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A Sacred Pause

Wednesday, December 24, 2014

When I was a kid I hated Mass on Christmas Eve. At some point they would read what I called the "Begats" Gospel. It seemed like it took forever!!

Huh?

The passage is the first chapter of Matthews Gospel. It's official term is The Martyrology. It traces the genealogy of Jesus from Abraham up to Jesus father Joseph. In between you have your usual heavy hitters like David and Solomon, people who'd look impressive on anyone's family tree. Then you have a whole lot of people who woke up every morning and went to work whether it were in a market, a temple, on a farm or in a store. They were all shapes and sizes. They all shared one thing in common, none of them knew that over 2,000 years later people would remember the most important person dangling off that family tree. That person was Jesus.

They were people like you and I. They were people with great talents and faults and weaknesses. They often succumbed to their fears and temptations and in their darkest moments despaired. They persevered as well, they fought the good fight, did the right thing, besieged heaven with prayers and asked for forgiveness each night before they retired, right after they thanked God for the blessings he'd bestowed on him each day.

There were 42 generations between Abraham and the birth of Jesus. A generation in the bible is 70 years. That means 2,940 years passed after God appeared to Abraham and told him "I will be your God and you will be my people." That's a long time to persevere. (And I get upset when McDonalds takes 2 minutes to fill my order.)

God made a promise. He didn't say when that promise was to be fulfilled. He asked for patience and perseverance and in the end he kept his promise and bestowed to you and I and those 42 generations his greatest gift, crafted from love.

Maybe 2014 hasn't been your year. Maybe you cant sleep because you aren't quite sure how you're going to pay your bills or where the next business opportunity is coming from. Maybe you are struggling to keep your head above water or the relationship you have longed for so many years seems to have vanished and you feel you do not have a friend in the world. Maybe when all of that creeps up on you and chills you like a snow ball down the back of shirt on a January evening it would do well to remember what God promised Abraham close to 5,000 years ago. "I will be your God and you will be my people."

Many years ago a wise friend told me "Wherever there is hope, there are the people of God." For the people in Matthews Gospel that hope was fulfilled through Jesus.

So, that's my "hope" for me and for you that through your belief and faith, however you choose to express it, that you hang in there.

Better days are coming.

He promised.


Marry Christmas to all of you.

  
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KMICHA 12/27/2014 9:00AM

    Great insight!! Thanks for sharing!! Merry Christmas!!

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JANIEWWJD 12/27/2014 12:37AM

    Yes John, He is always there for us when we need Him!!!! Our Savior, Jesus Christ, will never fail us!!!!
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SLIMLEAF 12/25/2014 3:19PM

    Oh, John! What a lovely, encouraging blog post to read!

Thank you so much.

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Your English friend

Lindsay

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INBRAZILFORNOW 12/25/2014 10:08AM

    So important to take this Sacred Pause and often difficult to redirect my attention to the season's essence. Thank you and Merry Merry Merry CHRISTmas!

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    emoticon Merry Christmas emoticon

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NASFKAB 12/25/2014 12:39AM

  Merry Christmas to you & all your family may you have a great time with all of them

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ONEKIDSMOM 12/25/2014 12:06AM

    Merry Christmas to you and yours, John!

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AJDOVER1 12/24/2014 8:58PM

    Merry Christmas, John!
Blessings to you and those you love

Peace on Earth!

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CARTOONB 12/24/2014 4:16PM

    Thanks John!

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    Blessings John, to you and your loved ones. emoticon

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1STBUCKETITEM 12/24/2014 4:00PM

  Your words today were so eloquently expressed. Thank you for sharing your faith, memories, doubts, concerns and hope. Indeed, we all must learn to live with "patience and perseverance." The friends I've met through SP always encourage each other with those attributes each day. To all, emoticon

To all, Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays! emoticon emoticon

"Better days are coming!"
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MORTICIAADDAMS 12/24/2014 3:18PM

    Though I must admit that I am relieved my denomination doesn't go through the begats I do think it is important to know where we came from and where we are going. Christians are blessed to have that knowledge and eternal hope.

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COLOR-BLUE 12/24/2014 2:47PM

    John,

You're so correct, better days are not just coming, but they're HERE NOW!!! God gave us so many promises in His Word. Some have already been fulfilled, others are happening right here and now, and yet there are others that are still to come. Each promise that is unfolded, is a Christmas gift to me. Each promise that He gave me has already come to fruition, or it will be coming to fruition.

