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What Happens To Me When I Get Off Track or Being Positivley Unrealistic

Saturday, February 27, 2010

It’s real easy to be become positively unrealistic? What did I say, “Positively unrealistic?” Yup that’s what I said. It is a condition that exists when you become so enthused and so excited about something you lose all sense of the reality of your situation. It is as dangerous as feeling poorly about yourself or feeling as if you have no worth or value. I think in many ways its worse because it allows your inner self to inflate your value. When you find out that picture isn’t a true one, well you come crashing down to earth with a mighty “thud.”

Okay, now that I have confused you as well as myself let me try to crawl out of this hole I just dug. To some of you I may have committed the queen mother of all sins by talking about being positive in a negative manner. Let me use myself as an example.

The first week of my Spark People experience I lost over nine pounds. Alleluia, “Thank you Lord,” you have a new convert. This stuff really works. I became encouraged. I devoured the exercise blogs, even purchased a new gym bag and shoes. I continued to see results. I planned on increasing my cardio by five minutes per month, doing new and exciting exercises. The weight came off and then I saw myself running in a 5K. I even started talking to the cool kids at the gym. Exercise was as natural to me as breathing and maybe, just maybe there was a spot for me in the Olympics next time around.

Here’s what I forgot:
I am 56.5 years of age. I am obese. I have not exercised regularly for over a year. Yes, I felt great. Yes I more alert Yes my stress level had decreased and clothes fit much better. But……….. I was comparing myself to people who weighed much less, exercised more and were chronologically younger than me. I was asking this body that had been inert for so many years to perform miracles and it began to rebel. I didn’t suffer from the “aches and pains” at first, I began to lose my focus. Going to the gym wasn’t something I “charged into” any longer it was a chore, a pain and a burden. I was amazed that simply increasing my exercise by five minutes when I wasn’t ready to do so through me off so much. Then I did start to ache and my old “war wounds” began to act up and it all felt a bit futile.

“This aint workin’ too very well,” I said to myself. Then I got sick. Not “call in the family sick.” It was “feelin’ like I am fixin’ to die” sick. I had the virus. And I felt terrible. And I missed more than a few days of exercise. The good news is it gave me time to take stock and after I got over feeling just plain silly for doing what I did I heeded my own advice.

I try to be who I hang around with and one of those people is an exercise physiologist. She is the fitness director at one of the two gyms I belong to. (Can you say “over achiever?”) She is in my age group, but not quite. She’s married, has some teen age children and lives the hectic schedule we all do. She is fit and athletic but she isn’t a size zero. I like being around her because she is very realistic. So I presented her my dilemma.

Her answer was simple. “Do what you are comfortable doing till you are no longer being challenged.” At forty minutes per day I am being challenged. What I allowed myself to do is become unrealistic. When I began this journey I had one hundred pounds to lose. I knew it wasn’t going to come off over night but I got “sucked in.” Many of you only have ten to twenty pounds to lose. Many of you have worked out for years and a whole bunch of you are at least half my age. Of course your needs and requirements are going to be different than mine!

I didn’t see that. I saw that I was now one of the cool kids. I wasn’t the little, fat guy. (Talk about an oxymoron!) I am just like all the rest of you wonderful people, no matter how much my body begs me to slow down.

I cam crashing down. I felt silly and stupid. I was trying to be someone I am not. I was positively unrealistic. My intentions were good and noble and I had a positive outcome. My action plan was a bit askew.

I licked my wounds for a few days and yesterday when I went back to the gym I worked out at a pace where I was comfortable. Another wise friend told me one time “Take what the room gives you.” So I had a good workout and a lot of the cool kids came over and asked where I had been for the past few days.

I went home feeling good about what I did but more importantly I had a good gauge of where I was and what I could do.

Thanks for listening. We are all in this together.

  
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GRAMMABENJI 3/1/2010 10:57AM

    I sure can relate to your blog.

