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Everyday People Sometimes Make The Biggest Impact

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Being a middle child is a challenge. You aren’t first, you are not last and some days unless you accomplish something really spectacular you are simply a face in the crowd. Oh, you are loved equally, attention is doled out to you equally, but I can imagine that you often feel your voice is a little softer than lots of other folks. You may have to wave your arms a bit harder or jump up and down to be noticed. Don’t stand still, you’ll get run over, LOL.

Our daughter Maggie is the fourth of six. Not quite the end, certainly not the beginning and well I guess you could say the middle. If you could pick a friend, Maggie would be it. If she tells you it’s going to happen it happens. If she’s going to meet you for lunch at noon she’s always there. I don’t know anyone that doesn’t like her, seriously!!!!

Maggie is twenty seven and has an Associate’s Degree in Early Childhood Development. Maggie was born with a number of learning disabilities. It took her four years to get her associates degree and no one grinned wider than she did when she walked across the stage. Of all my children, Maggie is my greatest source of inspiration. Every time I feel frustrated or want to give up on something I remind myself of how she just hung in there until she got what she was after. People, especially other students, poked fun at her slowness at times and her “not getting it.” Yes, there were days she came home crying, slammed her bedroom door and cried more. Yet, the next day she headed out the door again. In the end she succeeded where many of those who poked fun at her sorta gave up. That is always in the front of my mind. She was handed some pretty good reasons to quit, but she never did.

Maggie works two jobs. She works as a price coordinator at a pet supply store. She is the only original employee left after four years. Three nights a week she works in the child care facility at our local YMCA. Any time Joan and I meet someone new and they know Maggie, their face lights up. I have been in the store with her when little kids will run up to her, hug her and yell, “Miss Maggie!!!” When she takes our dogs for a walk she knows the name of every animal in our neighborhood. There are people she recognizes only because she knows them from their pets.

If I could share one event that sums up who Maggie is, it would be this: One afternoon she was relieving a cashier at the pet store for lunch. A man came in to buy dog food . He was fumbling through his wallet looking for money and Maggie noticed his hands were shaking a bit. She told him to take his time. The man apologized and told her he’d just found out his mother had passed away. He began to cry. Maggie stepped out from behind the register and hugged him, helped him get the correct change and made sure he got to his car ok.

If I live to be one hundred I only hope I can have a half the compassion she does.

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SILLYHP1953 12/19/2011 11:21AM

    You brought tears to my eyes. Your love for your children is overwhelming and they reflect it.

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NASFKAB 11/18/2011 9:12AM

  great story wonderful girl

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GEEMAWEST 11/17/2011 8:04PM

    Thanks for sharing that uplifting story!

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ONELUCKYSUSAN 11/16/2011 5:14PM

    Oh, John, what a beautiful story to share with us! You are so very blessed to have such a loving, compassionate child as Maggie is. This ol' world needs more just like her and I'll say a special prayer tonight for her and for the gift of compassion that she'll be sharing the rest of her life. God must surely have special people in her future for her to touch their hearts; the beauty is that in reaching out, she in turn receives spoken or unspoken thanks for the love and grace she shares. It's a beautiful act of giving and of receiving.

You've SO made my day and warmed my heart, John! Thank you, dear man, and thank you to you and your wife for raising Maggie to be the woman she is. God bless you both. emoticon

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CLOVER2 11/15/2011 10:55PM

    Oh my Lord, this is the child we all hope for. I just went to the graduation of my girl, she is 34 years old and is now a Certified Nurse's Assistant, we do live to see this happen for our babys, it's all we really hope for, to see them do the things that make them complete. John, you are incredible! I don't care if you EVER get to be 175 pounds, you have enriched my life as it never would have been. Thank you.

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CARTOONB 11/15/2011 10:37PM

    She sounds amazing.

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PROT358 11/15/2011 10:18PM

    What an amazing daughter you have! The world needs more people like her!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/15/2011 5:04PM

    If you can produce a child like this, John, you really have little to complain about in this world. You obviously are doing something right and one of your gifts is apparently being a father. Being a good dad is much superior than being thin. More brownie points on earth and in Heaven.

