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Are you lost?

Sunday, April 20, 2008

It's funny how Oprah had Mariah Shriver on the other day, and she said she lost herself when she became first lady of California. When she could no longer indentify herself as a journalist, she just didn't know what she was.

It's funny because I feel that somehow I have lost myself over the years. I look at photos of myself and wonder who that person is.

Don't get me wrong; I think I'm a pretty strong person in many ways. But I have a habit of throwing myself into something full tilt, then going on to the next thing that I bury myself into, and so on.

I ran my own business for a long time. Then my previous cats were elderly and sick and I threw myself into their care. Then I learned decorative painting and for several years I threw myself into that. Then I got a puppy. You get the picture.

I seem to have trouble finding balance in my life. I strive for it; I'm aware of; but it seems I'm always looking for the next thing to fill my life. Just like I'm always looking for the next food to fill my stomach.

Somewhere out there is balance. I feel I'm moving toward it with my eating, but it's hard. I have to work very, very hard to eat well. And if I do work very, very hard, like I have, then I do get rewarded with days like yesterday, when I knew I'd finally lost some weight, and I felt good.

Of course, I don't always have time to work that hard on eating well. Then I need a Plan B. I'm still working on that.

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SHEVICE 4/21/2008 7:26AM

    Do u think finding ourselves 'lost' is a "normal" part of life in some ways. We are defined by so much until we reach 40-ish, then this 'spare' time creeps up and ...."boo"...we jump and find oursleves..or yet...can't find ourselves. I'm where u r. I'm lost. And, I keep thinking that bread crumb trail will lead someone to find me and they'll grasp my scared hand and lead me back....but I don't think that happens in real life. I am beginning to think, when I find myself 'lost...it is up to me to find me. Balance...we are out-of-balance. Recapturing that balance at times requires a quick fall, a brushing off and a second, third, fourth attempt to try again. That's all we can do is keep trying.......I with ya on this one.

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WOODLANDMYST 4/20/2008 4:48PM

  Yes, I understand all too well! I've been lost more than once in my lifetime. I was so involved in making others comfortable and happy that I put myself on a shelf. I am getting better at keeping myself in focus.

There are no right foods just as there are no wrong foods. It's all about eating when you're truly hungry and eating slowly, enjoying it - and stopping when you're satisfied. No deprivation - that never works!

We can do this! We will do this!

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I feel good!

Saturday, April 19, 2008

Isn't it amazing how just a little weight loss can make you feel soooooooooo good?

I've been feeling like things are fitting a bit better lately, so I was surprised that when I measured this morning, there was no change -- and I only measure every couple of weeks!

Still, I had to go out & get some work done on my car. I was changing my jeans, and I put on a pair that's still a bit tight. Wearable, but not loose like I usually like my jeans. They've never been loose, not even when I bought them.

And I was just shocked to find they were comfortable. Boy, I am just on cloud nine. I've been trying on other clothes each week, the tight ones I want to fit into, and while it seemed that they were getting more comfortable, this was the first time there was a noticeable difference.

I'm sure it's not even much weight lost, in actuality, but that's okay because it's weight LOST.

And my car? I had to get a new battery. And that turned out to be a good thing, because my watch battery died overnight, and since I was getting the car fixed up at the mall, I was able to get my watch battery, too. I would have been upset if I had to make two separate trips.

I also tried on some clothes that I didn't expect to fit, and they did. I may lose weight slowly, but at least now I know I really can lose weight. I can do this!

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LILLIAN364 4/20/2008 4:01PM

    I weighed 147 in February. I started SP a bit later. It was a great feeling to be able to put on clothes that I haven't worn in years. All my size 10 jeans are large on me. I don't feel like buying new clothes since all my old clothes from 8 years ago that somehow didn't get thrown away between two moves still fit. I have three dresses, a miniskirt and lots of tiny tops from those days. I even have a pair of trousers, not jeans. It's exciting what a small lose can do!

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MUM2FIVE 4/19/2008 6:28PM

    Congrats on the clothes being comfy!
I always like to try on clothes I still have in my closet. Believe me I have all sizes down to a 6... I am in 12s now comfortably. I was a 14 wearing 12s before! uck. So it's nice to have comfy clothes instead of tight ones I bulged over in!

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Finish each day and be done with it

Saturday, April 19, 2008

The title is part of today's healthy reflections from SP:

"Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could . . .", Ralph Waldo Emerson

One of these days, I've got to try reading some Emerson. It's amazing how much of his advice is still true today!

This doesn't just apply to our weight. Although when it comes to our weight, I'd modify it just slightly: finish each meal and be done with it. Start each meal new.

In other words, you pigged out? ate something you shouldn't? more than you should? Ok, it's done & you can't undo it. Just start eating healthy again at your very next meal (no waiting until Monday).