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TRIPLE_EMME 3/1/2010 9:58AM

    I am proud of you for talking to your friend, pulling yourself back up, and making yourself go work out!

It is very important not to compare ourselves to someone else -- regardless of age. (I know this is easier said than done, too.)

Keep on being awesome!

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CMBELISLE 2/28/2010 3:14PM

    I tend to be a realist. In this particular journey, I realistically know that I won't be able to keep up an exercise schedule like some of the people I read about on here - 60 to 90 minutes a day at the gym. I also know I'm going to do what I can, even if it is only 10 minutes a day. I do like the fact that I've worked my way up to being able to take a 3 mile walk in an hour, but that is my max for now - mostly because an hour is a long time to devote to exercise when there are 100 chores waiting for me to do at home. On the other hand, I get this unrealistic excitement contemplating weird things (at least for me) like running a 5k or doing the breast cancer 3-day walk (20 miles a day). I like the fact that they are there - they inspire me to want to get more fit and try to do a little more here and there, but I'm a realist and keep doing what I can, when I can. I'm going to continue to be me, just a more fit and slightly less heavy me.

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WANDAH3 2/28/2010 1:20PM

    John, may you always be open to sharing and paying it forward. You are such a blessing in my life as well as all those that share this journey with you. You have a wonderful gift of insight and an open and honest way of sharing those insights. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being who you are.
Eugene lives within many of us here. I'm grateful for "my Eugene", because of many of these same experiences, I've learned to be strong, to rise above, to have compassion and love. To embrace the Law of Attraction, to share, to try always to tune in to what "isn't" being said by those I meet, to be open to allowing God to use me as He sees fit.
What an incredible journey we are on!

Hugs,
Wanda

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STORMTMB 2/28/2010 1:18PM

    Sounds like you got some great advice from the physiologist - and, good for you, you listened and heard... and took action. You have made friends with the cool kids and you are a cool dude.

Tina

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KATIEGLEN012 2/28/2010 6:02AM

    John, I love that you said this for all of us. This is a journey, a life long journey we are on. I like what NJMAYYICE said above: have I made good choices today and I weigh what I am supposed to weigh...in this moment. And that PINETREEGIRL reminds us that all the numbers we are interested in don't show up on the scale.
Sure, I would LOVE to look good, but really want to BE healthy and strong. And not only that but would like to eat consciously and responsibly. I have been feeling a lot like you this past week...only hadn't really articulated it. I was thinking maybe I would quit, that others are doing it so much better, faster...more successfully and dare I say, cooler? But reading your blog calmed me and reminded me that for me this is not a sprint...it's a marathon.
Bless you.

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CRYSELLE 2/27/2010 9:10PM

    oh boy can I relate to this. I go into everything full on until I am plum worn out! I think you are absolutely spot on. You have to do what you are comfortable with until you are no longer challenged. It's easy to envision so many things, dream big is what they say, but realizing that it takes time to achieve those dreams is another thing. They say set small attainable goals that will help you to reach your ultimate goal, that way you can see progress, otherwise you get to the point of discouragement and give up. I can see this. I think you are a wonderful source of inspiration and encouragement and I love your humor and will to continue! emoticon

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SPARKENISTA 2/27/2010 12:39PM

    John--We joined only a day apart and I feel as though I'm going through a lot of what you're going through. I didn't get as into fitness as you did and I didn't catch a virus but I tend to do well with beginnings and lag as the course lengthens. I like your blog a lot b/c it reflects a lot of what I am going through.

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PINETREEGIRL 2/27/2010 12:38PM

    So, you're not the cool kids...but you're cool John.
I went through something like this when I posted my blog about the inner superhero. At home, on my scale, I saw myself as a superstar. Then I got to the gym, and there are people there who probably weigh 50 pounds less than I do, and I got what asserted itself as my 'reality check'. Especially, as mentioned, with a full wall of mirror...yeesh! So I had to come up with something to counter that negative voice, and the positive thought that I had was 'so what if I have not done this before--I'm doing it now!'
For YOU--and who you are, you're doing something. Woot woot!
I like thinking that there are more numbers than the scale. There are really cool things that we don't see, such as cholesterol level, resting heart rate, blood pressure. You're working on those numbers, too, and even if the scale is the same those subtle guys are changing. So you're always doing something.
Glad that you feel better, and that you're not giving up, but going to a place that's a realistic challenge level!



