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Fires near us.

Friday, May 16, 2014

There are fires going all over San Diego, Ca right now and cities just on the out skirts of it too, like Escondido where we are. There is a big fire to the west of us right now, but so far we are okay and safe.

  
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JMAHNKEN 8/7/2014 12:02PM

    Thanks, luckily they are not near me this time. All my best to you always. Janette

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SHAKESALOT 8/7/2014 8:42AM

    We had a wild fire here last year and never realized how dangerous they could be. Stay safe....seen fires are happening again.

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JMAHNKEN 5/19/2014 6:39PM

    Thanks everyone. My BF works in Carlsbad, he ended up putting in a lot of overtime staying at work on fire patrol and keeping a watch on their computers. His ex and his son live in Poway and the boy goes to school in Poway. The BF use to live in Rancho Penasquitos before we moved up to Escondido together. We came close to evacuating this time, but luckily didn't have to.

But I had to evacuate in 2007 when I was living in Spring Valley and we had fires going all around us like this. Luckily I was able to go to a sister-in-law's house for a week in La Mesa as she got stuck out in the desert with my brother and his wife due to the road closures.

And in 2003 I came really close to having to evacuate too when I lived in Clairemont and fires were going all around too.

All my best to you all always.

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MSUEQUILTS 5/19/2014 3:13PM

    I live in NE California near Lassen Park. We had a serious set of fires a few years ago. I can emphasize with you and all that smoke and worry!

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KELTIK_HEART 5/19/2014 6:49AM

    Glad the fires skirted your area and are now under control. 2 friends of mine in Carlsbad actually had to evacuate last Tuesday!

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JMAHNKEN 5/17/2014 11:39PM

    thanks everyone! The fires seem to be staying farther away from us today. All my best to you all always. Janette

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KALEWINE 5/17/2014 6:28PM

    Stay safe!

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JMAHNKEN 5/17/2014 1:44PM

    thanks everyone. The ones nearest to us and slowly getting put out. And the others that are still going big are further way so they really are not a threat to us right now. All my best to you all.

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IDICEM 5/17/2014 6:35AM

  So glad to hear you are safe. Stay that way! Hope they get those fires out soon.

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JMAHNKEN 5/16/2014 11:54AM

    Thanks everyone! So far it has just been a lot of smoke coming from fires in all directions around us. But I am still exercising while trying to keep tract of where the fires are and where the evacuations are being called for. All my best to you all always. Janette

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SAPPHIREPW 5/16/2014 11:50AM

    Stay safe

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_LINDA 5/16/2014 10:41AM

    Sorry to hear that! Hope they can control them from spreading further.

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DEBBYFROMMT 5/16/2014 9:57AM

    I heard about that! STAY SAFE!! Thinking about you!

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JACKIE542 5/16/2014 9:10AM

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LEW0213 5/16/2014 8:21AM

    We have tornadoes in our area and they don't scare me half as much as fires. Wish we could send you some of our rains. I join the others in wishing you stay safe. Hugs, Linda

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BIGPAWSUP 5/16/2014 7:12AM

    I was just watching this on the news. Hope they get things under control.

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SABLENESS 5/16/2014 6:57AM

    emoticon emoticon Hope your home stays safe.

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JANET552 5/16/2014 6:48AM

    Scary stuff out there!! I'm glad you are safe.

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ARTJAC 5/16/2014 5:17AM

    STAY SAFE

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MCFITZ2 5/16/2014 4:31AM

    Must be scary. Stay safe. I hope they are able to put them out.

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Had a productive day.

Friday, May 09, 2014

I had a good productive day. I meet with my sister and some old child hood friends and we helped my sister move some heavy and awkward to move items today. I also in the process walked over 7 miles, and over 21,000 steps today.

  
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JMAHNKEN 5/10/2014 8:43PM

    thanks everyone

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DEBBYFROMMT 5/10/2014 1:04PM

    Good for you!! I hope you counted all that fitness! (I think "moving" is in the fitness tracker!)

