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They Dont Call It A Virtue For Nothing, Do They?

Monday, January 16, 2012

I weighed in this morning. I lost a pound between last Tuesday and today. I weighed ina day early because I'm going to be out of town for close to a week and won't have access to an accurate scale. One of the things I noticed was that I didn't freak out because I only lost a pound. Joan and I got dressed and went for an early morning swim. And while I was walking in water it dawned on me how much I've changed in the past two years since I've embraced the Spark people concept.

They don't call patience a virtue for nothing. Sometimes, it's difficult to sit and wait, knowing that when you're doing the right things they will eventually pay off. I used to sit and analyze everything that went in my mouth the previous week if I didn't end up with the weight loss I had anticipated. I would overanalyze, get stressed out, and generally drive myself crazy for the next week. I would lose 5653 pounds between now and the next time I weighed and if I didn't, buy goodness, that meant I had to up my exercise and starve myself like a contemplative monk. That sort of thinking usually lead to a 5 pound gain. That 5 pound gain usually leads to a lot of frustration.

This time I believe will be different. This time I approached the loss as a loss and with great joy. I believe I am finally learning that this is a journey and not an event. I believe I am finally learning that this is a way of life and not a "diet." I believe I'm happier, more content and definitely less stressed out. I am not going to worry about why it was only a 1 pound loss. It was a loss.

The most difficult thing for us in this world of 2012 is to be patient. It means we have to play the hand we’re dealt. It means sometimes there's no explanation for the weight gain as sometimes there's no explanation for the weight loss.

Follow the process, drink your water, do your exercise, and love yourself. Sounds simple don't it, lol? I am learning to throw in a healthy dose of patience as well. It may have taken me a little over two years, but I believe I am finally getting the hang of this.

Have a blessed Monday.

  
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SILLYHP1953 1/25/2012 11:49AM

    "Follow the process, drink your water, do your exercise, and love yourself." Simple, yes. Easy, no. It sounds easy, it really does. Maybe it's that process I need to follow that trips me up. Patience...ok.

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ROCKYRD1 1/25/2012 4:01AM

    Early morning swim - now that sounds like fum - we focus so much on the number loss when we should really focus on what we gain....life

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LYNMEINDERS 1/24/2012 10:51PM

    You always write what i need to read.....

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MARCYNA 1/19/2012 4:08AM

    Thanks for this very useful blog!!!!
Is patience what I need, too??? I am really disappointed with my dance classes and I really have no idea what I should do.....any ideas?????

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SHERRYJVP 1/17/2012 6:10PM

    you are moving in the right direction! on many levels. YAY YOU!

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GIRANIMAL 1/17/2012 6:05PM

    There is quite the learning curve here, isn't it? I am still trying not to get on the scale every single day, and trying not to panic at every one-pound uptick, and trying not to stress out when I only lose half of what has crept back on or nothing at all. And we're talking about maybe a five-pound window, tops! Since I've lost 75, how freakin' crazy does that sound? LOL

Proud of you for your patience and your perseverance. You're a shining example, John!

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MYOWNHERO 1/17/2012 1:36PM

    Congrats on losing a pound! Good for you!

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HLPRATT 1/17/2012 10:36AM

    It took me six months to lose 15 lbs. If I hadn't had patience I would have gave up. Some weeks the weight loss suprised me and other weeks it dismayed me. I learned as I went and I continue to learn. It's a process and it does work-It is possible.

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NEEDTOLOSE100LB 1/17/2012 8:36AM

    Thank you for this blog...it reminds me that I am not the only one struggling with this issue.
Ah, patience, it is a virtue, but sometimes it is as the one vulture told the other vulture..."patience, my a$$...I'm gonna kill something!".
I have been going through a lot the past few months and unbelievably, I have managed to lose about 30 pounds anyway. I know it is because of my friends on Spark and also a very good old friend that I have reunited with that remembers me from my late teens...yeah, long ago. He reminded me of my worth and of the worth of patience. It is paying off in many ways, even though I would have liked to see the payoff long before now.

Keep up the good work. Listen to the world around you...take the time to do that...I find that there are bits and pieces of wisdom and meaning in all kinds of things that we encounter throughout the day...the words of a song (or two or three...), the laughter of a friend or a child or a love, the breeze blowing the spray off the fountain, the sun shining down and warming our hearts...I know you appreciate these things, but do you take the time (are you patient) and see how they make you feel? It takes our minds off our ills to look around us and appreciate what we see and hear.
Have fun, eat well, exercise your heart out and love yourself.
Have a great day, John.

Laurie

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NASFKAB 1/17/2012 1:26AM

  Congrats

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7356WILMA 1/17/2012 12:01AM

  Way to go on the pound lost!! You are doing it!!

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CARTOONB 1/16/2012 10:19PM

    Congratulations!

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DUTCHIEKIWI 1/16/2012 8:59PM

    Enjoy your time away, and you're doing fantastic!

Dutchie

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SPARKENISTA 1/16/2012 6:32PM

    Hang in there! As long as you know you're doing the right thing, the weight will come off. Good luck on your trip!

