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Do-Over? No, but I appreciate the offer.

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

OK, I've been AWOL for a while, at least from posting. I have been basically tanking for the last two months. I lost 26 pounds pretty quickly and then have slowly been putting it back on. I've been "Sparking" daily, but I have felt like I've been doing this in the 3rd person -- as if all of the information I've received has been referring to somebody else and not me. What's up with that??

I am quite disgusted with myself, but Coach Nicole posted an article recently on 25 things you can do to get yourself back on track. Number 20 is to restart your program. I clicked on the link to do that and it sent me back to my account and I had the option to change anything and everything, resetting SparkPoints and goals included. I was so close to doing just that. Just bag it and start over.

Then I thought, do I really want to throw away everything that I've been struggling with and have a do over? To just erase the history of everything I've been going through as if it never happened? Not to get too philosophical about it, but past experiences are all part of what and who we are and an important part of the journey to where we want to be. It's not always pleasant or kind, but it is what it is.

Maybe most of all I need to not forget about the failures but learn from them instead. I think it will make me appreciate the successes even more. So, although I appreciate the option very much, I'm not taking a do-over.

Instead, I just gave myself a metaphorical "slap upside the head" and told myself to "Snap out of it!"

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KIYOSHI04 7/27/2011 9:18AM

    sometimes it is difficult to get back on the track you wish to be on but if anyone can do it, i know you can.

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CATSANDGARDENS 7/27/2011 6:51AM

    My best friend, after allowing me to winge (sounds more grown up than whining) .

"Wow, you are going through a lot, guess you need to put on your big girl panties and deal with it!"

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REDHEADMOM2U 7/26/2011 6:42PM

    Sounds like you are on the right track now! Great!!!

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GEORGIAINVT 7/26/2011 4:33PM

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MARYHAMILTON93 7/26/2011 4:32PM

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Know Thyself

Saturday, May 21, 2011

I had a conversation with a dietitian a few years ago. She gave a talk at my workplace for people who were interested in losing weight. Anyway, she said something that has really stuck with me. She said, you have to be very honest with yourself about what you are willing to do and what you are not and then work with it. What is negotiable and what isn't. She said that if you don't do that you are setting yourself up for discouragement and failure.

For example, I have finally acknowledged that I will never be a morning person and I'm really tired of apologizing for it, since my husband is up at the crack of dawn. I'm hardly coherent until at least 9 am. Therefore, if I made a commitment to get up at 6 am to exercise... well it would never happen or I might be able to do it for a while and be completely miserable, and then I'd get down on myself and quit exercising altogether. For me, this is not negotiable. I am much more awake after work, so that's when I exercise. It might be more productive if I exercised in the morning, but it just ain't happening.

Also, I am amazed by the number of Spark People who exercise 120 minutes a day. Wow! That's not realistic for me either, so I do what I can and try to get at least 30 minutes in every day. That is my commitment.

Same goes with food. I will NOT give up ice cream, cookies, candy, etc. Again, I might be able to do it for a while, but I love these things too much to say I will never eat them again. I'd feel like a failure when I ate one of the things that I love (and believe me I would eat that ice cream eventually). That's just not negotiable. What I WILL do is be accountable for eating these things in terms of portion size and tracking them on my Nutrition Tracker so that I stay within my calorie range.

I think it's important to accept and be happy with ourselves the way we are and use the tools available to us to set realistic goals and priorities. Knowing what I am willing to do and what I'm not willing to do are really important steps and it's probably incredibly different for each of us.

  
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KALISWALKER 6/6/2011 1:24PM

    I agree with you accept and be happy with ourselves! If we keep fighting ourselves we not happy and will not stick with it. I had icecream cake at my friend's birthday and loved and recorded it too.

Have a great week!

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MAMASUDS 5/30/2011 1:24AM

    Know thyself. Oh how true. Fits in very well with my blog that you commented on today. Like you, I love to glean from all sorts of diet buffs and apply what fits into my world.

