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Saturday, March 06, 2010

The ice skating rink I've been going to closes next week. There's another one that's open year round, but it's farther away and more expensive. This one was convenient because it was also near the store I pick up some pet stuff at -- and normally it's a little drive for me, with nothing else to do around there.

The bottom line is that I've been making sure to go skating once aweek.

Fitting in the skating with the running has been a challenge.

So this week I decided to see if I could do both. And I did.

A little backstory: I was exhausted yesterday. DH came home late Thursday night, and I always have major problems falling back asleep once he's home. I fall asleep without any problems usually, and even manage to sleep thru him taking the dogs out for last call most nights, but every time he comes home at 11 pm or midnight I get almost no sleep for the rest of the night.

I was already tired from not getting quite enough sleep the entire week & a half he was gone.

So Friday started out with me exhausted already. I walked the dogs. Then I ran errands. Then I went skating. Then I ran more errands. Came home, had a late lunch, and crashed for a little while. And then I ran. And I did it! And I felt better afterwards, too.

Funny how hard it can be to talk our tired bodies into moving when we know how much better we'll feel after we move.

As I came home, I saw a sign for $10 Zumba classes at a Pilates studio of all places. One really close to home. I'm going to check out the schedule. I wish it were cheaper, but since I've been spending $24/month to go skating, I figure I can go a couple of times a month maybe. When it's warmer, I could even walk there and back. Altho not sure I'd want to be walking around in my exercise clothes . . . well, we'll see anyway.

Doesn't exercising actually make you feel good? Why do you think it can be so hard to do something that actually makes us feel good?

  
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BESSHAILE 3/8/2010 6:31AM

    Oh i'm sorry your skating rink is closing. We only get about 2 weeks of the year to skate ... if the ice isn't thick enough by January 15 it isn't going to be. Of course I only play on the ice now but I still love the perspective of the world from standing on the ice.

Hope you enjoy the zumba class

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STARTSPARKING 3/7/2010 3:42AM

    Good for you for making other plans when you can't go ice skating at the one you've been going to. A lot of people would have just used that as an excuse to stop. I love the Zumba, which is the most popular class at my gym.

Exercising does make me feel good, and it's a great way to start my day. My trick is to make it a daily routine first thing in the morning, so I don't have an opportunity to talk myself out of it. I hope the Zumba schedule works out for you. I think it will be a wonderful addition to your exercise regimen.
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DDHEART 3/6/2010 6:48PM

    The hardest part about exercise is getting up and going out to do it! Then when we're done, it feels so good we wonder why we didn't go earlier....go figure. Enjoy your spring....it's so nice to get out there and watch the changes!

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HEYRED221 3/6/2010 6:11PM

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SLIMMERJESSE 3/6/2010 10:11AM

    Wow, good for you in getting the extra workout. And wouldn't you know it that your convenient skating place would be closing just as you start really getting into it! Have a fun day. Enjoy.

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CRAVE_FREE 3/6/2010 9:04AM

    I'm a Zumba fanatic so naturally I'd encourage you to try it! Yay for skating and running all in one day! That's so excellent that you found the energy to do both and you got the reward of feeling great afterwards!

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SHEILA1505 3/6/2010 8:34AM

    Maybe you could negotiate a monthly fee, and then manage to go once a week?

I wear my gym clothes underneath my civvies if I plan not to shower afterwards then I can do my errands on the way back.

So sad that the skating is coming to an end - but you've had fun! I wish we had Zumba at my gym -they have just reintroduced Nia but that doesn't appeal to me, nor does the time slot - mid morning. The expensive gym has Zumba
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But it's an honest mistake . . .

Friday, March 05, 2010

I think we've all been there: we think we've counted something correctly (whatever you happen to be counting) and then find out and/or realize that it was actually way more than we counted it as.

What to do?

Stick to the plan. Maybe throw in some extra exercise -- but don't feel as tho you have to counter "overeating" with extra exercise -- that's not a healthy lifestyle thought.

Take me, for instance. Sometimes, apparently, I simply can't add. I plan my day the night before, follow the plan, and find out I've used up more points than I'd planned on.

Or take last night. I'd planned to have my chocolate avocado mousse for dessert (really, you cannot taste -- or ever see -- the avocado; and if you want the recipe, just google it and take your pick). And I did. Only after eating it, I think I may have actually eaten 2 servings.