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FREDIA2 11/15/2011 5:00PM

    I too am the middle child and just recently lost my mother. I would love to get to know Maggie. Just remember that she had to have had great parents to be like she is

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KJDOESLIFE 11/15/2011 4:51PM

    Thank you for sharing! This is a great lesson in patience and compassion that I needed today.

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HAPPYSOUL91 11/15/2011 4:25PM

    This is a special woman and I sure wish her all the happiness that life can bring.

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RSTENNER 11/15/2011 3:52PM

    Well, John, you brought tears to my eyes! You just have to be so proud of her and I so relate. My son was born with physical disabilities, intestines on the outside, short arm, no thumb. I've seen so many times that they struggle, but they have such a keen sense of compassion for others. My son is in his 3rd yr of college for a 2 yr degree, and yes,I could get upset about it, but I'm so glad he hasn't quit. He has had his own disk jockey business since he was 12 and he's 22 now and works part-time at Taco Johns. He wants to be a radio announcer, in the area,everyone knows him, and tell me he's a wonderful young man. What else could a mother want? Be proud!

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LYNMEINDERS 11/15/2011 3:24PM

    I am loving your blogs about your amazing family.......
You learn so much from others and, you are so right, it is the everyday people that have the biggest impact on us.....

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ZORAHGAIL 11/15/2011 3:24PM

    Maggie has such a big heart. Thank you for sharing w/ us.

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MIZZSB 11/15/2011 1:35PM

    She sure sounds like wonderfull person John!

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SPARKENISTA 11/15/2011 1:27PM

    Maggie may have been born with some learning disabilities but she certainly was not born with a warm heart disability! I'll take hanger-inner over a quitter any day!

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HDHAWK 11/15/2011 12:41PM

    What a lovely girl! If only more young people were like that!

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PGNBRI 11/15/2011 10:37AM

    What a great heart she has!

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GIRANIMAL 11/15/2011 10:31AM

    Another lovely blog about another of your lovely children. I am always highly admiring of tenacity such as Maggie's. I chuckled about her knowing neighbors only through their pets, because this used to be true for me too when I still had my Killer. emoticon And I frowned at remembering how cruel children can be. But, as is often the case, she sure showed them. emoticon Hooray, Maggie!

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CMBELISLE 11/15/2011 10:28AM

    Maggie reminds me of my oldest - she knows the names of all the neighborhood dogs and the kids she teaches at the gymnastics facility all run up to her when they see her elsewhere. Vikki also has that determination to finish what she started and the compassion to give someone a hug when they're having a bad day.

You have a wonderful daughter and so do I!

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GRAMLORI 11/15/2011 10:14AM

    I was blessed with a Maggie, too! Mine was the 3rd, and last, I thought, until my DH and I got married (she gained an older sister there) and God dropped a little 8 yr old in our laps. It sounds like they both are similar in temperment, and my "Miss Mags" also brings sunshine wherever she goes. Mine is a Maggie May (NOT named after Rod Stewart's song!!) and her full name is Margaret. She was named after her great-grandma. Thanks for sharing your Maggie with us!
God bless!

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BLACKROSE_222 11/15/2011 9:56AM

    Wow... sounds like you and your Wife did something right by these kids. Your children sound absolutely amazing. Great work, John.

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KATHRYN1955 11/15/2011 9:14AM

    You are so right. Thirty years (or so) ago, I brought in a muffin to work for our new head nurse. She was an "outsider", young and seemed a little overwhelmed. I never gave it a second thought, but to this day, whenever I see her, she still reminds me of how much that meant to her.
Your daughter instinctively already knows the tremendous benefit of those small random acts of kindness...we all need to take a leaf from her book.
Perhaps if we are busy being a little "more kinder than necessary", we won't be thinking about our next high-caloric treats!!
Take care,

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WANDAH3 11/15/2011 9:13AM

    Our children are truly our greatest blessing. They can also humble us the most.


