Tuesday, October 14, 2008
It is easy to blame everyone but ourselves for our weight. We blame our parents, we blame our spouses, we blame our coworkers, we even blame our genes.
Yesterday my husband left his backpack unzipped on our living room floor. I didn't know that it contained what was left of the peanut butter chocolate cupcakes I'd given him to bring into work -- and I especially didn't know it containted the box of chocolates he'd brought from Germany (which I requested he bring into work!).
He had walked the dogs, and I was in my office. After about ten minutes maybe, I went into the living room to find the cupcakes on the floor and a scared looking Lola on our chaise. She hadn't actually gotten into the cupcakes, but she had dragged them out (if it had been the cats -- if the cats liked that sort of thing -- they'd have simply chewed through the ziploc bag to get at it).
When my husband came in to see what the fuss was about, he saw the box of chocolates also on the floor, which I hadn't noticed. He immediately got very upset, while I was calm, asking him to try to remember how many were in there & how many she'd possibly eaten.
We called the vet, who told us to give her 1 tablespoon of salt to make her vomit -- which worked, by the way (I mixed it in some peanut butter). It took a few upchucks, but some chocolate did come out. She is fine, btw, or apparently so (this was almost 24 hours ago, and we already did agility today).
My husband immediately got angry at Lola, and railed at the fact that he couldn't just leave anything anywhere he wanted to. He never did accept responsibility.
By now you probably wondered where I was going with this, but that's the moral of the story: we have to accept responsibility for our actions, and hopefully learn from them. Unfortunately, my husband has done this sort of thing before, and I know he will do it again. It is very frustrating.
Still, no one forced him to leave his backpack on the floor -- especially not an open backpack -- *especially* not an open backpack containing chocolate. Just as no one forced us to eat too much of the wrong things. We have to accept responsibility for our weight, and hopefully learn from past mistakes -- otherwise, as Edison said, insanity ensues, because that's the definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
Sunday, October 12, 2008
That was the tagline of a radio personality whose name now escapes me. I hated his broadcasts, actually, but obviously his tagline stuck with me.
With DH home, it was photo time again. And this time I decided to tell the whole story. At top is what 5 months can do for you; on the bottom is the change over one month.
This was a good month -- I lost almost 5 pounds. I didn't weigh in this week, because of a schedule conflict, so maybe I lost a tad more. But weight is funny. The jeans I was wearing in the photo yesterday? Earlier this week they suddenly felt tight; yesterday they felt loose again. That's how it often works for me -- I feel fat, I feel fat, then suddenly I feel lighter overnight.
The hard part for me to reconcile is that I've lost 16 pounds so far, and yet I have something like 22 more pounds to lose. When I told DH that, he was astounded. He asked if that was possible, that I could actually still have that much weight to lose, and I sassured him it was.
I have made a big difference in my life, and I am proud of it. But I still have to own the fact that I am *still* fat. But I am much less fat, and I am so glad of that. I'm fast approaching that magical 10% of body weight gone, and that was my first major goal.
Right now, my major motivator is the fact that I will most likely be moving in the spring. I know life will be crazy then, and there's a good chance that I may gain some weight during the move, even though I will try my best not to. So I need to work hard now, while I can still have more control over when I move and what I put in my mouth.
Friday, October 10, 2008
Getting your mind right is so important. If we think we'll fail, we will. As I've written in the past, I really thought for a long time my weight problem was due to a physical problem (and I wasn't alone), and that at my age, it was just a battle I couldn't win.
Whether or not I make it down to my goal weight, I know that just isn't true. People older than me lose weight, too. It does get harder, but in some ways it gets easier, too. You do battle a slowing down metabolism as you age, but for me, at least, it's become a lot more about being healthy than being slim.
And that means that while I do think about food a lot, I really don't think I'm obssessed with it the way I used to be. I won't suck down a package of rice cakes because I'm hungry and they have almost no calories, not to mention no taste (to me, anyway) anymore.
We CAN do anything we set our minds to. That doesn't mean it will be easy, or that it will happen when we want it to happen. But there are no limits; and that doesn't only apply to weight loss, it applies to life.
Wednesday, October 08, 2008
That's what the basics are for me. Here's what I consider the basics:
1. Prepare most of my own food. I might eat one or two frozen meals a week, and sometimes I get some goodies at the farmer's market, but otherwise, I'm making my own breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Yes, sometimes I don't feel like it, but I know it works for me.
2. Drink at least 8 glasses of water a day.
3. Get approximately 60 minutes of exercise a day.
4. Track my WW points.
5. Get 2 fruits & 3 veggies in each day.
Those are my five basics. They're non-negotiable. Sure, there are times I do fall short, but I know these basics are what works for me, so I do my best to get them done every day. Sometimes that means I have to give up doing something I wanted to do, like yesterday I chose to exercise rather than get started on the birthday cupcakes I wanted to make for my husband (he's coming home late tonight).
Nothing much has been going on in my life, really, other than some long days and some stress. But I'm getting the basics done even so. And I suspect my "long" days are most people's "normal" days, but hey, they're longer than usual for me.
The main reason I haven't blogged is simply that uncharacteristically for me, I haven't had anything to say. I also haven't been getting notices of comments to my page lately, so if I haven't replied to you, it's because I didn't know you commented -- sorry!
What are your basics? What works for you? What won't you give up?
Friday, October 03, 2008
Actually, this isn't a question you should be asking yourself -- either with your weight or with your daily calories.
I'm on a new Spark streak. I've lost weight every week for the past 4 weeks. After half a year of seriously trying to lose weight, I think that is the first time that's happened. Now, I'm aware that my streak could come crashing to a halt next week, but still, I'm going to share what I think is going on, and I think it was pretty simple: I don't think I was eating enough food
Let me repeat: I don't think I was eating enough food. It's always hard to tell, of course, and weight loss is a funny creature with a mind of its own. But here's what I know: I've talked about WW activity points. When I started using all the activity points I earned each day, I found my weight going down. Not the same amount every week; it varies, but it has gone down 4 weeks in a row since I started.
Basically what that means is that I'm eating 2 small snacks between meals most days, typically after exercising. Before I was sometimes skipping a snack if I wasn't hungry. I've found that most days I do better to eat my snack even if I'm not particularly hungry. If I really was stuffed, of course I wouldn't eat a snack. Sometimes I don't really feel hungry until I eat. I will sometimes skip a snack if I haven't exercised, though.
And there's something else I changed. I used to save the bulk of my 35 flex points (you have to be a WW member to understand) for the weekends. I never starved myself, but I would eat less typically during the week. I changed that, too, and started to use my flex points fairly evenly throughout the week. For whatever reason, totally going against the whole calorie cycling craze, this seems to work better for me. At the moment.
And a final word to WW members -- use your flex points, please. They're there to be used -- because if you don't use them, your body starts to get used to less food, and ultimately, you may find yourself having a harder time losing weight.
So my answer to last week's question of whether or not you can dance the weight off seems to be yes, for me. My month of Zumba has correlated with an almost 5 lb loss, which is quite good for me. I'll be adding in different workouts soon, though, because your body gets used to exercise over time, so it's about time to change things up.
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