Now, avocados are very fatty -- it's a good fat, but even too much of a good thing isn't good for you.

So what am I doing? Nothing. Maybe I'll try to stay on the lower end of my points, but probably not. I'm not 100% sure I ate 2 servings, but I think it I did. The sad part is I wasn't all that hungry to begin with, but there's that quantity & quality thing. I won't try to exercise it off, either. I already spend plenty of time exercising.

Lucky for me, I did it after my WI, not right before (and it was a good WI. would've been even better if I'd remembered the big-a$$ barette I had in my hair).

What do you do when you eat something and then later find out it had way more than you counted it as? Do you give yourself permission to eat because you've already "blown it"? Do you try to compensate with exercise? Do you eat less? Or is the answer none of the above, I simply get right back to my healthy lifestyle?

  
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BESSHAILE 3/6/2010 7:20AM

    I admit - I THINK about trying to erase the excess ... but I seldom do. Besides - when it's an honest mistake it's just that. Heck. I ate for more than a month following SP's maintenance nutrition tracker and, while I thought it was pretty nice to get an oreo now and then on the plan - i didn't lose any weight. and when I found out what I did ... I just switched trackers.

It's a little tougher when you know you've just plain strayed (as I have done the past 2 weeks) but today I'm feeling very much ready to put it behind me and begin anew. Sort of like a new dawn ... a brand new morning .... the gift of time

Happy Saturday and thanks for the goodie!

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STARTSPARKING 3/5/2010 8:23PM

    Mmm... Chocolate avocado mousse sounds SO yummy! One of my favorite singers is Jason Mraz, who owns a small avocado farm. He is a vegan, and I've seen him in a TV interview discussing his recipe for chocolate avocado mousse online. It looked so good!

I think you have the right approach. It's good that you realized you miscounted, so it will be helpful for next time. I don't think I'd try to exercise it off either because that may be too obsessive. We shouldn't give ourselves permission to write the day off because we've already blown it either. Yes, you have a very healthy attitude. Thank you for sharing!

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ASHERAH38 3/5/2010 2:45PM

    I have to admit, I am guilty of the 'will add exercise to offset what I ate' thinking. My new thing is to just really enjoy a few guilty pleasures so to speak. There's no point of beating myself about it. In moderation and if I find I went over, I add exercise or cut calories elsewhere.

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JUSTDUCKY1405 3/5/2010 1:25PM

    I have been guilty of tons of things in my life... but I really believe I have found the best approach... and is what you said at the end... simply get right back to my healthy lifestyle, without all the self-defeating negative thoughts - another words... GUILT!

Learn with awareness... let go... move on!

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HEYRED221 3/5/2010 1:00PM

    yes, we have to learn that mistakes happen and to not punish ourselves because of them! Tomorrow is another, new day!!!

Carolyn

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SLIMMERJESSE 3/5/2010 10:31AM

    You know, it really varies according to the day and the situation. Sometimes I do any one of the alternatives. But not a lot of continuing to overeat since I've already blown it. Have a fun day.

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LEONALIONESS 3/5/2010 10:25AM

    I don't eat more since I've "blown it".
I tend to get really anxious and workout more AND eat less to compensate.

I'm working on that.
I'm still very very jumpy with food and weight and everything.
My scale is moving up doing P90x, for example, and I'm fighting the urge to cut calories way back. I know I need the fuel and I also know I'm not gaining fat (my measurements are holding steady - biceps and calves up a bit from muscle) and that I can see my body putting on muscle. It's still driving me nuts, though!

It's a constant struggle for me to not fall into disordered eating - something I never had a real problem with before I lost the weight. I was a bit heavy but never obese and I had a pretty decent relationship with food. Now I'm healthier but much more anxious about food/calories. I hope it evens out eventually.

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BZYBOYSMOM 3/5/2010 9:53AM

    I cant get past the chocolate avocado mousse ! LOL!
A lot of the time I do give myself permission to eat because I have blown it! The all or nothing mentality! emoticon

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CRAVE_FREE 3/5/2010 9:46AM

    I give myself permission, but I compensate too with either eating less or exercise depending on what is appropriate. YAY for a good WI!!!!

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Quantity AND quality

Thursday, March 04, 2010

Yup, I am one of those lucky ones that needs good quality food AND good quantities, too. It's a dilemma. 3 bites of dessert just doesn't do it for me. A 1 cup smoothie doesn't cut it.

