/2012 9:15AM

    Wishing you peace at this time of sorrow.
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    How lucky for all that he had the opportunity and the wisdom to say goodbye. emoticon

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TWO-TOO-MUCH 3/15/2012 9:01AM

    Yes, your Dad gave a beautiful, parting gift to his loved ones, but I am still sorry for your loss. I hope the days ahead will be filled with beautiful memories to carry you through. And thank you from the bottom of my heart for the timely reminder today. Wishing you peace.

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TEALADY0531 3/15/2012 8:58AM

    Thank you, John, for sharing your heart with us! It's a reminder I need.... emoticon and Blessings....

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    What a gift for your dad to be able to talk to everyone before he passed. emoticon

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My Dad

Sunday, March 11, 2012

Dad left us around 3:00 pm Friday afternoon. his passing was peaceful and dignified and represented how he had lived his life for close to 88 years. In the end congestive heart failure was his cause of death. His funeral will be Monday.

I am doing ok. I had an opportunity to say good bye to him and sort of make my own peace with this process. Yes, I miss him but he isnt suffering any longer and that provides me with the most peace.

Thank all of you for the condolences and the Spark Goodies. They were greatly appreciated. I will be away for most of the week.

Much Love To You All and Be Blessed Today

John

  
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NUNZIATA43 3/24/2012 4:47PM

    My sincere condolences John. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers! God Bless.

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    My heart goes out, you are in my thoughts and prayers.
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WATERMELLEN 3/12/2012 8:19PM

    Sincere condolences on the loss of your beloved father. I am sure you were a good son to him; your love and respect for him shine out in all you did for him.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/12/2012 5:40PM

    I am so sorry, John. I know he had a good life and was a good man to raise a fin son like you. I hope memories of him comfort you.

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GOOFIERNU 3/12/2012 5:27PM

    Have been away from SP for awhile and just heard about this.
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CHILDOFGOD4LIFE 3/12/2012 2:14PM

    John, I am so sorry for the loss of your father. May God give you comfort and peace.

Carol from NE Ohio
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KKINNEA 3/12/2012 12:43PM

    My condolences to you and your family.

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    So sorry for your loss John. My thoughts are will you and your family.
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TEALADY0531 3/12/2012 10:40AM

    I'm so sorry for your loss, John. Be sure to take care of yourself during this grieving time; and allow others to care for you, as well. Don't try to rush this. What a wonful son your father had, and still has! emoticon

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CIVIAV 3/12/2012 10:29AM

    So sorry to hear this John and yet so pleased to hear how you are responding and remembering him with love instead of panic as grief sets in. I was just down in Florida, post heart attack, with my Mom who's hanging in and I am holding her near too.
Will miss you and be thinking of you...

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WORKINGSTIFF 3/12/2012 8:47AM

    John-so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. My father passed away last fall; he was also 88. I'm glad that you had the chance to see him before he passed and I hope that you are doing ok.

You will have good days and you'll have bad days in the time to come. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time. May the memories of your father be a comfort to you.

Take good care of yourself.

Helen

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WALKNLOVE 3/12/2012 7:00AM

    Was just checking in & saw where your father had passed away. I am so sorry for your loss & I pray that God will comfort you & your family during this difficult time. Prayers & hugs, Debbie

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LYNMEINDERS 3/12/2012 4:50AM

    My prayers are with you and yours....

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NASFKAB 3/12/2012 4:39AM

  John



So sorry for your loss prayers for all

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SPARKENISTA 3/11/2012 11:45PM

    John--

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. As you said, he is at peace, so my heart goes out to you and your family, who are left behind to heal the hole left in your hearts.

I know that eventually you will find peace, but that knowledge does not help right now. I pray for you and your family. Please let me know if there is anything else I can do.

I look forward to your return.

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7356WILMA 3/11/2012 11:25PM

  Take care!!

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LADILADIDA 3/11/2012 8:17PM

    I'm sorry to hear about your loss, John. My heart goes out to you and all those who your father touched. How comforting it must have been for him to know - that part of him lives on in you - and you are such a great person. Much love and oodles of self-care as you go through your grieving process. I have missed your presence on sparkpeople the past few days - what an impact YOU make on so many people's lives. I wish you wellness and await your return.