I love the quiet of the morning when I can catch it, but with a house full of kids, it is more likely that I will find peace and quiet at night than in the morning, so my night owl nature prevails.

Amazingly, my world has gradually changed over the years and each time I review weight loss tips, I am always able to find one more that will fit in, which I thought would have never worked. We are constantly changing and growing and with perseverance and honesty our healthy lifestyles will be developing right along with us.

I really enjoyed your blog. Thanks for sharing.




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KIYOSHI04 5/22/2011 3:05PM

    it is hard to conform to what someone else thinks you should do or be.
i think that is a lot of the reason why there is so much failure on "diets"....
there are so many "rules." you cant do this, have to do that.
the key to this journey is finding what works for you and sticking with it. thats it.

as for me, yeah, i get in 2 hours a day....usually more. but im unemployed.

also, what i do.... is just keep my feet moving while im doing household tasks. if i am cooking, baking, cleaning, doing laundry, making beds, feeding the dogs, cutting veggies... i am keeping my feet moving at all times.
you'd be surprised how much that helps.
it keeps me burning calories while doing something that needs to do and also lets me focus on weight loss. like sometimes i zone out while making dinner and just graze. but now, i find i am less apt to do that because i am working out while getting dinner ready.

small bursts of fitness do add up.

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MAHONEY_09 5/22/2011 11:27AM

    Loved your blog and good for you! I feel much the same way as you do!

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ILIKECACTI 5/22/2011 9:33AM

    Oh that is so true. I think I have been telling myself that I was doing that, when in fact I was trying to make myself conform to a routine that was just too strict for me. I'm finally admitting to myself that a 1200 cal/day is just not going to work out for me. Way to restrictive- which leads me to get frustrated and go overboard later.

I think I'm finally realizing that slow and steady reality is better than having ambitious yet unrealistic goals that get me nowhere over time. Too bad it took me so long to realize it.

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Procrastination?... I'll think about that later

Friday, May 20, 2011

I read an article about procrastination yesterday that I was supposed to reflect on. It made a whole lot of sense. I am definitely one of those people who gets stressed out because I put off tasks, especially filing and organizing things so that I waste a lot of time even getting ready to start tasks. Basically I throw everything in a big pile -- at home and at work. I am trying to be better, but I have a long way to go. I know I would be much more productive and happier if I just did stuff when I thought of it instead of putting things off.

On the lighter side, I actually read this article at work because I was procrastinating. I had to write a report and I couldn't figure out how to get it started. Also, in case no one noticed, I put off until today writing this reflection. At least I'm consistent!!
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KIYOSHI04 5/22/2011 3:07PM

    this made me chuckle.
i am a procrastinator too. some of us just thrive that way.... i always waited until last minute to do all college papers and then stayed up all night doing it the nite before.
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sometimes it is just easier to do things as they come. like filing.
then it doesnt suck as much and doesnt suck as much of your time, cos you just have to file one paper, not months and months worth.


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JANET552 5/21/2011 5:06PM

    Procrastination just comes so easily. I understand totally.

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ANDYINBC 5/21/2011 1:31PM

    Procrastination seems to affect so many of us. Just curious, could you perhaps share the article name and authors. I would love to be more enlightened on this topic and perhaps deal with it more effectively.

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ILIKECACTI 5/21/2011 11:08AM

    oh yes... i'm a total procrastinator. i thought i would break the habit somewhere along the way. but i haven't yet.

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CHRISTINECAN 5/21/2011 10:48AM

    I also blogged and have reflected further on the topic. Funny how these little snippets they send us really do get worked over! Liked yours. emoticon

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JAXMOMMY 5/20/2011 10:11PM

    Thanks for the chuckle! I'm procrastinating right now as a matter of fact! Shame on us!

