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Living Around the Big Events

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

It occurred to me lately that I have a harder time with my quest for fitness when life gets extraordinarily busy. I was used to our ordinary level of busy-ness. Kids' sporting events and practices, music lessons and recitals, my work schedule, hubby's work schedule, kids' school activities, a little social time here and there -- all of that was manageable while still working out regularly and shopping for and cooking decent food. Now though...

Throw in some bigger events that require quite a bit of attention and preparation, and I'm finding it harder to make time for exercise, harder to want to take the time to think through wise food choices, more tempting to eat something delicious and easy and bad.

I just realized that I need to stop this thinking pattern -- thinking in terms of "when this is over, then I'll..." This is life NOW. I need to make it work NOW. Squeeze in the exercise NOW. Eat right NOW.

Overcoming one of my lifelong habits would help enormously in this pursuit. Procrastination. Maybe a big event wouldn't feel SO BIG if I started preparing earlier. Ya think? It makes sense.

Or maybe it's OCD. I'm hyper-focusing on an upcoming big event and therefore have almost nothing left for all those other things. Life is a lot to juggle, after all.

I wonder if they've ever studied how many things a person can really do a good job on at once. It seems to me that doing a good job on one or two takes a lot of work! Think of all the things we're trying to accomplish! Be a good mom, good wife, good worker bee, etc., etc., etc. It's a lot to manage!

Here's to today! Making it work today, now, in this moment, no matter what craziness is swirling around us, making our best lives NOW.

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SADWHITEWOLF 11/30/2012 4:03PM

    You could not be more right. That is one of my biggest challenges. I have tried to turn my thinking around. There is really no more "after Christmas/Birthday/vacation/next year"
Yes these event creat sometimes HUGE speedbumps, but they are not roadblocks, I need to work with them and around them.
I need to keep telling myself that too! emoticon

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CARMEN327 11/30/2012 9:12AM

    I certainly struggle with finding the time and energy for everything. Good luck with your big events!

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SPARKLED146 11/30/2012 8:14AM

    I treat my procrastination by setting the timer for 15 minutes. Then I start the task and many times I keep going beyond the timer and finish the job.
Great Christmas decor!

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SURVIVOR61 11/27/2012 9:06PM

    Pssss....Love the Christmas Decor .. emoticon emoticon

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SURVIVOR61 11/27/2012 9:04PM

    SparklingMe is so right...visualize, visualize, visualize...It works for me!!!!

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JUMPINJULIE 11/27/2012 3:37PM

    Once i started sparkpeople i realized that i was stuck in the past and living in the past and once i realzied that i could live in the present. Not in the past or the furture just right here right now. It is hard to change the mindset but You can do it. emoticon

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CAPECODBABE 11/27/2012 2:11PM

    Great blog. emoticon

I am the queen of procrastination! emoticon

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SPARKLINGME176 11/27/2012 1:53PM

    I understand your blog! I'm finding for the BIG activities, I make a list of those things involved, for JUST that activity. I break the BIG stuff into smaller things. I cross off the little things, within the BIG thing, at least 1 or 4 things I CAN do each day! I also visualize myself doing these things, finishing them. I generally do my visualizing during my walks. It REALLY helps me! The important thing for me is to have fun. I am like an Otter, that way! FUN is the MOST important thing to them! I am SO thankful for my busy life! I would rather be busy, than bored! I also squeeze in extra exercise. While I am waiting for my DH, in a Dr. appt. I walk around the building, or inside IF the weather is playing havoc outside. I go up & down stairs. I try to FIND them & keep going up & down, until who ever I am waitng for is done! I've been known to walk up 12 flights, then take the elevator down & go up again!

These are just some of the ways I figure out things. The BIGGEST thing for me is to NOT want everything perfect. I am learning to let go of control & have allot more FUN! They REALLY help me! Hopefully they will help, you too!

Happy Holidays!

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KNYAGENYA 11/27/2012 1:23PM

    This is so true. You can do it. I have faith in you.

