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buddy walking streak continues but .... just for laughs?

Sunday, July 20, 2014

I am planning to go to the just for laughs festival in Montreal this coming week. I used to do it with my boys but they are engaged otherwise with employment. (Hey I am glad they are working) Maybe they will be my safety net some day.

They both punked out but I will check it out myself. I haven't done a long solo trip since I have been married. My wife doesn't want to go. other priorities. I will stay near the Atwater market and love to feast on the produce etc there. It will be a challenge not to gain weight, I love biking around the city there. they made it easy for biking. The weather is usually fantastic in summer. The comedy is usually great and I always run into new acts that I see later on US tv.

Interesting to see if my buddy continues without me on his own?

Counterbalance good nutrition and biking with an occasional splurge.

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MAVERICKDR 7/20/2014 8:02PM

    Enjoy yourself and have fun. A solo trip may just be what you need.

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IMEMINE1 7/20/2014 5:35PM


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WIFE48 7/20/2014 2:29PM

    Sounds like a fun time.

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29% body fat ! hope it is not all in my head.

Thursday, July 17, 2014

193# 29.2% body fat.

Hovering around the target for the end of the month this week. Aug 1 is realistic and doable without doing anything that is not sustainable for the long run as a lifestyle.

I am willing to aim for 14250 as a daily step goal from here on out and I have sustained that pace for well over a year even though injury, vacations, harsh storms etc.
My dietary changes have been successful as well but not as consistent as my exercise habits. I still like Fuhrman's "Salad is you main meal" plant based nutrition ethic, but still eat some junk stuff when it is laying around (my wife buys it for herself still).

My buddy showed up today, but resistant and slower than ever. He showed up! I am still amazed that he is sticking to it thus far. Negative as ever and apologizing about it in the same breath. I ignore the negativity, but confront bizarre ideas. It is all part of the compulsiveness of his illness. Exercise and connections may not bring him out of it but my contribution is worth a try. I will hang for a while. It is easy to be overwhelmed by the flood of negativity. In small doses it is doable without catching it. Families who live with these people are commendable. Thank you to those who have made suggestions and offered support to me.

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IMEMINE1 7/20/2014 5:38PM

    Good step goal. I am happy when I get 10,000 or any bit over. emoticon

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MAVERICKDR 7/18/2014 6:26AM

    Reading about the brain reveals that it is a lot of fat. You know enough to NOT starve your body of fat, but what you are doing seems to be working. Keep it up!

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Rain or Shine--- it is a habit to whine

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Hey my buddy showed up with an umbrella today. dour, sour, and talking about ending it all; but he showed up with his umbrella to walk at 7AM.
There were far fewer walkers this morning for sure. My ears were bleeding from being pounded with all that negativity, but he showed up!

I have been being a lot more successful with my walking goals since I start the morning with this baseline 7500 step with my buddy. So I may be able to hang in there to see if this has an impact on his depression. If I can get him to walk, maybe i can get him to attend yoga classes with me. That also would be good for the both of us.

Slow progress is better than no progress, or not even trying!

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MAVERICKDR 7/16/2014 9:18AM

    You are doing a good thing, Joe, by helping a friend. Plus you are getting some benefit, too.

Cast your bread upon the water, but do not, under any circumstances, have some cheese with that whine.

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CAROLSMOM1 7/15/2014 9:58AM

    Your friend is getting a big benefit from all his negative talk--he gets attention from you. Remind him that whatever he "sends" out is reflected back to him. Can you get him to start a gratitude journal? Or read Rhonda Byrne's "The Magic." Just starting to write down three to four things a day for which he is grateful would be a great start and works like magic. Your getting him to exercise is a very good thing. You deserve extra points for that.

Oh, one more thing, Rhonda has a Widget on my laptop that brings in positive thoughts every day.