So, rejoice in the HERE and NOW, as we open up ALL of our Christmas gifts, throughout the entire year!

Merry Christmas and Blessings!

- Nancy Jean -
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MAWMAW101 12/24/2014 1:25PM

    Thank you. That is the best thing I've read today! As I listen to those "begats" this evening I will be believing in my "better days to come".
Although most of my days are great getting older brings new challenges.

Merry Merry Christmas to you.
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KENDRACARROLL 12/24/2014 1:14PM

    Merry Christmas.
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SBEAR5 12/24/2014 1:10PM

    Thanks for sharing. Merry Christmas to you & yours as well!

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BAMAJAM2 12/24/2014 12:22PM

  As a young kid, I remember falling asleep at Midnight Mass --on the shoulder of the man next to me. Most of all, I remember the life-sized nativity statues near the altar--and I would look at that scene, and the whole meaning of Christmas was right THERE! It was so very HOLY--!! Have a HOLY Christmas, John, -- and all your family!
Hugs from Mary

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Why Wait?

Sunday, December 21, 2014

"Well I guess we should enjoy the next week or so." The first voice said with a hint of resignation.

"Why is that?" Asked a second voice.

"The New Years Resolution people will be here soon. This place will be a zoo." Answered the first.

In the back ground the Greek chorus murmured their ascent.


I was standing in front of my locker getting dressed after my morning workout and those voices migrated over the bank of lockers in front of me.

I can't say I could argue with the guy. I've been part of that gym for five years now and I've felt the same frustrations. Every year around January 1 we sit down at our desks or in front of our computer screens and we promise ourselves that the next year will be different. We begin a new diet, join a gym, buy a pair of good shoes to walk in............. My gym will hold an open house, offer a reduced membership rate and dazzle you with the promise that come spring break you too will fit into your vacation clothing. And every year right around Valentines Day things go back to a normal predictability.

Why do you think that is?

It's not about your moral fiber or character. It has nothing to do with self discipline or will power. You are not a "bad person."

Simply put' you are over whelmed.

Think about it a minute. You and I have lived "one way" for a long, long time and all of a sudden, because of a day marked on a calendar, we begin to deny ourselves and somewhere deep inside our minds and our bodies say something like, "Whooooooooooa wait a minute here."

So, we listen to inspirational music, play inspirational videos and "gut it out," until finally one day our bodies say, "That's it, I'm through with this nonsense." Then the whole downward spiral begins. We look in the mirror and play the blame game.

What if there's another way. I mean, why wait?

That's what I asked myself the day after Thanksgiving when my I had a hard time buttoning my pants. Why wait until the new year?

On top of being really good looking I read minds. I know what you are thinking. "This is the holiday season. Too much temptation, too many parties, to little time."

They still sell bananas, blackberries, pineapples and grapes don't they? (Those are my favorites.)

Okay I'm not going to moralize just make a suggestion or two. Things that are helping me weather the storm and stick to my goal(s).

Start Small
The day after Thanksgiving I set a goal for myself to reach by January 1. It was challenging enough that I'd have to work towards it, but very reachable so while I am required to change my habits, I'm doing so slowly and with purpose.

Start Now
If I make the commitment to start small it's easier to start now. I eased into my goal. My trigger food is french fries. I know if I eliminate them from my diet things go much smoother. That's what I did day one. I could go on, but you get the point. Starting small means I can start now.

A healthier life style is one of my goals but I have found with the people I work with this process removes a major stumbling block for them. Take the bay steps and start small, start now and when you reach the first plateau, stop, and take a deep breath and ask yourself:

"What's my next success going to be?"

  
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HDHAWK 12/24/2014 7:37AM

    It has taken me so many do overs and "do it all at once" plans to finally realize that trying to change everything at once doesn't work. Like you said, if it does work, it only lasts for so long. As slow as I'm losing and as frustrating as it can be, that's what I'm doing this time. To be honest, it drives me crazy but then I realize I've lost the same 10 pounds over and over for the past 5 years. Isn't it better to go slower and keep it off than to waste more time being unhealthy and unhappy with myself. Good plan John!