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NJMATTICE 2/27/2010 11:56AM

    In all things moderation, eh? Speed is a thrill, but the crash and burn doesn't feel so good. I have that bad habit of comparing myself with others. One of the gifts I am receiving on this journey is learning the importance of my individuality and building a healthy lifestyle that is best for me. One that is going to last. One that is built one healthy brick at a time. I get impatient because of my age (55.25)(just being a copycat) but to combat my impatience, I have changed my healthy measurement to the quality of each day. Have I made good choices today? And I tell myself that today, I weigh just what I'm supposed to weigh. It takes me out of that frantic rat race to the thin finish. I've won that race a couple of times only to start over again. I have retired from that race and each day I do my best to please myself. Thanks for sharing your journey. I most certainly understand!
Have a great weekend and thanks for the "polish remover".
-Nancy

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WANDAH3 2/27/2010 10:56AM

    Once again John, you are bang on. We do get caught up in the first rush of success and it oftens takes a set back to become more realistic and see that it's the turtle mentality that comes out on top. Slow and steady. Consistancy, realistic goals, and just plain changing the lifestyle in a permanent sustainable manner.
Congratulations.


Have a great weekend.
Hugs,
Wanda

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1WALKINGMAN 2/27/2010 10:52AM

    emoticonblog, John. You are doing very well with your journey. emoticon

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TWENKY215 2/27/2010 9:58AM

    WOW John! I read both of your blogs, yesterday and today. You are really funny, optimistic and just really inspiring. I love your positive outlook and creative way at looking at life. I know with the way that you think and if you really listen to yourself, you will get to be the John that you envision. I happened to stumble on your page going through the High Blood Pressure links at the bottom of my start page. I am so glad that I did. I'm going to subscribe to your blog because I feel what you are going through seeing that I often feel the same things too. LOL!! We seasoned sparkers have to stick together. We'll get to where we want to be in time. Enjoy the rest of your day and continue to be an encouragement to everyone. emoticon

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MARCYNA 2/27/2010 9:51AM

    I know what you mean, I'm an enthusiastic person and get excited over novelties but get soon in trouble when things don't work out fine. It happens to me at dance class, I feel great at the bar but the second part of the class is really threatening for me - and the girls I'm practicing with are really really strong. Some of them may become professional dancers, they practise almost every day!!!
So the perfect attitude for me is to attend the class, and to make the best of it - they're cool enough to be my friends. But I'm not going to become a pro and what I do is just for fun...whatever happens, I will have done my best without disappointments.It's a balance between desires and reality I think we should try to find emoticon emoticon

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AMABILE75 2/27/2010 9:43AM

    I can really relate to this. I have the same problem with myself! I always expect perfection, and to much out of myself and then get discouraged when I don't live up to my own expectations. I tend to have two speeds... attacking with everything I have going all out, or nothing at all.

Using SparkPeople has really helped me to understand that I'm not alone, I'm not the only one with these kinds of thoughts or feelings, I'm not crazy afterall! So I try so hard to allow myself to take this slow. I'm a work in progress after all, and not perfection. :-)

Thank you so much for sharing this. I wish you the very best!!! emoticon

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Our Perspective

Friday, February 26, 2010

A great deal of my work involves traveling. I love traveling, especially when I am sitting in the cozy warmth of my office and talking about it. Catch me in the middle of a three hour flight delay on the last flight leaving Chicago for San Diego or Los Angeles and I might give you a different opinion. It’s a matter of perspective.