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LIBRARYBELL1 3/11/2012 7:28PM

    I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. My thoughts will be with you!

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TERRIPAL1 3/11/2012 6:40PM

    I'm sorry about your dad,condolences to you and all your family,my prayers are with you during this difficult time!

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INBRAZILFORNOW 3/11/2012 6:19PM

    You and your family are in my prayers.

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    Love and Hugs to you, my friend. emoticon

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IRISHBEANERGAL 3/11/2012 2:46PM

    So sorry for your loss. I wish you and your family peace.

~Irish

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NEELIXNKES 3/11/2012 2:43PM

    Very sorry for your loss. May you continue to find peace and comfort in your memories.

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    So sorry to read your sad news, will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. As you say he is at peace now and in no more pain. emoticon

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CARTOONB 3/11/2012 1:32PM

    Prayers and hugs to you and your family. Take the time you need and we'll be happy to see you when you rejoin us.

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    So sorry to read of your Dad's passing. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family during this time. emoticon

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PRINCESSNURSE 3/11/2012 11:35AM

    You are in my prayers

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HDHAWK 3/11/2012 11:14AM

    Thinking of you and your family John. Your dad lived a long life. Take care.

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DOLLBABE56 3/11/2012 10:50AM

    Oh John, I'm so sorry about your dad.

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AJDOVER1 3/11/2012 10:34AM

    Please take care of yourself. You're in my prayers.

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YOYONOMORE1 3/11/2012 10:20AM

    John so sorry to hear of your dad passing, I am glad it was peaceful, will pray for you and the family. I was with my mom when she passed and with my dad I had been with him all day and had left to go home for a short time and he passed just after I had left, it's hard to see our parents go. Bless you! He sounded like a wonderful person and that he had lived a good life.

Hugs,
Shirl

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    My sympathies to you John. emoticon

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ALLISON145 3/11/2012 10:18AM

    I'm so sorry, John. (hugs)

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TRAVELGRRL 3/11/2012 9:47AM

    Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Yes, there is comfort in knowing he is at peace.

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WENDYSPARKS 3/11/2012 9:41AM

    Sorry for your loss John...you are in my thought and prayers at this time. God Bless You.

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DEBRITA01 3/11/2012 9:27AM

    I am so sorry for your loss, John. I lost my own dad 3 weeks ago, so I know your sadness. Like you, I had the chance to say goodbye and make peace which is a tremendous gift. Be blessed and know that your dad is in God's loving arms. emoticon

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    Bless Bless

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  I am so sorry to hear about your father's passing. I'm praying for you, your Dad, and your loved ones.
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FLORIDAJOE1 3/11/2012 9:05AM

    Hello John,
So sorry to hear about your loss. May God comfort you through this time of grieving. I lost my Dad three years ago and, though I'm 50 years old, I really miss being able to go to him for advice and tell him about my successes and failures.

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KATHRYN1955 3/11/2012 9:05AM

    Thinking of you and your family this week...look after yourself.
Kathy

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KMIRANDA2000 3/11/2012 9:03AM

    Sounds like a life well lived.

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Motivation

Saturday, March 03, 2012



A friend sent this to me so I thought I'd share it with you

  
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MARCYNA 3/12/2012 7:14AM

    You can do it!!!!

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    Love it!

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NASFKAB 3/4/2012 2:35AM

  great as usual

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    Love it!


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    Nice!

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SPARKENISTA 3/3/2012 8:33PM

    John-

Love this! I am going to copy it and save it. Thanks for this.

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Storm Update and Odds and Ends.

Saturday, March 03, 2012

First, and foremost, thanks to all of you who showed concern about the weather situation in Kentucky, Indiana, and Ohio yesterday. In 58 years of life I don't believe I have ever seen this violent of weather this early in the year. We had a lot of rain last spring, but the storms are full of wind, lightning and hail but very little rain.

