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Remembering Mickey

Saturday, November 26, 2011

I am not a cat person. I don’t dislike them or anything like that but I am more of a dog guy. Give me a dog to roll on the floor with or throw the ball with in the yard and I am good to go. Dogs are goofy and slobbery. Cats are sedate, dignified and at times a bit aloof.

Mickey came into our lives six years ago. He replaced Jessica who’d been with us for over twenty years. Mickey was the first “non-stray” cat in our lives. Maggie got him from Animal Control after Jessica passed away. I believe each animal has a personality all its own. Mickey’s was diplomacy. He wasn’t a “jump on top of you, meow, meow let me lick you” cat. Mickey would creep up on my lap and would lay there all regal looking, simply purring. I’d find my hand stroking his back. After a bit whatever was bothering me was gone and so was Mickey.

Mickey didn’t like to be bothered. When he was ready to interact with you he would let you know. If you bent to pick him up and he wasn’t in the mood to be picked up he would bite you, shake his fur and walk away. I never found out what would happen if you tried twice. Mickey seemed to be the most confident of all creatures. He knew who he was, what his role was and didn’t try to ever force the issue.

A few weeks ago Mickey didn’t seem “right.” He was a bit lethargic, stopped eating and drinking regularly. His meow became weak. Yesterday we were told Mickey had pancreatic cancer that had spread to his lungs and lymph nodes. What the vets originally thought was asthma became a death sentence. This morning Joan and I took him to the vet, very early. I couldn’t stay in the room. Joan stayed till he went to sleep.

Mickey reminds me that the routine things in life are the things we take for granted most often. The Mickey’s who plop on your lap, provide comfort and relaxation are the things in life we suddenly miss the most when they are gone. My memory of him will be sitting in my office window anytime it was open, sunning and licking his fur.

Some days things seem to go from being so great to having this small cold hole, right in the center of your tummy. RIP my friend.

  
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SILLYHP1953 12/20/2011 2:27PM

    I am a cat person, maybe because I never had a dog. But I have cats who play fetch with me. I really miss our cats that are no longer with us, too. When my daughter meditates our Siamese, who was 19 when he died, comes to be with her. I don't ever manage to have meditation sessions like that.
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    RIP, Mickey... emoticon emoticon

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CLOVER2 11/29/2011 7:00PM

    I'm so sorry for your loss, John. There just isn't any way to get past that hole for a while, the wall that you run smack into every once in a while, not seeing it coming, but it does get easier. Memories get softer and sweeter and we get to laugh a bit about them in time.
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LUVMYK9S 11/28/2011 7:39PM

    I am so sorry for your loss. I too am a dog person, I foster for a rescue group and have 8 dogs at the moment, but I also have 3 cats, all of which have very distinct personalities. Over the years I have lost several beloved pets and I have never been able to go in the room when they cross the rainbow bridge, I feel some guilt that I was not able to be there with them at the end, but there is a place in my heart for each and every one of them.

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SKINNYPOWELL1 11/28/2011 4:17PM

    Sooooo sorry for the loss of your buddy Mickey. Our pets always have a special place in our hearts. emoticon

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EILI359 11/28/2011 3:42PM

    I'm so sorry for your loss John xx emoticon

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MSPRIS3 11/28/2011 1:13PM

    I'm very sorry for your loss.

I too, am a dog person at heart. I have 2 now, and Boomer, our 18-19 year old meany cat.

4 years ago, I had to make the difficult decision to put my first cat, Levi, to rest (cancer too). She was a rescue I took from an aquaintence who was not treating her very well. She was more like a dog than a cat to me, really, she would fetch her little ball, and loved to be walked on harness out in the yard. She is still missed to this day

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CMBELISLE 11/28/2011 12:14PM

    Cat lover or not, cats have a way of creeping into your heart without much warning. I have lost 3 cats in the last few years and the one that passed most recently is the worst thus far. I do feel for you.


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IFDEEVARUNS2 11/28/2011 11:55AM

    RIP, Mickey!

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NASFKAB 11/28/2011 1:52AM

  SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS

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HLPRATT 11/27/2011 8:33PM

    I love cats although we have dogs too. You really miss them when they leave us. Thinking of you

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TINYDANCER 11/27/2011 8:36AM

    So sorry for your loss. Hugs.