I was in Los Angeles a few years ago and I was making a purchase with one of my bank cards. The clerk asked for ID when I gave her my driver’s license she said “Oh Kentucky!” By the look on her face I began looking around to see if I was standing beside some week old garbage.Long ago I learned to use humor as weapon. Not a Kill you, beat you up weapon” but a weapon to diffuse a tense situation or two.

I leaned across the counter and said,” Ma’m I have worn shoes all my life, had indoor plumbing ever since I can remember and I promise you I am not married to any immediate family members.” She chuckled a bit.

“Wanna know something?” I asked her

She nodded.

“Do you know I spend a lot of time defending people who live in Southern California?”She straightened up and gave me one of those “What the heck do you mean looks.”

“Everyone knows,” I went on. “You are all pot smoking hippies who have sex in the middle of the street whenever you choose. And that’s just the everyday people. Don’t get me started on movie stars.”

She smiled and said something like “Okay, you got me.” It’s a matter of perspective.

We are so quick to evaluate and even quicker to judge and dispose of thoughts, ideas and other people. I believe most of those actions come from a very deep rooted insecurity we all have about ourselves. The next time you have a free moment get yourself comfortable, close your eyes and conjure up a picture of yourself. Take a really good look at that picture. Pay close attention to what you see. That is the image you and I project to the rest of the world. If it’s a smiling confident, up right posture then that’s what the world sees.

Most of us vacillate somewhere between feeling so-so about ourselves and downright unhappy. That’s why diets don’t work. They deal only with the shell, or the exterior. The next time you are in a book store notice what two sections contain the most titles---- Dieting and Self Help. Now don’t you think if there was one regimen for health there would be one book? And we all would walk around with grins on our faces? It’s a matter of perspective.

We often tell ourselves that the external self doesn’t matter, that’s it’s the inner person or the inner beauty that should shine. Oh yeah? Tally up how much money you have spent on exercise equipment, workout clothes and gym memberships in the past five years and compare it to what you spend on your “inner self.” It’s a matter of perspective.

Imagine you purchased an old beat up car that barely ran and the only investment you made in it was to get an expensive pain job. The car wouldn’t run any better. My perspective needs to change from the inside out. Once the inner image I have of me begins to change, the exterior will match it. It’s all about my perspective!

When I see me as being a person of value, a person who loves and is loved, a person who has really cool things to share, all of a sudden those cookies, cakes and pies aren’t so important to me any longer and I start looking for ways to match my inner picture.

Stop and think for a moment: Why is Sparkpeople.com so successful? In close to three months I have yet to read or see any magic or secret formulas. No rigid diet that forces me to deny myself. No snarling trainer telling me I won’t be healthy until I die from a stroke on the tread mill. Just a lot nurturing by a lot of fantastic folks. Just a lot of support and encouragement by all of you. If I am a reasonable and rationale person, I believe that I am part of a very unique group of people called humanity and suddenly those bad habits aren’t my priorities any longer.

Take a good hard look at yourself and start seeing the wonderful creature God created. You see, I am really selfish. I want you to see the marvelous you, so I can see you too.

It’s a matter of perspective.


  
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NJMATTICE 2/26/2010 7:26PM

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my rose colored glasses for proper perspective.
Cheers.

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STAN5FAM 2/26/2010 1:40PM

    The first part of your blog had me laughing. Lived in metro, suburb New England then moved to TN rural Apalachia Smokey Mountains. Yes we were surrounded by the stereotype of rural life. It was quite the culture shock. But how narrowminded and foolish it would be to "Box" and limit people to what they think a person would could amount too.
You are such an inspiration, John. I thank God everyday for people like you.
Have you got a Motivator award yet???!! I keep voting for you! emoticon

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MARCYNA 2/26/2010 11:50AM

    WoW!!!You should write a book on optimism, your blog 's so inspirational!!! Thanks and I'm so happy you've been changing so much - so have I emoticon emoticon

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WANDAH3 2/26/2010 10:41AM

    John, thank you once again for blogging. I always enjoy your views .