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  emoticon You are spot on when you say you have to start small. Especially with goal setting. You have to set "realistic" reachable goals. I too, set a goal for myself to reach by January 1st around Thanksgiving. I'm almost there, not that it's been without a couple slips. But, I didn't let them derail me from staying on the track. This week is going to be a challenge, but you have to plan for it. Stay with it John. emoticon emoticon emoticon
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
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SNOOPYLINKOS 12/23/2014 8:51AM

    "Starting small means I can start now." I like that. I can do one small thing and add another and another, slow and small. Thanks John! Enjoy the holidays, your way!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 12/22/2014 1:37PM

    I like small goals too. I don't get overwhelmed that way.

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JANIEWWJD 12/22/2014 12:44AM

    I totally agree with you! Why wait; we need to have healthy habits all year long, and not wait till New Years Day to begin!!!
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NASFKAB 12/22/2014 12:40AM

  so very true why wait? just start NOW one step at a time one day at a time thanks for inspiring me

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SLIMLEAF 12/21/2014 7:05PM

    I think this next week is going to be particularly challenging for me in terms of healthy eating and exercise, but I'll try to take a leaf out of your book and do what I CAN each day and thereby limit the 'damage'.

Best wishes and Happy Christmas!

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FORMYDARLINGS 12/21/2014 6:29PM

    Thanks for this blog John. I am guilty of looking ahead to the New Year for a GOOD fresh start . But you are right. WHy Wait? Those calories aren't going to quit going into my mouth unless I stop putting them there. I had mini started with 1 new habit a week ago taking tiny steps toward forming a new habit. I have let myself ignore the steps for 3 days and thanks to you, I can get right back into taking those few steps a week again right now and be ahead of the game a week and a half from now. You definitely changes the game for me today.


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CHRISTINEBWD 12/21/2014 5:27PM

    Great advice for anyone John. emoticon

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AJDOVER1 12/21/2014 3:43PM

    Everyday there
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COLOR-BLUE 12/21/2014 3:08PM

    John,

You hit the nail right on the head! It's all about BABY STEPS! I learned a long time ago, that if I did anything more than as baby step, I feel back more than I stepped forward! So, it's baby steps all the way, for me!

Blessings!

- Nancy Jean -
GA

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MOBYCARP 12/21/2014 2:31PM

    I'm with you on this one. I've never made a lasting life change on January 1. The changes that have stuck have been made when i was ready to change, which is at random times throughout the year. The important thing is not when I start, but whether I stick with what I start.

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  emoticon Advice!! Thanks so much for sharing. There is no time then the present.
Life style change, key word here is LIFE style. Make daily goals and do one at a time or weekly goals but make them small so you can see what you have done. I have long term goals to but I like my little changes I do every day. Try new things, food or exercise, it doesn't matter, just have fun while do it.
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ONEKIDSMOM 12/21/2014 10:03AM

    Absolutely right... for me there is no designated starting date or time... it's "NOW" whenever I say it's NOW! Good choice, and good advice... start small, and do it now!

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CARTOONB 12/21/2014 10:02AM

    Excellent advice, as always. Although you humility still stuns me. emoticon

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EVIE4NOW 12/21/2014 9:30AM

  You are so right. Don't put off till "tomorrow" what you can do today.

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HARROWJET 12/21/2014 9:15AM

    Very good advice - start small and start NOW.

Merry Christmas!

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ELRIDDICK 12/21/2014 9:14AM

  Thanks for sharing

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Inspiration

Thursday, December 18, 2014

I ended my blog yesterday with an inspirational posting from Coach Jim Valvano over 20 years ago. Jim passed away three weeks after he gave this speech at the ESPY Awards where he was honored with the Arthur Ashe Award.

I share this with you because it not only inspires me and motivates me

Here is the link

youtu.be/HuoVM9nm42E

  
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COLOR-BLUE 12/21/2014 2:49PM

    WOW!!! I knew this was going to be an emotional speech, when I saw the two men hugging in the beginning and then I saw tears in the eyes of some of the participants. Coach Valvano sure was something! Thank you, so much for sharing, for I do the 3 things he talked about, every day!

Blessings!

- Nancy Jean -
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JANIEWWJD 12/20/2014 12:31AM

    Thank you for sharing!!! That was great!! Have a great day tomorrow!!
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KMICHA 12/19/2014 9:06PM

    Wow!!! Thanks for sharing!!!