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SUSIEPH1 11/27/2011 2:40AM

    So very sorry your Mickey has left you ..
Try to think of all the good times and the comfort he gave and recieved.
Our pets become so engraved on our hearts that is hard to accept that they have gone.
I am so sure he had such a wonderful life with you.
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LYNMEINDERS 11/27/2011 2:30AM

    So so sorry to hear about your loss of Mickey......
May his memory always be with you.....

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GEEMAWEST 11/26/2011 8:24PM

    I'm so sorry, John. Mickey was very lucky to have you in his life.

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PROT358 11/26/2011 6:17PM

    A touching tribute to your cat. I'm very sorry for its passing. Hugs!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/26/2011 6:12PM

    I am so sorry about Mickey. It sounds like you gave him a good life.

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CARTOONB 11/26/2011 3:04PM

    I'm sorry. emoticon

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JENNY888 11/26/2011 2:40PM

    I'm so sorry for your loss. Think of all the blessings Mickey brought into your life though. It is so sad when one of our furry friends leave us.

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_AIYANNA_ 11/26/2011 2:02PM

    I'm so sorry for your loss, John. Thinking of you and your family.

Hugs, Elen xxx

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LISA01605 11/26/2011 2:01PM

    So sorry for your loss. Losing a furry friend can be truly heartbreaking.

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DEE797 11/26/2011 1:58PM

    So sorry for your loss. It's hard to lose a member of the family. emoticon for you and Joan.

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MISSROCKABILLY 11/26/2011 1:51PM

    I'm so sorry for your loss, John. I lost one of my cats last month, and still miss him every day. The missing doesn't go away, but it does get easier. Thinking of you.
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GRANDKATZ 11/26/2011 1:44PM

    I share your sadness John, I still have a big hole 4 mths after my Jaymie's passing. emoticon to you and Joan.

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CIVIAV 11/26/2011 1:26PM

    There are always cats that show us why we should be cat people. Mickey was yours. So sorry, I know you'll miss him...

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TRISTAROSE 11/26/2011 1:07PM

    So sorry to hear about your loss.

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MAMADWARF 11/26/2011 12:31PM

    That's so sad. I'm sorry you lost your buddy and i know you will miss him. You described him so well.

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DEBRITA01 11/26/2011 12:27PM

    Pets bring so much love and companionship to enrich our lives. So sorry about your Mickey... emoticon

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CBLANK20091 11/26/2011 12:18PM

  I am so sorry! We lost our two dogs 7 & 6 years ago and there's not a day goes by that I still don't miss them dearly.

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BEATLETOT 11/26/2011 12:16PM

    I'm so sorry to hear this. So hard. You're in my thoughts as you cope with this loss.

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HDHAWK 11/26/2011 11:59AM

    I'm a dog person too, although Mickey sounds like one of our dogs. She wants attention when she wants it, not when you want to give it to her. Pets are family and it's always so hard to lose one. Hugs to you and Joan. emoticon

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MKPRINCESS007 11/26/2011 11:52AM

    Aw, John............I AM SO SORRY. I know that feeling, it is hurts so badly. I stayed with my other dog until he went to sleep, it I thought I might go right along with him. I will keep you and Joan in my prayers............Mickey is in a better place. He's on the rainbow bridge, and loving every minute of it.

Love you, John!

Karen

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    I'm sorry John emoticon

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A Community of Love. (It's Why We're Here)

Thursday, November 24, 2011

You came because you were tired of being overweight or out of shape. Maybe it was those last ten pounds that separated you from a whole new world of clothes hopping. Maybe it was the because you were tired of needing oxygen when you walked up the stairs . Maybe it was a lot of things. But you came. Maybe you purchased The Spark, read it religiously, joined teams that suited your needs and made progress.

But, why did you stay? What keeps you coming back day in and day out? Many of you have reached your goals and gone on to be support to others like me. Many of you are like me and are still struggling after that first heady rush of success. Why are you here?

Come closer. I’ll show you.

Go to your Spark page and look at your buddy list. I don’t mean the cursory glance, I mean look at those beaming and often goofy faces. Each one of us has a story and a purpose in each other’s lives. Each of us sustains and fortifies each other on a daily basis. If you gave me truth serum I would tell you that you are as much a part of my life as anyone who will sit around the table and anesthetize themselves with turkey today. You fall into the category of “BFF.” I keep a binder with your wisdom to me in it. When the days get dreary and hard to take, I open it and I think of you and how much you care and give of the precious time you could devote to other endeavors. But you come here, like I do, and you help other people.

