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2 siblings down and one friend on the ropes, but my weight is up!

Saturday, October 18, 2014

My two siblings are still in the hospital and not doing well. Both are obese (family trait), I joined that category this week again. Stress eating at night is the culprit. Drinking beer is a huge factor as well. Two IPAs yesterday.

Over time, I have tried to get my siblings to eat healthier and exercise. I am sure they see me as an excessive exerciser they do see my plant based diet as weird too. I live at least 60 miles from the closest one.
My friend who lives nearby is significantly depressed and determined to stay that way. He has isolated and uses physical health complains to keep me at arms length. I have backed off daily contact and the attention that he was getting from walks. I have continued to call and encourage hospitalization. I would have forced him in against his will if it were not for my family's serious health complications taking precedence.

Obesity - what is killing my siblings-
if obese -as defined by BMi in = to or more than 30 ; I will not keep the beer that I like in the house at all (IPAs). I will have a beer only if my weight is = to or less than my weight the day before. This would limit my beer intake to one a day or none a day. The only beer I will have will be light beer( like water to me) while obese. ( I did lose 30 pounds while drinking beer but not two or three for sure.)
I will continue to track food intact not missing for the next 7 days. continue to get my 14250 steps daily. Walking 100000 steps a week, and eating mostly a plant based diet is what keeps me going and relatively healthy.

Back down to over weight first! 196 for me- a preliminary goal. By 10-24, ( still 31 pounds from my high of 232 in Dec of 2012)

I need to post and revise goals more often when I see myself beginning to slide from successful strategies in order to be effective.

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DIDMIS 10/25/2014 12:04AM

    Joe sorry about things but you are willing to work on it. emoticon
I had a brother with diabetes and he was very obese. He was my youngest sibling and I performed his memorial.
I had a sister in law that had diabetes and got so heavy she could no longer get out of bed. They had to bring in a larger hospital bed and it took 6 or 8 people just to transfer her from one bed to the other.
I am glad you are thinking of your body and are heading the right direction.

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MAVERICKDR 10/19/2014 8:42AM

    I'm sorry to hear about those things that are concerning to you.; I wish it was different. Joe, you know the way back. I like your thought process, and I like beer, too. FWIW, I never buy light beer because I will drink water before I drink that. My frequent response on beer is "If I drink one that's AT LEAST 150 calories I must work off." Since I don't get enough time to have a consistent workout during the week I rarely, if ever, have a beer during the week.

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HAPPYMOM8 10/19/2014 8:09AM

    Hi Joe-thinking of you during your troubled times. I am happy you are taking the bull by the horns and being responsible for your own future! Only you can do it for you.

And only your siblings can do it for them selves as well. So as much as you want to help them physically, you can't. Your support in showing you care is what they need.

Looking forward to your meeting your goals, one day at a time.

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CASEYSAUER 10/19/2014 7:31AM

    I am sorry that you are dealing with so much family health issues. It looks as though you have your goals and your plan of attack in place. That is half the battle. I know you can do it!

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CAROLSMOM1 10/18/2014 11:23AM

    If we want someone to change, we must change, and that is what you are doing. Your setting a good example is a strong motivator for others. In setting and working on goals for yourself, you are helping yourself and inspiring the rest of us. emoticon
Best wishes, Roberta

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RIDLEYRIDER 10/18/2014 7:37AM

  I have obese siblings too...they just don't get it, and I've given up talking to them.

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NELLJONES 10/18/2014 7:28AM

    Stories like yours make me exceedingly glad that I don't drink alcoholic beverages at all. It's something I no longer have to wrestle with, and wrestle it would be.

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TORTISE110 10/18/2014 7:27AM

    I'm sorry you and your family are going through such a tough, tough time. I am also glad you are using the hard news around your family health to motivate your self to take care of you. emoticon

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RASPBERRY56 10/18/2014 7:26AM

    Sorry you're dealing with all this with your siblings and friend - I have learned all too well (and the *hard way*, no less) that one can only do so much and then it becomes necessary for one's own sake to back off and hope that what you've done will take hold in some way.........


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my eating is stress oriented today I looked at my graph and realized it !

