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How's it working for you?

Tuesday, January 27, 2009

I can't say as I'm really a big fan of Dr. Phil, but I am a big fan of his trademark phrase, and I sat up and took notice when it cropped up in Louise Hay's "You Can Heal Your Life".

Many of us have spent years criticizing ourselves, myself included. We're not good enough, not smart enough, not organized enough, not thin enough -- you name it, we've blamed ourselves for it.

But Louise asked how's that working for you? Obviously, it isn't, or we wouldn't be here.

So why not try nurturing ourselves? Telling ourselves we ARE good enough, just as we are, right this very minute.

A simple message, but powerful -- and, of course, not really easy to do. But it can be done. It must be done!

  
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MOMMA_GRIZZ 1/27/2009 9:01PM

    Oh how I so NEEDED to be reminded of that today! Thank you!

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MTER67 1/27/2009 4:17PM

    Short and sweet and to the point. Thank you. Definitely something to listen to and think about today!

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**EVA** 1/27/2009 7:56AM

  Thanks I needed that pep talk. I needed some truth.

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JUDITH1654 1/27/2009 7:46AM

    Totally agree!!! Sometimes, no - most times - we are our own worst enemy.

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Letting go of perfectionism

Monday, January 26, 2009

It's hard, isn't it?

I haven't felt well the last couple of days. Nothing major, just tired & achy, and I know it's something that will go away in a few days if not sooner. But I haven't quite met my 10,000 steps. And I feel guilty about that -- isn't that silly?

It's especially silly because I came very close on both Saturday & Sunday -- 9800 steps one day, 9500 the other. Yet I feel guilty because I didn't meet my goal.

I hadn't done any exercise other than walking for several days until yesterday, when I did get back into the bootcamp challenge. There's always that fear in the back of mind that this lack of motivation will stay around, and that the lack of exercise will cause the scale to remain stuck or go up. I'm not so sick that I feel I really need a lot of rest, but I have been very tired.

It's a fine line to walk, too: because it's true that a few days off CAN lead to bad habits. But I know myself; I know that I will get back into exercise when I'm feeling 100%. I'm thinking I'll do Yoga Booty Ballet today for my strength training -- I don't think it's a great strength training DVD, but I like the affirmations (something I'm working a lot with these days), and I just feel the yoga portion of it can be beneficial to me. I haven't done any strength training for a week, so I think it's a good idea to ease back into it. Or I may decide just walking will do it again for me today.

What I do know for sure: never let the feeling that you didn't measure up to your own goals let you abandon your goals. You'll never get there if you abandon yourself. Forgive yourself, let it go, and go after them again. It's the only way to achieve your goals.

  
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STARTSPARKING 1/27/2009 3:09AM

    I continue to admire your dedication and diligence. Thank you for the important reminder to keep my eyes on the ball... even if I let it drop sometimes.

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MTER67 1/26/2009 4:40PM

    "What I do know for sure: never let the feeling that you didn't measure up to your own goals let you abandon your goals. You'll never get there if you abandon yourself. Forgive yourself, let it go, and go after them again." Very sage advice, my friend. A lot of people have similiar goals; not everyone will reach them because they give up along the way. Thank you for reminding me to keep moving forward.

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Change your mind, change your body

Sunday, January 25, 2009

I've blogged before about how important our mindset can be. It's true in all areas of our lives -- our minds are so powerful.

I grew up in NY and went to school in NY. And the one thing I knew was I didn't want to live in an area with long, cold, snowy winters, so the vast majority of companies I interviewed with were in the South. I moved to MD -- and loved it. Then I got married and moved to VT, and hated it.

Our move to TX was more to get away from our current jobs then anything else. I really didn't have strong feelings about TX one way or the other, having never been here or even had the desire to come here. But I fell in love with it here. Which is why our move to NY hasn't been too thrilling for me.

I've been working on changing my thoughts about it, though. I realize that while the winters may be long, cold, and snowy, the summers are mostly a delight -- a far cry from summer down here.Yes, it does get hot & humid there, too, but it's usually for a short amount of time. Just like it gets cold here for only short amounts of time.

So I can be happy with the mild winters here, or I can revel in the nice summers & beautiful falls in NY.