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HDHAWK 1/16/2012 6:26PM

    Very good point and I'm practicing it with a vengeance right now. .8 in 2 weeks, but I know it will come off if I keep working the plan. I still don't like how slow it is, but I'm not letting it get me down.

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KKINNEA 1/16/2012 3:07PM

    Great message for all of us to remember.

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EXCUSES-BE-GONE 1/16/2012 2:43PM

    Congrats on switching your mind set from"diet" to healthy life style! Congrats on that pound you lost. emoticon

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HAPPYSOUL91 1/16/2012 1:37PM

    It really takes patience to practice patience

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RSTENNER 1/16/2012 10:00AM

    Keep on Keeping on John. Now, what are your plans for exercise while you are gone a week? Set yourself up for success and find a pool where you are going or some kind of exercise to do so you stay in your exercise routine. I think you've got it chap. How about seeing "less" of you in 2012? That's what I plan to do. Good Luck! emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/16/2012 9:21AM

    I think most of us need to learn the virtue of patience. Congrats on the pound lost!!

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WENDYSPARKS 1/16/2012 9:11AM

    emoticon I am doing better also....it took some time though....wishing you continued good luck!

Wendy

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JECKIE 1/16/2012 9:06AM

    Hey, that's one pound you don't have to carry around any more! I wish I lost a pound a week! ;) Great job!

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CMHARRISON12 1/16/2012 8:52AM

    Thanks so much for the reminder. I can over analyze and it just keeps me in the "bad place" in my head. I'm drinking an extra water as a "cheers" to you today! emoticon

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Make It a Better Place To Live............

Sunday, January 15, 2012

No doubt about it, is his become a "me first" world. We are consumed with ourselves, our activities, and our well-being. Given a healthy balance this is fine, but when it gets to the point that all were interested in is what happens to us, then things are out of balance. I believe that each of us was put on this earth for a purpose and a large part of that purpose is to help other people. So I'd like to issue you a challenge this week. Go out of your way to do something meaningful for somebody else that will have an amazingly positive affect on their lives. I am not talking about paying off someone's mortgage or giving them a job. I am talking about doing something that we often deem small and insignificant that can change the course of someone's day, week, or life. If you have followed my blogs long enough you will know I've told the story a number of times about the lady at the bus stop.

A few summers back, when I would walk every morning I would pass the same person standing by the same bus stop waiting for the same bus at the same time. As I walked past I would always smile and say hello. I rarely received a response. Most mornings it was the night of ahead or slight smile and that was it. It was sometime in mid-August as I walked past her that I heard her say "Excuse me." I thought I might've dropped something. I turned around and saw she was walking towards me.

"I just wanted to thank you for that smile and your “hello” every morning." She said. "You have no idea how big of a difference that made in my day considering everything I've got going on in my life. I actually look forward to you walking and your smile. It helped me get through the day and I just wanted to thank you."

I must've mumbled” thank you” or something like that continued on my walk, mentally scratching my head and wondering why me being me made someone's day. After I got home and was sitting on the front porch gulping down a bottle of water it dawned on me that the only thing I really have to offer are the gifts I've been given to help make this world a better place to live. That simple hello to a person who seemed as if they were at the end of their rope made the difference in their life and I suspect the lives of those around them. It didn't cost anything, it didn't give me any recognition, but it gave me a deep sense of satisfaction to know that in some small way I had helped another human being.

So that is my challenge to you this week. Do something for somebody that they will never ever have a chance to be able to repay you for, keep it to yourself, and enjoy the satisfaction of knowing this planet is a much better place to live on.

  
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SILLYHP1953 1/25/2012 11:46AM

    Your stories really touch my heart. I've kept my heart guarded vigilently since I was about nine. My wall has cracked now and then. I will get it torn down. I do try and help other's lives but I will be more conscious of it now.

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GIRANIMAL 1/17/2012 6:01PM

    I don't think I recall the bus story either! Great one. And oddly, I just indirectly had such an opportunity, and I am glad I took it. It's so easy to think, "Oh, what could I do/have to offer?" or "Someone else will do it." But if everyone thinks that...well, you know the rest.



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ZURDTA- 1/16/2012 6:07AM

    Lovely.

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NASFKAB 1/16/2012 4:56AM

  Great blog as usual

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EXCUSES-BE-GONE 1/15/2012 11:41PM

    This is the first time I heard the Bus Story. Thanks for sharing it, very touching.

I agree with you , our greater purpose is to serve . It might just be lifting another fellow human up with an encouraging word or a simple smile. We should watch for opportunities to show kindness to another.

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JCDROLSHAGEN 1/15/2012 9:58PM

    Thank you for your profound words. I will take up the challenge. Have a good week!

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CARTOONB 1/15/2012 9:51PM

    I will watch for opportunities...and not tell you about it!

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7356WILMA 1/15/2012 8:27PM

  This is something that I already try to do daily I hope, but I am taking you up on your challenge and will make a conscious effort to do so!