That’s why you stay. It’s part of your core belief system. It flows out of you naturally and sincerely and it puts you in the rarest of all groups. You love because you love. You love because you have felt how amazingly healing love can be and how it touches every dingy and dusty corner of your existence. God, however you perceive him or her to be gave you some very specific gifts or talents and you are using them. Maybe you’ll use them better in the future but you are learning as you go and you share that love, that encouragement with us and we are better for it.

When someone asks me to define true spirituality or religion if you will, I direct them here. It’s not about the building you sit in on a specific day of the week or the passages you can memorize. Oh, they help, but when the rubber hits the road, it’s your amazing ability to be there for us when we need you most.

So when I get in the car here in a few to go enjoy a meal with my family and extended family, you will pass through my mind, each of you. I know who you are lol and today I am thankful you choose to share your love with me.

That’s why you’re here. And I am glad you made that decision.

I love you.

  
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SILLYHP1953 12/20/2011 2:05PM

    My feelings exactly...and wouldn't it be wonderful to be sitting around the table with our friends on here?
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FIT4GOOD3 11/26/2011 3:36PM

    What a beautiful blog. My heartfelt thanks to you and to the friends we have in common who drew me to your page.

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DEE797 11/26/2011 2:01PM

    What a loving blog. Do hope you enjoyed your Thanksgiving.

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NASFKAB 11/26/2011 12:05AM

  THE BEST THING ABOUT SPARK IS HOW I NOW HAVE WHAT EXTENDED FAMILY THANKS

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SPARKLISE 11/25/2011 9:24PM

    Such a touching and lovely blog. emoticon
There is a lot of love on this site,but the greatest thing,if somebody doesn't give love, I can just unfriend them and find somebody that will love me. emoticon
But I too think often and with affection of the people I came to know better on this site,and I often wish them the very best!
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CARTOONB 11/24/2011 9:57PM

    Thanks John. Happy Thanksgiving.

Now...let's go clothes hopping! emoticon

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AJDOVER1 11/24/2011 6:31PM

    Love you. You have no idea how important you are to me.
Hugs,
Aurlie

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TEDYBEAR2838 11/24/2011 3:20PM

    We are all here for various reasons, on SP, but we are all here and enjoy each other. The support, the shoulder to cry on, the Kudo's for a job well done.

All and each is special!

Thanks John

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EILI359 11/24/2011 2:10PM

    What a beautiful blog John- right back at you!!. Hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving xx
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FROGGERHKC 11/24/2011 1:54PM

    Hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving John!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/24/2011 12:26PM

    Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

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DEBRITA01 11/24/2011 10:39AM

    A beautiful blog that touched my heart...God bless you, John emoticon

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MKPRINCESS007 11/24/2011 10:32AM

    You made me cry! You know I love you back! :) Thanks for being a wonderful support to me on this journey..........you know it means the world to me.

Enjoy your Thanksgiving! :)

K

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BLACKROSE_222 11/24/2011 10:02AM

    Love you too, John. Have a safe and happy Thanksgiving, and give your WHOLE family a Hug from all of us. We will be giving ours one from you too.

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TRISTAROSE 11/24/2011 10:00AM

    emoticon Happy Thanksgiving!

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HDHAWK 11/24/2011 9:56AM

    Safe travels. Enjoy your day with family. Thanks for being you and sharing all your gifts with us.

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ALLISON145 11/24/2011 9:28AM

    Happy Thanksgiving!!

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SNOWANGELDIVA 11/24/2011 9:12AM

    Be Blessed, John!
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    emoticon emoticon I couldn't have said it better. May the heavenly Father bless you and your family to have a safe and Happy Thanksgiving. emoticon emoticon

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CIVIAV 11/24/2011 9:05AM

    Oh John, right back at you and what a beautiful Thanksgiving piece to ponder!

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Sharing My Thankfullness

Monday, November 21, 2011

Admit it, once you get through family, friends and health it’s really difficult to begin to find things to be thankful for. I know it is for me. I end up being thankful for wind, rain and snow. Yeah, I believe that, lol. I find myself trying to keep up with the thankfulness the same way I kept up with training for a 5K. I can’t fall behind. I can’t let people know I just might have less to be thankful than they are.

So through the month of November we press our brains against our skulls to find reasons to be thankful. I do have a lot to be thankful for, most of which I take for granted the other eleven months of the year. Approaching the feast of Thanksgiving does give me an opportunity to recognize those things. I’d like to share two YouTube links with you that are special to me.