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JMAHNKEN 5/10/2014 3:03AM

    thanks

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JMAHNKEN 5/10/2014 1:09AM

    thanks! It worked out for all. My sister had a bunch of furniture she didn't need and friends wanted it. So with my truck and the friends muscle we got a lot of stuff moved today. And had fun visiting each other again after not seeing each other for about a year too. It was better than just chatting on Facebook like we had been doing.

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IDLETYME 5/9/2014 9:35PM

    Looks like you had a super day - That's great! emoticon

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JMAHNKEN 5/9/2014 9:27PM

    thanks

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OBIESMOM2 5/9/2014 9:24PM

    good job!

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MERRYMARY42 5/9/2014 9:08PM

    way to go, an all round good for you day,

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Thank goodness for friends!

Thursday, May 08, 2014

I have some old child hood friends that agreed last night to help me out with moving some belongings. So I think things are going to look up now.

  
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JMAHNKEN 5/9/2014 9:19PM

    thanks

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IDICEM 5/9/2014 5:59AM

  Good news. Taking control will help.

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JMAHNKEN 5/8/2014 4:02PM

    thanks

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KAYDE53 5/8/2014 3:47PM

    emoticon So happy for you!! emoticon

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JMAHNKEN 5/8/2014 2:57PM

    thanks everyone!

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    That's great - i happy for you!!!! emoticon

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_LINDA 5/8/2014 12:58PM

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That is fabulous!
I can't say I even know where my old childhood friends might be.

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BIGPAWSUP 5/8/2014 12:42PM

    Awesome.

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JMAHNKEN 5/8/2014 11:44AM

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MJRVIC2000 5/8/2014 11:39AM

    Thank your friends and praise God for friends. God Bless YOU! Vic.

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update

Thursday, May 08, 2014

my Ibs-d came back mon and tue morning, but only in the morning and only once or twice. I think it is doing better now. But I have still lost my appetite from the stress that the bf put me under sunday. Went to the drs on a follow appt and she gave me a hand out on stress and told me to get it under control, and keep chatting with a support group like this, and keep all the other appts that she just set for me or she is going to send me to a counselor. I have to see her in 6 wks again, and I have to continue my pt, go to a dentist, go to the eye dr, get a colon scope. So fun, fun. I guess I am going to be busy for a bit. But I am so happy I have here to come too. I won't give this up completely. If bf is still on me about internet, I will keep cutting back, but I don't want to go cold turkey. Janette

  
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JMAHNKEN 5/9/2014 1:03AM

    I am doing a lot better today. Tomorrow I am getting with friends, so it will be good.

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LINDA! 5/8/2014 10:35PM

    My heart goes out to you. When stress hits us, like relationship problems, it is so difficult to get through the day. Wishing you better days ahead. emoticon

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JMAHNKEN 5/8/2014 4:23PM

    I think he was just upset about things going on with his ex and son and took it out on me. And I had complained to him before about his staying up to 2-3 in the morning playing games and then coming in to the bedroom and waking me and the dogs up, and then keeping a light on until he started to fall a sleep. And then he would start snoring. And then his alarm for work would always start going off around 5-6 am and he would just keep hitting the snooze on it. So I was hardly getting any sleep. Then he would get home from work and fall asleep in his lazy boy chair right after he go home or right after dinner. So I was left to make sure his son did his home work and got to bed at a decent time. And his son doesn't like me telling him to do anything, and doesn't like doing his homework or going to bed no matter whom is telling him to do it. I had just asked the bf a few nights before if we could get into a decent bedtime schedule as I thought it would be best for all of us. His son is 9 and should be going to bed at a decent time for school, the bf should be getting rest instead of playing games all night and day until his is burned out. He spends most of his off time on the computer or in front of the TV. He won't go walking with me, or exercising of any with me. And he and his ex keep telling me the boy is getting in trouble at school not doing all his homework and talking in class, and hates school. I thought if we all got on a decent schedule it might help. That night I asked him he didn't like it, but said okay. But then just went back to doing the usual shortly after and I didn't say any thing about it. I thought we were having a really good week and weekend. And I really thought Sunday night the way he was talking that we were having a rare date night. So I was really shocked and embarrassed that he took me out in public to just dump on me, and try to make me the scapegoat for all the family woes.