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MKPRINCESS007 1/15/2012 4:55PM

    As always , John......you have a heart of gold. Love that about you. I agree, I could scream sometimes when I hear the CONSTANT self centered perception some people have. I often think I might be a "freak" or something because I place myself in second place most of the time. In my work, I give freely of whatever I can......my self, my resources......I just don't know any other way.

I love the concept of "paying it forward" and simply doing for others without any benefit to ourselves. That is the true meaning of life, in my opinion.

Hope you have a great week,
Karen

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DEE797 1/15/2012 4:42PM

    John, I just love coming to your page and reading your blogs. You have such a way of putting things into words and motivating me to do better each day. Wishing you continued success on your journey! emoticon

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NUNZIATA43 1/15/2012 1:29PM

    You motivated me to write up 2 cards for a couple of friends that are suffering due to health and death. I keep putting it off - NO LONGER! Appreciate the insights FRIEND! emoticon

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TRULYVISIBLE 1/15/2012 12:07PM

  Here Here to the US theory and Bye Bye to the ME theory. On my page it says my favorite saying is, One person can make a difference and everyone should try. I believe that and is especially true when we are going through a difficult time in our life.

My small contribution to this here would be to weekly go to the spark members just joining area and welcome someone. Now I can't find where they are as they were replaced with Sparkers I may want to friend.

I checked the I liked this box because I think this is a great message that is communicated well by your great writing.

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SPARKENISTA 1/15/2012 10:56AM

    John--This is a very meaningful blog. It's funny that most of my fellow tenants complain bitterly about our super and landlord. Someone told me that there was even a petition going around to withhold rent. They just don't respond to them.

When I have an issue they respond so quickly, it makes my head spin. I didn't know why this was. One day, in responding to a flood I had in my kitchen (okay, it was a BIG issue--one of three floods) the landlord told me that I was "one of his favorite tenants". You could have blown me away with a feather. He has thousands of tenants (and there's a contest? Who knew?) I asked why. He told me that it is because "I am a mensche." (Yiddish for 'a good person'). He meant that I work with him and don't bite his head off (as much as I want to. Longer story.) This, too, is me being me. The super says the same thing.

Although they may be better off, in some ways, than your lady at the bus stop, they have their trials and tribulations in this economy, too.

I have also tutored the daughter of a Spanish-only-speaking woman I know, for free, because it was the right thing to do. As always, you make a great point.

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HAPPYSOUL91 1/15/2012 9:46AM

    excellent, we just don't know how we can impact people around us

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HDHAWK 1/15/2012 9:42AM

    I try to remember to do this at work daily. Some of our students have no one at home who cares about them and they look at school as a safe place. We get so busy that sometimes it's easy to let it slip. What a great feeling it must have been when that lady thanked you!

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Sharing My Painful Experience, YOU are not alone.

Thursday, January 12, 2012

I didn't realize there were so many of us. I thought I was the only one. Actually, that made it worse. Imagine that you're standing all alone on an island in the middle of nothing. It causes you to stay awake at night. A few weeks ago, however, a Spark friend who had been missing in action reached out to me in an effort to get back on track. It seems they were suffering from the same malady that I was. Call it being down and out, call it the blues, call it depression, call it whatever you want, I found out there are more of us who have it, then don't.

In May of 2011 on a warm, rainy day, Joan and I went to the grand opening of a new health food store. On our way to the car, I slipped on some wet pavement and fell. As I fell I twisted my lower back. We had to drive about 45 miles to get home and every mile was full of pain and agony. I just couldn't get comfortable. That night I tossed and turned as I tried to get to sleep. I had pulled muscles before. During the course of working out and running but I had never had a pain like this. I even tried sleeping in my recliner in our living room. So I did what you do when you pull a muscle. You rest, apply heat and stretch. In a few days the pain went away and other than being slightly tender, you wouldn't have known I was hurt. A few weeks later my hamstring muscles started to tighten up. It didn't matter if I exercised or didn't my legs started to feel real tight. I started walking like Frankenstein's monster. Everyone close to me kept telling me to "walk right." The problem was I couldn't. As a chiropractor explained to me a little later on my hamstring muscles were actually shortening up.

I went to the doctor. The doctor told me to stretch more and that would take care of the problem. She did order some back x-rays and told me when they returned that I was "getting old." Two weeks later I was back in her office. Now I was in pain. My calf muscles were cramping, my feet were cramping and it was really difficult to move around. She ordered an MRI. Three days later she suggested I see a neurosurgeon. Talk about being scared. I went from stretching to potentially having back surgery. I was fortunate enough to be able to see the neurosurgeon a week later. He poked and prodded at me told me to push my feet against his hands, reviewed my MRI looked up at me and said, "Why are you here?" He told me there was nothing wrong with me, that I was obese and that I needed to walk. Back to my family doctor I went.

While all this is going on my mobility is diminishing. It hurt to get out of the chair. I couldn't walk without fear of falling. I realize a lot of this was mental and that I really wasn't going to fall but it only made me tenser. I didn't want to go anywhere; I didn't want to do anything. I just want to be left alone. It got harder and harder to walk. Each step was full of pain and agony. I went to physical therapy for three weeks and that only made it worse. I finally saw a chiropractor who was able to give me some relief. But is all this was going on. I got deeper and deeper into a state of depression. I want from my bedroom to my office to the living room to the kitchen and back to my bedroom. If I could deal with you on the phone, everything was fine. I got so tired of people coming up to me saying "What's wrong with you?"