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IFDEEVARUNS2 11/15/2011 8:59AM

    What a lovely tribute! emoticon

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Some People Seem To Make It Look Simple

Monday, November 14, 2011

I'll give ya a heads up here. Because this month is a study in being thankful, my next five blogs are going to be about our children and what they teach me on a daily basis and how i mostly over look it.

Katie Scarlet is twenty five. She and her brother Tim are Irish Twins meaning they were born really close together. Katie is the fifth of six children and the second girl. Since she's been a child shes battled health issues, not terrible or serious ones, the nagging ones that make your life a pain. She had her gall bladder removed at age twenty two and spent a month in bed during high school with mononucleosis and Epstein Barr syndrome. She's battled her weight all her life but is, very proudly I might add, a life time member of weight watchers.

When Katie graduated from high school she wasn't sure what she wanted to do. It was a toss up between cosmetology and accounting. She decided to work at a bank after one semester of college "bored her." After three years a client hired her away from the bank. He wanted to teach her how to do payroll for his accounting firm and some of their clients. Three years after that one of those clients hired her to do their account payable. That client is the our county government which means at age twenty five she is paying all the bills for the county.. She reports directly to the treasurer and every now and then a few county commissioners who want to dissect the spread sheets.

Three days out of five Katie doesn't feel well. It's her tummy, her migraines or shes just plain tired. I have never seen it stop her. She serves on two charitable board of directors as well as having an active social life.

Katie is going back to school in January. Her problems, issues and challenges are no different than your or mine. In many ways I have come to realize she just chooses to over look them and go on with what she wants to do. In her mind it is always so simple.

I spend a lot of time creating excuses for why "I didn't......." Than there are people like Katie who just go out there and do it and don't give it another thought.

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SILLYHP1953 12/19/2011 11:18AM

    Gone with the Wind fans? I'd never heard of Irish twins, but two of my step-step daughters (my husband's step-daughters from his first wife) must was born in January and the other in December of the same year. Whew...that's being pregnant for entirely too long.

Your daughter sounds great and I'm enjoying getting to know your family better. This is giving me inspiration for some blog writing; I've gotten really bad at writing lately.

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EILI359 11/15/2011 2:16PM

    Thanks for sharing John - what a great family and wow .....what a great dad!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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WORKINGSTIFF 11/15/2011 8:28AM

    I'm sure Katie does indeed sometimes "give it another thought" but she still doesn't make a big deal of it or allow it to stop her.

We all have things that could "stop" us. The challege is to ignore that voice inside that says, "This is too hard, too much trouble, people won't understand, etc." The thing is to keep moving forward.


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LYNMEINDERS 11/14/2011 11:28PM

    It sounds as though you have amazing children.....
I like Katies is awesome.....

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CARTOONB 11/14/2011 10:49PM

    The more I hear about your family, the more I would like to meet them. I'm looking forward to "meeting" the rest of the family. they read your blogs? I'm sure they would be interested in these.

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TEDYBEAR2838 11/14/2011 9:56PM

    emoticon job Dad!

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GIRANIMAL 11/14/2011 1:18PM

    Sounds like I could take a cue or two from my hero Katie. emoticon

Healthwise, she and I could be the twins, and it didn't USE to stop me much, but I think I have been letting it lately. I blame my 30s, or it all just finally catching up with me, but I dunno...maybe it's just time to renew my focus during this time of thanks giving. Any day above ground is a good one! emoticon

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KKINNEA 11/14/2011 12:35PM

    Another amazingly well-raised kid - you have such treasures!

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DARE2LIVE2011 11/14/2011 10:53AM

    Wow, you are blessed to be able to recognize these things in your daughter! I wish my Dad was proud of me like you're proud of your Katie, what a blessing you have each other. Thanks for helping all of us focus on our list of blessings.

Jeanne (Dare2Live2011)

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MIZZSB 11/14/2011 10:52AM

    what an inspiration !!
I know all those excuses as well and i USED them many times but there aint no place for excuses anymore John...!

Go for it!!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/14/2011 9:50AM

    Thank God for all the Katies in the world because without them nothing would get done. We all have to push through the pain.

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BLACKROSE_222 11/14/2011 9:44AM

    What a great inspirational story! Very interesting to compare our daily life to someone who can live with these illnesses, and still continue on. Thanks, John.