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AJDOVER1 12/18/2014 4:57PM

    thanks for sharing that!

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1STBUCKETITEM 12/18/2014 1:51PM

  Inspirational and motivational indeed. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
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AHAPPYSPIRIT 12/18/2014 10:16AM

    Thank you for sharing these thoughts.

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PUGLOVER1999 12/18/2014 10:13AM

    INSPIRING! Thanks for sharing!

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NASFKAB 12/18/2014 9:58AM

  awesome thanks for sharing

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Those Small Victories That Mean So Much.

Wednesday, December 17, 2014

The regulars at my gym are pretty much used to my off beat behavior. I've been known to burst into song on the recumbent bike or do a dance on the elliptical.

They've never seen me cry.

I don't mean the "Sniffle, sniffle dab at your eyes with a tissue."

I mean like full blown tears running down your face only instead of looking pain stricken you are smiling and talking to yourself while your Ipod is sorta blaring Jay-Z.

That kind of crying.

If you have been active and then suddenly injured and your activity is limited you know that sometimes your brain wants to do things your body isnt capable of doing and when you try to do them, well, you fail. When the injury comes suddnely it devestates you. You werent expecting it.



That injury sticks around for 3 years and it ambushes you when you least expects it. When all the weight you lost comes back with a vengence and when thinking that if your self confidence was in the gutter that would be a step up. You live in a jail of your own creation. No one gets it.

They get tired of listening to your misery and despair.

I get it. I really do. I get tired of listening to myself moan and complain but when your body wont obey one simple stupid freaking command............

Your excercise is confined to a warm water therapy pool and you look like a bloated plum all the time. When your sciatic nerve gets pinched between a disc or narrowed muscle mass your left leg suddnely looks up at you and says "Good-Bye" and you fall down.

You pray and you try to barter with God. You tell Him if He heals you you'll never do a,b,c ever agian or you will start doing d,e,f,g.



So, one morning after spending 30 minutes on the recumbent bike and feeling pretty good you decide to walk around the track for a lap or two, simply to cool down and stretch. You know you cant go much farther until things start to tingle or tighten up. You are beating yourself up a bit because two weeks ago you set a goal of walking in a 5K by the spring of 2015 and you have had a hard time doing 3 or 4 laps - not even one half mile.

You havent given up though. You've checked online for yoga excercises for sciatica. At 61 your body does not always bend that way but you give them a shot. You are not sure if they are helping or not.

You are listening to a Jay-Z medley while you walk. It's what you used when you could run and when you look down at the clicker in your hand it ways you've walked 6 laps which is a bit over a half mile.

Maybe?

You feel okay. No pain, no tingle, no numbness. You keep going.

7 laps. 8, laps, 9 laps

You wonder "Is this a cruel trick? Is my left leg going to abandon me with only two mealsy laps left?"

10 laps

I start the 11th lap that will make a mile and my heart says "If you have to crawl you are going to finsh this last lap." I am in the last straight away and its when the emotion starts to well up and spill over. I start to cry and it's the kind of crying where you're whole body shakes back and foreth and I am do damn happy and so proud and so.........

I cannot tell you what will happen tomorrow. I only know that today brought me a distilled moment of happiness that will carry me for sometime.

Small victories. They sustain us.

  
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BARCELONAME 12/27/2014 3:03AM

  Awesome and CONGRATS

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CICELY360 12/22/2014 9:35PM

  good blog

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CARTOONB 12/19/2014 8:50PM

    I'm proud of you!

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JSEATTLE 12/19/2014 1:41AM

  When things are going well for us, we start to take things for granted. Anything can befall us at any time, for better or worse. I love your candor and I appreciate your struggle. Thank you for continuing to inspire with your honest emotion.

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BLUEJEAN99 12/19/2014 1:31AM

    Thank you! I am injured depressed and gained thirteen pounds I really relate

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LIVELYGIRL2 12/18/2014 10:35PM

  I read the other comments. I see you hit a nerve, for those who have lost and put it back, or had a condition or injury, that makes them force themselves to do such and such.

I can see how that frustration and being able to do what you really, really want, really touched you. I think it is rare and most guys suck it up, which makes one stressed and uptight, and sometimes angry.