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GEMINISUE 5/20/2011 10:10PM

    Check out flylady.com she will get you organized. Sure did help me a lot. :)

Hugs
Linda


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TJSWAN5 5/20/2011 9:24PM

  I looked up this site 2 days ago.I don't plan to start the nutrition plan until sun. I had to take some time to decide if I am ready to commit. I am. I'll be going to get groceries tommorow- nomore procrastinating. emoticon

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TARANITUP 5/20/2011 8:47PM

    I read that Healthy Reflection, and blogged about it too lol. So did another of my sparkies... I guess it resonated with a lot of people!

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TEE-RACY 5/20/2011 8:09PM

    Consistency is half the battle...lmao.

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Getting by with a little help from my friends...

Saturday, May 14, 2011

I posted a really downer blog the other day about feeling like I was not fully engaged in Spark People and how I was having trouble getting back in the groove.
Well... I got so many responses and such great encouragement, that it literally made me cry. In fact, I'm a little bit teary right now, only it's not because I'm sad. I cannot tell you how much it means to me to be surrounded by such caring supportive people. Just knowing that there are others who share similar ups and downs and care enough to throw me a lifeline has made me feel so much better. It has given me a real sense of frienship and community with all of you. None of us are alone in this, even as we sit by ourselves in front of a computer. Sharing our fears as well as our triumphs makes all of us stronger. If I wasn't sure about that before, I am absolutely convinced of it now.
Thanks so much!!!
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KIYOSHI04 5/22/2011 3:08PM

    :o)

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KALISWALKER 5/16/2011 4:48PM

    You are right, we are doing this together. Any time I am exercising I know others are too. Have a great week!

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    emoticonI'm glad you are feeling so much better. emoticon

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THINAGIN2 5/14/2011 8:31PM

    We're all here for one another! That's what makes this such a good place to be! Keep your chin up and smile!!!

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ACROSONIC 5/14/2011 7:30PM

    That's the whole point of this sharing, to see that we're not alone.

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REDHEADMOM2U 5/14/2011 6:20PM

    Always here...maybe just slow to respond

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GEMINISUE 5/14/2011 4:00PM

    Your right, were all here, to help each other, when down. To cheer the triumphs! To be a little tough when necessary! To be kind and gentle, because we know what it is like.

Hugs
Linda

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MOSTMOM1 5/14/2011 3:29PM

    We're all in this together.
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What's Wrong With Me?

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

I haven't written in quite a while. I have kind of been going through the motions lately and not really feeling that committed to what I'm doing. I religiously log in to SparkPeople every day and tick off my activities for Spark Points, but I'm not feeling that engaged, and that really bothers me. It shouldn't be about getting points.
Don't get me wrong, I'm learning a lot and I read and respond to others' blogs to send encouragement and try to get inspired by the efforts of others, but I feel like a fraud sometimes, like I don't belong because I'm not as "into" this as everybody else seems to be. And then I feel sad and a little desperate because I really wish I had a more positive attitude and I don't know how to get back in the "groove" I was in a few weeks ago. I wish I could figure out how to get my mojo back!
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MELISSAJUSTINA 5/13/2011 11:30PM

    Sometimes we all go through this, I know I have! Sometime we just need a break! Hang in there, it will come back!

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RR1_RR1 5/12/2011 11:18PM

    We all have slumps. I havent worked out in awhile now either- just watching the diet mostly. Hope you find the spark again, I dont like seeing that sad face! emoticon

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ILIKECACTI 5/12/2011 7:02PM

    Oh yes... I totally identify with what you wrote. My spark is not here right now either. I'm taking a mini break while we move, and then getting back on track. I think that will help. I hope you get your spark back soon... and me too!

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ACROSONIC 5/12/2011 11:52AM

    I've been there, the last few months! Which is why I didn't sign up for the spring 5% challenge. It began to feel like a chore. I may sign up for a later one, but I was just doing the motions, as you said.

Read or reread The Spark. It does help get the motivation back and remind you why you are doing this!

Life is full of peaks and valleys, you're in a valley and just need to get a spark to move back up to a peak.

