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How to inspire without naggingWednesday, September 15, 2010
It's amazing that my tongue isn't black & blue. DH is on a business trip, and as always, he's telling me how much walking he's doing. I know that he really does underestimate how far things are, so this time, when I sort of hinted at that, he actually sent me a google map showing that he walked almost 3 miles round trip! ![]()
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JEANLECUY
9/19/2010 7:27AM
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I am thinking about your husband, who is missing you, and maybe you were part of the inspiration of the walk. A long day of conferences. Decided to go for a walk, and maybe it helped him put the garbage of his day behind him and he was excited to share that info with you. I know it is hard to convince anyone to do anything. That is why i do not nag my hubby to quit smoking. he has to be the one to make that decision just like I had to be the one that made the decision to take care of me. Bad choices. I bought strawberry yogurt so that he would try it. when there was no ice cream left he finally tried and and admitted it was ok. but Icecream usually goes freezer burned before eaten, so i do not think i will be buying it anytime soon. Celebrate your own victories. If you find a magic husband wand, can you lend it to me when you are done? :) Jeanne Report Inappropriate Comment |


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GEODAWG
9/17/2010 12:11AM
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I wish I knew the answer to that one! I have tried to convince my DH that Scotch every night is probably the reason he has not lost any weight. It is like talking next to Niagara Falls. He has responded to our "Full Plate" meals, tho. He likes them. Course I do not tell him every thing is really good for him. Sometimes I really think I have the last child in the house to raise. I keep setting a good example for him and he is getting better about not eating so much beef. Still, I hate to nag so I just slap him upside the head. That gets his attention. LOL Keep plugging.
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JUSTDUCKY1405
9/15/2010 8:41PM
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P.S. Meant to comment on how natural exercise and healthy choices really just simply seems a part of your life! WOOHOO! YOU ARE AWESOME! Report Inappropriate Comment |


JUSTDUCKY1405
9/15/2010 8:40PM
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I can relate to what you are saying... it's really easy to nag though isn't it... lol? I just try inspire by just simply doing it myself! Doesn't always work, but my husband has come a long way with me... no not as dedicated as I, but he's not doing horrible either! And I say any effort is great if in the right direction! Sure he needs to work on making exercise a part of his daily life, but I ain't going to get bent out of shape trying to make it happen for him. He makes it a priority when he can. He, lately has been working 18 to 20 + hour days for 15 days straight... I don't think I would want to run either... maybe to crash in my bed. And then when he's home, well... life is just busy, or the total opposite... lazy, because we need to be! But, I do still nag... lol! Hugz! Report Inappropriate Comment |


AINTSKEERD
9/15/2010 1:07PM
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Not sure how successful I am at not sounding like a nag. After I've said my piece 5 or so times, I just sit back and wait for 'them' to figure it out. Then I like to say 'I told you so' as politely as possible. You might be able to trick DH into 'figuring it out for himself' by having him look up some information for you. Maybe you can be 'too busy' and get him to do a comparison of meat cuts or something for you. Sometimes they just have to 'see it to believe it'. Good luck with that. tam Report Inappropriate Comment |


TEMPEST272002
9/15/2010 11:02AM
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My hubby is allergic to anything that even resembles "healthy". When I start to talk to him about anything health related, his eyes get glassy, his arm cross and I can almost hear the little tirade going on in his head "you can't make me do anything!" Sometimes I can drag him out for a walk... but it's like dragging 200lbs behind me! Still, since I started cooking healthy suppers, he's dropped about 15 lbs. How to motivate hubby to get healthy? I have no idea... but if you figure it out, could you let me know!
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LEONALIONESS
9/15/2010 10:48AM
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You're not doing situp/crunches every day are you? Like Tony says at the end of Ab Ripper X, "don't do this every day. You don't need it. You don't work other muscle groups every day, you don't need to work abs every day." Even abs need a day off between strength sessions to heal the tears and damage, too. :) I always plan at least a day in between Ab Ripper sessions. Other core stuff - or workouts that just happen to use your core - seem fine. It's just the hard core high intensity crunch stuff that should be staggered, from what I've heard/read. *EDIT!* Congrats on seeing less of a roll. Though, honestly, your bathing suit pic has me wishing I had a waist as hourglass and pretty as yours. I'm such an up and down brick of a girl. :/ Comment edited on: 9/15/2010 10:49:47 AM Report Inappropriate Comment |