It's like anything in our lives: if we view it as a chore, it will be. If you view exercise as a chore, you'll struggle to get it done. If you view cooking as a chore, you're more likely to eat out.

It isn't always easy to change our thoughts, of course. We are all works in progress! But it can be done. We have the choice: change our thoughts and be happy with our lives, or stay stuck and miserable. I know which I'm going to choose; how about you?

  
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JUDITH1654 1/25/2009 6:37PM

    Yep - it's all about making lemonade.

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MTER67 1/25/2009 4:16PM

    We have had to move around a lot due to my husband's career, but I have tried to look at each new location as an empty slate--and not arrive with preconceptions about how it'll be there. For the most part, I have not been disappointed because every place has had something wonderful to offer. Even the places I would rather NEVER return to!

If exercise is a chore, you won't keep with it. Or, you will and will be a grouch as a result. I think people should shop around for exercise and see what sticks. There is something out there for everybody.

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MOMMA_GRIZZ 1/25/2009 12:50PM

    I agree 100%. If life gives you a bowl of lemons - make lemonaid! The positive outlook on things is so very important. Seeing and accepting the positives makes accomplishing tasks so much more easier.

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What are you hiding from yourself?

Saturday, January 24, 2009

Yesterday I tackled the small trunk I have at the foot of my bed. It's where I put the clothes that don't fit; the ones that I think are worth saving. Only I haven't looked into it in years. Out of sight, out of mind -- which was too bad, because there were several pairs of jeans I might have been able to wear a couple of sizes ago. Some that I never wore at all (thankfully bought at a discount store, but still, what a waste of money).

It brought home vanity sizing in a big way -- because there were several pairs that were a size 8 petite, which is the size I'm wearing now; although I'm sometimes a 10 petite. There were also a couple of nice wool pants in a size 10 petite. And none of those pants or jeans fit me now -- all of them are too small. They've been in that trunk for maybe 10-13 years; it's incredible to think that sizes have expanded that quickly in just a decade, but apparently they have. The jeans were Lees, and I know what I wear in a Lee now. So yes, sizes really have grown.

Does size matter? It shouldn't, but it does. Of course you feel better when you fit into a smaller size. I wouldn't spend more money if I could fit into a smaller size -- but it definitely would make me feel better.

Common advice is to get rid of your clothes as they no longer fit -- either way, smaller or larger. I mostly follow that advice, but I'm glad I don't always. I have several nice velvet shirts that I haven't worn in years that I can now wear. Lots of things that I haven't worn in years I can now wear. I held on to one pair of "fat" jeans, the jeans I was wearing before I started to lose weight, too. When I'm feeling frustrated, I put them on, and they always make me feel better to have a visual reminder of how far I've come.

I also have a beautiful, form fitting red velvet dress that I think I wore once. I'm not even sure that I'll ever fit into it again, but I want to at least hold onto it until I'm sure I'm at a weight I can maintain.

Out of sight, out of mind. That doesn't just work for clothing, either. When you open your refrigerator, just what do you see? Do you see fruits and veggies? I know my husband so rarely eats fruit when I'm home, unless I offer it to him or just give it to him. Yet he likes fruit. Maybe I need to have at least some of it out of the fruit drawer and in plain sight.

What's the first thing you see when you open your pantry or look at your counters? Chips, cookies? Get them away, out of sight.

A while ago I had a large chocolate bar in one of the drawers in my kitchen island -- the one with the measuring cups and spoons and the dogs' kongs, so it was a drawer I opened often. And I'd take just one small square or two. But over a week's time, you're eating a quarter or a half a large chocolate bar! I moved it to a cabinet I don't use all the time, and I completely stopped eating it. Although I still have right out in the open the peanut butter M&Ms I bought last May. They've never called to me; I'm not sure why, because I sure do love chocolate and peanut butter.

Out of sight, out of mind. What are you hiding from yourself?

