Friday, July 15, 2011
I'm here to vent today. And hopefully, after venting, things will be in a better perspective!
We live in America. We all know people who have emigrated here from other countries and can appreciate the differences. Embrace them. I live in Central Florida, and when I got to Orlando I love walking around some of the "touristy" areas and listening to the different languages. Guessing where the people are from, what they do, etc.
We all have different ways of doing things and these differences come from our families and they way we were raised, as well the culture we grew up in.
That said, I was raised by educated parents whose families had come over years ago from England, Wales and Germany. Let's just say that they were rather reserved and voices were never raised. Tongues were always "checked" before voicing opinions. Not always the most demonstrative with affection, but definitely a wonderful childhood and loving parents.
That said, I come fast forward to today, where I'm married (for 25 years) to a first generation immigrant who is still totally attached (understandably) to his former language and culture. He's very American in many ways, but there are some differences. One of them is that he and his family seem to have no "filter" when they talk. They feel that if they see something you're doing or eating that is not good for you, it is their place to tell you what you're doing wrong. emphasis on "wrong" or "bad". It seems to be expected by them.
Last night, one of my DH's cousins arrived from their native land with her husband (a cardiologist). Within 20 minutes of meeting my 18 yr-old daughter, she (my daughter) was told that they had something to help her with her acne and that it's from eating chocolate. Of course my daughter is a lovely girl, a straight-A college student, an excellent dancer and a very good person. But I could see her whole being deflate by this relative stranger, whom she had just met. Well meaning? I'm sure. But necessary? My daughter has a hormonal imbalance, we are currently working with a doctor on it and she has seen several dermatologists and been on countless meds. With a bit of makeup it is barely noticable but then she's hit with a zinger . .. . .
This morning as dh and cousins were drinking their tea I was told that coffee is very bad for me. husband told them I drink mostly decaf, but then he said that decaf is very bad for my stomach. Sheesh! I'm sitting there with my steel cut oats and I enjoy my black coffee. My stomach feels just fine, thank you very much!
OHHHHH, I forgot the best part. All of this time, they are talking in their native language, which I don't know that well and they talk about you, then ask for the words to say in English or my husband interprets for me (most of the time).
These are people who appear kind. They smile and bring gifts and act as though they care, so I shouldn't get upset, but I do!!!
I feel better just letting this go . . . .
I would appreciate appreciate some feedback . . . . .
Friday, April 22, 2011
Several months ago I left a message on a board, asking for ideas for getting my daughter to eat more healthily. Basically, everyone told me to just set a good example, and when she's ready, she'll do it.
Well, her workplace does an annual Weight Watchers class right on site, and my DD decided to participate. WOW!! That's all I can say! SHE decided to make the necessary changes and she's really listening to the instructor. She's not being meticulous about the points, since she doesn't have a calculator, but she's being very, very careful about the nutrient value of the foods, amount of fat, empty calories, etc., and doing a terrific job. She's lost about 12 lbs. in the past 5 weeks and I'm thrilled for her! She's lost about 35 lbs. since last May and that's alot on a 5'2" body.
We did a bit of shopping last night and she's down about 2 sizes. No more anger in the dressing room and tears on the way home.
The bottom line is that she's feeling better and she's realized that she has the intelligence and discipline to make the changes she needs in her life to be a healthier, happier person and it just thrills me!!! She's doing all this while working full time, taking her GRE and applying for grad school and doing a considerable amount of volunteer work with the youth of our church. I'm very, very thankful to have this wonderful daughter!
Wednesday, January 05, 2011
I lost my wonderful Dad on New Year's Day at age 95! He was ready to go, but I'm missing him. There doesn't seem to be any way I could possibly thank him for all he's done but I'd like to just write this list to him, to thank him for just a few things he's given me over the years.
Though you really didn't expressly give us much advice,Dad, you taught us so much I just wanted to remember a few of my special thoughts about you . . .
1- When I came home one day and found you crying over the loss of your closest friend I learned that friendships are dear and to be cherished
2- When we made our annual trips to Colorado to see your mother, and when Mom's mother came to live with us I learned that family is precious and our parents are to be cherished and respected
3- When you came home from work and you always complimented Mom on the dinner and thanked her, I learned you should be kind and appreciative to your partner
4- When you chose never to gossip, I learned it was to be avoided
5- When you never rose your voice in anger, I learned to discuss things in even tones
6- When you took Grandma to china painting classes at age 90, I learned that it is never to late to learn something new.
7- When you built the beautiful home we lived in, fixed the cars, worked in the yard, reupholstered chairs, etc., I learned that it's good to work hard and accomplish things.
8- When you took us on a special vacation every year, I learned it's good to learn how to relax and when you sat with me in the first row of "the comet" rollercoaster when I was 6 and whooped the whole way down, I learned to really love the fun of it.
9- When you taught me how to drive a tractor, use a chainsaw, change my car tires and oil, I learned that being a female doesn't mean being weak
10- When you went to work and came home at the same time every day, and won many awards as an engineer, I learned responsibility and pride in a professional career
11- When you put John Phillip Sousa on loud on a Saturday morning, I learned that the morning is not to be wasted!
12- When you attended all of my musical performances, I learned that you supported me in my interests.
13- When you put all of your daughters through college without complaint, I learned to do the same.
