Thursday, June 12, 2008
I have another analogy for you. Yesterday I wore another of my "skinny" jeans. They're called Not Your Mother's Jeans, and they suck everything in and really make you look great. They ain't cheap, either; I never spend that much on jeans, but I did on these.
Unfortunately, though, they make me feel uncomfortable "down there" (as if I have a bladder infection). No, they aren't skin tight. In fact, they're quite comfortable, and they make me look great. But I'm just so uncomfortable after wearing them for a few hours. I keep hoping that will change as I continue to lose weight, but it doesn't seem to.
So I won't wear them, even though they are probably the jeans that make me look the best (and cost the most). Because I won't suffer to be "thin" (not that I could be considered to be thin now, but anything that will give the illusion of being thin-ner is welcome).
Just like I won't pick too low a goal weight. I'm not sure what my ultimate goal weight will be. Yes, for WW, many years ago, I had to pick one. It might still be doable. But I'll see when I get there. It's far enough away that I'm not much worried about it yet.
And I wish I could just reach through this computer and shake some of the people who are my age and really think they can weigh what they did in high school again. Especially if they've had kids, as well. I've no doubt they can do it, but can they maintain it for the long haul? Probably not.
It is classic to choose too low a goal weight. You feel so good when you're thin for the very first time in life. I know I did. When I became a WW lifetime member all those years ago, I was thin. For the very first time. I weighed less than I did when I got married. But it was too hard a weight for me to maintain. Instead of realizing that, I just continued to struggle, always beating myself up for not being able to maintain that weight; eventually upping my goal weight, but not being able to maintain that, either.
Instead of relaxing a little about it all, I just struggled. And what you resist, persists -- boy, did it ever!
Hopefully I will have the good sense to be more content with any number this time. I'm already happy with the little weight I've lost. Sure, there are times I look at the road before me and get discouraged, but they're few and far between. I celebrate every little victory, and it really helps having my SP team celebrate along with me. Thank you, all my SP buddies! You mean the world to me.
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
I really do see analogies everywhere! If you're like me, you spin that wheel every morning, chanting "c'mon 5" or whatever the highest amount might be. You feel so good when you hit it . . . and are sort of upset when you only get a 1 for days on end.
Weighing in is like that, too, isn't it? You're so happy when you lose weight, especially when it's more than you anticipated. And so bummed when it's a small amount or nothing at all, even when you know you did everything "right". And you're really upset when you gain.
One of the differences is that I don't spend some portion of my day obssessing about what my login points will be. Was I good enough on SP to get good points today? If I don't read that article, does it mean I'll get less points?
Which ought to teach us a lesson. The scale will do what the scale will do, and sometimes what the scale does doesn't really seem to correlate to what we do.
If you're creating healthy habits, and you're really being true to them, the scale will move in its own time.
And I am bummed -- not about weight -- but about my Turbojam DVDs. Ebay, for some reason, ended the sale. I've never had this happen before. I've already paid (it was a buy it now, with multiple sets available). I don't know what will happen now, but I was looking forward to getting them soon!
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
I felt I needed a reward for doing so well over the last couple of weeks. Not that I'd really met a goal, but I just lost more than I usually do, and I've lost over 5 lbs now so it's time.
I struggle with rewards, I admit. In some ways it seems silly. If you're going to get it anyway, how is it really a reward?
I spent some time thinking on what my reward ought to be. I went to the farmer's market this weekend. We have an excellent farmer's market, and not just for food. We have cool artisans there, too. One guy comes occasionally with his jewelry. It's nice, simple, silver, and relatively inexpensive.
I came really close to getting myself a ring as a reward. Unfortunately, the one I wanted was the only one that couldn't be sized (it needed to be sized down, too!).
I kept thinking. I'd been wanting to buy another hat for a while. I wear hats a lot. It's hot here, and I'm very fair and burn easily. If you meet me for the first time, you'll know me by my purple hat (if that's the one I'm wearing, but as you can see from my photos, I have a thing for purple).
Then as I was driving somewhere, Daughtry came on. I've been wanting to buy his album for some time (no, I don't watch Idol, but I love his music). Cheaper than a hat, too. Good idea, I thought.
What I ultimately decided on was the Turbojam Beachbody 5 DVDs. How's that for healthy? I'd never heard of Turbojam until I read about it on several people's blogs. I like kickboxing. I've got to be a bit careful with it, because it has a tendency to make my tennis elbow flare up, but when that happens, I just lay off it for a while and do other things.
I just bought it today on Ebay. Ebay is a great place to get exercise DVDs at a good (sometimes great!) price. I didn't get a great price, but I did get a good one. It took several days of following auctions, though.
