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COMING TO THE END OF LOVING MYSELF MONTH

Sunday, March 30, 2014

This morning I woke up ready to see what results I have for this month. The first thing I thought of was stepping on the scale to see how my weight had changed. It is exactly the same as it was at the beginning of the month. I won't lie to you, I was a little upset with myself. So then I started thinking -- why is this the one thing that I let be the measure of my progress for my life? After all haven't I just spent a whole month focusing on what it means to love myself?
This isn't an "ah ha" moment for me. It is something that I have been working on for a long time. Clearly the "working on it" is not working. What if I were to just let go and forget about the number on the scale? I don't know the answer to this question, however I am willing to give it a try. I think this is an important step in my life journey. I am constantly telling myself that I love myself just as I am and that I accept myself just as I am. In reality I still judge myself by the number on the scale.
I have always loved this saying about love and I think that I strive to live my life this way in regards to the other people in my life, and now it is time for me to apply these principles to loving myself.

It has been a really interesting month for me. I have read books like Eat, Pray, Love - that has a theme of finding oneself. I have exercised and eaten healthy. I retired from work that I didn't really enjoy for several years. So I think I have really be nourishing myself - body, mind, and soul. This has been a month long self awareness project. And I have enjoyed it very much. If nothing else I have come to realize that it isn't that easy to just stop the negative self talk - and that it will be another one of those lifestyle changes of self awareness. Another thing that I learned was that there are a lot of things that I say that I love, but it is really the feeling that these things bring to my life that I love. And with all this talk of love I am ready to spend next month focusing on joy and happiness.

  
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JACKIE542 4/3/2014 10:40PM

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LIFECHANGZ 4/2/2014 8:04PM

    emoticon that is one of my favorite scriptures, and can tell when love abides.... Your next month sounds like happy pursuits as well... I look forward to hearing about it and how you are enjoying your retirement!!! Woot!

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LISASGONNADOIT 3/31/2014 4:57PM

    Great job! It sounds like you have accomplished a lot in learning to love yourself this month. I certainly can learn from your venture too. Thank you for the inspiration! You are doing awesome. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ENTIRELYBEVERLY 3/30/2014 5:56PM

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"Health is the greatest gift, contentment the greatest wealth, faithfulness the best relationship." Buddha


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COASTAL6 3/30/2014 2:01PM

    WOW!
That's so inspirational, I need love myself more too!
Thanks for sharing.
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VICKI-B-N-FLA 3/30/2014 12:47PM

    I know exactly how you feel about the scale and how we let it determine how we feel about ourselves. I've had a love/hate relationship with it for years and every once in awhile I'll try to stay away from it completely, but it's an old habit I just can't seem to break, although I'll keep trying. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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RETIREMENT - DAY 1

Thursday, March 27, 2014

This is the day I have been waiting for - for so many years. emoticon of the rest of my life. Wow, I don't think that I have ever quite felt the enormity of an event in quite the same way as this. First of all, it was my total choice to stop working. Nobody told me I had to do this. And second of all, I really have no plans for my future. Of course I have thought a lot about what I would like to do during my retirement. Everything centers around being healthy, in good shape, and staying this way for as long as possible.

So I think Sparkpeople is going to be a huge part of my life. I plan to do my 10,000 steps as often as possible, track my caloric intake and keep on this healthy journey. I look forward to being here for at least another 20 plus years.

  
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MIZFIREZ 3/27/2014 11:57PM

    emoticon so happy for you :) emoticon

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JACKIE542 3/27/2014 8:59PM

    emoticon Happy retirement. emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 3/27/2014 8:48PM

  Congratulations and enjoy your retirement! HUGS

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DINA1958 3/27/2014 8:32PM

    Congratulations to you, and I hope you Enjoy!

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MOMOFTEENS1966 3/27/2014 8:01PM

  Congratulations! I'm sure you have earned this.

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KHADEEJAH1 3/27/2014 7:28PM

    Congratulations enjoy your retirement!

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NATPLUMMER 3/27/2014 7:21PM

    Enjoy!!

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What is Self Love?

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

This month I am focusing on loving myself. It has been quite enlightening and very inspirational. There are some wonderful websites that have great ideas about how to learn to love yourself. www.wikihow.com/Love-Yourself This is just one example. It gives 24 tips or steps to self love.

But besides the "doing" steps I have been trying to find what my "feeling" of self love is.
This is the best picture of my idea of loving myself.

  
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1CRAZYDOG 3/11/2014 8:08PM

  Well said. Needed this message today! THANK YOU!

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THINFITKINDVGAN 3/11/2014 7:59PM

    When you choose Peace it comes along with Love attached. To experience that Love (called "self" love) you express it. Simple.

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JACKIE542 3/11/2014 4:06PM

    emoticon Very nice

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PIXIE-LICIOUS 3/11/2014 1:57PM

    emoticon I work on loving myself every day. When I love myself, it makes me more determined to stick to my journey!

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_BABE_ 3/11/2014 1:30PM

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STEVEN_D 3/11/2014 12:24PM

    Those are some great suggestions. I struggle with the letting go of things in my past and daily positive affirmations. this is why I love this web site and read blogs like yours. Thanks!

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BLUEEYEDBETTY 3/11/2014 11:27AM

    I need to do this as well. Thank you for the reminder!

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Loving Myself

Wednesday, March 05, 2014


I have loved this quote for a very long time and it was always the motto that I tried to live up to for myself. However, I am just beginning to understand how my work life has been a compromise for loving myself for many years.

For years I have worked in a job that I do not enjoy. I did it because it paid well, it gave me good benefits, it allowed me health insurance - which was something I couldn't live without. But for almost 13 years I have been selling myself short.

Before that I was in a marriage that was very abusive. When I left that marriage, I thought that I would never become a victim again. It is only now that I am looking forward to retirement that I see that my work life was also full of abusive relationships.

I know that many people are living in the same sorts of situations that I am talking about. I hope that we all can learn to love ourselves a little bit more and let go of relationships that are unhealthy. This can also include the unhealthy relationships with food and exercise.

  
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INGMARIE 3/6/2014 7:49AM

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INIT2LIVEIT 3/5/2014 11:58PM

    emoticon emoticon there are millions of ways to make healthy personal choices over and over again each day...

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1CRAZYDOG 3/5/2014 3:06PM

  Definitely easier said than done in many cases.

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_BABE_ 3/5/2014 2:22PM

    As you mentioned it's easier said than done....health insurance and a good salary are hard to beat. I am not sure how it is there but workplace bullying has gone up dramatically in Canada. I left my job partially because I didn't like it but now after my period of refocus I also know it's difficult to find a new one ...but I am hoping.

Good luck in your retirement or as I like to think a brand new chapter to re-invent yourself.

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LIFECHANGZ 3/5/2014 12:11PM

    where there is power, there is the propensity for abuse. been there, get that. glad you will be free from that!!! Sparktacular!!!

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MARCH GOAL - AND THERE IS ONLY 1

Sunday, March 02, 2014

This month of March I am working on only 1 goal.

  
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BLVINBUTTERFLYS 3/4/2014 11:32AM

    Awesome place to be concentrating!

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1CRAZYDOG 3/3/2014 8:30PM

  That is the best goal! HUGS

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_BABE_ 3/3/2014 1:50PM

    Lets keep the love going!!

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SHAMROCKY2K 3/2/2014 10:43PM

    Passing this on to someone else who needs to hear it. A WONDERFUL goal!

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JAMBABY0 3/2/2014 10:32PM

    thanks for sharing

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