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MEXGAL1 11/27/2012 11:09AM

    Being an older woman, I can tell you for sure that one of the best lessons I learned was not to think in terms of "when this is over, I will be in better control, etc".....You are so right that you have to realize this is life and deal with it now!
Good for you to take charge.
Have a great week

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SLIMMERJESSE 11/27/2012 10:05AM

    Have a good day!

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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 11/27/2012 10:03AM

    Juggling too much at once definitely impacts the quality of life... but doing what you can in the NOW without overwhelming yourself is the best strategy! emoticon

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SKINICOOK 11/27/2012 9:52AM

    Someone told me once that you can give your attention to four things in your life at one time. For me at the time it was full time job, partner, degree and family/friends. Anything extra such as an exercise routine meant I had to take time from one of these areas. It's tough to find a good balance.

I hope you can schedule your time to make the most of it. Maybe do some work on the big event and then shut it from your mind. It's difficult when you have something big hanging over you but small steps will make it easier.


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RG_DFW 11/27/2012 8:51AM

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A Day of Rest. Really.

Sunday, November 25, 2012

I thought I was over my complete exhaustion, but maybe not. Today I am catching up on slothfulness. I think my body needs it. Oh, and I'm taking my multivitamin. Maybe my iron is low again. Who knows. Anyway, my plan for the day is rest, rest, and more rest.

First, we'll go to church. Then, I just may take the kids out for lunch. Then, rest.

See how more ideas spin into action? I had thought about stopping by Barnes & Noble because I have a coupon that expires today. That would probably take us to 2:00. And you know how it is once you're out and about shopping. Just one more quick stop..... No, must resist the temptation. This body needs a nap. (Yes, I just got up, and I'm already thinking of an afternoon nap!)

Enjoy your Sunday, whatever you do. Rest or action or being social -- make it what YOU want today.

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JUMPINJULIE 11/26/2012 3:27PM

    I hope you got to rest. Rest is good once and awhile so no reason to not take a break. emoticon

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BLESSED2BEME 11/26/2012 3:22PM

    We all need days of rest...very glad you are taking one! Make sure you really schedule them and take them though. They are deserved!

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DIANER2014 11/25/2012 9:28PM

    Hope you were able to get plenty of rest!

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SURVIVOR61 11/25/2012 5:35PM

    emoticon Once your out and about, you may feel a bit more spry... Get in a few more steps amd enjoy that fresh air. A lot of us are exhausted after Thanksgiving and just want to curl up with a warm blanket and the dogs or kitties and forget the outside world. But we just can't do that or we will start slipping back into our old habits. I realized that myself today and got up off my big butt and took off walking and for the second day in a row I added another mile to my walking. Whoo Hoo I did a total of 6 miles and you know what, that is a major mile stone for someone with a walking disability and asthma. On top of that I am totaly bummed out over a situation with the husband. You think you know someone after 34 years of marriage and 2 years of dating them. Then you suddenly realize you really never knew them at all. But I'm determined not to let this stop me from getting healthy/ No sirree', I'm going to get up, no matter how tired I am, there has to be more to life than letting it slip by me. And maybe while I am hobbling along that trail, I can figure out why my husband is such a butthead. I know you can get a lot of energy from just walking around I do. So get out their and walk, I got your back, emoticon emoticon emoticon

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KNYAGENYA 11/25/2012 1:13PM

    Have a great rest of the day!

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MEXGAL1 11/25/2012 10:05AM

    enjoy your rest day!

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Saturday, November 24, 2012

We hosted Thanksgiving this year. It turned out that quite a few members of our extended family had other stuff going on, so we had a relatively small gathering at our house. We were planning on 10 of us, and that ended up being just nine because my aunt stayed home sick.

I ended up taking Tuesday and Wednesday off, partly because I did need some time to shop, clean, and cook, and partly because I just wanted some time off from work. I really didn't think I needed two whole days for Thanksgiving preparations. Turns out, I did!