If you're a Ebay newbie and want to give it a try, here are a few tips:
1. Get yourself a Paypal account. Otherwise you're going to have a hard time paying for things.
2. Do an advanced search. Check "only completed auctions" -- this will give you a general idea of what that iten is typically going for, if it's an item that is sold a lot.
3. Make sure to look at the feedback -- and read it! -- for the seller, no matter how good their rating. I bought a DVD from a seller a while back. Apparently they went down hill pretty much at the time I bought it. I did finally get a DVD, after much haraunging & little communication, but it wasn't what I ordered. If you look at the seller's feedback now, you'll see some who gave them positive feedback even while saying it took a long time to ship or wasn't the correct item. When I gave the seller negative feedback, they immediately posted negative feedback on me -- then told me they'd remove theirs if I'd remove mine. As if. I'm not that easily intimidated, but apparently, others are.
I don't buy things off Ebay all that often, but it's a great resource and most transactions go very smoothly.
I'm trying to decide what my reward for losing 10 lbs should be. I'm getting close.
Monday, June 09, 2008
Going along with my theme of you have to do the work, many sources have pointed out to me that I need a "diet" buddy. I am not blessed with one in real life, so I am going to ask for you.
First off, I already have a lot of buddies on SP now, and I am incredibly grateful to them all. You are what makes SP so powerful, giving of your time freely & unselfishly.
In my favorites is a recent SP article on the types of motivators you need to surround yourself with. There's all different sorts. I never thought of it that way before.
But here are my buddy specifics. Read carefully, and if you think it sounds like something that will be mutually beneficial to both of us, shoot me an email:
1. I am already pretty motivated. I've been going at this hard for the last almost-half year. In some ways, I've been going at this my whole life. Sure, there are times I feel down & need a hand, but in general, I don't need a whole lot of pushing.
2. I am also self-motivated to exercise. And even though I'm not athlete, I'm even just a little bit compulsive about it -- but not too much. Future blog post.
3. I am looking for someone to check in with every single day. I do travel several times a year, and then I don't always have access to a computer.
4. I am definitely in it for the long haul. No matter how long it takes or how hard it gets, I will get to my goal. I have somewhere in the vicinity of 30 lbs to lose now, but I plan to stick around after I've got to my goal, too.
5. I am a Weight Watchers member. You don't have to be.
6. I typically do not lose weight very fast. Usually less than a pound a week, although the last couple of weeks I've been really pleasantly surprised.
7. I am a morning person. You don't have to be, but you will never find me on my computer late at night. And I am not online all the time, either. I log in in the morning, and I don't log out usually until I shut down my computer, but I'm not sitting here all the time, although most days I check in fairly frequently.
8. I love to read, paint, knit, be with and train my animals, cook (but hate the prep & clean-up), read cookbooks.
If you'd like someone to check in with every day, motivate you, try to help you come up with solutions, and just plain listen to you -- and you think you're a good fit with me -- please shoot me an email.
Sunday, June 08, 2008
. . . but do the work.
Have you read "The Secret"? Believe in the law of attraction? Many people believe that it means if you ask for what you want, you'll get it. Which is an oversimplification. Bear in mind I haven't read "The Secret"; and if you're interested in more information, there are some Sparkteams around that are law of attraction-themed, I believe (hey, you do the work -- find them if you're interested).
And that's the point. Yes, you do have to put out there what you want. Part of my longhand journal is a list, every day, of 10 things I want. They can be big things; they may be small things; they may be things I want to happen that day; they may be things I know won't come for a while.
Just asking for them isn't enough. I have to do the work, too. One thing that is almost always on the list is to lose more pounds and inches. And as I've begun to set some specific weight-related goals, they're in there too.
But that doesn't mean I just sit back, eat anything I want, never get off my butt, and expect the weight will magically melt off. It means I've got to get out there and move. It means I have to plan what I eat. It means I have to be conscious of what I'm putting in my mouth, and why.
I think part of the reason making these kinds of lists works is because it keeps your goals in mind. Which is a reason I took the top 3 things I most want to happen, wrote them down on a post-it note, and put in on my monitor. So I see it every day. 2 of the 3 things have already happened. The third (or the first, according to my list) is a biggie, and something that's actually mostly out of my control. But I still keep that in my thoughts, which helps me ponder how I might help it happen.
So now it's probably time to make a new list.
ETA: I just wanted to make one comment about eating every 2-3 hours. We're not robots. If I'm not hungry, then I don't eat. I listen to my body. There are times I'm perfectly content to go from breakfast to lunch without eating anything, although they're rare. It's not a contest to see if I can, tho; if I'm hungry, I eat, and if I'm not, I don't. That's what thin people do naturally!
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