Have a wonderful Friday,
Hugs,
Wanda

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TNTEACHER2 2/26/2010 10:35AM

    Morning, John,
I was visiting my mom in a hospital in Illinois, when her roommate asked me whenre I was from. At the time I taught in Tennessee. When she found this out, she wanted to give me her old clothes to take to my students! KY and TN get a bad rap from the rest of the country.
Marcy

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CMBELISLE 2/26/2010 9:45AM

    I got a really good chuckle out of (the first part of) your blog. Perspective is a really important aspect of life, both in how we see ourselves and how we see others. Our perspective of ourselves also changes based on our "mood" of the moment. Thanks to your providing me with some laughter, the image of myself that I envisioned was a good one. Had I not been in a good mood from that laughter, the image I had envisioned might not have been so nice.

I really do enjoy your blogs. Thanks for sharing!

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STORMTMB 2/26/2010 9:36AM

    One of my favorite quotes... "What we see depends mainly on what we look for." -author unknown.

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TAZZAT2003 2/26/2010 9:18AM

    John,
I wonder if you realize what an inspiration you are to those who read your blogs. Everyone thinks that being healthy means lean and muscular or resembling models. They forget that being healthy is not only what we look like on the outside but how we look and feel on the inside, too. Thanks for helping us remember that.

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DOLLBABE56 2/26/2010 8:22AM

    John,

Another great blog.

This is really something we should all consider. It's easy to lose the real you. There is so much negativity in the world, but there is also a lot of positivity. Wouldn't it be great if we all would take the time to see our own perspective and learn to treat our bodies as the temple they are?

Have a wonderful day.

Debbie

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AMABILE75 2/26/2010 8:04AM

    I just love your blogs!! If there is one thing I always enjoy getting it is a fresh perspective. A different perspective on things can make such a huge difference in your life.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!! emoticon

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Optimism: An Addition

Thursday, February 25, 2010

I was not aware there was more to the Optimists Creed than I posted. One of my dear Spark friends shared the rest with me. It is actually a quote by Christian D Larson. Here are the last two lines

To think well of myself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words, but in great deeds.

To live in the faith that the whole world is on my side, so long as I am true to the best that is in me.

Thank you TSISQUAUSDI for sharing the rest of the quote

Hope y'all enjoy.

  
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BLUEGOOSE2 2/25/2010 9:04PM

  Thank you ,for sharing this wonderful creed. It is refreshing to see to see someone with such a positive outlook. emoticon

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WANDAH3 2/25/2010 7:56PM

    It's a powerful creed...love it.

Hugs,
Wanda

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GRANDTEETON 2/25/2010 7:33PM

    I like the quotes. Best of luck to you.

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KERENSALMW 2/25/2010 7:21PM

  pretty amazing 2 lines.

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Optimism

Thursday, February 25, 2010

Every Wednesday around noon I gather with a like minded group of people who sincerely believe in being positive. We are the International Optimist and our mission is to "bring out the best in kids." For the past few weeks I have wanted to take time to share The Optimists Creed with you. I thought today would be good since I will be traveling most of today.

I have found that if I take each section and dwell on it in my life and what it means to me, I am much happier. I hope you enjoy.

The Optimist Creed

Promise Yourself:

To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel that there is something in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.

To think only of the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

Have a great Thursday

  
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GIRANIMAL 2/26/2010 1:08PM

    Thanks for sharing! I really have been working hard at this recently. Isn't it too bad that at some point optimism fail to come naturally to us anymore? It just shouldn't be. Thanks for the reminder that it doesn't HAVE to be! Happy travels.

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AMYTATH 2/25/2010 5:44PM

    I, along with several others it looks like, am going to print this and hang it somewhere I'll see it everyday!!!

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WANDAH3 2/25/2010 5:19PM

    What a great creed to live by! Thank you for sharing it with us John.