Thursday, October 16, 2014

Two family members in the hospital at the same time not good for stress levels for sure.
I had two beers today after I got the news and after a walk with my wife. I am going to try a new pattern of drinking tea instead of beer during the day. Eating is problematic when company brings snacks and refused to take them with them home. If there are snacks, they won't be here long.

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KRISZTA11 10/17/2014 3:43AM

    Beer and free food - now that needs some willpower to dodge.
Great job you turned down the snacks.
I wish your family members in hospital health and peace.

Comment edited on: 10/17/2014 3:45:48 AM

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MAVERICKDR 10/16/2014 9:40PM

    You're going to make it. Now isn't the best of times for you. Hopefully, it won't become the worst of times also.

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JAMBABY0 10/16/2014 9:14PM

    hope your family members get better quick

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GEORGE815 10/16/2014 9:06PM

    Hope everyone heals up soon in your family. Those crazy snacks hopefully will also be gone.

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Hard to focus on nutrition too many other issues

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Life in the car is not conducive to maintaining weight goals. I will be walking less than I have been traveling to see my brother who is in a nursing home about 2 hours away. He is comfortable sort of, and accepting the inevitable. The cancer is inoperable and still spreading. He will begin chemo soon I just hope his quality of life doesn't go down the drain. If I get in a walk every morning I have a better shot at staying on track with exercise. My wife walks too which is a big help with stress for both of us!
maintenance is the hard part since you do it in isolation.

I was down to 186 from 232 and now sliding back up to 201. I abandoned tracking food, and weight appeared! I am going to resubscribe to the spark coach for a year. That emphais kept me attuned to my weight daily. When i was lossing I couldn't wait to check the scale. I also used to do way point rewards every monthl got to return to the tricks that worked way back when.

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HAPPYMOM8 10/15/2014 8:13PM

    Sorry about your brother . Good that you are rejoining Spark a Coach .
But if you lost weight before- you already know what to eat and the importance of moving daily!
Allow yourself to use the knowledge you already have!
You can do it!

Comment edited on: 10/15/2014 8:16:12 PM

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CATHEMARIE 10/14/2014 8:10PM

    Sorry to hear about your brother. Hope you and your wife can get some walks in.


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Heard I would lose a hero this year!

Wednesday, October 08, 2014

My older brother has gastric cancer: esophagus , stomach and part of the small intestine!

Very sudden very simple - 6months to a year is the prediction. Very aggressive are the exact words.

He has been without real complainable symptoms for most of the summer. Only this past month did he get it checked out. Thought it was heart related but had to wait for an appointment with the GI guys.

For me it has been a royal pain in the neck> I mean I have had a pain in the shoulder and back since the day of the meeting in the hospital. It is stress related. I try to keep on track with exercise and my walking and friends help me cope with the stress. But my shoulder and back and neck are tight and sore. I guess that is how my body deals with this news......

I focus on time with him now and helping others cope too. Time with them and reaching out to them and him. Not easy thinking about letting go of a hero! Not easy to replace heros! One of the many things I have to get better considering my age!

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MAVERICKDR 10/16/2014 9:39PM

    There are times when fitness and eating right can go by the boards. Try to give yourself grace. Holding your brother in the light, Joe.

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HAPPYMOM8 10/12/2014 6:42PM

    Our hearts go out to you and your DB!
There is way too many of us hearing this kind of news!
Hugs, Pat

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POSITIVEHOPE 10/8/2014 11:48PM

    My DB has terminal cancer, too. It is such a blow to imagine my dear, strong, bro facing this. The ripples of pain go throughout the family. I am trying to be supportive and help him to live each day he has to the fullest. Yes, losing a hero is crushing.

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Philadelphia Eagles - enemy of steps and fitness

Sunday, September 21, 2014

Watching the game with my "Little bro" . The Eagles dominated the game so far. My guy enjoyed the game and our time together. I did get to make and have a great salad with 16 vegetables, shrimp walnuts and coconut! Setting good example but my guy is a skeleton. If I could only donate pounds!

Hard to pile up step watching TV screen.

Got him a shake and pizza to put on some weight.


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