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My Last Year Uncensored

Saturday, June 08, 2013

It's been over a year since I made a blog entry. I've been trying to get the motivation...I used to find it therapeutic. Maybe this will be. I want to inspire people, and when I don't feel inspired or know what to do, it's disheartening.

The last year has sucked balls for me, healthy choice-wise. I used to be the queen of clean eating, exercise every day...sometimes I only exercise once a week now and even that is just a little S.T. to keep my muscle tone. Don't get me wrong, I haven't gained any weight back, but I've lost a lot of my healthy habits so it makes me feel like it's only a matter of time before I start to gain again. My whole life has been determined by the scale. It's my best friend and my enemy. Holler if you hear me cause I know there are a lot of ladies out there that feel the same way.

Drinking and eating out have been the 2 things that have been detrimental to my goals. My goal (with my friend, we had a workout plan) was to get down to 115 for bikini season. That didn't happen, not for me anyway. I started out strong, as I do, but fizzled after about 6 weeks. I lost 4 pounds and it was awesome.

Alcohol is a fiend, cause not only does it contain a lot of empty calories, but it makes you not care what your eating. It's an evil calorie two-fer!

Anyway I've done two very awesome things this year. I went back to school, and I became Vegan. I'm so proud of both those accomplishments :)

I just wanted to unvent my struggles and let my sparkfriends know i still love them! sorry ive been to out-of-touch, it's not easy to share failures.

Tomorrow i'm going to attempt a fresh -my last- fresh start. 30 min cardio 4 days a week, 3 days S.T, 1200-1400 calories per day, starting a streak of good days. Last but not least eliminating alcohol until I can learn to drink moderately. Go Me! Wish me luck!

  
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VERONICAVW_140 6/11/2013 12:18PM

    This is one of my favorite quotes.
"Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense"
Ralph Waldo Emerson

I hope you have a wonderful fresh new start!

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AMBERNICHOLE3 6/11/2013 12:04PM

    Wow vegan? I bet thats challenging, good luck...you can do it!

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CODEMAULER 6/9/2013 12:26PM

    The scale and I are really not on speaking terms. I check in once every week or two (or more!) and then we part ways. I find it's better for me that way.

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Here's to reinforcing healthy choices and making more healthy habits!

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MOMMYOF2RN 6/8/2013 11:23PM

    Great Job at getting back on the wagon, Stay Strong!

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ANNMACP0212 6/8/2013 10:43PM

    Good luck!

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Is it wise to start a cupcake bakery while trying to maintain?

Thursday, May 03, 2012

So I haven't written a blog in a long time. I've been struggling with maintaining a lot. Without the excitement of "oh! i lost another pound!" eating healthy and exercising become more difficult. I'm one of those people who does best when I have a goal, something to shoot for.

It started to go sideways when I moved. We moved into a bigger apartment and my stepdaughter moved in with us. Dinner became harder to eat healthy. I used to make myself something small and really low cal, but that's kind of mean to do to a 14 year old girl who is not trying to lose weight...but I digress...

Anyway with my whole schedule changing, I lost a lot of my healthy habits. Getting out of the habit of daily exercise is the biggest mistake i've made in a long time. Then to make extra money, I decided to start a home cupcake bakery. There are always cupcakes here now. FML. Well, after eating 3 cupcakes a day for like 5 weeks, I had no doubt gained back a couple pounds. I lost some muscle. I felt like ass.

The last 3 weeks have been good. Since I decided on my flavors and recipes, the cupcakes I make now are ones I have orders for (for the most part) so I don't get to eat them :) I started exercising again. EVERY DAY. I learned that I can actually exercise with my son in the room now, instead of getting in the way like he did at 10 months, he tries to do it along with me. Seeing a 18 month old boy trying to do mountain climbers is extremely cute.

I lost the weight I had gained back. I got my muscle back. I don't feel my butt jiggle when i walk anymore (although i suspect this was more in my head than an actuality) I feel really good.

So, lesson learned. I can't go back to the way I ate before just because I met my goal weight. I need to exercise, because I'm trying to maintain a relativity low weight. I don't want to be stuck eating 1200 calories a day for the rest of my life, and exercising is the remedy for that. I also learned that I need to track my calories. I've been doing if for so long, it kind of gives me peace of mind. So I'm off to make cupcakes. Lets just hope i don't eat them all!

  
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IGSBETH 5/31/2012 9:14PM

    It's an important lesson to learn!

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CODEMAULER 5/4/2012 12:00AM

    For the record, maintenance is harder than losing, period; no cupcakes required.