I first heard this song when I watched an episode of Cold Case. It’s called A Good Day and it simply says “A good day is any day that you are alive….” I listen to it every morning. It sets my intention for the day. Some mornings it is hard to walk, my back hurts, or I just decided it’s not gonna be a good day. When I was young and we’d drive past a cemetery my dad would always say, “Tell those folks your problems, they’d love to have them.” It’s not topical, it’s not sexy but a good day is any day you are alive.

Here’s the link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2B4CN7TM1iQ

A few months ago I hurt my back. My recovery has been slow, painful and depressing. I blogged about it one morning and a Spark friend sent me a link to a YouTube video that had helped her. It’s a song by Laura Story who came to find blessings in everything in her life including her husband’s struggle with cancer. I have to tell you the when I listened to it tears were an understatement.

Here’s the link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1CSVqHcdhXQ

No great words of wisdom, just very simple truths about a very simple existence I choose to make complicated. It’s a good day and I am blessed and because you care so much about me I care enough to share this with you.

Thanks for being my blessing.

  
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NASFKAB 11/24/2011 12:28AM

  THANKS WE HAVE SO MUCH TO BE THANKFUL

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SPARKLISE 11/21/2011 9:39PM

    I have to get her CD!
Blessings is such a great song!
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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/21/2011 7:45PM

    I certainly agree with this blog. It's great to be alive. The alternative? - not too good. LOL.

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TEDYBEAR2838 11/21/2011 6:49PM

    Every day is a blessing from God!

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GRAMLORI 11/21/2011 9:35AM

    John,
You bless everybody with your candor and humor in your blogs. You say a lot of things that the rest of us can relate to, and when something resonates within someone else, then you've made an impact.....and you do this very well. I wish a blessed Thanksgiving weekend for you and your family. Thanks for being you.
Lori

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WORKINGSTIFF 11/21/2011 8:35AM

    John-

Thanks for sharing a very powerful lesson. Gratitude is like a muscle, I think. The more you use it, or practice it, the stronger it becomes.When you don't express or recognize the thing in life to be grateful for, it withers up.

Maybe people find it trite, but there is no end to what one can be grateful for. Do you have a job? Even if you don't like it, do you have the ability to train for another? Do you have the advantage of an education? Many people do not. Do you have contacts/friends who can help? It can go on and on. And that's just one example.

Have a great Thanksgiving week!

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It's Not Always Easy Being First

Sunday, November 20, 2011

My earliest memory of John Peter centers on the amazing capacity a four year old has to forgive someone. It was a Friday night in June. It was warm and getting warmer. Joan and I were in our first home. It had one large air conditioner in the kitchen window. That took care of the whole house. I had been working seven days a week and my lawn looked like a small child could have gotten lost in it. I changed my clothes and told Joan I was going to cut the lawn since it had cooled off a bit. John stood in the kitchen doorway with a baseball glove and a ball in his hand. “Can we play catch?” he asked? I turned and looked at him. I was busy. Lawn needed to be cut, trimmed and raked. It was hot, I was tired.

“Later buddy, ok? I got to cut the grass.”

He walked into the living room and I went out to cut the lawn. As I walked back and forth it struck me that I had made yet another mistake in Child Rearing 101. John was and is the first child. No frame of reference. You utter a furtive prayer and hope he is not paying for therapy years later. You are tougher on the first born. The expectations are high. I know, I’m a first child myself. Ya think that would have stopped me. Nope I wanted my boy to be Mickey Mantle, Donald Trump and Jesus Christ all rolled into one.

Sigh

I put the lawn mower away and walked in the house. John had gone to bed a few moments earlier. I walked in his room and sat on the bed. “The lawn could have waited. I shoulda played catch with you.” John sat up in bed and hugged me. “It’s okay dad, I still love you.” He smiled rolled over and went to sleep. No big deal. People make mistakes and other people forgive them and then we go to bed and The Real Housewives of Wherever has to wait for another day.

John has been like this his whole life. He rolls with the flow, makes the best of a bad day and moves forward. The company he worked at for over ten years closed three years ago. John went back to school and is a year away from his bachelor’s degree in computer science. Starting over at any age is hard but he’s done a really good job.

John has taught me to accept other people just the way they are, forgive them and go to bed.

He taught me that you sleep much better when you do.