They say you eat with your eyes first -- I know I sure do! If it looks like it's bird food, then I'm still hungry. That is why the entire time my husband has been gone I never once used a large plate. The small plate trick really works!

Lately I've found that one vitabrownie no longer cuts it for me. It used to; I suppose it no longer does because I have had to cut portion sizes somewhat to get through this plateau. So I'm eating 2 of them when I do eat them. It's funny, 1 isn't enough, sometimes 2 is just a bit too much.

Planning is the key for me. It took a long time, but I've learned to plan out my days (most days) so that I am satisfied again. I was struggling there for a while. I couldn't figure out how to fit in some of my favorite treats, and I knew I just didn't want to give them up. So I just kept experimenting, and I think I've figured out a way again to stay within my points and satisfy both my eyes and my need to for good quality food. Thank you Ducky -- I owe it all to you! Now I'm even planning 2 days out, sometimes.

One place I don't have trouble with is my salads. I use a large pasta bowl for my salads. It means I have to run the dishwasher more often, because they take up more space, but I'm worth it. I generally use about a half of a 10 ounce bag of some mix of lettuce, and add some veggies to that (usually broccoli, cauliflower, carrots -- sometimes sugar snap peas, sometimes some mushrooms), and top it all off with home made salad dressing.

Soups have played a large part of keeping me satisfied, too, but as we begin to move into spring (they're forecasting mid-40s for this weekend!) I won't crave soup quite so much. When it truly gets warmer, I'll probably begin to play with raw soups again. But cold soup does not appeal during the winter.

It has been SUCH a satisfying week of cooking this week. Sometimes we choose recipes and they take a lot of work and aren't worth the effort, but everything I've made so far this week has been so yummy (Eggplant Chana Masala from The Kind Diet last night -- sooooooooo good). Of course, now that DH will be home, I have to try to balance what he will eat with what I want to cook.

So how bout you. Is quality more important to you than quantity, or are you a volume eater like me? How do you satisfy your need for both? Do you trick yourself in any way?

  
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DDHEART 3/4/2010 8:29PM

    Quality is very important but I really need quantity too part of the reason I am so much a vegie eater.

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CRAVE_FREE 3/4/2010 2:33PM

    I love small plates and soup too. As it warms up, I hope you will share some of your cold soup recipes! Being a binge eater I have problems with quantity eating. My eyes are always bigger than my stomach, but sometimes when I put care into putting together a healthy meal, presented nicely on my plate, it's seems like the work partially fills me up and the food tops me off.

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HEYRED221 3/4/2010 12:38PM

    we are experiencing some really warm weather here and that is affecting my appetite. I have been hungry all morning. And same thing, some portion sizes just don't seem like enough. I have been try to eat lots of fruits, veggies and whole grains - stuff to keep me feeling full.

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FREELADY 3/4/2010 9:39AM

    I do use all the tricks I've heard . . . drink water before I start, drink water during the meal, take small bites, chew slowly and thoroughly, put your fork down between bites. Most of these seem to address the physical fullness: the water makes my belly actually contain more, and the other behaviors slow the process down so my satiety signals can kick in before I start panicking that my food's gone and I'm not satisfied.

The biggest turning point for me has been paying enough attention to that first nudge of fullness in my tummy. Over many weeks I got myself to physically set my plate aside (or stick it in the frig) the moment I felt the least bit full. This was a huge psychological leap for me. What happened is this: I would serve myself what seemed reasonable---not bird portions. Then I would eat slowly and mindfully, savoring every bite. FIRST TWINGE of fullness, I would stop. That was the commitment I worked toward. It took a while to develop the control to do this, but it was self-perpetuating. What I mean is, every time I got myself to stop before my plate was empty, sure enough, in just a few minutes I felt VERY FULL and completely satisfied. Plus, I gleefully eyed that remaining food that I knew was not going on my waist. I celebrated that. If I was having a tough time not continuing to eat, just because of food desire, or nervousness that maybe this time it wouldn't be enough, I wrote down the time so I could check in 20 minutes to see if I was actually satisfied. I told myself I could have more if I really needed it then.

The outcome is that I have "re-trained" my eye. I have proven to myself over and over and over that the lesser amount truly is enough. I have experienced over and over, eating less than I eyeballed, and feeling satisfied afterwards.