I'm planning of making a copy to have at my desk at work.

Hope your day is fantastic.

Hugs,
Wanda

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TSISQUAUSDI 2/25/2010 3:34PM

    Hi, John - That's a quote by Christian D. Larson. The rest of it goes:

To think well of myself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words, but in great deeds.

To live in the faith that the whole world is on my side, so long as I am true to the best that is in me.

Christian D. Larson


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MARCYNA 2/25/2010 11:14AM

    WoW...Looks wonderful, I'll use it... emoticon emoticon

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NJMATTICE 2/25/2010 10:46AM

    I do solemnly swear to follow the creed.
Thanks, John. Have aTHpectacular Thursday!
-Nancy

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TRIPLE_EMME 2/25/2010 9:57AM

    Thanks for posting the Optimist Creed!

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OHYESITSME1 2/25/2010 9:05AM

    THANK YOU! I needed that!

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TAZZAT2003 2/25/2010 8:51AM

    You always have such wonderful blogs. It is like a new treat everyday. I really enjoyed this one and now probably more than before I should try to follow it. It has always been easier for me to be a worrybody. Have a safe trip and I look forward to reading your next post.

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STORMTMB 2/25/2010 8:21AM

    What a great challenge! Thanks for sharing this creed. Clearly you are trying to live it! Have a great day and be safe in your travels.

Tina

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DOLLBABE56 2/25/2010 7:36AM

    John - Thank you for posting this. This is a wonderful guide that I can practice. I am trying so hard to stay positive (this coming from one that has been so negative in the past). I am finding that I am so much happier with myself. This is the 2nd blog of yours (I believe) that I have read, and both are so uplifting. Be safe traveling today!

Debbie

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PALEAN 2/25/2010 7:18AM

    I love this. This could open a lot of eyes up to less optimistic people. I always thought it would be a wonderful, and novel thing, to have a newspaper filled only with positive news. I think many people, communities would benefit if more emphasis were put on the successes of individuals, communities, countries and I truly believe happiness, positive energy is contagious. This is a wonderful creed! Thanks!

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REILLYGIRRRL 2/25/2010 7:12AM

  Great creed!

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Simplicity

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

I think it’s often over looked in our precise calculations on life, love and a journey towards happiness. For some strange reason we discount it as being too easy. If life isn’t a struggle at every corner and at every turn, then I guess we aren’t investing enough of our self. Too some, if we embrace it we are considered weak and without direction. It’s called simplicity and simplicity gets a very bad rap.

I have found it to be a really good antidote for stress. The less encumbered my life becomes the less I have to worry about. The less I worry the more room for joy, peace and that vision of the REAL me.

The real me is not the person created by everyone else’s expectations. That’s the me that turned to food as a solution, became obese, complicated my life even more and was in borderline despair mode for awhile. It’s the me that takes the time on a Saturday morning to sit down with some soothing background music and explore the things that make me so very unique. There are thirty two of them and they are never far from me. I read them aloud, I laugh a bit and I go on my way. It takes maybe 10 minutes. No need to climb the mountain and visit the Swami. I have all I need inside. The simpler I make it the easier it gets. The harder I make it the harder it gets.

I am a simple person. I ask to be loved and I want to give that love in return. I want to be acknowledged for what I do but if I don’t show you what I am capable of doing, how can you acknowledge me?

I am a simple person. I can tell you with confidence that I am funny, I am intelligent and I can get you to buy an igloo in Alaska with the twinkle in my eye.

Being simple doesn’t require a lot of work. It requires honesty. Yes, I have made a ton of mistakes but a quick review of everything I have written above shows that none of it has changed because I’ve admitted to being weak, or thrown a temper tantrum or changed a computer over to Windows 7 all by myself and messed it up after my wife told me to wait for one of sons who is an IT specialist.