I wanted to keep the menu simple. We always, always have way too much food. But when my husband I started talking about the menu, things that I wanted to skip, he wanted, and vice versa. And then of course the guests want to bring food too. So, we ended up with:
Turkey (with gravy)
Chicken curry
Mashed potatoes
Sweet potatoes
Cranberry relish
Mom's orange salad (a jello-Cool Whip favorite of the kids)
Carrot cake
Pumpkin pie

Jeez, it feels like I'm forgetting something, but MAN that's a lot of food! NINE people!!! Can you imagine the quantity of leftovers left? Insanity.

Personally I would have skipped the stuffing, but it is a favorite dish for many. Hubby would have skipped the lefse because it's so time-consuming to make, but I can't give up that family tradition. I bought a couple packs of those Glad containers and sent leftovers home with everyone. We have just a bit left in our frig. Hubby made a wonderful turkey-noodle soup last night. It's nice to not have to cook for a few days!
The carrot cake recipe was a new one for me. A few weeks ago we went to a surprise 40th birthday for a friend, and they served this carrot cake. OMG. It is amazing. I asked for the recipe and proceeded to enter it all into SP... a whopping 633 calories for a slice. Yeah. I think I'm going to play with the recipe a little bit and see if I can cut calories without compromising flavor. For instance those 633 calories assume a slice is 1/16 of the layered cake. I thought I could try it in 24 cupcakes instead, and maybe cut back a bit on the glaze and frosting. It's so so so decadent. I think you could scale it back a bit and still have an over-the-top dessert. Mmmmmmmmmmmmm. Not something you'd eat every day, that's for sure. But a couple times a year... Mmmmmmm...

I had really the best time with our family and friend who came. That may be the smallest Thanksgiving celebration we've ever had, but you know in a way that was nice too. A little less hectic and boisterous. It was a perfect day. After everyone left, complete exhaustion hit me. I started kitchen cleanup, took a breather, finished kitchen cleanup, and fell asleep on the couch for TWO HOURS. Man, I slept hard! I managed to get up and go to bed. I was actually still really tired all Friday. Now I think I'm back to normal. I'm taking care of some procrastinated paperwork and then RUNNING. That's the plan. Time to get back to THAT obsession.
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For those of you who celebrate Thanksgiving, I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving too!

Note: Lefse is a soft, sweet, Norwegian flatbread.

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JUMPINJULIE 11/24/2012 4:29PM

    Sounds like a great day and great food. emoticon

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CAPECODBABE 11/24/2012 3:42PM

    Sounds like a nice day.

I LOVE carrotcake. emoticon

I was going to ask for the recipe until I read the calorie count...

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SURVIVOR61 11/24/2012 3:28PM

    emoticon I am so glad that you had a really great time. ;-) I just love to hear about family gatherings. When I was young I came from a large family and I miss that so much. My husband and I moved several years ago back to his home town and things have not gone well for me. I have no friends or close family here. My husband has alienated our two sons and they don't come to visit. And my husband won't allow my grandchildren to come her for visits. I am so heart broken. So now I live precariously through other peoples stories. My biggest argument with my husband is over the grandchildren, they are my heart and soul. It just kills me that I can't see them, I am missing so much. But enough of my sadness. Here's to your much need rest!! emoticon

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MEXGAL1 11/24/2012 11:30AM

    so glad you had a nice Thanksgiving. Sounds wonderful.
Have a great week end.

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TONYVAND1 11/24/2012 10:52AM

  Sounds like a great time was had by all.

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KNYAGENYA 11/24/2012 10:42AM

    Sounds wonderful.

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OJ_2_OK 11/24/2012 10:36AM

    What is lefse?

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November Blah Blah Blah

Friday, November 23, 2012

Ok, there is no Week 3 Checkin. I've been pretty bad the last week. I was hyper-focused on getting ready for Thanksgiving, and other aspirations fell to the side. So. Back on track now. End of story.

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JUMPINJULIE 11/24/2012 4:26PM

    Nothing wrong with taking a break. I'm glad your back.