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Glad you found the way back to keep within the healthy limits. You can SO do this!!

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CBAILEYC 5/3/2012 1:09PM

    Good job finding balance through maintaining! Hope your cupcake business goes gangbusters without becoming a gutbuster! LOL
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AMBERNICHOLE3 5/3/2012 1:02PM

    Sounds like you've turned it around! Great job!

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RUNNERRACHEL 5/3/2012 12:18PM

    Nice to hear that you're back to working out. It's hard not being rewarded with weightloss. Fitness related goals help me. Races, new workouts, new runs, keeping things fresh and new and interesting.

Your son is so cute! You are looking good! Glad you are back to tracking and feeling good. Exciting to hear about your business!



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The Art of War (and Strength Training)

Friday, January 13, 2012

Exercise is a battle. We all know this. Personally, my battle is with not wanting to "waste" what little free time I have with something that hurts. So I sit, and dwell, and procrastinate. That's ok though, because eventually I do get up and do it.
The rub is, that after I'm done, I know that it wasn't a waste of time at all but really the best thing I could do in that hour I had free.

But tomorrow I fight the battle again.

I guess I'm telling y'all this to let you know that you may never come to "love" exercise, but it can become a permenant part of your life anyway. You're not a failure if you don't live at the gym. Hell, I've never set foot in a gym. I really believe that the trick is to find a kind of exercise that you don't loathe. In all seriousness, try different things until you find yourself enjoying it.

I used to do all sorts of aerobics videos and I did not like them at all. I can't keep up with the choreography and I feel like an idiot. A rhythm-deprived idiot. I tried walking. It's just too boring. Strength training is one that grew on me, it's my true love when it comes to exercise.

For beginners in ST, I'd like to tell you the best benefits:
1) it builds muscle and gives you that "lean, athletic" look (while preventing the dreaded "skinny-fat")
2)it increases your metabolism
3)it's very yen. screw yoga. i like the counting and the breathing associated with doing a gnarly set.

Hopefully I've convinced a few of you to give it a whirl if you've been avoiding Strength training, or at least convinced someone to get off that elliptical that they're hating every second of and try something new.

Remember, you don't have to love exercise to be a fit and healthy person. You just have to do it...and try and make it as painless as possible.

  
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IGSBETH 2/7/2012 9:55PM

    Great blog! I started strength training because I wanted to be able to open a pickle jar on my own. I was THAT pathetic.

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FIT_MAMA_2_FOUR 1/17/2012 8:48AM

    ST has always been my fav as well. You're points are exactly why I LOVE it too.

I have been working out at home for a while now just cause, at this time in my life, it is easier than packing up the kiddos everyday. I have made it work but cannot wait to join the gym again and have access to all their equipment.
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PROT358 1/16/2012 12:05AM

    I generally feel unmotivated to start strength training because some part of me is convinced it's the worst thing ever, but once I'm in the habit I love how it works me and gives me such great results! For those who don't strength train already you're truly missing out!

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RUNNERRACHEL 1/14/2012 5:11PM

    I'm a believer! ST really works. And circuit training is the best use of time. I did circuit training exclusively when I first started working out. It was very effective. I did find myself wanting to try new things. And I expanded. Yes, exercise can be something you do for the results but I try to like what I'm doing...something you don't loathe...haha, yes, sometimes it can feel like that!

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JUNEPA 1/14/2012 1:04PM

    I have a love-hate relationship with strength training, whereas I love love love cardio, almost any form. I believe in the importance of strength training, and when I am in a groove, I love it. Changing routine is recommended every 6 months or so, I have to force myself for the first 6 weeks of a new routine, and after that I love it again, it does so much for my overall sense of well-being and so supports and helps my aerobic fitness and I do not acheive personal bests when ST is not part of the training. Intellectually, I am convinced that ST is the bomb, but getting going is sooooooooooo hard.

ST is really part of the art of war in fitness training, great title

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WALKINGBYFAITH2 1/14/2012 12:31PM

    Rhythm Deprived Individuals Unite!!! We should start a support group...LOL....as my earlier experience with zumba this week proved to me. I am finally at the point where I realized that I actually enjoy exercise! emoticon Yes, I said it! I think I hated exercise for so long that I trained myself into believing that I would always hate it. But now I find that if I can't get some in for a day or two I actually miss it. Good luck on your daily battle!