The further I travel and the more I am “honestly honest” with myself the more I see that losing the bad weight I put on, adjusting my meal plan and working out has little or nothing to do with food and everything to do with how I see and value myself. We believe it hurts to be “honestly honest” Come close and I’ll tell you a little secret. Once I faced me, I simply saw what everyone else saw and it wasn’t bad. Once I was honest with me I found out I was a really cool dude, or “sir” to those of you under thirty. The only thing that stopped me from being me was me.

Really simple

There is no bravado here, no false courage. I’ll fail more today then I’ll succeed. At the end of the day I’ll write down one million things I wish I would have done differently. The difference is when I look at it tonight I’ll smile a bit instead of a painful grimace

Really simple

  
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DOLLBABE56 2/25/2010 7:41AM

    Ok John, after reading todays blog I HAD to read this one. I don't know how I missed this one. I'm glad I did. You are such an inspiration. I love you attitude toward life.

Debbie emoticon

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KATIEGLEN012 2/25/2010 2:06AM

    Taking time to acknowledge the simple things let's us realize that all the beauty in this world is simple...simply elegant, simply delightful, simply delicious. Your words are part of what makes my day simply delightful and your insights are simply inspiring. Glad to see you are taking care of you.

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WANDAH3 2/24/2010 6:09PM

    John...you have such a wonderful way of writing. I am always blessed when I stop by to read what you've written.

Like you, since I've actually faced myself and been truly honest...I'm learning that I actually like me too! As I've eased up on being so hard on myself, I've eased up naturally on many other things. Garry and I both have learned that "it's the simple things" in life that make the most impression. We are learning to let go of so much that has kept us prisoners.

Thanks for the wonderful blog.

Hugs,
Wanda

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CLOTHEDINLOVE 2/24/2010 3:02PM

    I like this a lot! My husband and I are taking some active steps to making life simpler... cancelling cable, getting rid of "stuff"... it's refreshing.

I think being simple can be harder than being complicated. It's easy to make things complicated in this world. The hard part is stepping back from it and realizing we don't have to live that way.

Good luck to you in your journey to simplicity! Sounds like you're doing really well. emoticon

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NJMATTICE 2/24/2010 2:45PM

    Now if I would just "simply" exercise more I think I'd be in better shape! I'm getting there. I like the bumper sticker "Live simply so that others can simply live." Keep up the good work.
-nj

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_RAMONA 2/24/2010 2:30PM

    Hi, John! As I said in my blog this morning, this entry of yours should be called 'Killing me softly with his song'.

"[For some reason] if life isn’t a struggle at every corner and at every turn [I discount it as being too easy].

The simpler I make [life] the easier it gets. The harder I make [life] the harder it gets.
I want to be acknowledged for [who I really am] I do but if I don’t show you what I am capable of doing, how can you acknowledge me? The only thing that stopped me from being me was me [not being “honestly honest”].

The further I travel and the more I am “honestly honest” with myself the more I see that losing the bad weight I put on, adjusting my meal plan and working out has little or nothing to do with food and everything to do with how I see and value myself.

The less encumbered my life becomes the less I have to worry about. The less I worry the more room for joy, peace and that vision of the REAL me."

This pretty much sums up my growth the past two years here at SparkPeople, and it's still where I need to fine tune. I'm really 'weary' today, and it's because I let 'life' crowd out the REAL me, and I stopped being completely 'honestly honest'. It exhausts me... truly it does. Thanks for the reminder today. I'm truly blessed in having stumbled across your blog this week.

{{{{{{{{{ HUGS }}}}}}}}
Ramona

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TRIPLE_EMME 2/24/2010 10:32AM

    Simplicity -- that is something that I'm striving for in my life: keeping it simple.

Thank you for the thought provoking blog.

Have a great day!

P.S. I'm going to make the "special me" list my task for March.

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STAN5FAM 2/24/2010 9:58AM

    Thanks Bestest Cool Dude! emoticon

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STORMTMB 2/24/2010 8:13AM

    As always, great things to think about. Thanks for sharing, John! Have a great day!

Tina

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