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HDHAWK 11/14/2011 9:31AM

    Good point. I try to remind myself how bad other people have it when I make excuses for not working out. You have great kids John!

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SHERRYJVP 11/14/2011 9:28AM

    I know you are super proud of her. I, too, admire people like her. I am a bit of a wimp and don't take pain/illness well.

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GRAMLORI 11/14/2011 9:13AM

    Sounds like you raised a positive, hard-working person! Good job! And Katie sounds like someone I would like to be friends with.....or at least have my 22 yr old friends with! I may borrow your idea and blog about each of our kids. Because I am so truly thankful for each one. Hmmm.....ya got me thinking very early in the morning, John!!
Have a blessed Monday! I look forward to "meeting" your other kids!
God bless,

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JUSTLYLE 11/14/2011 8:55AM

    I too admire her along with many others who face nagging issues daily. I feel so fortunate every time I take a step or lift anything.

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Just Thought I'd Share An Update With You

Sunday, November 13, 2011

I received a text message early this morning from our son Tim. He's on his way home from Chicago and a beer tasting contest the microbrewery he works for competed in. It simply said "We didn't win. (We were robbed!!!) This was the best business trip ever."

I had to chuckle a bit. I don't ever look forward to business trips. The best part is when Joan greets me at the front door when I return home. But then I don't see the whole world lying before me full of new and exciting experiences. There is a lesson for me somewhere in all of this. It makes me smile, a bit wistfully, to know he is in store for a most amazing ride in his life.

In the picture below Tim is on the right in the orange tee shirt.

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SILLYHP1953 12/19/2011 11:12AM

    It took me many, MANY years to reach the point of thinking beer tasted ok. I still can't say it tastes good. We have a local brewery here called Dogfish Head and I think their beer tastes awful, but lots must like it cause it's getting pretty big around here. I'm sorry Tim was robbed!

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ANNE-ELIZ 11/19/2011 11:37AM

    Joy in business travel and beer tasting...some of that career coaching seems to have rubbed off... emoticon emoticon

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NASFKAB 11/16/2011 1:30AM

  you have raised great kids

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NEEDTOLOSE100LB 11/14/2011 4:19PM trip...of course it was good!

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GIRANIMAL 11/14/2011 12:48PM

    That really does sound like the best business trip ever! And once again, what a freakin' smart kid you and Joan raised! emoticon

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TEDYBEAR2838 11/14/2011 7:47AM

    WOW, he looks like you! Cute of course :)

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/13/2011 10:14PM

    I hope he always has his passion for this and never becomes tired and jaded like so many of us do.

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ONELUCKYSUSAN 11/13/2011 8:13PM

    John, thank you for sharing! You're's a joy to sit back and watch our children experiencing the world and spreading their wings!

God bless you!

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LYNMEINDERS 11/13/2011 5:09PM

    WooHoo...go Tim....
there is a great lesson in this for all of us.....

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SPARKENISTA 11/13/2011 11:51AM

    John--It is clear that he has found his calling--for this chapter of his life, anyway. He is learning many lessons that he will apply as he goes on. How many of us get to learn while being paid?

Good luck to him--he's clearly a great guy. (The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.) emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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HDHAWK 11/13/2011 11:12AM

    It's obvious he's found something he loves to do! emoticon

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HDHAWK 11/13/2011 11:12AM

    It's obvious he's found something he loves to do! emoticon

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WANDAH3 11/13/2011 11:08AM

    I sometimes believe the "real" purpose of having children is to remind us of how wonderous life really is! To enjoy the ride.


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I Don't Have To Look Far For Inspiration

Friday, November 11, 2011

Our son Tim’s nickname is “Tails.” It’s an abbreviated version of “The Tail End.” He’s the youngest of six and one of his brothers dropped that moniker on him about ten years ago. Time will soon be twenty five and his lifelong ambition is to brew beer. Yup, you read it right, Tim wants to brew beer. When you have three older brothers and two older sisters who work in shall-we-say more traditional careers you get a lot of advice about being a brew master isn’t a very stable career.