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BRAINBENTT 7/15/2014 9:53AM

    you are a good friend emoticon

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Reward-- to pig out at the local symbol of excess- Shady Maple

Monday, July 14, 2014

My good friend who has been depressed for the last 13 months, severely loves Shady Maple. I have been trying to turn him around and pull him out of his malaise. He keeps insisting he is getting worse and wants to be dead. He sees not having the guts to kill himself as a sign of weakness. When I am with him it is like the Litany of the Ain't not the litany of the saints. One self defeating negative after another. He feels weak shaking inside. thinner every day can't eat, sleep etc.

I have tried to get him to respond continuously over the last year. No dice. I started going to his Doc. appointments and therapist appointments too. (otherwise he wouldn't go) He has missed many and would have gotten canned by the doc if I wasn't involved, guaranteed.

I got him to walk with me last week in the morning and have had him out 4 times since. He missed Friday when we went to the shrink. It was his focus of attention for days prior. He thinks he will be scolded for screwing up his meds. Again if I were not there he would find a reason to not go.

I think the walks along a common hiking path are great for him and of course me too. I am not saying that he is better. He is still interspersed with negative talk about himself and his prospects showing up and as we walk we interact with people walking. Good mornings etc. Especially if they have dogs we always have an interchange that is positive.
Today I got him to agree to do laundry He had not done it in months. (quite toasty). I made an agreement when he gets ten stickers I will take him to Shady Maple for breakfast. We have gone in the past on his birthday. they give free meals on your birthday if you show with a paying customer.

He got into it like a school kid. Hope my pupil shows tomorrow. I call around 6:30 and now just say see you in 15 minutes.

Ironically mental health rewarded with nutritional excess. For him the daily steps are literally steps toward recovery. He needs the weight too!

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    Thank you Dan! We all need all the light we can get!

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    Plodding forward one day at a time. He says he is but I really suspect that he is not.

Unfortunately only about 33% of psychotic people succeed on meds because they don't persist. Meds work for the mildly depressed at a higher rate.

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NELLJONES 7/15/2014 8:19AM

    Is he taking medication? That stuff is a miracle for those who suffer from depression.

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LADYRH 7/15/2014 7:02AM

    You are truly a good friend. emoticon

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MAVERICKDR 7/15/2014 6:48AM

    I am so proud of you for being a friend to the friendless. With your background you understand these needs more than most. Keep up the good work, Joe.

I am holding you and your friend in the light.


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Hiking Biking and Climbing

Friday, July 11, 2014

My new exercise buddy. JW is my little brother, oh yeah we are 55 years apart, so it is a little weird. I just met him through the Big Brothers/ Big Sisters Association. We have been hiking biking, climbing etc over the past month or so.

One of my strategies to stay fit is not to exercise in a vacuum or on one piece of equipment, but rather to incorporate old and new friends into the practice. Biggies was a natural, I have always like working with kids in my career and as a dad-uncle etc.
I have 4 walking partners now JW, my other same age as me buddy (who is severely depress and reluctant), an ex-boss who just retired also, and my wife.

I got my "little bro" to try rock climbing at a local rock gym this week. Great to expose kids to new adventures. The woman in the photo below is Joanie who owns the gym and taught me to climb 12 years ago. She let us climb for free and gave us a free lesson.

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    Way to go Joe! You are the man! Very admirable.

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MAVERICKDR 7/15/2014 6:50AM

    Outstanding. You are hitting a good stride, my friend. Bring on the rewards for YOU. emoticon

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LADYRH 7/12/2014 7:24AM

    emoticon blog and great attitude

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2DAWN4 7/11/2014 11:22PM

    Have you tired geocaching with your little brother? Sounds like something you might like!

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2DAWN4 7/11/2014 11:22PM

    Cute pictures! What an awesome inspiring blog!

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JOELEVENACIOUS 7/11/2014 10:52PM

    He told me afterward that his stomach was having very unusual feelings. He was scared to death but did well regardless. Got half way up the wall on his first try, and rapelled down.

oh yeah, 194 this morning after we had ice cream cones!

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