Friday, June 03, 2011
I am going to go off the board today and address the subject of friends. Friends, be they the people we interact with personally, FaceBook Friends or fellow Sparkers are necessary to our success so lets look over the art of makinmg friends. I got the following article from Ed Foreman's newsletter, Laughing, living and Loving you way to the good life.
Making Friends is Easier Than You Might Think
Most people need friends. This is just a fact of life. Some people make friends more easily than others, but anyone can make friends. Whether you are shy or outgoing you can have all the friends you want. The following is a short guide to the attributes you want (without changing who you are) to make friends. Keep in mind that this guide is short and simple, but it should help guide you to better friend making abilities.
Here's a few tips for making friends and having better relationships with them:
Improve your self-esteem: People like people who like themselves. Go on a path to self-discovery and get the confidence you deserve in life.
Improve your outlook: Even when you are down, there are things you can find to smile about. Being optimistic attracts good friends.
Improve your listening skills: If you like to talk, maybe it's time you started to learn how to be an active listener. Really listen to people before you respond and let them tell you what's on their minds.
Improve your demeanor: If you are shy, you can still have interesting conversations. Take a chance and have a chat with someone at work or school.
Improve your social skills: If you are a home body, get out there and talk to people. The next time there is an office party or any party, go to it and start making conversation with people.
All of the above tips can be accomplished by simply making an effort to get to know people at work, school, church or even your local grocery store. Making contact with a few acquaintances will help to improve your chances of making friends. This works because once you make this contact, you are likely to be drawn into their circle of friends where you will find others with which you have common interests. This can snowball for you and you will probably find yourself creating a large circle of friends in the long run. It just takes that first initial contact. It doesn't even have to be a perfect conversation to spark this chain of events. It really is that easy to make friends.