During the past two years I have become very active. I had run and three 5K’s, had started spinning, and was seriously looking at beginning triathlon training. I had lost 79 pounds and felt great. Then my world came crashing down. I actually had dreams at night where I was running. There was no pain and I was just running and running and oh gosh it felt good. I would wake up in the morning, get out of bed, and the pain would return and I would sink deeper and deeper.

Since every healthcare provider I had visited told me there was nothing wrong with me I decided to stop spending money and to treat myself. I was starting to get scared because I didn't want to leave the house. I thought the whole world was laughing at me. The people from my gym, who were my friends, suddenly stopped calling. Right after Thanksgiving I started visiting the therapy pool at my gym. I walk back and forth for 30 min. each day. At first, those 30 min. were filled with agony. I couldn't keep my balance, I couldn't walk without pain and I felt like everyone was watching me. Slowly I have started to regain my balance, and three days out of seven I am walking in the water without pain. I noticed when I am on land, LOL, which my legs are not as tight and along with it, my attitude and demeanor have improved to. It's a long journey. I'm not sure I'm even halfway there, but the one thing I do know is that I made the decision that if this was going to beat me I wasn't going to take a called third strike. I was going to go down swinging. Falling down in the water provides you with a sense of security and a unique ability to laugh at yourself.


I'm sharing this with you because I'm sure there are many of you out there who are like me. Many of you who feel like you want to give up. I checked out mentally and emotionally for about six months and now I'm back and by the way, I have your back to. So if you'll excuse me, it's almost time to go walk in water. Ever great day.

  
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WALKIETALKIE 2/20/2012 5:55AM

    So weird. You've described a pretty similar experience to one I've had recently.I was starting triathlon training last fall and hurt my back during a personal training session. One of the machines didn't fit my body and I'm so short I could not adjust it correctly so I thought I would learn about using free weights. I totally overworked my back and ended up not being able to walk, stand, sit, lay flat, pretty much couldn't do anything. I've gone from walking over 5 miles a day to less than 10 a week. After finding a chiropractor that gave me relief, my back feels about 95%. It's a struggle for me to get back out there and it's all mental. I tried too return to exercising too soon. I made the mistake of trying to ride a stationary bike and fatigued the same muscle, knocked my back out of adjustment and had another setback. I decided to take a couple of weeks off. Now I'm wondering if I will ever get back to where I was? It bothers me that I have been so easily knocked off center by one muscle that most of my life I never knew existed. Now I've decided to face several other medical issues that I've been avoiding/ignoring. In the back of my mind I wonder if I'm just making excuses. I'm gaining weight and I feel like I've lost control of my weight, my diet, my exercise program.

I remember that you blogged about your hamstring back problems last summer. I'm glad you are still doing the best that you can. I needed to read your blog now. I need to own my injury and just work with it. It's part of me and I can't wish it away. Changes. I'm still adjusting to them

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DONNA088 2/7/2012 9:07PM

  Keep up the good work!

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MARYHENNIG 2/1/2012 11:21PM

  Thanks for posting. You blog will spread a Spark for many. Congratulations on your progress. Enjoy the journey.

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LUCKYONE60 2/1/2012 11:14AM

    We love you here and are glad to hear that you are doing well. Your voice is an important addition to the "Family" so thank you for posting. You are inspiring a lot of people today to just keep going. Keep up the good work and give yourself a pat on the back from me!

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JDELEON81 1/31/2012 9:18PM

    Love this blog. Glad you're coming back to us.Good luck with everything!

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MERRICK549 1/31/2012 10:59AM

    I wanted to tell you that your story really struck a cord. I have had the similar problem since June, I was hurt at work and the Doctors tell me there is nothing I can do, but walk with a a cane and take pain pills. I personally hate taking pills, so I have decided to work out and lose as much weight as I possibly can to help. When I was hurt I grew very depressed, much like you described and being only 29 I just receded from all of my friends. I know am on track and just started doing this, so good luck to you sir. You're an inspiration.

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-CHERYL 1/31/2012 1:04AM

    Yeah depression is a follower of medical issues. It's a vicious cycle. Since I had strokes at age 32 and was stuck in a wheelchair until I learned to walk again I've had a serious fear of falling and breaking something and ending up in the wheelchair again.

I've learned how to fall with minimum impact. My stroke ankle will suddenly just "give out" and I'll fall, my daughter cracks up (if I'm not injured) because apparently she can see by the look on my face the "Oh well" moment when I just fold in and drop, in hopes of not injuring myself more by flailing and grabbing onto things.

I did have a period recently where my left foot (my stroke foot) hurt so bad if I started walking a bit fast. It felt like I was walking on a brick, every step was agony! The only relief was a painkiller, but I didn't want to take them forever. I started taking Baclofin 3 times a day for the stiffness in my foot. Then about 30 minutes before my walk I take a Flexoril (a muscle relaxer) and a couple Ibuprofen for inflammation and so far its working.