You know my mom had an accident 4 years ago. She was ticked off to say it nicely. Prior to that, she didn't think she was old, really. People thought it was denial, but she was able to do her favorite things like swim 15 laps or walk 4 miles. After the injury, she complained most of the time.

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NONNAOF2 12/18/2014 7:05PM

  What a great post today! I love a man who has sensitivity, that is nothing to be ashamed of! I can relate to your experiences and you are heading in the right direction! Congratulations! :-)

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LCRUMLEY81 12/18/2014 5:36PM

  A wonderful idea

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AJDOVER1 12/18/2014 4:56PM

    awesome!

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PATRICIAANN46 12/18/2014 3:06PM

  I am in PT right now for a hip and spine injury and know exactly what you mean. The occasional day when I can move almost normally with little or no pain makes me NOT want to go to bed that night because I don't want THAT day to end.
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CATNURSE1 12/18/2014 2:21PM

    Always nice to see a man with emotion. The motto in this house is never give up, never quit. I've been merciless with my kids and made them cry (not happy tears), but in the end get thanked for pushing (more times than not). I'm dealing with little victories and have decided that it's a lot more satisfying to pat myself on the back for the little things (like bypassing the chips and salsa and drinking water) than waiting until the big accomplishment is done. My kids think I'm losing it when I get excited about new recipes that are low calorie or low sodium or low fat. "It's just a piece of bread, Mom." Yes, but it's my piece of bread and I'm excited about it.

Great blog -- I'll be back to read more.

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SRWYLIE 12/18/2014 1:26PM

    Your blogs are always inspirational, John! Thanks for another great post!

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DIANNEMT 12/18/2014 12:08PM

    So very glad!!

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CHERYLHURT 12/18/2014 10:00AM

  Way to go!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 12/18/2014 9:47AM

    As I age I really appreciate days like that. They give me hope and keep me moving.

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JIBBIE49 12/18/2014 9:42AM

    Hugs

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FORZACHANDMATT 12/18/2014 9:14AM

    So beautiful and congrats

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SHERYLP461 12/18/2014 8:29AM

    I am so happy for you made the 10 laps! You will gain your mobility through all the hard work you have accomplished.

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HMBROWN1 12/18/2014 8:11AM

    Great accomplishment! Merry Christmas!

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SUEARNOLD1 12/18/2014 8:07AM

    John you're awesome . . . .

Way to go

Thanks for sharing!

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SNOOPYLINKOS 12/18/2014 7:46AM

    Hooray for you! If you can do it, I can try to do it too! One lap at a time!

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FUNLOVEN 12/18/2014 7:09AM

    I know exactly what you are talking about, John! Mine wasn't an injury. It was just plain, old arthritis due to getting older and family history. It was something totally out of my control. It has held me back for the past year as I recover from one surgery after another.

We have goals, hopes, and visions for ourselves and it is very discouraging to have that all changed. To accept things as they now are for us in our 60s. I remember thinking not long ago how pathetic, yet funny, it was when I got on the TM for my most recent recovery period and set the speed for 1 mph and that was fast! I have made progress since then, of course, but I have to remind myself every day to slow down. That complete recovery will happen. If I push myself further than my body is ready for, I could injure myself. I just keep working at it and keep my eye on the finish line!

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PENOWOK 12/18/2014 7:03AM

    Wonderful! One day at a time and don't look back...I will have to figure out what you found online for yoga for sciatica... Mine isn't as bad as yours but it's definitely there!

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MARYJEANSL 12/18/2014 6:14AM

  What a triumph! I would have cried, too. Awesome!

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TRYINGHARD54 12/18/2014 5:56AM

    we all need a good blown out cry from time to time. have a great day

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I empathize with you. I know the pain too. In May I couldn't climb the stairs to my second floor apartment except by pulling myself up one step at a time. I couldn't even do a slow walk around the block without having to "recover" for the next two days. A BFF kept encouraging me to get out there everyday and do what I could do, no matter the weather. Believe me, it gets hot in the desert, but I kept walking at least 5 to 6 days a week. I still need surgery on my left foot and knee surgery on my right knee, and I have had a bad sciatica for years. There have been many days when I have to grit my teeth and force myself to take another step, During the summer the temps were often around 100 degrees even long after the sun had gone down. I even walked around midnight some nights. Now I can walk 2.5 to 3 miles, 5 to 6 times a week.

