Sunday, June 15, 2008
I am sure many are writing about their husbands today (and if you're not, maybe you should!). Mine is not even a father, but that's not his fault. If I'd wanted kids, we'd have had kids -- and sometimes I think he's sorry we didn't. But I was up front with him when we got married; that I didn't think I wanted kids.
But this isn't about me. Ok, he is a father to our animals. We call ourselves Daddy & Mommy, but mainly what else are you going to say when you say go to Daddy? Our animals are most definitely part of our family, but I don't forget that they're animals, either (even if they do sleep in bed with us -- Chester under the covers!).
I read so many blogs here with people who have unsupportive husbands, or downright abusive ones, and I know how very lucky I am. After 23 years, I love and am in love with my husband, even if he does drive me crazy at times.
Yesterday I asked him if he ever thought about a Wii. I thought they looked like fun before Wii fit came out, but now I seriously want one. But they're so expensive, I really couldn't justify the cost just for me. But I thought he might like one, too. But no, he didin't.
When I said that I'd been thinking of one as a reward once I'd lost 20 pounds (still a long way to go), he didn't hesitate. He said just tell me when, I'll pay half.
Then he said that he'd heard that someone is getting together a 30th reunion for his high school next year. He's actually interested in going. So I asked by yourself, right? And he said no, he needed his trophy wife with him. I'm no one's idea of a trophy wife, but then, maybe I am.
When we met, I was heavy. He fell in love with me when I was heavy. He thinks I'm sexy even when I'm heavy, when I decidedly don't feel sexy. I know that he likes me thinner -- he told me that when I was thinner, but he never puts me down for gaining weight, and he supports me while I'm trying to lose weight.
He is definitely a keeper.
Saturday, June 14, 2008
For a non-athlete, I admit it: I'm a bit compulsive about exercising. I feel guilty if I don't get in what I've planned for the day. Like yesterday. I spent most of the afternoon baking (healthy stuff!), and by the time I was done, I was too tired to make myself dinner or strength train, which I do MWF.
I ate an Amy's frozen dinner, then remembered I still had leftovers I could have heated up! Oh well, it's not a bad choice, but my leftovers would have been even better.
I'd walked the dogs about an hour yesterday, as usual. I walk every day with them, and do some jogging intervals with them a few times a week. I'd strength trained Monday & Wednesday. Truly, it's not going to hurt me to skip a day. Yet I still felt guilty.
I did, however, have enough energy to do a weight loss yoga DVD before bed. It felt good, too. I usually do my yoga on the weekends. So I'll strength train today (and my Turbojam DVDs came yesterday -- so now I can see what people are raving about).
How compulsive are you about exercising? Did you know that there's such a thing as exercise bulimia? And no, I definitely don't have it.
While it's true that to lose weight you need to burn more calories than you take in, you shouldn't get so compulsive about it that you exercise hours a day, or feel you need to exercise a lot because you've been "bad". That's the kind of mentality that leads to injuries. That's the all or nothing mentality that keeps us losing weight, only to regain it again because we can't maintain that level of exercise as a lifestyle.
SP is so right when they say this has to be a lifestyle. They've hit the nail on the head.
If hours of exercise a day is something you see doing for the rest of your life, go for it. Me, exercise is an important part of my day. It gives me energy and helps reduce stress. But I have too much to do to spend hours on it.
Plus, at heart, I'm a lazy person. I'm perfectly content to sit & read a good book for hours, or knit for hours, or paint for hours. If someone told me I could feel energized and keep fit without ever lifting another weight, I'd be there. I probably wouldn't give up my walks, though; I enjoy them too much. I probably would give up the jogging, though.
Friday, June 13, 2008
Did you know that your body quickly becomes used to exercise, any exercise? That's why if you're a runner and you start playing tennis, you'll discover muscles you never knew you had.
This is especially important when it comes to strength training. You need to change your routine at least every 2 months. If you've been doing the same exercises, in the same order, with the same amount of weights, since the dawn of time, it's time to change.
I change my strength training routine every 6-8 weeks. You don't have to break the bank, either. You can follow the strength training routine laid out for you by SP (I don't, but maybe I should give it a try someday). There are free exercise videos right here. There are bootcamp sparkteams. Most fitness magazines have a variety of exercise routines on their Websites. There's so much available, for free!
The same is true of your cardio. You need to mix it up and have some fun. Try a different class or sport. Introduce intervals into your routine (go as fast as you can go for 1 minute, recover for 2, and so on; or some interval of your own making). Try to beat your best time one day, and your distance the next.
Variety is the spice of life when it comes to exercise.
Thursday, June 12, 2008
I have another analogy for you. Yesterday I wore another of my "skinny" jeans. They're called Not Your Mother's Jeans, and they suck everything in and really make you look great. They ain't cheap, either; I never spend that much on jeans, but I did on these.
Unfortunately, though, they make me feel uncomfortable "down there" (as if I have a bladder infection). No, they aren't skin tight. In fact, they're quite comfortable, and they make me look great. But I'm just so uncomfortable after wearing them for a few hours. I keep hoping that will change as I continue to lose weight, but it doesn't seem to.
So I won't wear them, even though they are probably the jeans that make me look the best (and cost the most). Because I won't suffer to be "thin" (not that I could be considered to be thin now, but anything that will give the illusion of being thin-ner is welcome).
Just like I won't pick too low a goal weight. I'm not sure what my ultimate goal weight will be. Yes, for WW, many years ago, I had to pick one. It might still be doable. But I'll see when I get there. It's far enough away that I'm not much worried about it yet.
And I wish I could just reach through this computer and shake some of the people who are my age and really think they can weigh what they did in high school again. Especially if they've had kids, as well. I've no doubt they can do it, but can they maintain it for the long haul? Probably not.
It is classic to choose too low a goal weight. You feel so good when you're thin for the very first time in life. I know I did. When I became a WW lifetime member all those years ago, I was thin. For the very first time. I weighed less than I did when I got married. But it was too hard a weight for me to maintain. Instead of realizing that, I just continued to struggle, always beating myself up for not being able to maintain that weight; eventually upping my goal weight, but not being able to maintain that, either.
Instead of relaxing a little about it all, I just struggled. And what you resist, persists -- boy, did it ever!
Hopefully I will have the good sense to be more content with any number this time. I'm already happy with the little weight I've lost. Sure, there are times I look at the road before me and get discouraged, but they're few and far between. I celebrate every little victory, and it really helps having my SP team celebrate along with me. Thank you, all my SP buddies! You mean the world to me.
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
I really do see analogies everywhere! If you're like me, you spin that wheel every morning, chanting "c'mon 5" or whatever the highest amount might be. You feel so good when you hit it . . . and are sort of upset when you only get a 1 for days on end.
Weighing in is like that, too, isn't it? You're so happy when you lose weight, especially when it's more than you anticipated. And so bummed when it's a small amount or nothing at all, even when you know you did everything "right". And you're really upset when you gain.
One of the differences is that I don't spend some portion of my day obssessing about what my login points will be. Was I good enough on SP to get good points today? If I don't read that article, does it mean I'll get less points?
Which ought to teach us a lesson. The scale will do what the scale will do, and sometimes what the scale does doesn't really seem to correlate to what we do.
If you're creating healthy habits, and you're really being true to them, the scale will move in its own time.
And I am bummed -- not about weight -- but about my Turbojam DVDs. Ebay, for some reason, ended the sale. I've never had this happen before. I've already paid (it was a buy it now, with multiple sets available). I don't know what will happen now, but I was looking forward to getting them soon!
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