It is so disheartening to work hard toward a goal then have medical roadblocks. Keep on trekking!

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CALLIKIA 1/30/2012 12:09PM

    *nods* Every word of this means so much to me. Keep fighting the good fight...we gotta keep fighting.

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LUNADRAGON 1/28/2012 4:31PM

    I so feel what you have been through. Coming back after injury is not easy. Keep up the encouraging words!

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SILLYHP1953 1/25/2012 11:41AM

    I have a magnet on my refrigerator that I love by Winston Churchill. It says "If you're going through hell...keep going". I'm glad you kept going.

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MYOWNHERO 1/17/2012 1:39PM

    "Can't keep Johnny down"

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DUTCHIEKIWI 1/16/2012 8:57PM

    You have been a great inspiration to me over the last years. I have admired you in so many ways. Your persistence, your positivity, your compassion for others.
You have been a brilliant human being to everyone around you, and to be dealt such a nasty card was the last thing you deserved.

You are you, and like me and many of us, we fall down countless times. It's all about getting up again... and reaching out to those that are always willing to give us a helping hand. Our vision gets blurred, sometimes more often in the difficult times in our lives.

My friend, this time it's even harder for you to get up after falling down, but all our eyes are focused on you, as we know, we have SEEN what you can achieve.
As all our eyes are watching you, so are all our hands reaching out... to offer you that helping hand when you need it most.

You have and will always be there for us, as we... my true friend... will always be here for you.

I know I speak for many of us.

Keep swimming, I for one, am VERY proud of you!!

Dutchie

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BETHANYBOUND 1/15/2012 9:14AM

    This is all part of the great journey of life - dealing with setbacks and the emotional and physical pain and chaos they create. I think that it is how we want to live our lives and the limitations that we are willing to accept that motivates us. Thanks for not staying down for the third strike. There are more of us than you think and we all need to accept our own personal responsibility for our health like you did. Bravo.

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GOOFIERNU 1/14/2012 6:07PM

    I'm sort of there now with this hamstring injury. I have to keep telling myself to be patient. A doctor friend of mine told me to stop thinking in weeks and think in MONTHS for it to heal and finally be back to what it was before. (Long drawn out sigh....) What gets me down is that I had JUST figured out how to run without having an asthma attack. It felt WONDERFUL! And then I got hurt. But I REFUSE to give in to this. I'm down 50 pounds and I don't ever want it back! I WILL beat this! I WILL get back to running!!!!

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CAMEY13 1/14/2012 3:49PM

    John, I know what you mean.I have the arthritis all over, but on top of that had to have cataract surgury, which left me being able to read, without glasses, when there is plenty of light. Then came the double herina in my incisions I had years ago, and now it is 6 weeks Monday and have a long way before healed. Well, if that isn't enough I have a membrane over the retina and have to go Tues for pictures to see how far it has advanced and may have surgury. It didn't end there. Had a mamo and they found something, so went back and now have to have a biosphy as they found a nodule, so I know what you mean about pain and we need to air our problems with each other to get them off our chest. Hope you get better soon. Let us know how you lost the weight. Thanks for joining Tips for Writing, Wellness and Weight.

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NASFKAB 1/14/2012 5:19AM

  Thanks for sharing

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AJDOVER1 1/13/2012 10:43PM

    Thank you. When I'm in pain I'm full of fear. I so admire your courage in looking at your pain and working through it.

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SPARKENISTA 1/13/2012 1:32PM

    John--I feel your pain--literally--if not to the same extent. While your situation was more extreme than mine, I can relate. I am so glad that you had no physical issues. I'm sure that you were relieved when the neurologist sent you home.

I have something very constructive to share. While I know that WE have to lose weight, there is a phenomenal book, "Healing Back Pain" by John E. Sarno, M. D. He was the head of the Rusk Institute of Rehab @ NYU--a world-class facility. He was a back surgeon (I said "was" b/c I believe he is retired).

In any case, he has discovered that many times, when we are tense, the muscles tighten up and cause pain in various areas of the body. His book addresses this and how to get better. He cured my sciatica many years ago. His book is a best-seller.

One of my physical therapy students recommended it back in the day b/c her grandmother, a 90-something Holocaust survivor who spoke only Yiddish was bedridden with back pain for years. My student's mother took her grandmother to a class given by Sarno. She translated his words into Yiddish. The grandmother started walking around and was functioning.

Please get the book. I do believe it will help--particularly since the doctors have ruled out an underlying issue. PLEASE!

And, have a great weekend!
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EILI359 1/13/2012 12:19PM

    Thanks for a great Blog John- I can certainly relate. I'm glad you're starting improve - we've got your back too xx
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TRISTAROSE 1/13/2012 5:17AM

    Hope the water therapy gives you the relief that you are looking for. Just don't give up!!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/13/2012 12:05AM

    Most of us have been there at one time or another. You just have to take it a day at a time, do the best you can, and hope that you get a break.

