Monday, January 06, 2014
This Christmas was a disaster, but so much so that it is kind of funny. The "highlights":
1) Driving to my mom's house on the December 20 and stopped at the grocery store on my way out of town to get a couple of things. Got back in the car... wouldn't start. My husband came and jump started the car and he followed me to a NAPA store where they replaced the battery (Cost: $103 + $20 tip for installing the battery).
2) Driving on the NYS Thruway eating a tuna fish sandwich -- not a sub or anything, just a plain tuna sandwich on soft bread -- lost a filling and part of a tooth. (Cost: TBA, but undoubtedly a lot since none of this is included in my dental insurance)
3) Got to my mom's house and her driveway was a mud pit. Tried to maneuver my car so it wouldn't block her in and slid into a snowbank. Nice neighbor comes to pull me out. In process loosens exhaust pipe and there is "something" hanging from under the body of the car. (Cost so far: $1,038 for new exhaust; they haven't told me about the other stuff yet.)
I drove the car back from Albany to Syracuse on 12/28 -- awkward when you are driving with your fingers crossed the whole way. Couldn't get an appointment to get the car into the shop until today, so I was pretty much housebound all week. I did make good use of the time, though, by doing a massive cleaning operation upstairs in preparation for arrival of furniture that my mom wants to get rid of when she moves.
Despite all of these annoyances, I am actually feeling very grateful because things could have been so much worse. For example, I was close to home when my battery died. What if I had been at a Thruway rest stop? And now I have a brand new battery and exhaust system. The tooth -- now that is unfortunate, but hey, not much I can do about it and I have to get it fixed.
I am also grateful that a few years ago I decided to try super hard to get an emergency fund started. Thank God I did, because if all of these things happened to me before I did that I would be looking at HUGE credit card bills to pay for this stuff -- and on top of Xmas presents expenses -- forget about it!!!
I sure hope that 2014 treats me better than 2013 did!
Tuesday, November 26, 2013
I go by a church every day on my way to/from work and they have these catchy sayings on their sign outside. The one that I stole for my blog title really pretty much says it all.
I'm on my way to my mom's house, hopefully tomorrow. The weather is supposed to be terrible for driving, so we'll see how it goes. This will be the first holiday without my Dad, so it will be rough on all of us, but most especially my mom.
I am going to stay for a few extra days and take my mom to see some places she might want to move into. I tried to talk her into moving closer to me, but she doesn't want to. It's her choice, of course, but it makes things a little difficult for me in terms of being much help to her on a day-to-day basis.
Because of where she lives, I won't be able to Spark at all while I'm gone, which is too bad because it keeps me going sometimes when I don't feel like doing my best. Can you believe she lives about 5 miles from the state capital and there is no internet connection available or cable TV? She only gets two stations on the TV and one of them shows reruns of old sitcoms night and day. (By the way, Hogan's Heroes is still funny, but Gilligan's Island... not so much. And The Nanny wasn't funny to begin with.) I would rather lose weight than my mind, but the latter is a definite possibility.
Happy Thanksgiving fellow Sparkers!
Monday, November 18, 2013
I used to worry constantly about what other people thought of me and lived in fear of saying or doing the wrong thing. It was really debilitating, especially when I was in school. I still have to fight that battle much of the time, and even the simplest decisions can paralyze me sometimes because I get lost in thinking about what XX would do. But every once in a while something just "clicks".
I remember hearing a talk someplace a long time ago and one of the things the speaker said was that everybody has so much else to think about, mostly themselves, that they don't really have that much time or interest in thinking about YOU.
After I got over being offended because I was told I wasn't important and really thought about the message, it really helped me get a new perspective and realize that if I make a mistake, or look foolish, so what? Unless I'm doing brain surgery, it's most likely not a life and death situation, right? And why should I care what others think of me anyway, even if they do remember my screw-ups? What a relief that is when you stop and think about it.
I was reminded about this again when I read Dr. Phil's column in O Magazine (Dec 2013 issue). He said that each of us is in the center of our own universe and because of that we can feel that everyone must be watching and judging us, especially when we make a mistake. The best quote was "You wouldn't worry so much about what others thought of you if you knew how seldom they did... How much time do you want to spend feeling paralyzed, as opposed to moving forward?"
The answer for me is... not much.
To quote Dr. Phil again: "I mean this in the kindest possible way: Get over yourself. Stop worrying about what others think!"
I'm sure I'll need constant reminders to do this, but when I do, I can just look at this blog!
Monday, March 25, 2013
Wow, I didn't realize I hadn't posted anything for over a month. There is actually a good reason for that. I need to come clean so here it is. I am pretty much starting over from day 1. I finally decided to just start over with a clean slate. It seems like every time I lose weight I end up weighing more than when I started. I haven't reached that point yet, but I thought I better get my act together before I do.
I do not have a good relationship with food. No kidding, right? Back in the day, i.e. when I was a lot younger, when I was nervous or upset, I literally could not eat. I could not swallow food. I was super thin, but not healthy. That is not good. Now that I am A LOT older I realize that when I am nervous or upset, the first thing I reach for is something unhealthy to eat. It wouldn't be bad if I was reaching for an apple or some carrots, but no, I want Reeses' Peanut Butter Cups or M&Ms.
So frustrating, but I'm not giving up!
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