Yesterday afternoon, three tornadoes touched down roughly within 10 blocks of where I live. The civil defense sirens for this area of town are two blocks from my house. I get a really loud blast when they go off. With all the watches and warnings, schools and businesses closing, and then the sirens going off to alert us to a tornado, it can be quite daunting. Fortunately, none of those tornadoes did any real damage. It appears they touched down for a few seconds and then went back up into the sky. This was the second wave of storms to come through this week. The first wave literally destroyed Harrisburg, Illinois which is about 70 miles to my west. Yesterday storms destroyed the towns of Henryville and Marisburg, Indiana. Those two towns are roughly 100 miles northeast of where I live. We were very fortunate. It hailed for about 5 min., rained for another 10 and scared me half to death for about two hours. Fortunately, all is well.

I would like to clear up a misconception from my last blog on trusting yourself. I received a lot of private feedback scolding me, LOL, about solely trusting my ability and not God's. Point well taken. What I should've added, is what I sincerely believe: God provides the inspiration, we provide the perspiration. I have fallen prey to the trap of throwing everything in God's lap so I can conveniently blame him when things don't work out the way I think they should. I believe God provides me with all the tools I need to do the things I want and need to do. I do not believe God is a marionette nor that I am a puppet and that I have the choice before me each and every day to use or not use those tools, to accept or not accept his guidance and love. Further, I believe the really neat thing about God is regardless of my choice he is there every morning ready to love and support me and give me another opportunity. My failures, in God's eyes are simply opportunities for me to make John a better person. Thank you for your continued support.

Have a blessed Saturday.

  
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OUBACHE 3/7/2012 8:36AM

    My brother and his family live in southern Indiana, but all are safe from the storms. My niece's children's school was destroyed, however. We've had such a mild winter that I'm concerned what spring will be like. Hopefully the tornadoes last week aren't a sign of more severe spring weather to come.

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GIRANIMAL 3/5/2012 12:07PM

    Once again, SO thankful you and yours are safe while sending love to the families of those whose souls had other plans. emoticon

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WORKINGSTIFF 3/4/2012 9:29PM

    Here in Cincinnati I watched the weather closely on Friday. Glad you are ok...

As for trusting in God, as a Christian I believe that God is indeed in full control, but we also have free will. I love a saying I read once, supposedly from the Middle East: "Trust in Allah, but tie up your camel."

There are those who I think believe that if you just ask God for whatever you want, He's supposed to just give it to you. If not, it must be that it wasn't meant to be.

I believe that God provides us with knowledge, faith in ourselves, judgement, and the ability to be the best we can be, but WE have to do the work.

As you say, it's easy to sit back and say, "God will provide," but then not lift a finger for ourselves. It's like that old joke about a man in a flood. A neighbor comes by to give him a ride out and he says, "God will provide." The water gets higher. A boat comes by to get him out, but the man says, "God will provide." The man ends up on the roof of his house in the flood. A helicopter comes by. The man says, "No thanks. God will provide." The man ends up at the pearly gates. He asks God, "What happened? Why didn't you provide for me?" And God tells him, "I sent a car, a boat and a helicopter! What more did you want?"



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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/4/2012 8:20PM

    You are not that far from me, John. I'm probably 84 miles from Harrisburg. I have friends who live there.

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ONEKIDSMOM 3/4/2012 12:59PM

    Hi, nice to meet you... thanks for stopping by my blog this morning. Glad you are safe. I like what you wrote about God's part and our part and the trap of blaming what goes wrong on God. May he continue to bless you with inspiration... first the willingness, then the ability... to live as a better person, no matter the circumstances.

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NASFKAB 3/4/2012 2:34AM

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LYNMEINDERS 3/3/2012 9:42PM

    wesome blog as usual.....
Maybe I read your other blog the way you wrote it as I don't need to say anything......

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SPARKENISTA 3/3/2012 8:32PM

    John--

I am so glad you're okay. Do you have a plan in case of a real tornado touching down and doing damage? Like a cellar?

V-e-r-y S-c-a-r-y ! I hope that G-d continues to protect you and yours.



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NAMAARI 3/3/2012 12:14PM

    Glad you are safe. We went through a tornado back in 2003, and many of my neighbors lost everything. We lost quite a few animals, our barn and some mature trees, but thankfully our house stood...though the basement completely flooded and is still useless. I hope your early weather means the rest of the Spring will be calm and beautiful.