14- When you and Mom retired early and took up square dancing, tennis, bike riding, etc., I learned that it's good to have hobbies and interests
15- When you helped neighbors by fixing sprinkler pumps, giving them rides, fixing cars, preparing taxes, etc., and never heard it from you (but from Mom), I learned that it's good to help others without expecting anything in return.
16- When you took the time to be a wonderful Grandpa to my children -- and to always be patient when explaining things to them, I learned the same (though I never did it as well as you, Pop)
17- When you would gently help our old golden retriever up, when she was hurting, I learned it's good to treat animals with kindness.
18- When you sold your tractor and the buyer's check bounced and you went and took the tractor back, I learned we can be kind without being a pushover
19- When you drank only one glass of wine, exercised regularly and ate in moderation, I learned that taking care of health is important.
20- When you lay in your hospital bed, confused, aching and exhausted, and smiled at everyone who came into your room and never complained, and thanked everyone who helped you in any way, I learned that your true nature is so very good, and kind and unselfish --
You have left me with so many memories and I am so thankful to have had these 56 years with you, that I can't begin to express my gratitude.
I think the best way to thank you, is to try and be more like you, and I will truly try.
Tuesday, November 30, 2010
Yesterday I was in a hurry and stopped and got a salad with hummus and veggies on it for lunch. It was yummy. Only got through half of it and was full. Brought the other half to the office for today.
Got home from work and was hungry so I grabbed a cup of tea and an apple. perfectly satisfied after that. Go figure!
Then last night I took my Dad to dinner and ordered a salad. Finished it but didn't touch the fabulous pumpkin bread sitting in front of me. Got back to Dad's house and didn't take ONE M&M from the M&M machine sitting on the counter. Didn't touch the homemade cookies stored there on the counter. Hmmmmmm . . . ..
What could this be???? Who has come and inhabited this body of mine???
I am the biggest sweet-a-holic there is. But Dr. Fuhrman promised that if you got past the first two weeks sweet-free, you'd stop craving them. Could it be that I'm already getting there???
Who would ever, ever, think that I could go an entire week without a single piece of chocolate -- not even one hershey's kiss. Unheard of!
Made it through Thanksgiving without touching even a smidge of pie (and I baked 2 of them) or having a single piece of bread. I had lots of salads, yummy hummus, a tad of turkey and for dessert some fresh pomegranate, then tea with honey. I was full but comfortable. What a wonderful feeling!
Anyway, I'm starting to feel in-control of my cravings, and that's a terrific feeling! I've been pretty much headache free and the body aches are diminishing. (I think there's been some detox going on) This is whole new territory for me and I'm liking it!!!!
Let's just say that getting through Thanksgiving week and actually being down about a pound -- feels like quite an accomplishment!
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
As I was in line at the convenience store with 30# of ice and a few extras, I had NO hands free to reach for the change I had dropped. Carefully balancing the ice, I was just reaching down to get the change when a clerk came over and said, "I can get that, I'm younger than you!" I looked into her face, wrinkles and all, surrounded by grey hair pulled back in a pony tail and I wanted to just throttle her! Just HOW old do I look??? Honestly, it struck a nerve in this ol' body of mine. Made me think, which can be dangerous at times!
I'm not overweight for my age, but I have age spots, wrinkles, etc. Thanks to my delightful hairdresser, the greys are totally out of sight. But, when you add it up, I fully look my 56 years. Do I mind that? Not really! I'm very much alive, gave birth to 3 children and through the years, this body has served me well! I'm thankful for it, lumps, sags, and all!
BUT Maybe, just maybe, it's time for a change! Maybe I need to "kick it up a notch". . . . hmmmmm. Where to begin???
Then I looked at my email and saw a challenge for a healthy holiday season. Do you think? Could I make all these changes??? Eat a large salad every day? Oh, yeah! I can do that! Eat a large serving of dark green leafy veggies everyday?? Well, maybe . .. sure! I can do that! Mushrooms, onions? Yeah, I like them. How about 1 cup of beans/day? Hmmmmm. . .. . not always a favorite, but I do love lentils! and 3 fruits! Sign me up for this one! (All part of a challenge at DrFuhrman.com, the author of Eat to Live)
Then came the tough part . . . .
Refrain from . . . . . . . . .. . . refined flour and sugar and all artificial sweetners. Oh my goodness! Don't we use lots of that in cookies, pies and the other goodies we love at this time of year?????? Yeah, I think so.
I could never give that up, could I???
HAH! That's a red flag, isn't it??? i'm addicted to those empty but deadly calories.
Guess it's time to start some new holiday traditions.
I signed up for the challenge.
I made it through dinner last night without bread. had a big salad. Snacked on carrots and an apple.
Down .6 lb. this morning. Not that losing weight is a huge thing, but I sure don't want to gain any.
What I really want to lose is the headache that hits most afternoons while I'm in the office. The body aches that greet me in the morning and recently have enjoyed my mornings so much that they're sticking around for the rest of the day! Yuck! Those I want to lose. I also wouldn't mind if my skin glowed a bit and the age spots would take a hike! Possible? I think so!
So, oatmeal for breakfast. No sugar. No sweetner.
Apple for snack.
Beans, brown rice and veggies for lunch. Banana for dessert.
Can I do this? Not sure. But for now, I'm certainly going to try, and actually, it's tasting pretty good!
I think I may be able to do this!!!!
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