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VISUALLYRICS 1/14/2012 9:23AM

    I'm in love with ST!! emoticon ...love the way it makes me feel... emoticon At one time I found it WAR to do 10 minutes of fitness/day. Now, I cannot get enough. Lol!! I am addicted and Love the energy!

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NORAB52GOOD 1/14/2012 9:20AM

    I am the opposite! I hate ST!!!! Hate it! Feel like it is a waste of time. I love jogging whether outside or on a treadmill. Love Spinning. Love swimming. Hate the elipitcal cause it makes my feet fall asleep but other than that pretty much love all cardio. But hate ST!!! Please tell me ways to start enjoying it! emoticon emoticon

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KSMGLASS 1/14/2012 9:09AM

    ST is my favorite exercise too! Not only for the benefits you mentioned but it just makes me feel awesome good!!!

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CODEMAULER 1/14/2012 8:42AM

    I enjoy ST more than I thought I would. The feeling of strength cannot be replaced by food; priceless stuff!

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CBAILEYC 1/14/2012 8:40AM

    Awesome blog, and so absolutely true! Good to know I'm not the only one who drags my feet sometimes when it comes to working out.
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MARYDSAN 1/14/2012 4:42AM

    For me, I like walking and swimming laps. I have done strength training in the past and kettlebells, but can't right now due to herniated discs in my lower back. Thanks for the blog and the encouragement to others to give it a try!

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I Finally Hit My Goal Weight! 2011 in Review

Monday, January 02, 2012

2011 was the year I learned that exercise was not a punishment. When I was younger and more stupid, I used to force myself to run until I couldn't breathe, to wake up in the middle of the night and do situps and pushups. To run flights of stairs for an hour if I ate pizza. Yes, exercise and I had a dysfunctional relationship.

Starting in March of 2011 I decided to finally try and lose weight the healthy way, and joined Sparkpeople. I hadn't exercised in a couple years so I started Leslie Sansone's "Start Walking" videos. She has a 1 mile, 2 mile and 3 mile one, which are 15, 30 and 45 minutes. I used the 2 mile one mostly, every weekday. I did not do any Strength training. I bought into that BS that people say ST will make you all big and unfeminine. Total BS.

I followed Sparkpeople's guidelines on calories and lost 1-2 pounds per week. For anyone just starting out...Just track your calories and exercise and it really isn't that hard to lose weight. There is no BIG SECRET, no MIRACLE DIET. Just lower your calories and up your exercise. Eating clean also helps, but it can be a challenge.

In April I started doing Strength training. Now I love it so much but it took awhile to grow on me. Now, If I have to pick between cardio and ST, I will always choose ST. Muscle burns calories while you're sitting on your butt, who doesn't love that?

Throughout the months, I upped my cardio to more challenging videos and in June I started running. I was hooked. The hard part is you really can't run every day or you start risking injury. I also discovered Circuit training which is one of my favorite ways to exercise because you get your ST and cardio in at the same time. I have to admit the closer I got to my goal, the more I did exclusively circuit training because I had trouble getting up the motivation to put a lot of hours into exercise. Also, it's really cold and wet in Oregon during Fall and Winter, so running becomes a lot less fun emoticon

Anyhoo to make a long story short (too late!), on March 22 when I started this whole journey I weighed 170 lbs and on December 31st (good timing!) I weighed 125, which was always my ultimate goal. I learned so much about myself this year, how strong I am, how far I'm willing to go to succeed the right way.

this is one of my earliest "before" pictures, taken in early June, I had already lost about 12 lbs.

This was taken on Dec. 31st, 45 lbs gone and never coming back emoticon

  
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FIT_MAMA_2_FOUR 1/31/2012 8:17AM

    This is fantastic! You look great and it truly is as easy as eat less, exercise more:)2012 will be the year of maintenance-haha! What have you learnt about maintaining?

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FAIRYANA 1/31/2012 3:13AM

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hope to be able to reach my goal weight soon too.
just like u, i'm trying to get rid of the baby's fat too.
my baby will be 6 mths next week, i hope to get to my goal
weight before she turns 1 yrs old.

currently doing JM 30DS, Chalean Extreme and a bit of running,
here and there. hope thats enough to get me out of this baby
fat phase. i'll see u there! emoticon

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ONMYWAY7712 1/17/2012 8:24PM

    Awesome!!!!!!

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CHERYLLYNN72 1/13/2012 1:48PM

    Awesome and way 2 go! Ur an inspiration emoticon

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GIG2128 1/9/2012 1:18PM

    WHen I worked with a personal trainer a few years ago she turned me on to funcational athletic training and circuit training! I'm with you...I LOVE it. It is my go to even when I'm having a lazy day. Fantastic job!!!