I am of the mindset that God is sovereign and that we just accept His will and know that it's ALWAYS, despite our feelings in the moment, good on us. When I lost my husband in 2003, not in the tornado, but later that year in December from an aneurysm, I remember a lot of people blaming God in our family...he was so young, the children are so young, why did God...? I didn't listen to the 'blame'. I can 't control life or death, not one decision I made affected Shaun's death, and yet there he was dying in my arms in our kitchen very suddenly. That's an event beyond my control, but completely in God's control. I chose to trust Him and know that He was doing me, and my children good, despite the pain, grief, and sorrow. Since those days, I have come to realize that Sorrow and Suffering are amazing teachers and that these things build faith when we continue to know that we can trust Him and trust that no matter what we are going through in the moment that it will be worked out for our good. You're right, our choices do not affect those new mercies He has for us every morning, but I think when we make the right one's, when we trust His work in us, we can soar.

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GERIKRAGH 3/3/2012 11:42AM

    Thank heavens the tornadoes missed you.

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TRULYVISIBLE 3/3/2012 11:31AM

  I am not a religious person but I love the last paragraph. It is written so well and I see so much wisdom in it. I do believe in a higher power, I just don't use the word God. I guess I just don't like the excuses some people use saying well I guess God doesn't want me to do that or have that. I believe in the saying, God helps those that help themselves.

Glad you are safe. Think I'll stick with earthquakes.

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LADILADIDA 3/3/2012 11:28AM

    I am glad you are okay but hoping you are getting the earth beneath your feet today after all that time spent in fear. I lived through a tornado destroying our home while my family was in it when I was five. We all survived but I know that this rude awakening into the world at 5 years old had a lot to do with me wondering if anything will still be there tomorrow but the love of god and of each other. I knew exactly what you meant in your trust blog, I would never doubt otherwise.

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REDSHOES2011 3/3/2012 11:09AM

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NANCYBOAT 3/3/2012 11:08AM

    Glad you are ok.....

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HDHAWK 3/3/2012 11:06AM

    I'm glad you are all safe and sound. I live in tornado country too and it's very scary when the sirens go off.

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FROGGERHKC 3/3/2012 11:02AM

    I saw the news coverage on Harrisburg, such devastation! I am glad you are safe, and hope the storms pass soon!

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Who Do You Trust?

Thursday, March 01, 2012

You might want to start with yourself. If there is no basis or foundation to establish trust, how can you share it with someone else?"

This is a the simple thought that greeted me when I opened my eyes this morning. If I deserve to be successful, to reach all of my goals in life, to be healthy and happy doesn't it all begin with John having faith and trust in his ability to succeed?

Yeah, it's a life time lesson. Yeah, it's just ONE other thing I need to work on and yeah, sometimes, the most profound thoughts God puts in our minds are short, sweet and to the point.

Trust the you that you believe you are.

(I do!!!! emoticon)

  
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SILLYHP1953 4/6/2012 3:15PM

    Maybe that is what is different this time. I am feeling a sense of trust in myself to succeed this time. I've gone five days being abstinent and exercising in the past, and it never lasted. I have a sense of peace and acceptance this time, a knowing that it will work. Something clicked.

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NASFKAB 3/2/2012 1:51AM

  trust you xan do it

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CARTOONB 3/1/2012 10:38PM

    I trust you can do it!

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LYNMEINDERS 3/1/2012 5:24PM

    Woohoo...Amen to that....
God does give us simple thought however they are very empowering and can change our lives....woohooo

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GAL7288 3/1/2012 2:14PM

    So very true. Thanks for your words of wisdom.

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WORKINGSTIFF 3/1/2012 1:13PM

    Great thought!

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NANHBH 3/1/2012 1:01PM

    Great reflection.
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GIRANIMAL 3/1/2012 12:48PM

    Great advice! Of course I have always found it easier said than done emoticon but I TRUST that I can change that too!

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PGNBRI 3/1/2012 10:41AM

    emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/1/2012 10:31AM

    I do trust myself. I am not perfect but I usually come through sooner or later.

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TRULYVISIBLE 3/1/2012 10:06AM

  If you believe in yourself, anything is possible.

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FARRAH511 3/1/2012 8:45AM

    You and God, that's it.

You can do, whatever you set your mind to do.

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