  
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SILLYHP1953 12/19/2011 3:28PM

    I hope the tears are over for me now I've read the blog on your oldest. I thought my oldest should be perfect and was so hard on her. She says she's forgiven me but I haven't forgiven me yet. I know I have to and keep trying but just can't quite manage it. I can only vaguely imagine the feeling of freedom you must feel when you can forgive yourself. Hopefully in this lifetime it will happen.

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PGNBRI 11/21/2011 10:43AM

    I've so enjoyed seeing each of your children through your eyes!

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WENDYSPARKS 11/21/2011 6:38AM

    Enjoyed reading your blog!

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MARCYNA 11/21/2011 6:28AM

    I still have to learn that....forgive & forget is the best lesson you can give people emoticon

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NASFKAB 11/21/2011 3:26AM

  GREAT BLOG

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TRULYVISIBLE 11/21/2011 2:00AM

  The 2nd to last sentence is very wise and to think a little boy already knew that at such a young age.

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SHERRYJVP 11/20/2011 9:34PM

    I can tell all of your children are your delight and your blessing. Job well done. Thank you for sharing a little piece of them with us.

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CARTOONB 11/20/2011 9:13PM

    I like him too! Sounds like you either did okay with him or he had a great therapist! Ha!

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GIRANIMAL 11/20/2011 5:04PM

    Another great kid in John Peter. Forgiveness really is powerful stuff, but far too often most of us are too proud or otherwise foolish to see that while it still matters.

I was also struck by your wisdom -- with a first child, even! -- of knowing how important it is to fess up to your "mistakes" openly with your kids, especially to a 4-year-old who may not even understand. You have such great family dynamics!



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WANDAH3 11/20/2011 3:43PM

    All I can say is that you and Joan have done a wonderful job in raising your children. It's not the mistakes that we have made as parents that our children will remember...it's the love.

Hugs,
Wanda

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TERRIPAL1 11/20/2011 2:07PM

    Wow it seems like all your kids are pretty smart John ,must have got it from somewhere?? Loved your blog I need to learn to do that!Another lesson at this rate I won't learn them all ,cause I'm a slow learner!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/20/2011 1:13PM

    Forgiveness is one of our greatest gifts. Many people struggle with it an entire lifetime. John Peter probably always sleeps well.

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HAPPYSOUL91 11/20/2011 12:46PM

    He is a pretty special person, we could sure learn a lot from him

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LYNMEINDERS 11/20/2011 12:45PM

    There is a lot in this for all of us.....
Thankyou

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GRACEISENUF 11/20/2011 12:44PM

    Glad I found this blog....my John Timothy sure has taught me a thing or two in the last 17 years! ;)

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HDHAWK 11/20/2011 12:44PM

    That's a great way to go through life!

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IMKFOX 11/20/2011 12:26PM

    Thanks for sharing John. Everyday my boys teach me something special and it's usually the littlest things that matter the most. Keep enjoying each and every day!
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MKPRINCESS007 11/20/2011 12:05PM

    Love it, John! It is a blessing when we are resilient and able to be understanding and supportive of those that we love. He sounds like a special man, and since I know about being first (or being only, actually) I understand. Many demands and opportunities to grow my resiliency where placed on me. I attribute much of who I am to those opportunities.

Be blessed, John!

Karen

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KATHRYN1955 11/20/2011 12:04PM

    "...accept other people just the way they are, forgive them and go to bed."

Very wise words...we would all sleep better if those words became our daily mantra.

Take care,
Kathy

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MYOWNHERO 11/20/2011 12:03PM

    That is such a sweet, touching story. Your son sounds like a wonderful man. Wonder where he learned that?

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BEATLETOT 11/20/2011 11:59AM

    I loved reading this blog. Thank you so much for sharing it! Your son sounds as special as you are!

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MAMADWARF 11/20/2011 11:53AM

    I love this. 2 great men!

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The Inspiration

Saturday, November 19, 2011

When Matt was six, he walked into church with us one Sunday morning, made a direct line for our pastor, opened his coat and produced a lunch bag full of pennies. He stuck it forward, looked at out pastor solemnly and said “For the poor.” There was probably only a few dollars or so in the bag. It was his money and he was going to decide how it was used. He decided, as he put it, to help, “the poor.”