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MEXGAL1 11/24/2012 9:45AM

    Glad to hear you are back on track! Let's just do this and be happy and healthy!
Have a terrific week end.

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SSDCQUINCY 11/24/2012 7:26AM

    Hang in there. today is a new day!! Hang in there and do the best you can. emoticon

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AUTUMNBRZ 11/24/2012 7:01AM

    emoticon I happens! Busy busy times Oct-Dec!

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CAPECODBABE 11/24/2012 6:53AM

    Good Luck emoticon

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BEECHNUT13 11/23/2012 10:39PM

    Thanksgiving does that.

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OJ_2_OK 11/23/2012 7:40PM

    Its a journey isn't it? I have to re-focus my efforts as well. Thanksgiving kinda threw me off, and not just one day, a second day. AND EEK! I have another thanksgiving to go, a business trip coming up and a work holiday party all in the next week!!!

But I am trying to picture myself in a bathing suit at the beach this year. TALK about motivating....I better get back on the treadmill as we speak, lol.

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SURVIVOR61 11/23/2012 7:29PM

    emoticon For being human and being able to admit it. Now you can focus on getting back on track, sometimes we need to focus on other things or areas of our life. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. And I just finished reading an article that recommends that we try to focus on maintaining our weight before our weight loss and once we've gotten use to the weighing and measuring, eating healthy, choosing all the right foods that we will need to choose for the rest of our lives, that it will be much easier to focus on loosing weight. That we will have establish the necessary tools and healthy eating habits to loose weight and to keep it off for the rest of our life. And in some ways this makes a lot of sense to me. Learning what needs to be done in the long run, doing and repeating it over and over until it becomes second nature to us. Part of of our lives will become automatically choosing what is healthy and preparing it healthy. Then their won't be any need to take a day off. What do you think? emoticon

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STILLHERE1111 11/23/2012 7:13PM

    Good for you, I've gotten side tracked and made other things my priorities many times. No where to go but forward, you can do it.

When you keep yourself and your goals at the top of your to do list everything else will fall into place.

Just as you wouldn't expect to get where you are going if you don't put gas into the car.

This "Season" can be difficult, gift yourself with your daily success.

Glad you are back on track!! emoticon

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RG_DFW 11/23/2012 7:09PM

    There's nothing wrong with straying off course, as long as you get back on the right path. Good for you!

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Don't Judge

Sunday, November 18, 2012

One of my favorite people (yes, you, Mary) often says "Don't judge" in her cute, funny way when revealing something about herself that she thinks just might elicit disparaging remarks. I've taken to saying it myself fairly often. It comes in handy on more occasions than you might think.

And then I find myself judging, and I quickly remind myself:

Don't judge.

Yesterday at the 5K, I was running behind a woman with a quite large bottom, and I instantly had to squelch my Inner Judge. We all start somewhere. Who knows if someone else was running behind me and judging my appearance or running form. I admire everyone -- big or small -- who gets out there and MOVES. Notice too that she was running AHEAD of me. Bigger AND fitter -- you go, girl!

After the race yesterday I came home and baked 4 dozen cookies and 2 dozen muffins for church today. When I took them into the church kitchen, I was surprised by how many store-bought treats others had brought. My thinking was something along the lines of "I baked, why can't you?" Judging, anyone? Yup. You know what? Some people are even busier than me. Some people don't know how to bake. Whatever the reason, who am I to judge? They did a nice thing bringing in treats to share.

I'll never forget one of my more fashionable friends commenting on another friend's outdated shoes. I am never up on current trends. It's just not something I care about a whole lot. I want to look nice, but I also just don't have the mental energy or money to invest in staying on top of fashion trends.

Maybe that's what "Don't judge" boils down to: Not everyone cares about what you care about.

I love to bake. It brings me joy to make food and share it with others. Not everyone bakes or cooks.

I love to read to my kids. I have a friend who says she hates reading to her kids. Ugh, that just makes me sad! But you know what -- she's a great mom and does all kinds of other activities with her kids.