Tim works for a micro-brewery. He cleans barrels and bungs. He sweeps up. If there is an over flow or a mess Tim generally takes care of it. He changes light bulbs and generally does what needs to be done. He’s paid minimum wage. The brew master told him if he can hang in there for a year he will begin teaching him the brewing arts.

Tim has had a lot of jobs in his short life. He’s left himself open to a lot of criticism at times but it’s never seemed to bother him. He’s been to Europe, Mexico and Canada. The two phone calls I’ll never forget came from LaGuardia Airport in New York City; “Hey dad, I’m in New York and I’m okay and all just let mom know I’ll be home Sunday.” And. “How old were you when JFK was shot? I’m standing on Deeley Plaza with a friend……”

Tim has lived life the way you are supposed to. You live it on your own terms and make sure you don’t hurt anyone in the process. You are always there with a helping hand and man-o-man do you have stories to tell about every place you’ve been. I used to ask Tim to go to the grocery with me when he was in town but he would always run into someone he knew from somewhere and we’d end up standing around for a while. Tim is not in a hurry to get anywhere.

I envy Tim. If he weren’t my son I’d want him to be my friend. He has stuck to his dream, never wavered when other people, including his mom and dad have tried to convince him otherwise. If he weren’t my son I’d want him as a friend. There is nothing loud about him. He just knows what he wants.

Tim’s in Chicago this weekend. The brew master let him come along to a beer tasting contest. They are hoping to win and award. He was pretty excited about it when he called yesterday, but then Joan and I have come to expect that. Tim seems to be excited about life all the time.

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SILLYHP1953 12/19/2011 11:07AM

    Tim sounds so cool...but what can you expect with you and Joan as parents?

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NASFKAB 11/13/2011 3:33AM

  Tim sure has awesome parents envy him there

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LYNMEINDERS 11/12/2011 11:14PM

    Awesome blog...thankyou for shaing about your son....
I love him without meeting him....
It is so the way to live life....
i think folks need to take lessons form the Tim's in this world....I am sure we would be a lot less stressed and a lot happier with our selves if we did

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HDHAWK 11/12/2011 10:23PM

    What a great son you have. I have one that isn't afraid to "do his own thing". He is able to speak his mind when need be, something I'm still working on. He's got his tattoos, sometimes shaves his head, and is going for a career as a motorcycle tech. He's found something he loves to do and that is worth a lot. The same goes for Tim. I'm sure they are happy being their own people.

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SPARKENISTA 11/12/2011 12:34PM

    Tim is already a huge success on so many levels. He knows his mind. He has the inner structure to carry out a plan to fruition--like his travels. People who do the unusual on the outside have to have a strong constitution, inner moral compass and values on the inside to be successful.

He is able to delay gratification and do the routine work in the brewery--@ minimum wage--to prove to his boss that he is serious and to ripen his skills. Those are no small things in a world where so many people want instant gratification.

I want to add that chances are that his boss is a wise man to test his protege's metal and see what he's made of before giving away his "secrets". Those "secrets" will very well make up for lost time in the minimum wage category.

Kudos to mom and dad (and sibs) for growing this unique and fabulous son!


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MKPRINCESS007 11/12/2011 9:35AM

    John...........this is wonderful! Tim sounds like an awesome guy, an "out of the box" thinker for lack of a better term. I feel the exact same way about my son, Kevin. I know that he is going to live life to the fullest and enjoy it all the way. He wants to see the world, and at 12 he is already on his way. He went to Canada last summer with an organization called People to People, and this summer I will go in debt to send him to London and Paris.

You truly have a blessing in your son. It is so wonderful to hear how you embrace him and the life he is choosing. He is truly blessed to have you and your wife for his parents as well.

Thanks for sharing!

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GEEMAWEST 11/11/2011 9:48PM

    I'm sure that Tim considers you not only a good father but a good friend.

You done good!

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CARTOONB 11/11/2011 9:01PM

    Sounds like you did something right. You're letting your son be himself. Time sounds like a great person.