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7356WILMA 1/13/2012 12:04AM

  Thank you for sharing, I had similar pain this last year, but fortunately most of the pain was repaired when I had my hip replaced. So I was able to see an end to the pain. Sounds like you are doing everything right and what is best for you. I'm still hate the attitude of Dr's who blow you off because you are overweight. My ortho just dismissed me because of the weight until he found out that I had just lost 30lbs, only then was he willing to talk to me about having the surgery.

May your journey continue to work for you and may you continue to improve!



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GEEMAWEST 1/12/2012 9:33PM

    This is so me right now, John. The back pain keeps getting worse and the doctors all just say 'well, when you get older you have back pain.' I feel like a real wuss.

I'm so glad that I have friends like you on Spark. You're more encouraging than any doctor and cheaper, too!

Love ya Dude!

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DEBRITA01 1/12/2012 8:34PM

    Thanks for sharing. Wishing you improved strength and mobility each day, as well as, relief from your pain. I think your water therapy is the ticket...glad you are taking control and matters into your own hands. Good luck and God bless...

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DEE797 1/12/2012 4:18PM

    So glad to hear that you are getting better. I'm not dealing with a injury but have been down and depressed for a while now. Thanks so much for sharing this blog with us as I really needed to read it.

Wishing you continued success on your journey wherever it leads you. emoticon

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GETFIT2LIVE 1/12/2012 4:15PM

    John, you have been down a long, difficult road; I hate it when the medical community brushes off very real issues and says (either directly or indirectly) it's all in your head, or lose weight and that will solve everything. I'm glad you started treating yourself and have found something that is helping; no one knows our bodies quite so well, and it sounds like you are on the right track to get permanent relief. I'm also so glad that even though you say you checked out emotionally and mentally for about six months, you never completely left here. Keep the spark alive; you are worth the effort.

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JENNY888 1/12/2012 3:51PM

    As you regain your strength John think back to how great it felt in your dream to be able to run like you did. Pay attention to all of the sensory feeling you had in that dream. Live it completely in your mind. I was listening to an audio book of Jillian Michaels while I was on the treadmill a couple of days ago. She was talking about this same thing, how we have to have more than just a vision. We have to live that vision in our minds with all of our senses and imagine all the ways that vision will make us feel both physically and mentally. I wish you the best in your recovery.,

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SHERRYJVP 1/12/2012 12:56PM

    Yeah for you!!!!! thanks for sharing. emoticon

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KJDOESLIFE 1/12/2012 12:37PM

    Thank you for sharing. I'm glad you took action to help yourself. It sucks that your doctors didn't want to listen or help you.

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CMA444 1/12/2012 11:33AM

    Thank you for sharing John! I really do appreciate hearing your story!

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GIRANIMAL 1/12/2012 11:29AM

    Boy, you always have good timing. I needed to hear this right now, after being up at 3 a.m. in various kinds of pain and finally just crying in frustration. You know most of the details, but I'll share again for the sake of encouraging your other faithful readers.

I've had headaches -- many of them migraines -- for the past 20 years. For the past, oh, nearly 10 years, I've also been suffering low back pain. I likely have a mild form of fibromyalgia. I've seen more neurologists, rheumatologists, chiropractors, massage therapists and physical therapists than I care to count. This past year my ongoing digestive problems that I just thought were normal started to take center stage as I was coming home or waking up doubled over more often than I was cool with.

I just turned 35. I'm young and supposed to be vibrant. Chronic pain is rarely a visible ailment and therefore people rarely understand.

But through the pain I FINALLY reached deep down somewhere and found the courage to get serious and lose 75 pounds, and yes, losing that weight has contributed to my relative improvement. I still hurt but I am far, far, FAR more mobile.

But to do so, I further slacked on sleep. I ran on 5 hours a night for years, and now I'm paying the price for that. As I tried to fix my sleep patterns, about half of my exercise began to suffer...and now, my pain and mobility problems are rearing their mean ol' heads again.

And so it goes. I'm really frustrated right now, but I'm not giving up. I want to. I've even tried to! But somehow, once you've known a healthier version of you -- even if there's still loads of room for improvement as there probably always will be -- somehow there suddenly IS NO other option. There's nothing to quit and go to. The alternative is not just unacceptable, it actually becomes ... well, nonexistent.

So! Onward and upward. Or at least forward. The point is we just keep on keepin' on, as the saying goes. emoticon

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PGNBRI 1/12/2012 11:16AM

    Glad you're starting to improve John! And it just goes to show that WE are our own best advocate. :-)

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HAPPYSOUL91 1/12/2012 11:11AM

    There isn't anything worse when something is really wrong and nobody can find it. Congratulations on going into the water

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PEYTON0914 1/12/2012 11:10AM

    Thank you for sharing your story. I can definitely relate. I am back today as well and lurking around the boards for inspiration so thank you!!!

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TRULYVISIBLE 1/12/2012 11:10AM

  I am glad the water gives you release and helps. I hope you continue to improve and that the healing is in the steps you are taking.