KEAKMAN
9/15/2010 10:30AM
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I bite my tongue a LOT! And I don't think I inspire my family at all. I am starting to think you can't. They know you, and you are just you to them. Not someone they should listen to. So all I can do is do my thing, praise when one of they does something good for themselves, and hope that someone else in their life will say what I have said. THEN it will mean something! Congrats to DH for walking 3 miles though. And at least being conscious that too much red meat isn't good for him. It's a start. Baby steps! Report Inappropriate Comment |


SKINNYPOWELL1
9/15/2010 10:12AM
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to inspire without nagging???? LEAD BY EXAMPLE. That's all you can do. Praise him when he makes good choices, but don't scold when he doesn't. I totally get your frustration, my DH won't do anything, especially if "I" suggest it. If he does it on his own, then he gets the credit for it - it's a MAN thing (and I'm not men-bashing with that statement for any man who may be reading this). We can only hope they will eventually hop on the SPARK wagon. Just keep being the SUPER example that you are and practice PATIENCE. Report Inappropriate Comment |


In a world of vanity sizing run amok, running shorts don't lie. I bought a couple of new pairs a month or so ago. I think they were a XL (ok, turns out they were a large, on further inspection).
Now, recently I was somewhere trying on some clothes that were on a serious sale. Oh yeah, it was Banana Republic. They were a great price, and I got a 25% off coupon that day. So I decided to try on the petite XS.
And yes, they fit.
Ok, just what are the really skinny petite people supposed to wear? Because look, while the truth is I'm not really an XL, neither am I really an XS.
Don't get me wrong. I am very proud of the weight I've lost. I'm proud of maintaining, even if my real goal is to lose those last 10 lbs.
But I am also realistic. And I know the real truth is that I could easily still stand to lose 20 lbs. But I also know the reality is that that wouldn't be my happy weight. And since I'm a generally healthy person, with decent eating habits and a good workout ethic, I'm ok with that.
It's really easy to be so proud of the fact that you fit into a size XS, or 12, or just under a size 20 -- and you should be. But the running shorts don't lie (and why is it that I can wear what seems to be the "right" size in running tights? who makes up this stuff?).
So for the times when I get down on myself, I pull out that pair of petite size 16s I was wearing at the beginning of my journey, which now I can step into & out of without undoing the zipper (saw "Eat Pray Love" finally yesterday, and that jeans scene is hysterical! even if the movie was a bit of a disappointment if you've read the book).
And when I'm getting a bit too comfortable with the me I am now, it's time to wiggle into those running shorts. And go for a run!
What do you have that doesn't lie?


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GEODAWG
9/17/2010 12:18AM
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My underwear does not lie. When it is crawling up my butt, I know I have been a bad, bad girl.
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JEANLECUY
9/14/2010 7:15AM
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sizes drive me crazy. They do not stretch. So I am stuck with the truth in the waistband. If they are loose, great! I they are tight, like now, muffin top! Great Blog! BTW you look fabulous! Report Inappropriate Comment |


KEAKMAN
9/14/2010 12:15AM
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Anything with Spandex......like my running tights, running capris. Yeah, no hiding the truth in those!
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TEMPEST272002
9/13/2010 4:55PM
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Yes, a size 14 isn't what it used to be. The last time I wore size 14 was 20 years ago... and I was about 25lbs lighter. Doesn't quite match up, does it? I'm glad I kept the equivalent of your size 16's - last summer's shorts. When I put them on... Report Inappropriate Comment |


SKINNYPOWELL1
9/13/2010 10:48AM
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Aren't sizes so crazy? I always have to take three of the same item into a dressing room, just to see which one fits better. Things that make you go, "hmmmmmm"
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