Tuesday, January 27, 2009
I can't say as I'm really a big fan of Dr. Phil, but I am a big fan of his trademark phrase, and I sat up and took notice when it cropped up in Louise Hay's "You Can Heal Your Life".
Many of us have spent years criticizing ourselves, myself included. We're not good enough, not smart enough, not organized enough, not thin enough -- you name it, we've blamed ourselves for it.
But Louise asked how's that working for you? Obviously, it isn't, or we wouldn't be here.
So why not try nurturing ourselves? Telling ourselves we ARE good enough, just as we are, right this very minute.
A simple message, but powerful -- and, of course, not really easy to do. But it can be done. It must be done!
Monday, January 26, 2009
It's hard, isn't it?
I haven't felt well the last couple of days. Nothing major, just tired & achy, and I know it's something that will go away in a few days if not sooner. But I haven't quite met my 10,000 steps. And I feel guilty about that -- isn't that silly?
It's especially silly because I came very close on both Saturday & Sunday -- 9800 steps one day, 9500 the other. Yet I feel guilty because I didn't meet my goal.
I hadn't done any exercise other than walking for several days until yesterday, when I did get back into the bootcamp challenge. There's always that fear in the back of mind that this lack of motivation will stay around, and that the lack of exercise will cause the scale to remain stuck or go up. I'm not so sick that I feel I really need a lot of rest, but I have been very tired.
It's a fine line to walk, too: because it's true that a few days off CAN lead to bad habits. But I know myself; I know that I will get back into exercise when I'm feeling 100%. I'm thinking I'll do Yoga Booty Ballet today for my strength training -- I don't think it's a great strength training DVD, but I like the affirmations (something I'm working a lot with these days), and I just feel the yoga portion of it can be beneficial to me. I haven't done any strength training for a week, so I think it's a good idea to ease back into it. Or I may decide just walking will do it again for me today.
What I do know for sure: never let the feeling that you didn't measure up to your own goals let you abandon your goals. You'll never get there if you abandon yourself. Forgive yourself, let it go, and go after them again. It's the only way to achieve your goals.
Sunday, January 25, 2009
I've blogged before about how important our mindset can be. It's true in all areas of our lives -- our minds are so powerful.
I grew up in NY and went to school in NY. And the one thing I knew was I didn't want to live in an area with long, cold, snowy winters, so the vast majority of companies I interviewed with were in the South. I moved to MD -- and loved it. Then I got married and moved to VT, and hated it.
Our move to TX was more to get away from our current jobs then anything else. I really didn't have strong feelings about TX one way or the other, having never been here or even had the desire to come here. But I fell in love with it here. Which is why our move to NY hasn't been too thrilling for me.
I've been working on changing my thoughts about it, though. I realize that while the winters may be long, cold, and snowy, the summers are mostly a delight -- a far cry from summer down here.Yes, it does get hot & humid there, too, but it's usually for a short amount of time. Just like it gets cold here for only short amounts of time.
So I can be happy with the mild winters here, or I can revel in the nice summers & beautiful falls in NY.
It's like anything in our lives: if we view it as a chore, it will be. If you view exercise as a chore, you'll struggle to get it done. If you view cooking as a chore, you're more likely to eat out.
It isn't always easy to change our thoughts, of course. We are all works in progress! But it can be done. We have the choice: change our thoughts and be happy with our lives, or stay stuck and miserable. I know which I'm going to choose; how about you?
Saturday, January 24, 2009
Yesterday I tackled the small trunk I have at the foot of my bed. It's where I put the clothes that don't fit; the ones that I think are worth saving. Only I haven't looked into it in years. Out of sight, out of mind -- which was too bad, because there were several pairs of jeans I might have been able to wear a couple of sizes ago. Some that I never wore at all (thankfully bought at a discount store, but still, what a waste of money).
It brought home vanity sizing in a big way -- because there were several pairs that were a size 8 petite, which is the size I'm wearing now; although I'm sometimes a 10 petite. There were also a couple of nice wool pants in a size 10 petite. And none of those pants or jeans fit me now -- all of them are too small. They've been in that trunk for maybe 10-13 years; it's incredible to think that sizes have expanded that quickly in just a decade, but apparently they have. The jeans were Lees, and I know what I wear in a Lee now. So yes, sizes really have grown.