Since I just moved here in May, I have found new friends. One of them encouraged me to enter the town's Jingle Jog. On Dec. 6th, I walked my first 5K and although I came in last, the other runners and joggers cheered me on the last hill to the finish line. They even gave me a Christmas ornament with "My First 5K 2014" inscribed on it. We all had such fun!

All of the hot weather, suffering and pain has been worth it! I've lost more than 85 pounds and at the age of 64, I'm finally getting closer to my goal. Just 40 more pounds! You know what? I really do feel better now that I weigh less than I did 27 years ago!!

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JANIEWWJD 12/18/2014 12:49AM

    Yayyyyy, I am so happy for you that I am crying too!!! You are truly an inspiration, my friend!!! Good for you, you did it; and those tears prove what a great man you are!!!!
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NASFKAB 12/18/2014 12:28AM

  CONGRATULATIONS WHAT GREAT NEWS WOW WOW WOW SO HAPPY FOR YOU

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PUGLOVER1999 12/17/2014 11:58PM

    CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

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    emoticon Totally, totally get it, John! So happy for you. So proud of you for not giving up! emoticon emoticon

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AHAPPYSPIRIT 12/17/2014 6:14PM

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LOVINGKATE 12/17/2014 5:01PM

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You sure are an inspiration to me John. emoticon So proud of you!!!!

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BAMAJAM2 12/17/2014 4:05PM

  Hey John-- That sounds like a great Big victory, young man!
Congratulations-- to YOU!
(PS-- No kidding, you have "off beat behavior"--??) LOL

Have you seen that TV commercial where that guy dances around with joyful glee, holding his number at the grocery counter -- and shouting his number??-- (could be you, huh) HA



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COLOR-BLUE 12/17/2014 2:33PM

    WOW!!! John this is an AMAZING blog! I'm so proud of you and for you and that cry you were talking about, is what I call my ugly cry, when you don't want anybody to see you, as your face goes through contortions and your body just goes nuts too!

This is so true when you reach a milestone and you either cry, do a happy dance, or even both at the same time!

Blessings!

- Nancy Jean -
GA

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HDEGMD 12/17/2014 1:27PM

  Your RIGHT ON with this blog. That is why I hang in there with SP, to read and be encouraged . Thank you for sharing .

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ODDIPA78 12/17/2014 1:16PM

    So true, well said, and inspiring!!!

I've had a chronic back injury (sublaxated SIJ) for nearly nine years. I was nodding my head, reading this, and grinning with joy for your victory. (And I love the bloated plum comparison)

After years of injections, adjustments and drugs (with no end in sight) the turning point came with finding a really good physical therapist last year (best thing ever) who gave me a packet of gentle manipulations I do at home every day to keep my back aligned. I also started doing Emily Kligerman's Yoga Therapy for Back Pain (ordered dvd from amazon) every day, sometimes twice a day. The video is slow and not very exciting, but it's the first one I've found that has routines for when your back is actually out, and none of the exercises hurt me. It has routines specifically for sciatica, SIJ, bulging disk, etc.

Hope that helps!

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Absolutes? ---- There Aren't Any!!!

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

"Ya know, it took me five years to realize their were no absolutes in living a healthy life style. That's sorta sad."

"Well it could be," Joan said. "Or you could share that with other people just getting started and it might help them avoid the trap you fell into."

She's always been a glass half full type of person.

I'll admit it I am a "monkey see monkey do" sort of person. I'll latch on to something everyone else is doing and I'll use it until I realize it's not working for me and then I'll blame myself for the failure. -- The eternal character flaw and rot such as that.

I remember about 4 years ago another Sparker and I decide to challenge each other to see who could run 5 miles first. --- Me or them. To make a long story short they ended up almost passed out on their neighbors front lawn and I received one of those lectures from my wife about being too old to do that kind of crazy stuff --- Especially in 90 degree heat. She kept her cell phone in her hand for an hour convinced she'd be calling 911. Truth be told, I was convinced also.

I can smile about that today but at the time I'd felt I'd failed. you know? All the cool kids were dropping weight like it was tissue paper. Why cant you?

Because there are no absolutes.

Nothing works for everyone no matter how much marketing information and other propaganda that funnels its way to your inbox.

The real challenge to this journey we are on is finding what works for YOU and sticking to it despite the nay sayer's and conventional wisdom think.