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QUIKSYLVER 1/12/2012 10:32AM

    I'm dealing with my first injury - back - right now. It is so frustrating! I am eating everything in sight, and no exercise obviously. I can totally understand your situation.

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HEALTHYASHLEY 1/12/2012 10:28AM

    That is scary. Thank you for sharing your story. Too many of us give up and you should be proud you didn't just let the doctor's bounce you around. You advocated for yourself and are taking the steps to improve. You can do it.

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KKINNEA 1/12/2012 10:15AM

    Boy, nothing makes me more irritated than doctors who misplace blame on someone being overweight - it's no wonder people feel beat up!!

I'm glad to hear the pool is working for you - I know how much you wanted to get back to running and hope that's still a possibility for you! Maybe we should start paying ourselves instead of the doctors!

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ZURDTA- 1/12/2012 9:59AM

    Oh John, what a setback! My setbacks have been on a smaller scale, but injury and illness have dogged my efforts. It is scary to get back to it... and it is demoralising when you know you were so much fitter before. BUT we keep on going... step by step.

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CAROLYN0107 1/12/2012 9:56AM

    Welcome BACK. Thanks for sharing your story. Have a good walk in the water!!!
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HDHAWK 1/12/2012 9:51AM

    I'm glad you are fighting back John. I am too, although with little scale success so far, but I'm not giving up. I know you won't either! emoticon

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My Inner Child

Wednesday, January 11, 2012


Even I can be a bit silly at times, lol

  
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SILLYHP1953 1/25/2012 11:35AM

    My inner child really enjoyed this...now I just need to get down on the floor and play.

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MYOWNHERO 1/17/2012 1:49PM

    Love this!

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NASFKAB 1/14/2012 5:18AM

  Loved it

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MANILUS 1/12/2012 2:18AM

    Excellent words of advice, it can be a real chore to let that inner child out but necessary. Have a great day!

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CARTOONB 1/11/2012 11:25PM

    You have an adorable inner child!!!

I don't think I can play with my toes...they're too far away! LOL!

Great blog and hope you had an incredible day too!

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RSTENNER 1/11/2012 5:55PM

    John, you are just the best! You tickle my toes! I love your blogs and I'm always amazed at the talent that you have. You need to market yourself as an inspirational speaker buddy! Thanks so much for the uplift!

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BRENDABUNNY 1/11/2012 3:49PM

    Loved it wonderful very cute and great blog..Thanks John emoticon

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AJDOVER1 1/11/2012 2:58PM

    Enjoy the joy and share it with someone else -- wise words from your inner child to mine.
Thank you!

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7356WILMA 1/11/2012 1:51PM

  I love'd this!!! emoticon

One of my goals this year is to stop and smell the roses so I think I will throw sometimes enjoying that inner child in me.

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TRULYVISIBLE 1/11/2012 11:16AM

  This post was so clever! Cute little baby with wise words coming out of it. I am all for being playful. It definitely keeps you young. Thanks for the early morning smile and the great reminder.

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GAL7288 1/11/2012 10:59AM

    Hi John! Thanks for posting. You are right, and I include myself with those people who seem to never have time to even truthfully smile through the day, it is really important to have the time and space to let go and enjoy, be a child again for at least a few moments. I know life is to be taken seriously because after all our future is at stake but sometimes we take it more serious than we have to, and this is a great reminder that the girl that loved to play around, or just lay on the carpet and watch cartoons is still there, somewhere inside waiting to be released.

Have a great day! As always very inspirational

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TRISTAROSE 1/11/2012 10:59AM

    emoticon Blog .... Love your inner child!

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RACHEALTHACKER 1/11/2012 10:58AM

    I love this

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RR1_RR1 1/11/2012 10:24AM

    Lol, Im glad you found your inner child! emoticon

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DARE2LIVE2011 1/11/2012 9:44AM

    Hysterical! This was great. I love those calendars too. Have a great day! emoticon

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My Fresh Start Yields Some Results

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

"Starting over."
We say that a lot to ourselves don't we? Especially this time of year. Even though the skies are gray the trees are bare and the weather often very gloomy and cold January seems to be the time of year that we allow ourselves the opportunity to "start over." When May or June rolls around, we've often forgotten what it was like to "start over." Most of our goals have fallen by the wayside, or we've come up with a convenient excuse to move onto something bigger, better or different. I'm no different. Each year I sit down and tell myself I'm going to be healthier, more active and earn more money. I’ll pay off all of my bills, increase my business and grow some new hair to boot. Usually by mid-February I have gotten so confused and so lost in trying to keep track of all these goals and objectives that I throw my hands up in the air. You may experience the same thing. It's maddening isn't it? Every year we start over with the best of intentions and every year we seem to get derailed. I didn't realize it until I read something the other day that said 97% of people who set goals do not reach them and the number one reason people gave for not reaching their goals is procrastination. It's the old "Oh I'll have time to get that later." I'm one of the world's worst offenders. There is always something more important more timely or more bright and shiny to attract my attention and divert me from my goals.