We don't all live the same life or have the same hopes and dreams or butt size. And that's okay. Live your own life.

Don't judge.

The funny thing is -- those times when we (some of us) fear being judged are probably the same times that NO ONE CARES.

Do you feel self-conscious about going the gym? I used to, years ago, before I got truly serious about losing weight, and then, in all honestly, I could not have cared less if everyone in the gym had been staring at me. I was going to work out no matter what.

I've been in other situations that made me extremely uncomfortable, feeling that people were staring at me. Judging me. Who knows, maybe there were some fashionistas looking, berating my cheap Target sweater and Old Navy vest. Stare all you want! I'm wearing it, and I like it, so bugger off. People look, maybe spacing out not even really looking AT you, or maybe judging because that's how their mind works, or maybe thinking kind thoughts toward you. You just never know. It's best not to care or feel paranoid about it. Just live your life.

And remember:

Don't judge.

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BROOKLYN_BORN 11/23/2012 7:08PM

    Perfectly stated, especially "Not everyone cares about what you care about." I love that.

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LEIELD 11/21/2012 3:05PM

  I like your comments in this blog - it is far better to find something positive about any given person in your viewing area, than to think negative thoughts that can only come back to haunt you.

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JUMPINJULIE 11/19/2012 5:50PM

    What a great reminder i try my best not to judge anyone but it is hard sometimes and you have to remind yourself to each his own right or her own as may apply. emoticon

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-CORAL- 11/19/2012 1:44PM

    Thank you for this reminder today and great analysis of the origin of judging. emoticon

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IRONBLOSSOM 11/19/2012 12:48PM

    emoticon You are so right and it's a lesson we all can work on and all need to learn! I've done the same, there was a guy at a function I attended over the weekend and he's too big to walk, he has to ride a scooter everywhere and I definitely had the thought "how do you let it get that bad!" But I had the same thought you did, "don't judge, you don't know what he's going through." Later, I heard some teenagers saying "GOD, how could anyone get SO FAT." And I wanted to tell them off for being brats, but you know? They're probably scared that it could happen to them and being teenagers, they don't know how to handle it so they mock.

I think you hit the nail on the head about priorities. What's important to me may not be important to you and vice versa, trying to be the best at the things that are important to everyone will just drive you nuts!

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WILLOWBROOK5 11/19/2012 11:30AM

    This is a very powerful and important message. I need to work on not judging others. I've gotten pretty good at ignoring most people's judgments of me as I've grown older, at least! Thanks for the great blog!

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SADWHITEWOLF 11/19/2012 10:26AM

    Thank you for that. It is a lesson we all struggle with.

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MEXGAL1 11/19/2012 9:59AM

    We all fall prey to judging and I agree we need to check ourselves occasionally so we don't let it get out of hand. Thank you for the reminder.
Have a great day!

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KNYAGENYA 11/19/2012 8:21AM

    Words to live by.

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AUTUMNBRZ 11/19/2012 7:10AM

    I love this blog! Great message. We all need this reminder from time to time! :)

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LESSOFMOORE 11/18/2012 9:04PM

    Be blessed, and thanks for sharing!

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TAFODIL24 11/18/2012 6:57PM

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BRANDNEWME78 11/18/2012 6:10PM

    This is a great blog! I am also guilty of this and try to catch myself before I start judging. Thanks for the awesome reminder!!


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CAPECODBABE 11/18/2012 5:44PM

    What a great blog!!! Made me think!!! emoticon

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NEVERORNOW 11/18/2012 5:29PM

    emoticon Thanks for the important reminder.

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OJ_2_OK 11/18/2012 5:16PM

    I love this blog and I've been noticing myself lately "judging" and telling myself not to as well. This is a good life lesson/mantra to carry around.

We all don't have the same priorities and are at different walks in our lives.

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MILTONS1 11/18/2012 4:50PM

  You are so right. Nice blog (and no judgment involved) emoticon

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