It was experimental at first; I was frustrated with the scale not moving and I was looking for what felt possible, that might produce results. The first couple times I thought, "I can probably stop now and not eat this part," I was so amazed that I could stop and not be starving. Then I kept trying it, with setbacks of course, but it demonstrated objectively to me that I could trim some volume, pay attention to my "gut feeling" (literally!) and save a few calories.

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KARBIE18 3/4/2010 9:31AM

    Glad to hear planning is helping so much, and you're struggling less. I, too, find that a small plate helps. I don't usually have a problem with serving sizes, except for brownies. That's why I try not to eat them too often!

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BZYBOYSMOM 3/4/2010 9:24AM

    I really like the small late idea and even though I have heard that many times I havent tried it I will now. I like quantity also and I volumize everything I can with vegetables. When it comes to past i have my one serving and then fill up on mushrooms, spinach, green peppers and onions! I almost always add different salads and I love roasted vegetables. Lets face it eating to many veggies did not make me fat! emoticon

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SLIMMERJESSE 3/4/2010 9:22AM

    Soup is a godsend; it really fills me up. Glad you are finding a plan that fits your daily needs. Have a wonderful day.

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SEKSUNSHINE 3/4/2010 7:54AM

    I use a small plate, it works wonders. A plate of food is like a book, you should never judge it by it's cover. What looks like a small amount of food can actually be more than enough.

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Orthorexia Nervosa

Wednesday, March 03, 2010

People suffering from orthorexia may display some of the following signs:

Feeling virtuous about what they eat, but not enjoying their food much
Continually cutting foods from their diet
Experiencing a reduced quality of life or social isolation (because their diet makes it difficult for them to eat anywhere but at home)
Feeling critical of, or superior to, others who do not eat as healthily they do
Skipping foods they once enjoyed in order to eat the “right” foods
Choosing to eat foods based off of nutritional value, instead of eating what they’re craving
Feeling guilt or self-loathing when they stray from their diet
Feeling in total control when they eat the “correct” diet

I got this straight from here --
chocolatecoveredkatie.com/2010/03/01
/orthorexia-nervosa-the-new-eating-dis
order/


And I thought it was very interesting. Most of it doesn't apply to me, but some of it does. The feeling in control part; feeling superior -- sometimes; reduced quality of life -- not really, but there are times I'd rather stay home than attend something I know will be challenging.

I had already recognized these tendencies in myself, and I'm working on them. Especially being criticial of others' diets. I don't think I'm too bad out loud -- but to myself, yes, I can sometimes feel superior because I *believe* I'm eating a better diet.

Of course, I'm always changing my diet based on learning, experimenting, and growing, so it's really silly to feel superior about something that's in a constant state of flux, isn't it?

I struggle with this and my husband. His diet is better because of me, and I try hard not to be criticial, but it's hard when you love someone and you just want to see them healthier and happier. The head knows that pushing only pushes people away, but the heart wants to help!

Sometimes it's a good idea not to take ourselves so seriously. Lighten up -- enjoy life -- food IS meant to be enjoyed, after all. It isn't just a means to an end, it SHOULD be pleasure. It just shouldn't be our only pleasure or the way we comfort ourselves.

Do you see signs of yourself in Orthorexia Nervosa? Or did that used to be you, and now you're "cured"? Or do you wish you could see yourself just a little in it (like the being in control part)?

I plan out my meals the day before, but they still often change based on what I feel like eating. Yesterday, for example, I made something for lunch, and by the time dinner rolled around, I was too tired to tackle what I'd planned for dinner, despite doing some of the prep work earlier in the day. I ate a frozen dinner instead. I almost never eat frozen dinners these days (funny, considering there was a time I almost lived on them), and I have to admit, when I resort to one, I sort of feel like a failure.

To top it off, instead of sticking to my virtuous (sort of) vitabrownies for dessert, I chose to have a raw ice cream sundae. Raw ice cream I'd made previously (more like sorbet than ice cream, but it still hits the spot) and a sprinkling of raw cacao nibs (I wasn't sure how I'd like them, but they were great -- who am I kidding, they're chocolate -- REAL chocolate -- after all), some raw chocolate sauce (about 1 tsp) that I'd ordered recently, and some soyatoo to top it off.

