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Take Twelve Steps to Success

Wednesday, May 06, 2009

For the past twelve days I have been posting twelve steps to success based on Ed Foreman's Twelve Habits of Successful People. Ed Foreman is a motivational speaker who has a total person approach to improvement and success. If you want to learn more about him, just Google "Ed Foreman".

To sum up, the twelve steps to success are as follows:

1. Don’t condemn, criticize or complain... Think of ways to improve the situation. The big rewards are paid for finding the solution, not for identifying the difficulty.

2. Show real, honest, and hearty appreciation...let others know they are loved.

3. Think good thoughts about other people ...and yourself

4. Give before you get. Always give others a reason to agree with you before asking anything of them.

5. Smile generates enthusiasm, friendliness and goodwill.

6. Remember names. A person’s name is the sweetest, most important sound he hears and instantly captures his attention each time it is used.

7. Be an effective communicator by listening. Encourage others to talk about themselves by asking questions. (When Where, Who, What, How, WHY?)

8. Think, Act and Look happy and successful...and you will begin to think, feel, and actually become HAPPY and SUCCESSFUL.

9. Never engage in worry conversations or participate in gossip sessions.

10. Always greet others with a positive cheerful statement...not the question, “How are you?”

11. Respond to another’s question, “How are you?” with an enthusiastic, meaningful “TERRIFIC!”

12. Look for and expect GOOD things to happen to you.... Inquire of others: “What GOOD things are happening with you today?”

Pick one of these rules at a time. Practice it earnestly every chance you get every day for at least a full week. By mid-summer, you will notice a significant change in your life.

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain so give it a chance, Take Twelve Steps to Success

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Expect good things to happen!

Tuesday, May 05, 2009

Step Twelve, the final step. Expect good things to happen!

If you have followed the advice of the previous eleven days, you have no choice but to expect good things to happen! Remember Abraham Lincoln, "People are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be" If you fill your head with positive thoughts (day three) and take positive actions towards others without fault finding (day one) your life will be filled with positiveness.

Think of the people you like to be around the most. Is it Gloomy Gus or Susie Sunshine. Now I will be one of the first to admit that sometimes Susie Sunshine gets a bit tiresome but Gloomy Gus is always tiresome. How do you feel when you are with these people. If you are not careful, your mood and disposition will match theirs. Hang around Gloomy Gus and watch the gloom roll in. Hang with Susie Sunshine and good things begin to happen.

Remember Henry Ford, "Whether you expect to succeed or to fail, you are right!" Why would you expect bad stuff to happen when it is just as easy to expect good things.

Ed Foreman recommends the response "Terrific" to the How are you doing question. He reminds us that Terrific and Terrible are both eight letter words. The first five letters of both of them are identical. It is not until the final 37.5% that you have to make the choice and by choosing "fic" over "ble", your day and your life will begin to improve and keep improving.

W. Clement Stone tells us that "Success comes to those who try and keep trying with PMA, a Positive Mental Attitude" What happens when you have a positive mental attitude. Simple you expect good things to happen!


I am terrific!

Monday, May 04, 2009

Day eleven on our twelve step journey. Today is the converse of yesterday. Whenever someone asks you how you are doing respond "I am Terrific!" or just "Terrific" some people use fantastic or most excellent. any of these works. Zig Ziglar's standard response is "Fantastic, but I'm getting better!"

When someone asks how you are doing or "how do you do", they don't care and they don't listen to your response. They only ask because at an early age they were taught it was good manners to inquire how someone was doing. If you don't believe they don't listen, come up with some off the wall response like "my cat died" or "it's raining in Istanbul". Most of the time the asker will go on with the conversation, responding with something along the lines of "I'm doing OK" (As if you had asked them the same question)

In a vast majority of the cases, the only person who hears your response is YOU. Take this opportunity for a little more positive self programming. Respond with a heartfelt "Terrific" or some other equally positive phrase. I am currently "most excellent" but I am thinking it might be time to become "fantastic" again. I don't want my sub-conscious to become complacent.