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KAYDE53 5/8/2014 3:54PM

    You'll have to do what's right for you, but I don't think I'd want anyone monitoring my time for me, unless I was really out of control. emoticon Hang in there!!

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JMAHNKEN 5/8/2014 2:58PM

    Thanks everyone! emoticon

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KELTIK_HEART 5/8/2014 12:43PM

    Hang in there -- I just backed up and read your explanation of your situation and I feel for you. It's complicated, I'm sure, but NO ONE has the right to try to make us feel small. Sounds like your BF is trying to make HIS problem YOUR problem, so keep yourself as #1 and don't sacrifice your dignity, your autonomy, or your health to what sounds like an unfair scenario.

Good luck sorting it all out and be sure to come online for stress relief and support!

Cheers

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JMAHNKEN 5/8/2014 11:40AM

    OBIESMOM2, I bought that book long ago when it came out. I don't remember if I ever read it all the way through or not? But it was sitting on my book shelf, so I picked it back up and will start to read it again. Thanks

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JMAHNKEN 5/8/2014 11:35AM

    Thanks everyone! Facebook is the only one I have to be careful of posting on, and when I want to talk to my sister now I just use it's instant chat so that only we can see it. I already told him that I wasn't giving up logging in here completely. This is my outlet, and was my support network for blended families and other issues. And my dr doesn't want me to give this up either, unless I then physically go to support group meetings somewhere else.

Luckily last night I got a child hood friend that agreed to be my muscles and help me load a bunch of my sister's and my stuff into our truck to get rid of it. And he will start helping me Friday. Once I have finished emptying out my sister's storage unit and getting rid of stuff I stored in our garage for me and my sister then he won't have much to complain about any more. And I will go try to find at least a part time job so I have some money coming in again so I don't go into debt.

So I think I got things rolling now! So I don't feel so burdened. The bf hasn't said any thing more about since Sunday, so maybe he is starting to feel bad about things he said, how he said it, and for doing it out in public? So far he hasn't said anything to me again about being on my computer. And he never cut back his computer gaming or other computer stuff, he actually seems to have increased his?

Janette

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BIGPAWSUP 5/8/2014 10:56AM

    You do what is right for YOU

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DEBBYFROMMT 5/8/2014 9:39AM

    Understand completely about needing to cut back on the computer time. Be sure you get enough sleep and take care of yourself!!!!

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OBIESMOM2 5/8/2014 7:06AM

    have you read 'The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People'? That book changed my life. I keep an audio copy in my car to get me back on track when I feel myself slipping back to my old ways.

if you have a library near you, check it out.

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2014TODAY 5/8/2014 3:30AM

    You could open a new account with a nickname they don't know, and sent private sparkmails to your friends to friend you at the new account. I think this way you'll be invisible to those you don't want to follow you on internet.
Good luck. Take care of yourself.

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MISSY455 5/8/2014 2:33AM

    Good luck with the rest of your appts. Stress can be very detrimental to our health. I hope you can find an outlet to help you cope with it. Sometimes just getting out for a 10 or 15 minute walk helps me to sort through.

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JMAHNKEN 5/8/2014 1:48AM

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This might be good bye for a while?

Monday, May 05, 2014

Sorry but something has come up and I might not be able to be online much at all any more. All my best to you all always.