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TIME4AFITME 11/11/2011 4:29PM

    How awesome that is to live your life on your terms! What a nice blog about your son

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FLGIRL1234 11/11/2011 3:03PM

    What a fantastic tribute to the man your son is and what a great way to express your love for him. You are blessed but then again so is he by having you as a parent.

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GETFIT2LIVE 11/11/2011 1:14PM

    Isn't that the way it should be--living life in a way that you're excited about it and willing to take a chance at doing what you really want?

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GIRANIMAL 11/11/2011 1:13PM

    Sounds like I could learn a lot from Tim. This is the way I envisioned living my life -- on my own terms -- and I never have quite figured out when and where and why I dropped that ball. What a smart guy! Must get it from his parents. emoticon

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KKINNEA 11/11/2011 1:09PM

    That is the best - your son sounds like a joy and an inspiration. Sounds like you really enjoy him.

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KIN59VARA 11/11/2011 12:20PM

    Oh what a wonderful blog, thanks for posting in and thanks for being the kind of parent you are!

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KT-NICHOLS-13 11/11/2011 12:08PM

    He sounds like an awesome young man! Heck, I wish he were my close personal friend . . .

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PGNBRI 11/11/2011 10:31AM

    I hope Tim knows how proud you are of him! He sounds like a great person.

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TRISTAROSE 11/11/2011 9:18AM

    I envy your son John for living each day to the fullest and for having such great parents that stand by him in whatever he does .... Great blog !!


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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/11/2011 9:01AM

    Good for you for standing by Tim. Ugh to the booze. LOL.

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MIZZSB 11/11/2011 8:45AM

    how awesome is that John... the way you talk about him with so much love and admiration ...
I bet you are very proud of him! I was always tought that is better to be at a job or somewhere in life that you enjoy than that you are somewhere that pays a good wage but your dont enjoy it...

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TERRIPAL1 11/11/2011 8:29AM

    This is a beautiful blog John ,we should all live life like Tim.Some of us want to but can't and for some it takes our whole life to live like your son, in the present because every minute is a gift! Thanks for writing it and,you and your wife did a great job, to have raised a wonderful happy kid like Tim! Way to go!

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WORKINGSTIFF 11/11/2011 8:24AM

    Your Tim sounds like a wonderful young man.

There's something special about people who just "go for it." And it's nice to see as a parent when your child seems to be well-adjusted and has friends everywhere.

We could all learn a lesson from Tim.

Tell him I say, "Thanks."

P.S. I'm sure you tell your son the same thing I tell mine, "Just make sure you love what you do for a living because you'll probably be at it for quite a while. The worse thing in the world is to dread getting up and going to work every morning."

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NANCYBOAT 11/11/2011 8:23AM

    What a great to your son. And to YOU for raising him!

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Who Do You Talk To At 6:00 AM?

Thursday, November 10, 2011

I have been an early riser since I was a child. My mom says it’s because I was born at seven in the morning. My brother could sleep until midafternoon. I usually get up with the sun or shortly before hand. Because I am moderately obsessive/compulsive by nature I function best when I adhere to a routine. It can be very daunting when you have this amazingly creative mind that wants to bust free of all restraints that has to live in the same body with an emotional need for well-defined order. (And people wonder why I talk to myself….)

But I digress

Most mornings I am in the car, dutifully waiting in line at McDonalds to purchase a large, unsweet iced tea. (Cost $1.06) You’d be surprised the people in line purchasing breakfast at that hour. This morning I counted ten cars ahead of me, so I sorta slouched down in my seat and stared off into space. I have come to cherish my quiet time, any time I can be alone and reflective. Despite my need for order I can bend enough to realize I can’t always make the world stop so I can take time to reflect.


I am staring off into space and a lady in the car in front of me catches my eye. She is having a rather animated conversation with someone on her cell phone. I wonder who you talk to at six am. It’s not a judgment just a curiosity on my behalf. As I’m pondering this eternal mystery I realize that of the ten people or so ahead of me in line six of them are on the phone. Now the people pleaser within me, the man who must be loved at all costs starts to get insecure!!! Everyone is on the phone at six am but me.

