Wednesday, October 20, 2010
Are you a deviant?
Or a perfectionist?
Do you have a tendency to deviate from your plans, but not in a good way? You know, good intentions to eat well, get to the gym, get some sleep. But you don't.
Probably because you're not making yourself a priority. And I can just hear the excuses now. We've all got them. We've all used them. But they ARE just excuses. If you fill your cup first, you'll have some left over to fill everyone's cups around you.
Even simpler: if momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.
Or are you a perfectionist? And deviating from your plans even a smidge causes you to throw your hands up in the air, feel like you've blown it, and give up.
I am a recovering perfectionist. I still do feel guilty, sometimes, when I deviate from my plans, and sometimes I have a difficult time deviating from my plans when I know I ought to be taking it easier. I have a tendency to push myself -- not for speed, not necessarily in getting things done around the house, but to stick to my plans.
Monday I figured I'd do my extra core work in the evening. I didn't have time during the day. I should know better; I am so not an evening person, and the core work didn't get done. And I had to forgive myself for that.
So which one are you?
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
25 years ago, I married the first guy I ever dated. But let's back up a bit here.
Here we are at our college graduation (there will be lots of blurry pics, didn't want to have to scan into my husband's computer, then transfer to mine, etc. etc. so just took a photo of the photos). At this point in time, he was soon to move to VT, me to MD, we weren't even engaged:
Yes, he was a handsome devil. Too skinny. I was heavy when we met (way back in freshman year, we didn't start dating til my senior year, long story), but this was the start of many years of yo-yo dieting.
And look at those glasses on me! Could they be any bigger? Ah, the 80s!
6 months after graduating, he popped the question. On my birthday. Totally unplanned, no ring, no knees. In fact, they actually ended up mailing the ring to me!
Here we are on our wedding day:
I refused to have photos with glasses, so I started to wear contacts & have never looked back.
We look like kids, don't we? I was 23, he was 25. We had hoped to take photos in the glorious fall foliage in Vasaar College (my parent's house is right behind the golf course), but it poured buckets. They do say that's good luck. I suppose so -- we're still married!
This photo was taken in my parent's home before the wedding. Which makes it kind of special -- you can't see the painting behind us, but it's of an old woman braiding a child's hair. Makes me think of my grandmother, even tho we weren't real close and she never braided my hair.
Here we are on our honeymoon, our first cruise:
The 80s again -- look at those shoulder pads! No grey hairs (actually, I lie, I already had some, just not many).
I think this was our second cruise. We'd been married 10 years by this point (we thought we'd go on a cruise every 10 years, but things have accelerated since then):
I thought I was so fat then. Really, I did. I weigh probably just a tad more than that now. I went from working out with a personal trainer once a week to twice a week to try to drop some weight before the cruise. Didn't happen. Wish I could go back and tell myself how good I looked!
Here we are on our fifth cruise in Hawaii 5 years ago, on our 20th anniversary:
We always said we'd go to Alaska on our 20th, but we just kind of looked at each other when the time came & said Hawaii! It was a great cruise, going to the 4 main islands, and then we stayed on Maui for 5 days afterwards.
Yes, at this point I was still coloring my hair. It wasn't quite as red as it is in the photo, but yes, I was sort of a redhead for a while. I have the skin tone to pull it off.
I was heavier, obviously, but I was just about to really pack on the pounds. We got Chester, and instead of losing weight, I actually started to gain!
But we did get to Alaska on a family trip (another cruise) a couple of years ago. I had started with SP by that point. At this point I think I had lost 7 lbs.
And in a month of so, hopefully I'll have a new photo of us to put up. Not always easy to get one of the both of us, but I think we need one to celebrate our special day (year?).
So there you have it, our married life thru cruising (there were a few more cruises, but it would take days if not months to hunt those photos down!), and my weight going up and down thru the years.
Monday, October 18, 2010
The title refers to Fall. Sure, I enjoy Fall as much as the next person. The changing leaves (but not so much the endless raking), the crisp air, the lack of bugs, the simple smell of it.
People always say that Austin doesn't have Fall. It does, but it's different.
Still, after spending 17 years there, and now living back in almost the heart of leaf peeping country, I can say for sure: I like Fall, but I didn't miss it. And this actually will have something to do with weight loss -- later.
For now, on to some photos. My photos of the falls. Here are the stairs leading down to the base of the falls:
DH's shot was just one section. Here is almost (but not quite) all of it in all its glory:
Not sure this will come thru, but there was a rainbow on the left hand side:
Just another section:
The park around the falls do close in November, and don't open again til the spring. There's no hike to the falls -- it's just that staircase down, and a bit of walking at the base. I really wish there was a trail beside the river! I suppose they don't have to worry too much about people jumping in this way.
Here's the view from my window:
Pretty, huh? In fact, there are a lot of magnificent trees in our neighborhood. It's so pretty in the morning, as it was this morning when I came home from swimming, when the rising sun lights the turning leaves.
I'm afraid the hours of raking don't excite me quite so much. Most of it falls to me, since it's almost dark by the time DH gets home. It wouldn't be so bad, except for the fact that I'll fill up our compostable trashcans in one day -- and literally the next day the lawn is covered in leaves again.
But last year we were out of town at this time of year, so we never got to see our own trees at peak. I suppose there's a trade off for everything.
So, what DOES this have to do with weight loss?
As some of you know, I'm trying out something called the Ultrasimple Diet this week. Basically, it's a very clean gluten free diet.
And here's the thing about sweets, which really surprised me: I like them, but I don't really miss them! You do get to have fruit smoothies on the program -- in fact, if you want you can have several a day. And I've also made the recovery & energy puddings from "Thrive" a few times, which is basically a smoothie - pudding (smoothie without any liquid).