And I thoroughly enjoyed every bite. Yes, it put me a bit over where I truly wanted to be for the day, but was oh-s0-satisfying and I don't regret it in the least. So while I may not suffer from Orthorexia Nervosa, it's good to keep in mind that there but for the grace of God go I.

  
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TACOMALO 3/8/2010 4:45PM

    This is a cool post - never thought about this before. Again, I think that if you have fitness goals, it's these kinds of feelings that should be embraced!

I've been able to transform the way I eat...now I call people out. I try to hold back, as I know it is annoying, but hey, I'm just trying to spread the love!

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BESSHAILE 3/6/2010 7:23AM

    Oh la! How did I miss this?!? What a great post. So much food for thought.

Thanks hon

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JUSTDUCKY1405 3/5/2010 1:21PM

    Great Blog!

"Of course, I'm always changing my diet based on learning, experimenting, and growing, so it's really silly to feel superior about something that's in a constant state of flux, isn't it?"

I LOVE THAT REALIZATION!

I was there once... and that above statement could be transferred into all aspects of life!

That's one main reason I started System Reboot... to change the thought processes from negative ones to positive ones ultimately! If one sees themselves as a binge eater, that's what they will keep getting! One example!

MY OPINION... and I understand why they are there... it took some pretty intelligent insight to figure all that stuff out... but symptoms and titles for those symptoms are only an excuse to hang on to them.

Yes... some instances they are out of our control... but 99% of it is all in our mind and how we view it!

May be a pretty bold opinion... but one I have always been passionate about, and have been evolving as I continue my awareness to it!

Take depression for consideration... I have lived through it... just like many others... now I realize, it was my choice.

I obviously have a big blog brewing up in my mind over this topic... just hasn't been the right time to get it out there yet!

It's going to be soon!

Thanks for this blog... it's really made my thoughts sink home a bit more!

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CRAVE_FREE 3/3/2010 12:41PM

    Wow, I've never heard of this one before. I can see a few of these traits in myself from time to time; I love control. I know I have judged what others are eating, but lately, I don't so much, because I think of what others must think of what I eat. For instance, I know processed foods aren't the best for me, but I'm not ready to tackle that obstacle yet. Instead, I eat within my limits and exercise; choosing healthy foods whenever possible, but not ignoring cravings (getting them answered in healthier ways).

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SLIMMERJESSE 3/3/2010 11:31AM

    This is great info. And I wholeheartedly agree with not taking ourselves so seriously. Along with the rigidity factor, sometimes I just shake my head on this site and hope that I do not become fixated and all of the things covered in your blog that I see with so many here. BTW, in response to your response to my blog (smiling), yes, it's great FREE therapy. And today's weigh-in shows no damage done and a reprieve to just get back to doing the right things. Have a wonderful day.

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HEY_NONNIE 3/3/2010 8:30AM

    I've never heard of this but I can see myself in some of it - the feeling like a failure part. But then other parts (as in judging others) is just so foreign to my nature that I don't think I'll ever have a problem with it.

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DDHEART 3/3/2010 8:25AM

    "Sometimes it's a good idea not to take ourselves so seriously. Lighten up -- enjoy life -- food IS meant to be enjoyed, after all. It isn't just a means to an end, it SHOULD be pleasure. It just shouldn't be our only pleasure or the way we comfort ourselves." This is my thought for the day! I can't say I ever have too much of a problem with this as I really like food, I love the taste, the aroma, the texture, the appearance...it would be a sad life indeed to deny such a basic pleasure...controlling it a little yes...but not deny!

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Learning to live broken

Tuesday, March 02, 2010

Somewhere along the way, I got broken. I don't even quite no how it started. I'd like to say I know when it started, but I'm not sure I really do.

I wasn't a heavy child. Nor was I an active child. Oh, I swam, I bowled, I ice skated & roller skated -- mostly because my parents made me. I enjoyed all these things, but if given my druthers, even as a child, I'd probably be reading a book.

I am, to this day, a shy person. I know I probably don't come across that way via my blog, but it's true. If I click with you, I can talk your ear off. If not, you might wonder why I'm so quiet.

Going to parties where I don't know anyone are hard for me (altho that is how I met my husband, after all, go figure). I can be "on", but it's work for me. It's tiring.