When I arrived home Joan was awake and making her coffee. (She gets up when she is no longer tired. Sometimes it drives me nuts!!!) I tell her about the people on the phone and wonder why no one calls me. She looks over her cup of coffee thoughtfully and says “Most likely because you don’t turn your phone on until eight.”

I thought for a few moments and smiled…………… Crisis averted

Have a good Thursday

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SILLYHP1953 12/19/2011 11:04AM

    Thank God nobody calls me at 6 a.m. I enjoy my morning quiet time, too.

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MKPRINCESS007 11/12/2011 9:42AM

    I can't think of a soul I want to talk to at 6am either. Or for the times that I have been out with my DH for a long overdue night out, and people are on the phone at midnight or 1am. What the heck??????????

I personally HATE the phone. I love email because that is my preferred mode of communication. I like to be able to reply to someone when it works for me. Otherwise, it is pretty certain that I am going to get 6 calls at once! Ever have that happen, like one person calls and then it seems like everyone tries to call you then too? Odd, no?

Anyway, be glad you don't have anyone to talk to at 6am. You like your quiet time in the am!

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SKINNYMINIME22 11/11/2011 8:38PM

    Hi, John. I stumbled across your blog and had to comment since I seem to be the odd one out. I work from 7-5 (or 6 or 7) every day then, like everyone else, balance exercise/dinner and then everything else that needs to be completed after work. It's incredibly difficult for me to find the time to connect with my friends in the evenings and at night given everyone's own personal hectic schedules. And sometimes (ok, maybe a few times a week!) the best and most convenient time for me to chat with 2 of my closest friends is between 6-7 a.m. (hands-free, of course) while we're both making the morning trek into work. Maintaining those friendships is important to me, so I make time for it when I can. Just like exercise ;)

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FLGIRL1234 11/11/2011 2:13PM

    I'm with you. I don't think I'd have anyone to call at 6 am. My friends and family would ethier be A. Whats the matter? Are you ok???? OR B. What is wrong with you, its 6 am. lol

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GIRANIMAL 11/11/2011 1:07PM

    I love Joan.


So funny how ingrained our concepts of time and our innate fears are! Who you can possibly talk to on the phone at 6 a.m. seems like a totally valid curiosity to me. But like your insecurity about no one calling you that early, it occurred to me that whenever my phone rings or I get a text before, oh, say 8 or 9 a.m., my heart rate quickens and I immediately panic for just a moment, just as I would respond to a middle-of-the-night phone call. Obviously something must be terribly wrong!

And then, of course, it rarely is. Once it was my baby cousin sending me a random "hello" text before school. How terrible! LOL emoticon

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MIZZSB 11/11/2011 7:46AM

    hihihi John..

well 6 am is freaking early!!!
When it drives you nuts that Joans sleeps when she is no longer tired.. it drives me nuts that i can be awake before my daughter wakes up in the morning between 06.30-07.00 AM. While my boyfriend can sleep in till 11 am without a problem.. Some people need more sleep ;)

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NASFKAB 11/11/2011 2:40AM


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KENDRACARROLL 11/11/2011 1:12AM

    Wow! I think I forgot to turn on my phone today altogether. I'm always glad when nobody calls me :)

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GEEMAWEST 11/10/2011 10:37PM

    OMG! That's too funny!

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AIRPEACH 11/10/2011 7:44PM

My answer would be this: The cats. Or maybe I just think they talk to me. :D

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/10/2011 5:03PM

    Leave the phone off, John. There are already enough phone whores in the world already. emoticon

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LORI-K 11/10/2011 3:38PM

    Funny story!
I'm a morning person too, and can't think of a soul I can talk to at 6am! Who are these people talking to??

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HKARLSSON 11/10/2011 3:22PM

    emoticon Oh, that's funny! I can't stand talking to anybody before 10am. Oddly enough, I was born at 9:30am. Guess I need that half an hour to collect myself? Have a great afternoon and rest of the day, both you and your lady wife!

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CARTOONB 11/10/2011 1:57PM

    Your wife is a wise woman.