But as I said, it's not just our weight. It's our life! There are so many days I end thinking I didn't do nearly enough. In fact, seems pretty much every day I think that. But I did what I could, and that's enough.

In fact, I often repeat this to myself (feel free to steal it for yourself!): I am good enough. I have enough. I do enough.

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MAXIJOHN 4/19/2008 9:54AM

    I love that quote! And you are so right. If we would "finish each meal and be done with it," it wouldn't be so hard to stay on the wagon when we fall off!

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Friday Fit Tip: Diet1

Friday, April 18, 2008


This is a pretty cool Website. Actually, you don't need the Website, but it has the instructions.

Say you're out & you're wondering what the nutritional breakdown of what you want to order is, but there's no information. Text 34381 (normal text charges apply), and within seconds they'll text you back the info. They have info for 1700 restaurants in the US!

I tried it from home, and it was fun to watch my addition show up on the list on the Website within seconds. It really works!

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AHHHME 4/18/2008 10:41PM

    This is very cool!!! I'll put on the BE KIND team's FYI thread. :) Please let me know if you find out there is a catch. :)

BTW, let me know if you read Brian's book. It is unreal that something like this is happening right now in the world. I know it's hard from our position to even imagine.

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MUM2FIVE 4/18/2008 12:06PM

    I can not believe there is NO CATCH to this. I have unlimited texting on my family plan. So I shouldn't be charged at all I guess?
I am so happy to see this! You should share it on the board!
Thank you so much!

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Is it really a lifestyle?

Thursday, April 17, 2008

Diets don't work. They don't work because they're usually not something you can stick to forever. Oh sure, they might work in the short-term -- but will you be able to keep the weight off? Can you eat like you're eating for the rest of your life?

Whatever you're doing, it must be sustainable. That means you change your eating habits for good. It's not something you do to lose 20, 50, or 100 pounds and then you can eat whatever you want. Because the truth is, when you get to your goal weight, you probably won't be able to eat much more than you're eating right now. A little bit, but not much. Because the smaller you are, the less you need to maintain your weight.

So let's say you can't control yourself when it comes to pizza. So you figure ok, I'll just give pizza up. And you're going along fine, you lose your weight, and then you figure just one slice won't hurt. And before you know it, the pounds are creeping back on but you don't know why.

Pizza might be something you have to give up for a while, but if you truly love it, you need to figure out a way to have just a little. Maybe you need to give up fatty toppings. Maybe you need to have a side salad with it to fill you up. You can lose weight and have your pizza too.

So please, just take a minute today and thinking about how you're eating. Can you eat this way for the rest of your life?

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TINYTINK0616 4/17/2008 3:57PM

    Everyone needs to splurge every once in a while. Just get back on track the next day. no big deal. =)

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LILLIAN364 4/17/2008 2:46PM

    I think you have to allow yourself days where you don't track your calories. Weeks that you can gain 3 pounds and know you have a way to lose it. I need that freedom. I don't want to go on a vacation where all I do is eat. My honey is obese so he thinks we're exercising when we're not.

I want to be able to eat all the food I want on a vacation and be sure that I'm exercising enough to burn it off. I was miserable my last long vacation and he insists it was because he wasn't feeling well. I have my doubts. This time I'm going to exercise (sightsee) with or without my honey, not that we have a vacation planned anytime soon.

I gained 10 pounds during my last vacation and to me that's a lot. I would have to diet for three months or longer to get rid of it. Two weeks of fun shouldn't have such a high price. My honey being over 300 pounds didn't get it.

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MUM2FIVE 4/17/2008 1:42PM

    I look at it as an awareness for me! I am WAY more aware. I have ate a Fried Avacado stuffed with chicken, drank 3 strawberry margaritas, ate chips and salsa, ate 2 Chalupa like tacos, ate Chocolate cupcakes and ate Mashed Potatoes! All in the last week and still lost 2 lbs. I try to eat healthy on most days so I can SPLURGE on some days. Or healthy on most meals in the day so I can splurge a bit on one.
You're right though, because otherwise I would NOT be able to keep going. If I could never ever again eat the foods I love, I would be lost. So this make me more aware.
I don't think counting calories is a diet, but a way to track my intake. Hopefully, by the time I'm back down to an acceptable weight I will be able to continue my Several GOOD days and a few bad days plan. I am sick of all or nothing "diets" this is HOPEFULLY my new lifestyle and it seems to be working for now!

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ZAURORA 4/17/2008 12:35PM

    Absolutely excellent question!!!!!

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RENA1965 4/17/2008 11:21AM

    Hi JLITT, A little bit, but not much is moderation... Keeping the weight off is like the women holding the law scales it doesn't take too much to rock the balance. This is what most people don't get, we humans are not built to eating endlessly. If we could we wouldn't put on weight like we do..
cheers Rena

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