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Life isn't Fair, but it's Good!

Wednesday, August 05, 2009

My cousin sent me a list of forty-five points yesterday afternoon. I have reprinted the list at the end of this blog.

Point number one was "Life isn't fair but it's good." This is something we all have to bear in mind at all times. Sometimes, it not only isn't good but actually sucks!.. So what? Big deal! We have all heard "this too shall pass" and it always does. No matter how bleak things appear, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, the sun will come up tomorrow (Annie), Tomorrow is another day (Scarlet O'Hara) I guess I could go on with the truisms all morning but bear in mind that you can endure whatever you face even if that means putting up with it until it goes away rather than "conquering" it.

Look at the challenges and pick out the most distasteful one and face it. If you have to eat two frogs, eat the big one first (Mark Twain) then the little one is easy. Face the distasteful challenges first and the remainder of the day will be easy.

And now for the 45 points:

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick.
Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone..

8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck..

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their
journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God
never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood.

But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no
for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie.
Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25 No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will
this matter?'

27 Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did
or didn't do.

35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd
grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come.

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.

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GOLIONS 8/5/2009 11:26AM

    Thank you for the reminder. And an additon I would like to add is "God never gives you more than you can handle".

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Eat a Frog Every Morning

Tuesday, August 04, 2009

There's an old saying that says...

"If the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning is eat a live frog, then nothing worse can happen for the rest of the day!"

An excerpt from
Eat That Frog!
by Brian Tracy

The 80/20 Rule is one of the most helpful of all concepts of time and life management. It is also called the "Pareto Principle" after its founder, the Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto, who first wrote about it in 1895. Pareto noticed that people in his society seemed to divide naturally into what he called the "vital few", the top 20 percent in terms of money and influence, and the "trivial many", the bottom 80 percent.

He later discovered that virtually all economic activity was subject to this principle as well. For example, this principle says that 20 percent of your activities will account for 80 percent of your results, 20 percent of your customers will account for 80 percent of your sales, 20 percent of your products or services will account for 80 percent of your profits, 20 percent of your tasks will account for 80 percent of the value of what you do, and so on. This means that if you have a list of ten items to do, two of those items will turn out to be worth five or ten times or more than the other eight items put together.

Number of Tasks versus Importance of Tasks
Here is an interesting discovery. Each of the ten tasks may take the same amount of time to accomplish. But one or two of those tasks will contribute five or ten times the value of any of the others.

Often, one item on a list of ten tasks that you have to do can be worth more than all the other nine items put together. This task is invariably the frog that you should eat first.

Focus on Activities, Not Accomplishments
The most valuable tasks you can do each day are often the hardest and most complex. But the payoff and rewards for completing these tasks efficiently can be tremendous. For this reason, you must adamantly refuse to work on tasks in the bottom 80 percent while you still have tasks in the top 20 percent left to be done.

Before you begin work, always ask yourself, "Is this task in the top 20 percent of my activities or in the bottom 80 percent?"

The hardest part of any important task is getting started on it in the first place. Once you actually begin work on a valuable task, you will be naturally motivated to continue. A part of your mind loves to be busy working on significant tasks that can really make a difference. Your job is to feed this part of your mind continually.

Motivate Yourself
Just thinking about starting and finishing an important task motivates you and helps you to overcome procrastination. Time management is really life management, personal management. It is really taking control of the sequence of events. Time management is having control over what you do next. And you are always free to choose the task that you will do next. Your ability to choose between the important and the unimportant is the key determinant of your success in life and work.

Effective, productive people discipline themselves to start on the most important task that is before them. They force themselves to eat that frog, whatever it is. As a result, they accomplish vastly more than the average person and are much happier

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GOSPELCLOWN 8/4/2009 2:07PM

    You got my interest at today's Huddle, and I am glad I followed up on this blog. I used to notice the 80/20 rule when it came to participants at an event vs. the volunteers needed to make it happen.

Thanks for the reminder. I will try to add 'Frog' to my daily menu!


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DREAVG 8/4/2009 10:05AM

    Thank you for this blog. I have followed this type of thought since I was young although I couldn't have articulated it so well.


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Monday, August 03, 2009

What a weekend! All three days were packed from sunup til nearly midnight!. I looked forward to Monday morning so that I could go back to work and recover from "relaxing" all weekend.

But, alas, it was not to be! This was one of those days when I could not get started good on a project before some sort of fire popped up that really needed putting out.

One step forward, two steps back, two steps forward, one step sidewards. I think I ended the day farther from the starting line than at the beginning and closer to the finish line but I will have to check tomorrow.

For now, a bit of TV then off to dreamland!


Talk to Yourself!

Sunday, August 02, 2009

Some people think that people who talk to themselves are a little bit crazy. In fact the opposite is true!

When you talk to yourself your are sure of two things. First, the listener is actually listening to what you say and second, the speaker and the listener are communicating on the same level!

Self talk is an essential element in any successful endeavor. Emile Coue' had his patients look at themselves in the mirror each morning and repeat one hundred times "Day by day in every way I am getting better and better" Coue' had extraordinary results.

I have often observed that while there is no scientific proof that positive thinking works, there is mountains of proof that negative thinking will defeat any endeavor. Remember the Little Engine That Could. He kept repeating "I think I can, I think I can" and soon he was saying "I knew I could"

Observe what you goals are and what has to happen to achieve these goals. Set up intermediate goals and then "Act as if" Talk to yourself as though those goals have been achieved. pretty soon, the time will come when those goals have in fact been achieved and you are ready to advance to the next one.

Remember, when you talk to yourself, you have a captive audience as the speaker and a private listening session as the listener. Take advantage of this. Talk to yourself often and say good stuff.

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ADKISTLER 8/2/2009 9:26PM

    I agree. You need to listen to the words that come out of your mouth. "Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks."

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TFALEIDE 8/2/2009 11:40AM

I really like your blog about self-talk. I've used positive self-talk and visualization for many years in my professional life. For some reason, I didn't extend the powerful benefits of those tools into my personal life and my weight/fitness struggles. (I think you helped me turn a lightbulb on over my head. I was abused as a child and learned very early that I "didn't deserve" true happiness. I guess that was the misguided notion that blocked me from thinking I deserved to be happy and healthy, and from using tools I knew worked in other areas to help me get there.) Thank you so much for that.

Make it a great day!

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Blogs Benefit the Blogger

Saturday, August 01, 2009

There are a lot of people in the world. Only a small percentage of them bother to read anybody's blog. The person who gets the most benefit from a blog is the blogger!

If you post a blog on a certain subject, before you can begin to put down your ideas, you have to stop and think about them and get a clearer picture of both the idea and your view on on it. As you are putting your words down in hyperspace, you are thinking about them and impressing them on your mind.

Bear this in mind as you compose your blogs. The person who benefits most from the blog is the blogger so pay attention to what you are thinking and what you are writing so that you can reap the maximum benefit.

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HOKIEGRL11 8/2/2009 3:34PM

    I agree...I doubt many people read my blogs but they help me.

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BIGOLEDIVA 8/1/2009 11:41AM

    LOL...I never thought about that! But you're right...blogging is for the blogger not the readers. Hey- that means I can BRAG my tail off without feeling like a ...well "Bragger"( wink wink) who's gonna know? Teee heee

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