Does size matter? It shouldn't, but it does. Of course you feel better when you fit into a smaller size. I wouldn't spend more money if I could fit into a smaller size -- but it definitely would make me feel better.
Common advice is to get rid of your clothes as they no longer fit -- either way, smaller or larger. I mostly follow that advice, but I'm glad I don't always. I have several nice velvet shirts that I haven't worn in years that I can now wear. Lots of things that I haven't worn in years I can now wear. I held on to one pair of "fat" jeans, the jeans I was wearing before I started to lose weight, too. When I'm feeling frustrated, I put them on, and they always make me feel better to have a visual reminder of how far I've come.
I also have a beautiful, form fitting red velvet dress that I think I wore once. I'm not even sure that I'll ever fit into it again, but I want to at least hold onto it until I'm sure I'm at a weight I can maintain.
Out of sight, out of mind. That doesn't just work for clothing, either. When you open your refrigerator, just what do you see? Do you see fruits and veggies? I know my husband so rarely eats fruit when I'm home, unless I offer it to him or just give it to him. Yet he likes fruit. Maybe I need to have at least some of it out of the fruit drawer and in plain sight.
What's the first thing you see when you open your pantry or look at your counters? Chips, cookies? Get them away, out of sight.
A while ago I had a large chocolate bar in one of the drawers in my kitchen island -- the one with the measuring cups and spoons and the dogs' kongs, so it was a drawer I opened often. And I'd take just one small square or two. But over a week's time, you're eating a quarter or a half a large chocolate bar! I moved it to a cabinet I don't use all the time, and I completely stopped eating it. Although I still have right out in the open the peanut butter M&Ms I bought last May. They've never called to me; I'm not sure why, because I sure do love chocolate and peanut butter.
Out of sight, out of mind. What are you hiding from yourself?
Friday, January 23, 2009
I thought this was an interesting quiz. I did quite well, altho some questions didn't quite have the right answer -- I'd fall somewhere in between. I especially like the part about people who lose slower are more apt to keep it off -- maybe there's hope for me, then! Because I sure do lose slowly.
I'm a little stalled again. Which isn't a bad thing, considering I was out of town last week. I felt thinner, though. Isn't it weird how sometimes you can feel thinner, but the scale won't move? I always think that means your body is changing, but the scale just hasn't caught up yet. We shall see.
Then I thought maybe it was about TOM -- only to look at my calendar and by that, I'm 2 weeks late. Eek! That never happens. I must have forget to record one. And I just can't remember when the last one actually was.
I also did not get as much exercise as I'm accustomed to the last couple of weeks. I'm so used to getting in my 10,000 steps every day, but I had 3 days spread out over the last week when I didn't even come close.
There are times when I think I spend too much time exercising . . . walking the dogs approximately an hour a day, AND an exercise DVD. But it takes that much effort to get in 10,000 steps -- which only goes to show me just how sedentary my life is. My new house, if things don't fall through, is a split level. So while it's only one staircase, it's one more than I have now, and the laundry room is on the lower level. Instant exercise!
My leader and a friend at my WW meeting today both said I must be feeling bittersweet over this move -- and that is just the perfect word (and not because it's associated with chocolate, either). Because in some ways moving IS exciting -- new places to explore, a new house to arrange, new people to meet (but remember I'm shy!). And in other ways it's so sad: I will miss simple things, like being able to sit outside in the middle of winter, sitting under the magnolia & oak trees we planted, Whole Foods, even the shades in my house (which we bought fairly recently) and especially my oven, which I've only had for a year.
Still, I will gain a very large laundry room with a sink, and now my space is about the size of a closet. I will gain an office in addition to 3 bedrooms, and a lot of built in cabinets. I will gain a much, much nicer neighborhood (and safer) than the one I currently live in.
I probably could go on and on, but lunch will burn to a crisp if I do, and I'm hungry!
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