  
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ASTARB1 1/25/2009 8:23AM

    This is so true. In fact, I hate it when I remember that I have something in the house that I'd successfully forgotten about! (i.e. my husband's big jar of peanut butter that I sometimes dip into when desperate)

And I've heard about "vanity sizing" that clothes manufacturers sometimes partake in. Forty-five years ago, my mom was 5'3", 108 lbs, 21-inch waist and she remembers wearing a size 10. I'm 5'9", 168 lbs, 28-inch waist and I wear a size 10 today. What's wrong with THAT picture!? It sucks, because I have fallen for vanity sizing in the past - i.e. buying something that I might not have just because I'm happy with the size on the tag. It's paying for the ego rub - not really the clothes.

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MTER67 1/24/2009 8:16PM

    I don't have a trunk, but I have slowly taken over most of the closet in our bedroom. My poor husband has about an eighth of the space that I do. Remember my barometer jeans? I got rid of them a couple weeks ago. I don't think I would have been able to squeeze into them like I did last winter and frankly, they weren't very comfortable anyway...I have a bad habit of holding onto things I don't need, but it feels really good to clean house and start fresh! And, I agree, healthy foods are a lot more tempting when they are in plain sight. I am a lot more apt to grab carrots to snack on, when I cut them up in the morning and have them ready and waiting. Great blog.

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MOMMA_GRIZZ 1/24/2009 9:08AM

    Good advice. Maybe I should bring my exercise bike to the living room - lol - (just kidding), but it does make sense. Think I'll re-arrange my kitchen cupboards and fridge today.

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JUDITH1654 1/24/2009 8:51AM

    Good post - good insight. Very thought provoking. Thanks for sharing.

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Friday Fit Tip: Weight loss quiz

Friday, January 23, 2009

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I thought this was an interesting quiz. I did quite well, altho some questions didn't quite have the right answer -- I'd fall somewhere in between. I especially like the part about people who lose slower are more apt to keep it off -- maybe there's hope for me, then! Because I sure do lose slowly.

I'm a little stalled again. Which isn't a bad thing, considering I was out of town last week. I felt thinner, though. Isn't it weird how sometimes you can feel thinner, but the scale won't move? I always think that means your body is changing, but the scale just hasn't caught up yet. We shall see.

Then I thought maybe it was about TOM -- only to look at my calendar and by that, I'm 2 weeks late. Eek! That never happens. I must have forget to record one. And I just can't remember when the last one actually was.

I also did not get as much exercise as I'm accustomed to the last couple of weeks. I'm so used to getting in my 10,000 steps every day, but I had 3 days spread out over the last week when I didn't even come close.

There are times when I think I spend too much time exercising . . . walking the dogs approximately an hour a day, AND an exercise DVD. But it takes that much effort to get in 10,000 steps -- which only goes to show me just how sedentary my life is. My new house, if things don't fall through, is a split level. So while it's only one staircase, it's one more than I have now, and the laundry room is on the lower level. Instant exercise!

My leader and a friend at my WW meeting today both said I must be feeling bittersweet over this move -- and that is just the perfect word (and not because it's associated with chocolate, either). Because in some ways moving IS exciting -- new places to explore, a new house to arrange, new people to meet (but remember I'm shy!). And in other ways it's so sad: I will miss simple things, like being able to sit outside in the middle of winter, sitting under the magnolia & oak trees we planted, Whole Foods, even the shades in my house (which we bought fairly recently) and especially my oven, which I've only had for a year.

Still, I will gain a very large laundry room with a sink, and now my space is about the size of a closet. I will gain an office in addition to 3 bedrooms, and a lot of built in cabinets. I will gain a much, much nicer neighborhood (and safer) than the one I currently live in.

I probably could go on and on, but lunch will burn to a crisp if I do, and I'm hungry!

  
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MTER67 1/24/2009 3:08AM

    I feel bittersweet about moving, too. Excited and happy to see new things and places, but very sad to be saying good-bye to my life here. It has been a great adventure and I feel almost guilty looking forward to something different. Hope that the scale picks up speed (in the downward direction) soon. You certainly could have gained some with the trip and stress, but you are still on track!

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MOMMA_GRIZZ 1/23/2009 7:04PM

    Catching up on reading blogs.....So glad to read that you put an offer in on a house - wishing you the best of luck and hope that it goes through. Sounds like it will be a nice house. Moving is bittersweet but change is a good thing - it keeps us alive and moving forward. ....

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