  
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JMAHNKEN 5/7/2014 9:07PM

    Just my mental health, lol

Bf and his son are stressing me out and dumping on me when I already had enough stress. He is getting bossy all of a sudden and was pissed off at seeing me Online. I guess I wasn't doing what he wanted, when he wanted, how he wanted or some stupid thing? Any ways I lost my job a couple of yrs ago and haven't found a new one but wasn't stressing about as I was taking care of his kid. But his ex just just asked to put the kid in an expensive summer program, and the kid wants to play foot ball too, and when the bf wasn't jumping right at and was saying the program was too expensive and the kid is too young to play football. They decided to come back with the kid hates me. And all of a sudden Sunday night turned into "Let's dump on Janette". I was taken out to dinner, what I thought was a date night, only to be ambushed with a personal attack on my character, etc, etc. I was so shocked, embarrased and pissed off. But I am running out of money, and he has me by the short hairs, I have no where else to go right now. So I have to do what he wants. To me it seems like maybe the ex is getting ready to take him to court for more money, and maybe this was just getting their ducks in a row first? I don't know. But I have taken care of his kid for 5 yrs, loaned him money where ever for what ever and never bit--ed about not getting it back, so I don't no what crawled up his a--, but some thing sure did and it bite me instead!


Well I might not be on here as much as before, but I am not giving this up with out a fight!

even if it means getting a temp job to get some money again and move out! but for now I am trying to keep the peace and do what he wants. But I ain't very happy about it!

Thanks so much every one! I love you all, you keep me as normal as possible, lol
Janette

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GIVEUP30 5/7/2014 10:58AM

    emoticon sure hope not your health emoticon th

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JMAHNKEN 5/6/2014 1:51PM

    thanks so much, I will try to stay in touch emoticon

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ARTJAC 5/6/2014 1:34AM

    hope everything goes well for you we will be here anytime you can make it back hugs

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JMAHNKEN 5/5/2014 11:15PM

    thanks every one. I will log in when I feel I can with out stirring things back up. may just quickly in the evening. I am still doing my pt and exerciseing and trying to watch the diet.

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SABLENESS 5/5/2014 9:47PM

    emoticon emoticon Hope you can negotiate a peaceful solution.

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GWEN2WIN 5/5/2014 7:26PM

    emoticon I will indeed miss you
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Hope all will continue to go well for you.

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BESCATS 5/5/2014 6:30PM

    Hugs and prayers that all will work out for you. We will miss you, and will be here when you return. The best to you. emoticon

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KAYDE53 5/5/2014 5:14PM

    Please check in from time to time if you can, but do what you need to do to take of whatever the situation is at this time!! We will emoticon Take care!! emoticon emoticon

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2014TODAY 5/5/2014 3:59PM

    emoticon Take good care of yourself. Hope to see you again.

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ANGIEN9 5/5/2014 3:35PM

    I hope someday you will be back. I will thinking of you. Thanks you for commenting and thinking of me! emoticon
Angie

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_LINDA 5/5/2014 3:27PM

    So very sorry to hear this Janette :( Remember you are important too. Your health, safety and well being is crucial to enjoy life. Do not let anyone interfere with this...
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IDLETYME 5/5/2014 12:38PM

    All best wishes for working out your problems. We'll be sending prayers and watching for your return!!!! emoticon emoticon

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DETERMINEDJANET 5/5/2014 12:27PM

    Thinking of you! Hope it all smooths over for you!

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  Praying for you and the journey you are on. You are not alone. emoticon

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JMAHNKEN 5/5/2014 10:53AM

    thanks everyone emoticon emoticon

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LOBOSMOMMA 5/5/2014 10:51AM

    Sorry to hear it. Best of luck to you!

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JMAHNKEN 5/5/2014 10:49AM

    Thanks every one, I will check in when I can. But family and relationship issues just came to a crashing head last night and the BF is not happy with me being online. So for now I need to try to keep the peace here at home to keep a roof over my head at least until I can do it myself if need be. Janette

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    So sorry to hear this news, come back when you can and pray all will be well. emoticon

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MOTHEPRO 5/5/2014 10:40AM

    Take care of yourself.

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PROVERBS31JULIA 5/5/2014 10:33AM

    Oh? I hope you will let us know how things are going, even if you can't stay on or all aspects of Spark! Keep the stress down while you are away - keep exercising!
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Julia

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CAT-IN-CJ 5/5/2014 10:31AM

    Do what ya gotta do . . . and take care of yourself.



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BIGPAWSUP 5/5/2014 10:27AM

    You will be missed and we'll be here if you can come back.


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BOB5148 5/5/2014 10:27AM

  Good luck

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