Even if it not a particularly terrific day at the beginning, if you say it is at every opportunity, eventually, the day will turn the corner and become a terrific day.

So, when someone asks how you are doing respond with the truth, "I am Terrific!"


I Hope You Are Doing Well

Sunday, May 03, 2009

We are getting toward the end of the twelve steps. Today's message was hard to title. but the essence is when you greet someone do it with a positive statement and not How are you doing. I hope you are doing well works very well.

The trouble with asking someone how they are doing is that they are liable to tell you and truth be told, you don't really care. You have been told since you were a small child that the proper way to greet someone is to ask them how they are doing. Leo Buscaglia says the most ridiculous combination of words he can come up with is "How do you do?" This is obviously some inside out translation of an ancient greeting in some dead language.

What happens when you ask someone how they are doing. You get an answer like "so-so" or "can't complain" or maybe even "not bad". What is this message? It is negative programming, that's what it is! Make the other person give you a positive message. When you greet someone, instead of asking how they are, say "I hope you are doing well" This is a double positive statement. It conveys that you are wishing them good chance and giving them the opportunity to say something good. There was a lawyer in our community and his standard greeting was "Everything going to suit you, is it?" While Dr Buscaglia might move this into first place for a convoluted statement, it served the purpose of eliciting a positive response which should be the goal.

When you can surround yourself with positive statements, you are also surrounded with positive energy which will create positive results.

So, to sum up, I hope you are doing well

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MNABOY 5/4/2009 1:36AM

    Thanks for the uplifting reminders and new ideas

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Avoid worry conversations and gossip

Saturday, May 02, 2009

We're rounding the fourth turn and heading for home on the twelve steps to success based on Ed Foreman's Twelve habits of successful people. Number Nine Avoid worry conversations and gossip.

Worry and gossip are two of the most destructive influences in our lives. I do not remember the exact statistics but all of the self help gurus quote that over 92% of the things we worry about fall into several distinct categories. First, things that are never going to happen, Second, things that have already happened and there is noting we can do to change it. Third, things that are going to happen no matter what we do. and Fourth, things that are going to happen and we can change. It is this fourth category that represents the remaining 8%.

Before you start to worry about something, stop and step back and analyze the situation. Does this event fall into one of the first three categories? Has it already happened? If so, forget it! It's happened, you can't change it. What are the chances of it's happening? If the chances are slight to nil, forget about it! Or as Mickey Blue Eyes would say "Fergiddaboutit". If it does happen. what can you do about it? If there is nothing you can do, see Mickey Blue Eyes comment above. If it is something that probably will happen and you can do something about it, analyze the opportunity and decide what steps you will take if this does occur and how you will get past it. Once you have decided how you will cope with the worst possible outcome, you can face whatever will happen because the worst possible outcome will very seldom come out. Once you have reached this point, forget about it, don't worry, be happy.

We worry out of fear. Fear is an acronym for "False Education Appearing Real" Calm analysis will remove worry from your life and make living it easier.

Gossip ranks right behind worry as a destructive force. Gossip serves no real purpose other that to expose a person to undeserved ridicule. Gossip goes back to step one "Don't Complain, Condemn, or Criticize". When you gossip, you are pointing a single finger at the object of your gossip and three fingers at yourself. The other negative effect of gossip is that following the theory of reaping and sowing, you make yourself the target of future gossip. A better thing to do would be to cut out all of the middlemen and gossip about yourself! That way, at least you have editorial control over what is said about you. Also it follows that confession is good for the soul, so you will feel better about coming clean as it were.

Avoid worry conversations and gossip

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ASH72461 5/2/2009 12:11PM

  i love your blog
i have always hated gossip
i figure if someone wants me to know something
they will tell me
you they energy for good instaed emoticon

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HEIDI_H 5/2/2009 11:58AM

    Wow, what a fantastic post! Very good advice indeed.


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