Monday, December 20, 2010
I need to write down a couple of things I've learned before I forget them.
First, I read a really good blog the other day about "manning up" when you screw up and not making lame excuses for what you did or didn't do. (The blogger said it way more eloquently.)
Anyway, I have decided to adopt "man up" as my new mantra and I actually put it to work today, believe it or not. Today is Monday, but also my last day of work until after the New Year. So naturally I'm very excited to have some extended time off and euphoria can make me a little lax about things. I was hit first by the "oh, there are cookies in the back room", and then by the "let's meet at Dunkin' Donuts instead of the office". In neither case was I hungry, although I desperately wanted a cup of coffee. So, here was an opportunity. What did I do? I THOUGHT to myself, "if you want a cookie, eat it, but don't say anybody twisted your arm to get you to eat it." And, "you desperately want coffee, but if you decide to get one of those tasty looking donuts, don't blame the person who suggested meeting at Dunkin Donuts instead of the office."
But all I needed to really SAY to myself, was "Man up!" It worked like a charm. That said it all.
Secondly, I have noticed something a little peculiar lately. The only person who knows that I am doing Sparkpeople (and lost 16 pounds so far) is my husband. I purposely haven't told anybody and I've asked my husband not to either. If someone notices I've lost weight, great, but I'm not advertising. This is a very personal thing for me right now. However, there is one person in my office who has been quite vocal about being on Weight Watchers, so everybody knows about it. I have found among my coworkers, that nobody pressures me to eat all the junk people bring in, but my WW buddy gets pressured all the time and more often than not she caves. "Oh, you can have a little, it's the holidays", blah blah blah. These are nice people, so I know that this is unintentional. I find it very interesting, though. I know that some of the readings say that you should be up front with people, but based on what I'm seeing, I'm not so sure that's a good strategy. In my case anyway, at least for right now, silence really is golden.
At first this sounded like a bit of contradiction. Man up and accept personal responsibility, but don't be honest with people...hmm. The way I rationalized it to myself was that I'm not lying to anyone, including myself, but I'm just not choosing to share the Sparkpeople part with others yet. This sounds OK to me... I think I'll go with it.