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FITINNM 1/9/2012 12:36PM

    Thank you for this post. I am about the same weight as when you started and have been doing circuit training for the same reason. I hope to look as good as you do when I reach my goal. Great job! You should be extremely proud of yourself!
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ALILANC 1/8/2012 6:50PM

  WTG! You look great! It's the best feeling in the world isn't it? Keep it up!

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KATSPR 1/7/2012 1:03AM

    Great job! Happy maintaining! emoticon

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NOTGIVINGUP49 1/6/2012 7:31PM

    emoticon You look svelte! emoticon

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KAKAY56 1/6/2012 3:41PM

    emoticon..you look good. Keep up the good work emoticon

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LESLIESPEAKMAN 1/6/2012 12:34AM

    Oh goodness!! I love it!! Could you come hang out at the spark team of mine it's strengthen and tone your body. I would love to hear your secrets. I am 4'11 and I did weight at 174 and I am now down to 153 but I was 138. I need to fix the nutrition part. But I would love to see you there!!!

You are an inspiration!

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MANILUS 1/5/2012 2:30PM

    Congrats, keep it up!

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    Congrats!!! emoticon

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THANKS FOR SHARING !!
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DIANEV3406 1/5/2012 1:12AM

    You look great! Way to go!

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SWALL84 1/5/2012 12:30AM

    Looking great!

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GOIN4GR8 1/5/2012 12:30AM

    Wow! You look so toned and proud now. :-) It's SO good to hear that if you just keep putting one foot in front of the other, it works. I'm doing that this year--I AM. You accomplished a lot in what seems like a short time--congratulations!

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123ELAINE456 1/4/2012 11:37PM

  Awesome. Congratulations on meeting your goals and for your accomplishments thur out the year. You are looking great. God Bless Bless You and Have a Wonderful Week.

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JOJO0909 1/4/2012 11:22PM

    You look fantastic. Very inspiring!

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JEN40311 1/4/2012 9:34PM

    I loved reading your testimony, it was inspiring and further motivates me to keep pushing towards my goal. emoticon

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MADDOGSSWEETPEA 1/4/2012 9:07PM

  You look AMAZING! The new you is ready to hit 2012 running. Be proud of yourself and your accomplishment. KUDOS. emoticon

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MARYBETH_OHIO 1/4/2012 8:53PM

    Wow you really let people know it can be done so I will make sure I try harder thank you so much..
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JSLICE812 1/4/2012 7:44PM

    I'm brand new to this site and it's so refreshing to see real people losing weight the right way! I don't know you, but I'm so happy for you. Thanks for inspiring me.

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ADEARMAN 1/4/2012 7:39PM

    You look great, and younger too. Very inspiring! emoticon

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GEOLOGY_ROCKS 1/4/2012 6:53PM

    Dannng, good job girl! You look awesome!

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STARLITEGIRL44 1/4/2012 6:09PM

  Great job !! That's awesome way to go girl !!

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BELLALUCIA 1/4/2012 5:13PM

    Great job!

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CHARLI131 1/4/2012 5:12PM

    Congratulations!! You look amazing!

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SIMOFDIM 1/4/2012 5:04PM

    Nice! emoticon

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JESSEDROP 1/4/2012 3:30PM

    LOVE this blog - you have done so well and look AMAZING!

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BRITTHORT9 1/4/2012 2:20PM

  Great job!

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LYNETTEWHO 1/4/2012 2:16PM

  Wow! Girl, you inspired me! My goal is 125 as well! You look amazing. Way to go!
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LADYSHEL 1/4/2012 1:30PM

    Congrats! You have really inspired me!!!!!
Especially because I was worried about ST :( Now, I wont duck out on the ST classes.

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HHB4181 1/4/2012 1:11PM

    Congrats on hitting goal weight!! You look G-O-O-D!
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PRETTYNPURPLE23 1/4/2012 1:07PM

    Fantastic Work girl!! emoticon

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BERRISWEET 1/4/2012 11:45AM

    Congratulations!!

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NYMORNINGGLORY 1/4/2012 11:29AM

    congrats to you - wonderful work and great blog! i started on SP in September (following the 17 Day Diet) and have been doing cardio 6-7 times a week but only YESTERDAY decided that ST has to be a part of my regular exercise routine - I'll struggle to figure out what will work for me but I'm determined to add it to the mix this year as I inch closer to my goals. Thanks for the motivation!