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MTNGRL 5/12/2011 6:53AM

    Sometimes we all lose our Spark. Facing the fact and seeking answers is the way to get back on track. I bet we all have been there.
So maybe try a new exercise, find a teammate that gets you and make them your best bud, pick a reward that you really want to work for, have a goal that means something to you and never, ever give up!

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JANET552 5/12/2011 5:37AM

    I understand that feeling. It is normal and natural to be derailed by what is happening (or not happening) around us. I think your commitment shows by your continuing on here at Spark but just being here doesn't necessarily help a person lose weight. Challenges can help. Reconsidering goals helps too. Good luck!

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COOKIEGRANNY 5/12/2011 5:33AM

    This is absolutely normal. happens to ALL of us, believe me. You'll get your motivation back! Keep Sparking!
Cookie

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LISABRANDNEW11 5/11/2011 11:19PM

    I am just getting back into the groove of things myself. Personally, the ups and downs of life take a toll on my being motivated to keep it going on Spark. The fact that you are still thinking about Spark and still logging in is a good thing. Think about all the success you have had and pick 1 thing to get motivated about and go for it. Don't be so hard on yourself. Everything goes in cycles...

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OLLYBIRD 5/11/2011 10:40PM

    I have felt that way too. It was like I lost sight of my motivation. I just kept showing up and doing what I was supposed to be doing,and eventually I remembered what sparked my weight loss in the beginning. I am back on track. It's okay to feel disconnected for a bit as long as you can find your flame again.

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TARAHA 5/11/2011 10:30PM

    I have felt just like what you have written about many times during the past year. And I often think that I wish I was successful as someone else at this weight loss journey. I think it is natural to feel self doubt. It is trying to comfort our doubts with food that got us to this point. I do think that continuing to engage in communication regardless of your inner voice, will help you. My mom taught me to act like you want to be (happy) and soon it will be your reality. Good luck and keep the faith!

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MOSTMOM1 5/11/2011 10:25PM

    I don't think there's anything wrong with you. Life ebbs and flows, right? Nobody can be super up all the time. Even Tigger lost his bounce once, remember? Hang in there!
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GEMINISUE 5/11/2011 10:19PM

    There is nothing wrong with you. You are normal. This is common, in all of us.
Sometimes, the first time, sails like a breeze in the ocean, all is well the weight flies off. Then it seems something happens to sidetrack all that lost, and your close to where you started, and have to begins again. Just feel fortunate you are alive and able to begin again. I have had several tries, at losing weight, probably many tries. It has just all come together for me While a Butterfly, competing, in the 5% off challenges. It was like, wow this is working. I can do this. I read something, and it clicks and I'm trying something new. or I remember something, and I go back to doing something old.

We can do this, we just need to get into the right groove for our bodies, to lose the weight, to get healthy again, to feel younger, stronger, more active.

Hugs
Linda

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MELLIL 5/11/2011 10:13PM

    When I start feeling "out of place" like that, I find that going around and INTENTIONALLY CHEERING helps bring ME back into that place I need to be. Reaching out to others - random acts of kindness - almost always helps. (not just on SP - but in real life too!) Hope you find your mojo soon! emoticon

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KIYOSHI04 5/11/2011 10:09PM

    only you can know what is going on with you. i find that a lot of people on spark go in spurts... im generally not one of them, but i do find that.
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you are definitely not a fraud. there are times when all of us can only do so much and are going through the motions for sure. for me, when that happens, my logging in and reading other's blogs and getting my points, etc.. is instrumental in keeping me on the path of a healthier diet and lifestyle. if i am not logging in, if i am not responding to other's blogs, that means always that i am eating too much of the wrong things and not working out.
so i hope you continue to log in and get your points and i also hope that you figure out what has happened to your mojo.

btw... syracuse is and always will be my home and my heart. i will never ever leave the syracuse team.
and thank you so much for all of your support and kind words. i really really appreciate it more than you know.
and if you ever need anything, im here.

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