In a nutshell that is child number two, Matthew Thomas. If I sat here and wrote about all the stray people he brought home in the twenty years he lived with us I’d have enough fodder for a million blogs. His heart was always open to helping someone he perceived to be less fortunate than he was. I received a phone call one night a few years back from Matt. He was out taking a walk and met a homeless person by the grocery. The man couldn’t seem to hold a job. If Matt put him on the line, would I mind giving him a few tips and maybe motivate him a bit? That’s Matthew Thomas. Matt started playing football in fifth grade. He played through his sophomore year in high school and never won a game. Yet his coaches always felt if they had three or four more like Matt, they’d never have lost a game.

But Matt, like all the Matt’s I have known in my life, the people who give of themselves instinctively, always seem to be about five inches short of getting all the happiness and success they deserve. Matt was married for five years. His wife decided she missed having fun and divorced him. He took all the bills and arranged to have our granddaughter every weekend. The divorce crushed him, I know, but he rarely let Joan and I know how he felt. If we needed something he was there. His heart is as big as the world. He works a job that allows him off every weekend but forces him to work until midnight five days a week. If he’d wanted to he could have easily worked days. His daughter is a bit more important.

Matt is thirty three and to me he is a great reminder that even though life hits you in the belly really hard on occasion you can still stick to your values and principles. There is nothing really fancy about Matt. You just really know he’s going to be there if and when you need him.

I’ll take that any day of the week.

  
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SILLYHP1953 12/19/2011 3:21PM

    I don't know why all these blogs about your kids are making me cry...but they are.

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MARCYNA 11/21/2011 6:32AM

    I wish I could meet him....GREAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! emoticon
PS I was thinking about last Sunday Gospel :
" I was hungry and you fed me..." Matt seems to have hit the target!!!!!

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NASFKAB 11/21/2011 3:24AM

  AS HAVE WRITTEN BEFORE GREAT PARENTS GREAT SON

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LYNMEINDERS 11/20/2011 5:17AM

    Like I have said before....you have awesome kids.....

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CARTOONB 11/19/2011 10:35PM

    I hope Matt finds his happiness.

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TEDYBEAR2838 11/19/2011 10:33PM

    Thanks for sharing that story with us John.

You have a good son.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/19/2011 9:39PM

    I bet the pastor wished he had a few hundred just like Matt. I'm sure that left a lasting impression on him. I tend to think that Matt's time is coming. Someone like him deserves the best life has to offer and it just wouldn't be fair if he doesn't get it.

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GEEMAWEST 11/19/2011 8:58PM

    I love these stories about your children and I really appreciate you sharing. I am having some challenges with my youngest daughter right now and this helps me remember that what we are going through right now does not define either one of us or our relationship.
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PROT358 11/19/2011 8:53PM

    I love hearing about your kids! Such lovely tributes, all of them. I hope you let them read what you've written! You speak so highly of them.

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SHERRYJVP 11/19/2011 3:57PM

    That is a true man. I am sure he has learned that from you.

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KT-NICHOLS-13 11/19/2011 11:55AM

    Matt sounds like a beautiful human.

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GIRANIMAL 11/19/2011 11:52AM

    John, I am so enjoying these blogs! I agree that they make it so clear what a wonderful job you and Joan have done of allowing all your very different kids to be who they are -- and truly appreciate them for it. I trust you understand how challenging that is for many parents, so kudos to you both.

Thank goodness for dads like Matt. Something tells me he learned such dedication from his own dad.

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ANNE-ELIZ 11/19/2011 11:26AM

    I'm always so impressed when I see parents who can and do appreciate their children for their own qualities and not as reflections of themselves.

...that's likely part of how they developed those qualities in the first place...

Thank you for introducing us!



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HDHAWK 11/19/2011 10:46AM

    I would give anything for my kids to have had a dad like your son. Even before we divorced he wasn't there for them. You should be very proud!

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SNUGLBUNIE 11/19/2011 9:14AM

    Sounds like a wonderful, positive person. I'm happy you have Matt in your life.

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TRAVELGRRL 11/19/2011 9:02AM

    Sounds like a great guy; he's an imspiration to all of us. No wonder you are proud of him!

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WANDAH3 11/19/2011 8:46AM

    I'm enjoying getting to know your children through your eyes. You and Joan and have done a wonderful job of allowing each child to be an individual and to grace this world with their own specialness. Thank you for sharing.

Hugs,
Wanda

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JOHNMARTINMILES 11/19/2011 8:23AM

    A truly fine boy of whom you are justly proud

Make it a great weekend!

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