I'm not suggesting you do dangerous or unhealthy things. I'm suggesting you plug in your inner head phones and listen to what your body tells you. When you do, and me also, the load is a lot lighter.

You may arrive at your goal quicker than I do but that just means you can stand and cheer for me when I cross the finish line.

And, oh yeah, that 5 mile challenge run?

I figure I won because they passed out on the neighbors front lawn and I made it to my doorstep

Just sayin'

  
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FUNLOVEN 12/17/2014 6:58PM

    I will always cheer you on no matter who reaches the finish line first! emoticon

It is so difficult to break that character flaw we have of comparing ourselves. It is something that I have to practice, practice, practice! Words of encouragement from my Spark cheerleaders always means a lot. emoticon

I have really been struggling for the past 3 days and a rah-rah-rah from one of my Spark friends was just the thing I needed to calm myself enough to see where I wanted to go during this holiday blizzard of treats!

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SNOOPYLINKOS 12/17/2014 7:22AM

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TRISTAROSE 12/17/2014 5:08AM

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NASFKAB 12/17/2014 12:17AM

  you are a winner John inspiring us all

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CARTOONB 12/16/2014 9:10PM

    I absolutely agree!!

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ONEKIDSMOM 12/16/2014 8:45PM

    Yep, I think you just said "there are no silver bullets". "It's not fair, it just is." "You are an experiment of ONE."

Spark on, John! emoticon

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SLIMLEAF 12/16/2014 6:12PM

    Yes, you're definitely a winner, John!

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AJDOVER1 12/16/2014 3:12PM

    We're all still learning, John! Keep up the good work.

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CHRISTINEBWD 12/16/2014 2:36PM

    Thanks for sharing John. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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HEALTHIER-VICKI 12/16/2014 2:18PM

    Sometimes I think we expect too much of ourselves and feel let down when we don't measure up. Maybe we need to be less critical of ourselves. emoticon

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COLOR-BLUE 12/16/2014 2:09PM

    John,

For years I set myself up for failure, but comparing myself to others and why CAN'T, that ugly word, I Syndrome! It wasn't until I started SP that it changed, because of the way they educated me!

Just because I do something or somebody else does it, doesn't mean it will work for me or them. I was just talking to my sister the day before yesterday, and she told me that she would no longer do the Leslie DVD that I left her, because every time she worked it, and she loved doing it, she kept gaining weight, even though she had cut back on her eating. She told me that the way she's done this weight loss dance for years, works better for her. I told her that she needed to find her own niche, and do what's best for her body and how she felt and reacted. She stammered about be giving her some workout items, and I told her not to be concerned, about them. Sure, she saw my results and wanted to do what I was doing and I gave her a hand up, or so I thought, but to here system it was a hand down. I told her to find out what's best for her and not listen to anybody or anything else. Man John, this blog was right on time, letting me know that I did the right thing, with what I told my sister. Thanks!

Blessings!

- Nancy Jean -
GA

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MORTICIAADDAMS 12/16/2014 12:12PM

    I don't believe in comparing ourselves to others or really even competing with others regarding weight loss. It should be about health, not who can peel off weight the quickest. As a nurse I encountered people who died from weight loss efforts. Everyone weight loss plan should be their own, designed with them in mind.It's why we have dietitians and personal trainers - to help us to find what works best for us.

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BA5454 12/16/2014 11:48AM

    Yep, so true. Great blog. P.S. Glad you didn't pass out, lol.

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ALTRIA_FATE 12/16/2014 11:26AM

    I agree with this!

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PRESBESS 12/16/2014 11:08AM

    Keep going... not matter what, keep at it.
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KIMBALLITE 12/16/2014 10:53AM

  Sometimes I feel like a knucklehead, it takes me loner than the average bear to get it. But the light bulb does go on. I have finally stopped comparing myself and my progress to others and immediately shed that weight and feel much lighter for it. Your blog is always inspirational and I look forward to them emoticon

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LOVINGKATE 12/16/2014 10:20AM

  So very true John. We need people for support but we still need to do what is right for us.
emoticon emoticon emoticon As far as running, well, I believe you won too. Thanks so much for sharing. emoticon

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BAMAJAM2 12/16/2014 10:18AM

  Give Joan a hug from me!

(. . . I'll get there at my pace, but I am goin' slowly-- sad! ) Haha

Best regards, John!

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