I started to notice as I got older, that most of my goals were "retreads." They were the same goals spoke differently for a different year. I guess I figured that if I called them something other than what they were I might be able to reach them. There's not much difference between losing weight and getting healthy, is there? If you strive to get healthy, losing weight is a natural byproduct. There isn't a lot of difference between becoming fit in running the 5K, is there? So with each New Year I set out to fool myself. It was a brand new goal. I have to laugh, because each year, roundabout March, I'd be stuck in the same quagmire. This year I decided to do something different. I decided that I was going to look at all the behavior from the past year, 2011, and see where I had gotten off track. No sense rewriting goals that I hadn’t reached anyway, maybe it was time to examine my behavior. Last week, I spent the better part of the week, reflecting on 2011. That was pretty difficult I had to look at my behaviors as they related to the goals I set for myself and as I began to examine them I began to see that I was getting in my own way. That can often be a bitter pill to swallow. It involves standing naked before an emotional mirror and looking at all the blemishes, all the smudges and all the smears.
It asks us to do something we are not quite used to doing – avoiding blame. You know the routine, so do I. When faced with an insurmountable task we look for someone else or something else to use as a reason or excuse for not accomplishing the task. Oh, it doesn't get us any closer to our goal, but it makes life more livable. This year I decided to look at my behavior in 2011 or as Zig Zigler said, "You have to remove, your stinking thinking."

I received more than one e-mail, phone call, text message asking where I was last week and if everything was okay. I had to chuckle a little bit. Although I had a seminar to conduct on Friday, I spent the better part of the week reflecting on what behaviors could be adjusted from 2011 and most importantly what I learned from them those behaviors that'll help me in 2012.

The proof is, as they say, in the pudding. For our purposes let's hope the pudding is low-fat. By beginning to adjust my behaviors and taking a hard look at my thought process I was able to drop 4 pounds last week.

I will keep you posted.




  
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SILLYHP1953 1/25/2012 10:00AM

    You did EXACTLY what I need to do and fear to do and, I guess, refuse to do. Why is it so scary to me. I must do it, I know that, I must do it to grow, to change, to live.

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NASFKAB 1/12/2012 1:03AM

  CONGRATS ON YOUR LOSS

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/11/2012 1:06PM

    I had to laugh as years ago I made resolutions and then one year found that they were the same ones every year, like my brain was a computer and just pulled up the Resolutions File. I looked at them and realized that I actually did work on most of them and was somewhat successful but it was depressing to have a check list you could not check off as done because basically they were vague goals with no means to measure them nor an end. "Achieve world peace." LOL. I finally decided to stop waiting for a special day to straighten up but just to do my best on any given day like I was anyway.

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MARCYNA 1/11/2012 5:12AM

    That's great, John, I love this blog!!!! emoticon

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ALLISON145 1/10/2012 11:46PM

    Great job John!!

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SPARKENISTA 1/10/2012 10:48PM

    John--What you are saying about goals is universal. However, without trying there is no succeeding. As always, thank you for sharing. I have a good feeling about this year for all of us!
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GEEMAWEST 1/10/2012 10:06PM

    You are so right, John. Except for one thing. Zig doesn't say 'stinking thinking', he says 'stinkin' thinkin'. Just sayin'. LOL

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ELYMWX 1/10/2012 9:54PM

    Great blog, John. Keep us posted, won't ya, and keep on, keeping on.

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TEDYBEAR2838 1/10/2012 8:22PM

    Let's not waste any time this year!

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HDHAWK 1/10/2012 7:02PM

    My goals all seem to be retreads John. I guess my biggest goal should be losing the weight and learning how to keep it off instead of it being one of my main focuses in life. Hmmm, then I'd have to shoot for some other goals wouldn't I? Congrats on the 4 lbs. lost! I had a good week, but the scale didn't move. It will eventually so I'm not going to beat myself up over it.

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EXCUSES-BE-GONE 1/10/2012 5:47PM

    emoticon Way to go John!

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GIRANIMAL 1/10/2012 2:30PM

    emoticon on your loss! But mostly for a fresh perspective, and for allowing the discomfort that it often entails.

I'm also focusing this year on a more holistic approach, thanks, in part, to you and your wisdom, dear friend. emoticon

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GETFIT2LIVE 1/10/2012 1:03PM

    Way to go, John! We know that it is insanity to keep doing the same things and expecting a different outcome, but it's so much easier to keep trying without really thinking about what we could do differently. Here's to a successful 2012!

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SHERRYJVP 1/10/2012 11:37AM

    awesome. I have always made resolutions. Kept some...gave up some. This year I decided to set goals rather than make resolutions. Hopefully I will have success as you did. Hopefully you will continue your success.

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KKINNEA 1/10/2012 10:08AM

    Interesting thoughts - I'll have to review my 2011 goals in light of this.

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PINETREEGIRL 1/10/2012 9:36AM

    "The proof is in the pudding"! Silly John.
Reflect on 2011, then leap into your New Year. You can do anything.


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TRISTAROSE 1/10/2012 9:22AM

    Thanks for a great blog ....

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IFDEEVARUNS2 1/10/2012 9:06AM

    Good food for thought here. I will do the same. Congrats on the successful start to the year!

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