I get a little hungry now and again, but most of the time I'm quite satisfied. And I'm actually eating more, but for less points. Yeah, if you choose wisely, you can actually eat more for less!
I'm not sure what it's doing for my weight since TOM is arriving so that's always hard to figure out, but I will continue with the diet with some modifications when this week is over. Like introducing oatmeal back in next week.
Oh, and the wild woman that I'm becoming (snort!), I even decided to swim some laps of crawl this morning. I usually do breaststroke, cause I enjoy it and I do it old-lady style without putting my head underwater.
Even with the swimcap my hair did get a bit wet, so I don't think I'll do that at my night swims, and not even sure how long I'll continue it with my morning swims, but for now it felt good. I love the way swimming works your entire body!
So, what do you think you can't give up? Willing to give it a try? What happens just might surprise you!
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Here we are at the start of the trail.
Yup, I decided to suck it up and get out there and run on a trail. Now I just have to find more free trails close to home! This is the trail I've gone walking a few times with the dogs. As I've said, it's not terribly scenic, but it is by the water.
I 'm sure you can't see them, but trust me on this -- there are ducks in the above picture. A whole lot of them.
Further on down the path. More duck specs.
And even further.
It's not a terribly long path. Maybe 3 1/2 to 4 miles? I had to loop around a bit to finish out my run.
It almost doesn't qualify as a trail, altho at one point it crosses the road and deteriorates into a lot of loose grave -- and it's pretty flat. But since I've been running on the road in my neighborhood and on my treadmill forever, I decided it was high time I run somewhere that wasn't paved.
I was going to title this blog "you don't know what you're capable of until you try", because that's so true. "Letting go of the fear" is another good title. The woman I've hung with at both my races was confiding in me that she doesn't like to run outside because people will see her.
I can identify with that. But one day I just did it.
I got hooked on my pre-sunrise runs this summer, but it's quickly becoming too cold and dark for them. Since I have the choice, I'd rather run later in the day when it's a bit warmer.
I won't lie, one of the reasons I ran so early in the morning was that there aren't many people on the road then.
But that wasn't the only reason. I had, other, more valid reasons: I love the way it energizes my days and I'm a whole lot fresher when I run before I walk the dogs.
Heck, at first I thought I couldn't run cause I couldn't run with the dogs. Walking the dogs and then running? Sounds too much like work.
And I've resisted driving anywhere to run for a long time for the simple reason that then I have to get the dogs all set for being alone (the wimps).
But you know what? Most of that is excuses. Slowly, bit by bit, I've pushed myself out of my comfort zone, and truly embraced the meaning of "just do it". I think it's a brilliant mantra.
What are you going to just do today?
Saturday, October 16, 2010
You asked for it -- here are the crappy cell phone photos! Really crappy, cause it doesn't have a zoom or a flash. I'm able to photoshop the heck out of them (not retouching my body, just lightening a LOT & putting them together) cause back when I had a business, I was a graphic designer.
Actually, thank you, this helped me make some decisions. You're not going to see one of the dresses cause a) it was too dark to see the detail on the dress, and that's what makes the dress and b) I realized that it's probably too heavy a material for Hawaii.
This is the size 2. Ralph Lauren. Gotta love Marshalls! I've already worn it. Just wish it had a v-neck. I don't sew, but for those that do, how hard would that be to do? I could take it to a tailor, of course.
I think this one is darn near perfect -- right weight, flattering, sort of a tropical feel. This one is a size 4, btw. You can't really see that it's got a nice flattering cowl neck from the picture.
Yeah, I think I definitely have to pack this baby. This is the one I've never worn, which, btw, is a size 6 from about 15 years ago. The back zipper bunches just a tad, which means it's still a little tight round the stomach, but I'm ok with that. It really is a great dress. We'll just have to go on a nice romantic dinner once DH's conference is over (the hotel has a restaurant that's apparently pretty much right on the beach, and supposed to be good).
Probably won't take those shoes, even tho they do go great. The little red shoes are smaller and will go with everything. Plus I wanna pack hiking shoes, and then there's running shoes . . . we don't check baggage, except sometimes on the way back. We'll be there 10 days, but hey, last year I spent 2 weeks in Europe without checking bags -- I know I'm up for the challenge. The Kindle will help!
So my third week Halloween Challenge blog challenge was to celebrate our successes.
One thing I'm liking about these photos? Crappy as they are, I am finally beginning to see some of the definition in my arms. And I have another 3 weeks to work on this body!
I'd still like to see a flatter stomach, and I've been doing core work every day for about a month now -- before you get your gander up, I do something different every day. Often it's only 5-10 minutes. Sometimes it's doing some crunches in the pool at the end of my swim.
I'm working on my core, besides my vanity, cause that extra belly fat actually bothered me in my last race. The simple answer is all the core work in the world really won't help, gotta lose these pounds. But the core work will pay off once the pounds are gone.
I finished my first day on the Ultrasimple Diet yesterday. And I've learned that I actually can eat dinner with almost no dessert at all -- and be satisfied. It truly is a mental thing and a bad habit. I say almost no dessert because I did decide not to give up my calcium supplement, which is a small chocolate.
Yes, I modified the program just slightly to my needs.
I also learned that a short yoga session first thing in the morning really does help warm up my body -- and I can face a fruit smoothie for breakfast even half an hour later, even tho it's not too far from freezing outside.
For those that missed it, TMD = too many dresses. I have some other dresses that I might just take with me if there's room, but I think these 2 will definitely be coming.
What have you learned about yourself lately?
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