But back to the childhood . . . I used to sneak food. My mom is an awesome baker. She battled (battles) her own weight demons, and I'm sure that shaped me. We never baked cookies together, for instance. It was always for company. So it would go right into the freezer. And I would help myself right from the freezer (which is odd, considering I don't like my baked goods frozen and that's where I put things now so that I WON"T eat them).

So food was seen early on as something that shouldn't just be out and available.

And food was a reward, too. A concert? Let's get a sundae. A good swim meet? Let's get a sundae. Sundaes figured large in my childhood.

Blaming our parents and our childhood is too easy. It's not all their fault. The hard work is digging deep and trying to figure out what we're trying to fill. I'm still working on that one.

So, somewhere along the way, I'm not quite sure where, I got broken.

And I have to learn to live broken. Some people are able to simply recognize that they're broken, fix themselves, and move on with their lives. Now that I'm getting real close to 50, I think I have to accept that I'll probably always be broken. So I have to learn to live broken.

I have to use my little bag of tricks. For me, that IS normal. Weighing myself weekly, going to weekly meetings, writing down what I eat and how I move, all of that is my new normal. If that's what it takes to live a size healthy, I'm ok with it. Mostly. Most days.

Becasue when you come right down to it, I want to be a size healthy (see www.ohsheglows.com for Angela's size healthy campaign. I think you'll like it).

What about you? Do you think you're broken? Are you willing to be an abby normal (sorry if you've never seen "Young Frankenstein") to be a size healthy? Is size healthy your goal?

The bagel thins were ok. I think I'll have to continue the search for the right low cal bagel. I'm really picky. They just sort of have a weird aftertaste (like much of the WW bread products), despite not having terrible ingredients. I saw a segment on the Today show a while back about 100 calorie bagels . . . I never found them here, but I think I have to start searching. Obviously, I'm willing to order food. Sometimes.

  
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JUSTDUCKY1405 3/5/2010 1:10PM

    Hmmm... great awarenss... and you are right, it's no one's fault. But, accepting that you are broken is like accepting that you are not worth playing with anymore... perhaps not what you are saying, but what the message of that particular acceptance says to me.

But, now that I have said that... I can see where that acceptance would allow you to let go... and to accept yourself for what you are!

Thanks for that...

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JLITT62 3/3/2010 7:45AM

    Just wanted to make one thing clear . . . it's not that I think of myself negatively (well, not most of the time). But I have to accept that the relationship I have with food isn't normal.

We're bombarded with the messages, often, that we don't need to count calories, or points, or fat grams, etc. etc. That if we just listen to our bodies and eat mindfully, we'll lose weight.

That may work for some people, but it doesn't work for me. Sometimes it does -- but overall, it just doesn't. And that's ok.

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MOMMA_GRIZZ 3/2/2010 9:05PM

    I don't think of myself as 'broken', just in a constant state of learning new things on this road of life :D

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FREELADY 3/2/2010 11:36AM

    You have amazing insight. I hear a lot of courage in what you say here. It is a heartening to me, challenging me to follow your example and to sanely and rationally deal with what is.

I am sorry there is so much pain. I do applaud your approach, simply doing what must be done. This is true kindness to yourself, taking care of the broken person.

Thank you for passing on the web site!





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CRAVE_FREE 3/2/2010 11:11AM

    I think most people are broken in some way; for me it is my relationship with food. My parents did the same thing: good report grade, choir concert, etc = stop at the local ice cream stand. I'm learning (with a spark from you) to find lots of ways to reward myself, that don't involve food (and if I'm lucky, no money either).

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HEYRED221 3/2/2010 10:51AM

    Good topic - gives me something to think about as well!

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BZYBOYSMOM 3/2/2010 9:35AM

    I am broken as well. I just want to fix it and move on I dont want to spend endless hours trying to determine why. I am not sure how that would help, in the other hand I think perhaps if I new why I would be fixed! A dilemma! Great blog!

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DRJJ2004 3/2/2010 8:35AM

    I am broken too! :O) I am working on just getting healthy. I will never be stick thin either, nor do I want to be. It's hard enough to maintain being healthy.
Great blog!!
Hugs!

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HEALTHY4JEANNE 3/2/2010 8:18AM

    I just want to be a healthy weight. I do not want to be a machine like my sister in law. I do not have any ideas of being stick thin.
I just want a healthy BMI.

I am broken! I need a fixing. LOL
:) Jeanne

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