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KT-NICHOLS-13 11/10/2011 1:02PM

    Classic Joan!!
Crisis averted, indeed.
Enjoy your Thursday John and each day there after.

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WORKINGSTIFF 11/10/2011 12:12PM

    I was born in the early morning too and have spent a lifetime trying to avoid the a.m.!

I can't stand talking to anybody that early in the morning-only my dog. No noise, no TV, no conversation, nada....leave me be!

Your wife is obviously very astute...and probably quite droll too I bet you guys are great together!


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GETFIT2LIVE 11/10/2011 11:39AM

    That put a smile on my face this morning, John--leave it to your wife to put things into the right perspective. She is a very wise woman, I hope I get a chance to meet you both in person some day!


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GAL7288 11/10/2011 11:28AM

    lol that was funny! Makes me think i don't get many calls either, huh. I often joke that i can go without a phone for weekd with no missed or received calls.

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NEEDTOLOSE100LB 11/10/2011 10:56AM

    Funny. Sometimes I look around to see who is on their cell phones when I am waiting different places. I was shopping the other day and this woman and young girl (I would say maybe 9-10) were in the store. The girl was on the phone the whole time! Start them young.
The problem I have is that a good friend of mine drives truck and he gets done around midnight...sometimes we talk while he is driving, but I don't like distracting him so I have left a standing order that he can call me and wake me up to talk. He has a problem with this sometimes because he doesn't want to disturb my sleep, but I tried to explain to him that my best sleep time (do not disturb time!) is between 3-5 am. It is nice to get a "good morning" call sometimes!

So glad that your wife could put it all in perspective for you, though. You would have fretted all day otherwise! LOL.

Have a great day, John.

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PGNBRI 11/10/2011 10:54AM

    Ha Ha!! Hope you have a great day John!!

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LUVMYK9S 11/10/2011 10:01AM

    Thanks for the smile this morning! I wonder myself why so many people have to be connected all of the time. I suppose I am just old fashioned, I have a cell phone, but only use it rarely, whereas I see many people that can't go 5 minutes without chatting/texting on their cell phones! I guess I just don't feel the need ... especially at 6:00AM!

Good blog!

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WALKAWAY 11/10/2011 9:55AM

    LOL, that would be called the do not disturb function.

Have a wonderful day John! emoticon

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LISA01605 11/10/2011 9:43AM

    I get up at 4:30 every day (week days) but if anyone called me before 8 AM (week day) or 10 AM (weekend) they better have an emergency or I will likely tear their head off. I've learned to be an early riser and I am really productive in the morning but I am not ready for people that early in the day.

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ZMILENA 11/10/2011 9:17AM

    I liked your blog.
A word of advise.
Go to your local herbal store and buy herbs for tea.
It takes only 5 minutes to make it, a lot less than your line at McDonalds.
Real herbs are very good for your health in every aspect, and making your own tea is the only way to know it has no sugar added.
Try natural herbal tea with honey.
You`ll be surprised by how different it is from all the powder things they sell in McDonalds.
PS: Don`t turn on your phone at 6am. Treasure the time you can give only to your self.

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HAPPY-DESTINY 11/10/2011 9:16AM

    I know to whom they are NOT talking to at 6AM...You and Me! emoticon

Nice blog...Have a 'Happy' Day!

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HDHAWK 11/10/2011 9:07AM

    I'm an early riser too and the last thing I want to do is be on my phone at 6 a.m. That's about the only quiet time I get all day!

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CINNAMONCAT9 11/10/2011 9:03AM

    Ha ha! To be honest, I have a great deal of admiration for people who know how to be alone gracefully. Your writing is beautiful too; good thinkers make good writers.

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BEATLETOT 11/10/2011 8:51AM

    Very well-written and thought-provoking! Thanks for posting!!! =)

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ANOTHERMOMOF2 11/10/2011 8:51AM

    Lol. It does make it hard for people to call you if your phone isn't turned on at 6. Now I work on the theory that anyone calling me before oh say 7:30 has bad news. Never mind I'm up at 5:30 getting people off to school and work so I could talk but nobody I know is social at that time of the morning.

Have a great day!

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