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MEGSMILEY 1/4/2012 11:04AM

    You look so much happier in your second picture! Way to go!!
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JENN26POINT2 1/4/2012 11:00AM

    WOW! Way to go! Looking hot! I can't wait til I reach the day when I look like that! Congratulations on your amazing transformation!

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Update! I know it's been awhile...

Tuesday, December 06, 2011

Oh, my friends, how I've missed you. I've been around...slightly. I've logged in and tracked my calories and spun the wheel. But I lost my Spark briefly, and did not really talk to anyone for awhile.

So my best friend moved to Florida, and there is no cell coverage where she is (at a Primate Sanctuary) I've been kind of bummed so I drew myself inward. I don't want to jump on the word "depressed" because I've been that and this didn't feel that bad. Just...blah. My weight stuck in the same place for like 2 weeks and that didn't help either.

I was lying in bed the other night and my husband put his arm around me. Then he poked me, right in the ribs. I said "Ow! what was that for?" All he said was "Bones" and he kept poking me. On the hip, the ribs, the arm. "Bones!" he says. I don't know what is wrong with him because most the other guys I know would be so excited if their wife lost over 40 pounds. I can't get him to touch me with a 10 foot pole. I know...overshare. But I have to share with someone, and like i said...best friend...Florida. BLECH! Then today he says "Just don't go all Karen Carpenter on me." Really?!? I eat 6 times a day! I just laughed it off, but inside I felt like saying, "shut your damn face!" and choking him out. It's really not fair that he is making me feel all insecure about this now.

I mean, do I stop working out or losing weight because maybe he is insecure? Wouldn't gaining weight for someone be just as bad as losing weight for anyone but yourself?

Not too much else is going on, but I'm planning a big blog for when I get to my goal weight which is 2 pounds away. Wish me luck!

  
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ECHAVEZ2 1/4/2012 12:04AM

    I'm glad you stuck with your goal. Remember....men don't speak the same language as women. He really doesn't think you are too skinny. He just hasn't seen the end result so he is depending on his imagination and he doesn't know where to stop! Wait til he sees YOU! Then, you should wow him even more with a sexy wow outfit so that he can hold that thought!!!!! Men are visual and at your goal weight, he will definitely need a shot that he won't ever forget. He's been with you through the months of decreasing progress so forgive him for he knows not what he is thinking. You are amazing and congratulations on meeting your goal weight!!

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ANDBEYOND 1/3/2012 11:57AM

    Hang in there girl! Without health you have nothing! Oh, except sorry pain and more pain and then even your husband could be the biggest PAIN lol! Pray baby, the lord can change anything and any situation! emoticon emoticon on a job well done!

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KALISWALKER 12/10/2011 6:34PM

    Stick to your goal, you worked hard to get here. You are doing this for yourself. Your DH must be pleased to see you looking healthy.

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IGSBETH 12/7/2011 7:12PM

    I'm sorry your husband is being that way. :( You know you are working for the best.

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CBAILEYC 12/7/2011 10:59AM

    Ah chickie, I'm sorry you're having this rough patch right now. I know how rough it can be without that support of your friend to lean on and share with.
You keep right on doing what YOU feel is important and right for YOU. If that means taking a bit of a break while you work your way through this, then that's fine.
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AMBERNICHOLE3 12/7/2011 9:49AM

    My husband makes comments like that sometimes and it really hurts my feelings I think it does have a lot to do with insecurities Im here if you ever need to vent! emoticon

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ZUMBAMAMA3 12/7/2011 6:15AM

    i wish you all the luck in the world sweetie. love yourself and don't choke him lol. im so like heavier then you and my fiance does'nt support my weight loss. emoticon

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RUNNERRACHEL 12/6/2011 11:24PM

    I've missed you, too! I'm right there with you...blegh...I've been logging on but not very consistent with working out and feeling down.

Sorry to hear about your best friend moving away! My best friend moved away for work in July but hopefully is moving back. So I understand what it's like!

I think your hubby has to get used to the new you! Being healthy and fit takes getting used to. If you are comfortable where you are and it's something you can maintain, then you should stick to it. If you're still figuring out things it's ok to see what you can maintain once you hit your goal weight...only 2 lbs away.... emoticon
It can be hurtful when our spouse isn't seeming to find us attractive...could there be other things going on that are taking his focus away or making him stressed/unhappy? You look great and shouldn't change to suit him, in my opinion. He will get used to the new you. He may just feel insecure about himself and feel the pressure to start getting fit...

Hang in there! You've got a lot of support here and you're doing great!
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